That Moment You Forgive Your Ex

We all have a unique story to tell, but some themes are universal. That Moment.... you realize your parents are only human. That Moment... you know your relationship needs to end. We talked with individuals who each have a story to tell about "that moment..."
Breakups are difficult to navigate, especially when you remain friends with your ex. Bryan shares his experience in rejoining the dating world while trying to be happy for his ex’s new relationship.
Featuring Bryan Kett
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[@ankurupadhyaya2614]

So many people prefer to be friends with their exes after their break up. I think that is the most stupid idea. After break up when they start dating someone else and when you see them together, when she/he talks about her/his lover with you, the pain gets amplified. It really does. Just be friends with them if you want after 2 or 3 years when it actually gets over. Otherwise you are hurting yourself by doing that honestly.

[@calebgibson55]

Yess!

[@68camarorsss33]

The Brown Guy Traveling I guess this story went WAYYYYYYY over your head!!

[@ankurupadhyaya2614]

PatsCelticsFan Clearly you don't have any experience of what relationship and heartbreak feels like.

[@68camarorsss33]

The Brown Guy Traveling I’m not friends with any of my ex’s but that wasn’t the point of the story jackass...try paying attention to the end of the story next time

[@rosedeth559]

Yes, 100% true, You can’t just turn off your feelings , especially if you were the one who was dumped, so it's better to walk away. Btw are you from Nepal? the tika on your forehead is suggesting so. I'm nepali too :)

[@crazyanimeloveable]

I'd say don't regret the moments you had. Because at one time that's what you needed or wanted. You'll grow from it and the experience will only make you wiser. you'll know what to look for or take a breath

[@anuragbhattacharya2940]

I don't think exes can be friends right away after being seperated. I think both of them should take time to fill the hurt by working on it themselves. They should have their own journey, they should grow upon themselves. And that way, if they stumble upon each other after a period of time, they will have stories to tell which are more exciting than the stories of their separation. That in my opinion, will be the beginning of an ideal friendship. 😃

[@mdb2879]

this man has such a good heart and just from the cracked voice it looks like he got broken sometimes, he deserved so much good things

[@vondahe]

Here’s the way forward: Allow yourself to be angry or even hate, if need be. Allow yourself to cry. Do something that helps you feel better about yourself. Don’t be in the friend zone hoping she’ll come back. Sever all ties if you don’t have children, and delete all the photos, videos and SoMe traces. Spend time with a good friend who doesn’t ask and doesn’t push. That could take you through a major love crisis in as little as 6 months.

[@marxcadet1352]

I will never ever keep in touch with any ex, no matter how great of a person they are; unless, we have kids together. I was happy before you, and I'll be happy after you. I accept things for what they are, and let go of negative feelings. I see it like this "We had what we had, and it was what it was, now, it's time to move on".

[@bobbyboo1478]

I don't see why anybody should be in touch with an ex. This is a good example why it should't happen. Thanks for sharing.

[@rfcdgaf]

Never ever accept being friends with an ex when you've been dumped and still want them. You end up like this guy.

[@priya9194]

lol my ex went through 2 relations in 3 years after us. I on the other hand had a blast 😂😂..they key is to cut off totally even if u are hurting everyday. hurting will eventually stop but seeing him with other people will get u down no matter how secure u are in yourself.best decision of my life was to say no to being friends with him.

[@AllyLai]

woah wasn't expecting that

[@mimi3h210]

Ally Lai me too!!!! what a plot twist

[@alex0589]

What was his name? -Jesus -oh, was he mexican? -no, he's actually jewish, long story. -Melissa's with paul now, i mean pete. -i know those names

[@LoveeeeelyM]

Wow, this was profoundly beautiful. Praise be to God!

[@allesundmehr]

this was very strange yet very beautiful!

[@alexxolo]

I'm sorry. I will never be friends with my ex. I just don't want to put my mental state in that torment

[@bellindahmaseko_]

Am still healing I needed this.. Is God talking to me somehow!? There is a greater message behind this post.. Thank you so much SoulPancake

[@Essbeexo20]

bellindah maseko good luck sis 💕

[@robertlevy2162]

Bless up

[@ItsMrxSean]

Satinder there are no coincidences in an omnipotent plan.

[@mitg7322]

Same here Have a beautiful journey 💕

[@amaryllisbrooke8098]

I wasted a year on my ex.... He did me wrong, had sex with a girl, I forgave him and let him come back, when he cried? When we became friends after, I comforted him, he has disrespect me and made me a fool, rejected me in public made me his secret lover, I want to to forgive .... Yes I will In Jesus name

[@laurahiser8601]

In the midst of divorce from my 28 year marriage, this touched me.❤️🛐

[@veronikahutch6222]

Sh*t.. I just went through a break up 👍🏽 good timing

[@theatrejunkee9229]

I have had good & bad experiences keeping in touch with exes. One went into the the military, another law enforcement & I know it takes something special (which I lacked) to be with someone in those professions. They both are wonderful people, have since married & had kids, I would not undo the lives they've made for themselves. I attended the wedding of one, a couple b'days & baby shower for another. Still email occasionally with both & visit with them & their families when I travel. My bad experiences were with people who were using the friend card to maintain proximity. After I found out each was harassing other potential suitors I cut ties. Both created periods in my life where I thought no one else would be interested in me, telling others we were still together so that (a) far fewer people would engage with me & (b) I got a reputation of being a negligent, cheating partner when I spent time with others or attended social functions without them. The first one to do so was finally called out, in front of myself & friends, by someone I started dating: "THEY are telling everyone you two are a couple. YOU say you're unattached. Are they a liar or are you a cheater?" Cleared that up, but apparently it had been happening for some time, costing me personal & professional opportunities. I learned from that, so the next time I saw certain patterns, I made a point of introducing a date to them in front of others and, having called their bluff, that game ended. I've also been stuck in the middle of a new date with an old flame. The ex mysteriously either showed up or was "coincidentally" having a crisis during our dates. Eventually I was like if you want to be with them, go for it. I got accused of being insecure & unreasonable. A year later I got an apology via social media. Apparently the ex had been proactively running off "the competition" - didn't really want to get back together, but liked the attention & didn't want to give that up either. I knew I wasn't crazy (in that particular case, anyway) but it was nice to hear, and I'm glad that situation was resolved. I guess it all boils down to motive & maturity. If both parties still care for each other as people & can grasp the concept of a platonic relationship, staying in touch can be nice.

[@invvestingforex3230]

Yesterday she texted me " it's over!" We were supposed to meet my mum that same day. I came out of nowhere no sign no warning! Now am just left wondering what's wrong with me? I couldn't sleep for the entire night & I don't see myself getting better soon. What a bad way to start 2022

[@eleinadt98]

Very strong message!

[@lovemecom3832]

We should always keep in mind that the best feeling ever, is to forgive and to let go of your anger and insecurities because if we truly love someone we should understand and respect their decisions even if it means that it would probably hurt us, but that's the real meaning of love and sacrifice!

[@nicolaturville4414]

Forgiveness sets you free from the hurt inside you and enables you to love again. Such a good video

[@8thgen583]

The guy Christian on Cut should watch this video. The scenario is so similar lol

[@nerdinadress5717]

THIS IS WHY I LOVE SOUL PANCAKE! Seriously, I love how you take these topics and make them so deep and allow people to tell their stories so well!!

[@moroccanmecrazy]

You are a great story teller..I have an inkling you have many more qualities. I love this quote and forgive me if it is too cheesy but it states "a flower does not compare itself with another flower it simply blooms". Just be the best version of yourself you can be...I see a lucky girl in your future.

[@katerinasofie6879]

From my experience, cutting them off is hard but neccessary for you to heal. I tried being his friend for 8 months and I felt miserable because I still had feelings for him while he was happily dating new girls. Its definitely painful to make the decision and lose the connection you two shared, but I would have never really moved on if I hadn´t done this.

[@fevernight123]

That moment when you forgive your ex is just amazing, I've never felt so happy in my life, the pain that was brought to me and sadness that I had to cary was awful! But as soon as you see that you are happy for them and happy for what you had... It's amazing.

[@ryan4668]

closure

[@n.hhaziqah9950]

Yeah I handled my heartbreak through hypnosis, looking at this video how this woman calm me down saying, "I forgive myself, I forgive that person, I forgive" it works. I've been in the low that it actually suffocated me. Then there's this rush of wind that overflow from within and I know, that the negative feeling has gone. I start to accept that we broke up and how she found someone new. I accept that. I still talk to her to this day. Even though I don't necessarily know how their relationship going on, all I can say is I'm happy for you. I really do and I hope one day, you have the courage to let me go, just like i did. Not just being "friends".

[@SnowyDogPlays]

Dear algebra, we will not look for your X. Don't ask Y.

[@MichaelaH2059]

wow, I loved this! A lesson for all of us.

[@ilenamachado2157]

This was great! Probably one of my favorite soul pancake episodes.

[@Mckmo_1322]

This actually so amazing. I feel so different after watching it

[@kamapuci]

Forgiving is a part of healing. I was struggling with it myself, but now i've learned

[@MWmota]

This feels more like a skit than actual advice and steps on how to forgive others

[@manileo460]

....I can't forget how she left me...lonely.... When I die she will understand.....I can't forgive her. but I can die happily.....

[@KunoichiN3rd]

LOVE this. Maybe my favorite "Moment When" so far. What a turn!!

[@harmowknee]

This was beautiful!

[@Jayskiallthewayski]

The list of don'ts from a psychological standpoint in this story is astonishing.

[@christina2311]

It’s not necessary to be friends with exes.

[@ibao]

Why did i cry to all of these ;-; Sad

[@SashaKevin]

I am blurred with tears 😢😢😢 This is really so beautiful 😍

[@kaylanbellando8774]

Needed this. Thank you

[@alex0589]

Better plot twist than any M Night

[@amethyst9895]

Our God works in mysterious ways

[@ntaghavi]

I couldn't relate to this.. Kind of shallow.. 'I just reliased that I shouldn't be that angry person and I moved on'.. Sorry but It never works like that..you never come to realization to become cool with your ex over night..

[@abigailbonilla3231]

I love this series, do more

[@giaparker9132]

i love this so muchhhhhh!!!!💕😭

[@teejoonie]

Just one word...beautiful 😍

[@zacharyhauge9056]

This is what I subscribe for. Thanks guys for being amazing :)

[@fatimaag6813]

This is beautiful. Thank you

[@wilfredasmat6717]

Jesus so heart felt and I can completely relate. This video helped me beyond words because I’m meeting up with my ex who completely destroyed me. But that ending song should be illegal. Please change it. It’s horrid.

[@Mandy4578]

This is really lovely! Seems like a very sweet guy!

[@ingi8268]

good video. Very good guy. Thanks for sharing that sir.

[@Jydp93]

Poor volume

[@monicasoular875]

This is Beautiful

[@skylarsa]

❤ this relates with me so well.

[@jfikri1]

Sometimes its better to go with the flow, let thing be.

[@green.tranquility]

what a great story teller

[@Notamousse]

This channel's amazing!

[@sashikantsingh1805]

That was really very good hats off sir ..........#sks

[@tramtranthanh9913]

accidentally call Pete Paul hahahahah relaaaatable

[@utopia5533]

I think I found my favorite new channel

[@mar-se3zd]

My jaw remains hanging open.

[@dhruvalpawar3030]

this girls escape tactics are A+

[@naithokjamatia3967]

I love he took their names

[@motionmix2523]

I love someone,.. I don't know whether she does.

[@guitarguinea1282]

LameCity she doesnt bro

[@shosha1771]

That left me speechless

[@jemilac1]

love this

[@ellam.5221]

This made me cry omg guys 😭

[@anamm3351]

I love this story

[@Doesch]

Awesome!

[@nbanda1000]

Sooo good!

[@gramps2matt]

That guys teeth are awesome. So perfect it's difficult to hear him relate such an intense relationship issue. It's like how can a guy with so much precise order and continuity get down on himself. My mouth is the total opposite of his so I can see why I have issues and disorder. It's a good lesson in not judging a book by its cover. Listen to what he says. Do not be distracted by the outward appearance of order.

[@Rebeccarealest]

Omg that was so unexpected. I am shook. Now I am gonna assume this video is some sort of sign 😂

[@quynhpham5512]

Yesss!!! So true

[@okaygworl]

loved this. wish i could send it to my ex

[@MissLuly9]

Hope I will be able to the same soon. Beautiful video

[@anaherrera4130]

Beautiful..... 🌸🌻🌹

[@theoriginaljean3917]

I'm snapping my fingers till tomorrow

[@WoodlandT]

I hope this is a true story.

[@MissCamilofsky97]

Wow. I cried

[@Cagneyy14]

why am i crying in the club rn

[@faridagohar6516]

Damn this is good

[@aaronjohnson4604]

thank you

[@analogdragon4709]

Sweet

[@kumarmithilesh1886]

It's the #greatest episode👍👍👍. But I can't take myself out of this kind of thing and I don't know how long it will take.

[@villainuday5365]

She didn't ask for it, her actions & attitude proved worse but I forgave her nevertheless.

[@andrewanane9715]

Abby's old relationship not boyfriend lol. Awesome video

[@FancyAthan]

Volume levels are crazy low in these videos. Slacking, audio team.

[@face-in-the-crowd]

When you take a nice big poo you don't reminisce about the meal you had, you flush it and move on.

[@fireblade08011971]

Now that’s funny 😂👍

[@monstersince]

drop it and move on

[@einewolkeimhimmel]

the music is way too loud for his calm voice. I really have to focus on it

[@joemunoz1476]

trippy..

[@gaminglegend]

They need a new Kid President!!!

[@loverofthetruth6085]

Sounds like a BS story to me. One of those made up folk tales meant to teach a lesson. I wouldn't have minded so much if you would have just told it for what it was--a moral tale, but when you try to pass it off as fact, you lose all credibility.

[@yota268]

I don't think so. Unless someone really hurt you and your angry. Sometimes there are people who we thought we love, gave us the ultimate betrayal. But whether your spiritual or not, forgiveness freed me, and great things have happened after I did that.

[@Sara.H.Hassan]

❤️❤️❤️

[@vasv1741]

U met ur nun at party or club u said ??? Haha

[@comingsoon9219]

Wtf i haven't found my ex yet

[@priya9194]

coming soon coming soon 😂😂😂

[@joyjoyoo]

I forgave him therefore I moved on.

[@carls7860]

Why did the new bf have to be called Pete?!?! My ex's name made the video a bit spiky for me...

[@gaminglegend]

Whatever happened to Kid President?