How To Stop Caring What Other People Think - Teal Swan

[@Bjornstativ]

“Don’t take critisism from someone you wouldnt take advice from” Don’t remember where I heard this, but it really resonated so thought I’d share

[@stephlefort355]

Thankyou this is excellent

[@dianeibsen5994]

@@stephlefort355 This is great! Learning what amd who to take advise from has been didficult. Many unawarenesses of myself and who I was/am as a person. Made me go to ppl for advise that were not help I g me or for my highest good.

[@peppigue]

Don't take advice from someone who can't take criticism

[@lunaromance2243]

@@peppigue why

[@joannehsieh4641]

Good one!

[@zeph6439]

"Care for the approvals of others, and you will always be their prisoner." ~Lao Tzu

[@paulden3158]

I like that

[@billkattkatt1693]

Zeph - Solid truth ✔👍

[@whatisanamebutalayerofabsr4107]

@Ich Where did you get this quote, it's spot on IMHO!

[@randyvaughn7316]

Zeph I definitely like that statement didn’t know that was out there

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

I'm free! free indeed it's been tormented struggling to escape this prison to come home to myself been stuck so many times and still fall into Snares/traps but within myself I see the cell and learn to rise above the hell.... Life is just one big test keep moving regardless

[@MKCarol-ms7lg]

I totally agree about the highest need of humans. My first suicide attempt was at 9; after 2 more attempts I finally got help at age 26. I'm 67 now and am still learning how to live.

[@abbaszaidi8371]

M.K. Carol keep learning. As we learn, we breathe and we live. The lesson never stops. And I think over time we can also enjoy it

[@samprashad493]

Read Shri Baghwad Geeta....lord Krishna is all loving and guiding....blessings

[@MKCarol-ms7lg]

@Jason That sounds like good post-Covid advice as well.

[@MKCarol-ms7lg]

@Jason Sadly many people found they didn't have any of that and chosen to leave this world at their own hand.

[@hs223justin]

I commend you for your strength

[@seeingstraightthrough]

I stop caring when I realized it only mattered what I cared about myself. After that I've gained a confidence that can not be removed. I used to be so shy and bashful. I don't filter what I have to say anymore to make people feel comfortable either.

[@felicitygrace5113]

How great is that! I am in that process too at the moment! 👍

[@jbr84tx]

If someone says something about me that I know to be untrue, It doesn't bother me. It's when I know they are at least partially correct that it hurts, especially when It's something I've been denying about myself.

[@charlotteandrews7980]

I've listened to this woman so many times... when she says "I can assure you" the wisdom that follows is the most mind blowing truth that has been right in front of you the whole time. This woman's skill is in helping people shift perspective and understand what 'reality' isn't.

[@prepforlife4425]

100!

[@nonyab3843]

Many people have an alternate reality because they refuse to listen to that voice inside that most of us have. They want what they want when they want it, and keep shoving that voice down further and further. I'm not sure where narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths fit on this spectrum.

[@BoHimeChella]

I found this wonderful women three years ago. She helped me so much that first year when I was feeling so low and suppressed. I went as far as poppin in my earbuds and listening to her videos while at work (I had my sneaky ways haha). I can't thank you enough for doing all that you do and helping others in need of wisdom. Thank you so, soo much Teal! I love you!

[@issac7787]

Her advice is like a music for my troubled soul, listen to her daily to gain more insight about life, always helps when dealing with stressful events in life.

[@tyrondausab385]

I also love you Teal..and you coawixchelle.

[@infowazz]

i used to stream at work as i used photoshop all day long. what a journey! if i couldn't stream that job would have driven me crazy.

[@IAm-zu4ql]

Don't let any men bring you down ladies. And don't bring any men down

[@IAm-zu4ql]

Even if your angry,you musnt take it out by destroying and preying on weak vulnerable men.

[@LifeWarriorTV]

The less you care, the more people will like you, it's a full circle :D

[@patriciaking7892]

So true. The people that don't give a damn get much respect. Peace.

[@jennysmith4646]

I haven't cared about what other people think about me for years

[@gustavgans7966]

I guess its an intervall where you go and the limit is even things are getting easier or its a simplification as teal said, you can easily get isolated from positive things. Point is the addiction positively and negatively. Sry for my bad english.

[@joybreegaming8781]

When I dont care what others think I get stared at like I'm crazy. I think I may be soing something wrong

[@me-ik5ez]

it is not true for everyone

[@yogawithkassandra]

I always go back to this one, thank you!

[@Lucky_Chase]

Figured it out yet??

[@CatInfoGermany]

Love your Yin Yoga Videos! 😊😌

[@spiritualsandy]

Yoga with Kassandra literally this is the second time I’ve been here and I thought I’d be the only one!!!

[@Whoisren901]

Facts

[@josierenee3613]

Its great to see that my yoga teacher watches my main thought leader ❤ unity baby😊

[@unstoppablezone4980]

"What other people think of me...is none of my business." ~ Louise Hay

[@KayFlowidity]

2:00 Conditioning 3:30 Taking things personal 4:15 Needs 5:25 Sharing is Caring 7:00 Solutions 7:45 Validation 9:05 Self Validation

[@rachaelhutchings5659]

This is amazing, thankyou

[@KayFlowidity]

@@rachaelhutchings5659 My pleasure🙌

[@shamanskye]

Thank you🙌💓🙌

[@7733rk]

Omg I literally checked the comments to see if some kind soul had done this 😊❤️

[@youspisey1884]

@@KayFlowidity 4q

[@samv7501]

It's simple, if someones a jerk or they say assholish things to you albeit with a nice sounding voice, then that person is a jerk and harmful to you. You must learn to limit your interactions with people that make you feel like there's something wrong with you. Only associate with friends that add to your sense of self worth in a positive good feeling way. Don't trust phony smiles or people that try and act like their your friend when it obvious they have different motives.

[@nanadelamer6277]

..Maybe you cant avoid them +have to deal with..

[@EffigyOfAdam]

Yeah this doesn't work when those people are your family

[@nanadelamer6277]

Gooey on a second thought that works even if its your fam bcoz its the same behavior .Surelly you cant walk away PHYSICALLY but you can walk away spiritually. Unfortunatelly detachment and emotional abandonment its hard but the only way. let go of your beliefs that they are the sweet caring ppl you thought +hoped they are since for reasons of their own they chose not to be and no ammount of love patience or reason will change that

[@Bailemos888]

so true

[@patglennon9671]

if you are 18 and older you don't have to be around them, some people regardless of who they are need to be cut off.

[@arakaran9667]

...she talks to the soul

[@nsimba_777]

Exactly! I can always feel it open the access to my soul.

[@supermariiio]

she weird doe. only reason im commenting this is cause i know she can handle my negative thoughts about her, if they even are negative in her mind

[@supermariiio]

my problem: i lack of stupidity

[@nsimba_777]

***** Seems like the opposite to me ._.

[@tyrondausab385]

you find her information difficult to process thats why you are against it.

[@Anonymous-gq7kj]

When we damaged by parents who have no idea of the damage they have caused. If nothing is done to correct that damage one could go through life feeling broken. Teal you’re an Amazing Teacher.

[@whatarefriends4]

I am a perfectionist so that no one has cause to criticize me. She nailed my ass on that one

[@knottydizziedevil9425]

Same.

[@sheilafitzgerald478]

Same

[@Ryan-to1pr]

Same

[@MsNalder1]

Same

[@teresadorta8039]

Used to be me.

[@dreamexecute]

I understand your message. Running from pain is the problem. Caring what other people think is better used as a learning experience rather than a accurate measure of your worth. Good a analysis I am happy to know im not the only one who see things this deeply.

[@cosmicartsastrologicalserv242]

Someone told me my videos were like watching Teal Swan's grandmother, so I had to check her out. I'm impressed by her level of focus and preparation.

[@Kimberlymarie007]

"When you sense disapproval or dissatisfaction all you're sensing is your own dissatisfaction and disapproval of yourself. Most of the time you don't have any idea what the other person is thinking so the thoughts you have can only come from your own mind. When someone is disapproval of something. Ask how you are disapproval of that thing within yourself. If you are feeling defensive, it means there is a wound you are trying to defend. What would is it?"

[@taliawhite315]

it's crazy, i sat with my shame, and compared to every other negative emotion i've integrated in the past, this one is the first one that gave me intense physical reactions. My whole body heated up in an extreme hot flash (embarrasment) and then i felt extremely nauseous. I felt extremely sick, I felt literally like I was dying. For the first time I literally felt like an emotion I had actually physically made me feel like I was going to die. But once i completely sat with it, wow, the relief.

[@angecynthia347]

I am in this process,,,,I am seeing the light...ahhahahahahaa

[@alex-ander-13]

Thank you for sharing it!

[@alessandraalchemia3863]

This video helped me realize my own experience; in essence people who experienced severe neglect as children will become people pleasers, put others before them, always seek to connect with others and desire greatly to be wanted by others.. abandonment and or rejection will hurt deeply. Finding oneself will be very difficult, as these people will have developed their personality via positive feedback from others, causing them to continue this cycle and going deeper until one day hopefully they realize in sadness they don’t know who they are. I hope everyone has the bravery to find who they really are and to follow it always no matter what. ❤

[@Mama-lq1uz]

2020 still watching this video.much love

[@letsbethechange1424]

Love you too.

[@uureemischeel9804]

Same here. Hug n kiss

[@sammythehamster9093]

Still great now in 2021 still under lockdown. I prefer Teal over Ralph Smart Infinite Waters he is too much in the clouds and borderline toxic positivity. I felt thst had to unsubscribe over video about pandemic. Teal is more realistic and makes me look deep inside myse there's lots of healing to do. Be kind and stay safe everyone.

[@simonewhite7101]

2021 still watching

[@keithacord3957]

2024 and still watching

[@steffenlupkes709]

Teal, I can't express here how thankful I am for your videos. Every single video fits perfect to my situation - emotionally I am a little child, but I know there is great awareness to come. You are literally saving my life with this. Sending love from frozen Germany, we need your wisdom here so bad!

[@scarlett_j]

I find that patience is the most rewarding thing. Just sit there with your eyes closed and become quiet, until you are beginning to feel overwhelmed by your emotions. Guide your emotions into a right vibration, and heal yourself.

[@MonikaD________l]

@@scarlett_j ❤

[@scarlett_j]

@@MonikaD________l 😊👍

[@CrystalAnneCompton]

As Don Miguel Ruiz asserted, don't take the opinion of others personally. By the time someone articulates a judgment against you it has gone through endless filters created by their own perception and crap, and has nothing whatsoever to do with you. However, if you AGREE with their judgment? Then you allow them to cast a spell over you, and change who you are. SO DO NOT AGREE WITH HOW ANYONE ELSE DEFINES YOU. Only you can know this. Be who you are, as you are, in this moment. There is nothing more that is required.

[@redwhiteblue9866]

Thanks for that, I'm familiar with The Four Agreements but wasn't applying it. I now realize I was taking the attack on her personally. She has explained some Dynamics that were present in my childhood that have affected me my whole life, better than anybody ever including some with a bunch of letters after their name. I went from being depressed of the suicidal variety to being much more comfortable in my own skin using techniques I learned from her, nothing else ever worked. My life has improved tenfold as a result of being exposed to her teachings. I urge everyone to see how things feel for themselves. The naysayers don't have to live with the choices you make in your life.

[@thirdeye9524]

I just had a really shitty night and I appreciate you Teal Swan. You just told me exactly what I need to improve. Love you!

[@Omastian]

Teal Swan does have the ability to help after a hard day/night. Got the news that an old buddy died last night, hit me kinda hard, at the end of the night I find myself listening to Teal Swan. Anyway, I hope you are doing well.

[@nishadh366]

@@Omastian I hope you are doing well too

[@kennywally]

She's eerily calm and encouraging. mysterious. But what she says makes total sense.

[@catherineprater1485]

This process is one I’m going through. I am over. 60 and have plenty of back-life to filter through. This is a challenge I am willing to walk through and hope I can help those who are coming behind me to filter out the things I perpetuated in their lives. Thank you Teal.

[@lindabrookeable]

I really appreciate the psychology details. I am getting my masters in psychology and absolutely love the subject. boiling things down to why I act the way I do from an evolutionary standpoint always helps me feel better and get better control over my actions.

[@schedirvenus]

Thank you. Your videos are making me a better a mother to my children. I was conscious but I am becoming even more aware about how small things I do might be programming them. Really thank you so so so so so so so so much.

[@alex-ander-13]

That's beautiful. Thank you for the inspiration!

[@meowkitty847]

I feel like teals videos need like a billion views her thought process could change world!!!!

[@suzansmith3898]

Over a Million Now ♥️♥️

[@theshepherdsflame6017]

Our self worth is directly tied to our need for positive approval. If we get negative disapproval from others we believe that we are not worthy or good and we believe that something is wrong with us, instead of believing that something is wrong with our particular misguided action (which is actual reality). This is how our primary caregivers taught us about our self-worth. We were denied love when we did something that *they* disapproved of. Therefore who we became is the standard that our caregivers wanted us to be, and when we do something that we know they would disapprove of we really beat ourselves up. The solution is to disconnect from "the voice within" that gives us unhealthy disapproval and instead we retrain "the voice within" to be gentle, accepting, nurturing and forgiving. The new voice within asks what is the lesson that we learned from this particular action? We can respond with what we have learned, we can forgive and we can let go. We cannot change the way that others respond to our actions because they have their own voice within and it may or may not be healthy, from their caregivers or a new enlightened voice that they created for themselves. And we too have to be forgiving to them. We can't please everyone, but we can big gentle with ourselves.

[@bluesanime]

All I know this video helped me a lot I'm not a perfect individual nor will I ever be I stumbled across teal swan on KZbin very very recently I've watched some of her videos and honestly I think she's very educated on the things she says and while watching this video she actually helped me break some of my Truma although I don't know how to explain it thanks

[@MORCOPOLO0817]

It's hard when you are an empathy because you are always acutely aware of other people's emotions.

[@jfrant25]

Yes, I'm not really sure what an empathy is, but I certainly feel ppl's points of view so much so that it can be paralyzing... It causes me to second guess my own natural instinct because I'm perceiving their judgement, thoughts reactions and putting their feelings/emotions before mine. It Crazy!

[@summaiyarobi4915]

It drains me !

[@johntheherbalistg8756]

Just because you're an empath doesn't mean you should let others' thoughts and feelings define yourself. It is YOUR self, after all. You decide how you feel about yourself, don't let others decide who and what you are or what you're worth. 😐

[@francesb7515]

A wonderful lady taught me to notice how long I feel being around people is beneficial and then only be around them that long.

[@mattislennArt]

Omg yes!😂 I always feel what other people feel or mean and then I'm just like something's wrong about me if I don't agree.

[@sannajohanna5579]

What other people think of me? I do not know and even if I knew, my answer is: I think back!

[@Nowhere9]

Her voice made me relax, I noticed myself I was asleep while I listened to her

[@ewakulikowska96]

Teal help me so much ..."Validation" was the turning point in the way I was looking at myself and others ... Emotions are the bridge betwen our conscious and suconscious self ...more gardbage we remove...more conscious we are.. Thank you Teal...Love You!!!

[@MissRsan]

How "validation" help you ?? I need help😭😭

[@okwhatever2995]

Psychology seems to be both spiritual and a science! I really enjoy what you teach and find it enlightening! Thank you Teal Swam!

[@GeetaGalaway]

The real goal isn't to care. It's to be able to listen without getting upset and try and see it from their perspective. You can't assume they know why you do things or even understand. You gotta take what others say with a grain of salt. The most valuable information you get from others is how your actions are making them feel... Maybe the situation can't be avoided... perhaps its an opportunity to figure out a better way to behave towards others. Either way it is easiest to grow when you can see yourself in an unbiased point of view... by looking at yourself like if you were looking at a friend instead of yourself. I could go on forever but while its good to share information this is not the way Teal. I honestly am getting the vibe that something darker lies behind the scenes here.

[@biblebadcopycatofcuneiform8210]

Anonymous Nexus - "The most valuable information you get from others is how your actions are making them feel." - If you're so focused about other people feel about what you say and do then you'll live your life worried almost constantly about how your words or actions. That is a very backwards way to live. I care some about how others read or hear me, or react to my actions but My Actions are My Own, same with spoken and typed. People have the right to React to them but I am not in any way "making" them feel something,. I am not in any way "making" them choose a reaction, or auto-reaction. Taking on multiple perspectives does not mean you have to cater to everyone else...how you communicate. If you're constantly attempting to not "make" others feel hurt, after a while you will never say or Do anything around others anymore. Many people whom are very withdrawn are so because of that backwards way of thinking. I am only responsible for what I say, think, and do....not what you understand, not how you react, that's your own stuff, just as my own reactions are mine. This is also how we know when someone has confidence in themselves...or not yet.

[@bluebeka2458]

She is very inspiring. I can't belive i found her after all this time...I needed those words. I wished i could found her sooner.

[@Vicnsi]

I came across this vid 8 years late, and it still resonates deeply even today. Thanks Teal Swan.

[@huriheihei3522]

True meaning is never late its Devine timing😊

[@kimsunflower5792]

This is soo true this is how i basically found myself again its all about finding what works for u in the moment that u are feeling the smallest i hope this inspires manyy

[@Nikki-qi4ki]

I never realized how much the abuse I experienced in my childhood affected my adult life until now. How connected it all was to my self esteem and the way I react to others. I've been doing my best to help myself heal and this video is a fantastic tool to help me achieve just that.

[@alcudiababe1]

I did an exercise on the Internet a while ago and I was told to write down a letter to someone who I'm angry at. So I did it, and I put such things down like, "You should be kind with your words." Or, "Just because you're angry doesn't give you a right to be cruel." Then, instead of having a list of "You shoulds.." it turned in to "I should..." and by following this, I quickly realised what my values were. So it was more like "I should be kind with my words." So all along it was about me, and I saw the traits in other people that weren't align with me and like all of us at some point want to do, is to change how others should approach things because you don't want to accept them for them, but, you want them to be better and to realign their thinking when people have different minds and viewpoints, and realising that they are who they are and you can't change them

[@ExcelInLifeFaith-sq3pb]

💯 🎯 Your reality is a direct mirror of your subconscious and unconscious minds 💖🌈 XXX

[@cynthiaparker5661]

I just found you, I just love you, I am so appreciative that you have the ability to be human as well as a healer. I have felt like a healer but didn't feel confident in that because I am a basket case at times. You really helped me today seeing how authentic you are and putting it all on the table. I feel more empowered today. Thank you

[@MySecretJourney]

My mom once told me “ when they pay ur bills, then care”

[@eeedwards8013]

AMEM!!!!!!!!!!💜💜💜

[@fighterflight2492]

That means I have to care what my boss thinks about me? Nahh lol

[@margottfon330]

Responders just didn't get it

[@themaskofinnocence9802]

Read my latest posts. 🙌

[@VictoriaWonders]

this is so right!

[@BeOutstanding]

Great Content Thank You Teal 10 steps 7:00 Ack u hv low self Valid urself Heal Stop avoid, juzdo S4) Willing to feel the discomf Don't res S5) Increase your worth S6) Find the pos intent S7) recogn how critical u r of other ppl and urself U disappro of urself S9) let the mud settle S10) meet ur needs. Do. Treat urself better

[@daniesza]

Love and need is a primary food and you are spot on again Teal. Food and drink is secondary.

[@sofiar.9989]

..."wounds from childhood",so true Teal x. Much ♥

[@rtp1968]

Sofía R. YES!!!

[@powerofthemind4028]

the reason and logic of this video is amazing

[@littlestbroccoli]

ACTUALLY good advice. I know a lot of coaches out there are trying to help, but they really only can see part of the picture. You've painted the whole thing and given us other branches to explore. Thank you for being insightful and honest.

[@LanaALaBonte]

I’ve learned how to deal with my Perfectionism by Choosing Practice because “Practice Makes Progress!” There is no such thing as Perfect & that’s what many of us get hung up on. We’re so afraid if we don’t do things perfectly people will see our faults & reject or abandon us. The Truth is we’re all seeking Validation & Love! I so agree about Our Main Human Need Being directly affected by Love, Connection & Validation more than the others. We’re Social Creatures that were born to commune in Unity - hence Community! 💗🙏🏼💗

[@catalinachacha]

Thank you for being you. I enjoy your insight and authenticity.

[@devinevisionary]

Never really realized how much I’ve been running from myself and my pain.

[@rva]

Beautiful thanks

[@BrandenPratt]

This woman is amazing. The words she speaks really gets to me on a very deep level. Overdose of empathy. Much respect.

[@MontyRoyale]

To say I needed to hear this was an understatement.

[@tommyboyce]

Funny how after watching a video with such an insightful message about the reasons for people criticising one another that people then start spewing so much vitriol in their comments... The irony!

[@Omastian]

Not all, some that are really here to help, like you I feel, see through it. I know what you are saying though, and I get mad too. Teal Swan is making a difference, and the haters and going to hate.

[@wandathurmond1302]

Jason DeLozier nnnn

[@ScififanP]

Yep, some people you just can't tell anything.

[@johncrisp9580]

I really appreciate you and how you explain everything.. And I love how you are not afraid to say whats on your mind

[@evelynlau1929]

The peaceful background, the slow calm voice make me feel better. Really. Thank you for motivating me once more.

[@rohitsmart123]

Providing this wisdom for free is an act of selfless love Thank you so much

[@TheErika711]

Teal you are single handily saving my life

[@starlove3258]

I used to spend so much time on worrying what other people thought it was pointless and meaningless after I read ACIM I stopped reacting. The key part to remember is that you are projecting your fear/guilt onto them and they are reflecting it back at you. Like I said its all soooo pointless

[@theliberationofmysoul1hora134]

What is ACIM? Could you please give me the title? Thanks

[@stephanieanderson4999]

@@theliberationofmysoul1hora134 A Course in Miracles (a channeled book)

[@Maxseeninastar]

I started ACIM 2 weeks ago and plan on finishing. I hope it helps with this issue I am dealing with too

[@CindyAAvery]

I think it’s even harder when it’s close family members who judge and try to intentionally hurt you. There are really shallow people in this world and the only solution is to completely separate yourself. When it’s someone very close to you, their is a grieving process!

[@codedresilience5239]

You're helping me change my life. Thank you so much, you magnificent soul. :* (Hugs)

[@Emil_Avg]

Your videos help me very much!!! Teal you're a diamond!

[@AlissBlack333]

She has so much information ( and facts) that is magical to listen to her . Bless you Teal . I strongly recommended her book “The Sculptor in the sky”

[@razmikyekiazarian8454]

Two Facts: If you Like me, I'm in Your Heart. If You Hate me, I'm in Your Mind. Remember, Freedom comes when You stop caring about what others think of You... Worry about Loving Yourself, instead of Loving the idea of Other People Loving You... No one is You... That is Your Superpower... Be Happy for this Moment, this Moment is Your Life...

[@samscarletta7433]

I really loved this. Even 2 years late! 😁

[@marywolfe7293]

I was constantly put down by my family members even when I did something good. it was an alcoholic home and I was not allowed to have feelings, and I was shamed when I had feelings or cried. To this day I can see and feel the judgments that come from my sister's. I always wanted to be closer to them but my mother favored me and they are still jealous even though my parents are deceased. like all human beings I just want to be love and accepted for who I am. I need a to self validate yet be open to others opinions. I have to keep telling myself the truth which is, is God is for me who can be against me? I am a Christian and God loves unconditionally, that's what I have always needed. I don't have to be perfect because it's not possible to be perfect anyway. I read somewhere that 50 percent of the people won't like you, 25percent don't care either way, and possibly 25 percent will like you. So maybe one in four might be someone you can click with. The Bible says if God is for you, who can be against you. God never makes junk, He loves us all. God bless everybody who will ever read this .

[@jennifermoody6987]

Wow.. reading your comment made me LITERALLY feel like I was reading MY OWN thoughts and experiences.. I'm very sorry that you've had to experience something that is so very similar as myself, but I'm relieved to see that I'm not alone here.. thank u so much for leaving this comment because it was definitely something I didn't even realize I needed at this time.. MUCH LOVE AND INFINITE BLESSINGS TO U DEAR ONE 💖💖🙏🙏🥰🥰💯💯👏👏🌈🌈🌟🌟😇😇💞💞

[@felicitygrace5113]

Al Anon 12 step program has helped me with being in a family of adults of alcoholics.

[@shonriseminnis8753]

i feel so much better

[@Boognish_Bless]

Since I stopped fearing you and I started embracing you. Your videos have really started to resonate with me and pulling me out of my old ways of thinking. Thank you Teal

[@tracyspencer5012]

I really learned from early age to care so much. And hold on with dear life. But other hand taught me as I got older. It doesn’t matter why how and who think whatever. I will validate me awe….. thank you so much Teal your an amazing woman. Appreciate your videos.

[@emilyrothwell7524]

You're amazing Teal ❤️ You've helped me through some of the most traumatic times of my life

[@melaniewillard4007]

Denying caring what others think can harm hurt and injure the fight or flight system. I was energetically attacked at a job for 6 years. After 3 years, I had multiple duodenal and intestinal ulcers from which I will suffer the rest of my life. They bleed and I am iron deficient. I refused to admit they were hurting me. I said I did not care. But I knew I did not deserve that poor treatment. I am a fighter, and so I kept going back for 6 years. Until now, I. have panic attacks that last for days. Agoraphobia. Anxiety disorder. I can't leave my room without having a break in coherence of my emotional, physical, and mental self. I cry allot now. Because I never let myself cry before. I hope to recover to be able to work. Thank you for posting these talks. Much help. My Shamanic mentor was an early student of Alberto Villoldo. He helped me survive threes last 4 years. Namaste.

[@melaniewillard4007]

AND I WAS NEVER VALIDATED IN MY PAIN THERE EITHER.

[@Star-md1vm]

Melanie Willard I acknowledge and validate your pain. : )

[@madelena1234]

The beautiful Teal has been attacked by a group of deranged swamis, and other jealous folks from the New Age Contingent for what seems like years. She never hit back, or got into a squabbles with them,. and actually has come up the winner. What a gorgeous person.

[@chocobochick5390]

they're all fuckers

[@adamgoldie9313]

Also just featured on a program about Cults. Bless her I'm sure she's spinning some useful info though hahahaha

[@larryn1875]

the greatest teachers are always attacked by the sleepers

[@fredericmoresmau4303]

being a pussy and a wuss is NO CRIME .......

[@theliberationofmysoul1hora134]

She always helps. I love Teal

[@tonyagray9320]

You know Teal, I watched a video of you saying that you woukdnt have been so opened about your past, because of all the criticism it caused. Im glad you did. You speak for the broken. Myself included. U have changed me, and I love and thank you very much.

[@eagleusa]

The answer is determining who’s causing the issue. Sometimes it’s us, often it’s them. Knowing the difference is key

[@sirliridon.4419]

Damn, you're one of the most amazing person ever, I love you so much!

[@lcar4000]

Interesting point regarding the hierarchy of needs.

[@mamagrizz2375]

I love your honesty and your point of view and outlook on things. Thank you for this video!

[@daydreambeliever2964]

I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you!

[@LecheVitrineUK]

Perfectly timed for me to watch.

[@MoncaAhwen]

same

[@ivadobravila]

same :-)

[@sumaya7043]

Same

[@stevensisk7311]

For every action there’s a reaction. How you think, so are you! 😎

[@flyguy1827]

This is fucking deep.

[@Omastian]

Teal is just spot on man.

[@gideonignitious8170]

No she not. You can't degrade and build up in this stage of game. It's a statement saying "your weak" and you need Momma" then when you come running back she got a switch behind her back. This Dimensional ♟️. But it's my Destiny to overcome and still , get the girl. Isn't it Exciting kids!!! Love you, root for PaPa🤟🙏🪐🥳🔥💰

[@ollapo1059]

crazy deep, validation for feeling to kill someone? Really?

[@lolalina_]

@@gideonignitious8170 your comment is so weird wtf

[@basmabwzr]

2021 and I still go back to this video and learn more and more each time. Thank you for placing this out there.

[@janec.4142]

My introduction to Teal Swan was this episode recommended to me by a friend.

[@friederike_thesoundofyou]

Thank you, Teal, for sharing! From a psychological perspective: Maslow's pyramid has been highly criticised even in the scientific community. Namasté. Fedi

[@jamesgerboc]

If you have a strong sense of self, you don’t worry about what other people think. If you have a fragmented sense of self, you worry about everything everyone thinks. #healthyself #oneme

[@seeexy]

#woe thanku🙏

[@sparkz6730]

True.

[@Viedoklislv]

It is ego that hurts. It is ego that is attacked & you feel you need to defend your self. It is ego that needs to know at what status it is currently and so it is ego that worries what other people think of you. So if there is ego - there is problem, there is no ego - there is no problem. What makes your ego grow? It is that moment when someone say that you have done great job and you feeling more special than others, it is when someone says that could not live without you and you feeling superior that other, it is that feeling that when you helped someone - you some how is better than others, more good, more wise, etc. That is when your ego is built. As more it's built, the more you need to defend it from collapsing. So what should you do? I think you know the answer. You know it, but don't want to admit it. Your ego is fighting with you. It says - hold on! Look how much you have invested in me! Look how your family, friends, colleagues, etc. values me! I am worth it! But it's not you - it's ego. It's that who causes all those problems. It is ego that don't let you go and demand to be different person to defend your fake identity. Your true self doesn't need no recognition by anyone - it's pure you - pure soul right from the source. You know this feeling also - that feeling when you forgot about your ego. When you are who you are - it is when you act appropriate to your true self - spontaneously because you know it's right thing to do not because it will be valued by others or you will feel better or if you won't do that you will feel guilt, no! Because it comes naturally from you! You know this feeling and you know it feel great. So don't built your ego, don't attach some "medals" to your self. And there will be no problem with what others think of you. P.S. There is a gypsy curse - the most worse that one can give to other - the most evil curse that only most evil enemies receive because it will hunt you all your life and be full of problems - do you know how it sounds? It is simply: "May you get arrogant!"

[@TealSwanOfficial]

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[@rashahassan7626]

I feel like you are talking from your heart ...not your mouth...deepth of your heart...you truly care to help people ♡♡

[@lou-anne.h]

This is so liberating ! Thank you Teal

[@p20415672]

I watch her because she kind of hypnotised me,.... I am in love

[@mundoinvisivelxd1936]

+Born Single lol

[@Omastian]

Teal Swan is a treasure of so many things. Much to learn from her I have, glad you noticed.

[@4tenajones1]

I've watched it a few times now =) Very Insightful. Showing much gratitude to the Universe for the guidance alot of your videos have provided for me.. You are a beautiful and sweet soul Ms Teal =)

[@lenn4429]

Dear Teal, I do not expect you to care, but, always since the first video, I have appreciated all those human treasures hidden in you and what you make for us. Only an authentic one can really recognize another one..

[@missychrissssy]

This was so beautiful, thank you

[@youmakemesickgetlost8946]

So tell me are you learning anything from these videos ?

[@PsychokoreUndergroundRap]

Your voice.. your eyes.. your intelligence.. mmhhmmm

[@HiSpeedDrifter]

Just get a real woman with traditional values instead of lusting after random strangers.

[@PsychokoreUndergroundRap]

HiSpeedDrifter Lusting after random strangers.. who is the random stranger?

[@HiSpeedDrifter]

PsychokoreUntergrund The Guru of the internets (Teal)

[@HiSpeedDrifter]

To KS89_E Stop being a subservient twit

[@HiSpeedDrifter]

sickheadofficial If someone claims to have supernatural gifts, they better bring evidence

[@theMusicFairy1]

How my parents view me formed my view of myself. I'm 29 now and I still feel like I can't have a view of my own of myself, it always has to be theirs so it's a huge problem for me cause now my authentic self is very different from what they brought me up to be, yet I can't approve of myself cause I can't have a view of my own of myself as I said! *sigh*

[@aaronhorak710]

An old trick.. Who (what part of you) is looking in from the "outside" and looking at how you view yourself? Which part of you is asking these questions. Get to know that part of you - that's the authentic self you seek

[@dianeorr8937]

Teal you're a Karen Carpenter of WORDS in E-MOTION! Magnificent Excellence and The BEST of Humanity in Humble Hights of Grace Growing in Glory! Blessed and privileged of your INSIGHT So Natural of LOVE!!!!

[@yourenough3]

Thank you. I needed to hear these words.

[@yourenough3]

Just read healing the shame that binds you by James Bradshaw. Great book to read it will explain a lot about toxic shame.

[@ReginaLynnavatar]

Yes, Yes, I have MAJOR abandonment issues...

[@Kamsa-x2w]

SUMMARY - How To Stop Caring What Other People Think - Teal Swan- Its no conscious choice to be not hurt by others we were punished by our parents in different way disapproval meant death to us as children We were personally treated as bad if we did something bad or wrong Doing something bad made us bad therefore our self esteem is essentially dependent on approval love and belonging is the highest need the prove is that people stop eating when they feel abandoned should I actually stop caring what other people think? no we shouldnt says teal Not caring seperates us from others, we deprive ourselves to see things from different perspective caring what other people think and depending our entire self concept on what other people think has to be differed 10 steps 1. acknowledge that you take everything personally, that you care what other people think, that you cant take criticism, and that you have particularly low self esteem first accept where you are to move anywhere Most people suppress worrys about caring what other people think because we think it is unacceptable Why do I care what other people think? 2. We need validation validation is comfirmation that something is sound or logical valid somebody means to say that the one is right in their percepton validation is the recogition that your thoughts and feelings are true and real to you regardless from others opinions parents who are concerned with right and wrong, aproval and disaproval are no concerned with righ and wrong validation from our parents as childs help us to to feel and express our emotions develop a secure sense of self in confidence feel more connected to our parents and have better relationships in adults if we didnt get validation from our parents its up to us to give it to ourselves to acknowledge yourself you need to valid the truth of your own internal experience dop the idea that what you experience is right or wrong to start the process of validation yourself watch: ---> emotional wake up call video for validation of emotions ---> is your mind friend or foe? video for thougts remember always that there is always a valid reason why you feel as you feel, think as you think, are as you are 3. if we are heart by someones opinion there is already a wound within us this is a perfect opportunity to integrate the wound we want to work with strong emotional reactions that vibrate at a frequency of a lack of self-worth things like intense shame things like mortification embarrassment all of these kinds of emotions are the ones that you want to pay special attention to because using them as a rope to access the original wound which is way back in your past is the perfect opportunity to solve the origin of the root of these issues in your adult life ---> how to heal the emotional body video to reintegrate the source of your lack of self esteem 4. if you care about what others think you live most likely in a state of self criticism and high perfectionism, so that noone has any reason to disapprove you we are perfectionism to avoid disapproval Stop avoiding what you try to avoid, instead sit with the feeling and incuding it become okay with being disapproved of develop a willingness to feel the pain shift your attention from what someone said or did to how you feel it's no longer about avoiding disapproval it's about being able to sit in and sit with the feelings of disapproval of those feelings arises Sensations within my body what you will find that you absolutely have the capacity to feel them the feelings only do damage when we resist them 5. anything that increases your self esteem helps you handling others people opoinion Write a list of the things you approve about yourself exclude others to make yourself the basis of your self concept pretend you are a space alien observing yourself what would he approve of you? ---> how do I discover self worth video 6. find the positive intention why you take things personally, why you take care what other people think, why you let what others think hurt you detrimental behavior keeps going because somehow it serves, helps you unconsciously what do you get out of it? somehow it serves your needs unconsciously eg. you might think that caring about others keeps you included by others To find out the positive intention find out what bad thing you think will happen or what bad thing it would men if you didnt take things personally:? dint let things hrut you werent dependent on what other people and didnt give your power away 7. recognize how critical you are towards other people Make an effort to withdraw your criticism but instead try to understand the other person is an important step to love yourself reason for being critical is often to get a sense of our own rightness You're drowning in the pain of self-doubt and self-hatred that is how you feel when you were being critical of others are those feelings draining or empowering you would you rather be right or happy? all people do things in order to meet a need ask yourself what their need might be, try to understand them and potentially meet their needs if you notice disapproval it is in fact disapproval by yourself what others think of you can only be a speculation of yours, your mind If someone is critical about you ask yourself how you on your own are critical about his thing of yourself feeling defensive means there is a wound to defend, what wound do you try to defend? whatever someone feels, thinks, or says about you, is not about you but about themselves actually its about both of you, we try to understand us and them you can use criticism to gain self awareness if ---> projection video put yourself in the other persons shoes imagine what they do, think, want and why how is what they are doing, thinking, doing really about them? change "why did he/she do are say that to me?" to "why did they say or do that to themselves?" consider their insecurities. might they be threatened by me in some way? maybe they lack social skills, perhaps they seem good when you feel bad What is the inner child of this person in need of and trying to get in this circumstance? figure out their needs, fear and hurt their actions then will make sense to you and you will see that their actions were not as much about you or something you did wrong as you think if someone is hating us its all about their pain and hurt get still if you feel offended by people to clear cradle through the hurt before you react if you feel less hurt, express your emotions, tell how you feel by his words, seek a meeting of minds, try to get clarificaton 10. meet your needs what do I need right now? ask yourself expecially when you have been wounded by someone else depriving from the pain we feel when being wounded makes us hurt even more, because we reject our own pain do the things which make you feel relief on a physical, emotional and mental level like taking a walk or eating, writing in journal, to get more clarity this is self validation in action you cant heal your wounds or stop being effected by others opinion with a magic pill everything begins with the knowledge that everything you feel is valid and ok when you are hurt Taking care of yourself when being hurt by someone makes you heal, integrate, our activity level will go down Thanks Teal

[@ZDvoid]

Thank you very much for this, I'm a visualiser, so it really helps to see Teal's words in writing. Have a good day :) ps. Somehow Teal's videos make me want to be kind to everyone...

[@igotmushrooms]

Thank you

[@SerotoninaCuSonia]

you are amazing for doing these summaries... thank you so much❤

[@theliberationofmysoul1hora134]

Lol I'm reading the comments, splitting my attention and you just helped me with a few things I missed. Thanks Namaste

[@KrystalKatherine13]

Thank you

[@JuanGonzalez-lk6uu]

Good morning Teal, I'm someone with historically low self-esteem who has found a path to self approval and even unconditional self-love through your channel. I really appreciate the content you create and your relentless desire to empower others through it. Hope you have a great day and life ahead!