Telling it how it is

You decide what you are going to do with your life. Don't wait for anyone else to tell you.

[@anoodono1841]

I watched a much older video of yours yesterday and enjoyed it. It was monetised so u must still b getting some income from youtube. Good for you. No need for info on same just commenting Ilona

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Just because some of my videos have adverts, does not mean I am getting any money from them. I do not want adverts, I haven't monetised the channel, and they have no means to send me any money. They don't have my bank details, I don't do internet banking, I don't have a paypal account. Don't bother to click the like button, don't click follow. I am not interested in numbers.

[@LovingLifeOnLess]

Having a KZbin channel, non monetised and then monetised - both showed adverts. A video showing adverts means the viewer doesn't pay for KZbin Content, it's nothing to do with the creator being monetised or not.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Toutube videos are free to watch.

[@Crystalquartz964]

You're wrong! Ilona has never been paid for her videos @LovingLifeOnLess

[@Crystalquartz964]

anoodono18 You are wrong, Ilona's videos are not monetised 😮😮😮

[@sjbutler2330]

Ilona you are a very positive individual! Good for you! 💙💫💙 Sandy.

[@AnneTaylor-kk8ze]

Yes most people are ostriches,im definitely not an ostrich and im 80,and i question everything 😊

[@AmandaJYoungs]

I think taking responsibility for your life is the most important thing you can do. We are conditioned into passivity and you have to fight your way out of it. I agree with you so much in this video!

[@sarahkennedy1481]

You are fantastic and so strong. You should be a public speaker or life coach. Thank you

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

I like to help people. Thank you for your comment

[@MsLimapapa]

Well said Ilona. Also love your top - colour really suits you. ❤

[@dmaria-gf6pn]

Fear is a thought that we have been taught to be scared of, it is not real. Meditation helps, we all have the answer to find the truth, of course we are amazing, we need to realise that. Love and light to everyone :)) Thanks Illona

[@teresacrowley4076]

Thanks Ilona for your common sense 💚☘️

[@dailyoccasions9539]

Hello, from California, U.S.A. You inspire me!

[@InaWorldfullOfHearts]

I just love you! You are highly motivational and inspirational and I love all that you share! Thank you for all that your tips, advice, thoughts and sharing your life! Sincerely, Dawn. 🌻🍁

[@margaretdalton7899]

Isn't she just, wouldn't you just love to chat to her face to face she truly is a wee gem:}}

[@anneosullivan4107]

Oh Ilona, that gave me a good laugh. 😂 'grow a pair'.... The colour of your top suits you so well. I agree entirely, no one can live your life for you and indeed, be careful who you dedicate your precious life to. You are very wise. 👍

[@lynns.1855]

You are right. I’ve always took care of myself. When my son was young I could have gotten government assistance. But I didn’t want government in my business. Now as an older woman I’m glad I stayed independent. Hard times don’t scare me. I’m definitely not a sheep. Great video.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

That's a good attitude to have.

[@dionnefroude8252]

I love your videos! I completely agree with you on most things and I find you so inspiring. ❤

[@dawnyWestScotland]

I care for the animals! 🧡☀️🐕🐂💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@christinenightingale2528]

Me too. I'm not a people lover. In fact I despise most people. Not all. I'm very much an animal person. I've rescued many poor little souls over the years. ❤

[@dawnyWestScotland]

@@christinenightingale2528 I totally understand hence where I live here in Scotland there’s more animals than people. You know where you stand with animals 🐕🐂🐄🐈🐏🐖🧡☀️

[@lizb4156]

Me too, I don't like people.

[@dawnyWestScotland]

@@lizb4156 Animals come first with me for sure! 💛💙☀️

[@christinenightingale2528]

@@dawnyWestScotland also. Vegan for the animals 🐖🐇🐥🐣🐑🐂🐎🐱🐶😻❤

[@leighwiseman8389]

Hi Ilona, life can get extremely overwhelming but like you I have always forged ahead because what else can you do. I'm on the same page as you Ilona, I love these videos where you tell it how it is. Take care Ilona xxx

[@patsparks3500]

Thank you, Iona for sharing your thoughts, very sensible they are too!

[@sueprice4082]

What an inspiration you are❤ I lost my husband of 50years nearly one year ago. I am growing the balls very slowly 😂 but surely. Sue, Malvern xx

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Glad to hear it. You are a very important person. Look after yourself first. Best wishes. ilona

[@sueprice4082]

@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 ❤️

[@judimantos904]

Great “pep talk”! Just what I needed to hear at this time in my life. Trying to cope with a significant other that has Parkinson’s and other medical problems.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

I have a friend who has been through something similar. Her dear husband has passed away a year ago, but with the support of her friends and family around here, she has been able to make a new life for herself. She has relatives in Australia and travelled there by herself for an extended holiday. She is now considering moving there. When one chapter closes another opens. Seek help from the professionals if you need it. Don't struggle alone. Much love. xxx ilona

[@thissideupthatsidedown]

Agree. I've always left a place or situation that was less than. Find information, make a plan, take action and never settle. Life's hardships make you resilient. No matter what is going to happen being adaptable to the situation and aware of what will come next help to survive and thrive. The more you have been through in life the less that surprises you and the easier it is to just live life. Thanks for the video.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

A good common sense comment. Thank you.

[@cynthia57169]

A healthy skepticism is what many people need.

[@pamelacourtney8998]

Totally agree with you Ilona. Blessings to all ❤

[@marianne8280]

Today my relative who lives two minutes away escaped from the elderly home he lives in. He don´t want to live there any more, he was very angry(dementia).He took clothes with him on the walker. I had to tell him you can´t live with me I have to take care of myself and if you live here I can´t do that, because I have to take care of you to much. Sadly enough he does´t got much choice. So you have to do what you can with life before it´s to late.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Sometimes problems feel too difficult to sort out. Mental illness need professional help. Best to be honest with yourself.

[@ASmileAdayful]

I'm so relieved you have a friend on the same page ilona ❤ peace✌️

[@tinyshamrocks2172]

Question everything … become ungovernable

[@SewManyThings]

I so appreciate your no nonsense practical approach to life! Here’s to growing a “pair of balls”!😂

[@joannedibben2352]

Ilona you look great today yes fearfull people everywhere Jo dorsetxx

[@UnStrungHero]

Right ON!!!! Ilona

[@katmayful]

Spot on...obvious with me and my family....take on our own authority.. Not hand it over to another body.....life has thrown desperate things we cope.. We have to.... Just found your blog....I now have to look after myself after caring for my husband for 7 yrs. He's now in a care home.. And I have to start putting myself first.. I've survived.. Given lots of love and still do.. He is in the best place.. It's hard giving up looking after him.. Like you I am working on myself being strong . Being light hearted enjoyi time to myself 😍 I. Think I have balls.. Haha. X

[@brianWHITE-zi5qs]

thanking you and similar people out there for their sanity amongst all of the nonesense that is consuming us

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you. Sanity is in short supply at the moment, but fear not, it is out there somewhere. Have you found Sanity for Sweden? Check out his videos. Stefan makes me laugh.

[@peggy9300]

You’re hair looks really nice : )

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you. I am growing it a bit longer to see what it looks like.

[@barbarawesterman6807]

Here here. I totally agree. I have lived my life that way. I was a carer for an elderly relative for awhile and as you say it is challenging but you have to as I say. "Put your big girl knickers on and get on with it" 😊

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Facing up to challenges is all part of life. They don't last forever. I do so admire people who take on the responsibility for those who are less physically or mentally able to look after themselves. Compassion is something our Government is short on, as they railroad everything in their way to appease the rich cabal.

[@barbarawesterman6807]

Thank you for your reply. Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺 😊

[@katmayful]

I agree you have to fight for everything which I did to secure the help for my husband.. I could have a warm house and good food.. Only through asking questions.. Now he is in a nursing home help stops. Unless you ask.. Pleased to say pension credit has kicked in for me. Hope it helps as nursing home costs take up my husband's pension..plus council pays a sum... Care home costs are rediculous.. Nearly a thousand pounds a week.. Well you can't get blood out of a stone... But care home owners are making a killing ! Take care and keep smiling whatever comes our way.

[@Andrea-md9pe]

Totally agree with you, really like your hair that length and a lighter colour 👍💖💜

[@margaretdalton7899]

I just think you are a real one off a kind, we are the same age and when I look and listen to you I buck up a bit as I get so bogged down with life....I realise maybe 75 doesn't mean I'm done lol...any way girl if you fancy a trip over to Northern Ireland let me know there are so many places you would love..Bless you and take care x

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you for your invite. xxx

[@firequeen7872]

Thank you. Have a big problem with fear and worrying a lot. It hold me back. I will keep trying to overcome it! I love your channel. Best wishes from NZ 💐👏👏👏👏

[@joyofthings]

You are a guiding light.Thanks mother this was needed to be told, very wise words.xxx🐝🐝🐝

[@wendyparry437]

well done . Love your sensible attitude to life , it comes across in all your videos. When you mentioned question everything , i recall a book calleld south riding by winifred holtby set in the 1930s . The headteacher in the book said the same thing to her pupils in a time of uncertainty . Hope was the theme of the book and i think we all need the same now. thank you for the video.

[@karenchance6098]

I needed to hear this Ilona. Thank you.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

I tell it like I see it. Move forward with your life and make the changes that will take you to a better place. lots of love. xxx ilona

[@kasandrabrown8611]

You are a great motivational speaker! 🎉

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

I think I went into a bit of a rant there. I am very passionate about people taking responsibility for themselves. If it doesn't feel right then it isn't right.

[@julienolan5022]

Great advise llona fear is conjured up by the enemy because people who are full of fear cannot get on with their lives and they are also easy to control , the one who died on the cross for me told me not to fear .

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you Julie.

[@brendaalexander1923]

Hi llona love you video keep them coming take care 😊

[@juneingram1130]

Very well said. I love your no nonsense approach

[@alleyjobes4870]

Grow a pair of balls....made me giggle, but you are very right. I'm 60, and find myself looking to find me. I have always done for others and lost myself somewhere between being a mum, in full time work, to being someone's partner.... I decided to grow a pair and look at my own needs first. This is all very new to me but I'm taking no prisoners for this part of my life. Thank you x

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Exactly right. Life is a book, we go through many chapters. We can only give so much of ourselves, then we have to retreat and move on. I had bigger balls than some of the men I worked with. 🤪

[@janepearson5802]

My advice, for what it's worth. Don't watch or listen to msm . They are fear mongers.if you believe in God ,pray .

[@katmayful]

Me too x

[@christinehowells5845]

Well said lliona you take alot of sense take good care

[@vandieman26]

Thanks for another great video. This is Marlane from California a follower of your blog for a few years and now see you here. I am in your age group and agree that quality of life is up to us. I have a husband and it is all very interesting and that is my challenge to live the best that I can in my later years now.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Hello. We have the advantage of age on our side. We have learnt a lot of lessons. Now we need to pass our experiences on to the next generation. We don't have all the answers, and not everyone will listen, but it's better than doing nothing.

[@mssdn8976]

You do talk a lot of sense

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Just my thoughts. Thank you.

[@voyageinthepast8752]

Hello Ilona and all your followers ! I think the most important message , which we are not taught, is that each of us has their own solution to be happy. Only your know how to make youself happy, not somebody else. So look after yourself first. Then you ll have plenty of happiness to share as you like it 😊

[@marilyn9155]

Oh I wholly agree with you, Ilona. I am a pretty bold person and a passionate self-advocate. I believe some folks are merely lazy , the ones who walk around spouting,” it is what it is” . A cop - out if ever I heard one! Right. Some folks with partners become ‘one’ with each other to a point where each one loses sight of who THEY are . I hear ya..wise lady you are . Love these reality check chats. ❤ xxx Marilyn

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you Marilyn. Good to hear your thoughts on this.

[@heatherbogdalski2034]

Agree wholeheartedly ❤️

[@grumpy_poo]

and today's ear worm...... a bit of Chumba wamba!!......I am also very self sufficient... but I certainly don't want to grow any Balls !!! 😆

[@sherimillman53]

Thank you ❤

[@pamelamckenzie2685]

I got two lovely books one is called The Joy of Actually Giving an F How Kindness Cures Stress and makes You Happy by David R Hamilton which is on KZbin and the second book is The DNA WAY unlock The Secrets of Your Genes To Reverse Disease Slow aging and Achieve optimal wellness. We all need positive people around and stand in our own power i make my life happy every day walks reading making things and meeting up with happy people Great video love and light to you and I do meditation and listen to spiritual music shaman and angel music buddha music

[@rickiwinter1587]

There's nearly always a way through if you look for it . If life knocks you down ,as it will from time to time, get back up, dust yourself down , then get on with it

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Correct. As my good friend keeps telling me when we have these sorts of conversations, 'You are the author of your own destiny'.

[@maxinemcivor4974]

Ilona, what timing me watching this. I've learnt to say no as ive got older. In fact someone has just asked me to do something which i normally do to keep the peace TODAY just before i watched your vlog , for the first time I said NO because for me its the right thing to do. Im not sure what the fallouts going to be though!! I feel sick 😫

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Good for you. Go for it. You will emerge glorious from it. Rise in the knowledge that you are taking responsibility for your life from now on. If it doesn't feel right, then it isn't right.

[@lizb4156]

Good on you.😊

[@shadowsatmidnight]

You are so brilliant ♡ xx

[@christophercrow233]

Wonderful video! Love from the USA!!!

[@varinafulcher5898]

Agree ❤

[@shanehall98]

Hello there, I hope you’re doing well. I agree with some of what you’re saying. I think sometimes people need to find solutions in themselves however some people need help with finding a solution. People with anxiety or depression and other disabilities sometimes need help with making decisions and that is ok sometimes saying “I need help” it is a strong thing to do. I guess a gentle push is a good term. I was thinking about independence aswell is anyone 100% independent anymore? because most of our needs to live are from others like council houses, gas and electric, food etc is from massive corporations and organisations. I believe trueindependence went before the Victorian times. Most people had a farm and had to grow food , make clothes and survive without outside help apart from small markets and similar things like that. I hope I have made sense lol.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Yes, you have made sense. There may come a time when people have to go back to the old fashioned ways. Expecting someone else to come up with all the answers is like handing your life over to someone else. Please, what do I do next. Humans are complex. Some will need help and some will sail through life. Self sufficiency may come back into the equation. People would do well to embrace that.

[@carriestreb]

Thank you for telling us about your job switch Ilona. If you don't agree with something being done in a workplace, and they are digging their heels in and won't change, it is better to leave than to have it ruin your mental health/physical health by caving in. My Grandmother had a very similar mindset to what you have, and I enjoy hearing your wisdom from living life.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Thank you. Luckily when I was working there was always a choice of jobs. Not so much now. BUT, never give up, always look for new opportunities. Seek and you will find.

[@carriestreb]

That is true!

[@martinsamuels2897]

Wow this video has really hit home for me thank you llona 😊❤

[@redrobin99]

It's mean queen!❤

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

It is.

[@cherrypie8796]

But today you can't walk out from one job to another.

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

Not easily. That is an excuse to do nothing. Stay where you are and become more miserable by the day. If you make the decision that what you are doing isn't right for you, work towards finding something better. Start studying, take a course, ask friends if they know of any opportunities, search the jobs pages in the newspapers. It's up to you. Your fairy Godmother is not going to wave her magic wand and hold your hand.

[@pgree6176]

Hear hear!

[@1948shaky]

i like your new glasses ...

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

You are mistaken. I have had these for over two years. The previous pair were exactly the same. The optician sent me a reminder to go for an eye test last week. I might do that, when I am ready.

[@janegallagher6162]

I'd prefer to have every confidence in God's ability.

[@lindacleveland1289]

There are no problems only solutions 💪

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

There are always answers. We just need to navigate our way through the ups and downs. Thank you Linda.

[@dazzwills]

Nice to see you again my very own Aunt Sally!! are you planning on coming back to the Isle of Wight, we have since worked at the model village doing the windows there too, Nice. See you around. Darren

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

I would love to go back to the Isle of Wight. Fantastic place for a holiday. I did look at living there but the cheapest properties were still too expensive for me. Glad to hear you are busy with your work.

[@dazzwills]

You would love it here on Sunny South Island, the ferry's are a killer though so need to be accounted for when travelling.

[@valerieclorley7806]

👍

[@keithcitizen4855]

amazing how life evolved for me , falling on feet between jobs , all behind now a consolation for getting old , some luck but not the whole lot ,had some awful moments of despair , sickness ETC

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

It's not easy, but there is always a way to get through it. Every new day is a new beginning. Whatever happened yesterday is gone, you can't go back.

[@king77703]

Somehow this channel came up in my feed, i watched one n logged on ya other videos n this came up, may i ask, are you fully jabbed?

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

It is widely reported on my blog that I did not get any of the cov19 jabs.

[@king77703]

@meanqueensuperscrimper8908 I thought so, a kindred spirit. You're correct in your awareness of most people just following the narrative n have no idea what's really going on. 👍

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

@@king77703 I have managed to collect a lot of trolls who are eager to slap me down. I didn't mask up, never got tested, didn't lock down, and caught only one mild bout of covvvvid in April 2023, which made me very tired for two weeks. I watch and listen to what is going on. I don't have a television set, and don't trust MSM.

[@king77703]

​@@meanqueensuperscrimper8908That's absolutely brilliant, I'm the same regarding Divoc-19 but my family, friends n neighbour's just went along with it, so sad to witness how easy it is to fool the masses 👍

[@meanqueensuperscrimper8908]

@@king77703 Most of my family don't speak to me now, except a nephew. He didn't go along with it either. He is wide awake.

[@SharonM13]

Good talk Ilona!! Can’t picture myself as a woman with a pair of balls so must be a better term for that for us women😆😄. The old saying pull yourself up by your boot straps comes to mind or we are much stronger than we think we are.