tea time🍵 kpop idol & jyp trainee | body shamed as a trainee? how idols date, audition tips! | pt.3

[@officialmicahlee]

"all your idols are dating...each other." Me: *I KNEW IT*

[@haneen.rmy7]

Did she mean they are dating their own members? I mean like couples in the same group? Or dating other groups members?

[@yend6772]

@@haneen.rmy7 she also said “and then with the members of the same group” jdheusgsiw idk what she meant by that

[@victorialee3975]

@@yend6772 i think she meant that people from A group might have multiple people dating people from B group or that person C might date person D and E within the same group (at different times ofc) but i mean maybe she meant like group members date each other lol

[@junpi8562]

Another idol called it "animal kingdom" that there is a lot of dating among groups

[@놀린매]

@æspa winter fanboy haha and no one knows if they are gay or not😌 .

[@twiceboo5601]

sorry but if i was in an industry filled with pretty and talented people, i would date them too. i don’t know y’all expect idols not to date, they’re humans too

[@twiceboo5601]

@@sagefantaisie exactly!

[@lulubreadddo]

right like everyone is so pretty how tf are they not gonna be attracted to each other at some point 😭

[@chess4072]

@@lulubreadddo LMAO exactly 😭

[@bihachan1475]

Haha. True. Me too😂😂i think i will make many confessions cause they r many groups debuted everyday all handsomr and talented until I got accepted.lmaooo😂😂😂😂

[@butcjesaaa143]

Hahahahah hello fellow once 👋

[@loligotnodon8511]

“Shit, I drank water” that’s the saddest shit I’ve heard in a while.

[@Rilaccoco]

😭

[@milkbread5036]

@@Rilaccoco D;

[@MariaSokolArt]

So true. Is was so f**g sad to hear that.

[@poetification]

that was genuinely fucked up. i hope these girlies are in a better place now :(

[@alexc9278]

@@poetification it depends so much on the company. Let's hope not all of them are like this

[@ashellokitty]

everyone talking about dating but them making her lose 2 lbs in 2 days is literally abuse thats insane

[@leahharris2746]

That’s so sad

[@handcoversbruise1410]

Yep, like how?

[@Nickelberkelium]

Thats just plain stupidity,its insane,i think they really just wanted to get her out if that was all it took...i mean if you see someone who you think would really benefit you,you wouldnt let them ago that easily

[@nnn-v6w]

@@tingless it’s more like 907grams or 0.97kg almost 1kg. It’s only possible with starvation diet

[@veronicasawyer3302]

Momo from Twice was forced to lose 7kg in like a week

[@St4rG1rLGabby]

praying that dating in the industry becomes normal. it’s so sad how they can’t show off their partner because of fans. it makes me feel so bad.

[@ryu196]

I think it's partly all the company's fault. Like they keep pushing the image that they are all innocent but they are not. If they allow dating maybe it won't be really this bad were fans are obsessed or think that their idols are theirs.

[@diamonddreams4538]

@@ryu196 fr they end up making the public really believe that a 26 years old woman or man is innocent🤡🤡🤡 and then the 12 years old go crazy and believe they are gonna date them when they get older👩‍🦼👩‍🦼

[@supreme.justice]

I mean that isn't the most important or saddest thing they go through. There are way darker things

[@odetosvt0526]

but if you think about it, that's why kpop industry is so popular: it's not really (only) about music, but visuals, entrainment. Idols (more like companies) try to build this special relationship with the fans that most of the times is not healthy at all. First of all, they play on visuals a lot, they provide A LOT of content so that fans spend more time watching the videos, the more they watch the videos, the more they feel closer to the idols. They make fans believe that idols are innocent, pure and funny people while in reality they _might_ be the opposite. That's why kpop is really popular among younger (or vulnerable?) fans.

[@jksbottommole8463]

@@diamonddreams4538 FR AHAHAH PLEASE GIVE THEM A REALITY CHECK

[@juanitagutierrez402]

the fact that some people think idols are not dating....I feel bad for them tbh

[@s1ut4w0men]

Yeah and when you burst their bubble they get all defensive and attack you💀

[@Cybele09]

"BuT THeY'rE ToO buSY to DaTE!!" Like girl.. you could be the president of a nation and still somehow make time for the one you love, they're just the same except with a higher follow count.

[@ginahatim3088]

I saw a girl post that a male idol was so innocent and scared to talk to girls...Like sweetie, that dude is probably getting laid behind the scenes. He just knows his delusional fans will either attack the girl or him.

[@Cutieeee_253]

@@Cybele09 True but I am sure plenty of couples split precisely because they don't have time for each other.

[@thehellicare8186]

It's like "don't ship them" blah blah. Oh sweetie they're humans too, we're not that dumb to not notice they're dating. Just because the idols said don't ship us to other ppl doesn't mean they don't have a lover😂.

[@jaeyoungie]

It's so ironic that kpop companies expect their idols (idol groups) to sing about love and dating without ever being allowed to experience it in the first place xD

[@munmoonie0094]

ikr hshhsshhs

[@zanniest]

Ik the irony right haha

[@97ann73]

Just like how society is hounding down on bullying being an issue, but has no issues with it when these things happen between management and the idols (calling people pigs, forced diets, and verbal abuse in the guise of "feedback")🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

[@felixssausage6662]

or expect them to be perfect at dancing yet never let them eat the amount of food they need to have the strength and energy for it

[@btsinbda2547]

@@felixssausage6662 FACTS!

[@msfluffybutt]

OMG YOU CAN'T JUST SAY IDOLS DATE WITH OTHER MEMBERS OF THE SAME GROUP AND LEAVE IT AT THAT??? MA'AM WE WANT TEA

[@msfluffybutt]

Joking aside this is so interesting, it's like listening to a podcast. I've been a fan of KPOP since 2010 and although I've read/heard stories of how's it like in the industry, hearing it from a former trainee's perspective is illuminating. Much respect to your faves

[@jennifervanos5212]

LMAOO EXACTLY

[@michellekuras]

YESSSSS !! We need to know haha

[@agnat1853]

i think she meant in the same company lmao

[@Jem5122]

I think they meant an idol dates multiple members within a group they themselves are not apart of. Like if Yeji dated a member in Stray Kids 2020 then 2021 date a different member in that same group.

[@miki28miss]

Why is no one talking about the fact that she just casually said she shared a dorm with IU??? 👀👀👀

[@erongranger4675]

SAME..I was like no one's mentioning the iu part?????? Like girllll..that's freaking IU

[@youngaudios7503]

because they r friend ?

[@miki28miss]

@@youngaudios7503 really??

[@leeikjun7420]

Yes.. This is the comment i been searching for.. She say she is IU housemate and no one talk about it... I like what?? Seriously you and IU were housemate!! Seriously this is the one only fact that she say that I really shock cause everything else that they been talking about I actually already know 😂

[@isaijmartinez1671]

OMG YESSS I WAS LIKE tell ME MORE

[@celestialthot8412]

i find it insane that itzy had to go through all this and then jype makes them go on stage to sing about self acceptance and non conformity.. i love the girls but that seems so cruel on the companys behalf

[@8luvbug]

Isn't it the same for every idol who sings songs like that?

[@Jem5122]

I agree but I feel like Itzy has members that look very unique and different from the standard of beauty in their country.

[@8luvbug]

@@Jem5122 Yuna fits the standard though, that's why she's the visual

[@yunharous14]

@@8luvbug groups always has a member that should fit the kbs. yuna doesnt really have the traditional visuals in korea though. she just fit the standard but if you compare her to famous visuals like irene, jisoo, krystal, and yoona she has a very unique beauty. i find it refreshing tbh. many people also mistook lia as the visual.

[@shakira7301]

@@sagefantaisie the songs are interesting but it does come off as cliché, it's not the type of music we can play confidently and say that's the girl group i stan. Especially dalla dalla and wannbe had such lyrics

[@cristina3334]

tbh i'm glad they are dating, i don't know how they can handle all the pressure to be perfect and insecurities, happy to know that most of them have someone supporting them, yk at the end of the day, idols are humans like us

[@yourspritzels]

Kun's smile in your pfp shines brighter than the sun =')

[@hiitsme5867]

Who?

[@harmonyfuntime1082]

@@hiitsme5867 I think they meant they’re glad that they (the two) are dating someone in their life

[@crystal8396]

that's the thing. i really want my faves, if they're dating, to be with someone nice who makes them feel loved, because they ABSOLUTELY deserve it. they're adults, so they can make their own choices and differentiate bad from good, but we're humans and we all make mistakes, so if they happen to choose someone bad for them, they'll have to deal with the pressure of an idol AND a heartbreak : (

[@hiitsme5867]

@@harmonyfuntime1082 oh ok

[@himarktuan]

some questions i have in mind: - what did your diet consist of in a typical day as a trainee and how did this differ as an idol? - how is it like backstage at music shows? do boy groups and girl groups mix easily? - how easy is it for idols to exchange numbers? - how can so many idols get away with dating??? how do they do it? - are idols aware of ships? (this includes ships with their fellow members, as well as ships with the opposite sex) do they know about all the edits and fanfics etc? - realistically how much time do idols have to call/video call/hang out with each other outside of their schedules? - do female idols have to be on the pill...? incase they end up pregnant lol - how much do idols gossip between eachother? like does everyone know who’s dating who and what the tea is lool

[@parisalena]

please answer them!!!!

[@appledemanggo2646]

yessss

[@INYO121277]

For the ships, they definitely know. I knew Sana said 'Saida' once in a show. They probably also know about the fanfics. I know Bambam used his insta to open a BTSVelvet page instastory and Peniel roamed Sungjoy fanpages regularly. For internationally very popular ships like Sungjoy, Sungjae and Joy even noticed shippers more than once, their shippers fanbase even have a picture photographing their gifts with Korean 'BBYU' on it. I think some of your questions are actually very general. Celebs are actually normal people, just imagine yourself how you got your crush's number, how often you gossip, etc. Based on how idols gather like normal friends and date off cam, you could really assume some things. And that probably also answer your question about contraception. I despise reckless way of living like that, but i think it's inevitable in glamorous lifestyle such as celebrities.

[@ishabyun5438]

@@INYO121277 how did you know peniel roaming sungjoy fansitea?

[@leikim1476]

YES PLEAAAAASE I NEED ANSWERSSS

[@ceeceeb9213]

Ofc every idol is dating...Like EVERY idol. I mean look at them, they’re hot af they’re talented they’re cool, people need to wake up from their dreams

[@ongakira]

ok ur right but not every idol😭

[@brennathecatlover4360]

Not every single idol in the whole industry but a lot might be secretly

[@marinetteadrien3155]

i don’t think every idol is dating because of their very busy and hectic schedules

[@YN-wo8rd]

@Alaska Angelo jungkook not junkool

[@fxrnweh-hd5dq]

I don't think that literally EVERY idol is dating tho... Not everyone wants to date or finds the right one to date.

[@abril6392]

the obsession with being skinny is soo unhealthy, eating disorders must be the norm among idols :(

[@diamonddreams4538]

Fr it was so sad to hear that she developped an unhealthy relationship with food because of her trainee days :/

[@michaelrmurphymurphy391]

Yes, just what happens with having issues about food.

[@idkwhattodowmalifeig2579]

Fr it's even so common for korean netizens to be kinda obsessed with being skinny, dieting and kalorie counting so I don't even wanna imagine how bad it is with idols

[@yunhosparrot]

Honestly I’m glad idols are dating, and I feel like it should be normalized. There’s nothing wrong with having feelings for someone, or wanting to spend your life with someone.

[@mangomanoko2870]

If that happens then fans won’t be as dedicated. It’s easier for delusional fans to fantasize dating someone that is “single” than someone that has a girlfriend. If idols date openly then can bases won’t be as strong it’s just the marketing style of kpop.

[@Justmeeh._._._.]

I think there has to be an extend to dating. I think dating should be forbidden for the first two years of becoming an idol because idols shouldn’t get distracted by trying to find someone to love so quickly, and it would be better to focus on your career than to focus on your relationship for the first two years of debuting.

[@mangomanoko2870]

@@Justmeeh._._._. I don’t see why that should be the case though. The problem is kpop debut idol debut too young. And just the industry’s insistence on the idols on being all innocent and perfect that cause these problem. If they were allowed to leave a little dating and breaking up shouldn’t be a problem. At the end of the day them being single sales and makes fandom more dedicated that’s why they won’t be allowed to date in public.

[@Justmeeh._._._.]

@@mangomanoko2870 Companies debut idols at a young age so they can perform longer. I think 16 is a good age to debut but that’s also an age when a teenagers hormones will kick in and that’ll cause relationships to happen. Nowadays, kids start dating at a very young age like 13 or 14 which I think is really stupid. If you wanna be in a serious relationship, then it should be by the time you get to high school at least. Relationships can also lead to scandals. If you’re dating someone at a young age then you’re bound to tell your lover things that the public shouldn’t know about, but what if you guys breakup and your lover reveals all your dirty secrets out of anger? That’ll cause a problem. Scandals will happen and in most cases, your whole group may have to disband. Like I said before, I think a good age to date is 18 instead of a young age like 15 or 17.

[@minxxz1287]

yes i know but that's one of the reasons kpop is popular

[@WonhoTraveler]

"they're dating" Me: 😴 "Eachother within the same group" Me: 😳 Spill bestie 😂

[@springlady8337]

She meant company, not group. Because she goes on to say “that’s the only company you have. That’s the world they live in.”

[@Noor-fx1dx]

@@springlady8337 Company in this sentence means those who are around you. For example: My parents are gonna have company in the evening. That doesn’t mean there is a whole business going to someone’s house.

[@springlady8337]

@@Noor-fx1dx No, it just means the entertainment company. You can tell by the context of the sentence.

[@ifraha6661]

No I’m pretty sure she meant company as in the presence of others not the whole company as in business.

[@springlady8337]

@@ifraha6661 They were talking about the entertainment companies the entire video and you can see that she gestures with her hands to represent multiple groups. Context clues are your friends.

[@alipaydar370]

It's just weird fans and companies pressure idols to stay single like wtf it's their private life they don't own idols

[@Cutieeee_253]

Technically companies do own idols because of their contracts

[@alipaydar370]

@@Cutieeee_253 so what your saying where ever u work for owns u 😂 its just their job they don't own them

[@Cutieeee_253]

@@alipaydar370No, I am specifically talking about entertainment companies who manage idols.

[@adelled3839]

@@alipaydar370 u speak like u hv zero knowledge in kpop

[@alipaydar370]

@@adelled3839 I know about the contracts but it shouldn't be a thing in 2021 it's wrong

[@rise1996]

Imagine all these beautiful fully grown idols who are constantly seeing each other at award shows, music shows, any type of entertainment gig etc. and believing that most of them aren't dating 💀💀

[@chipmunkpark8826]

Fun fact; Rosé of BLACKPINK actually tries to gain weight. Many times she mentioned how she is on a diet to gain weight and Lisa as well. Jisoo confirmed this she said "I'm not like my members. I need to be more careful about what I eat, but Lisa and Rosé are actually trying to gain weight" Rosé's sister and mom are also super thin, so I think it's about the genes

[@mzccc]

I can feel rosè's situation... I've been so skinny my whole life and I've been trying so hard to gain weight for years. Until now im still trying gain and its hardddd D× i look like a walking twig🙃

[@jas0327]

@@mzccc honestly it’s hard

[@katananana]

even if i eat alot my tummy will just get big, not my arms/legs that look like sticks my god

[@nikzzi0511]

And for her comeback rose looks so bony it's concerning. It's like she overpracticed and didn't eat enough to makeup for whatever she lost. Hope she can get healthier in the upcoming days.

[@jas0327]

@@nikzzi0511 some people are just naturally like that like i’m as bony as her but it doesn’t mean we’re unhealthy it just means we can’t gain weight 🙃

[@AmnahLol]

how different are idols from the image the company makes?

[@CherryBerryFashion]

That’s a great question!

[@REALKOREA]

I heard of cases in which the idols were so molded into a certain image that they didn't even know who they really were themselves

[@yourspritzels]

@@REALKOREA that's actually so sad to think about

[@yolo7543]

I watched another video/read a new article (?) of a trainee who quit and she said they wanted her to act cute (probably bcuz she was quite short and fit that aesthetic) but she didn’t want to bcuz that wasn’t who she was She also said some of the trainees she trained with who did actually debut had completely different public personas/personalities than when they were trainees /not saying personalities can’t change/develope. Also, I didn’t look into the reliability of this so I don’t know if it as 100% truthful

[@mandanaasi1839]

Just look at Gidle Soojin's circumstance, that's how different they are from their image lol

[@itgirlayaka6745]

Is fanservice legit? ex. when a ship is popular, do some idols really get told in their in-ear to hug them, or just generally get told to be more chummy or act a certain way with members? Are there any idols who do this voluntarily to try and increase their popularity?

[@juno1765]

I would honestly say yes but We need to hear from them

[@shhd2105]

I heard from Koreans that it’s skin-ship is normal in their society, so yea

[@juno1765]

@@shhd2105 we're bot talking abiut skinship

[@shhd2105]

@@juno1765 do you know what skin ship is? Touching and all that stuff is skinship that’s what they call it

[@user-iw4fn9fp2q]

It does happen actually there was a trainee who was interviewed about it and the company encouraged them to do fan service with other members, sometimes in relation to popular ships

[@gravityspiral4185]

Loving the quality and the truth thank you for being brave and honest

[@shaym3188]

“they’re dating... each other” skz and txt: moa and stays : * acting surprised *

[@hobixsprite7906]

PLSSSS💀

[@westangayidols]

Atinys too xd

[@starhoseok6887]

PLS

[@keishasantos5447]

minsung looking good XD

[@yoonthusiast]

PLS 😭✋

[@colourless6312]

I've seen a lot of ex-kpop trainees sharing experiences and stuffs. And something that I found in common when it came to friendship of group members was that, most of the time everyone is good to each other. One member expelling is not usually the case of bad situation between members, but rather between the person and the company. So that put me into relief, knowing that probably behind the camera, all the members are still on good terms. But with the recent uproar of bullying cases in groups, I am starting to doubt. Would love to know if it's just drama (simply not clicking), or is it actual bullying. Also, with the resurfacing of this issue, how do you see the so-called 'closeness' between members have when they are in public?

[@abril6392]

entertainment companies literally traumatize their idols about their weight WHEN THEY ARE LITERAL KIDS

[@bobbyk804]

Hearing all this, I think it's better to admire idols than to be an idol, life is tough for idols especially when fans want to control them and their lives

[@env8632]

can you talk about how foreigners and half Koreans are treated? like is it different or more sought out because of a more exotic look?

[@milkbread5036]

I find it unfair thought that foreign kpop idols are paid faaar less even if they worked their asses off like Lisa from BlakcPink, Sorn/Elkie CLC, Yuqi/Shuhua/Minnie from G-idle etc.

[@env8632]

@@milkbread5036 they are? I didn’t know that. Do you think half Koreans like Somi are too? Or is it a nationality thing?

[@fayetopias]

@@env8632 Yes, non korean idols are paid less. Somi is part korean so she’s probably paid more than them.

[@MayMay93]

@@env8632 Somi was born in South Korea so normally no

[@marisoltolaba8710]

You should read Katie Kim's experience about this! She said something about this in a Forbes' interview. I think Shanon Williams said sth but I'm not sure.

[@nurulnunu2747]

"All your fav idols.....are dating" me; YESSS IM GLAD TO HEAR THATTTTTTT!!!!!!

[@arimamira]

Same lol

[@fred-jf3ju]

timestamp?

[@httydtoothless1654]

@@fred-jf3ju 16:05

[@hmweh3725]

I'm so glad to know that our idols are dating like the delulu fans are the real problem here. the company would let them date if that kind of fans will stop living in their fantasies and accept that their idols CAN date.

[@leahharris2746]

I agree and disagree idols have dating bans because they company’s want all of their time not just cause of fans

[@hmweh3725]

@@leahharris2746 I agree with that that also adds up

[@radhupv5291]

I agree.. its mostly to satisfy the fans. Fans lose their shit when their idols so much as look at another person.

[@b3t1i73]

tbh i wanna date some idols but if they date good for them but some fans take it to the next level for example when jungkook hanged out with his friend and fans attacked her like chill he is human and even if he dated her they should support him not attack the girl

[@leahharris2746]

@@b3t1i73 Frr these crazy people forget that BTS had lives just like us before debut

[@shampanath3675]

Every idol is dating.... The delulus be like ..."Our Oppar can't date"

[@arantxa738]

It's sad that they have that mindset

[@oklia1392]

@@arantxa738 ikr

[@subhradas7919]

ikr....

[@MsCheese2000]

@æspa winter fanboy its funny i see you in every comment lol

[@arantxa738]

@æspa winter fanboy We all have our own opinion and I respect that, but most of them do date tho

[@kidawesomeness123]

"they're dating... eachother." it makes sense idols would date other idols because they get the lifestyle but at the same time the lifestyle is super busy and chaotic which makes it hard to date altogether.

[@accipitermagna7104]

true true true

[@junpi8562]

When someone wants to date they'll find a way. Twice are one of the busiest groups yet at least Jihyo and Momo found time to establish relationships. Idols I think are quite used to socializing at weird hours.

[@dia3756]

yea but if you think about it if only one of them had that crazy busy schedule the other person would never understand and easily feel ignored and unloved

[@got7-ahgaseven736]

@@dia3756 so true

[@brennathecatlover4360]

@@junpi8562 kang Daniel and jihyo broke up. And idk how often momo and heechul see each other besides shows

[@LunarLeah]

Maybe you could talk about bullying in kpop more? Have you ever witnessed it?

[@rahwaniramzi4136]

"they're dating..." me : nah thats normal. "....each other" me : excuse me whattt👁👄👁

[@rotchellborres4949]

plus within the same group ☠️🤯

[@ciel8955]

haha are you stupid? it's completely normal. you REEK of homophobia.

[@KeepItSimpleWithEssence]

@@ciel8955 that is not homophobic

[@hanna-bi5ns]

y'all here don't even know what homophobia is, do you???? it's DISLIKE against gay people and it has nothing to do with coworkers and idols (or whatever y'all were saying) dating each other like..HELLO??? don't assume that someone is homophobic if u don't even know yourself what this word means :)

[@howrude9822]

@@ciel8955 its called SHOCKED. They just want the tea to be spilled, not homophobia--

[@mjc.bughao7441]

16:00 "I might be breaking everyone's fantasies." Girl my fantasy is for them to love each other and finally came out as a couple, by the way I'm talking about the "Same group" couples 😂💕😂💕

[@springlady8337]

She meant company, not group. Because she goes on to say “that’s the only company you have. That’s the world they live in.”

[@-jkth-3212]

@@springlady8337 Company could mean “They keep me company, that’s why I don’t feel lonely” I think it has two meanings

[@hnm9924]

"I might be breaking everyone's fantasies"..... Nah gurl you just made me having 20 more in my head lol

[@kjr9074]

@@-jkth-3212 trueeeee, tysm

[@-jkth-3212]

@@kjr9074 you’re welcome! 💜

[@lalainebalingbing6713]

"dating each other inside the same group" *gulps on my many ships*

[@Frede_Carla]

Yesss💀

[@shayoranan]

Idols are obligated by their companies to have the "single" image bc that way more albums sell and stock price rises. Think about it, when fans think about an idol, they might think of the idols as their "bf","gf", "bff", "lover". For some fans, it's uncomfortable when you want to think that way about a "taken" or "non single" idol. So they stop stanning that idol and move on to another. Don't believe me? After it was found out that chen of exo has a non celeb gf who's pregnant and that's why they're getting married, "fans" literally protested on the streets to kick him out of exo. What do they do when it's their birthdays? They spend almost thousands of dollars to send gifts. It's like " you can be ours and when you're not, we're throwing you out" This is so so sad bc it's literally materializing and objectifying idols. They're not thought as humans. The more we normalize dating, the more cute couples like edawn and hyuna we get.

[@melodybesasify]

i kinda agree but let me correct you with the part of Chen’s marriage. Him and his gf were already engaged when she got pregnant. The words you typed might misunderstand by some 😊

[@shayoranan]

@@melodybesasify thank you for the correction! ☺️ I said that because that's what most of the articles had written. Chen got engaged and then married hurriedly because his partner was already pregnant.

[@melodybesasify]

@@shayoranan oh sure! media articles really know how to twist things to make someone look irresponsible or bad

[@shakira7301]

If you see how much they do for a member's birthday, it seems as if they're obsessed. It's like they've got no life outside being a fan of a boyband it's seriously annoying

[@bibs7378]

"they're dating...each other" I KNEW IT SHJSJXJSISHDHSJS

[@springlady8337]

Of course idols would date other idols and not fans or “regular people”. Other idols would be more understanding of their work schedule and lifestyle.

[@brennathecatlover4360]

@@springlady8337 there’s kpop idols dating/ have dated non celebrities

[@springlady8337]

@@brennathecatlover4360 I’m well aware there are idols who date non celebs but they are more likely to date other idols. It’s like a 95 to 5 percent ratio

[@brennathecatlover4360]

@@springlady8337 I’m sure lots of idols are dating secretly but I doubt every single idol in the industry is

[@beautifulspringflowers6598]

No one’s gonna talk about how cool it is that she stayed with I.U?!! ♥️

[@niyatitekchandani8615]

they honestly inspire me so much. they did everything they could to chase their dreams and more importantly, knew when to give up when they found out that maybe it just wasn't for them. It's so hard to give up on a dream that you have worked for your entire life and to be able to do that and still not feel dejected but to move on, and to do better things in life is so incredible! You go girls!! :D

[@MC-ko2mx]

Gina has gone on to do *so* many other things, outside of the K-Pop industry. She graduated from a prestigious South Korean university, is a travel writer with numerous books under her belt, teaches English, and runs a KZbin channel. And is K-Pop lyricist, to boot. Just an all-round impressive individual, really.

[@AmiyaD1611]

You know I can totally understand the whole dating thing. I mean really imagine being an Idol, who else could better understand and bond with you than another idol, and even from the same company. ofc not everybody is like that, but it is much easier to bond with someone if they have been through the same struggles and experience similar problems. I mean maybe in the beginning before you debut it‘s easier to date outside, but I am sure it is weird if you are famous and finding someone who isn‘t famous to date you, because i‘m sorry but it‘s very cringy to date a fan. Like If I were famous I would not want to date someone who knows a lot about me and idolizes me instead of treating me as a normal human being, and potentially getting disappointed because idols are real people and they don‘t live up to every projection you have put onto them how ‚perfect‘ they are. So really it‘s all understandable. But it would be nice for you to make a video to go more indepth, as I find it really interessting how it‘s all done since it‘s so secretive. And I don‘t know about other people but I honestly really support the idols and them having relationships. I mean that‘s how they grow, it‘s a part of life, they are just human and should also be able to have their experiences just like other people do too.

[@grachi0matilda]

Like this thing where people says that doctors date doctors because they understand the schedule?

[@AmiyaD1611]

@@grachi0matilda It‘s a bit like that. Altough we do have to take into consideration that idols are famous people, and that is a huge difference for someone who is not famous by default. I mean ofc I am sure some idols might enjoy dating someone who is not famous, but then that will probably never be a fan, bc once again it is hella weird. So they would probably search for someone who doesn‘t know who they are to be able to just have a normal and healthy relationship and life, but even that might change once the other person would find out they were/ still are famous. So yeah generally it is really easier dating someone who is an idol already too.

[@fluffymarshmallow2881]

I mean Exo's Chen dated a non-celebrity for years, ended up marrying her and they even had a baby last year😊 There have also been quite some idol couples who broke up because both of their schedules were too full to have time to take care of their relationship😢

[@AmiyaD1611]

@@fluffymarshmallow2881 Yes that‘s true! I mean both are understandable. as I already mentioned I encourage idols having relationships bc they are all a part of our lives and how we grow. And I am happy if they can find happiness and content like that, but generally speaking it is easier to date an idol as an idol. I mean no matter in the end I encourage everything that encourages idols health, happiness and growth as people 🤗

[@iamgorgeous]

There are also idols that dating a non idol through acquaintance

[@lonewolfgang_]

when she said "all your favorite idols are dating... each other, and then with the members of the same group" i was like *I KNEW ITT*

[@Jem5122]

For those wondering about when Gina said idols date members of the same group, I think they meant an idol dating multiple members within a group they themselves are not apart of. Like if Yeji dated a member in Stray Kids 2020, then in 2021, dated a different member in that same group.

[@kalianna3098]

Dang-

[@Jem5122]

@@kalianna3098 There’s definitely gay and bi idols that are dating though. Possibly ones dating their group members, but in my head if she meant that I’d think I she’d say “dating members in their group” and go a bit in depth about it since non heterosexuality is pretty much never discussed by Kpop idols.

[@ritika5788]

😳

[@mahashwetaborgohain6738]

@@Jem5122 you have a point.

[@adelled3839]

No, they meant the guy is player, for example the guy is flirting with a cute member from group A, at the same time he is flirting with another pretty member from same group A. There's a show where gen 2 girlgroup member told if they're dating an idol, they hv to clarify to other members as well in case they're been flirting with the same person.

[@defabc285]

thankyou for spitting the truth abt dating. it’s okay to breaking some people fantasies who are selfish dont want their idols dating or get married. they’re human after all.

[@yanlo7385]

It’s pretty obvious majority of idols are dating even though they hide it. I mean some are single, but you expect me to believe majority of idols are single (especially the ones in their 20s-30s) and that they won’t find love? Lol Let’s be realistic. No matter how busy you are, if you fall in love, you fall in love. There will always be those bashers/delulus, but I hope idols dating can be normalized and be supported by the majority more. If we can date and fall in love, then so can they.

[@cicingel3473]

Also the idols are all hot, talented, smart, hardworking and rich and some people still think they don't date each other.

[@cicingel3473]

@Waster I know but most of them are.

[@amelietirado1012]

You're right!!

[@shakira7301]

Dude there's been r@pe scandals and we never knew it until certain someone exposed it, dating is nothing compared to it. Of course they do whatever they want, it's not the manufactured humans image people put on idols.

[@nayaatmsl8257]

"All ur idol are dating... each other" OFCOURSEE THEY AREE💀✋🏻, most of fans know their idol r dating but just close their eyes, and then keep cheering up and love their idol afhjdslkdhf

[@sugarspiceandeverythingnic1124]

While you're here, appreciate Coco's voice. Listen to "Lately". It'll be nice if you can check out her music not just her tea.

[@qxeen1e]

Got recommend this 3 years later 😭

[@FrostyPlayzYT]

same 😭

[@imthatbee2024]

Same

[@Minarechan]

Same I don’t know why 😂😭

[@Nai-09]

I really enjoy their dynamic. Coco is so energetic and honest, and Gina is so down to earth and realistic.

[@JayPrakash-of9mk]

What are the jobs that the let-go trainees or disbanded group members go into mostly?

[@ren503]

the tea keeps spilling! remember to listen to Coco's new single "Lately" 🎶💖

[@stanpentagon]

Yess stream Lately!

[@Exolblink616]

BlackPink Lisa and Rosie have that like blessed metabolism they don't gain weight easily so like they can eat whatever they want But Jisoo nd Jennie gain weight easily so both of them workout a lot

[@hervenuslove]

jisoo doesn't work out that much she said she hates exercising 😭

[@Exolblink616]

@@hervenuslove umm she actually does workouts, like mostly pilates nd cardio based. She goes to gym too(but don't admit it cause she's shy)

[@JennieBlinkXoldier]

different body types, peeps...but the Unnies are said to be healthier than the Maknaes... anyway, love them all

[@rory9963]

@@Exolblink616 how do you know if she does not admits?

[@Cybele09]

That kind of thinking is very problematic. There's no magic metabolism, no one has it. They probably eat pretty healthy meals in reasonably quantity and are very active.

[@cm-ht6iq]

ommg this is so fun, the behind the scenes of the industry

[@mureuni]

i mean, living in kpop industry is like ur life at school. many people. many hot boys u like. boys have crush on girls, vice versa. so.... it's SO NORMAL to have romance relationship 😘 they might know each other and have crush on each other. imagining how my fav idols have romantic lives makes me SO glad ❤️

[@ohgoddont879]

- Is the dating ban only for trainees? - Since you know some idols date, does this mean they are somewhat open with it in the agency? Do the managers know? Can they do something about it? (Same question also applies to the situation below) - Regarding idols dating within their group, how common is it to find LGBTQ+ idols? I know they’re not open to the public, but do managers and other members know?

[@tinjazv8743]

Are there gay/lesbian/bisexual idols that you guys know about that is still secret or is being gay/bi a discussion you ever dicuss among your members/trainees?

[@jeonginismyuniverse9754]

.

[@leikim1476]

!!!

[@alexc9278]

Answer these please!!!

[@bv-5272]

I wanna know this too

[@Angel.aaa109]

Its impossible for every single kpop idol to be straight , like _impossible_

[@emerald442]

alot of comments talk about dating, but i'm super curious how backstage look like. is there a lot of male idol who looking down at female idols? is there subtle sexual harrasment/assault? what unexpected wild thing u ever heard or happen infront of you? is the tension between idols group quite high? do they drink a lot and is there any female idols who smoking publicly or among them? and what crossed your mind when you see the fans cheered their fav group but have ill mannered but acting nice infront of their fans? also did any of them joined cult or suspicious faith that went rumour among u guys? ps wtf its 1.2k likes

[@Lovemalotm]

Same

[@dontloosehope6415]

Sorry im kindof confused, Why was the smoking question only directed to females?

[@sk8aintstr813]

stop directing smoking only to female idols? god ffs

[@emerald442]

@@dontloosehope6415 im sorry i think misinterpreted my words, but i just wondering since i never heard any kpop girl idols scandal smoking. and ofc they are allowed too not only man.

[@emerald442]

@@sk8aintstr813 since female idols is more controversial in anything they do instead of man iidol so im wondering is there any of them smoke publicly

[@markse1997]

this was so good. and thank you for telling people that YES IDOLS DO DATE. also the audition tips about wearing sweats, haven't heard that before and thats so useful.

[@clairevaiphei1068]

We want more tea about idols dating

[@angakokpanipaq]

Now this is THE tea I have been waiting for

[@b3t1i73]

,,they are dating each other" Sua and Siyeon: We have been exposed

[@VlannCo]

HAHA

[@M23-q8s]

I’m shocked that you mentioned BP. Thank you for the tea. Btw you’re both beautiful 🥰

[@elenap1175]

When did they mentioned BP I watched it but idk hahaha I can’t find it

[@M23-q8s]

Elena P 8:50, they’re talking about metabolism, weight and such (generally, body type)

[@helenafranca99]

Can idols end up hating each other because of their fandom fights??

[@sicatsz]

What kinda question ? Obviously it can happen .

[@layloo5244]

For sure. There was a lot of tension between 2ne1 and SNSD back in the day for example.

[@nayaatmsl8257]

Girlll😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@helenafranca99]

@@layloo5244 really?i didn't know, what happened?

[@victoriadealba5558]

@@layloo5244 but as far as I know, there it wasn't bad blood at all. Like, it might have been some tensions between them, but I'm not sure if we could call it bad blood, I even remember Minzy mentioning HyoYeon in one of her thanks speechs

[@dheaismaxx]

This might be a bit sensitive, but do foreign trainees/idols receive some degree of racism? Or are they treated differently from Korean individuals?

[@diamonddreams4538]

im sure they do sadly. You can see how some of them are being less paid just for not being korean.

[@sunflowergarden9794]

Gina and Coco are stunning, real and well articulated. This is the first video I watch from them, one of many...

[@coconutdimples6509]

WE WANT A DETAILED VIDEO ON IDOL DATING THAT'S THE ☕ EVERYONE CARES ABOUT

[@chiaravallini532]

I got so sad when you mentioned the weight issue.. but yeah it’s true unfortunately. I hope there’s a shift about that someday

[@juliethan9670]

I’m just glad my idols are dating. For my group they just all seems like workaholic so i was scared that they dont have the time to date 😭 but yes plz be dating and HAPPY! oh boy i pray that they dont get into toxic relationships or anything!! If ur reading this, plz choose your partners wisely and think straight even when ur in love!!

[@sr7691]

Which group?

[@juliethan9670]

@@sr7691 seventeen 😂

[@sr7691]

@@juliethan9670 I thought you were talking about GOT7 😂

[@juliethan9670]

@@sr7691 i just hope they can all be happyy

[@sr7691]

@@juliethan9670 hope so 😊

[@rxvenxsxul]

Also for the people in the comments trying to force your fantasies/desires on your idols, remember they are people too. You can’t force them to come out or out them! For some of you guys to be apart of the LGBTQ community some of y’all should know better. Y’all knew what it felt like for someone to out you or label you as something that weren’t so why do it to your idols. They will come out when they’re ready. Until then keep it neutral.

[@Musiic288]

wow you REALLY spilled all the tea these videos are so good, and the weight/body image part... god that is traumatizing

[@himarktuan]

OMG gina lived with iu?? that’s so insane wow

[@shanzoni1200]

Yess to idols dating, I hope my idol is getting some. It burns me out that they have to hide so much.

[@yend6772]

“They’re dating...each other” “and with the members of the same group” jevdisgsiehei SPILL MORE 😭🤚

[@leikim1476]

yes please!!!!

[@JJ-gg2rz]

Yes please hahaha

[@Ravyyy1001]

It's highly possible tho, there are times that a company would not let their trainees to meet other opposite sex trainees too. Your members are the only people around you 😂

[@brennathecatlover4360]

@@Ravyyy1001 that doesn’t mean they’re gonna turn gay though

[@lixlix4689]

@@brennathecatlover4360 gay people exist tho a lot of idols are probably gay/bi

[@saxanith6117]

"He called me ‘돼지.’ He called me fat." The thing is, 돼지 means pig. Not only did he call her fat, but he literally called her a pig.

[@sachinvenugopal6926]

Not only she got body shamed sad all that hard work got wasted too

[@HijiyamasYakisobaPan]

I actually love it, when i see idols as humans, and i am not alone with that for sure- It makes me so happy when i see them in a comfortable state, when they don't have to hide their bad mood and their looks. AUTHENTICITY is SO important in my opinion- and i don't mean that as another approach to appeal to fans, but to just let them be as they are and how they feel

[@nzvoyg]

the most polite idol that you know/seen

[@nana_aamm]

How do idols cover their stretch marks? I’m curious like when female idols are wearing shorts, how do they manage to hide it?

[@Jem5122]

I think they just wear makeup, skin colored tights, or the photos are edited.

[@peace_wise2809]

High waist pants , there is reason why we don't often see navels.

[@malibum2347]

@@Jem5122 Right everyone has imperfections. It’s easier to hide them if it’s possible

[@MC-ko2mx]

Tone up cream maybe?

[@preethanadig6252]

@@Jem5122 one former female idol i dont remember who said that they use foundation + moisturizer on entire body and the camera people edit to make them look flawless without sweat patches or marks

[@riotjohnson889]

I absolutely love you two together! When I saw this was posted I grabbed my mug and wrapped myself in the blankets bc I knew this was gonna be good! I would love to hear more about dating within the group whenever you guys do this again. Also how do trainees feel to leave their families/home countries at 13 years old. Is training a lot of pressure or it is just viewed as an after school activity. How do idols deal with jealousy and feeling like just another back up singer/dancer to another member who gets more opportunities. Take your time, we know you both have different schedules and it might be hard to get together.

[@konicsworld1004]

When she said that "everyone dates it's just that how well u hide it" oh yes iKONICS know this for a fact BOBBY hid it so well and just announced on insta that he's going to be a dad next month and is getting married lol he's a genius. 😂❤

[@elinatsaktsira731]

He followed Chen's example.. good for him 💜 he will be an amazing dad!

[@HelloWorld-wn4xv]

I really wish you guys to start a company in future. I don't know why..but I felt so. Having a clear artistic viewpoint and better understanding of the system, I think you guys are perfect fit for that.

[@themedicolover]

well I’m happy for the idols, finally they’re dating and happy

[@sooj4835]

straight or not im just glad idols are getting some 💀 it’s about TIME

[@Julie-lr3fb]

'they date other members of the same group' then video got cut. I guess when people see chemistry and ship them (from the same group) it isn't too farfetched now xD thanks for the tea ladies ;)

[@shhd2105]

She said other members of the same group meaning two members from a separate group, Korea isn’t accepting of LGBTQ and even normal people who are gay have to hide that so I think those who are gay hide that from other idols.

[@Julie-lr3fb]

Yes, im well aware of majority korea with regards to lgbtq :) If that's what you understood it's fine. I have my understanding too 👌

[@maybesophiaa]

most of that is fan service but it’s still cute lol

[@oonbcigixizit6088]

she meant that someone will break up w one member of a group and date another member of the same group

[@bangtanhoe8704]

not all the homophones in these comments trying to change the meaning 😭🤚🏻

[@leonajasz5738]

why is everyone so obssesed with idols dating like damn its their lives

[@ptrimsra]

ikr

[@BunEsub]

I’m already loving this channel

[@user-bi5op4tb4q]

can we just appreciate how open Coco is? I love her!

[@yeeyee7334]

@ 15:30: i know girl groups in general face more scrutiny for dating, but do companies hold their boy groups to similar standards or do they care less when they date? 👀

[@user-lc4eb5mm3g]

we should be talking about the abuse of making idols starve more than them dating. it’s horrendous

[@kimtaearmy1957]

It's nice to hear our idol is dating they are human too I hope they will be happy.

[@sophialula8710]

i love this video but i also love how your english is better than some native speakers. your voices are SO pretty

[@querryberry]

This is a necessary video!! 👏👏👏 Thank you for spilling the tea 🙌💖

[@bluevelvetlight]

the dating thing is what I really want to know and how the companies handle it

[@ria6968]

Im so glad that their dating they deserve to be happy

[@zahra3074]

How do female idols handle periods and shaving etc like it must be so hard, esp if you’re one who experiences cramps and such, and you have to dance in front of a crowd edit: ik some idols don’t experience periods/have irregular periods for various reasons but for the ones that do still get normal cycles how do they handle it

[@guleb1999]

Most of them don't have periods because they're underweight.

[@interwebwinner]

@@guleb1999 what bullshit is this

[@lanavidakovic4543]

@@interwebwinner it’s sadly true

[@guleb1999]

@@interwebwinner its true, some Idols said it

[@lils_0719]

@@guleb1999 yeah and because of stress

[@worthyfinds4955]

I honestly love how they spill the teas in the kpop industry hahahah like they are just casually sharing to us like how best friends gossip hahahaha I love them

[@luv1508]

OMG I CANT BELIEVE I WATCHED THIS VIDEO IN MARCH AND THE VIDEO CAME BACK ON MY SUGGESTED AND IT'S ACTUALLY COCO FROM TRANSIT LOVE ;0

[@brownkj6782]

How often do idols date other idols/people from the industry? Like is that the preference or do idols prefer dating people that are not part of the industry?

[@k-popaddict937]

I’m also wondering too

[@yarakfouri2945]

Coco! You're weight story is heartbreaking! I pray you and Gina are taking care of your mental health!

[@ellie7701]

On the contrary, I'm glad they're dating!! They deserve to love someone who understands them without having all of their private business aired out to public every time! 💕

[@gugugaga3762]

i’m so happy that blackpink is eating well and living a healthy lifestyle, good for them and honestly i hope no one assume they have ED’s anymore bc a lot of people seem to assume that and make up lies.. 🙁

[@fishmom437]

this video proves that the kpop idol life isn’t all glitter and glam,, fans who expect the most about their idols and younger fans who dream of becoming an idol should really watch this. this is very informative.