The Brutal Truth About Introverts and Bad Habits

[@hoshimiimiyabii]

I do agree with the "people give you the self image of you so you tend to act according to that image" idea. Sometimes people at college just give me that wierd look like im an alien or sum as i finally decide to summon enough courage to speak up some of my opinion after a while. That totally demotivates me and really takes a huge toll on me deciding whether to speak up again in the future. The cycle just lasts forever. People just keep on yapping louder and i gradually, eventually get shut out. I tried to fixed this habit but things just kept turning for the worse.

[@k1awdttt]

Mostly agree with you. First just let me get this out of the way: too much romanitizing about what extroverts do. We don't know their battles, and they have their own weaknesses to overcome. One thing that "motivates" extroverts more is because their bad habits like excessive partying is those damages are far more obvious and easier to control. In Dopamine Nation, Dr. Anna Lembke wrote that having the physical separation and even geographical distance between the addiction and behavior is a way to stop bad habits. For many extroverts, their triggers are outside, usually at specific places (bars, stadiums, friend's place, etc). So it's easier for they to stop doing that. But for introverts, the bad habits are often in their resting place, specifically made to be easily accessible. Like going from the work room after the wfh session to the living room for a gaming session is so seemless it might as well be no difference. Other than that, do agree on taking the initiative and owning the responsibilities. And having just the future expectation might not be enough for everyone... Maybe something like push and pull, so fear and hope. In this case the fear of failing or not changing. Many of us got too comfortable for.our oen good.