The 7 Commandments To A Successful Marriage - Ustadh Abu Taymiyyah

[@amatullahsu]

1# - 0:00 "Never does an individual disobey Allah with something except that Allah will use that to destroy him" - Be self-critical! 2# - 43:16 Do not run away from problems, do not jump to divorce 3# - 53:57 "When 2 people come to you to seek your judgment, don't pass a judgment until you hear the other individual out", "Both claimant and defendant (need to) sit in front of the judge" - there are 2 sides to every story! 💎 57:08 ~ "Speech like magic" 💎 59:59 ~ Lines of poetry: 'Do not press as much as you can, indeed the oppression will come back to haunt you..' 💎 1:02:06 ~ Hadith of Jabir Ibn Abdillah: "Iblis places his throne on the water.." 4# - 1:04:14 Do not compare your marriage to others', especially sisters.. 💎 1:07:10 ~ The wisdom of Ya'qub عليه السلام telling Yusuf عليه السلام not to tell his brothers about his dream. A private life is a happy life! 💎 1:08:40 ~ Cheerful on Snapchat, miserable in real life - Do not be fooled 5# - 1:13:25 Tit for tat - holding onto past mistakes.. 💎 1:14:00 ~ Statement by Ibn Al Qayyim: 'Indeed, between you and Allah are sins that no one knows except Allah...فإن الجزاء من جنس العمل' 6# - 1:17:58 Learn to have good thoughts about another 💎 1:18:06 ~ An Arab saying: 'Every individual looks at the other with the kind of individual he is' 💎 1:18:45 ~ Statement by Imam Ash-Shaafi'i: 'when a person's actions are evil, so are his assumptions' (paraphrased translation) 💎 1:22:06 ~ Statement by Ibn Al Qayyim: 'Whoever gives the people the benefit of the doubt...' 7# - 1:23:07 "And do not forget the bounty between one another ~ 2:237" 💎 1:23:33 ~ A lawyer on how to dodge divorce and fall in love over and over again: 'By reminiscing about the good times and accepting that everybody changes'. ADVICE: Sisters, make a list of all the good things about your husband and a list of all the bad things about the husband - Go Compare! ADVICE: Brothers, go through all the messages she sent you and send her screenshots - 'You really wanna divorce me?!' 💎 1:27:22 ~ Hadith: "One utters a single word and because of it a person is thrown into Hell Fire for 70yrs" CONCLUSION - 1:28:30 Brothers, 1. Being nice to your wife is not a weakness - Whaapsshhh 💎 1:31:15 ~ Showing love to your daughters, even your sisters 2. Stop expecting your wives to fund your lifestyle! 50/50 is not from Islam! 3. Be the bigger man Sisters, 1. Your tongue! Your tongue! Your tongue! 💎 1:37:28 ~ Statement by Shaykh Al Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah: 'If a woman has a sharp tongue, her days with her husband are numbered' 💎 1:37:55 ~ Hadith: "If a woman prays her 5 daily prayers...she will enter (the Jannah) from whichever door she wishes" 💎 1:40:29 ~ Where did the name 'Ibn Taymiyyah come from? His name is Ahmad Ibn AbdilHaleem.. Statement by Sh Ibn Al Uthaymeen - 1:42:07 'One should stay away from 6 types of women: 1. Annaanah - one that always complains 2. Mannaanah - one who always brings up favours she's done 3. Hannaanah - one who reminisces over her ex-husband and makes it apparent 4. Haddaaqah - one that does not lower her gaze of the worldly things, wants everything she sees 💎 1:44:46 ~ Take into consideration the lifestyle she comes from 5. Barraaqah - one who spends her whole day beautifying herself, becoming unnatural 6. Shaddaaqah - one who speaks all the time on things that are not beneficial' الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات P.S. Any gems you pick up in the first 45mins, let me know and I will add it.

[@ahmedrizwan7847]

May Allah bless you brother, jazakallah khair.

[@mahmoudismail7761]

May Allah reward you immensely in this life and in the next habibi. Ameen❤️

[@lavarball7538]

Bless you !

[@carridonn4149]

Man, your excerpts are fantabulosa. Allow me to take a screenshot. Allah reward you.

[@hafidhabithnillah]

Jazakallahu khair for these notes

[@MuhammadAkbarKhan]

Wallahi i have tears in my eyes i want the company of this brother and brothers like him

[@felizmann7076]

Love the lectures of Ustaz...he focuses on the current situation and does not beat around to bush to please her audience. His advice can save so many marriages in sha Allah.

[@ab5613]

I have been occupied with watching ustadhs videos all day. I have learnt so much today. JazakAllahu khair ustadh.

[@mihab4126]

Allahumabarek. A very needed reminder jazaka Allahu kheiran

[@wealthwisdom1656]

Ustadh is funny and doesn't even know it, barakallahfeekum

[@knucklehead4787]

Come on don't be rude. It's called humor.

[@aribrahim1898]

There's always truth in the highest level of humour.

[@salamabdulali7852]

MashaAllah may Allah put barakah in all your affairs ameen. And may Allah swt allow those who listen to receive the knowledge with ease ameen. This sounds like advice for all relationships not marriage alone. Super beneficial. This advice can be given to someone dealing with in-laws relatives or even parents. SubhanAllah super helpful JazackAllahKhair 🕊

[@ND-bb6ce]

Subhanallah....one of the best marriage lectures ive heard...

[@nassor6333]

Allah bless you my brother.

[@yalibana6172]

جزاكم الله خير الجزاء أخي وجميع الأخوة القائمين على هذه القناة المباركة وحفظكم ذخرا للاسلام و المسلمين

[@tarek399]

a breath of fresh air

[@farahashique6056]

Allah humma baarik dearest respected sheikh a very beneficial and educational lecture Alhamdulillah very much needed in our time beautiful reminders JazakAllahu khayrun wa Ahsanal jaza Allahu ilayk habibi 🤲💝🤝👆👍✌️💯💎

[@anthonyhead3330]

I love this brother May Allahu Ta’alaa Healthy so we can benefit Ameen

[@mojamj]

Subhan Allah!!! Love ❤️ you brother for the sake of Allahu swt!!! What a lecture!

[@helladepp7082]

🤣✌🏾me crying for a righteous husband lol ya you right brother great Dawah

[@Jamila.60]

😂😂

[@daebak_hana]

If everyone heed this advice there will be much less marital problems

[@YasminYoruba]

This was a really good lecture Mash’allah 🙏🏽

[@michaellouison]

MashaAllah beautiful lecture and a reminder too.

[@مريمنح]

والحمد لله بارك الله فيك اخي

[@jocelynburrell5079]

It makes women humble regardless how much or how little you are the man the head

[@alibaya-ye6hg]

May Allah bless you for your sincerity❤

[@sisterfleur7523]

Someone list them in the comments section please. I will watch the video later I promise, I have two babies 😭☺️. Barakallahu fik salam aleykoum

[@halimasultan03]

1. Preventing sins, sins take away blessings 2. Running away from your problems grass is not greener 3. Stop allowing shayateen of human beings to dictate your marriage

[@halimasultan03]

4. Stop comparing your marriage to others 5. Refrain from the constant tit for tat and holding on to past mistakes and flaws 6. Learn to have good thoughts of one another 7. Don't forget the good times you had together

[@sisterfleur7523]

@@halimasultan03 barakallahu fiki my dear beloved sister ❤️❤️❤️ may Allah reward you abundantly, ameen!

[@halimasultan03]

@@sisterfleur7523 ameen wa iyaki dear sister

[@-7x70]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Menses she has different emotions (one could be desire more at that time when it's not allowed. Her mind at that time no nonsense mold(a hug something sweet and salty knowing when it's coming bring the gift of patience doing a little extra.

[@feiruzahmed7524]

Assalamu aleykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu, jazakallahhu kheyr wabadal kheyr wajjanatu Firdaus.

[@Jay-bu9ms]

Allah bless you my brother

[@azizaahmad9249]

الحمد لله حاضر وجزاكم الله خيرا

[@bayaan0003]

1:29:38 lol. بارك الله فيك شيخنا

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Give him his rights while crying remember the inslaves and now seeing first freeded Muslims Bless to have a Muslim after the Prophets a blessing

[@ahlulim4669]

I’m tryna get married I’m 18 and in egypt but I’m broke. Imma keep it 100 I need me a wife while seeking knowledge studying and being around men hurting my head akhi

[@sisterfleur7523]

Go find a job, you have to have a job, any (halal) job. If you have a job then find a sister who is willing to make sacrifices and be by your side, they exist

[@ahlulim4669]

@@sisterfleur7523 can’t get a job out here. And it’s hard to find a remote in the US. You got any other advice??

[@nameusero-pq3sz]

Well u first need some type of income to provide for your wife as that is an obligation on you.Maybe you can learn a skill online that’ll make you money .Make duaa and tie your camel then inshallah everything will fall into place.

[@userunknown-lb8qw]

@@ahlulim4669 go back to us every summer, work and save a few thousand which should be more than enough to live off in Egypt and marry someone who also wants to study abroad

[@_Abdussalama]

بارك الله فيك

[@phoenixknight8837]

Jazakallahu khayr wa barakallahu feek!

[@mariyamabbasi3940]

love him mashaallah

[@UNKNOWNERROR-lo1tx]

Allahumma Barik

[@sarahgarrett1850]

Absolutely, As-Salaam Alaikum.🙏❤️🥰

[@ObeyDaqSwaqq]

12:15 I’m sorry, but as a non-Muslim, the guys at the weddings usually go after the bridesmaids or people in the wedding party, because for some reason, the members of the wedding party are really sl*tty and are super jealous of the bride subconsciously so they usually end up hooking up with the guys- especially groomsmen. If a Muslim woman goes to a non-Muslim wedding, it is not likely that somebody is going to approach her especially if she’s wearing hijab and covered from wrist above and ankle and above. Guys want to get there rocks off and they would automatically assume that it will be harder to do that with a woman who is dressed in a modest and conservative manner as opposed to one of the drunken bridesmaids or sl*tty cousins of the brides (ask any American about the female cousins of the brides, I thin’ it’s in our culture to invite sl*tty cousins to weddings for some reason). From a non-Muslim perspective, the biggest thing you should worry about if your Muslim wife goes to a wedding are the WOMEN not the men. Especially if there is alcohol bc in America the bridesmaids love to get drunk at the reception and become lesbians. I was recently invited to a wedding, and there are going to be activities that I particularly do not condone going on with the bridesmaids party (male strippers, drinking, “girls trips “ to Maine, etc) so while I am comfortable attending the wedding, I will not be doing any of the pre-wedding events with the Bride before hand. If a non-married Muslim woman goes to a non-Muslim wedding that could possibly be cause for concern because weddings tend to have the effect of enabling women to put themselves in the brides shoes, so she may have visions of dressing like the bride, and maybe even consider marrying a non-Muslim man for this reason. I do agree that there are valid concerns for different religions attending weddings for one another, however, I don’t know that these particular concerns that are mentioned are relevant. I’m American and I got invited to an African wedding when I was really young and for the last 12 years I have envisioned having an African wedding. Never even touched Africa in my whole life but this Nigerian wedding was so amazing that over a decade later, when I consider getting married, this is what I envision- that is the worry you should have when it comes to Muslim women going to weddings. Trust me, I’ve been a woman for 24 years and I sell candles for weddings and events. I’ve never seen any Muslim woman leave with a man who isn’t her husband 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MadLokey]

What is the book that change your life title

[@Muban269]

Good lecture

[@SuliatAbisolaAjoke]

AstGhafurrullah wa atubu ilayi

[@ShirazDole]

Mashallah

[@sanderossi8013]

How can I donate for Pakistan brother? In the film you said stop and donate, but I cannot find a link in the description. Dyazak Allah kheir

[@jocelynburrell5079]

He didn't go to a club or women he knew before Islam

[@ismailharun7125]

Masha Allah

[@abdaalahmad5483]

Wasn't this uploaded yesterday?

[@bayaan0003]

Yes, but it wasn’t on his channel

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Sharp or living or truthful must understand which

[@StrifeReacts]

What was the book he was talking about? At the beginning that changed his life

[@shamayasmin1]

Spiritual disease and it's cure

[@Kichidakatsumi]

الداء و الدواء

[@faseero7097]

Salam alikoum, ... in wich mosque give he those lecture please ? thanks

[@dayan47]

Brother, never say marriage is a blessed sacrament...this is Catholic dogma. They say there are 7 sacraments, one of which is marriage. It is an excuses to have a priesthood as all 7 must be administered by a priest. We have no such thing in Islam.

[@ashwz0420]

can someone post the link to the telegram group i don’t see it anywhere

[@nameusero-pq3sz]

It’s usually on his Instagram story or ustadh imran story

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Fear of the Hell Fire to start with understanding you are protectors of each other( its like b÷ingredients a baby sitter for each other.

[@SudaneseChamp]

Link to charity?

[@93boxing81]

Any recommendations when wife is being disobedient.

[@abdulwadood.8]

i have some questions, regarding these topics and similar can someone please let me know where I can get answers from someone qualified

[@jocelynburrell5079]

The seal of Prophets warn What would happend now Children in confusion what road what taught from Parent that except the Quran or the Parent who have in mind 2hearts Quran you have one heart you will one road or the other and hate the Creator and his Angel who brought the guildance and the seal of Prophets pbuh

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Oppression (bully ) worst then slaughter

[@carridonn4149]

What's the telegram link please?

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Secret marriages? What is secret Interludes.

[@TheBusyTryHard]

✅

[@zahidaroshanali7922]

May I ask which masjid this please as i would like to attend if possible in’shaa’Allah

[@heretoseekknowledge1817]

Al furqan Hounslow

[@mahmoudismail7761]

TW3 2AD Masjid al-Furqan

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Can a women get Magic to make a Man all of a sudden hate his family for another ?

[@sweetmuskaan]

No, the consequences of using magic are severe

[@shirleycasuse001]

💜💛👍

[@Bushido2505]

☝🏽🤲🏽❤

[@Sharukh-ze4dh]

Whats the ustads full name

[@princessdaphne444]

abu taymiyyah mohammed jeylaani

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Most time women talks over and over because the same issus never dealt with added to yrs of unhealthy issuses

[@Sharukh-ze4dh]

Whats collecting the sins of sufyan althwri??

[@trickystuff5972]

Seeking out his mistakes.

[@TheBusyTryHard]

Sss

[@jocelynburrell5079]

Get another wife it is Lawful. Before leaving a family standard.

[@Illyrian_Warrior]

Did he say you should never divorce a women when she is on her mensis? 51:00 Quran:65:1: O Prophet! If any of you divorce women, divorce them during their period of purity, and calculate their term. And be pious before God, your Lord. And do not evict them from their homes, nor shall they leave, unless they have committed a proven adultery. These are the limits of God-whoever oversteps God's limits has wronged his own soul. You never know; God may afterwards bring about a new situation. 65:4: As for those of your women who have reached menopause, if you have any doubts, their term shall be three months-and also for those who have not menstruated. As for those who are pregnant, their term shall be until they have delivered. Whoever fears God-He will make things easy for him. The Quran clearly says you can divorce only when she is menstruating and if she is not menstruating you have to wait 3 months and if she is pregnant until she give birth.

[@oshuunadeem]

What? Where did you get this from?

[@user-om7wz9nj6i]

You misunderstood. The sheikh is saying do not divorce a woman when she is ON her period, meaning the menstrual cycle. He is not referring to menstruation in the general sense. The ayahs you brought up are good but you misunderstood the point the sheikh was making, divorcing a woman while she is on her period is haram and is considered innovative divorce.

[@Illyrian_Warrior]

@@user-om7wz9nj6i But the Quran is saying to divorce during that period. Is it just me or do you guys have mental issues?

[@liby254]

please delete this comment, as you are clearly speaking without KNOWLEDGE!!!

[@Illyrian_Warrior]

@@haiqah4856 I like to share with you a verse that might be relevant to you. 9:31: They have taken their rabbis and their priests as lords instead of God - the verse continues. There are so many Muslims around the world who have fallen into the same trap as the Jews and Christians did before them. Instead of reading the Quran they only follow their Sheikhs even if they contradict the Quran.

[@m.a1153]

😂😂👍👆

[@AkM-bt6xp]

As-salamu alaykum does any brothers know how to contact ustad by number or email obviously not put in comments maybe a link. Jazakallah khair Barakallahu feek

[@hamzanocap]

If you are in Leicester, it is best to come and visit him in person. Masjid Furqan in particular.

[@AkM-bt6xp]

@@hamzanocap Jazakallah khair Barakallahu feek. I'm from a different city will u have full address off masjid

[@hamzanocap]

@@AkM-bt6xp In an area called St Mathews right by the city centre, Leicester LE1 2HX

[@userunknown-lb8qw]

@@AkM-bt6xp or Quba masjid in le1 too