The Brutal Truth About Single Women In Church

[@grace4meinthehouseofgod519]

Darwynn, this is crapola! I have been single in the church for decades, living consistently with my Biblical beliefs inside and outside the church. I have been a Sunday School teacher for decades BECAUSE THE MEN WILL NOT STUDY TO SHOW THEMSELVES APPROVED!! Men will not tithe to support the church. They have no ambition to get jobs that would allow them to support a family. Men will not speak to me during the meet and greet, let alone ask me out for a cup of coffee. My female friends who are now married had to wait for years to be asked on a date by a Christian man. How dare straight men get offended when a woman speaks to a gay man when the straight man sits over there with his mother and won't even say, "Good Morning!". Straight men won't attend Adult Sunday School Class, let alone lead one. They won't participate in the Singles Fellowship or the Men's Fellowship, let alone plan a program. They won't support the church's Boy Scout program. They won't try out for the choir but get offended that the gay male does. They think that a red carpet should be rolled out for them because they darken the door of the church and are genuinely offended that women's focus is not on them. And given that the ratio of single women to a pastor could be 30 to 300 single women to 1 pastor how is he supposed to provide a covering for everyone?

[@darwynnmcpherson]

You have to ask the pastor why how he is able to have 30 to 300 single women tithing and not have a successful program in place to position suitable husbands for you. That’s a “yo pastor problem.” Why you haven’t been picked? Let alone been spoken to? What is your height, weight, dress size? Do you weigh more than men your height? Do you already have kids from other men and were they out of wedlock? If you are out of shape and have children out of wedlock, and you have the audacity to sit in an education position for decades, can’t you see how hypocritical you appear? If these things are true this is why men won’t even say hello to you. Your covering is failing you and should not have you in a teaching position. You should be improving your image and dealing with ways to get your children to their fathers.

[@megabuilder2861]

By your first statement "Darwynn, this is crapola!", I can tell it's because of your attitude you haven't been approached by any man who wants a serious relationship that can lead to marriage. Your attitude and the way you treat and talk to others is way more important to a man than being active in church. Your pastor won't marry you.

[@jmssxy]

@@grace4meinthehouseofgod519 you seem to want men to be involved in Church, but why should men be involved? If your disdain towards men, which is palatable here, is the norm in your church, then no wonder no men care to participate or show up to your church. Your church hates men by your own words and attitudes expressed here. Sorry but in my experiences church does very little for men, that is unless they are rich, in leadership, and have many affairs. So if your an upstanding and thinking man, who isn’t rich, has strong sexual boundaries, but is up and coming who doesn’t fall into line, your deemed an outcast. These are the ambitious men who don’t attend church. Why would these men attend and be a covering? What are they covering? Feminism, lack of respect, and vitriol? I do agree with you no one should get a red carpet, but no one should also tolerate the level disdain stated here. Sorry this was upfront, but it hit a nerve a little. God bless you

[@jimreimers4213]

You do realize the divorce rate for Christian women is the same as it is for non Christian women? The divorce rate in the west is at or just over 50%. Of these, 80% are initiated by the wife. Repeating my first line, Christian women divorce at the same rate as non believing women. What benefits out way these risks (guarantees) for a Christian man to desire marriage or even relationships? Do gay men face these same risks of divorce or false SA's that hetero guys do? No, they do not. You could pursue them for marriage, why wouldn't they provide the covering that you seek? You could adopt children assuming there wouldn't be physical relations. But you'd have the covering, the love and commitment.

[@robgarnes9102]

@grace4meinthehouseofgod519 The single women in the church are against God's instructions to be in the world but not of the world. They refuse to be submissive and in many cases look feminine but act masculine. Men of God discern this and guard our hearts from you. An attitude adjustment is desperately needed if y'all want a man to want you spiritually.

[@ImNotHim44]

Let’s be real. Most of the single mothers start going to church to find a good man to bail them out the mess they caused themselves. I’ve seen pastors get on the case of single men not trying to wife up single mothers. The single mothers complain to the women leaders of the church then they complain to the pastor. The pastor tells the single men to wife up these single mothers and the men refuse and leave the church. It is not the responsibility of single men to fix a single mother’s problems.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Men should not be forced to make a selection among women he does not desire. However, If men do desire a single mom A woman who is under the covering of a pastor or male figure that has principles that push her to be submissive, cooperation, and impressionable to this man, it’s a safe choice. But he has to desire her for commitment not rec use.

[@rednab2001]

100% agree. Unless that single mother is a widow, single men in the church should be avoiding them like the plague. It is rare for men to abandon their children. If their child's biological father is not in their lives, it means that the woman has either acted very poorly in the relationship or that she makes terrible decisions on her own. Either way, it is a huge red flag to stay far away from a woman who is either loose with her body or consistently makes bad decisions. Marriage is already difficult enough with a good woman who makes good decisions. To be involved with bad women who make bad decisions guarantees a failed marriage.

[@ImNotHim44]

@@darwynnmcphersonstatistics say it is very rarely a safe choice. Divorce rates are even higher for second marriages. I’ll pass, I rather take my chances with a childless woman with morals consistent throughout their lives. You will never will be a top priority. If you are lucky you might come in third on the list. No thanks, I’ll pass.

[@missklassy9783]

@@darwynnmcpherson _I don't know what Maceo is talking about because in most cases its Black males who lack resources and ask to move into a woman's home when she has or doesn't have children, It has been that way for the last 50-70 years. _*_Actually, a Black woman dies every 4-5 hours when she asks a Black male to leave her home due to his cheating and inability to help pay bills_* *_The reason why Black males don't attend church is its a role of responsibility not only to GOD but your family and legacy_*_ Black males collectively don't want that responsibility. Maceo needs to look at his friends and relatives who father OOW children by different races of women and they don't provide for those children _*_These same foul men want a single woman with no responsibilities when they have 2-4 families by different women!_*_ Men also need to be under Headship which is lacking in the Black community the men rarely pass down information because they're ashamed of their lives; they have nothing to show for their decades. There's no legacy, no Rights of Passage, No passing down wealth; he was too busy chasing poor White women! No woman young or old wants an old sickly Black male with a high body count, who's broke, his children don't respect him because they were never in their lives! _*_This needs to change in the Black community as its your legacy worldwide not just in the US!_*_ Most older Black males like Maceo die alone with nothing hiding in his shame!* He's always claiming to be a Christian when he is a perpetual liar!_

[@MissKlassy]

_I don't know what Maceo is talking about because in most cases its Black males who lack resources and ask to move into a woman's home when she has or doesn't have children, It has been that way for the last 50-70 years. _*_Actually, a Black woman dies every 4-5 hours when she asks a Black male to leave her home due to his cheating and inability to help pay bills_* *_The reason why Black males don't attend church is its a role of responsibility not only to GOD but your family and legacy_*_ Black males collectively don't want that responsibility. Maceo needs to look at his friends and relatives who father OOW children by different races of women and they don't provide for those children _*_These same foul men want a single woman with no responsibilities when they have 2-4 families by different women!_*_ Men also need to be under Headship which is lacking in the Black community the men rarely pass down information because they're ashamed of their lives; they have nothing to show for their decades. There's no legacy, no Rights of Passage, No passing down wealth; he was too busy chasing poor White women! No woman young or old wants an old sickly Black male with a high body count, who's broke, his children don't respect him because they were never in their lives! _*_This needs to change in the Black community as its your legacy worldwide not just in the US!_*_ Most older Black males like Maceo die alone with nothing hiding in his shame!* He's always claiming to be a Christian when he is a perpetual liar!_

[@RodmanTackleAdvisor]

This hit home. I'm literally the only single man in my congregation right now. I am constantly pressured to date the single moms who attend. Mind you, I've been there since birth. None of these women were there 3 years ago. I constantly get ridiculed. "Don't you want a wife? You'd be a great father. Etc" It's almost unbearable. I took a single younger girl with no kids (She's 25 and I am 40 a she approached me) from church out recently. I got all sorts of heat for it. Shes attractive. The single moms are all overweight or former addicts. I feel like I'm being forced to date the leftovers. I wont.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Oh wow, I knew it was low value women in the church, but I did not know they were this bad. The Leaders in the church aren’t establishing programs that can help raise their value?

[@RodmanTackleAdvisor]

@@darwynnmcpherson no sir. They cater to them. FUMC so it's pretty left leaning for a church. I was seriously considering taking the music ministry position, but it seems like it would force me to interact with the single moms because part of it is children's choir. To be clear, I'm not against these women. Far from it. They've humbled themselves before God. There are 5 of them. They're all real followers. However, I just can't bring myself to be the replacement daddy. Is that wrong? I just want a woman who has no previous attachments to a man that can't be negotiated. I struggle with this. I found you on accident but am glad I did. I needed that message.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

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[@h2s-i9o]

Who is pressuring you to become and adulterer at church?

[@Browncathartic]

God rewarded your faith with His choice for your wife. The heat you got for it is proof. Those other women are serpents! Overweight serpents lol😆

[@RandomGuy-Fen]

Men stopped going to church because Church stopped follow Christ.

[@preacherbillf]

AMEN!

[@vernonpaigejr.1517]

I stopped because i read the bible and then i thought to myself. this is pure BS.

[@Carmel2002]

@@RandomGuy-Fen Men should step up and lead the church to Christ.

[@NYRyder1983]

I stopped going because religion as a whole is BS.

[@pastorshandonellis4682]

@@vernonpaigejr.1517 So you are not a sinner?You can't look at the Sun, Moon, Stars, and Clouds and tell thatsee. All Powerful ,Divine, Intelligent Being Created all of this you see.Can you tell us how everything was created?Can you tell us why wickedness is in this world?Can you tell us why people have to die?No you can't. But GOD'S Word can. Be careful of what you say. Because when you die and your Spirit come out of that frail body.And you stand before GOD ALMIGHTY, HE Will remind you that you said HIS Word is nonsense.As demons you don't think exist , drag your begging and screaming soul down to hell.Repent.

[@feemster8861]

Beware of a pastor who fears his female congregation more than he fears God.

[@fatalheart7382]

@@feemster8861 Cowards don't go to heaven anyways. ;)

[@mark26mw]

@@feemster8861 agreed

[@buckaroobonsaitree7488]

@@feemster8861 So 90%+ in my experience

[@MavisRecon]

Or fears them at all.

[@ImNotHim44]

The pastor in some cases fear them because they are ones in charge of paying the pastor. The women runs the church in some places.

[@nightowl1337]

Men with no kids are crazy for marrying a woman with kids. Sorry, I would never tell any single man with no kids to sign up for that.

[@sherrillraymond7595]

How he crazy maybe he likes her, maybe they love each other

[@nightowl1337]

@@sherrillraymond7595 Because they are not his kids. Why marry a woman with kids, when you can marry one without? If a man has no kids he is a fool to marry a woman with another mans kids.

[@vernonpaigejr.1517]

never do that

[@ricktompson9453]

Does she know who the father is? Can she prove it, with a DNA test?

[@Digitizeddragon]

@sherrillraymond7595 would you marry or date a man in extreme debt or help him from the outside?

[@Ronwjr]

My experience as a single man surrounded by single women in church for 20 years. I found my wife outside of church!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

🔥🔥🔥

[@etuitivemillionaire]

@@darwynnmcpherson A lot of these pastors are glazing church members 🙄

[@Ken-xt3cp]

@@etuitivemillionaire glazing? I'm old and out of step, so I'm unfamiliar. Thanks

[@vernonpaigejr.1517]

I'm a heathen, but I know they be having the finest freaks in church. Yeah, you don't get a wife from there. You just go there to get married or what not.

[@jerrys5764]

Finally addressing woman. Too many pastors address men problems and their faults. There’s no fear or lashback when leaders everywhere address men’s faults. But as soon as anybody addresses woman’s faults you will be shamed.

[@shanesmith5198]

It's true....I have seen it many times

[@anthonycooper8542]

Amen brother! What I've always felt too

[@andyjohnson5484]

Preach

[@snakegriffin4928]

That is precisely why men have all left the western church

[@robsawyer8034]

Most pastors know that women pay the most so they’ll provide soft words and prayers for the ones that keep the lights on. Most church is a business.

[@someguy7222]

Sooooo many single moms at church. They wouldn't have given me the time of day before bad-boys knocks her up, but then - when she want someone to take care of her and the kid(s) oh, now they was trying to say hi to me.

[@Areutherehello]

Here's a thought: How about condemning the men who abandon these mothers? But, instead you heap ALL of the blame onto the women. You're such a good, non-judgmental Christian, aren't you?

[@someguy7222]

@Areutherehello Here's a thought: Stop giving it up to the bad boys who knock you up and bail. Like I said, before they had the kid(s) guys like me and my friends were too square and boring. Some slick talking dudes pump & dump & leave 'em with a bundle... NOW... Now they think I'm a good option. Seen it waaay to many times.

[@andyjohnson5484]

@@Areutherehello nobody is applauding the dudes that create a child then bail. They get condemned. But they don't care. That said, it takes two. If these women would use some sense, and/or stay under the covering of a father figure, they wouldn't get themselves in that kind of trouble.

[@BigJwlz]

​@@Areutherehello She had control over whether she had sex. She has control over the identity of her intimate partner. She had control over whether she got pregnant by the intercourse, and she had control over whether she _stayed_ pregnant from that intercourse. It's not 100% her fault, it's 99% her fault. Men are going to screw. The proper solution here is for her to stop carrying to term babies with men who don't want to be fathers.

[@richardthomas5362]

The other problem is that while the attractive women are married to "the bad boys" and before they get divorced usually the only women left are in two categories: 1. They are heifers. They are not "chubby" but seriously obese, like they are wider than they are tall. Also, unless they have a hormone problem (expensive health issues) their personalities match their bodies - slobs. 2. The women are kind of attractive but the crazy is strong in them - instead of a nice restaurant they should be in a padded room. I found a woman who had recently became a Christian and started going to church, so she was quite normal and SINGLE and without kids.

[@smithsmith1956]

There's a reason why god disallowed women positions of power, authority, or any say in church. 1Timothy 2:11-12 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man, she must be silent.

[@PaulKHeld]

As much I hate feminism, this verse says "husband" not "men". Check original for wording. If this verse would say what you want then we have a problem with Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

[@listeningviayoutube7229]

@@smithsmith1956 Interesting

[@nicholasemjohnson47]

That is not what the verse means. It was specifically referring to a cultural thing in that time.

[@smithsmith1956]

@@nicholasemjohnson47 No. It was talking about both church and cultural. None of this revisionist BS.

[@nicholasemjohnson47]

@@smithsmith1956 It's not revisionist. Paul wasn't forbidding women from preaching at all. He was talking about a specific problem in that Church. My brother's a theologian; he wrote a paper on this.

[@deplorablecovfefe9489]

The church doesn't offer anything for single men but treat them like something is wrong with them for being single. Like people can only live and be happy in 2 by 2 situations.

[@richardthomas5362]

Singleness is not sinful, but I HATED being single, and God brought someone into my life who is great. If I run into someone who wants to be single that is fine by me. I don't understand it but I accept it.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

@@richardthomas5362 The "take a number machine" must be defective. I have been waiting since 1997. Not to say I do nothing, I spend most of my time working. Just so far, the ones that have shown interest have not been wife material. The ones I have been interested in have standards far above belief.

[@richardthomas5362]

@@kurtvanluven9351 I didn't wait for "her" to enter my life. I was given a lot of well meaning but useless advice about, "just stop looking. As soon as you stop Gawd will bring the perfect woman into your life". I ignored that advice because, if I did, I would single the rest of my life. I made sure I had a decent job, stayed in shape, and actively looked until I found my wife. I also am a big believer in the saying that nice guys go home alone when pursuing a woman, so when I found the one I wanted to pursue I was somewhat ... aggressive.

[@prettyboyjeremy]

​@richardthomas5362 God helps those who help themselves. Half of life is showing up your perfect wife/ husband isn't going to break and enter your room. You gotta meet them outside and invite them in

[@deplorablecovfefe9489]

@@prettyboyjeremy Your an example of what I'm talking about. I DON'T want to meet anyone and I'm not looking. You (and the church) can't understand that I choose to be single and theres nothing wrong with that.

[@kickinthegob]

The husband is the priest and pastor of his own household. Women who run to the pastor instead of addressing their problems with their husband need to be disciplined and sent to their husbands unless it's for some obvious form of abuse.

[@racebannon96]

Telling a wife No can be considered abuse. Be careful to all.

[@Ken-xt3cp]

Except Paul plainly tells the church to have a Titus 2 ministry where older, godly women teach other women to love their husbands as God intends and train them to be good wives!

[@alexvig2369]

The women us Christian men have to choose from in church are just laughable. Single moms, "I've had a period of disbelief in college" (English for "I was a skank but I'm ready to marry some simp now")... or these 30 y/o MBA career ladies who "weren't ready" for someone when they were 20. Most men know better than to throw good money into a salvage title car.

[@ricktompson9453]

Are you afrai. Tto pay for her kids college education?

[@WillGettinToIt]

I stopped going to church for all the reasons you say. The pastors have sold their souls for money. They pander to the women and skew the teachings to get the women to spend money. Most Pastors and wonen in church are horrible

[@RedHorseman66]

The child support money they have the father enslaved to the system to pay (freedman bounty hunters) after usurping his authority and stealing the kids. Destroying God's prophets for profits. They are child sacrificers who treat their own children as a possession.

[@aaronha994]

The Lord and the house of God,....needs money.....the all knowing and all powerful can do anything, but....can't manage a checking account.

[@Slamrancher]

@aaronha994 I'm a believer and agree with you 100% God is above petty currency and a lot of people fail to see this. The last church I went too, they had like an entire website you had to log into as a member to donate money, and you could see how much money you've donated to the church every week, and idk it just put a bad taste in my mouth.. like why should I care how much of I've given to the church? If it's something I really wanted to do, why would I focus on it so much and jump through a bunch of hoops linking my bank card to the website portal, making an account. I'm all about giving, but it gets weird when it's a whole ordeal and makes question their ethics. Church isn't a fucking a business platform or a job I have to clock into.

[@Slamrancher]

​@@aaronha994and don't get me wrong, it doesn't sound that bad on the surface, my point i guess is like, why do I have to sit here for an hour seminar learning about how to give money to a church through a website when I could just hand them 20$ out of the kindness of my heart?

[@bennybronco76]

My church has turned into a feminist fest. My Pastor doesn't hold them accountable or preach on their obvious sins.

[@hpmetabolics7558]

@@bennybronco76 ...then why are you still saying "my pastor"???? Sounds like it has BEEN time to go!!

[@juschill7]

This is what a lot of congregations have become. A man bashing session - No thanks!

[@EyeAmYokesYonikinanda]

Pastor pimping their ears 💸

[@Mr.Edwards233]

​@@juschill7 Yep yep, sat in on a few of those sermons, it was officially time to go haven't been back since.

[@Shaolin91z]

Thanks Lord for bible study class

[@clintonyoung9813]

That's why black men with common sense refused to support the Mule Ticket Riders Candidate last Tuesday.

[@richardthomas5362]

What, Black men with common sense didn't want to be shamed into voting for Harris by Black women celebrities wiggling their butts in their faces and telling them that not voting for Harris makes them sexist? Sounds like a no brainer to me.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

LBJ be mad, that's too bad.

[@OOICU812]

Side note,speaking of out of control women, we dodged a bullet by rejecting Harris.

[@freeman8857]

@@OOICU812# 1 your vote doesn't count, all these "politicians" are already selected #2 trump is a Zionist puppet like the rest ✡ Israhell first

[@BlueDude-cf9mk]

I love women, but having one lead the most powerful country in the world, is a risk not worth taking. Women just think with their feelings and aren't as pragmatic. Consider how Harris ran her campaign: trans rights, gays stuff, abortion, twerking and dancing. Trump ran on real issues: immigration, the economy, law and order etc.

[@CaptainCoook]

We have to reject the harlots of Babylon USA too in addition to rejecting KH

[@PizzaCat4yhwh]

Amen

[@richardthomas5362]

True, but Harris, like Clinton before her, ran terrible campaigns.

[@naughtyhieroglyph669]

Wow, this explains a lot. I have seen a lot of guys leave church because the congregation kept trying to hook him up with a single mother, and no one wants a dumpster fire.

[@michaelsullivan2361]

The problem is in the pulpit. I’ve been a Christian for 40 years. In those years, I’ve heard sermon after sermon calling out men for sinful behavior. Women? . . . Crickets. Male Pastors are so afraid to address ANYTHING women do. It’s rampant. Church, on a Sunday morning has multiple women dressed like they’re going to a club on Friday night.

[@2bituser569]

If you address women dressing immodestly they reverse shame you for looking when its right in front of your face.

[@ironxy]

Yep, the pastors see the signatures on those "tithe checks". They know which side of the bread the butter is on.

[@derekgriffith4324]

@@michaelsullivan2361 they are the same women that went to the club on Friday night and went to church on Sunday morning searching for the same thing that they were at the club on Friday night.

[@elwoodblues9613]

Let's be real here. Whatever is said in the speech will be forgotten by 3:00 Sunday afternoon. But a Godly woman can lead other women into that life of devotion to Jesus Christ - a true "influencer." This female discipleship happens better in a coffee shop than in a pew. Such relationships need to be emphasized. The big problem is that these mature women are nearly all over the age of 60. Feminism has ruined all the rest. While Matt Redman sings "it's all about you, Jesus", church women declare "it's all about meeeeeeeeee!"

[@misutasutanto6312]

@michaelsullivan2361 Because the women in the congregation are the biggest contributors financially

[@racebannon96]

I dated a single mom I met at church. She portrayed herself as a God-fearing Christian woman. I found out she was a serial liar, petty con-artist, and narcissistic lunatic. She wanted approval from her kids on everything, so there were no rules or discipline. Her kids were demons in training. A few years later, her unwed teenage daughters were having pregnancies. Her youngest adult daughter was topless dancing and later committed suicide. The oldest daughter lost custody of her two sons and last I heard was living off of government housing. The single mom has been divorced 3x now and cruises the internet dating sites looking for #4.

[@chriskitchen4772]

Yes, there are devils in church. What a mess.😱

[@kingscairn]

@@racebannon96 that's a minefield

[@racebannon96]

@@kingscairn I agree with you. I was freshly divorced, and my self-esteem had been shattered. After the break-up with this narcissist woman, I watch her target other freshly divorced men at our church. She knew what she was doing.

[@averagejo1626]

Speaking from personal experience, the vast majority of “Christian” women I dated cheated and then pulled out “God forgives me so you should too.” I agree with the guys who say Marrage is dead and women killed it these days. The one woman I didn’t catch cheating during in two years of Dating I married and then she gets involved with a woman. My second point is no woman is “Under her father’s authority” anymore. They’re all strong and in dependant (Which usually just means rude from my observations.) I’m not sure what world you live in Darwynn, but I think the world’s moved on and left you behind far as dating and marrage goes.

[@Digitizeddragon]

God's rules don't get outdated. Stop watching Andrew tate and pick up your Bible friend

[@jimreimers4213]

@Digitizeddragon He said he is speaking from his personal experience. How did you get that he listens to anyone to arrive at his testimony that you don't believe? I'm confused

[@michaeldavis2039]

These are the reasons why as a single black man, I no longer attend the mainstream church anymore. I've been part of a multi-state prophetic prayer group that meets 3 times a week by phone conference for 4 years and I've grown spiritually and in the knowledge of the Word like never before!! If I do occasionally go to a church, it is a Messianic Christian church of both Jews and Gentiles who knows Yeshua (Jesus Christ) as Lord and it is so different from the mainstream churches I used to serve in!!

[@alanstevens1296]

Caucasian women are no different. Everything the pastor says applies to them as well.

[@al6347]

I was a very spiritual man . God Fearing. The a Beautiful woman that was single and without kids entered the Church. Gave it sometime to find out that she to was God Fearing. But she met someone from the church who never went to church on a vacation cruise. They married instantly. Even God Fearing women want the bad boys. I see her in church all by herself. Unhappy always complaining about him. At first I would lend a listening ear. But now I don't wast my time. I was told to become a spiritual leader (man) and you will attract a spiritual woman. But thats not true. Im glad now that I waited to see her real side . Her fake spiritual side only to marry a bad boy.

[@magnaz26]

Sadly, this has been my observation as well.

[@kimberlyturner820]

It's hard out here. It's like no one wants a Godly woman, not even Godly men. So you go to the other side and you're still not wanted. May as well stay single.

[@magnaz26]

@kimberlyturner820 The key is, if you are truly a woman or man of God, then you should also trust God to bring you a spouse just as he did for the men and women of God we read about in the scriptures. But if you don't trust God though ,you will go out to find your own spouse since you don't believe God will, and in doing this, out of a distrust of God, you will make the wrong decision due to being lead by the lust of your own flesh in your decision making instead of the spirit of God revealed through his Word.

[@slimfit767]

@@al6347 God fearing women do not go for "bad boys". Birds of a feather flock together,its simple .

[@snakegriffin4928]

I always tell young guys and girls that physical attraction Supersedes all other factors. If you find each other attractive, then secondly consider how spiritual you both are and proceed accordingly. Too many cheat when not satisfies

[@stickman787]

I'm attending church. I'm single. I refuse to date single mothers. I'm waiting for the pastor to start using shaming language against that. As soon as I hear it, I'm out

[@ravenclangaming]

That's one of the reasons y I haven't attended my Church in over 6 months

[@cbtam4333]

Before I married, there was a time where the only men who were asking me out were single fathers-of young children. I remember thinking, why would I want to start out my married life with those kind of complications and baggage?

[@cbtam4333]

@@ravenclangaming Why don’t the pastors try to pair up men and women who both don’t have kids? Seems like a no-brainer to me.

Men also get tired of repetition and cliches in church.

[@richardthomas5362]

How about songs which are lullabies rather than hyms for a Church Militant, spreading the gospel to the corners of the world.

[@ronaldblack-zb4yn]

I used to attend a church that always bashed the man, but never corrected the woman.

[@antonydrossos5719]

My now-ex had me going to a Black church in Toronto. No sooner did the pastor declare us “Husband and Wife”, he IMMEDIATELY began mistreating and disrespecting me at EVERY chance. One of our last conversations before SHE left, I brought this up. She actually had the nerve to grind her teeth and growl at me as if I were the one in the wrong. So, yeah, she joined the other many single women in that blasted church. The Black church, and the church in general can go’long. I’m done.

[@kathleenking47]

@@antonydrossos5719 It depends on the church

[@bigtomboye]

@@antonydrossos5719 Interesting, I attended a black church in TO for a few years until they closed for "covid". But the ultrafeminism from the deacons and the pastor was really becoming tiresome

[@BakeASnake]

It's the same in the protestant churches filled with mostly white people. The idea of black and white churches is an insult to God. There is only church. Not a black one, not a white one, not a green one, etc. Division is a tool of the devil.

[@JamminClemmons]

@@kathleenking47 Nope....it depends on the pastors internal moral and ethical compass! - Big Difference

[@captainmartin1219]

She that woman sounds like she was under heavy demonic influence. Bro, I hate to say it but sounds like you were married to a few entities. Her and her demons. It sounds like a good thing that they left you.

[@theradicalraccoon9911]

Now that you mention it... A pastor once HIGHLY recommend I date this woman who turned out to be incredibly promiscuous and degenerate. Its so normalized didnt even think twice about it. Thankfully we never dated.

[@jackdeniston6150]

Men do not leave anything. We stop carrying YOUR burden.

[@Tsoprano27]

As a Christian single father of 3 who is a widower, not even I want a single mother 😂 thank God I found someone my age with no kids and is easy going and is Christian. Getting married in a few months lord willing!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Congratulations brother 💯🫱🏾‍🫲🏽🥃

[@JuergenHholzer]

Gratulations,Good speed!

[@brightsunshine1776]

She may not be bringing baggage to you, but you are definitely bringing baggage to her. She deserves a man with no children such as herself. I hopes she wakes up before it’s too late. I was in her shoes years ago and had great regrets.

[@griffferguson3039]

My Brother in Christ, this video gave me the courage and tools to address these issues. We as men must lead, and that includes setting guiderails on what is and what is not biblical behaviour. Thank you!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

🫱🏾‍🫲🏽💯🙏🏿you’re welcome

[@leethepaladin5430]

My worst experience in my life was when I met my first girlfriend in church. She was abused by her x , which was are small group leader and she never told me. He would beat her and dress up like a woman and make her drive him to dances classes in the big city so people locally would not know. I met her at church and thought she was from God. She was not from God. She was damaged and abusive and I no exp to know better. We would go to church dinner and she would act like she did not know me then tell me after words she loved me. I realize looking back it was becuse of her x. Her house was messy and I cleaned it and for the first time in her life her family stayed for Christmas. I let her enter my hart and she burnt it down. She did unspeakable evil to me. I will never understand why I was the one who met her. I love who I thought she was. But the real her was not good and needed Gods healing. It took me 3 years to recover and I thanked God I was not tempted by any woman during that time. I eventually met a real Godly woman and got married. But the scares that evil woman left me with….. church girls are dangerously corrupt , sexually, and morally. Men put God first, don’t bow a knee for any woman and God will give you a good one in his time.

[@Me_Caveman]

I am a man who does not attend what we know as church, because the sheep are not being fed at church. It isn't meant to be a book club or group therapy; if men wanted that, we'd attend those instead.

[@OthelloBlaq]

No one in the space that I've heard of has spoken directly on this. It uncomfortable, but a necessary topic. Thank you. Cheers mate. 🥂

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Thanks for listening

[@moejohnson8459]

🔥 D. Dude I thought I had a solid foundation of a woman in church. But making a long story short, I learned that they may talk church this and that but the reality of life shows otherwise. So yup I walked away. The church today is more of a " faith talking club". Fellas here's my 3 points. 1. Learn and pay attention to how she moves. 2. As D as mentioned before here do not get caught up with her looks, can't stress this one enough. 3. And lastly. Fellas that building is full of fakeness. Find the one who on your level. Nit the one who knows more than you. Remember your the man not her. D what's up champ, keep reaching them they're listening.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

💯💯💯🫱🏾‍🫲🏽

[@neonphoenixoriginal]

Modern Christians make intelligent people hate them, thee worst type of people are in the church

[@neonphoenixoriginal]

Modern Christians make intelligent people hate them, thee worst type of people are in the church

[@Brick1978]

I've found that many single women in church will wait for their opportunity to step to a married man in church also! Some have done this right in front of my wife !!!

[@emmanuelsalako7370]

A good number of them.are really in love with the pastor and all the high status men that they can find around them.

[@missklassy9783]

WHy are you married and had an interest in poor Fat White women while doing nothing with your life other than whining online daily and chasing trashy Single parent WHite women! *You married a Poor Overweight White woman but you were chasing poor White women on the job while doing nothing with your life that's foolish!

[@RedHorseman66]

For sure. They'll plot on you at the job to make sure a godly man is never given a position of authority. Basically usurping his authority and finding any plausible deniable excuse to do it. Promote new people over you, or fire you.

[@MavenWalsh]

And those men are banging them behind closed doors.

[@Exodus850]

Check this one out… I go back to my home church one Sunday. The pastor wife (married over 30+ years, live in a mansion, and does not work a regular job) is doing announcements and says “You don’t need a man all you need is Jesus”!!! All the single women clapping in accordance🤦🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️

[@darwynnmcpherson]

🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

[@grace4meinthehouseofgod519]

Given that there are no Christian men in the church, she better NOT need a man!

[@5.5.Below.5]

😢 so sad. She has it together, but her followers don't.

[@Raymond-tz5uf]

If you fear women more than God you shouldn’t be a pastor!

[@ServingChrist]

The male population at church has declined because the services aren't designed for them. If the services were designed more with men in mind, you would see more support from the men. But the current model caters to women and so you see more support from the women. Most of the issues mentioned here are a byproduct of that. Since many churches are slow to change, men have to make a decision: 1. go to a church that understands this and supports men. This will be orthodox churches and newer evangelical churches that are open to change and need and actively seek men's help to lead them. 2. avoid church altogether 3. work within an existing church for change For many, the answer will be #1 if they are truly seeking spiritual growth. #2 is not a long term solution and will ultimately lead to resentment. It would be better if such people gathered with other likeminded folks and started a church. For #3, this requires a lot of patience and a willingness to sacrifice your life to this cause which won't likely be realized until the next generation. But it may be worthwhile if you are deeply connected with that church for various reasons.

[@guevealbino5432]

Too many SORORITY sisters are in Church 😈😈😈

[@RedHorseman66]

Those types are afflicted with some real demonic entities.

[@deadmansgdnp2426]

Do you guys realize that you have to do a bunch of lesbian sexual crap to be able to join a sorority?

[@kingmaafa120]

@@deadmansgdnp2426 that part

[@kingmaafa120]

⁠​⁠@@RedHorseman66see which HBCU is listed as the no 1 gay friendly gay school Kinda ironic that d e v i harris attended the school 😮

[@JR-zd7ns]

🙏agreed on all counts. I was uncomfortable with my ex going on "girls night out" with the divorced women in my church. I told her the vicious words those women were whispering in her ears was damaging our relationship. I agree with everything you have put out. Everything. I study on my own now.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

🫱🏾‍🫲🏽💯🙏🏿Well said

[@captainmartin1219]

I have always found that a strange thing. Why is a person who is married doing girls night out or guys nights out. You should be spending your time with your spouse.

[@lpd1snipe]

I met my second wife in church. My first one had died suddenly after 19 years together. The second wife had a lot of problems in her past (drugs not a single mom). She was doing well. After dating her about 2 years, we married. Nine years I had reached my threshold of pain and I filed for divorce. She had gone back to her old ways before she was "saved by God in the church." These women are broken, and the women in church and the pastor expects you to save them. Like the man says in the video, "if Jesus can't save these hoxs, what makes you think you can."

[@fraudsarentfriends4717]

Religion and Marriage are completely secular. Modern Marriage has more to do with Real Estate and Finance than it does the Church.

[@marty906]

Church is the biggest obstacle to getting married. Took me over 20 years to find a girl who would go to church with me. Then, the pastor wouldn't marry us because she was divorced.

[@zarroth]

Good pastor. The Bible is very specific about that particular topic and so many churches ignore it. You engaging with her intimately is adultry. Divorce in the eyes of God is VERY different from what the law considers divorce.

[@andrewevans7992]

Good job on the pastor.. that woman was a 304

[@richardthomas5362]

Maybe that is good, maybe it isn't. My brother's first marriage ended when his wife decided she wanted out. She refused all counseling sessions, lawyered up, and left. She had turned into her mother - her mother despised her husband, and stuck with him because of $. My brother had no money so the wife that despised him left. My brother's church treated my brother as if it was all his fault, and he hasn't joined a church since. Therefore, I will not judge your relationship because I know virtually no details about it, and I do know that pastors sometimes make bad decisions.

[@jajupa78]

Catholic?

[@Slamrancher]

​@@zarrothhow is that good exactly? I'm guessing they were catholic for one. Two, if they weren't catholic then they were a church who picked up the marriage laws from the catholics. 3, the lust of the eyes is also adultery, so next time you see a pretty girl on the street, and you think' "well damn, she was hot" then you've already committed adultery because your eyes lusted. So in essence, literally every person in the world has committed adultery.... Including you, so by your definition and the catholic definition, you don't deserve a marriage either cause you saw a hot chick in the bar one time and wondered if she'd smash or pass... see how absurd that sounds?

[@fishin2fit753]

DROPPIN GEMS BRO💪🏾👑🤝🏾

[@twerner5496]

Dated a stripper who I bought a bible for so she could attend service the morning after our FIRST date. Men are wise to completely avoid these jezebels

[@magnaz26]

What happened next...?

[@devertonpasley4942]

@@magnaz26 I was thinking the same thing.

[@theradicalraccoon9911]

Bro only told half the story 😭

[@leeolie3728]

That’s how its supposed to go but it often leads to church scandals and pastor side babies

[@BakeASnake]

My brothers in Christ, it's the same in all protestant churches. No matter the color of the congregation. We men must take back our christian society together. We are all christains. We must stand together. We must fight together.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Ok brother I’m all ears 🫱🏾‍🫲🏽💯

[@PetitHibou72]

Or you can come back home to Rome. Just saying. Eastern Orthodox men also powerfully walking their faith. If we believe that church is a place to heal, we must also believe that it works, and is not just a house full of broken losers. I see the point of this message and imagine it can get out of control out there. But if we remember that the point of healing in Christ is to ultimately walk his truth Together, Every Day, then let blended families come together, and let the single ones come together who truly want to live their faith in action and encourage one another.

[@techguy2191]

Whoa! This topic should have been addressed aggressively long before now. I spend most of my time communicating with friends and family, those that still talk to me, about how SIMPS and Drill rappers are raised. I am proud to say I am a recovering SIMP. I was never as bad of a SIMP as I could have been were it not for my strong male gene pool.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Thanks for sharing!

[@MindHunger]

This brought up a memory. A few years ago I thought I would find myself a church and emailed a local church. After I briefly introduced myself (she asked and I told her I'm single) I was invited to a Saturday lunch at the church. I showed up on Saturday and after I got my food I was seated at a table with five single mothers. Remember those Star Trek shows when they would use sensors to scan a planet? Well, I felt like I was under an intense sensor scan from all of these single women! They engaged me in polite, probing conversation but my own sensor scan told me these were all damaged women - there was no empathy at that table, only plotting. It was very uncomfortable for me. I never went back and I haven't searched for a new church since.

[@martysk8r]

How many "So, what do you do for work?" questions did you get?

[@kennethderrickson8840]

Glad that I along with my good friend married good saved committed to Jesus young ladies when we were 23 years old. We were extremely seeking the Lord for the right choice. We are both still married 40 years later. God did and can do it.

[@coreyondavis6032]

this is honestly one of the few reasons why i've stopped going to church altogether. Corrupted pastors, me being questioned for not dating (back then) and so on. I was there to follow the teachings of God, not to follow women around.

[@tomwilliams6744]

I haven't been to church for a while for various reasons. I miss it but in the last few years when I was going it wasn't edifying. What I notice with women is that they say they want a good Godly man, but it seems like they always ended up with a man who is not only unchristian, but someone who is just plain horrible. I wanted those women but they snubbed their noses at me. So that's why I never ended up married (I'm 68 years old by the way). My sister was a good example of what I'm talking about. She finally got married at 42 but with a horrible guy. The guy is not saved, he's temperamental, extremely critical especially with my side of the family, and makes offensive comments. Before she married him, she dated some pretty awful guys and was even engaged to a gay hairdresser.

[@richardthomas5362]

Many women really like the bad boys, then rely on the nice guys to bail them out and build up their shattered self images, then they go back to the bad boys.

[@captainmartin1219]

Lol a gay hairdresser? How was that going to work?

[@tomwilliams6744]

@@captainmartin1219 I would have never thought it would work out. And we (me and my parents) tried talking her out of it. Things really got bad with the relationship (as what we thought it would) and she broke it off, thank goodness! My sister was so desperate that she would take any guy that came along.

[@captainmartin1219]

@@tomwilliams6744 This reminds me of a very attractive woman I knew who dated a guy that was gay. She loved hanging out with dude and spending money on him, but when it came to sex dude was not putting the hammer down so she broke up with him. I would love to be inside these woman's brains and hear the mental gymnastics it takes to think its going to work out with a guy who only wants to get smashed by other dudes.

[@thierrymarcellus9082]

Putting a timer on the screen is a smart move. Good job 👏🏽

[@darwynnmcpherson]

💯💯💯

[@Alejandro-z5c]

Babylon is fallen, is fallen because she made all nations drink of the wine of the wrath of her fornication (See Revelation 14:8.) Satan has always used women to help take down the foundations that God set up from the very beginning. In Bible prophecy, a woman is described as a church. Jeremiah 6:2 I have likened the daughter of Zion to a comely and delicate woman. A good church must appear to have characteristics like God’s holy Zion or New Jerusalem. Psalm 48:2 Beautiful for situation, the joy of the whole earth, is mount Zion, on the sides of the north, the city of the great King. The problem with churches is that they’re not following the pattern of God, but of the woman (church) described in Revelation chapter 17. MYSTERY, BABYLON THE MOTHER OF HARLOTS,etc. Satan says in Isaiah chapter 14:13 and 14; “I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will be like the most High.” Is there any church on earth that actually follows Christ? God says throughout the Bible that his people keep his Commandments. The Fourth commandment was changed by men to keep Sunday, the first day of the week, instead of the true sabbath, which is the seventh day. Women are led by ungodly men that don’t know the true God of heaven. Babylon is derived from Babel, it means confusion. The wine of Babylon is false doctrine, which is plentiful in all forms of religion.

[@lumox7]

The wine of Babylon is the blood of the saints.

[@Alejandro-z5c]

Revelation chapter 17:6 says that the (woman) is drunken with the blood of the saints. This particular church is mainly responsible for all the wrong doings of the Christian faith. History tells of countless of Christians being killed for even having bibles in their possession. The Reformers, like Martin Luther, fought against this church because of all the false teachings she used to become powerful. Jeremiah 51:7 Babylon hath been a golden cup in the LORD’s hand, that made all the earth drunken: the nations have drunken of her wine; therefore the nations are mad. Christianity is full of idolatry. That’s how ancient Babylon was, a kingdom who worshipped other gods. Spiritual Babylon are all the earth’s religions. The MOTHER OF HARLOTS wants all the religious bodies to come together under one banner. Have you figured out who is the mother of harlots, yet?

[@michaelwhite9199]

Thank you for speaking the truth. Young men need wisdom.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

You’re welcome

[@JaxxedGaming]

Let us not forget who committed the first sin.

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Worst thing I ever did in my entire life was that I dated two girls in the church growing up. Worst relationships ever and that’s the only regret I have. They were not all that and one cheated but karma bit her in the ass and the other one was so mentally screwed up and was so disrespectful. It’s not worth it dating someone from the church. Trust me it’s not worth it and don’t do it!!!

[@henrygoboy8621]

recently moved and looking for a church. really only 1 criteria, a pastor that speaks and follows the Bible. got to tell you it’s not easy to find.

[@seensay2132]

On the same journey. Except my first priority is a Congregation willing to call out wrongdoing ESPECIALLY from a church pastor.

[@grace4meinthehouseofgod519]

Try The Salvation Army.

[@DKForeman]

I left the church along Christianity all together back in 2017. Before that I witnessed a lot of division and strife in the four walls buildings. I started listening to the late Pastor Stephen Darby of Destined Ministries and started connecting the dots as far as who I really was. Was with the Black Hebrew Israelite Camps for a while and left them alone and got plugged into The Most High Yahuah for myself. APTTMH for evolving and growing in his truth! Shalom

[@missklassy4447]

_I've only met 2-3 Black males in 40 years who lived the Word of GOD. When I ask other people they say the same thing; most Black men and women don't take GOD's WORD seriously. Some of it is unawareness and at times they know but are unwilling to follow GOD's word their lusts get the better of them. Not only did I leave the Black church but I also left Black males alone have no desire for them in my life; they bring too many liabilities and they're always out to use women!_

[@CaptainCoook]

Good news for you, Atheists comprise only 2% of all divorces in the USA according to Pew Research Center, and Christians comprise 74% of all of them! BTW, Muslims, Jews and Buddhists got 1% each. You might have just lucked in marriage (or will) as a non-Christian. I am a Christian, but I am not oblivious to the numbers. I don't buy these pastors advice as they plunged most of America to divorce.

[@courtneycampbell8496]

@@DKForeman I would implore you to revisit this decision. Regardless of your experience, Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, and the life. You will not live in the Yah if you have rejected his son as your messiah as I suspect you may have. Please do not be blinded by the color of your skin or the sin of men. There is no living again without Christ, only death and hell.

[@odyphil2922]

Very on point brother!!! Keep it going. Solid stuff man!!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Appreciate it!

[@missklassy9783]

​@@darwynnmcpherson *_There's no patriarchy in place_*_ Black men are seeing the importance of being a man and having a family yet they don't want to put in the hard work it takes to establish and build an Infrastructure as a collective group. The men are comfortable with Black women being breadwinners while they contribute.; women are tired of doing it all alone* _*_GOD gave the dominion to man to do it; women are helpmates only_*_ I agree with what you said it's just that most men don't follow the Word of GOD and the basics of Manhood are missing. Chastising women to follow you and respect men when you're not doing the work is a form of control; it won't work. GOD told you what to do and it's up to you to do it; otherwise, you have what you created which is chaos. Everybody has passed Black males on the food chain including recent immigrants who barely speak English; they may not be Christian but they follow the principals of manhood._

[@coreyh55]

I’m not a Christian. But I agree with everything you’re saying. The destruction of the family has lead to this issue. We need to cut feminism out of society. And as someone that’s not even religious but believes in God. It needs to start with Gods so called “people”

[@HaroldLeeDye]

Wow, On Point. And most of the comments are right on target. Have been a born again Christian since I was 32y.o. and after a 30 year marriage and then her cheating and her filling for divorce, a man is so much better off living life as a wise resingled man.

[@Digitizeddragon]

God calls a man who finds a wife a good thing and that it is not good for man to live alone. I hope you find community in a good church, and I hope you find reconciliation with your wife.

[@ChildofLightOfficial]

I agree.. there’s a difference between a Woman of God and a “Christian Woman” you will know them by their fruits is the best basis to use for both men and women when discerning who they really are. And definitely agree with Repentance.. you can’t re-interpret the word

[@missklassy9783]

_I agree but there's no patriarchy in the Black race; Black men are comfortable with Black women being the breadwinners they don't want to put in the hard work. I see lots of videos where the men complain about child support; losing their licenses and acquiring a felony. They told Robert Kennedy Jr in a Barbershop in ATL that they shouldn't be penalized for not paying child support; you should have seen his face. The men said to remove the burden from the men, give them stipends for trades, no payback, and no penalty for several years for having children at a young age. I believe was if they got married. *They never said anything about men watching their choices, and NOT getting women pregnant_

[@jdog4usmc1]

💯💯

[@countryjoe3551]

Sadly, too many churches are full of "make believers" instead of actual believers. Discipleship is almost unheard of today.

[@KennyPeeples]

Am getting passport and leave the matrix USA forever

[@Sloth-j1m]

@@KennyPeeples I have bad news for you, the matrix extends to the edge of the observable universe

[@CaptainCoook]

Yes if you're capable don't ever be involved with the whores of Babylon USA

[@m.w.2401]

Bad news bro, women are same everywhere. My Korean brother in law can confirm. Prayer is the only way to find a decent woman.

[@Gravitywalker20]

@@Sloth-j1m Define "the matrix" and "the observable universe"

[@alexlevingston]

I got my passport Wednesday, October 16, 2024.

[@stevenlucas1042]

Bro... I just came across you... Your words are definitely on point... Your men will get it thanks to you! 🙏

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Welcome aboard!

[@TheBestPill-no2xp]

I'm not religious anymore, *but I used to be a hard charging fundamentalist.* As the New Testament is written, this video is 100% accurate. Having said that, everything said at the end of the video about women being the gateway to depravity, isn't just for the church. *It applies to society as a whole.* But, it isn't always bad: Women were the first people to champion abolitionism, a major change in the way the country saw slavery. *Their emotion-based thinking and willingness to see the status quo change helped usher out a dark phase.* Even MEDIA played a part, when Harriet Beacher Stowe's _Uncle Tom's Cabin_ gained mass popularity among progressive U.S. northerners (sound familiar?). The way women operate represents an evolutionary balance. Our problem is that we are out of balance because women are put on a pedestal, and men are seen as not valuable. *So, society is emotional and practices constant, radical social change because women have been leading.* The recent election results are a referendum on that lack of balance. Men are tired of the social impracticalities of women's perspective.

[@Izzygirl154]

YES, SIR , I AM IN THE COORDINANCE WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING !!! PREACH BROTHER PREACH !!! 💯👀

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Excellent🫱🏾‍🫲🏽

[@letnothingslide1969]

The worse woman I ever dated was a self proclaim Christian yes my ex wife was hiding her jazzbelle spirit in the church like a majority of narcissist do

[@samuelrigaud88]

🚨

[@jdog4usmc1]

That’s a word right there

[@sincereone2388]

I can't believe how disrespectful this comment section. Please realize single moms are still children of God and should be talked about with decency. This hate toward them is not Godly at all. If they are not your cup of tea then that is fine but the hate disguised as woke truth is unnecessary.

[@emmanuelsalako7370]

You are eloquent in your speech and how you deliver it. Single church women are a sight for sore eyes 😮 for they know what they want and go for it even if he's married.

[@Areutherehello]

You just slandered a whole lot of God-fearing women. Please repent.

[@emmanuelsalako7370]

@Areutherehello right back @ you.

[@johnhemphill1938]

Absolutely true, brother you are way more kind with how you said it then I would be because I've seen entire Churches ad marriage get wrecked over this

[@darwynnmcpherson]

💯💯💯

[@Areutherehello]

So, I guess a single woman who believes in God, and has no kids, and prays she finds a godly man as a husband, just shouldn't go to church and hear the word of God???? Because this video paints single women as a whole as dangerous to the church. Yeah, I'm lusting after my 86-year old pastor and get his wife out of the way, and I'm out to destroy men and the church. This video is ridiculous, and brother, you are spouting false witness against good, godly women who haven't done wrong.

[@grace4meinthehouseofgod519]

Amen, Sister!

[@El_Terrible_1]

This is one of the best videos on KZbin

[@ReginaldWebber-qr3hx]

Great Job!!!

[@reckville7]

I'm with you brother, very well said😊

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Appreciated🫱🏾‍🫲🏽💯

[@Gravitywalker20]

Story time! Grab your popcorn, and enjoy the show, gents. I was baptized in a methodist church back in 2017. I chose this because I like the old school traditional style churches over all the "modern rock band" types. Anyways, I start going there each week to hear the pastor's sermons which I found interesting. In my third or fourth week, the sermon ends, and our pastor walks to the entrance of the church to release the congregation as usual. I'm on my way out, and feel this tap on my back. I turn around to find this obese woman looking like she hasn't seen the inside of gym all her life standing there. I can't remember what she asked me, but I just shrugged, and proceeded out of the church. Trying not to make this too long, but next week after church ends, same woman finds me again, and hands me her number that I didn't ask for. For all the men reading this, I'm sure you know exactly why I as a man never called her. A few days later, I get a call from a local number that I didn't recognize. I pick up, and realize it's HER. She looked up MY number from the church directory, and called me! The thoughts in my head as I had to spend the next 3 hours listening to her sob story. Anyways, I go to church again the next Sunday, and guess who decides to find me again after the choir is done right before the sermon began. She's in the choir, so yeah she had a nice elevated position to spot where I sat in the pews. She decides to invite herself over, and plunk her fat ass down next to me. At this point, you guys can imagine what I'm thinking. This chick is never going to get it! No matter how much polite DISINTEREST I show her, she's just not going to stop chasing me! After that day in church, I had to come to a hard decision. Either tell her directly that I wasn't interested in her which would've hurt her feelings, and then have her proceed to tarnish my name in the whole church (because that's how women are). OR, stop going to church there to prevent this problem from happening. She left me with no choice but to stop going to church where I was baptized all because this woman didn't know how to take a hint 😡😡! But wait! There's more! After I stopped going, she then proceeds to begin STALKING ME for the next 4 months calling and texting me every week. I'm thinkin' this woman needs a damn therapist. And that's where the story ends. Hope you guys got a chuckle out of it at my expense, but I just wanted to say this is the reason I as a man haven't been back to church in a long time. Cheers!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

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[@racebannon96]

Was her name Candace/Candy?

[@okshadowbannedjet7981]

men don't do "hints", you should have told her the truth disregarding the consequences... What would Jesus do?

[@prettyboyjeremy]

Such as many cases unfortunately. Everyone wants a tall strong D1 athlete but no one like hiking, running or lifting weights

[@JamminClemmons]

Sorry you had to bail-out from your church. Consider returning, and admit to her that you're 100% celibate. That may work for you.

[@TimBrown-e9l]

Pastors will teach their flock that lust is a sin. But what they fail to teach is that INSPIRING lust is also a sin. Perpetrating sin is bad karma and does not come without consequences.

[@missklassy4447]

_Accountability should be on both sides _*_(2 Tim 3:1-8)_*_ The Scriptures talk about men preying on women laden down with lots of sins and men going into their homes and taking advantage of these women! The Scriptures are talking to those men who are _*_Legalists and who claim to know GOD but are not living the WORD of GOD_*_ He said they were fools and would get exposed_

[@AlanWunderlin]

Thank you for this video. Many men don’t realize that we have the power to change this if we actually stand our ground on biblical principles

[@Ken-xt3cp]

Do you have a verse for that? I have heard of several very popular church leaders that have had horrible wives. Obviously, they didn't have an answer. Malevolent Marriages/Great Gospel - Stone The Preacher -

[@AlanWunderlin]

@ not sure what the verse you’re asking about? Possibly the male authority? But as far as men having the power to change it; venture’s into psychology and behavior traits. A lot of men don’t realize that women will chase and change for them if they don’t show weakness by chasing her. Once a man hands authority over to her she will never better herself for him. The reason other countries have better women than America is because the men only date a certain type of woman. Here in America men date, sleep with, and exalt any female just because they’re women and that’s why America is a mess. Hope that answers your question. If not then give me more specifics about what you’re asking for and I’ll do my best to help

[@Ken-xt3cp]

@AlanWunderlin "if we actually stand our ground" The following type of verse doesn't seem to offer much hope for modern husbands: Proverbs 21:9 It's better to stay outside on the roof of your house than to live inside with a nagging wife.

[@AlanWunderlin]

@@Ken-xt3cp your right. It will take a least a year to get through. And the verse you picked is the right way to do it. Walking away and letting them figure it out is 1 of the ways. My ex chose to leave because I wouldn’t let her dominate me in the relationship. If men do this in mass numbers (which is starting to happen) they will resist at first and get worse before they get better. But once they get tired of being alone or with beta males they will change. When we disobey God, he distance himself from us. And we’re supposed to reflect him in our lives and relationships. So that’s my take on that verse

[@Ken-xt3cp]

@AlanWunderlin I personally lay the blame at church leadership. Leadership generally doesn't tell people (particularly women) that there is a consequence to bad behavior. But more to my passion is that virtually all churches are ignoring the Titus 2 women's mandate for older, godly women to teach younger to love their husbands in the way God prescribes. Again, personally, I believe almost all church leaders are going to hell for the condition that "Christian" marriages are in.

[@leoA678]

The information shared on this video is simply bitter truth! A pill not easy to swallow. This is the kind of video which is rare on KZbin. Man, make more, especially for the churches.

[@sandileyaze2380]

I enjoy hearing your perspective on issues. You make sense!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

I appreciate that!

[@johnalexir7634]

0:15. Lol. Refreshing to see people be unafraid to word things in the most accurate way.😄

[@StevenEverett-jj2bk]

EXCELLENT!!!!! COMMENTARY!!!!!!

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Thank you kindly!

[@Jcroffe]

On Point one: I think most women wouldn't know they need spiritual covering nor who would be the optimum leader that will provide it. Not to mention, those that might try to sleep with them. The Church ain't what it use to be unfortunately.

[@larrycraddock3063]

EXCELLENT VIDEO!😊😊😊

[@darwynnmcpherson]

Thank you very much!

[@larrycraddock3063]

@@darwynnmcpherson Blessings back to you and have a happy New Year. your video was spot on!!😊😊😊

[@darwynnmcpherson]

You too and Thanks for watching!

[@stanhankins3175]

This is true. Guys, walk accordingly and don’t be fooled

[@dr.michaelr.foreman2170]

Another reason men stopped going to Church is because every Mother's Day, certain pastors make the man bow down and worship the woman and be her slave. I find this very offensive. For this reason many men stopped going to Church.

[@sonOfTheL1vingGod]

how are you going to talk about Jesus and cuss in the beginning? And don't bring up relationship not religion. The bible forbids cussing and we cannot have a relationship with Christ without scripture and His word.

[@kylerolle5050]

@@sonOfTheL1vingGod yes it throws me off to. His intentions seem good but I guess all of us have shortcomings.....same time we gotta be accountable not to confuse the weaker or new believers.

[@peachtreeministries1890]

@@sonOfTheL1vingGod Proverbs 26:25 When he speaketh fair, believe him not: for there are seven abominations in his heart.(meaning just because someone “Cusses” doesn’t mean they can’t teach the Bible or their message isn’t righteous)

[@flawed2001]

The Bible forbids cussing? Really? What’s the scripture, chapter and verse that specifically states that?

[@bassguitarislife3419]

He only said “shit”. 🙄

[@gj0628]

What verse does it say this bout cussing : curse is not ciussing

[@hancock1475]

This Brother is preaching the Truth.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

💯💯💯

[@AWFULWORKPLACES]

Ive tryied to find a decent God Fearing Woman in South Mississippi Church but nothing Woman dont have the Passion to be in my State to meet me were im at, wich is quiet sad for them i give up on woman and this planet can go straight to hades on judgement day for ALLLLLLLL That it has caused to me

[@NormFC]

If there's a lot of single mothers, then there should be a lot of single fathers too. Why is that congregation ok with divorce? Why is it pushing the divorced men out? Maybe need to preach more about chastity than charity, because it sounds like the women are giving too much away

[@ECA2]

"The Kingdom of God is within." Once you discover the reality of this and develop a relationship with God, you no longer need organized religion. It becomes God In You overcoming the world. Become God Directed.

[@whirlwindmgtow5534]

Truth

[@Digitizeddragon]

God says to not forsake thr assembly. Thr church is not perfect and neither are you. I pray you find a good church.

[@whirlwindmgtow5534]

@@Digitizeddragon Define the “church”. Define “assembling”.

[@anton74624]

I have a question, is it good for a married man to attend a church service alone, when his wife is not feeling well? You sometimes get the not so welcoming stares. 😮

[@darwynnmcpherson]

I’d stay home with my wife if she is ill. I’d use the time to nurture her back to well. Your call though. I wonder what the stares are about h though?

[@easter_sunday]

I think of Fani Willis as a typical churchgoing woman.

[@bigtomboye]

Yes.

[@transcendent7lucidity]

I am not religious but am so glad that this was made when considering how often men have been recommended to go for religious women when wanting to find a high-quality romantic partner. I am willing to date a religious woman, but too many are definitely not worth dating.

[@darwynnmcpherson]

💯💯💯

[@countryjoe3551]

To be honest, a Godly woman who is Biblically literate will have nothing to do with you. She will know that being in a relationship with you will be an unequally yoked relationship, which is Biblically condemned.

[@skydive9955]

This is the perfect video to add the importance of a very controversial subject of abortion within all of the “Christian” communities. This can truly divide and destroy but forgiveness and biblical guidance must take precedence over blaming and pointing a judgmental finger at one another..🙏🏻

[@ravenclangaming]

Unless there was serious repentance a woman who had an abortion should not be welcome in the congregation. She's a murderer.

[@prettyboyjeremy]

Correct, and I appreciate the way you wrote this out. I personally see that controversy as nothing more than 💀 at the altar of convenience. Life isn't convenience and never has been. It's a responsibility to Life.

[@whitewolf6730]

Well stated, this practice is at epidemic proportions. You make a good point, they must be completely transformed. They do “listen to the serpent”. Great word My Brother! Very refreshing.

[@raycornelious7817]

COVID gave a lot of men an excuse to not return to church.

[@kirkbrown2147]

@raycornelious7817 some do but some done. I've seen my church allow girls in clothes women normally wear to the clubs to lead in song service. Or gay gay leading song service. Most women comes to church dressing like prostitutes. I love women but I don't want to be distracted from hearing God. It's absolutely pointless going if it's not for God.

[@raycornelious7817]

@kirkbrown2147 this why other cultures separate men and women during service. Men are visual.

[@kirkbrown2147]

@raycornelious7817 I hear you, but regardless. God certainly don't want to see them. We're lucky God is love or we all would've been zapped.