The Average Time to Ejaculation Based on Science & Ways to Improve it

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Are you tired of feeling embarrassed or frustrated by premature ejaculation? Do you wish you could last longer in bed and satisfy your partner like never before? Well, you're in luck because, in this video, we'll share with you some valuable tips for men looking to improve their ejaculation time and enhance their sexual performance.
Watch this video till the end and let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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*References:
Canadian and American Sex Therapists' Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies: How Long Should Intercourse Last?
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The Psychological Burden of Premature Ejaculation doi.org/10.1016/j.juro.2006.1...
A Multinational Population Survey of Intravaginal Ejaculation Latency Time
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A Five-Nation Survey to Assess the Distribution of the Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time Among the General Male Population
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00:00 Intro
00:22 Ejaculation Basics
01:16 Average time to Ejaculation
02:10 How long do women want it to last?
02:50 Issues that may arise
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05:46 Conclusion
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[@RenaMalikMD]

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[@avtandildevdariani4630]

That’s not for education purposes..you are trying to pervert people..someone we laugh about my comment but look at these kissing scenes. There is no necessity to include that kind of scenes

[@Dave-rz9vz]

I tried this and the smell was terrible. Like very chemically and toxic, which was a major turn off. Is this normal?

[@barneyrubble1431]

I think you just want, so it lasts long enough for you, so you can get there, suck an eat the come,,like wow! its going to go to waste in the atmosphere,, LOL you're not going to swallow my come ! LOL have a nice day 😜

[@robphoenix1182]

Quick question hopefully not seen as trying to get free medical advice. If you prefer not to respond, understandable. Reaching out because I'm unsure if this has been addressed yet. What if you last too long? Now, I have noticed frequency with myself, when decreased helps. Is it possible to do that way too much? I saw your video on it being fine and all. I wouldn't say I have a chronic issue either though. It highly stems from lack of a partner and that feeling of being alone. Ok stats: 2 to 3 times a day with myself. If with a partner without stopping myself about 45 minutes to 2 hours can happen. If I stop with myself about 15 to 20 minutes. Although try a 2nd time after that initial, it goes back to the fore mentioned cycle. If this it too random with a study or something understood. If you think I should talk to a doctor about it, please let me know.

[@barneyrubble1431]

after reading a few of the comments, I don't want to know anymore about other people,, I account before my dick even has a chance to get hard lol 😂☝️ I had a superintendent boss his name was Dick,! on a construction job once,, I couldn't even talk to him because of being afraid of addressing him with an insult,, LOL!!!!!!! maybe someday my dick will get hard first then I will come?/the truth is that it used to be a really big hard on, but I beat it up and broke it, it doesn't want to come out and play anymore 😭

[@zoomingby]

If your partner berates you because you have an issue finishing too soon, find a better partner.

[@cali2468]

What sense does that make? The next woman is going to complain about the same. No woman wants a one minute man.

[@MikeG82]

@@cali2468 a healthy guy can go again within an hour, would it kill you ladies to actually have some empathy? God knows you demand we have empathy for you

[@headlibrarian1996]

@@cali2468 True, but from the video women want a 14 minute man, which is rather unreasonable. Intercourse for a man then becomes an act of managing his arousal level to meet her expectations, and not much else.

[@cali2468]

@@headlibrarian1996 Well most women take longer to reach their climax. Would you want a woman to get hers and an be done before you got yours? It's either you have it in your or you don't. But if you do not then expect it to be an issue.

[@bf1lv]

I've had partners berate me because I lasted too long or didn't get off at all. You can't win.

[@warriorbeast1998]

I still said it bases on the woman you're with❤

[@ileyoruba6884]

Agreed

[@redditchrc960]

Correct 💯

[@junboo8730]

Oh yes. True words.

[@barfuss2007]

100% true

[@2Cruz808]

Absolutely!

[@hulkcarranza8583]

The 5 stroke special is undefeated

[@user-yw3dw6pi4p]

Relax boys , we are singles

[@rafaelr5243]

It all depends on how often you have sex. Once a week and you'll fire one off super fast. But if you do it every day then you'll last longer.

[@soliniv1411]

This man speaks facts, the more often you do it the more you lose the sensation and can last way longer, tried and true

[@MotivatedNurse]

True that

[@davidtuer5825]

@@soliniv1411 But then it's not so much fun and becomes hard work.

[@txrick4879]

After doing it for 45 years it takes longer if you still can .

[@yamadog24]

What if you're married? Then you never have sex. When and if you do, maybe a minute or two? 😮😂

[@thedude8526]

I remember one of my gfs asked why I got tired after 60 seconds to 2 minutes of pumping in one position. I asked her to try it and see how difficult it is. Her arms got tired after 20 seconds. I dont think woman realize how much work a man puts in and how sometimes that can affect how hard you stay. At some point, all that cardio is going to make that little guy go flaccid.

[@mjk9388]

Thank you pointing this out.

[@graguitar6493]

But the more you bone em, the better your cardio. And I think guys put too much emphasis on banging as hard and fast as they can instead of developing a marathon runners beat. I never hit full throttle anymore. Even when my ho is huffing out she's on the climb, I stick to my solid slam as it will definitely blast the O out of them. My biggest issues with that is sometimes I focus to intensely on my woman's pleasure that I get to close to the point of nut and have to hold back. That can upset the lady but fortunately if you can get your sensors in control quick enough and get the steady beat happening again, she'll still blast off

[@jimmym3352]

I friggin hurt my back doing it a few months ago. Still not healed (I'm not that young anymore). It certainly depends on the position. Missionary isn't easy to sustain for any decent length of time (even if I'm propping myself with my forearms). Doggy style I can definitely do for a long time, but not a lot of women like this position.

[@thedude8526]

@Jimmy M I've been there man. I'm 37 now. I'm no spry chicken anymore either. Back injuries take way too long to heal.

[@graguitar6493]

@@jimmym3352 really? I find it's the 2nd favourite for a girl after cowgirl

[@maroonburgundy5720]

Sometimes early ejaculation isn't caused by any dysfunction, but rather by what I call the dilemma of catch-22 vagina. There are three features that make a perfect vagina: 1). tight, 2). warm, and 3). moist or slippery, but the problem with this perfect vagina is that it doesn't allow for any delay of or control over ejaculation. It's so delicious feeling that it makes the guy (speaking for myself) hopeless and helpless and then let it go.

[@roscoep4850]

also 4. New and fresh. New is a major factor. I can get down in the 20-30 second range. LMAO

[@playthegame7445]

The reason for ED is a few things, one lack of testosterone (stamina), 2nd your blood flow is out of wack, u can tell that by how strong ur immune system is (how easy u get ill) 3rd off the pipes that channels through the blood in the pen**is it's sort of blocked with all the residuals from vitamin. If u eliminate those 3steps u can see how well ur d gonna last and work.

[@kymaniredfern4837]

This is a fact ✨🤌,bc not every female 🙏🏿 is like that.

[@alooga555]

Many Asian girls check all three features.

[@murdamechanik]

Even the lidocaine sprays doesn’t work when you jiggling breast in your face. I’m like baby i will get you next round.

[@duanehellier]

I find that time between sexual encounters greatly influences the time it takes to ejaculate, and I am pretty sure that is common. More frequent sexual encounters usually translates into longer time to ejaculation. Also pushing against the pelvic floor muscles (like you're pooping, but not quite to that point) helps delay it for me and some men I have talked with. Conversely, tightening them (like you're holding back poo) helps make it happen quicker for me and some men. It also just depends on the partner. I had one I couldn't last longer than a couple minutes, excluding foreplay, and it did have an impact on my confidence and self-perception. Then I had a partner that I lasted at least 20 minutes every time. I still can't explain the difference, especially since I was more attracted to the one I lasted longer with. But I think it's important for guys to talk about. We can help each other out by offering suggestions, which can hopefully help build confidence. I can tell you every time I have been honest with another guy about my inadequacies, he has admitted a time where he too experienced it. I suspect we all have.

[@amiga2025]

How to measure time in Bananas.

[@duanehellier]

@Genesis Amadeus are you ok, dude? Not sure what you're trying to say. Do you need help?

[@bobrosson5251]

@@amiga2025about 5 bananas i think

[@cbatiau2528]

Right… if I go 1-2 months without ejaculating, I find that I will typically ejaculate in 30-60 seconds after vaginal entry with no foreplay… but when having sex twice a day, it can take 1-2 hours to ejaculate

[@MiguelMedV]

Good to hear all that! Also it makes sense because Kegel exercises, where you tighten up the pelvic floor muscles to strengthen them, are prescribed to men with erectile disfunction 😯👍🏼...

[@itwiznaemeitwizumin4655]

It also matters how attractive your partner is, it takes me 3 hours with my wife but only 7 minutes with my neighbour. 😂

[@Hadrian77]

💀

[@ShiningT34r]

Vod where?

[@Sagittarius-88]

LMMFAOOOOOOOOO! 😂😂😂😂

[@DAVID-nd5vp]

true

[@davidtuer5825]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@fernandesl]

I can't believe I got tricked into watching the longest ad of my life

[@dredoravens]

Ads should be separated from the content. I like your videos thank you the ads effect your credibility a little. I do enjoy the way you address sensitive topics in a clear yet clinical manner. Thank you!

[@peterpan408]

So you can skip them?

[@sensationaldenny]

Most men aren't even having sex these days, lets fix that problem first

[@alokmurmu7682]

What makes you think of what you say.....

[@bensmith4563]

@@alokmurmu7682 there are studies that say that

[@pb65preet]

😂😂😂😂

[@LoneLee2022]

Costs too much money.

[@joseayala8506]

Because now we’re being taken over by the pronoun crowd and getting harder to tell who’s a woman and who’s a tranny.

[@aaronclements4327]

Also, I found a difference between continuous stroke as opposed to switching positions multiple times. Switching really can add time but throw her off.

[@oldesalt10310]

Keep the juices flowing! Love your work doc!

[@peterlelievre3724]

I wish you were in the area that i live in. Being an older gentleman in my 70's I've learn more about male health issues than all the doctor's I've seen in the Boston area, I have a primary care women doctor that i go to for my yearly checkup and when it comes to male health issues she sends me to another doctor which is ok by me because i'm not too comfortable having a doctor that is about 35 years younger than me check my male anatomy. but you seem confident about talking and explaining everything about the male anatomy that even my male doctor doesn't go over all the things you cover in your youtube videos. Thanks for what you do!! Wish your office was closer to the Boston area. Thanks Again!

[@Shane2020xxx]

Whoa, I am noticing and liking the upgrade in terms of production values! Stock footage, 3D models of body systems, it’s looking good!

[@monsterpatbro1041]

The easy solution is that she need to put out more. If she only want once a week it will be quick. If your doing it 5-7 times a week with some round 2s you will last longer.

[@dineshdarai297]

u r absolutely right😆😆

[@steven926]

Facts

[@Erideah]

Uh your hand is available in between, y'know. Sex drive is something you really can't force

[@graguitar6493]

I gave up shaggin that many times of week a year or so ago as I found as I'm in my 50s if I do this regularly, within 3 weeks or so I just had no libido left and needed to have a break. 4 times a week within 2 days seems perfect to me these days

[@ViPER5RT10]

@@Erideah ok but then he gets bitched at by the wife/gf. Or he gets called weak, loser, etc etc etc. Men can’t win.

[@miboxcmpinto4977]

Ah!... This is a spray ad...

[@DarkCreed]

Depends what's on your mind, the woman or the bills that still need paying.

[@RatelHBadger]

The bills would definitely help last longer

[@oby-1607]

The faster I go, the faster things happen and its over. If I go slower and think about it, hours can go by. Literally. It seems to be more controlled by how aroused I am mentally. Yet on some times, things can go off in just a few strokes. Its never a set time. How I feel mentally and how tired or rested make huge differences.

[@positivelynegative9149]

Guys, don't get hung up on lasting longer. It isn't necessarily better. I can last 15 minutes, but then I can't climax, which ruins the experience for both of us.

[@HerveBoisde]

Same here. Women get really insecure if you last too long or horror, don’t 💦

[@guanciale8815]

@@HerveBoisde I agree. My gf says that she gets sad sometimes when I take too long. She feels like she can't arouse or pleasure me well enough to get me to finish early

[@rollotomasislawyer3405]

That weird did the Viagra wear off?

[@dennis3351]

@Positively Negative. Seems that wouldn't prevent her from climax only you. How does that then ruin it for her?

[@positivelynegative9149]

@@dennis3351 Trust me. If the guy doesn't climax, there's big potential for awkwardness. It could be for a variety of reasons.

[@markkraft6719]

I enjoy your content a lot! You are easy to listen to, and you make great points! Thank you!

[@ryanreedgibson]

For me, delaying it for as long as possible, makes it feel better. Also increases refraction.

[@mopar_dude9227]

Lately for me, it depends on if my arm gets tired or not. But usually it would depend on who I was with and what we were doing before we actually started having intercourse. I had some partners that would just tease the crap out of me and have long periods of foreplay that could cause the duration to be rather short. And sometimes it would be very short if we only had time for a quickie, but in those instances we both would get off rather quick and be satisfied. I really depends on what your mindset is at the time, and if both of you are in sync with each other sexually. And even with the same partner, it can vary greatly. I once went from one relationship where the woman liked to have crazy, fast and hard sex that seldom lasted but 5 minutes, to a woman that liked hours worth. The first one would always climax, and seemed to really get off on making me climax so quickly. When I first had sex with my new partner, it was very difficult to last more than 10 minutes. But after a couple of times, we were in sync with each other and would go hours at a time.

[@Blackstallion007]

Wow. Great Read btw. Thank You. Seriously. - here's what I have to say about all of that: this IS EXACTLY WHY I always tell other Men / Dudes listen Ok if your deciding to Marry, get married, find a Bride, Break up/ Split Apart. go Separate Ways, Cheat(ing) Side Woman , 2nd / 3rd / 4th / 5th Gf - S.O. etc etc. whatever your twist is. lol the SEX you were / are having with the "CURRENT WOMAN" is NOT going to be the SAME. Not thousands but Millions of Guys / Men F**k this part up all the time. and there are guys who were Sex Machines ,..then they stay with " her " this girl who's sex drive / level is below sub - par and its NOT really worth. but they Feel it is. ( again imo as a friend. because we KNOW our FRIENDS, Associates ) sometimes better then they know themselves. moving along soo you get sexually involved with her and what happens ?? = you don't have to NO Effort in your "SEX" , "Coupling" , etc this plays a very STRONG POINT when it comes to sexuality between partners. and i know this is mostly Hetero-sexual Couples talk but this is for everyone. regardless who your involved with - always Stay on TOP of your "A" game. no matter what. I've seen men who' ve been with there ladies for many Many Moons ago. then there's the "Breakup" / "the Split" / " the argument " / " we need some time apart " / " she's sleeping with dude at work " , etc etc all of that. he get's himself out there and tries to "get it back in" but he can't all he knows is SEX with her and the style, motion, the pivot, the emotional factors, the likes / the dislikes / the type of penetration ,etc everything ......then get disappointed when things don't' go the way they want it to. you have to stay in relatively Decent Shape. Health Living. Eat Right. Mind Right. then go into a "Quiet Place" to Practice - Train your body Differently sexually. I helped out a buddy years ago with this. I spoke with him about "lasting longer" because that was an ISSUE . apparently An issue to him (according to him) he'd tell me. when she' sitting there taking of her panties and he's ready to go....then he penetrates and he said brother. I'll stroke like ........ 5 - 6 times then he Ejaculates. usually inside her. (which I further explained - your an idiot - however in a friendly manner. lol ) but he got some of it. I told him about "Breathing - Proper Breathing" . spoke with him about Contractions, Spasms, Control of being Excited / Excitability, the Magic of Edging.(this is before everyone got hooked on it. I Was Edging before the Internet told Men to do this) no seriously I was. I told him a "educative manner" about all these things. u know men have "hang-ups about sexuality" and Social Hang ups about sexuality's. lol tis true we all do. but some of us. are better at Educating ourselves about it better then other's that Me & You Friend. God Speed. Salute'

[@BobRoss-wm3lc]

@@Blackstallion007explain the breathing part

[@stevesnider6817]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@arifabd]

What is your body count, dude ?

[@eratera5836]

Don't forget to use your left had to give yourself the stranger.

[@itt2055]

From all the different studies that I have seen over the past 30 years sexual enjoyment is 70% mental and 30% physical. Your mental state is more important than the physical act. Both men and women can reach climax without any physical contact. Your mind controls your body and everything that your body experiences is because of the release of chemicals in the brain that are created by electrical pulses. The swapping of chemicals during physical contact does affect the activity of the brain, increasing the enjoyment and bond between the people involved. Any changes to the brains chemistry affects the way you think, feel, act and react and every encounter is different because you are not the same person today that you were yesterday and you will be a different person tomorrow, as you gather different experiences your perception changes and your response to those experiences change. There is still more that we don't know about the human body than what we know, but we humans are still a primitive species and are controlled by our instincts rather than rational thought.

[@puppyupper4565]

Absolutely. unfortunately I married a girl who just wasn't into me. And I love giving a girl an orgasm. But for me, it was always so disappointing that often I could not orgasm after even an hour. But with my first wife we generally went about 20 minutes.

[@Blackstallion007]

@@puppyupper4565 Sad. damn. but this is True. that Bond that connection. it needs to be there. it has to be. impulses, excitement , fondness, foreplay, thoughts , emotions are 1 etc etc.

[@davidtuer5825]

Why is it always the man's problem? In spite of 40 years of feministic propaganda about equality, it's still something that we do to the woman. If we don't get it right, at least to her satisfaction, it's our fault.

[@thedude8526]

Bro, I don't know a single man that can bust a nut from just positive or erotic thoughts. Not unless you're a teenage boy with raging hormones. I need some actual contact and some sense of desire for me to finish. I've been with beautiful woman that just laid there and didn't act the least bit interested. Safe to say I was limp quickly. Then I've been with very average woman but they were all over me so it went much better. While I agree there is a mental aspect, I think most men are visual and touch oriented compared to woman.

[@AR7271]

It's the same for me. If you can sense that she's not really into you it's difficult to finish.

[@shawnsitter5390]

Watching this video made me feel like an absolute stud

[@emmanuelzozobrado5981]

psychology plays a big part rena

[@John-dt4bi]

So interesting. Dr. Rena is the best-Love her.

[@Thatdeal79]

No need to be embarrassed when you realize most animals last under 10 seconds.

[@shospulecolupis9718]

Most animals are driven very strongly to just finish. Men, while also having that intense drive can never the less slow down and make it more enjoyable for all involved.

[@Rampart.X]

Elephants are remarkably fast. Our culture (American in particular) has, unfortunately, turned this into a problem.

[@basnetgl]

You have the wildest videos around. Thanks for sharing!

[@JimChrystal]

Great Video Dr Reena

[@SamSamSamJ]

You can have a couple, married or not that's been together for years not able to communicate. Communication is key.

[@sanchosantaana2170]

Based on my personal studies 15 minutes is slowly but surely 😊

[@Argiopocalypse92]

I have varied as a man quite greatly in lasting power even with the same woman under the same circumstances. In fact when I lost my virginity it was quite quick, and the very next time with that same girl, I couldn't even finish for a significant time longer. I also feel that this had something to do with being anxious or nervous, as I was young and inexperienced.

[@scottpierson4627]

We discovered with me that I actually did have an issue based on my medications I was taking. If I managed to factually stay erect, I’d fire off within 30 seconds at times. We both didn’t have very many partners in life, and married late, so sometimes I feel it’s been a different journey. Coupled the fact that my wife had to get a hysterectomy last year, things have changed for the better! So the crazy thing with us is, I do have a med I pop for when we know we’re going to get frisky. But ever since the wife’s surgery, we had more frequency and longer sessions, and we’ve even gotten more experimental positionwise. So I think we had a lot more going on. So I think it does taking the time to talk it out, get external help (with a provider or even videos like this) to get it on.

[@bengonzalez8706]

Thank you Dr. Malik, you saved me lots of headaches, because I am always looking for ways to satisfy my partner...

[@suntanglory]

Lovely Dr Rena! ❤🙏

[@uhsemehicieronlas3]

Love the thumbnail, kinda artsy

[@brianbhagwandass781]

you teach me so much and dont have to feel alone

[@albertusvanlubeeck9161]

The most important part is talking to your partner to see what they want/need (this is something that can change over time too). Unlike males, females come in a wide variety of desires. Your style might be perfect for one and horrible for another.

[@graguitar6493]

Dam oath man. I find this mostly with eating pussy. Some girls are pushing me head off it in less than a minute and others I can practically pull a muscle in my tongue to get em off and some just straight out can't. Especially those who have de-sensitized themselves with vibrators

[@billgreen5490]

Great idea, but what do you do when she won't even tell you what feels good to her. She has asked what my thoughts and fantasies are and I told her in vivid detail. When I asked her what her thoughts and fantasies are, she says, "I don't know, I really don't want to talk about it."

[@MommaARA]

@@billgreen5490 The answer is take the time to build more trust. She may have been told by someone else her thoughts and fantasies are boring or wrong. She may have been raised to feel ashamed about her own. Usually it comes from a place of fear. So next time you are together ask her one thing she wants you to do to her and have her guide you in how to do it. Then do exactly without hesitation what she is wanting. Over time she will start to trust her secrets with you more and feel more comfortable telling you knowing you won't make fun of her or worse just not do it. Her confidence in being satisfied took a hit somewhere in the past. A bit of heart to heart might help. Also, giggles, a sneaky way to get her more open to things is just randomly grabbing her up in a passionate kiss and getting all handsy then letting her go. lol surprises are fun.

[@jackasspatriot5846]

This is true

[@oftin_wong]

Males come in a wide variety of styles as well

[@jennahaze6835]

I have hyperspermia when watching you doctor so i keep going and going and going

[@AP-vg3nr]

Lots of variables can affect a man’s time-to-orgasm, but learning to control your pelvic floor muscles is the single most important thing a man can do to hold it off and keep going longer. Alternate kegels and reverse kegels to change the energy flow as you feel yourself getting close. Practice, and you can achieve great things.

[@rashidhumine]

Round 2 exists guys, maybe even a Round 3 if you have the energy 😉

[@Cartier_specialist]

I noticed that refractory time was absent from the discussion.

[@paarker]

Motivation*. I’m married.

[@BigSlimyBlob]

@@Cartier_specialist Isn't refractory time mostly a myth? I hear it can happen when you're older, but I'm in my mid-forties already and it actually takes much, much less time to ejaculate on subsequent times than it takes on the first.

[@frederic6998]

It's not about energy. I can run a marrathon but can't get it hard for a second round.

[@BigSlimyBlob]

@@frederic6998 Very true, physical endurance and sexual endurance are completely separate things. I get completely out of breath jogging for 30 seconds, but I can jerk nonstop for hours and climax multiple times during that time.

[@nickfallon81]

It depends on the woman definitely and also training in the gym and training the pelvic floor muscles greatly improved my self control. I was in a relationship with a woman that was boring so I was bored and I two pumped her constantly. Next relationship I love her to bits and she gives as much as she receives and I can control myself as long as I want it’s brilliant!!! I have always concentrated on my girls pleasure but if they put in no effort I wont!

[@sgtmike5060]

I hate how much i feel this comment

[@wahabssskhan]

You used any veagra

[@nilsfrederking62]

The starfish.... Yes, sex is communication (nonverbal of course), so both have to contribute to make it interesting.

[@nickfallon81]

@@wahabssskhan no I am barred I used once

[@ronjoseph7973]

At 72, it’s a lot longer than when I was in my 20’s. I have learned to control the time to a degree, but if it happens sooner than planned I don’t fight it. It gives me more time to focus on my wife who achieves climax 99% of the time with the use of a clitoral stimulator. We’ve been married for 40 years and our sex life is better than ever since we are both comfortably retired. I’ve also been taking injectable TRT (.7cc testosterone cypionate 200 mg/ml every 10 days), since I was diagnosed with hypogonadism 20+ years ago. TRT has numerous benefits beyond just a heathy libido. Just make sure it’s done under close medical supervision work with bloodwork every 4-6 months to measure PSA (which is going to be elevated with TRT) as well as your hemoglobin and hematocrit. Only occasionally do I need to use Viagra which usually gives me a “hangover.”

[@zyzzsdisciple4956]

rock on old man!

[@dhalsim-1]

Legend

[@ETFsinner]

You must be Gigachads father. Gigapops

[@jmr1068204]

Here's hoping that continues into 80's and 90's for you. Age is but a number.

[@widehotep9257]

Congrats! I would consider splitting that TRT dose to .35 cc every 3 to 5 days if I were you. Otherwise you'll get big highs and lows of your T levels. A lot of guys do .3 to .4 cc every 3.5 days with excellent results.

[@slackthompson6984]

good job on a sensitive subject

[@vl4394]

I find that it's a primarily dopaminergic process and has to do with degree of integration between the unconscious, conscious, and senses. there seems to be a role for circulating non-chgelated nitric oxide. If you've flooded the brain with dopamine, or if you've desensitized it, for example with phenylethylamine, salsolinol, sugar, whatever, it'll take forever to orgasm and there's a lot of control by focusing on the sensation. However if you're depleted and have a high amount of sensory integration, as in your body and mind are creating you rather than the other way around, it happens quickly. If you get to the point however and then stop, it allows for disintegration, which creates the prior state. This is poorly explained but that's how I think of it.

[@AccentBwoy]

Hard to last long when u very sensitive

[@jeromelove1284]

You not having sex alot..the more you have it the less sensitive you become.

[@AccentBwoy]

​@jeromelove1284 nah that doesnt work

[@naldorey4104]

11 mins is the golden time!

[@breadave]

Great info!

[@flowerpt]

Many women dig a multi-hour romp in the moment but then complain the next day about too much rearranging. You'll have to learn what works for each person.

[@rambobrown9661]

In my circumstances, it really depends on so many things, but mostly my mood controls it. I can go as fast as 5 mins and last as long as 1 hr if i'm really in the mood. But it is true that most of the women enjoys bout half n hour past that they just done.

[@ozramblue117]

Hey just a point here, if you’re not lasting long enough then there’s a good chance you’re not really doing it right and lasting longer isn’t your main issue. Communicate with your partner, find out what she likes and how. Once your focus is more on mutual pleasure how long you last becomes an after thought. I can generally last as long as I like and have to figure out how long she wants me to last. If I have to think about any advice to last a bit longer then maybe learn where your point of no return is. You can do this through edging. It can be fun to learn this with your partner. Don’t take yourself too seriously or the sex. Have fun!

[@vf12497439]

The older I get the longer it takes. My gorgeous girlfriend is 50 years old and like me we’re not kids anymore. I cant rush things and 20 minutes is my average. I wish I could go faster because I’m at risk of a cramp at all times over 10 minutes😅

[@adjusted-bunny]

I am using the Lidocaine spray rectally and I have tremendous results.

[@evictioncarpentry2628]

Abstinence is the new lasting longer

[@corporaterobotslave400]

The second time lasts a lot longer than the first, usually ime. Keep it going.

[@9shazad]

Semen retention is the best 💪🏽💪🏽

[@vaalarivan_p]

how many are watching this from their college dorm🤣

[@og-big-shepherd4468]

Based on what I have watched, I'm pretty sure your partner is the happiest person on Earth!!! Thank you for educating me. I'm 40 and dealing with ED so I'm trying to find ways to get back to my old self. Never thought I would end up this way but I am on psych meds and wonder if they are interfering with my libido. Only time will tell. Thank you!

[@aviz213]

Psych medicine can intefer with sexual health from ED to no sexual desires at all. I ll suggest to openly discuss it with your doctor

[@Dream-xv9su]

Its all in your head.If you control the excitement you can elongate.

[@josephmauvais5500]

The solutions are quite simple. You need to recognize the feeling of the point of no return and STOP pumping before you reach that point. Whether that means changing positions, going in for slow/passionate close-quarters combat, or pulling out entirely is up to you. The goal is to reduce speed and friction while making sure your soldier still has one left in th chamber. You can always build back up to the feeling of it. Other things that can help are: handling business while standing up (It's harder to run out of bullets on your feet than if you were prone or on your back), wrapping up your gun can reduce sensitivity to make you last longer (condoms), and firing that weapon more frequently (more sex or masturbation)

[@johnthonig1692]

I have a 36 inch single shot Winchester

[@Tashyncho-Sapa]

the solution is, if the woman isn't how you last longer, if the woman is very hot you don't last long

[@JohnSmith-xx9th]

@@johnthonig1692Pump or auto?

[@johnthonig1692]

@@JohnSmith-xx9th Single shot long barrel

[@KpxUrz5745]

Dr Malik has a wonderful way of discussing such delicate issues in an open and honest manner. She is just the best!

[@davidtuer5825]

Perhaps she could add a bit of personal experience, this isn't a science lesson after all.

[@user-ty1cl5sk2x]

Yes I was thinking the same if maybe you the beautiful doctor cathought and expertize perhaps with a sex toy and maybe even another female please demonstrate your t

[@user-ty1cl5sk2x]

Stop telling us and please just show us

[@iBcv_Dubs]

as always, phenomenal work. These times all seem high.... 🤣🤣

[@shibatron5392]

It can be really annoying and embarrassing at times but with an understanding partner and finding other methods it can work

[@Nando_]

find her pace and you won't be at your pace... your preferred pace it's your enemy on that moment

[@ashhenderson9460]

I often find I get physically tired before anything else by having intercourse in a "hard and fast" manner; granted my SSRI meds causes delay with ejaculation generally. I find this side to be an issue personally, I'm neither particularly fit nor unfit either.

[@Frosty3055]

please do a video on Extreme Post/Non Ejaculatory Issues

[@MrNubDanish]

I'm glad I skipped ahead to see it's just an ad for a spray

[@jackdolphy8965]

Gotta love that Canadian sex therapist's reaction to being on camera

[@bobbryant4292]

Surprised at these figures, i can usually last as long or go quickly, just depends on what we want at the time, i assumed this control was normal

[@2roly2]

Takes me less than a minute , I can last around 2 minutes if I had a few drinks . And I normally shoot about 5 to 6 ml

[@mikesciales9768]

Once again, great content. All I can add is my own terribly unscientific study I conducted in S. Korea in1996-97 in Song tan Village, right outside the main gate at Osan Air Base. I'd watch from a bar while the mama-san engaged her trade. Price was based on time. One hour Long time $40, Thirty minute Short time $20. The group were all healthy males, all races, ethnicities, 18-30 years of age. I observed 100 over a period of time. Average elapsed time, 13 minutes, which accounting for examination, hygienic preparations, etc, seems to match the study times.

[@blackmamba3427]

She is the sweetest lady doctor ❤

[@YZJY]

Thanks for the info Doctor Malik. Sadly, my last GF was never pleased no matter the time of intimacy. If it were a short time she'd complain it was too short... a long time which was more common for me, and she always complained it was too long.. but would then also complain when I finished.. "why did you stop?! Nothing ever pleased her no matter what I did. I eventually left after she unilaterally stopped all affection and intamacy all while holding out the promise of intimacy only to withdraw it at the last moment every day for over five years. All this while massively ramping up negativity and animosity towards me in every way.. I've had no one in the three decades since. Her hateful never ending complaining about every last thing in the universe.. and blaming me personally for it... well, that destroyed my ability to trust anyone. Nothing ever pleases some people.

[@toaster4693]

Very sorry to hear that, it's very sad. I hope you find a good partner in the near future.

[@retkvi]

Perhaps she wasn't satisfied, ever heard of womanizer?

[@YZJY]

@@retkvi ha ha Nothing satisfied her ever.. or in any way about anything. not just me.. anyone that gave her what she wanted and asked for and she'd still complain and bitch about it . she was most toxic and never pleased or satisfied no matter who or what it was.

[@tomallen6073]

Some fucked up wemon out there, your testosterone blinds you to the fact.

[@Steve-rv1ql]

Your not alone my friend, situation is different, wife and I have not been intimate for 20 years, after she became pregnant she didn’t need me or sex anymore, was never that interested before then. I have not cum inside her or anyone else in that time. I’m 64 and now have ED, so my sex lite ended in my 40’s, I really really miss the intimacy of a good sex life

[@franklin784]

It would be interesting to see the results of single men who haven't been having sex regularly, with the same partner.

[@colecampbell1906]

shit, most single guys are probably having sex more regularly than most married guys anyways😂

[@frankieramos8017]

me😂

[@MsLilac88]

This is an informative video about men’s ejaculation, keep on uploading more informative videos. 😊

[@StewartMidwinter]

@renamalikmd what if the problem is delayed ejaculation? Is there a spray or treatment for

[@allin4559]

Interesting .. Depending on the position I'm out of it fast. But it does help to be multi orgasimatic. If I'm in the mood I can be on to my 3rd with 15 minutes. Getting #3 takes a good while. I also user other things (not a spray) to reduce sensation (buy time).

[@alejandrop.s.3942]

When I was really young, during my initial sexual intercourses, I couldn't ejaculate penetrating, it was impossible for me. Now it's the other way around, as soon as I penetrate I feel at the edge of orgasm. I can control it if my partner helps me not rushing and such, and actually what happens many times is that I control so much that I have problems later to reach orgasm, normally around 50 minutes or more, and normally needing some oral or manual estimulation. It's kinda counterproductive , because many women have been actually "pissed off" for how long I held it, but most of my partners have been impressed. This also led me to some not-desired collateral issues such as "blue balls", not pleasing orgasms, burning sensation after ejaculating... it's not good to hold what it's supposed to be expelled. I have come to the conclusion that the best way to make others enjoy is enjoying yourself, so I don't try to hold it up more than a couple of times, normally around 10-15 minutes of penetration.

[@Opinionteer]

Ladies first. Doesn’t mean holding the door open.

[@galen3406]

Enjoy your videos!

[@danielmccarty5979]

I end quickly and my wife doesn’t mind. We use her vibrator when we are doing it so we both get off. We normally do it in the morning before I leave for work and after she takes the kids to school. We don’t have a lot of time.

[@nealgold8442]

Dr you should discuss edging and that figures into the equation.

[@chuck4714]

She already has lol

[@Oilfieldtrash432]

I think she has a video on it.

[@jdcisneros9023]

I’m liking the doctor 😍

[@MIGHTYMAN1256]

Love your channel my beautiful friend ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@reccesam7799]

Doc, what about the opposite issue? What about issues that cause men to take much longer to ejaculate? Could you do a video on that topic? Thanks!

[@playthegame7445]

U have to much testosterone in ur body that's why u lat long. My brother has the same issue, he can jerk off for 30 odd times a day and still f 2 girls, or he can f even 10 girls a day with no issue. But the downside is that with to much testosterone ur hair hormones looses the battle and u start loosing hair

[@Starman998]

Usually 3-4 minutes with my hand.

[@harrydoherty8299]

as a 76 year old male , it takes much more time as i get older .

[@alexandartheserb7861]

Scientists are famous for being very potent, so they are best to speak of it

[@kiranjoshi6721]

Can you please make video on fatigue during/after sex? Any tips to improve duration of the game without getting exhausted?

[@MommaARA]

Easy answer: stay hydrated throughout the day, do moderate physical exercise, he fairly healthy, stay away from alcohol, drugs, and smokes, learn your body and your partners body together. Then have sex daily with an actual person. Unfortunately porn/religion/culture has trained many people to think sex is over when the man climaxes once and that should be good enough. This is not suitable from an evolutionary stand point. If you have any mental hangups on "the way it should be" then it's time to clear it out. Sex will not be the same day to day even with the same partner. Going with the flow is better and keeps things exciting.

[@playthegame7445]

I'll give a better advice, cos the advice uve been given it's generic and not much helpful tbh. 1st off u need to check ur testosterone level, a healthy level for 20 to 30 is over 500 ngdl, over 30 to 40 around 500 ngdl. 2nd high intensive workouts and heavy weight workout to stimulate ur body to produce more test, 3rd, don't drink to much beer 4th, diet is important. 5th u need to massage ur di**ck on each side, the pipes that are for the blood to have a better flow, cos what happens is that those pipes gets blocked with residual from vitamins and that makes it more difficult for the erection to stay strong (u get a flacid), and u can use a massage gun. In regards to ur test, there are plenty of people on KZbin that can advise on how to increase it naturally. And lastly, even men do get stimulated in our brain to enjoy the fun, so if u get a partner that stimulates u visually that's a big + Oh and stay away from any porn or any related videos cos it will desensitize u and u will be left with an ED

[@carnagerpm]

I'm like a Tesla, 2.3 seconds.

[@petewatts30]

With this Doctor....not long.

[@waynebeaudro2244]

I’m 61 and I can control it more now to a certain degree compared to my teens and twenties. I’ve always been a lover that ensures my female partner is satisfied before my own gratification. If you satisfy her before yourself, time becomes less of an issue.

[@dudeabides23]

You should be able to control the duration when you're experienced. From 3 - 43 minutes.

[@pocopico7409]

So, it turns out this whole video is primarily for the purpose of selling the Promescent delay spray, and the good doctor is getting money to pitch it to us. It’s always about the money.🙄

[@mikewalkow1860]

So she is endorsing a product that is effective and could help many people. Big deal. Everyone need to make money.

[@freddsims648]

I don't recall her ever plugging a product in her previius videos

[@amybigbruda]

i've been using this for about 2 months now. The spray absolutely works. Gives you supreme confidence knowing you not close to ejaculation. Highly recommended.

[@_Lumiere_]

Doesnt it reduce your pleasure, though?

[@hashamrehman1616]

How many sprays?

[@one7910]

How do you use it like how many spray do put on the penis

[@izzie9888]

You mess with nature, it tends to mess back. Lol

[@soliniv1411]

​@@hashamrehman1616spray it till it goes numb 😂

[@Eluderatnight]

What do you think about controlling time to detonation by adjusting dopamine to prolactin ratio. Spiking dopamine = all night.l and may need help finishing.

[@me-hang-lo8826]

I'm married, I don't even remember what sex is let alone how long it used to last.

[@felixmotanu1220]

I'm here with u bro 😂 havin 2 kids too, it's way too difficult

[@franciscomejia4238]

Why?

[@bendirval3612]

What about the opposite issue? No problem getting or keeping an erection, but takes too long to ejaculate. Partner gets lots of satisfaction but wants to move on with the day, while sex keeps going and going.