TEMPER TANTRUMS IN 1 YEAR OLDS: Tips for preventing tantrums

[@colevanwyk4949]

I wish I found this sooner. Thank you

[@cassiedilley]

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[@cassiedilley]

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[@bibkelme2]

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[@cassiedilley]

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[@deni0404]

Super helpful! Grateful for this wisdom thank you!!🙏

[@cassiedilley]

@@deni0404 , thanks for commenting and watching! Glad you enjoyed it.

[@julylee2502]

Love your videos! Very helpful 🙏 my boy is now almost 22 months. I love seeing his changes and him pushing boundaries:) how else he's gonna learn about the boundaries if he doesn't know the limit. Amazing to be able to observe him going through this process 😜

[@cassiedilley]

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[@cassiedilley]

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[@terraverlage6834]

I've been a nanny for about 20 years and what is shocking me the last 5 years is the permissive parenting and the children who are five six years old having meltdowns like one and two year olds. The parents getting very upset if the nanny does not accommodate that. I'm seeing consistently time and time and time again a very apparent lack of boundary setting from the parents. They are accommodating feeding nurturing and therefore encouraging their children to be.. well I hate to say it but I think I have enough experience to be blunt at this point spoiled little brats that no one likes to be around. Could you kindly do a video on firm consistent boundaries and the importance of consistency and follow through. The importance of healthy boundaries, along with consistency, and follow through is enough to help these children get on the right path. Their efforts and successes in manipulating their parents and their teachers and their nannies and so on and so on is heartbreaking disturbing and exceedingly stressful to be around. Yes I'm very aware of all the techniques that are recommended in using active listening skills which I believe is so critical gentle tone etc etc etc but I am seeing a pervasive toxic pattern of behavior that is accompanying these children and they are often highly indulged highly gratified and highly rewarded for anything and everything. I even had two lawyers in a very high-end area who told me to stop playing board games with their 5-year-old fraternal twins because if one twin one the game and the other one did not... The other one as I witnessed myself would have severe meltdowns and therefore this would encourage them to not want to play and would contribute to their very low self-esteem. I can't believe the things that I'm hearing coming out of the mouths of these parents... I can't believe what I'm seeing... How in the world are we ever ever going to set these children up to face the world? I like to hug children. I like to encourage them I like to say you still played a great game and there's lots more games we can play too don't give up and I like to teach them how to congratulate the winner so that when they win too they are congratulated in the very same manner. encouraging loving supporting no matter who wins and loses is critical... But these parents and many parents just like them don't want any part in that.. they want to make sure that their children never ever ever feel disappointment, sadness, anger, defeat, they are afraid of their children they are walking on eggshells..... you can tell by the way they talk to them and deal with them. They are apologetic toward their children and their tone of voice their mannerisms their lack of discipline their lack of boundaries... Especially their lack of boundaries with consistency and follow-through. If I've seen it for one family I've seen it for a couple of dozen. It's so sad and it's making it harder and harder to get a quality Natty job where I'm really enjoying the children and vice versa. Yes I have skills... Yes I use them... But this is getting way Beyond ridiculous. I love your videos. They're pregnant and they're lovely and they're helpful. Keep making them. We need them ❗

[@cassiedilley]

@@terraverlage6834 Thanks so much for the compliment and for sharing your wisdom, it is concerning to watch parenting trends change. I do have a couple videos regarding boundaries and consistency. You can check out “Get a kid to listen and behave” and “What I don’t let my kids do”. Keep up all your great work!

[@KristinaHusic]

Thank you

[@cassiedilley]

@@KristinaHusic Thanks for watching!

[@arnettavelez9069]

Does the same apply to 2 yr olds?

[@cassiedilley]

Yes! I handle tantrums the same for any age. I still occasionally need to use the ABCs with my 4 year old.

[@alexastrange8119]

My baby is 9 months and gets upset when he doesn’t want to be in car seat or wants me to help him walk or be picked up all the time. My parents say I am spoiling him by doing what he wants. Is it unusual for babies to throw tantrums this early and if so should I apply these same tools. He’s so little he really doesn’t understand.

[@cassiedilley]

@@alexastrange8119 I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now, sounds really hard. Usually tantrums start around 12 months old but I would absolutely use the same tools for any age. Get your baby used to certain phrases and with consistency, he’ll learn. Hang in there!

[@lucyyork1]

I just tried this on my 22 month old and it worked! We usually have a tantrum every morning. It’s nice to have a structure of what to say. ‘I understand you’d really love to watch cars right now. We can’t do that because it’s time to get ready for child care. Would you like to have a bath or a shower?’

[@cassiedilley]

Wow, good for you Lucy! Thanks for sharing!!

[@ZanciiiC]

But how to say all of the ABCs while my 1 year old is screaming and while hevis so young and doesn’t understand many words?

[@cassiedilley]

Great question. They learn so much even if language development isn’t quite there. The key is consistency and letting consequences do the teaching right along side your words. Pick just a few key phrases that are said over and over again and they’ll catch on quick as it’s paired with you physically removing them from the situation or whatever the need calls for. Does that make sense?

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[@cassiedilley]

@@xradioactivetoxicxx5032 Thanks for watching!

[@johneric7864]

Less talking and more modeling with the toddler

[@okayspace]

My 1 year old just had a little tantrum because he wanted to play in the fridge as i made dinner, and i said no, and he did all.of.the.thjngs you mentioned they do Haha, i felt so relieved i was here as soon as you began speaking I was relieved to see that i did almost exactly what you recommended- but i now have the abcs for it And i LOVE that. I love KNOWING what it is in doing, and that its going to be effective and the best absolute best way to help my young man flourish into the gentleman he is going to be🩷 I thought you would have had thoudands, hundreds of thousands od sunscribers when i just subscribed, and im absolutely shocked and a little appalled that ive not yet pushed you over 1k! Well, youre truly a GEM , and ill be binging all of your content whenever i have little chances 🩷

[@cassiedilley]

@@okayspace Wow, what an incredible mom you are and such amazing compliments, thank you!!! Your little man is SO lucky to have you.