Thailand prostitutes & freelancers vs nice Thai girlfriend, in Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, Chiang Mai.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

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[@glendahill]

great content as usual. Good to hear both sides of the 'experience'. Randy, you could easily knock ten years off your age, Joy, I'm not coming onto him! 'I remember being in Phuket with a friend after a diving trip, and went to a bar and ended up meeting some 'bar girls' , strangely enough in a bar, they were so much fun, took us to a nightclub, looked after us, made sure we were safe, no money was expected, just a good time between a bunch of women, not all bar girls are out to get you

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Excellent story and thanks. Always good to hear from you. (:

[@mauimixer6040]

You two do some of the best informative videos out there. Not only relative to Thailand, but for Asia or anywhere different than where someone is from. Thanks, and much Aloha from Maui 🤙😎.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Very kind of you Maui.

[@Chai_Travel]

You guys are great together ❤️ I think you add some great value to the platform Randy! Cheers 🏆

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Wow, what a nice comment from a KZbin pro I admire! Thanks and hope to chat soon.

[@Chai_Travel]

@@RetiredGlobalLife hope so too 😊🤟🏼

[@randyirvine5858]

Great observation Randy. I love the non judgemental attitude of Thais. Not right or wrong, not good or bad, live & let live🙏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, Randy, you are right as always.

[@jotsandtittles]

As a married American woman visiting Chiang Mai now, thank you for this video. There are too many non-Thai people who don’t think about the fallout on nice Thai women after they create an expectation of a relationship but they really just want a temporary good time. Here’s hoping that your video will get a lot of exposure and save some women from heartache and being used.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

That is very nice of you, thanks!

[@mancello]

Met my Thai GF on Thai Friendly. She has a master's degree, owns her own home and car and has a real job. She also speaks decent English which she learned at her University. One thing I insisted on when we first met was to do a video call very quickly after we exchanged a few messages. My time is precious and I had no interest in dealing with any scammers. It is pretty easy to weed out the scammers if you just use some common sense.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Your GF sounds like mine... 555. Has her masters and own home and good job. Thanks for the message.

[@dalefill1976]

I met mine on Thai Cupid. She owns an apartment building, house, car & her family owns a couple of orchards on Phuket. We started video chatting pretty quick too, switched to Line soon & both of us knew before long we wanted to meet. She always picks me up at the airport & has 2 of the cutest grandkids you've ever seen. One of the 1st things she did was introduce me to her family & we've been together for almost 3 years now. I'm going back in November for 5 months. Yes, I weeded out some scammers too & you're right, its not very hard.

[@jonhobson3592]

@@mancello video call early on is a good idea. At different times of the day. I did the same & met on TF too. Got to be sensible & trust your judgement for sure 👍 before I met my gf in October 22 we chatted on video call 2/3 times a week for 9 months ..

[@davidbrown4271]

Met mine on Thai friendly , found out she does yabba behind my back is a thief and has other men too .

[@WanjareeyaSatterlee]

Please don’t repeat a lot but go direct to the points you want to present

[@jeh1333]

I DO NOT RECOMMEND taking a girl to the hotel/accommodation room you are renting for your stay. Better you keep your sleeping/possessions location a secret. Just rent a cheap room for a few hours/night and stay safe always.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I'm sure many agree.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Such a delightful video. You two are just amazing together. Really nice to watch the shared story telling; I was skeptical and TBH looking for cues but there are none. It's super cute that she gets American dry humor. Her English seems top level. And so it was cool that you did the 19 minute onward section mostly on your own. (Thanks for the arm crossings though 😂Made me laugh!) As I've done both the "good girl" and the "naughty girl" in my life, I have put both feet into the optionality for men. Without a doubt, the worst has been the traditional date, marry and then divorce scenario. I'm so jaded, I supposed, although stats do prove my point, that I associate marriage with divorce. Now that I'm essentially out of the sexual marketplace (I'm near retirement) I just figured that for the remaining health span years I'd rent my aerobics and win without the tragedy of inevitable heart break. As you say, "such a deal." I've already done the research on cost and etiquette. Bought my plane ticket for Jan 25. I am ready! Retirement is just around the corner. But your post divorce life is inspirational so I did really enjoy the first part. Having recently joined Thai Friendly to "see" I was very surprised to find that I am not just an old grandpa worth nothing beyond the wallet. It goes against all I thought that I had understood about younger Thai women and older farang. Sure, there are the buffalo scenarios to be aware, but I might change my monger plans and see if I can earn a smile as close to yours as possible. Is a true relationship possible? Your video helped me to self examine my intentions and be on a path that is clear for my goals. Thank you!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Very nice of you Michael, and well thought-out comment. Thanks for visiting. You are never to old for romance! Especially in Thailand. Good luck on your trip and I hope all goes your way.

[@robertnutt7861]

Thank you for this video. I am retiring in December and plan on going to Thailand soon after. Thank you for the information on Thai Friend and Line. It took me some digging around and trial and error to get the apps functioning correctly for me. Now on Thai friend I have banners going by a mile a minute ranging in the ages from 18😳 to 55. I will probably have to watch this video to remember some of the information on it. Look forward to the outcome.. thank y’all

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Glad it was helpful. (:

[@Kano_Jig]

Great overview and details covered here. At first glance, I wanted to be critical of you covering this topic since you don't strike me as someone that would be knowledgeable about professional ladies, soapy's, Gents clubs, Lady Bars, Gogos and the such. You seem like a straight laced guy that would never ever indulge....however after watching the entirety of the video, you my friend are either an academic scholar that has learned all of this from books and listening to stories or you are a "Man of Culture" that has first hand experience in some or all of these topics (or both LOL). Fantastic coverage of a very taboo topic for American ears!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks. My motivation for the video was truly to keep normal Thai women from getting so many guys lying and I hope this will change guys' focus. I'm an old fashioned guy so prefer the GF/marriage route, but I can see how the freelancer option is attractive to so many guys. My knowledge is more academic and I just know many, many people who go that route. Everyone likes to tell me their stories.

[@glorgau]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Yep, get the guys together and after a few drinks the stories come out ;-)

[@RJ-yn3nu]

Its nice to see a couple do a genuine video. I have owned a business in Thailand for well over 20 years. My advice is similar "Tell the truth to whoever you meet, and don't be a cheap-charlie!". The more someone is let down and cheated, the harder they become. Treat everyone with respect, this is the Thai's homeland, we are guests.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Excellent advice!

[@WilliamFluery]

Having led a video production team for 16 years, I know you captured all of Joy’s reactions to your “5 years ago” story as b-roll. Well done. Very surprising subject matter but I completely understand and respect why you did it…to protect the “nice Thai women” from Western scammers.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Ah you are a pro. Yes. A one-camera shoot, not two. But shhhhhh. Our secret.

[@Dana-ie2bh]

Great job guys! Just for reference, my dad worked in Las Vegas as a carpenter back in the 1950's and he said that the standard rule of thumb for a short time, couple hours with a "Show Girl" was a day's pay. So obviously there was some variables, but that was the average rule of thumb. Most of the bargirls and go-go girls in Pattaya are from the provinces in Isaan. I don't know about now, but back in the 80's thy used to have places that we westerners would call whorehouses that were called a "Lady House". and were mostly used by Thai's. It gets pretty complex, if you want to really understand the culture better, you need to know how to READ Thai. For instance, there are about twice as many soapy massage places then you'll ever know about in Bangkok, because they are not marketing to tourists, but you'll know they exist because they advertise what kind of place they are in the Thai language. I'm not saying they are batter or cheaper, but they are there. Then you also need to know about a Thai custom called a Mia Noi. Not making a value judgment, just acknowledging that Thai culture is different than American culture in many different ways.

[@Kano_Jig]

Great insight. Also recommend learning about Gik culture in Thailand. People often get the wrong impression that western GIs started this whole transactional industry in the 60's during Vietnam War but Thai culture has had these undocumented industries in society for hundreds of years. Whatever western men are doing in these industries is multiplied by 2x when compared to what Thai men are doing in secret. This is often an accepted part of secret Thai society. I once had an older Thai lady that spoke great english (was my Thai language tutor) that told me that Thai men within higher society (High So making upwards of $4K USD per month)...it was a foregone conclusion that he would have multiple Giks and Mia Nois. I was a little befuddled at her candidness and asked her to put a percentage on it and she advised that a Thai man making upwards of $4K USD per month and she said over 90% would have Giks/Mia Nois. She advised that most Thai women would look the other way as long as the man didnt cause her to "lose face". So fascinating and strange!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I think you should have done the video, not me... (: Sounds like you have a lot of knowledge.

[@Dana-ie2bh]

@@RetiredGlobalLife You did a great job. Your lady will teach you a lot over time. And you being a lawyer means you were trained to be able to see the different angles involved in any given subject without getting too subjective, just acknowledging what observable reality is, not necessarily what it is "Believed" to be by the masses. It's like understanding that Logic started with psychology, not the material world, at least in the history of "Western" civilization. The use of ALLEGORY as opposed to Algebra. What is a "Fact"? It is a commonly held "Belief".

[@Dana-ie2bh]

@@RetiredGlobalLife As a side note, Pattaya was turned into a mega resort back in the late 70's by the oil rich sheiks in the Middle East, they financed the building of all the large hotels. And they knew damn well that the theme was going to be "Sin City".

[@tbywoods]

you guys are so sweet!! hope it stays great!! thank you for the great info!!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks! Visit us again.

[@RoyDollwet]

Thanks for the straight facts....Much appreciated

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I hope it is helpful, Roy. Take care.

[@ricardocrosby7290]

I always enjoy your content !!! Thank you 🙏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Ricardo. Hope to see you again.

[@veganwarrior4559]

The reason I come to Thailand is just to get away from the English weather from October to April. I stay in Bang Saray live a normal life laying in the sun eating street food and local restaurants. At the weekend go to a sports bar to watch the premier league. Maybe have a few drinks and that’s all. There are many men I see who go just for the exploitation of the Thai women and that’s sad. I then return to the UK for the cricket season. Christmas 2025 will be different as I will be going to Thailand then a week or so over to Australia for the Test match and that is my happy life. I know it’s not for everyone but I’m okay with it.😊

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Sounds like a great life to me! Glad for you that you have found contentment.

[@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x]

Exploitation seems like a fairy tale take in a practical land of mutual needs being met.

[@EL68775]

Very interesting! Thank you!❤ There is also contact woman to woman, for exemple in Changmai, Bangkok...?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

A lot of same sex couples in Thailand, very open. both men and women. I'm not sure if the dating sites offer that option but I'd think they would.

[@jimhardy4987]

That was a great video … very brave to address the issues head on and provide non-judgemental information, and I would say very accurate information too! I agree with your original point, no fun/not fair for regular Thai women to be misled by western men, better for us to be honest about what we want and choose accordingly.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Jim. Yes, helping Thai women not get mislead was the genesis of the video.

[@henrikarkenwelt6659]

Very professional and help full channel 🙏 And what a beautiful couple you make 🤩

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Very kind of you, Henri. Thank you.

[@jannynatpapat356]

Thanks for very nice & useful videos😊 Joy is always very sweet, super nice and kind hearted. Lovely couple😊 / English CMU friend

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

She's the best! Thanks.

[@goosebumpgold]

Hello there, really good informative video. I am Dutch and live in The Gambia since 2013 and your video subject can easily be applied to The Gambia and all other countries that are attractive for men to visit either to find a live partner or a fun sexy time. In the past period I have been looking at Thailand more and more to relocate and start a new chapter in my life. Am 64 but not ready to retire, would surely look for a business to set up. In Real Estate right now. Did you make a video about doing business or setting up one?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

No. Starting a business in Thailand is impossible legally unless you have a Thai business partner or Thai spouse. They are very protective of their jobs.

[@goosebumpgold]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Then I have to find the woman of my dreams, marry hear and start a business 😁

[@wazzaoz5869]

Great Vlog very open and informative. You covered off well about the differences. The only thing I would add is the elephant in the room, where western men look for the freelance lady or holiday romance in questionable locations, and fall more deeply for this person than they thought. Then get hurt and develop the negative stereotypes of Thai women, tarnishing all with the same brush, instead of looking at how their relationship started, and learning...

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, good point, that happens to many guys. They just don't see it coming.

[@Thornwalker.]

Many freelancers are single mothers that choose this work to support her family because the Thai guy left them. They move to Bangkok and Pattaya for work while the grandparents in the province raise the child.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Sometimes yes. Many single moms out there.

[@anthonyc92107]

I'm retiring in approx. 1 year & moving to Thailand. I'm considering between Hua Hin & Chiang Mai, to live. Is the "burning season" mostly Feb. - April, and is it really that bad for smog / air pollution? Thank you.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Most years lately, yes, it is that bad, and it can seep into the month before or after.

[@ONealMusicStudio]

Met my wife when she was a college intern at a client’s office in Bangkok 16 years ago. Like you I’m a retired lawyer. Why would I ever want to hang out with prostitutes? Seriously!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

That's the point. Everyone has a choice. And like you I prefer the real relationship route.

[@digihz_data]

Everything you said in this video is so true. My advice to people who are going to Thailand to meet any woman is... Don't think so much about getting the *right* woman,instead enjoy the the Thai atmosphere and the religion and the beautiful country. Try to be polite and show respect to elder and monks. The *right* women you will meet when you are relaxed and there are so many that want to be with you not only for the money, but also for learning English and foreign culture.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Hey, great comment. Yes, I agree 100%.

[@MichelCorbeil-bd5ji]

Thanks again Randy and Joy for a great video love yours guy's you are awesome always give good information. I heard in others video when you go back to your room hotel me when i go to visit i will go to Hilton Pattaya i love these i travel many times to different countries and if they have a Hilton i choose this so yeah they when you arrived at the reception they asked the lady to leave her ID it's mandatory so before giving her back her ID they called the room if everything is fine nothing missing and then they give back if not they called the police is this true or not Thanks for your response and have a nice day to you and Joy.❤💥💥💥🙏🙏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I have heard the same thing many times, so I think it is true. I've never taken a pro lady to a hotel room so the issue is academic to me. Either way, they don't seem to care who you bring to your room. Funny they seem to endorse it with the policy you mention.

[@villagefarang]

I worked in a 5 star hotel in Bangkok and the general policy was not to allow prostitutes in the rooms but exceptions were made for important business clientele who felt it necessary to entertain their customers or visiting executives. I would have one of my guys get the ID card from the girl in a discreet manner so as to avoid embarrassment and the card was returned in the morning or whenever she left. Each hotel has its own policy but you could indeed encounter an ID request but it is for your own safety.

[@MichelCorbeil-bd5ji]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Thank you .

[@MichelCorbeil-bd5ji]

@@villagefarang Thank you for your answer. 🙏

[@tomruth9487]

Thailand is another world. Thai women are charming, well, Thai people are in general. Your best game is no game at all, just be yourself and return the kindness. Great video, very accurate.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Very kind of you and thanks for your thoughts.

[@timothy6051]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights 🙏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Timothy. I hope it was helpful.

[@dennispack4119]

What park are you recording in? Looks lovely.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

At Chiang Mai University Resevoir is there too.

[@anthonyc92107]

Randy, I have a feeling you may be sleeping on the couch tonight, after that massage place story, from soooo long ago. 😂

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, yes, and in hindsight it was eight years ago, so...

[@chinesecrested9528]

I found my thai wife on thai Cupid. We have been together for 10 years and we are good together. I avoided bars and "The streets" altogether. I am certain there are many nice working women. The concern is the sincerity of both parties. So, know what you really want and get what you pay for, so to speak. Great show. Keep up the good videos.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks. Glad you found happiness. I'm an old fashioned guy so prefer the GF/marriage route, but I can see how the freelancer option is attractive to so many guys.

[@chinesecrested9528]

@RetiredGlobalLife agreed. both options have their upsides. Though, I prefer to stay with the ones that I am used to. The downside of the freelancer is if a guy gets "attached," or led on, and many do, then life gets really complicated.

[@hump1953]

I’m thinking of going to Chiangmai in February-March 2025… is the burning season prohibitive to visit?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

For most of us, yes, it is terrible. Can vary year to year.

[@jmsiii4751]

You have to have a good pension, at least $2500 USD a month, and a very good savings to have a Thai gf because you will be expected to pay for her family and kids. With that being said, traditional old school Thai women are truly the best. Sadly, I'm living in Pattaya now and all there is are the sex workers trying to nail you down as their boyfriend.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, Pattaya is different. But I'd disagree about all Thai women. Many have jobs and no kids,, so there is not that expectation. But if they have that need, that part of what you sign up for creating a new family.

[@jmsiii4751]

@@RetiredGlobalLife All my years in Thailand and living in Thailand, it's a rarity to meet a woman that doesn't have kids. I have meet very nice women with good jobs, and I was told by them that they wanted to stop work to spend more time with her parents and with me. Just my experience..

[@briandumont7272]

Thanks for this. I have been living in Chiang Mai for a month now, and eventually I'm going to want to start dating. Guess I'll be giving the on line thing a shot. We'll see if the old dog can learn some new tricks and meet someone nice.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Good luck, Brian! Nice guys can finish first...

[@smichael061]

Good video and consideration for Thai women. If I just wanted to find an interpreter and someone to show me around and learn about Thai culture without it having to be sexual, just easy companionship, would that be more difficult to find? Maybe just hire a private tour guide or something? Any suggestions for legit way to find someone like that. All the stuff you mentioned are sex oriented. It’s okay, but I’m almost 70 and would rather not have a sexual entanglement, there’s always an emotional price to pay. Too bad the society is slanted so heavily in that direction.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Good comment. I'd guess the many tour guide companies could offer you someone, and I've never googled for that but I'd bet many companies would come up.

[@tomruth9487]

@smichael061 I'm a couple years older than you. On my last two days in Thailand, I met a bar girl working in an upscale gents club. I bought her a few drinks the first night and the second night she wasn't drinking, but sat with me most of the night anyway. She never asked for money, but I gave her a few dollars before I left. She also never asked me to go upstairs nor did I ask her. It was nice to have the companionship, so I understand what you're talking about. I guess my point is, you never know what you might find and I think at the gents clubs, there might be a possibility to find what you're interested in. Or maybe I was just lucky.

[@joewalton6056]

Very informative video, thank you?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Our pleasure. Thanks, Joe.

[@SynKronos]

Thank you. I have been contemplating a trip of late. Might I ask what happens to the bar girls as they mature, what do they do, does anyone look after them? Drink, drugs, disease. It seems all wrong. :(

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

From what I hear, many save their money and return to their villages, where they are among the more successful. Others seem to live a hard life that gets worse as they age.

[@SynKronos]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Aye, Not good.

[@diannelee1267]

Most just eke out an existance best they can. Some return to their hometown and open up a food stall or small shop. Some search seriously for a foreign husband or even a monthly sponsor or multiple monthly sponsors. Some do sex cam work. Some struggle to fit back into regular Thai society, working in a low paying job with a boss, with fixed starting and finishing times seems an impossible adjustment for some. Many struggle with mood dysregulation, impulsivity and anger outbursts as a result of the trauma that preceded the sex work or as a result of the years of working in that industry. This mars their integration back into regular society and prevents them from forming healthy relationships after sex work. There are some foreign religious groups that help younger women drawn into sex work or vulnerable young girls at risk of being drawn into sex work, to develop other skills like making handicrafts /using a sewing machine etc. There are also sex worker collectives who help women in the industry, but as far as I know there is nothing formal to help previous sex workers. And definitely nothing government funded. Like so many things in Thailand it is a complex issue, there is so much stigma still, towards those women who have previously worked in the industry, there is stigma even to just having been a poor farmers daughter, stigma at being from Isaan, stigma at being a hilltribe or Burmese or Laotion woman drawn into sex work ( the drivers being poverty, lack of an education and lack of other options). In a country where you need a bachelors degree to work at 7/11 or in a bank and a preference for youth and beauty in customer facing roles, it is almost impossible for a woman over 40 to get a clerical or customer service job, and definitely impossible to get a job working in McDonalds or similar. Many sex workers did not complete high school, some didn't even complete primary school. Their options for work after they are too old for sex work, are thus severely limited

[@urs954]

@Randy, in one of your videos you mentioned that your daughter has a visa agency. Could you please show us the address in one of your next videos? Thanks you

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

It is HH Premium in Chiang Mai, so you can google it. She does Elite visas for people around the world, and more visa and relocation services for those in or coming to Chiang Mai. She is great and has a great staff.

[@sacguy916]

Great - informative - entertaining- Thanks

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Craig. Hope to see you here again.

[@andoyipyah8582]

the big issue not discussed was STD status of girls. How do you know if they are disease free?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I'm in the "Nice GF" category kind of guy so I'm not personally into the pros. But yes, of course, STDs are a concern, so smart people take precautions.

[@hassanrajput8137]

very well compilation and its true that it is not important to break someone's heart when there is lot on buffet

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Much appreciated. Thanks for getting the point of the video.

[@BarnabyBarry]

Cool video- I have 2 Flipina daughters and they warned me about the filters almost all women use (even in video) so we all have to cautious when dating women-as my mom would say -most pretty women just need a little makeup!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, yes. I'd never heard of filters until recently I admit.

[@BrianMax]

So glad you married a good woman. I had the 'vacation girlfriend' experience in Indonesia in 2008. It was a good 2 weeks. She knew what was happning all alon, but it took some time before I figured it out. Later I met my (now) wife at a Buddhist temple in Utah. One thing that really attracted me to her was that she planned to retire in her hometown. Turns out she's from Da Nang, a beautiful beach city.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Very glad you have a nice wife and life.

[@Traveler-PKK]

I have met several young nice working girls. They don't want any other life and do not want to get serious. They like the quick money that feeds there kids or parents and want to say in that profession. I have also meet some older ladies 30 on up who never worked in bars and due to financial issues decided to go make quick money and jump in and out and you would never know they are or were a bar girl. People do not understand the culture in Thailand unless they have lived in Thailand for many years to see what happens.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, it is hard for us to understand and even I have to keep learning to understand.

[@BambinoAmericano]

I am into freelancers only, since about 10 years. Thought I had some serious relationships before that, but I learned my lesson(s)… very happy now to be emotionally single. Enjoying my freedom, growing my personality and counting my new achievements, at 55. It is just not my thing to be surrounded by a woman day-in, day-out. The freelancer path is not more expensive than going for a Thai wife, who expects a monthly salary anyway, and which will never decrease. From my experience, freelancers are great except that sometimes they expect more (or pretend to) and become emotionally attached, especially in Thailand. That is less the case with the freelancers from Vietnam in my own experience, at least the ones I have lived with, they tend to be more straightforward and transactional-focused.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks for a great honest comment.

[@jonhobson3592]

Not too much emotional involvement a short term experience can be fine .. but to have a loving kind attentive girlfriend you need to look for sure in better places .. staff in banks , malls, nurses, coffee shops & just walking 🚶‍♀️ around can find 😅

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Hey, just what I said! Glad you agree. A GF is much better.

[@jonhobson3592]

@@RetiredGlobalLife hey 👋 yes I just watched the video. Good morning 🙏

[@RichardHandley-q7f]

Think you might have painted yourself into a corner there Randy 42/43. No matter your honesty and integrity I felt the wave bounce back off the harbour wall. She wasn't a happy bunny.

[@Magikfinity]

I knew a broken hearted American in CNX, who got dumped in an instant, coz she saw a picture of his ex (mother of his kids) on his laptop. He never saw his Thai love again... One has to be so careful not to let your woman lose face.

[@consulthai]

I think the script was co written by the two of them. They're a team. Nothing to worry about. I myself am an open book with my wife ,no skeletons in my cupboard. There is nothing in my past she doesn't know. It's safer that way,no surprises .

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, all good. Joy knows my heart is only with her. And she knows my knowledge of the subject of freelancer is academic and from the many stories I get.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Wow that was pretty harsh.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Joy knows my knowledge of all this is academic pretty much. I seem to have a face everyone tells their life stories to, and I enjoy collecting info. Personally I've never been a freelancer guy but I can certainly see the attraction to the lifestyle and have no judgment about it.

[@maddogmcbainsmotorcycleadv3159]

When I visit Chiang Mai, I tend to like to wander around in the old City, and after a few days my calves become rock hard. A few years ago, I was keen for a massage, because my legs were quite sore. I accepted the invitation for a massage from a nice young woman in front of a massage parlour, we discussed the fee and in we go. As the massage continued, she propositioned me for a ‘happy ending’ service. I’m not one to engage such services, so politely declined and asked for the sad ending only. This really upset the masseuse; because not long after our session had started, some old rooster walked in and asked for the happy ending service with all the bells and whistles. It was through chance alone that I arrived to the parlour first, and had effectively caused her to miss out on what would have been at least double what I was paying for her service. She began crying as she rubbed me down, and I couldn’t help but wonder if it were genuine, or simply crocodile tears to manipulate me into requesting the extras. Regardless, it became an incredibly awkward experience, and certainly one I’d never forget.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Sounds like the discomfort was worth it to tell a funny story for the rest of your life. I'd feel no guilt if I were you. I'm not a happy ending guy either, I just for for real massages.

[@viking8889]

Is there anyway to find out if your prospective girlfriend is already married?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Sorry, I don't know if the local marriage registry is open to the public, or if there is a national one (I doubt it).

[@Ethelredofhadleigh]

Great vlog. Well done guys.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Big thanks! Visit us again.

[@ddyeo503]

I think you just need to travel to Thailand and spend 30 days walking around in various cities and I guarantee you, you will met someone that can be very special in your life. Pen Pals and online dating is not the best way to meet someone for me. Just bumping into someone who truly captures your interest, you can keep going back and flirt with her. If she responds back then great. If not then move on,,,,,,,,,,,,

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, many nice women to meet here...

[@lopat4826]

Joy couldn't stop looking at you when you said freelancer first. 😂😂😂

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Joy is a sweetie. And has a great sense of humor, although sometimes I might challenge that...

[@MikeWood-yc1er]

When a lady is shaking her head 'no' with crossed arms, the danger zone is near.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, Joy was being funny about it.

[@DiscoveringThailand]

Great tips and info that all need to know... No more massages for you lol 39:10 🙏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks!

[@dalefill1976]

You've never learned to NEVER tell on yourself, have you? LOL

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, no...

[@whistler1056]

When you find that you've dug yourself into a hole, rule number one: stop digging...

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, yes.

[@coreyworthingtonii9230]

2:40 That was a good edit 😂👏

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Hey, thanks so much. It is nice when people notice editing decisions like that.

[@cs_yt]

Boy, I worried about your safety when you told the massage story. This not something you talk about in front of a woman, much less a Thai woman. In cases like that I invoke the fifth no matter where I am. 😉

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, yes one of those stories - even if pre-relationship - I realized halfway through there was no escape.

[@Peter-tm7zp]

Randy and Joy - you guys are the cutest couple everrrr! and so cool that you give such honest advice on this important topic. My own Thailand retirement dream and journey begins in 2 weeks, my cousins and friends are all waiting for my arrival at this point, lol. Thank you! Your channel and content has really helped me learn, maintain patience, esp over the past year. I'm settling down in Bangkok, but will surely say hi when I visit Chiang Mai ✌ -Peter

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Peter and so glad to hear about your upcoming retirement.

[@mauimixer6040]

Did you take notice of the carvings on the floor of the silver temple ? I regret not asking the monk what the aliens theme was all about, as well as the Different animals, did you, or do you know the story? Btw, when will you be returning from the US , in case I have the opportunity to buy you lunch?😎

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

It is quite interesting, yes. I did not notice the detail but when I got home and did some research I saw photos of one person with an electric guitar, others of aliens... all quite odd and not the usual Buddha worship.

[@mauimixer6040]

@@RetiredGlobalLife yeah, the aliens in the flying saucers waving out the window and with the big antenna (ears) was kinda strange. And they were flying over different countries too. 😲🤔😮 Can't wait to go back and ask, hopefully in Sept/Oct, which should be interesting in itself. Plus the prehistoric animals. Reminded me of the show, My favorite Martian from years ago.

[@stevend8785]

I’m in a long term marriage but if this doesn’t work out I’ll be going the freelance route. Marriage can be enjoyable but a lot of times it’s exhausting. The sex part is my raison detre for being married, and for that I’d rather be with a woman whose age starts with a 2 and weigh 140 lbs or less. The wife and I are intimate about 1-2 times a month and that’s not adequate for me. I’d probably have 2-5 freelancers in my phone directory. I don’t have any interest in being married again, raising children, supporting family, etc. btdt. I didnt even watch the whole video, 500 baht for that sounds like an extraordinary value to me.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I'm an old fashioned guy so prefer the GF/marriage route, but I can see how the freelancer option is attractive to so many guys.

[@davidphoenix6979]

Rather surprised that the acronym GRO seems not to have made a transition from the Philippines to Thailand. It is also a double entendre. At least I haven't seen mention of the phrase so far in Thai videos. Officially prostitution in the Philippines is illegal(wink, wink...nod,nod). In the resorts that cater primarily to westerners, GRO is a common term. It means Guest Relations Officer. This is a real corporate job description / title. However for the GRO workers in the bars it is well known by its other meaning, "Girlfriend Rent Only". Guys do be clear about your intentions, remember karma is a bitch.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Interesting, David. I've never heard the term here. Prostitution is technically illegal in Thailand too, although you'd never know it.

[@davidphoenix6979]

@@RetiredGlobalLife "Lip service" an old but appropriate term. On the "soap box" of political correctness prostitution is defamed, while in the back rooms no one is really interested in killing the cash cow or the goose that lays the golden eggs. Prostitution is one of the oldest forms of human interaction. An exchange of goods for services.

[@michaelwise6780]

I met my Thai Girlfriend on a dating site but she had a masters degree and is an accounting manager for one of the Japanese Company's in ChonBuri, she has one daughter who is amazing. She has her own car and motorscooter. Her parents have a rubber tree plantation near Chiang Mai. Her family is not poor, they havw parents have built nice houses for both her and her brother on their land. One day we were joking and my girlfriend said she was going to get a new boyfriend and her daughter told her no mom!!! I feel very lucky to have met a good Thai woman

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, real relationships are the way to go for me too.

[@ksmithpmp]

Can you explain the difference between wife#1, Mia noi(s) and geeking?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Joy tells me the second is small wife, who you support, like a mistress and the last is like an affair but she has no status.

[@jonhobson3592]

Shall watch tomorrow but a good topic 😅

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks Jon, we did for a specific reason which we mention in the first minute or two. And hopefully a few laughs in there for you.

[@hassanrajput8137]

I have a question? there are these Thai style bars/restaurants where they have PR girls. When you arrive they take you to the couch/table and then you can select one or two ladies for company. They charge per hour and these charges are different at different places. This girl give you company as long as you are having drinks and also her dink and food. Now here I am not sure what to do or how it works out and how to approach, that after having drinks if you like the girl can she be taken out or not because there are no bar fines in such places, but I never had courage to ask her out even I saw some local thai people take some lady along. So what to do ?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Nothing is wrong with telling a lady you want to spend more time with outise the bar and ask what is involved. Or find a bartender or manager and ask.

[@hassanrajput8137]

@@RetiredGlobalLife okay so that's common and reasonable.. thanks

[@anna_m59]

today was super busy in silver temple… celebration of The Buddhist lent day full moon day.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Ah, you get around! Hope it was fun.

[@genericchannel5899]

Man, poor John Smith - you did him dirty!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, let's hope he's not in a panic, "How did Randy know????"

[@genericchannel5899]

​@@RetiredGlobalLife At least one of his wives is bound to be very upset.

[@hanotify]

A lot of farangs say SaBadee instead of SaWadee even after years in the country ..

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, true.

[@Traveler-PKK]

Most girls when young go to the district to have fun and hang out and find themself in the bars. After a few years if they are not married they return to there home town. You can tell. Most are older and smoke and tattoted up and over 30 and single with a few kids without husband. You can see them in smaller towns as they return from the pattaya and bangkok during Songkhran to visit. So, they may look liget but most have done a rotation in the town and lived a wild like but got burnt out and know are back in the provence or home town. I know several men who have married bar girls and have a wonderful life. Economic conditions make it so they want to work in the sex trade because it's quick easy money. I would say only 10% are bad eggs the rest are just as nice as any thai lady.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks for the thoughts and expertise.

[@RobFomenko]

I also met my thai lady on Thai friendly. talked to many but only video chatted with one. First thing I did when coming back to Thailand was a real date with her. She is 23 years younger than I, a teacher of kindergarten kids, a mother of a 9 year old daughter and a beautiful soul. Last weekend we visited her family in Sisaket. A good family. When here in February for vacation, I met some bar girls, had a good time with them, and respect them for who they are, but for me, for long term commitment, she is mine, and I am her's. its a great feeling to have someone that you love and respect in your life. nothing against freelancers or bar girls. they serve a purpose. Yet to live here like I now do, not for me. Loving Thailand. We will visit Chang Mi in the late fall, would be nice to share some food with you and joy.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Always nice to hear from you, Rob, and perhaps we can meet up if we are in town. (:

[@chanc8r38]

i want to come to Chiang mai, and live and t will be for a normal relationship had the lose thai woman and i dont find it fulfilling, i love Chiang mai

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Wishing you success here...

[@giles4411]

Joy is hilarious.....loved the looks she was giving you telling your massage story!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, she can be quite funny.

[@carljung9230]

really useful video

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, Carl. That was the point. Inform and make people think about their choices affecting others.

[@KellyBlankenship]

Once again it was 5 years before 😂

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, yes. Actually 7 now that I think about it.

[@wingwalker27]

Does Joy have a nice sister for me ? I'm 65 living in the US .

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, sadly no. But even if she did... there is only one Joy. But lots of very nice ladies waiting here for a nice gentleman like you.

[@MichaelSmittySmithScottsdaleAz]

Great video. I spent a month i Thailand and tried different avenues. Worst mistake was taking a girl who spoke no English. It was not fun.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks for watching and the feedback.

[@polecat999]

Dug yourself a bit of a hole there Randy 🤣🤣🤣

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Ah yes, but nothing a stroll around the lake and some shared ice cream didn't solve.

[@anthonyc92107]

Randy, you don't look a day over 66.5. 😂

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Anthony, I knew I could count on you for a sincere compliment.... (:

[@TruckerBill0531]

But what about the language barrier

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

We address that. Many Thai women don't speak English but many "professional" women do, so that is one reason they are popular.

[@eztyoung5467]

Thai friendly is great 👍

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Worked for Joy and me!

[@jinlakitikorn8715]

👍👍👍

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thank you and double thumbs up back to you. (:

[@billyjohnson9166]

You left out Issan so many professional women come from there.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, I left a lot out... and it was already too long, 555. But they end up in the places we discussed I'd say.

[@Dana-ie2bh]

When you go to University, whatever college, the academics keep blowing smoke up your ass telling you that you are learning Critical Thinking when you take STEM subjects I lost track of how many straight A students in STEM subjects who constantly whined about how there was a lack of good paying jobs in the current economic environment. What they are failing to see is that what are they going to do about that problem is: "Critical Thinking", not solving algebra problems with PEMDAS. Einstein's take, having one of the highest IQs in history said, that Creativity is more important than IQ. Cogito Ergo Sum.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

All over my simple mind. I'm just a dumb lawyer.

[@Dana-ie2bh]

@@RetiredGlobalLife I'm just a dumb merchant seaman. Ancient Greek philosophy is interesting though and is the foundation of western law.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

You are a smart guy. Hope you comment regularly. (:

[@consulthai]

Hi Randy and Joy. With regard to ladies of the night I can't add anything as I've no current experience. I had some experience with dating sites and they're basically marketing places . I don't nessessarily mean that in a negative way. It's a competitive marketplace where the women outnumber the men by a factor of ..dunno, but a lot . Thai women who are there for a meaningful relationship aren't doing themselves many favours . Oftentimes you read on their profile ( that's if they actually attempted a profile, other than pictures), that they want a man to take care of them . Men want to read what you can offer ,rather than what you want. That can come later . Men would be best writing an intelligent profile to attract an intelligent inquiry. Pictures are good but a good ,well written profile is the clincher . Also the process involves eliminations, ofherwise it can become very hard to manage. The women may not eliminate as quickly as they should just in case one of their favourites departs. The men should as they have the upper hand . It's still a man's world in Thailand . The women also make the mistakes of narrowing their age preferences . They should be flexible upwards . Don't eliminate a woman you like just because she put an upper bracket which puts you outside of it . A few years extra , providing you're energetic, will do. Compliment your choices, after all they're ladies,they like to be flattered. Good luck!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Good advice from you as always. Thanks.

[@077SMOOTH]

What about for the LGBTQ community?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

I did address that once in the video. On online dating, all the options are there for LGBTQ. And some freelancers online too, particularly for men. I don't have any experience in same sex nightclubs that are geared exclusively to that, but they may exist. I can say that there seems to be no prejudice in same sex couples there, and I see more same sex couples here than I ever did in the US or Europe.

[@077SMOOTH]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Thank you for taking the time to reply. Thank you so much for all of your videos. I always enjoy watching them.

[@bradbradshaw-i4n]

wake up guys there is no such thing as an ideal woman. you are setting yourself up. you live in la la land.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Yes, there is no ideal woman, in Thailand or anywhere. But I'm finding my happiness here.

[@curtisgore1611]

So guess the height weight and measurements of the naked massage girl! Lol

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha. Don't get me in more trouble. And if you are reading this Joy, let me repeat it was many years ago and was nothing I sought out...

[@workslave-y9o]

I don't want to hire someone to nag and complain, that sounds silly.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Ha, maybe you are "hiring" the wrong person...

[@workslave-y9o]

@@RetiredGlobalLife Seems I married the wrong person

[@gordon.Jacko1055]

I think you’re gonna end up in that water good luck 😩

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, Gordon, too funny. Unless Joy reads this and gets an idea... Actually my life pre-Joy was pretty tame and she knows what few adventures I had in my prior life.

[@WalkingmanPattaya]

Its not the look its the "background"... seems to be your philosophy 😂 i am not going to be with a lady i dont find alluring and sexy no matter her job or college degree

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

You are making two big incorrect assumptions. First, I never said I don’t want to be attracted to my partner. Second, what makes you assume education and intelligence does not exist with a nice looking woman? Do you think only bad looking women go to college? Or get a good job? Just as there are both attractive and unattractive bar ladies, there are both groups with women who have an education and career.

[@larryleafernking4650]

I got To go, very boring!

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

See you here, Larry.

[@Truthseeker371]

Is it so difficult to meet a decent woman of any nationality back home?

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, good people everywhere.

[@Wizerud]

Joy: 😒

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Haha, she is my sweetie. I'm an old fashioned guy so prefer the GF/marriage route, but I can see how the freelancer option is attractive to so many guys.

[@tokyoyo7533]

In my experience, I prefer young girls in bars who just came from Isan, cannot speak English at all. If she speaks, that means she have many farang customers or boyfriend.

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

To each their own. Treat them kindly and you will both be happy I hope.

[@julieborders1410]

What abt for us ladies? Are there paid male escorts/manfriends for hire??? Is this an equal oppty question or sexist, w/only women available??

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Good news for you. On dating sites you will find guys for hire. I don't know of any clubs, however.

[@consulthai]

On reflection and since you mentioned several times that your knowledge/experience about working girls was academic and based on stories you heard . I believe so and therefore , to be pedantic and legally correct ,seeing you're a lawyer,hearsay evidence. Not that we are in a court of law but we are in the infotainment area? Maybe it would have been better not to touch the seedy part of action in Thailand which is amply covered by real players . Where you were/are a real player is how you met the love of your life,Joy and your subsequent relationship . That's where your Chanel's strength is . Plus general information about Thailand as a tourist and retirement destination. There is always new content about that . Bars, freelancers and their price structures are old hat and low ball. Leave that to others. Anyway..the new buzzword by Biden .😂

[@RetiredGlobalLife]

Thanks, but most of the "freelancer" videos are losers with camera trolling the bars and clubs. No real info for the neophyte and they deserve the accurate info. I actually wrote my master's thesis on the history of prostitution so the subject and I go way back. And the whole point of the video is to reach those who might otherwise be taking advantage of a "nice" lady, and show them the freelancer option is so easy and better for them, and maybe a few nice Thai ladies are saved the disappointment of what often happens to them. So I have to differ with you. If I reach just a few guys and change their plans on how to treat women while here, the video was a success. Take care and I always love your comments.

[@consulthai]

Ah, ok, I didn't know you had an academic interest that way in prostitution . Be that as it may and I understood you were trying to save some "nice" ladies' heartbreak. I recently had seen such a nice lady being taken advantage of by a despicable Western visitor. I tried to dissuade the bastard early on, tried to warn the lady, but to no avail . The bottom line is that these lowlifes come to Thailand for cheap sex and won't be encouraged to go the freelancers way. This is the flipside of the women scammers. If you were appealing to those guys who aren't lowlifes but decent human beings directing them to freelancers may not be a good option for health reasons. They're not under any health regime and you mentioned that. Possibly the least risky women work in large soapy massage places . They can also be taken out of there paying fines . In any case I think doing a video whereby you're trying to direct punters the right way is pretty futile . A lot of sex activities are fuelled by alcohol abuse and people lose judgement . There is something else which you didn't mention, probably not your target audience. These are young guys ,mostly in Bangkok who engage in the party scene , sometimes called Passport bros, others just regular guys who mix with local girls who aren't much different from their western sisters , where even one night sexual encounters happen no different from the West. I got 2 sons who thought me a new (to me) expression, fxxx buddies. This isn't even new in the West but now arrived to Bangkok . This has nothing to do with prostitution, I just brought it up how some young ones give it up for free . In Thailand traditions go out the window with the new generation. You,me and some others came to Thailand looking for traditional partners , many western men come for sex whichever way. Many Thai women cater for it . As you know since you wrote a dissertation on it , it's the oldest profession . I could write a dissertation on what drives these unfortunate women into it . You'd like to save a few nice ones, I'd like to see prostitution legalised and the workers protected . Even better, I'd like to see opportunities for the poverty stricken folks to find alternate ways to earn a living . Fat chance .

[@villagefarang]

@consulthai I agree this was not in the best of taste. Seems like a grasp for low hanging fruit and those views he is so proud of. I went out nearly every night for 20 years in Bangkok and would never even consider offering advice or a how to guide to the newbies. The old "if I reach just a few guys" justification rings very hollow. This was done to grow the channel and nothing else, in my opinion.