Homosexuality: It's about survival - not sex | James O'Keefe | TEDxTallaght

[@melaniemolifie2534]

"... the truly gifted aren't burdened with children." I'm infertile, so this makes me feel a tad bit better.

[@someBody-bp1vc]

Yes

[@melaniemolifie2534]

@Cameron MacLean My comment wasn't sarcasm though. So like, yeah. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@milkyinga2622]

@Cameron MacLean it's statics

[@TheNoirAlien]

You burdened your parents lol

[@silverbackgrizzly2402]

Lol I'm gifted..with children.. they are my greatest GIFT..they've showed me that I'm truly GIFTED at being a father.. better than the one that wasn't there for me. And when I die the way they live on this earth and the way they treat people on this Earth will be another GIFT that I leave. I feel sorry for the people who can't have kids but especially sorry for the ones who don't want them. Seems like a lonely selfish life but who am I to say 🤗😎

[@vaibhavpandey9009]

Update from India 🇮🇳, being LGBTQ+ has been decriminalized.

[@katgor42]

In all states?

[@adeadratlol3516]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈Congrats from America🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@mai-ya-hee]

Yeah, in all states, as of September 6th 2018

[@shahatease1]

We kind of don't have different rules for different states. Maybe for smaller things or very specific reasons, but generally speaking the law is the same across the country.

[@LMBOatU]

Congrats. I hope India keeps thriving 👍

[@NorahADooley]

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. " - Oscar Wilde

[@runedeblauwe3500]

That's really pretty.

[@Wild4lon]

I love Wilde. That's some sharp wit.

[@shashankthapa9179]

@Yousef Ghaneemah hatred and intolerance are two of the symptoms of mental illness, are you sure, you, don't need some treatment?

[@a_diamond]

@@axilirate "Who we are" changes throughout life. Sometimes bigots even change their minds.

[@miss.conduct8083]

More amazing one-liners that hit home: "You can't be #1 without being odd." And, "why fit in when you were meant to stand out?" -Dr. Seuss

[@sociallyundead419]

Just wanted to share my coming out story. I approached my mom who was on the computer and admitted to her that I had a crush on a girl. She said "okay" then went back to looking at shoes online. I adore my mom.

[@CabbageSandwich]

That's a power move right there from her.

[@amosp9411]

Damn, that's nice. It's good she accepts you the way you are. Wish people in my country were like that

[@Anonymous-qw]

How old were you and are you male or female?

[@sociallyundead419]

@@Anonymous-qw Female, and I was around 13 or 14 at the time. She even let my then girlfriend stay with us for a while.

[@krampus6402]

@@CabbageSandwich sigma female

[@llanfairpwlgwyngyll7331]

As a straight man, I found this to be a very enlightening talk in the world of homosexuality. I can think of no other social media that can give me the same mind-opening discussion.

[@MayBlake_Channel]

KZbin is such a massive part of my life. I would not have progressed to where I am in life today without YT and the beautiful people in it. I'm always happy when I see someone else who got those benefits too :)

[@luanminitti1177]

Definitely tapping in to say that I feel the same way! Other social media platforms never did it for me like KZbin. I’ve been 2 years without social media except for this right here!

[@rubenpartono]

@@MayBlake_Channel I completely relate with this! I've been telling myself to learn more from Reddit but somehow it's just not clicking as well as KZbin does with me.

[@MayBlake_Channel]

@@rubenpartono Hmm. What do you think the reason for that is?

[@curtcoller3632]

Well I can! FOX NEWS.

[@faanengaaw7357]

I come from a tribal background from the Pacific islands. In my culture gays or transgenders are looked upon in a very positive way. They are the most hardworking people. They have no kids or family of their own they are always available. They can perform both male & female chores in & around the house. They are the ones who care for the elderlies of the family let alone their own mothers & fathers when they are sick or when they grow old & all the siblings dont have time for them because they have their own families to tend to. They are who take care of the kids when their parents are not around or present. Without them the family structure will collapse. Everybody dont have time especially when u have kids on ur own. When males are not present they are able to take their place as well since they possess both female & male powers. They are a gift to humanity by our gods & the west seem to be so offended by them. & to top it off they are our very own personal comedians!! ❤️ In Samoa they are called FAAFAFINE. In Hawaii they are called MAHU. In Chuuk they are called NIEFEFIN. In Tonga they are called FAKALEITI. In Tahiti they are called MĀHŪ. In Maori they are called TAKATAPUI. We believe they were sent from the gods for a good reason.

[@MixedFruit876]

Very interesting, thank you!

[@faanengaaw7357]

@@MixedFruit876 your welcome.

[@Nonalhomophobie]

As an atheist, I think your religion is gold !

[@faanengaaw7357]

@@Nonalhomophobie thank u 🙏🏽

[@melodygallegos374]

This is so beautiful

[@RyanandAiden]

Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone's dad was as open minded as he is.

[@mikedemike5393]

They are...they just call them mum..

[@Juicy_Joey]

My African kids will love me!

[@HISBestLifeCoach]

It's about intelligence and maturity, not so much about being "open-minded."

[@AN-ou6qu]

Mike 4thekite OH I WISH. My mom’s religious as HECK.

[@user-ut7wi1if9q]

It def would

[@khanyinyembezi2944]

I am straight or at least I think I am. I cried as if touched by the soothing touch of love on every cell of my body. This talk was strange in a good way. I really felt embraced by love, something that is not so common these days.

[@melaniejean85]

Don't let anyone tell you who you are. Find love and be loving...hold onto it like your life depends on it, because it does. Hope you have a great 2023. Peace!

[@shadrachemmanuel1720]

Are you African?

[@Dextrome]

bruh

[@juliekrol]

We all come out of a uterus...that’s the only time we should have a coming out party. The rest of the time we should just be loved!

[@UndineAlmaniDE]

@@treygowdyspurpletie9878 Not quite true. Loving is an active process, some are more capable of it than others. It has nothing to do with your emotional net worth. Don't believe in phrases like this, they can make you sick. Not being lovable would mean you would have to work on your looks or character. And while part of this might be true, the absolute most of it is superficial and loving and being loved will much more come down to loving as an ability everyone should learn, train and execute.

[@donalddong7662]

No, not all people are fortunate to come out of the uterus

[@donalddong7662]

@Anna Kooima sure. Considering more babies are killed than borned in NYC. it could come in handy

[@clementines.4276]

Elhastezy and? They’re still coming out of the uterus

[@AwPheebs]

Think y’all need to learn more about the reproductive system if you think c-section babies don’t also come out of a uterus

[@leavesofdecember]

I love how when he said "you all have gay genes" everyone got suddently uncomfortable :D))))

[@bwilhelm4214]

It's like saying we all have mass murder genes. Mutation is part of life.

[@whitenoise3447]

B Wilhelm 0 to 100 real quick

[@KingsPhotographySolutions]

I thought most of the crowds jeans were passable..... 😉

[@e2thelp98]

Not everyone likes to wear jeans

[@user-yn1eb6ug5i]

G star?

[@MaiaPalazzo]

Imagine a father making a TED-talk just to say his kid's awesome and that he loves him so much. Wholesome af.

[@nangotoman9429]

not like this father who says he studied his son (like when we study some disease or something weird), looking for answers to "justify", and put him in a "special" place and love him. I prefer one who loves me as I am, just for being alive and who does not have me as an object of study and goes around saying everything he had to investigate to reach the conclusion that I have a place and function in the world

[@jgrmtnjgrmtn3954]

@@nangotoman9429 oh but this MD father clearly is the father you would have him be...The problem you have with him is that he is highly analytical, rational, and logical based on empirical facts, a trait typical of any person with a doctoral degree, which is a degree awarded only to those who demonstrate the traits that PROVE what is true, not just rely on personal gut instincts or so-called 'common' sense. Those without such intellects often accuse doctorate people of 'over-thinking' when in fact such critics simply are angry and often because they lack the patience and smarts to accept the fact that thinking at the investigative intellectual level is incompatible with simple quick answers for the under educated and /or simple-minded among us who are angered by the Truth when it doesn't suit their emotional neede.

[@2hedz77]

@@jgrmtnjgrmtn3954 except this "doctor" cherry picked weak studies and made up a really nice story. Don't believe every doctor you meet on TV (or YT). This is far from the scientific proof he would have you believe. Look it up. The studies he cites are widely criticized. If something is too good to be true, and you find it in a 6 y.o. Tedx talk and wonder why you've never heard it before, guess what...

[@mikelo5046]

@@jgrmtnjgrmtn3954I can’t agree more with you!

[@aaad3552]

​​​@@nangotoman9429love and care is different. We put psychopaths in jail. And he's trying to convince society not saying. And no one is equal and deserve equal care.

[@adrianvazquez6127]

This explains so much about my family. I am the second son of four, and I come from an impoverished family. I am the most successful and thanks to my skills my family has thrived so much. I am the general counselor for every member. I haven't come out, but I hope I can do it soon. This video makes me feel valued.

[@robpelarde4734]

Good on you brother! 👍🏳️‍🌈

[@RicardoFloresRicardo]

You got this bro, I'm sure they'll love you regardless.

[@negativeiqpoints396]

Keep at it!

[@yvesangelic1447]

Did you come out ? 🙃

[@adrianvazquez6127]

@@yvesangelic1447 No yet to my family, I am in Europe now and when I come back to my country I'll do it. I don't know when that will happen, ask me in 1.5 years . Thanks for asking now.

[@thisisthewronghat2706]

hes a brilliant dad. i wish everyone was like that.

[@gauravrajak007]

He had other three children to spread his DNA.

[@someone-lu2sz]

@@gauravrajak007 AHAHHAHA

[@arianagrandaremix8858]

@@gauravrajak007 what's the point ??? everything ends doesn't it, then why so obsessed over it, is a finite thing more important that the life of your son ?

[@gauravrajak007]

@@arianagrandaremix8858 it matters, if not your won't have born. It's a biology yes we will die but not entirely.

[@arianagrandaremix8858]

@@gauravrajak007 actually in that way,you wont die either if you reproduce or not, we will turn into nutrients and continue to appear and nourish the next generation. tw, are u sure that ur generation won't stop? there are so many chains that stoped?and even if it dosent then what? isnt it selfish though? make the most of what u have now and let your son have what he wants with his life instead of making his life what you want for urself ! im saying this bez my parents are forcing me like that too

[@rileygmx3404]

That Ellen reference probably isn’t most useful now 😂

[@qualityguacamole9142]

Yeah it did not age well🦶🤧

[@deolihp]

Haha yea

[@Abc-ft8qf]

Lmaoo

[@prakritikamalapuri6174]

Why is that tho?

[@ricardodavila9000]

That's why it was called a show all along

[@alexish8183]

This is a heartfelt and beautiful presentation however not every gay person falls into these stereotypical categories. Not every gay male is artistic, peacemaking, and feminine; not every heterosexual male is masculine. Humans regardless of sex or orientation are unique blends of characteristics and talents.

[@gabsenechal2620]

yeah thats how nature works, there are ALWAYS exceptions. But if we say every theory is false because of these exceptions then we're going nowhere.

[@gustavorodriguez7656]

Totally agree, this guy, seens to me kind idiealistic

[@cammieOsaurus]

Exceptions don't disprove the general rule.

[@buddy77587]

Alexis Hall infancy of study(modern technology and medicine will prove more very shortly)

[@agathoclesepiphanes9380]

Those studies are definitely biased. I worked at a college's research department and received hundreds of papers and talked candidly and in confidence with many of the authors; of which many confessed or slipped out that they somehow tweaked their results, or cheated in their way of getting their samples, even that they outright falsified queries, etc... So I agree, he just chose the studies that supported his claims, the same could be done to prove an opposing viewpoint.

[@ChelGriffith]

I've been waiting years for a relatable, science-based explanation video that I can share with people who really are struggling to understand homosexuality. This is fantastic!

[@GR-le1ms]

You know why you've been waiting for years? Because there isn't any.

[@maddsadd521]

@@GR-le1ms did you watch the video????

[@TheSmily4ever]

what are the results so far? genuinely curious

[@creativenamegoeshere2562]

If you want a trans version, professor Dave has a pretty good one

[@jalanmcrae]

@@maddsadd521 Yeah and it’s pseudoscience.

[@charlimartin8709]

“We will love whoever you love” is the most beautiful reaction to a coming out I’ve ever heard

[@phoenixdavida8987]

@phill unrau no they're not

[@GrimSleepy]

That response is why I love women.... To me, he seemed to imply that as the father, he hadn't the clue what the right words/response would be, and so chose the worst: silence... fortunately he had a woman beside him to quickly use inclusion and acceptance.

[@arhumzia6360]

no its wrong.

[@007nadineL]

So if their son falls in love with an abusive narc.... ? NOOOOO DON'T LOVE WHOEVER HE LOVES FFS

[@paulerapedreira]

​@phill unrau Don't take for granted what God wants from rules written by male humans. Just love everyone and let everyone be, if there is God this is what you should be sure he/she wants.

[@nataliaborys1554]

This... repaired my mood. I was told today at school by our social science teacher that gays, asexuals etc. are a deviation from how the society should be. I left that class very dejected, but this beautiful man made me return to my confdence before I dwelled on it too long. Thank you!

[@chroni3659]

Show your teacher this video! Or refer them to me for some one-on-one time >:]

[@that_dam_baka]

You should mention this to your parents. And other authority figures. It seems to be a deviation from the norm, yes, but no one has the right to decide how anything *should* be.

[@sophiejones7727]

@Sam Bacon yes. Unfortunately, many textbooks currently used today have not been rewritten since the 1970s (only reprinted). She therefore needs to supplement her books with more up to date sources. A great suggestion would be for the school to buy access to JSTOR, a database that collects magazines put out by different organizations. A JPASS is apparently only $19.50/month with a slight discount if you pay yearly instead. So, about the same as a subscription to any magazine: but you get ALL the magazines. While the articles are too technical for use as reading material below grade 12, they would be of use to teachers: as well as supporting learning in other ways. For example, computer class could use it to teach students how databases work. Or students could write pretend bibliographies citing real articles. Basically, it's one of the best and most underutilized education tools out there, and it's dirt cheap.

[@bernkbestgirl]

@Sam Bacon If we take what was said literally here, then the teacher is making a moral claim, not a scientific one. So what the APA thinks would be irrelevant. Mind the is-ought gap.

[@bernkbestgirl]

If a species doesn't reproduce, it dies. So if that's what your teacher was implying, that's indisputably true. But if the teacher was making a moral claim, then of course it's false, because all moral claims are false.

[@diegoalaniz3244]

I’m amazed that nobody laughed at his “we don’t struggle for existence: we snuggle for existence” joke

[@kingofmariokart64]

People dont laugh at jokes they don't understand. And during that year, research on this was very very new. Still is to this day lol

[@ms.braveheart5171]

I loved that joke lol

[@richardcaulker1017]

Maybe because puns are the lowest form of humour, and the audience is above average in intelligence.

[@laihela]

I thought it was more wholesome than funny.

[@1232-e7b]

It took me a hot minute to get it

[@sheriberrie]

“It’s in diversity where we find our collective strength” - James O’Keefe

[@shreyachaudhary1604]

YES.

[@rinzler9775]

And can also be our collective weaknesses. There is no magic pill of success, it is more than that. Failure to acknowkegde this is why we fail. Beleiving our opinion, and only our opinion is correct, hence never questioning our own motives or direction, and never accepting responsibility for negative outcomes for ideologies we are heaviliy invested in, trapped in a prison of our own arrogance, calling ourselves "intellectual", in fact telling ourselves, in hopes we don't have our eyes opened by the real truth.

[@rinzler9775]

@CaliforniaNative64 that there is the right question.

[@traverse_danikuuu]

@@rinzler9775 even after our death we may never know the truth right? There might not be an answer to that

[@exinferiz]

Big lie.

[@sameeravhad]

In India it’s ( homosexuality ) no more crime ( From 6 th September 2018) , just wanted update 😊

[@notsure6187]

Sameer Avhad what isn't?

[@silvesby]

Sameer Avhad Nice

[@sameeravhad]

B S homosexuality is no more crime in India 🇮🇳. Our government changed the law this year September 2018.

[@Dekeullan]

'It's is' is incorrect grammar, because 'it's' means it is

[@thisismalhar]

I know right! Woohoo 🏳️‍🌈🤘

[@jojocasen3773]

Meanwhile I’m here saving money so I can move out safely because having accepting parents weren’t in the cards

[@bernimeincke9949]

I accept you and love you as the unique human being you are and, even though that's not enough because the acceptance of parents is rlly important, I hope it helps you understand that, no matter how hard things can get, there's always someone out there willing to help u or just be ok with who you are

[@foreverhippie6700]

i’m sorry baby ❤️

[@byrongordonbeukes3934]

You are not alone, it's a hard process to go through. There are going to be moments of despair and loneliness but You will be ok. It's all worth it in the end. Just be true to yourself, respect yourself, find yourself and love yourself.

[@mariomario6951]

You're not alone...all the way from Nigeria 🙏🏾🙏🏾😢

[@jojocasen3773]

Aloychucks Mario same but we live in the USA

[@laserbeam1787]

This guy has a strong Robin Williams vibe going on.

[@YeOldeKamikaze]

With some Neil Patrick Harris thrown in the mix.

[@rainbowpanic5632]

That's what I was thinking lol

[@Addit95]

thank god i am not the only one xD

[@Broski6592]

@u wot m8 Facial features and charisma

[@leeboriack8054]

He seems a "bit" calmer than Robin.

[@Greg2ThEMAX]

I never knew this about homosexuality and I like to have scientific facts and evidence to back up my reasoning in an argument! A very informative video and I’m glad I stumbled upon it

[@chevvy427]

I think he got it right with the "unusual qualities of personality", but it isn't quite correct to insinuate that all Homosexuals are good people. Anybody can be a dick.

[@Social_Pugatory]

Cece Burton I think that's a bad way to characterize it. I think he just meant homosexuals are predisposed to be emotionally intelligent and with that intelligence they can be "healers" or "push people's buttons" aka (be dicks)!

[@itsranton]

Native Americans did see homosexuals as "2 spirit" ppl and they were usually the healers and shaman of the tribes.

[@edward8459]

Cece Burton don't say that, I think everyone by nature is predisposed to be good, I think in the beginning everyone is nice, it's just the things they went through as they mature, that culminates into what they are now.

[@mr.kostas3729]

Cece Burton nothing is absolute

[@shazardify]

in a scientific study, nothing is black and white. a statement saying that gay ppl are all good is pretty much inaccurate. But to say that gay ppl have a higher chances to be altruistic is more accurate. being altruistic/good is not determined by just being gay only. there are other factors like ur what environment u are exposed to, ur childhood experience and etc. but in a control study by only looking at the personality traits and sexuality. most study concluded with said above statement. do u understand

[@daviddonoso6577]

"Be kind to one another like Ellen Degeneres says". 3:41 This did not age well

[@les_fleurs7]

aged like milk...

[@martir851]

Why? Im not from USA, so I know who she is a bit but nothing more.

[@lazice]

@@martir851 yeah, no, she's bugged up.

[@adventurecats9750]

Yeah pretty much all of what he said was bs.

[@henrycrabs3497]

@@martir851 She abuses her employees

[@callum-1818]

It was interesting to watch and well intentioned, but as a gay guy I disagree. It just so stereotypical. I am so sick of gays being portrayed as these really kind, bright, "magical" people spreading positivity everywhere farting rainbows. We're not. Yes, some are - but so are some straight guys. Straight men can be real arses, so can gays. Straight men can be really kind and thoughtful, so can gays. Stop pairing personalities and behaviour with sexuality! It doesn't work like that.

[@939bb]

You misunderstand what he's saying. He's not saying that all gay people are, in your words, really kind, bright, "magical" people spreading sunshine. He's just saying, that statistically, backed by scientific evidence, gays are more likely to be altruistic, bright, empathetic, independent thinkers etc. Of course many people don't fit the stereotypes, gay or straight. Of course there's always anecdotal evidence to the contrary. But science is a numbers and evidence game, and overall the studies back up what he's saying.

[@callum-1818]

BDoug I just don't think I (or any gay person) was born into the world to be nice and to keep my family together. I don't believe in my mother's pregnancy her body though they needed someone to be the glue in the family so that made me gay. This research he's done, how accurate is it? It seems like some hypothesis he's made up after looking at a few statistics, not actual fact. What about bisexuals, transgenders, panasexuals? Where do they fit into this? It almost seems like he's just a father who found it a bit difficult *at first* that his son was gay, so he tried to find a scientific reason to justify it. It just doesn't all make sense to me

[@tubefan10]

That One You Tube Comment, I totally understand where your coming from & what your trying to say, however I think there is 1 critical factor we're forgetting that was not reviewed in the video. The element of "nurture" and environment. Just like you said, gays are no different from straights when it comes to positive or negative personality traits. That does not discredit the eloquent speech we saw in this video. The doctor was speaking in terms of "nature", and as far as that goes he was spot on. But as unique individuals we should know that we're made up of more than just genetic coding. Who we are also comes from HOW we were raised, with what values, and the nurturing quality of our growing up environment (or lack thereof). So yes in a way what you say is true, but not because what the doctor said in the video is incorrect, but because there are other factors in what makes us human other than genes. Being raised in a loving environment is just as critical as the specific codes & switches in our very DNA.

[@K1K05h1]

This man has less than half an hour to present to you years, probably decades of research made by him and others, there's simply no time for him to present well rounded arguments backed by statistics and research. You can either take the statements made in this video as given or dismiss them entirely, but to judge them you will have to read books and papers published by him and others on said matter. His not promoting a stereotype in saying "all gays are...", but merely giving an overview - which should be easily comprehensible if you see the statistic shown for the supposed intelligence of gays. It does not show that all gays are highly intelligent, not even a majority, but just an unusal high percentage compared to the straight majority. The same will probably apply to your disapproved image of gays as "magical" people - not all of them, not even a majority, but an unusal high percentage

[@a_f1348]

We all know that not gay men are like that, but the researches all show that a majority of us are more emotional and kind than straight men.

[@dacheburashka]

Wow. I'm so moved by this. And I have a feeling my late Dad would have cried hearing this because I know that he never forgave himself for his rejection of me. As an elderly man, he did so well in his efforts to come to terms with what he understandably thought was a normal reaction, and I never stopped loving him. Rest in peace, Dad.

[@shakurwonders5216]

RIP TO ALL OUR LOVED ONES WHO LEFT THIS EARTH

[@arze868]

@@shakurwonders5216 u believe in life after death?

[@christal2641]

He was lucky to have you for a son. I'm glad he discovered that at the end.

[@eileenoberholster9080]

Having a gay child, in my case, a gay son, gives you one of two choices, you can accept them, their choices and their partners OR you can lose them. As the mother and father of a gay middle child, we did not even make a "choice", we just accepted our son because we love him. His brothers are completely accepting of him and over the years have learned to accept and appreciate his support, advice and friendship. There is absolutely NO doubt that there is a deep and sincere love and acceptance of who their brother is. Familial love is the strongest power there is and I am a PROUD mother of a gay son, he enriches our lives everyday. We LOVE you son, for who and what you are, unconditionally.

[@the_bearded_maximus4601]

Huge kiss from me to you.

[@ThatsSOhistorical]

Eileen Oberholster will you be my mommy? Mine won't speak to me. :(

[@thgrotto]

ThatsSOhistorical oh Dear. Your comment made me cry here. Wish i could give you a hug! Just know you always will have a family in the gay community and feel free to contact me if you need emotional suport. My facebook is facebooc.com/tom.grotto

[@thgrotto]

Eileen Oberholster congratulations on being a great mom! love!

[@jacksongaskill9339]

Thank you for this beautiful comment. I hope my family comes around and learns to love like you someday.

[@MartianDust415]

Someone get this man a TV show he can literally cure homophobia

[@goodbi6156]

He’s said all he needs to say. He made me accept myself in 17 minutes and for that, I salute him.

[@phillipstracner7909]

I think I'll see myself to the door. I feel sick.

[@phillipstracner7909]

@@sunlight000 I can't say. The children at utube would delete my comment. I think you know why though.

[@JamesBrown-ij1px]

@@phillipstracner7909 "Me thinks you doth protest too much."

[@phillipstracner7909]

@@JamesBrown-ij1px I listen to rock and roll

[@Xunxunism]

I am gay man from China, the big brother of 2 sons. It's not easy to be yourself here. But I tried my best to support my family. I take my family members' happiness over my own. Now that my family is at it's best situation, I decided to come to America to study and explore a new life.

[@wixostrix]

g w this is beautiful. I wish you the best on your education and exploration.

[@gystes_]

Assuming this is real, good luck!

[@GregTom2]

Realise this: For every gay chinese man, there is a gay chinese man. For every heterosexual chinese man, there is 0.94 heterosexual chinese woman in the right age group. You'll never have to wait in line to flirt!

[@Xunxunism]

***** To be frank, nothing beautiful. This is just normal for Chinese people. Maybe its' a cultural thing, straight or gay. Compared to others, I am more selfish as I did escape finally.

[@vuurniacsquarewave5091]

I thought it that fit the Chinese 1-child only-policy pretty well. Is having less children not what the government wants?

[@danielakinart9238]

Wow, someone that finally made sense of it and put it eloquently so that anyone can understand why we are who we are in the grand scheme of life.

[@CreativeCreaturefx]

I saw this speech in my early 20s and it helped me appreciate my existence and look at it homosexuality in a different way.

[@danielbadra9447]

DID THAT GUY REALLY SAY SNUGGLE FOR EXISTANCE? I LOVED THAT.

[@randomyoutubewatcher345]

He did indeed say that and I loved it too :)

[@noice2606]

Now I want to snuggle with my family

[@camillabelmont1]

I KNOW RIGHT 😍

[@nandakishoren8566]

II

[@zialorraine9393]

So cute - snuggle for existence 💕

[@crystalchandler8267]

This is completely off topic, but is it just me or does he kinda look like Robin Williams?

[@causeeffect7624]

it's the mouth

[@graceh-gx4qg]

Robin Williams crossed with steve Carell maybe?

[@SatanicDiet]

I thought he looked and sounded exactly like Tim DeKay from "White Collar "

[@conniemitchell6510]

Ha i see it

[@robandrews4815]

Yeah. At least in profile.

[@sliptop9241]

Watching in 2020 and when he mentions toilet paper 👀 . . . Edit: 14:44

[@beccismith4454]

slip top - I thought the same! 😄

[@arielwinns]

I actually thought this was from 2020 as its been recommended yesterday

[@NoaThePineconeTaker]

I’ve got 4 bottles of hand sanitizer, if you need the goods, I got em.

[@alihamilton5882]

HAHAHAH

[@alihamilton5882]

Man was ahead of his time

[@samhg3658]

I was afraid of clicking this video many times when it was on my recommended feed, because my mind's already corrupt and the thumbnail gave me the impression it was going to be about pederasty and spread misconceptions about homosexuality, but I'm so glad I finally clicked it and watched it. Great video, groundbreaking research and a really good concept to think about.

[@BeGioBijoux]

Right or wrong, one thing is for sure: this is what a real father is!

[@19Dfuck]

Right or wrong, one thing is for sure: this is what a real KZbin comment is!

[@canniglow]

Well, he's right so...

[@nisse7798]

@@canniglow he's not

[@canniglow]

@@nisse7798 Why do you think that?

[@caco5822]

nisse26a... go on an show your ignorance. Come on with it.

[@MAXIMUS-yk5vs]

Hahaha my mom must've been hella stressed lol

[@squamish4244]

Stop saying 'hella', Cartman.

[@miguellopes2452]

Max Allen he is right, cartman.

[@squamish4244]

Hella hella hella hella hella

[@OVXX666]

my mum almost died when she had me hahahaha

[@squamish4244]

Uh...I hope you're being sarcastic...but you can't spontaneously change your genetics when you exit the womb.

[@NoaThePineconeTaker]

I wonder what this means for bisexuals and others, I hope studies like this continue to shine light on the acceptance of lgbtq+ minorities.

[@HolyGarbage]

I guess it's a wildcard? :D When evolution is not sure what's the best bet, hedge your bets.

[@jayplummer5678]

Yeah - would be great if someone could link a source answering this ^^

[@TheoWren]

i was wondering the same. how do bi/pan people fit into this? and trans people as well? if only these traits hadn’t been treated as abominations for so long throughout history, maybe we’d know more by now. 💔 i’m just glad things are changing, though.

[@clementines.4276]

I was looking for this comment. I’ve been thinking the same thing.

[@bearmugs1408]

I'm really very grateful to be alive now, than before. Now I can be myself. But I wish there were more studies conducted about LGBTQ+ individuals. Then we'd know so much more and that youths in the community suffer more than straight peers. But we have lots of progress

[@nicbravo]

I think we look at this too clinically, and through the small lense of how humanity should be vs what it is. when you’re born different, you see different, which is essential for strategy. Expression. Survival. Everybody plays a role.

[@awinashshrivastawa6072]

Sir, thankfully in India, Homosexuality is legal now. Your speech is great. As a human being we need to be more n more accepting.

[@ashuu3]

Homosexality doesn't regulate by law as it's a personal matter and doesn't disturb public order and health that all the matter for law to not punish.

[@icyfire9294]

That's amazing!

[@thedoomslayer9832]

Donald Trump legal means law abiding ... bruh.

[@maradith1106]

💜💜💜

[@naadiralee9058]

@Donold Trump LOL THANKS FOR THIS.

[@HaiNguyen-gy5mf]

Nobody: Me (after watching this vid): mom Im the optimal option of mother of nature to help you suffer from your deppresion

[@NateHatch]

[@ottis679]

Aren't puritan values just the best

[@sakurafaery3386]

@@ottis679 of course look at all the good it's done

[@sammythebeliever9916]

Sakura Faery All the "witches" (aka non-Christians) who were burnt in the past want to know your location.

[@sakurafaery3386]

@@sammythebeliever9916 precisely

[@randomperson8571]

Oh God... when he said "I know my son is exactly who he is meant to be" I released a few tears. That is what every LGBT+ person needs to hear. Thank you for delivering this talk.

[@carolmcs9469]

Mainly the cry is how to protect your child from the harsh world

[@imsohawtomdzii5869]

@Rob S I hope you don't have a son

[@imsohawtomdzii5869]

@Rob S IF you'll have a son. And I hope you don't.

[@claian12]

@Rob S Define the "right way" according to you. Nature is not on your side, just so you know.

[@reidusgelo645]

@ what did he say?, he deleted his comments.

[@suvarnashiva2637]

"On 6 September 2018, a 5-judge constitutional bench of Supreme Court of India invalidated part of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, hence making homosexuality legal in India." changes in a positive direction.

[@JusticeforVarg]

Took you long enough.

[@monk4ever]

There's need to be more gays in India. That country is grossly overpopulated.

[@silverapple]

i wish every father was like this guy

[@watewmark]

Not me, im quite happy that my father accept me for who i am and do not spend the rest of his life looking into suspicious studies to search and find at all cost a reason for my condition... that's quite humiliating .

[@cableknitter7346]

He's kinda gotta be cool about it; pretty sure he realizes it runs in the family.

[@minimalistvlogger3467]

well yeah but in a society where most people werent very accepting, and people say its a sin and that its unnatural, so this guy what he is doing is trying to raise awareness so others can learn its natural and accept their kids and stuff ya know?

[@mstickney6612]

I think he's trying to help other people understand that it's not unnatural. He said ion the beginning that he was more worried for Jimmy 's safety than anything else.

[@mikedemike5393]

then they would be the mother....perfect gayism...yeah

[@zednott688]

i'm gay, and I definitely exhibit some of these traits, but this feels a lil bit like pseudoscientific bullshit.

[@cprice1000]

Unless you're a scientist or even have anything close to a PhD, you probably just can't comprehend.

[@zednott688]

oh so cprice45​ you are definitely a scientist and have something close to a PhD to be mansplaining like this, so do you want to explain this to me in simple words so that my little brain can understand??

[@cprice1000]

Do you even know what mansplaining means? You're making feminists look bad. 💀

[@zednott688]

since you know so much about mansplaining, why don't you explain to me what it is??

[@Gee-xb7rt]

I think its safe to say we don't have a biological reason for homosexuality, even though we are fairly certain it is biological. and you are right, too much mansplaining going on everywhere. social darwinism is pseudo science, plain and simple. how do you argue "god" and biology, its mindbogglingly stupid. ted talks exist so white people can feel erudite, everyone can go home from this nonsense and pat themselves on the back for being so handsome and smart.

[@3lit3gn0m3]

"... the truly gifted aren't burdened with children." All those years of women showing no interest in me has paid off! ಥ‿ಥ

[@humansvd3269]

And their knowledge and talents aren't passed on.

[@illustryfe5354]

@@humansvd3269 Uhm, through their interactions with other people, yes? I mean, you have teachers, tutors, senior employees taking on apprentices, aunts and uncles w/o children but help raise nephews/nieces, etc... "It takes a village to raise a child."

[@humansvd3269]

@@illustryfe5354 No, it takes parents to raise a child. People with high iq or those with talents should reproduce as you ensure they are passed on. Failing to do so deprives society of those that can contribute.

[@lytuy7952]

@@humansvd3269 Talent and IQ don't mean the people having them can function as good parents. Of course not everyone has to be free from such relationship to keep at their field and success. There's also the problem with the child wanting to inherit the parent's knowledge or not. And then, people nagging about not caring, not showing basic love and affection.... And if they are talented/smart, they can pass on their knowledge through research or teachings. The thing is, there hasn't been a clear research about how talented parents give birth to talented children and said will inherit whatever the parents are passing on.

[@kingofmariokart64]

@@humansvd3269 You have a reductionist/simplistic view on a topic I bet you've never researched in a laboratory. Don't act smart, troll.

[@scrimes]

Clever thinking, but the speaker lost me when he used Ellen Degeneres as an example of teaching us how to be nice to each other.

[@thewisestguy1]

Homosexuality could also just be natures way of enforcing carrying capacity and stopping over population.

[@randomuser1105]

He says that in the talk.

[@thewisestguy1]

Yeah i posted it in the middle of the video lol.

[@WhitestWaters]

Omg yes, I've always been thinking that privately

[@HAngeli]

thewisestguy1 True. But as he points out homosexuality has been present since ancient times, even In places where There wasn't overpopulation

[@adrianneji1234]

exactly

[@aaronzever4643]

"A society that condemns homosexuality, harms itself." That's deep indeed

[@shreyachaudhary1604]

Yay.

[@renderlessgames]

A deep hole lie lmao

[@kenlandon6130]

@@renderlessgames wtf

[@jimheidl1272]

Uggg

[@Wyneajohnson20]

That statement makes no sense! People want to feed there worldly lust, when the bible clearly states that homosexuality is not the right way to live . God condemns this life style. If u choose not to believe Gods words u are playing with fire!!! You will have to face the Lord for making this tragic decision. This world is trying to turn everyone away from God !!! Away from the truth!! Many are sadly being deceived!!!!

[@taro.s]

"It is God's way of ensuring the exceptionally bright is not burdened with children." Lmaoooo

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

Taro Samuelson made my entire day

[@loverlover1302]

You had to go through all this to be okay with your son's homosexuality?

[@BalaenicepsRex3]

Nya Boyse Who are you writing to?

[@Silver-Sunshine]

Taro Samuelson A fluffy sentiment not at all backed up by how God actually feels about homosexul acts. Ho hum.

[@bubblegum3388]

Silver, that's because God isn't a valid argument.

[@WallyMerasty]

I tried my best to explain to a straight friend that homosexuality exists to keep the human population in check.

[@arshbarot]

The law in India which describes homosexuality "against the order of nature," was in fact actually framed by an Englishman, and imposed upon Indians by the colonial government in 1860. Unfortunately, the law remains effective in India even after independence.

[@himansu5556]

Arsh Barot 😢😥

[@arshbarot]

himanshu singh don't worry things will get better

[@BooksRebound]

Arsh Barot lol when I moved to Spain I became friends with this dude who had also moved to Barcelona for art school. He was Indian and it was his first time out of the country. We became like bffs but this one day I asked if he had done anything with a guy before and he got sooooo offended i was actually surprised. He was tryna play it cool but I could tell it really bothered him. He said he would've punched me if we were in India. I was shocked he took it so badly considering how accepting and open he was in regard to me and my boyfriend at the time.

[@arshbarot]

Matthew Bryan Indian men get very defensive when it comes to anything 'gay'. They are cool about it from a distance - as long as it has nothing to do with them. I think this is because straight men in general think that being close to anything gay somehow makes them less manly and society will judge them for being effeminate. Also, the ignorance about gay people is extremely high.

[@BooksRebound]

Arsh Barot yeah I think it's sooo unnecessary when I see straight guys on KZbin being dared to "kiss" or whatever. You know how they make such a huge deal about it and scream and afterwards they'll grab some damn bleach and listening to gargle with. It's just so extra. One of my best friends is straight and very secure while himself and doesn't really care how people view him. He was curious about butt stuff so we actually fucked. Then afterwards I figured like with the other straight guys I've been with, we would never ever discuss it again. But to my surprise he was so secure with himself that he shamelessly told a lot of his guy friends about our experiences. It was really refreshing and actually gave me hope lol

[@dakotabrogan60]

“I need a kind and clever ally to help me hold this family together”. This warmed my heart ❤️

[@girlbossincorporated]

what if you are the only child

[@ash.mystic]

@@girlbossincorporated a family of 3 with just 2 parents and a child is still a family.

[@girlbossincorporated]

@@ash.mystic yay im the glue to hold my parents relationship together!

[@stelharpwood5752]

@@girlbossincorporated That sounds sad. Hope you're okay Dr. Gradient. Parents shouldn't make their child feel like they're the only thing keeping them from separating or divorcing.

[@girlbossincorporated]

@@stelharpwood5752 they dont make me feel like that. i just do. also theyve been getting better since i made that comment

[@earlstewart5143]

This is so cool that someone has actually researched and reasoned out the results in a fashion that doesn't reflect the division of politics!

[@megauser8512]

Exactly!

[@YokoshimaOfficial]

I agree, it takes lots of courage to speak your thoughts on 'taboo' subjects so freely to the world.

[@JamesBrown-ij1px]

Indeed. And not only politics but also religion. Sadly, they are too often one in the same.

[@МорфейМутноночный]

But the fact, that suiside is more common among gays and may fueled by nature objective laws of maintaining the count of population is , of course will be throughing out...😈😈

[@Trashed20659]

You are referring to a politcal agenda that is driven by religion. The very reason that the two should NEVER be mixed!

[@thegoblonoid]

3:42 that Ellen Degeneres thing did not age too well

[@featdino9386]

ik huhu

[@teganwr288]

I think another really interesting concept to look at in history Is Sparta and how men had relationships with other men to bond in war times.

[@parkercollins7946]

Tegan WR So you’re saying that bromance is beneficial?!? Jokes aside, it makes complete. Bonds of love with your brothers or sisters in arms would make you only more determined and tenacious in the trails of war.

[@etantife]

And where is Sparta Now?..

[@cohenfromdiscord2551]

@@etantife a category on ph

[@paulomilan515]

@@etantife you do realize you to will be dead one day. Right?

[@oogooboggins5956]

@@etantife they are in legends and stories of triumph and great accomplishments. Spartans were the toughest motherfuckers out there and they made that DAMN clear!

[@theresahemminger1587]

Among wolves, childless aunts are an important family member....

[@mattburton4392]

Relevance?

[@theresahemminger1587]

George Devenish . Relevant because it supports the fact that non-reproductive family members are important to the family

[@joshuatheregularguy8974]

At first I thought that meant something along the lines of, "You don't have to outrun the bear, just outrun the other people with you," kind of a thing.

[@Wolfways]

Yeah but wolves control their numbers depending on the availability of food. Humans aren't that intelligent.

[@donikaj7805]

@@Wolfways some are but unfortunately other parents arent. it largely depends on other factors

[@reikercallisto3444]

This completely changed the way how I viewed my homosexuality and brought me to tears. I just wish my family would understand but I never dare to say

[@darceymorgan4108]

Just send them a copy of the url and let them watch it!

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

I Hope your parents will accept you

[@jrchicago9216]

Courage is the sole foundation to communication. Courage is freedom. Freedom is breathtaking and removes the weight off your shoulders even at the risk of a new problem. People usually come around over time. If they don’t, at times you just just have to ask, Is family love a condition of me being straight? At times people need to really understand they are hurtful. It’s a process for them to get over. Allow them time. If it’s not working, at times you have to just firmly say, STOP trying to change me. If things don’t go well over time, send the family a letter arriving on the same day - saying this is something you were born with at no fault of anyone and ending with a simple question. Is family love a condition on me being straight? Courage is a frame of mind. Courageous people know there is a lot of risk at times but presses on because the focus is not on loss, but rather deal with the real issue at hand. If you are further shunned, the effort is not over. Time has an amazing healing power for people to come around. Doubting family members start paying attention to the “subject”. Years of people believing one way takes time to learn their own way to tolerance and finally an acceptance. Eventually you can introduce your mate. Eventually they realize it’s about your happiness. As a rule tough times never last but tough people do. Press on with your life and use any discouragement as fuel to do the right thing in your own life. It’s important to stay positive, for you to take the high road and study manners. Manners has opened more doors in life and it’s a deep secret to many. It’s difficult for people to argue or debate people who are so polite. That does not mean you become weak. It means you can be both and state facts to hold your position. Many people gravitate to people with manners. Manners start at the dinner table from the way you place your knife on the plate after you first use it, to not talking with food in your mouth, it’s keeping your lips shut while chewing. Manners is how you walk in the room in a pleasant and somewhat charming manner and greets the others. It’s also how you conduct yourself in a job interview. Deal with coworkers. Eventually it’s natural. Being confident yet pleasant pulls people in. It’s the high road. That’s the question to ask in a challenge... what is the high road? Taking that position wins out more often then not. Manners and the high road includes temperance. A subject in and of itself. It’s amazing how powerful this is and it’s part of the secrets of life and relationships. The secret to relationships is not being a ongoing burden and bidirectional courtesy.

[@sinamos3945]

They already know.

[@ivyrose779]

Sending you love and acceptance! ❤️

[@TheCoolcaspar]

One of the best TED talks i have ever seen, ripe with amazing storytelling backed up by the scientific wonder and awe, of evolution, biology and most important hummanity.

[@SP-mf9sh]

Can people stop saying it's not scientific enough? It's his personal theory along with evolutionary evidence from other species. I think it's very thought out and plausible. After all, all science starts from a theory.

[@justinm2697]

Science actually starts with a hypothesis.

[@alexthompson8977]

But there is a difference between saying"here's my theory(which is easily proven wrong)" and saying"here is the truth".

[@SP-mf9sh]

Alex Thompson he didn't tho...it's just a ted talk and theory that could possibly be true.

[@alexthompson8977]

sarah Owens so why is he saying this like "that's why this and "it is". That is fact talk not theory.

[@OzzyPaco]

Alex Thompson Nobody writes a theory where they pussyfoot around every sentence of it. Its understood its a theory. You every read or write a paper past highschool? You dont say "in my opinion" because it would be redundent to say so. Its a given

[@vincenttavani6380]

"Snuggle for existence"

[@richard0shay718]

Vincent Tavani you just gave me hives, get away from me

[@Vainglory100]

This has 69 likes, no one like this comment please.

[@johnpaulherrera703]

Ronnie Arellano true, but it was cute tho

[@A2Z83]

puke

[@A2Z83]

Internet Troll Youre not a very good troll

[@heyounicorns2]

"It's a snuggle for existence." I love that line. edit: thx for the likes

[@astrocastillo1538]

.

[@MayBlake_Channel]

I almost had a seizure from the cringe 😆 This guy is definitely a dad, hahaha

[@goodbi6156]

So true, May

[@flannelpillowcase6475]

@@MayBlake_Channel ya, i agree with most of what he says, except for that. existence in this world is most definitely more of a struggle than a snuggle.

[@khlondon6703]

Just amazing. How come this information is not being taught in schools and used against religious bigots who try to treat gays worse than animals and call them "unnatural". Heartwarming to see this. Thank you for giving this ground breaking talk! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@zmanman6404]

"always forgive your enemy, nothing annoy them so much!" hahaha only I laughed at this. The crowd's tough here.

[@kookiecastro8452]

ikr

[@carriekoltunov3288]

Totally agree... when I was a retail cashier, nothing annoyed mean customers as much as being super nice to them and agreeing with everything they said. :)

[@PadeMoro]

I use this strategy around narcissistic people I know. I avoid them, but if they come to me I'm respectful to them and act sort of nonchalant around them. It's been working well for me. They usually get annoyed and learn to leave me be when they notice that they can't get any reaction other then disinterest out of me.

[@hehehe8344]

Meanwhile, at my lovely residence *cough* my mother has just told me that her brother-my uncle- is devastated because his daughter isnt NORMAL. She said, "imagine how horrible it would be to have a child that can never have children and destroys their family". My brain: Gee really mom?!?! I did not know pls keep going and tell me more. Cause u dont even know that as soon as I go to my room. Ill be weeping, knowing that ill have to live in a closet for the rest of my life.

[@Seagull_J.Livingston]

..hugs..

[@zialorraine9393]

hehehe I am so sorry. Here for you if you need me.

[@euniceimmortalis3584]

The Toxic Parent. 😒😖

[@martinawolf2983]

*hug pile, everyone*

[@blacklotus5451]

Love yourself. Leave and be independent.

[@iboremytherapist]

the most eye-opening, perspective talk about homosexuality

[@solenel2452]

I love your pseudo

[@iboremytherapist]

@@solenel2452 :)

[@Dani_1012]

you have a wonderful username

[@spoonmeanie5644]

I identify with that pseudo

[@Bloom100000000000]

This just silenced Homophobia in such a definite and beatiful way that I wish every single person on this planet would watch the full Video at least once in their life

[@Churchill867]

Depravity. Pride before the fall

[@LykanHyper10]

@@Churchill867 your pride of being hateful is why millions and millions have left or are leaving the church. Thanks for revealing your blind hate to the world, now all the reasonable and sensible people aren’t held back by the control mechanism you call god!

[@suvariboy]

I'm so happy that I'm almost in tears. If only every parent could be a kind and loving as Dr. O'Keefe, the world would be a much better place.

[@michaelsouthard2181]

suvariboy Agreed

[@Nowhy]

It is always the same...

[@Wikijojo1]

suvariboy i have not watch the video yet, but I'm gonna have to agree with you before i do

[@asparagusbear3323]

too bad this isn't real science

[@bochi5318]

and some people just had to be assholes

[@BearsThatCare]

So my new born baby boy cousin who has 7 older brothers has a 231% chance of being gay. Interesting.

[@BearsThatCare]

(I know that's not actually how the math works.)

[@ianwallace4127]

:D

[@dannyb665]

You should reconsult this post when your newborn is hitting puberty!

[@misterykriiss6846]

P L A T I N U M G A Y

[@wills5945]

That’s actually just 2.3x times more likely.

[@terrym5023]

This brought tears to my eyes. I wish all the horrible, abhorrent, noxious "parents" who cast their flesh and blood out into the streets would see this...

[@kenturner6403]

X K They are too brainwashed by their churches.

[@FLmanispretty]

The problem is that people who reject gays also tend to reject evolution as a whole

[@joshrod3699]

@@kenturner6403 IM CHRISTIAN

[@evanbookout]

I looked at this comment and read “I wish all the horrible, abhorrent parents to have their flesh and blood cast out on the street” and I was like damn guy maybe that’s a bit too far

[@franciscomendez8314]

@@kenturner6403 I think you mean they use their religion as an excuse to hate them

[@melaniejean85]

Heartbreaking that so many people have children then turn them away for who they are. I hope this video is eventually seen by all. Stop the hate...it is counterproductive to peace. Happy new year to everyone.

[@davidray4793]

It all make since great presentation people who are taught by family or freinds wrong bias information about gays that's where the hate starts uninformed individuals kids emulate Parents or freinds that hate Is the correct way.

[@melaniejean85]

@@davidray4793 Generational bias is a fact. Some people are lucky to have the support of their family and others aren't so lucky. Happy 2023 and peace!

[@rbettsx]

I'm a gay man. I find a lot of the evolutionary ideas in this talk very plausible, and I would love them to be true. But that wish, scientifically speaking, is where the danger of bias lies. I know this is a popular, not an academic, lecture. But personally I would want to see very rigorous, well-controlled, replicated observations before I could accept a lot of those ideas as good science.

[@conspiracylibrary2848]

Look into flat earth and you won't feel that way any longer...

[@pneumonoultramicroscopicsi4065]

Facts don't need ur approval to be true

[@2degucitas]

Robin Betts If this talk helps gays to be more accepted it has done it's work.

[@Ark_bleu]

Ditto. I have to be honest, I'm really eager for these finidings to amount to the conclusion(s) he's drawn here. But what I want most is for rigorous studies to continue. If this was true, it would easily make for the most self-affirming knowledge on homosexuality that I've seen/read.

[@spuddy77]

Robin Betts That’s true. It’s not proven, but it seems plausible. Of course, there needs to be a lot of research done one it.

[@randomuser1105]

So when the hell will equal studies be done on lesbians as on gay men?

[@jyde50]

women are irrelevant to white people, they treat them worse than black men.

[@chrisb2656]

hsu hao mavado Not only is that incredibly racist, but it also hasn't been true for years

[@isaiahfisher2337]

hsu hao mavado - So, to combat sexism and racism, you're being sexist and racist? This makes perfect sense to me. Also, women can't be 'white people' ?

[@aurasol74]

randomuser1105 probably because theres been slightly less hate and stigma towards lesbians that gay men

[@perlalopez211]

上条武 less negative stigma, yes, but I think it's about the same. Whatever we have in advantage is taken off by the too-often "I love lesbians"/similar comments and actions.

[@notsafeformiranda4271]

First of all, this man is extremely intelligent and educated. Second, he’s an incredible, supportive and loving dad. He is a perfect example of how parents should react after their kids come out. Such a wonderful role model. Both compassionate and intelligent- I truly do applaud him

[@falrus]

It's easy to react this way when you have 4 children and the "nephew model of DNA transfer" works.

[@jarlfenrir]

I had a similar theory I called a "perfect aunt" - some people just don't want to have kids despite being great with children. So I concluded it's easier to help raise 10 children of your siblings than dealing with 1 or 2 of your own.

[@killlamas57]

I knew just from reading the title that this would be a straight man telling everyone what it is to be gay. Essentially what he's pointing out is that difference in biology, sexuality and personality are healthy for society....everyone knows that. But to use stereotypes that gay men are more funny and not aggressive and then suggest that THAT is the evolutionary purpose of homosexuality is absurd and damaging.

[@aquatictwist]

If the stereotypes are the statistical average then its not absurd or damaging, it is representational fact. There are millions of people, not EVERY gay person is "not aggressive" or emotionally intelligent, but statistically most are.

[@annnoying5513]

First: A scientist is defending gay people but you are offended because of his sexuality? So your sexuality matters if you want to defend gay people and explain their existence on scientifical basis? So sexuality matters some way? No. He's not saying "This is how gay people feel" he's saying "This is my theory why gay people exist and are important." Totally different things. He's not telling me how I have to feel he's talking about the general explanation why he thinks gay people exist and aren't a failure of nature. And there is a big difference between biological pupose and actual behaviour. But he's talking about the biological pupose of homosexuality, why nature may have created it. He's never said "Today every gay person is like I'm saying right now!" he said "This is why I think gay people exist and what their purpose could be within our society." Huuuge difference.

[@Crybabys_exe]

true, my friends brother is gay, and he is extremely aggressive and violent. these stereotyps are so terrible and not always accurate

[@killlamas57]

aquatictwist Really, he gave statistics? There are statistics that say gay people are not aggressive really? Even if there are he did not present them in his speech so obvious it makes his reasoning seem flawed. And even if gay people are "statistically" not aggressive that is only a portion of gay people and you cannot present a theory of the purpose of all homosexuality based off of a few.

[@killlamas57]

Zexi Off That's nice but that is NOT what I'm saying. I'm fully aware of what he is arguing. I can hear his theory and I am saying that I think it is flawed. He used stereotypes about gay people being funny and less aggressive and argued that he believes THAT is the evolutionary purpose of homosexuality. There is no base to that claim, no evidence bedsides him telling a STORY about gay people; that they are this or they are that. Yes he had good intentions but where are the facts? If you have to rely on conventional wisdom and stereotypes about only a portion of the gay population (probably only gay men) something is wrong there. Maybe it's true that homosexuality has a purpose in nature but the reasoning he gave is completely absurd. You cannot create a story based off of arbitrary evidence and call it science, especially in the name of "biology" and evolution. Yes, THAT is damaging.

[@meowmasterL346]

I like this vid a lot, thoroughly explains what I've always thought was a genetic mechanism! However just one problem: He assumes that because of statistics almost all gays are just nice and automatically less hostile, and that straight guys are these 'warrior' archetypes. There can be plenty of soft/non-confrontational straights, just like there are some gays like me who many wouldn't consider to be very 'overly nice' or 'feminine' either. Just wanted to throw that out there!

[@notsafeformiranda4271]

He's not saying that all are, he's just saying that a lot of them are (including his son). This goes back to ethology in early humans when males generally were even more aggressive, and that's only one of the many reasons why evolution created gays.

[@brucethedruid]

Americans have really distorted the "warrior" archetype. Looking at a cross-cultural perspective might clear this up.

[@notsure6187]

I think maybe he's just naive and has only experienced it in that way? not blaming him for it though.

[@runedeblauwe3500]

True, but it's spoken from statistics. So numbers change a lot 😛

[@sahelichowdhury]

@@brainplay8060 Don't know where you get this statistics. You should have shared sources.

[@Leo.Galhardo]

I was in tears as he was concluding... hearing all of this made my day

[@michellea5415]

Real men don't cry!

[@ArtyMister]

I have to admit, I did too. It's well spoke and well thought out, more of these please. 😋👬😋👬😋👬😋

[@paulandrews298]

I'm crying that I'm not as handsome as you. 😍😍

[@saadymelendez5834]

Paul Andrews you are funny

[@ArtyMister]

SAADY MELENDEZ He's right though

[@akhidevi6960]

This is the clearest, most compassionate and intelligent thing I've ever seen about homosexuality.

[@Hazzerbadger]

Girl this just made my value sky rocket in this family 💆🏻‍♂️🌈

[@techblogger8323]

harry frampton I CANT BELIEVE THIS SHIT OMG

[@christopherleveck6835]

I have twin daughters. One of them is straight. I told her we will always love her even if she decides to only date men. We don't treat her any different than her sister. Not sure why anyone would.

[@rivvy2138]

😅😅

[@flclub54]

I saw what you did there 😉

[@OwenMichtofen-rx5yz]

🤣

[@gb_the_accuser]

I don't think your daughter seen a healthy relationship between you and their mother.

[@christopherleveck6835]

@@gb_the_accuser I don't think, I know, you are wrong. I have twins, both raised exactly the same. Maybe you should try researching something else. Because you are horribly inept at this.

[@pebbledrawssometimes8855]

Came here from a comment on an anti-LGBTQ vid, aND I AM SO HAPPY

[@niamha6079]

Haha just had an argument on another video with someone with... let’s just say ‘less than average intelligence’ on another video and I was getting nowhere with him, he just kept repeating the same arguments that made no sense again and again. In the end, I linked this video to him. He’s more than likely not gonna watch it, and if he does he’s either not going to understand it or stick his heels in and say it’s fake... I don’t really care, but watching it again made me feel better 😂

[@johnairhart769]

Lol Why does my name matter yeah what was the video and what was the argument he made

[@zoewheelwright2325]

@The spiffing wisconsinite I see you like Yorkshire tea... (you’re clearly a spiff fan, love that)

[@themountainmedium]

This is the absolute best scientific explanation for why I exist! Thank you!!

[@caseyogden7105]

Does that mean being bi is the perfect mix of carer and fighter...

[@morningcoffeecat2271]

Harold Tupper you've never met me then😅

[@eben3357]

Where do asexuals fit on the continuum?

[@bobjordan1167]

Bisexuality isn't real

[@eben3357]

What isn't real?

[@eben3357]

Nope, if a person has no genitals then they can be physically asexual. There is also celibacy.

[@2Bad4YOUuu]

This Jimmy sounds like he would make a good friend

[@Ritaaw1]

What about asexuals? Do they have a similar kind of role as gays when it comes to not reproducing anymore? Love this video, I learned new information about biology and gays. Keep it up!

[@TheKevinGames]

asexual doesn't mean no genitalia, wtf?

[@holysex1052]

fallout new vegas I'm sorry but I didn't get that from the definition of the word.

[@Blake-dk7yk]

probably that and to limit overpopulation of a species.

[@Antares8491]

+Reeta Tassberg >> " _I learned new information about biology and gays._ "

[@sunkcostfallacy2738]

Reeta Tassberg Asexuals don't exist. In fact, nothing exists except you. That's right. It's time to wake up. You've been in that coma dear for far too long. John, Berry, Verniece, Stacey, they're all in the hospital room right now. You just need to WAKE UP.

[@DavidLowery-xh1ho]

I loved this and wish my judgemental family would watch it and try to understand.

[@caninbar]

Intelligent parents. Mine flipped out on me. It was tragic - for me anyway.

[@Phoszoe137]

Zelmira So Sorry. Their mistake. Love yourself anyway.

[@GrimSleepy]

You're simply the comedy, and drama (or life of the party, if you will) of the tragedy (their ill-informed and opinionated position) of life.... As anyone with an inkling of artistic nature knows, the very best tragedies are RIFE with comedy and the dramatic. If only they could understand they're baking loaves of bread without the yeast, just as the speaker here stated.

[@GrimSleepy]

P.S. I can't speak for the rest of you, but I LOVE a tragedy, makes me feel alive when a piece of art hits me right in the feelers... Tragedy is what makes life exciting and unpredictable.

[@yank196101]

I moved from oklahoma to London to get away from mine Life changing stuff

[@GrimSleepy]

@u wot m8 Lack of understanding leads to fear. Fear leads to hatred. Hatred leads to violence. It's a dangerous and narrow path. If any parent believes their offspring is 'selfish' for the direction said child is leading his/her life... They must not be the most enlightened or informed individual of 'selflessness'.

[@icreatedanaccountforthis1852]

I hesitated clicking on this link for months, but it kept showing up in my recommendations. Now having watched this I am glad I finally decided to click it. I have never thought about homosexuality from this perspective before.

[@Dani_1012]

May I ask? What were your thoughts before watching this video?

[@Edson07bs]

@@Dani_1012 We're still waiting, Josh

[@alisaurus4224]

The title sounded anti-LGBTQ to me

[@Alinda1308]

I'm a straight woman but God if I have cried watching this video. The part about the mother giving a marker to her baby touched me. Our bodies know what to do ❤️

[@usmale4915]

Lovely comment...thank you!🥰♥

[@clarkkentsuperman5911]

I got in trouble for giving a marker to a baby... did you know that it can take over a month to get sharpie ink off of a baby's skin...

[@professorpeterhahn2082]

Closet case​@@clarkkentsuperman5911

[@yvesangelic1447]

@@clarkkentsuperman5911stupidity is real

[@clarkkentsuperman5911]

@@yvesangelic1447 I'm sure that it stares back at you from the mirror every morning...

[@DarkMatter1919]

Phenomenal talk about nature and homosexuality. I send this video in discussion forums whenever we discuss religion and homosexuality.

[@adamhope9726]

Wow! That a straight Dad of a gay son could speak with such authority and compassion and passion; putting together all the societal and scientific pieces, is truely remarkable . . . amazing . . . it made me cry because for once somebody put it all together in a way that legitimized me as a valued member of the human race, as essential as any heterosexual. I will help make this go viral. At THIS point in time, we've never needed a voice like Dr. O'Keefe's more. THANK YOU, sir!

[@starbock]

Hey, Adam! I just posted this on Facebook with my share of this TEDx talk: "I believe that it is unspeakably arrogant to believe that nature is flawed. Its results may be inconvenient to our human belief systems, our habits, our goals, yes. And, that makes it our problem, not nature's. Nature's responses are always perfectly aligned with a pattern that it knows how to handle." I thought you'd appreciate reading it... Of course you are legitimate, valued and essential! So, do you part, and shine your light - in line with what you said, we all need YOU at this point in time. Big hugs.

[@viacalvy]

Lol. This should not be what legitimizes you. You should find validity through your own experience as a human not based on your sexual orientation.

[@stevenshields3079]

what if everyone around you treated you like you weren't worthy of life from the time you were born. Would you be so smug then? was that lol or 101, as in your still in 1st semester. grow up, kid.

[@jaycejohnson6846]

Adam Hope Please don't spread his message. It might sound nice, but it's unscientific and it stereotypes gay men.

[@timothyyoung4759]

Adam Hope God told me I chose to be gay in my contract to incarnate into the world so I would experience hate on every level...I have...

[@_noahrh]

What a beautiful family.

[@rushdialrashed9627]

Noah Hughes beautiful.

[@rushdialrashed9627]

Indeed , what a beautiful family.

[@kunalchatterjee9221]

Indeed

[@RaySantos31081956]

A humanidade é uma só raiz ..AMOR..divisão para sustento da prpia sobrevivencia💕👪👭👫👬💋❤🌍😀👍🎶🎵🎼✈

[@MspHerrehschanel]

They are hot

[@simonreeves2017]

Both my partner and I are the oldest of our siblings - yes, we're two guys, and a mixed race couple. Now in our fifties, we have been blessed with wonderful nephews and nieces to dote on and neighbours who call us 'the boys'. We are blessed, and give thanks to the wonderful acceptance and love we have experienced and shared with those around us. Thank you for being such a loving father to your children, what a lovely heart warming talk.

[@halfurbanhalfsuburban8219]

I definitely believe he loves his son, but the talk dishonest!

[@stephanieallen1668]

Some ideas here seem opinionated. Not too sure about the reliability. Some stats seem off. I 100% support LGBTQ+ but hmmm…

[@pietajunior3437]

Which exactly?

[@nangotoman9429]

The first minutes are full of nonsenses and poorly justified conclusions. I understand it as coming from a father who maybe is trying to find "excuses" to "accept" his son (from video description: "Dr. James O'Keefe MD gives us a deeply personal and fascinating insight"). He is not talking like a scientist, but he wants us to believe that he is.

[@pseudopulk3478]

he gives off robin williams vibes which makes it harder to not cry

[@thesimslover82884]

Yes I was thinking that too! When the picture came up of him, I was like is that Robin Williams, it can't be.

[@Orion33759]

Johnny Rocket satanic? He was more in-line with the fruits of the Spirit than anything satanic

[@davidclarke6117]

Johnny Rocket lmao ur joking right

[@m.ivyluna4632]

Pseudo Pulk Its his mannerisms and accent Im actually wondering if they are from a similar area?

[@justmart4455]

Yeah :(

[@johnmckay202]

"It's kinda like the white flour in bread disapproving of the yeast" that's a great analogy because flour can't rise without the yeast. Also this dad will raise a great son! Can you imagine if all dads had the same outlook as him. This was one of the best ted talks I needed to hear, much appreciation!

[@chizpa305]

I've always wondered about what would be the evolutionary advantage for homosexuality. This seems to cover part of the explanation, but I feel like the whole story is a bit more complex than this. But it should be studied further.

[@robert123ro]

You can invent a story for absolutely anything. That doesn't make it true.

[@robert123ro]

@Taua Gayer So we don't understand it, but we're legalizing it, you're supporting it and call the others "bigots". Quite idiotic.

[@chizpa305]

Homosexuality is observed in other animal species as well. Quite often actually. (From Chimps to birds), so putting human cultural and religious beliefs aside, I think it is a phenomenon that must have some advantage for the overall survival of the species (because for reproduction I don't think it has any advantage), or else it would not be so persistent and so often occurring throughout the animal kingdom.

[@sorcerykid]

Just because a phenomenon exists in nature, doesn't mean it is necessarily advantageous to human civilization. Some animals kill or eat their offspring, yet in every developed country in the world, infanticide and cannibalism is a criminal offense.

[@eperke2933]

I am not sure about the first statement. (If it is a genetic error, than why does it still exists?) I mean it could be a genetic error, and exist to this day, there are many genetic errors that had not ,,died out". Other than that, I like the theory very much, I just feel like it stems from a false premise, or at least the premise need a little bit of correcting.

[@abnewgemchoice1699]

A straight 19 year old girl like me, trying to understand homosexuals better. Why? Because I want to defend them against those close minded people who only knows how to criticize them and never fails to make homosexuals feel like they don't belong to our society. I'm totally straight but I'm always offended when someone condemns lgbt especially when they say it's a sin. I understand some finds it hard to accept this probably because they thought it's not normal, but what I'm trying to emphasize is that we should RESPECT THEM and as much as possible not to make them feel that they don't belong or that they're different.

[@bw8696]

Thank you for being an ally

[@stuffysoli]

we need more straights like you bro

[@therideneverends1697]

@Dija no not all of them, but most importantly, why should i care? im not religious. So what any given religion thinks of, well anything, is totally irrelevant to me

[@therideneverends1697]

@Dija Good! so dont bother people then

[@therideneverends1697]

@Dija Nope your bothering others but running in and screaching about your storybook fandom