The Brutal Reality of Dating as an Unattractive Man

Dating when you are ugly or unattractive or at least feel like you are may be difficult. Couple that with the stats provided by dating apps and the fact that women naturally consider 85% of all men unattractive can feel like a daunting prospect.
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[@kieranramtohal9645]

So Chad’s advice to sub 5 male of how to date as an unattractive male: Just improve. Just get game. Just play the numbers 😂😂😂😂 Excellent, I’m positive they hadn’t thought of that!

[@Umarkhan-9280]

Haha 😂

[@rodtack8420]

because like most people they lack the empathy and compassion and ability to truly put themselves into other peoples shoes. successful people in general are this way psychologically. they always project onto others based on their world view and experiences. It is also how control freaks work. Their world view is the correct world view and everyone else is wrong. They have this need to control others based on their perceptions and beliefs and fail to understand others lives and needs, dreams, desires, perceptions, experiences are far different then their own. People who succeed in life with ease have little need to think or question life deeply, because it is pointless when they are successful without it. They have no need or motivation to do so, since they already made it in life. meanwhile it is generally speaking people who fail, and suffer who question things and develop empathy and learn how to put themselves into other peoples shoes as a direct by product of their terrible lives. This is true to an extent.

[@yiannisschmalz6574]

@@rodtack8420 I have traveled the world. And I have seen very physically unattractive men with gorgeous women. I work out consistently, take care of my body and am generally polite, but lack the social skills at this moment to attract women. The way to improve social skills is to approach women. That’s all this guy is saying. If you are actually working out, taking care of your body/ hygiene, are financially responsible and goal seeking, and work through the rejections by refining your social skills, you never know where you might end up. If you keep up with this victim mentality then nothing will ever change. Also try actually enjoying your life instead of desperately needing a women for fulfillment. And let me say this again, I get no attraction from women I am attracted too so I am not speaking from a place of “privilege”.

[@michalthekind]

Well, you can play the numbers game, just be prepared for some large numbers, like tens of thousands.

[@wannabemgtow2540]

​@@michalthekindI see you just watched this video. I'm in the same boat; I'm not an attractive person myself, but I'm also open-minded. I think it depends. A lot has to do with your environment. Some men will have to relocate to other places; I'm thinking of doing that. I'm sure an ethnic guy in a place full of Anglo-Saxon tall people will never be seen as more than just a friend. So for guys like me, I may have to go back to my roots, go to places with people that look similar to me, and that could help me a lot in the dating world. I realized quickly enough that Caucasian women do not find me attractive, most likely due to my height, not really my ethnicity. Though they find me funny and enjoy hanging out with me, when it comes to intimacy, they do not go any further than that. I remember when I went to California, the local population of females of Spanish descent did find me attractive and looked at me a lot. So maybe I have to go back to something like that; that's why I'm thinking about going back to my roots. I also feel, like others here, that if you're a Chad, you have no business talking about sub five men. It's like a healthy, tall athlete trying to explain how to live like a paraplegic; it just doesn't make sense.

[@paul-od4gh]

I'm 40, never had a girlfriend! I'm so ugly I knew from a young age that I would never have a girlfriend or wife. I knew from a young age that I would have to find happiness being single. Oh yeah i'm very happy with my friends, hobbies and Bitcoins!

[@kagasaki6]

See, that's what my fiance thinks and I was watching this to better understand his mindset. 😏 He doesn't understand that I am with him because he treats me like a queen and while could date someone society finds handsome as a woman I am emotionally attracted to him and therefore sexually attracted to him. He won't even let me luck his nipples I think because he's embarrassed about his man boobs and it made me realize that at 400-500lb his are actually larger than my C-cup. I just don't understand how to give him confidence...!😔😓

[@MB_Biggie_Cheese]

@@kagasaki6wtf. There’s no way this man is real

[@kagasaki6]

@@MB_Biggie_Cheese It’s sad but true!🙃🙂‍↕️ His communication issues (or lack there of) is what might kill this relationship though. He says he feels lucky to have me but won’t call me on his own initiative and when I call he’s gaming. He’s lazy and when we were both off he would rather game at home than hang out with me, when we are together he’s hesitant to touch me and I gave him full freedom?! When he does touch me he goes from zero to 💯 and everything is painful 😣. If things don’t improve he won’t be my fiance for much longer.

[@Takenoprisonerslogic]

I’m super ugly too. I found peace by using drugs, drinking non stop, porn, and avoiding human contact.

[@nenkobaylov2470]

And I resigned myself, at 14 I knew I would never be with a woman, with time you get used to it, and faith in God helped me, I began to read more about life after death, etc.

[@ryandeffley7652]

People who say "just approach more IRL" always seem to forget that those women are still talking to men on apps and IG. So it's not like their pipeline to other men dries up just because they met a guy IRL. Now it is true that you can make a better first impression. But she'll still be online either way.

[@Umarkhan-9280]

What is IRL?

[@ytkj3051]

@@Umarkhan-9280in real life

[@Sanctuary_0]

​@@Umarkhan-9280in real life

[@coreypayne9401]

@@Umarkhan-9280 In real life

[@Rhatid-mon]

This guy didn't get too the point all he did was ramble on with useless psycho babbling.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Exactly. I wish i could see how many thumbs down on this video

[@bigbanknewyork3655]

I quit after 45 seconds

[@kendralhunt4296]

im ugly as shit, conmstant rejection from good looking, mostly i get on women with looks i certainingly hat, im going with passport bros ans if that doesnt work ill go with plastic surgery and if that doesnt work ill choose to die with a bitter heart and to embrace my horrid flaws.

[@Geologynut37]

I argue that my dating pool is extremely small. I hate people who say to pump yourself up. For what? To attract a feminist, entitled, nagging woman who will leave you at will? I say my dating pool is extremely small because it’s next to impossible to find a woman who isn’t entitled. I’m not trying to attract 95% of women.

[@russelgrimes6739]

Good to have standards. It's much wiser to avoid the potential of harmful personalities who do the opposite of enriching your life.

[@nemojob666]

Frankly, I've kind of given up at this point. Dating seems nearly impossibly difficult today if you're below average attractive. Dating apps have probably ruined the whole practice in ways that we are yet to acknowledge

[@peygus1877]

Bro, from you're Pic you're not below average. I think you just need to groom better. I'm actually ugly lol so I would know. My eyes ruin my whole face. It's better to be real not pessimistic but real, you're not ugly.

[@Clockwork.Lemon854]

Women don't want to be spoken to in the first place. Second half of the video is deluded.

[@VijaySThakur]

True When u ugly they don't consider you human I say insanity is the way forward

[@michalthekind]

They do want to be spoken too as long as you are attractive.

[@Yalbou]

The only thing that matters is face, height and money. You can only control one of these things, but its very hard to get lots of money today

[@baldeagle4710]

Just avoid women. Problem solved.

[@aconsciousrethink]

😂 🤣 that is literally the opposite advice of what I'd advise to anyone who feels unattractive or ugly. Actually the opposite of what I talk about in this 20-minute video...

[@DrSTAHP]

​@@aconsciousrethinkYou're just going to harm ugly men.

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

I mean, for most. That’s the only option

[@MarcusVinnie-xl6nk]

Excep professional ladies if you know what I mean 😆

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

Real talk 💯

[@jlprescott7243]

What the hell are you talking about? All I hear is word salad and not getting to the point. Cheers!

[@raygengamer8440]

Lots of my co workers smell bad. I don't get why they let that happen

[@aconsciousrethink]

That made me giggle. I mean it must be significant if it makes such an impact that it springs into your mind on some random Sunday after watching some random video on attractiveness.

[@pilarq7886]

BO is a turn off.. Men expect women to smell nice it goes both ways

[@user-sf5iq2fl1l]

I discovered now that am ugly by "wheat waffle", i can better myself a little bit but i wont make date a priority because am fcked mostly ahaha

[@SimplySammyK]

you literally have 0 right to talk about something you know NOTHING about..

[@dave-oh3549]

Great advice. Liked and subscribed. Important commonsense wisdom here.

[@aconsciousrethink]

Thanks for the sub! And thanks for the compliment. Common sense is one of those often overlooked things these days

[@outootus6734]

I write in good will and not to offend anyone. This video takes a stance some call "blue pill". I agree that personal development is important, but the motivation should come from within - not to have some one view you as a viable option. Personally I see it as a suitable meaning for one's only life here on this planet. As a short not too masculine guy it has been an uphill battle for two decades now. Countless rejections and a couple "stolen" girlfriends and one wife. At this moment I think this personal development (both intellectual and physical) and the implied suffering need to be compensated. It simply is not enough some one wants to settle down with me after doing whatever for the said period of two decades. Requirements: 1. instant mutual physical attraction 2. need for me to think I win something real and measurable that I also value from my perspective The good thing of going through hell is that one is not afraid of ordinary peaceful singlehood on planet Earth.

[@kpopandotherplaylists2518]

..for all purposes in life, bitterness is a poison pill to avoid at all costs. My opinion. I had plenty of reasons to feel bitter in life, luckily I dodged that bullet mostly... not by accident. Early experiences with anger taught me the toxic danger in Anger. Bitterness is the same kind of monster. .. The problem isn't in the facts, that caused it, it's the monster you have to defeat, no matter what...

[@Shauryxz]

This video is made by an attractive guy tho.

[@Umarkhan-9280]

When I was kid in grade 3 or 4 I was considered as the most good looking kid in our town I would get praises every single day but that didn’t do me any good with so many predators around and no older brother to protect me I got kissed and touched by regular people to doctors if my mom would take me to doctor in the city instead of injecting my arms he would pull the curtain down and pull my pants down and act like he have to do it on my butt lol and touch me and kiss my face act like he is just being a loving older person or whatever and photographers religious people etc.. as I started growing up started getting uglier and uglier and now the girls wouldn’t even consider looking at me twice even if I offer them genuine love and everything.. Fking life!

[@riothecat7696]

Problem is the Hoeflation is too high

[@aconsciousrethink]

Haha you need to educate me on the hoeflation. How does it work?

[@nattyboomboom7026]

Maybe calling women hoes is the reason you're not getting any?

[@Sofiaode18]

@@aconsciousrethinkLol, just some BS they heard from toxic male content creators. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re actually giving good advice.

[@thesaint3976]

@@Sofiaode18 you must be a female.

[@kieranramtohal9645]

@@aconsciousrethinkHoeflation is real. A man has to work four times harder than his grandfather did to get a woman four times worse than his grandmother was. Dating apps means women can now get access to the top 10% of men (known as Chads or Tyrones). Chads and Tyrones will sleep with these women, leaving them alpha widowed. These women now raise their standards which leads a lot of normal men to simp for them. This inflates the sense of worth of ordinary women…ergo, hoeflation

[@spinturt]

I feel like saying “f” it

[@user-el8rt5uv4j]

why?

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

I already have… so for me, no point in life when your biological purpose is nonexistent

[@Deadcells047]

​@@The_Lovey_InformerYooo, That's real. That's no jk. I'm in that posistion as well.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

Comment: This life has 4 types of men, and they are the following: 1. The man that dates hot looking women. 2. The man that dates unattractive women. 3. The man that dates average looking women. 4. The man who is Not Lucky in love and he hides behind his work. You can pick up your standards as well as lowering them but if you are not lucky with women, then you won't go anywhere regardless of Anything you have said and done in action. July 17, 2024, USA

[@user-qg8qc5qb9r]

Introduction and Warning About Video Length (00:00:00) Attractiveness and Selectiveness in Dating (00:00:35) Complexities of Modern Dating and Technology's Role (00:01:14) Women's Selectiveness and Evolutionary Factors (00:02:25) Impact of Attractiveness on Self-Esteem and Social Hierarchy (00:07:35) The Downward Spiral of Attractiveness and Social Judgment (00:08:20) Reality of Survival of the Fittest in Dating (00:09:42) Strategies for Dating When Unattractive (00:10:21) Critique of Dating Apps and Real-Life Dating Tips (00:10:58) Improving Attractiveness Through Personal Care and Practice (00:12:10) Understanding Women's Dating Preferences (00:13:18) The Role of Confidence and Competence in Attraction (00:15:03) Importance of Face-to-Face Interactions Over Dating Apps (00:16:15) Decision-Making: Blame vs. Personal Improvement (00:17:37) Challenges in Dating for Both Genders and the Importance of Self-Improvement (00:18:16) Value Dynamics Over Time: Men's and Women's Dating Value (00:19:33)

[@Shinigami.ey3s1994]

This was well needed for the average looking man.

[@aconsciousrethink]

I really appreciate that comment. It's one of those topics I feel like never really gets the right attention and usually ends up being a subject to some surface level advice in the form of 5 tips for unattractive men or similar but never gets any proper analysis from some logical or even strategic point of view.

[@learntorepair3314]

That was interesting. Tnx for that

[@aconsciousrethink]

Wow thanks for the comment. You never know whether people even care about these kinds of topics but I'm definitely glad you found some of it interesting.

[@adrianazollo2688]

You’re a cutie stop it

[@tuinov6286]

Said no woman to him ever

[@CP-mt1st]

We live in a literal labyrinth?

[@aconsciousrethink]

labyrinth of modern dating and all its complexities 😉

[@brokengimp5617]

Sorry m8, you aren't unattractive

[@aconsciousrethink]

cheers man but this was not me sharing my personal experience although in all honesty as a teenager, I did subjectively feel like approaching girls and getting positive feedback was out of the question. That is until I started looking into things deeper and understanding that everything needs practice, improvement and a different outlook rather than dismissing things as something I could do nothing about and feeling like a victim. So the video is intended as more than a personal revelation of any kind. I just feel like this topic is usually just brushed over or just skirted by with a bunch of perhaps even patronizing advice rather than offering a deeper analysis and perspective that is usable, especially if you consider the practical parts in the last third of the video. On the other hand, I feel like sometimes analyzing things makes one realize that things are not as terrible as they sound and understanding of the nature of things, at least to me, offers the chance to relax and look at things more strategically.

[@rimiserk8277]

7 mins in and you still said nothing new