The Braxtons S1E2: Ms. Evelyn Created This Toxic Family Dynamic

[@dnycrown9150]

I think Michael Braxton Sr. Also played a role in the family dysfunction. He put his own interest (his affair) over his family.

[@mindoflilith]

I agree, I'll discuss him in future episodes.

[@dnycrown9150]

@@mindoflilith Awesome I look forward to your commentary on this. With the disolvement of her marriage, Evelyn believes that her girls are all she has and I do believe she means well. But the foundation of this dysfunction is Michael's affair. I've noticed with these online conversations, single mothers get the brunt of criticisms but men are absolved from being held accountable when they leave the home and start a new family. I hate how the black community blame single mothers for everything but not the deadbeat fathers and husbands.

[@th052270]

I agree! I feel Evelyn was so hurt and betrayed by him she placed her feelings on her daughters which created conflict within them... I love my father but as a woman I hurt and feel for my mom....Iyanla Vanzant touched on how the parents played a significant role in the sister's dynamics but they rejected any accountability for the situation

[@sandrajackson4732]

Amen

[@evelync6335]

Absolutely agree! It’s both parents. It also baffles me how people solely blame the parent ( mostly mothers) that stays, yet absolve parent that leaves. They are expected to be superwomen, no grace ever extended.

[@Aname87]

Mr. Michael was also their parent. Ms. E gets too much heat, and their father doesn’t get nearly enough, and I think it’s because he comes off jovial and light-hearted. She might not be perfect, but I feel for Ms. E.

[@datgurlky1]

Exactly. He went off, brought another woman in the home, and married her. Ms. E needs to Tejas herself.

[@sheskates6551]

No doubt he was a dirty dog , Ms Evelyn has her faults too

[@lovinglife1974]

When the Braxtons had a session with Iyanla Vanzant, Iyanla asked them why were they so toxic yet co- dependent. She even asked Toni, "If you all were not sister's would you be friends and Toni said, "No"!!! Tamar had a FIT!!! Iyanla and Mrs Braxton had several arguments because Iyanla told her, to get out of her grown kids business and to find herself some hobbies! She told Mrs. Braxton you are way to invested in their lives and you are creating divison... I believe Mrs. Braxton was a part of a Girl Group before she got married and had kids... This is the reason she had little empathy for Traci when she basically repeated the same behavior.

[@vjsim1118]

Spot on!

[@90sReign]

Gurl...u...nailed...this...freakin...video!!!! I love the way you focus on angles that no other content creators have observed. Bravo, sis!

[@TDB21]

Great commentary! I always felt the reason the sisters couldn’t resolve their issues was because of Evelyn, but they didn’t feel empowered to call her to the carpet. It’s interesting that Evelyn never seems to take any accountability for the situation given that she’s the parent. Traci was the only one that pushed back on Evelyn in any way.

[@dspence1902]

Evelyn hasn't forgiven the dad, and she hasn't taught them to forgive and heal, she has taught them to wear the facade of wellness, she is unhealed and limits their ability to forgive and do the consistent work to heal. Toxic maternal behavior can have profound and long-lasting effects on children's development, self-esteem, relationships, and overall mental health can be seen in Tamar's behavior.

[@EarthAngel44-qmcc]

Well said.​@@dspence1902

[@RoRoHunty]

I wonder how their brother fits in this dynamic ?

[@TeaLove2024]

I think Iyanla was going to tap into it but....

[@TransmutedLiving]

I always thought it was mama Evelyn unfortunately smh and the father being problematic and sloppy is a factor as well.

[@NewGalaxy317]

Always amazing commentary - thanks! 🖤🤎

[@yourluckychanceful]

Ms. Evelyn needed interests outside of her children. She's too stuck in her ways to change or want to change now. Reminds me so much of my mom.....

[@dnycrown9150]

@@yourluckychanceful I think things would be better if she was still married or if Evelyn was in a relationship.

[@UnpopularAdvisor]

Trina always shows signs that she’s brainwashed, walking on eggshells “Here mommy” , this and that “mommy” they’re not too far off from the Jacksons

[@mishonwhite111]

Ms, Evelyn has a deep hatred for her ex husband and most times when a woman have kids by a man who broke their heart, she would despise the kids she bared by that man, I know Ms Evelyn love her kids but you never know what really goes on in a person's heart, because the heart is deep like the ocean

[@dspence1902]

When parents like Ms. Evelyn, ask children to pick one parent over the other during a divorce, it can have several negative effects on the children, impacting their emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Children may feel confused and guilty for having to choose between their parents, and other responsibilities leading to emotional turmoil and prolonged trauma.

[@Aname87]

Ms. E was not only the First Lady but she also preached as well. The woman Daddy Braxton cheated with was a friend of Ms. E in the church and she MAY have watched the girls when they were younger.

[@meemzing]

This was so astute. Thank you for this excellent analysis!!

[@ytaylor263]

Although it is not right, Mr. Braxton ( who has been in his 2nd marriage over 20 years) may have left Ms. E because she became unbearable and it's understandable having 6 children but from my understanding he never walked out on his children. Ms. E caused damage in her girls, Michael Jr. seems fine living a "normal" life.

[@keptbygrace6221]

Yes. If I remember, Tamar was around 15 at the time of the divorce, which means the other children were pretty much grown. I know divorce hurts, but it's not like he left Ms. E with a house full of small children. 23:24

[@janellen4278]

Agreed - if Ms. Evelyn was the boss, and her needs were placed above everyone else's - I could see Mr. Braxton wanting to leave "the cult" to find happiness and/or meet his own needs/wants. Also, they were high school sweethearts. Perhaps they married too young. Either way, it doesn't seem like being married was his issue (hence his 20+ year marriage to his current wife) but rather being married to Ms. Evelyn

[@zee-zm1io]

You just got a new subscriber in me

[@mindoflilith]

Thank you very much!

[@mishonwhite111]

I think there's a dark cloud over the sisters, Toni is deteriorating before our eyes 😞

[@87Lohan]

Yes Toni doesn’t look well

[@t.mooreyewknow799]

Toni’s speaking voice made me do a double take. Her voice sound very strained

[@ceehach3386]

I was initially introduced to Towanda in Iyanlas show, “Starting Over” I fell in love with Towandas energy on that show

[@Redbone228]

Same here, I named my daughter after her cast mate Sinae

[@peppermintt3879]

Your commentary is so on point and, today for me it's very relatable. I also grew up under "cult-like" circumstances with a capricorn mother and I see the traits thst you mentioned. This may be a TV show, but your analysis makes it so much more. Thank you as always.

[@mindoflilith]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@justzee1574]

This is the best analysis. This is spurtual and healing perspective. Not just getting triggered and calling out behavior. I had a similar family dynamic and cult like. Im healing from it as well.

[@clarissanickersonfourman]

I will never forget when they had dinner with both their parents and their father told them it is time for them to stop letting their mom run their lives. It was very interesting to see the way Evelyn reacted. She was really upset even though they had been divorced for years at that point. How the kids got so involved in the divorce even as adults is so wild to me. When I watched them on Iyanla I feel like she didn’t address the real issue with their mom.

[@PatriciaHall-e7k]

Toni said in one of the episode with the therapist. If the sisters weren't her sisters. She wouldn't be their friends, for sure. She made that perfectly clear...

[@mindoflilith]

I was going to mention this, I remember that scene!

[@lickwitgold1661]

Girl u nailed this! I also think ms Evelyn is extremely jealous that Michael sr got married so soon and STAYED married. Even if she never admits it aloud, she knows deep down that she's the problem. She needed to heal and maybe she could've remarried. Instead she latches on to her daughters. What almost 80 year old you know is as involved as she?

[@punkinpunkin6524]

Your work is awesome! I’ve said that Ms. Evelyn created the issues within the family.

[@UnpopularAdvisor]

Tamar act like Ms. Evelyn

[@87Lohan]

I think Ms Evelyn allows Tamar to act and fight on her behalf. Which is why she never got Tamar’s behaviour in check. She has benefited from that bad behaviour

[@charlahenry]

Great job 👍 I now see the big picture, you are on point ☝️

[@avlivinggolden]

Girl! This was therapy for me. Thank you for your commentary. Please discuss and talk about narcissism or narcissistic people and how its causing destruction, chaos confusion, egos inflated and millions to billions of dollars in families, organizations and companies. Most importantly for black communities and losing generational wealth. Also, please talk about generational trauma and curses and how to break them. Have you done a commentary on Kirk Franklin " Father's Day" documentary? I love would to see it!

[@CasinoNelly]

I don’t watch the show I tried but I couldn’t take Tamar …

[@SunflowerBabeTeeTea]

I find Tamar to be extremely emotionally draining and overwhelming. She sucks up all of the emotional energy in the room and often times seems to replace with negativity. She overstimulates TF outta me😟

[@dspence1902]

@@SunflowerBabeTeeTea Toxic maternal behavior can have profound and long-lasting effects on children's development, self-esteem, relationships, and overall mental health this can be seen in Tamar's behavior, and overall family dysfunction is driven by Ms. Evelyn.

[@vjsim1118]

This is the most accurate explanation regarding the dynamics of this family and how they think and operate. I totally agree with this poignant observation and point of view. Btw, Ms. Evelyn was in a girls group when she was younger. You are spot on.

[@mindoflilith]

Oh wow, I didn't know she was in a girl group, but I'm not surprised.

[@Aname87]

I witness a similar sister dynamic in my own family. My mother is the youngest with 3 older sisters. There are similarities with how the older sisters treat Tamar and my aunts and my mom. Things have gotten better over the years with my ppl and my mother isn’t nearly a VOCAL of a person as Tamar is lol, however, there is that gang up on you thing that the older ones sometimes do.

[@brittanycarter156]

I don't believe she is perfect, so she has some faults. But I don't believe she created all of this. I definitely enjoy catching up on your commentary as always.

[@Godsgirl405]

Neither do I. I think we’ve come to a point of expecting parents to be perfect & to also create other perfect human beings when it comes to having and raising children. You can only do so much as a parent. You can give your children the tools needed & equip them as best as you can, but they will still eventually make their own choices & decisions in life which cannot always be blamed on upbringing & parenting. If we’re going to look at things as a parent blame game we’ll end up going back generation after generation endlessly because everyone has an imperfect mother or father to place blame on. I don’t believe we should turn a blind eye to toxic parenting, but I do believe we should give parents grace to be human and flawed just like the rest of us.

[@brittanycarter156]

@Godsgirl405 She and their father have faults and made mistakes. But hopefully, everyone can find peace and respect each other's boundaries.

[@BDK_Chronicles]

Omg I have been waiting for you to talk about this

[@87Lohan]

Divorce, Death and Disease signs of a cursed family or one with Poor spiritual foundation. I’d be curious to know about Braxton Sr other family and kids. He’s been married to his 2nd wife for years seems very stable.

[@mindoflilith]

Most curses are dysfunctional and self-destructive behavior programs that are perpetuated by fear, ignorance, repression, anger and/or shame.

[@pacinorules752]

Thanks MOL. ❤

[@dnycrown9150]

This dynamic is interesting, and I must say it mirrors my life in a way. My mother is a baby boomer Aries and I'm a capricorn, our relationship is amicable for the most part but when things are bad it's very heated.

[@come_on_barbie_123]

Hi Dear! Im here because i wanted your take on Cam Newton. Are u gonna cover this? Plenty of material! Lol. Smh

[@mindoflilith]

I'm going to watch it today.

[@come_on_barbie_123]

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