The Burden of Forgiveness

[@DryCreekWranglerSchool]

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[@theflagstaffkid]

"Pardoning doesn't mean you have to let them back in." Thanks for that validation, something I have been thinking.

[@adityaganjoomech]

Sir I am a Hindu from India. Been your subscriber for I dont know how many years. Every time I watch your video, I realise how common are the principles of morality in Christianity and Hinduism. I really think that the religious people from all over the world should come together without any attempt to impose their faiths on others. Once we embrace our religious differences and unite with what we believe is moral, we can make our society great and just

[@Str8OuttaFrayser919]

best comment ive read in a while. love you

[@adityaganjoomech]

@@Str8OuttaFrayser919 Thankyou :) really appreciate it! Glad to find like-minded people!

[@HelloKittySGTC]

Religion and state are separated for a reason. But good luck

[@adityaganjoomech]

@@HelloKittySGTC I am not talking about merging. Rather I am referring to more engagement. Religion and state strongly influenced each other.

[@Daniel-ve3sc]

​@@adityaganjoomechHellokitty is a troll

[@Giraffe-on-a-kite]

“Who is going to put a burden on you to do more than Christ” what a line. That’s the whole argument right there.

[@N1DM]

There’s nothing more confident than saying you’re right when you KNOW you are. Thanks for this topic, Dewayne

[@philosophyoftrucking]

Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation.

[@jasonwoods2802]

Seems half assed

[@larrybird2892]

@@jasonwoods2802may seem that way but sometimes that’s the way it is while here on earth

[@Bmorrissinging]

Exactly. In our part. It doesn’t have to. But God forgives forever and completely. He cannot even see your sin at all. He sees the blood of Christ. He sees that imputed righteousness given to us Romans 2 talks about. He sees His son’s righteousness when He looks at a saved soul. It’s a forgiveness we cannot understand or give. Jesus says love your enemies and pray for them. I guess we need to pray for all these politicians lol 😂

[@silverkitty2503]

true

[@Mike232-j2p]

​​@@jasonwoods2802how is that half-assed if somebody did you wrong and would do it again you would be a fool to go back for seconds and thirds forgiveness releases your soul of a burden they'll still carry theirs because they will never change forgiveness does it mean being a fool and going back for more

[@angelc1288]

"Let it go and live." That is the most realistic quote I have ever heard in my life. Those who have wronged me are already suffering. They suffer knowing that I don't need them as much as they need me.

[@runswithraptors]

It is great when you realize everyone who's wronged you is doing worse than you are

[@SteveDave5763]

As someone who has spent to many years “letting go” this monologue was refreshing.

[@raYrefiedAire]

🎉

[@6uteee]

Same man it changed my whole wiew on the topic

[@IYEOFO]

18:01 "Control your emotions, but don't carry the burden of having to forgive the unforgivable." Powerful stuff sir. Thank you 👏👏

[@Nomadestra]

God says that everyone is forgivable. Are we above God? Who are we to judge that a person is unforgivable when God is clear when he said ALL can be forgiven?

[@DryCreekWranglerSchool]

@Nomadestra your argument is did I say that anyone was unforgivable. I said forgiveness is earned by asking for it and confessing that you have done wrong. We take our example from God, as his approach is the same way. You are forgivable and redeemable, but you do not receive that forgiveness or that redemption unless you ask for it.

[@Nomadestra]

@DryCreekWranglerSchool If by asking for forgiveness, you mean you have to forgive first and foremost, I agree. God didn't say you get forgiveness merely by asking for it. You have to seek and attain the ability to forgive others before you earn the right to be forgiven. Now, it doesn't mean you have to hunt down everyone who has done you wrong and forgive them. Rather, love and forgiveness are cut from the same cloth, and you have to make both a permanent part of your soul in order to be forgiven by God.

[@DryCreekWranglerSchool]

No, when I say “ask for forgiveness” I literally mean “ask for forgiveness“. I myself and my guy that generally says exactly what he means. It means exactly what he says. You are twisting everything around and ignoring what I am saying, and giving everything different meanings. You are putting your own definition into everything and ignoring what is literally being said. There is no way to have a logical, honest discussion like this.

[@Nomadestra]

@DryCreekWranglerSchool I'm not twisting words. You and I just have different ideas about what God meant when he was talking about forgiveness. I don't think he meant simply ask, and the scripture pretty much answers that. Forgive, and ye shall be forgiven. God won't forgive you your sins until you yourself are ready to forgive all who trespassed on you. A lot of Christians don't get this, and go around judging people all day long. You can not simply live with bitterness in your heart, and then ask for forgiveness every night before bed. God sees that fakeness in a person's heart for what it is.

[@JonOnFilm]

Dewayne, as fate would have it. This is what I needed to hear this afternoon. Thank you so much, brother. Good wishes and blessings to you and mama.

[@phillipboll5214]

Likewise!!!

[@StarDork]

Same

[@rozitaru9205]

Same here! This ol cowboy dude is one of the best things thats ever happened to me☺️

[@FutureInnovators]

Same here. God bless brother

[@primozeroyt]

I LOVE your KZbin banner

[@starkaxst7945]

7:42 : "Look jack-wagon, you are a punk!" hahahahah love ole Dry Creek Wrangler

[@johnwatson9518]

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."

[@bobbyb7127]

Maybe you need to study forgiveness a little more.

[@johnwatson9518]

@@bobbyb7127 You got some magic way to change the past? Are you God?

[@iXenox]

In my opinion forgiveness isn't about the past or hope. It's about the future consequences of someone's actions that got waivered because they realised they messed up.

[@caileanmor5316]

“Forgiveness is divine, but never pay full price for late pizza.”

[@Beta_Mixes]

@johnwatson9518 You are totally right, we have the means and the liberty to leave the past as it was and give it a whole new meaning...these people that come over with complaints like "no one can control the past!!" is completely wrong and going to the wrong direction.

[@davidfarrall]

This talk makes perfect logical sense. I’m not pardoning the person/people who wronged me, but I’m healed now and moving into peace. I will certainly pardon them if they apologise, but we must never forget the wrongdoing and let it happen again. I will not harbour a grudge but not be resentful and carry the burden. God Bless You, that helps so much.

[@Jules-fh4rf]

I've never heard forgiveness explained better. Thank you

[@chezdante]

Some how this gentleman always releases a video just at the right moments. Thank you for following your heart and posting this video for us.

[@SemperFiParatio]

This is maybe one of the most important videos on this channel.

[@melaniel7263]

I was just thinking the exact same thing

[@Swishersweetcigarilo]

Watch the one about a year ago called "you messed up, now what" something along those lines.

[@mikeduhon77]

Our senior pastor/bishop explained this to us several years ago and this revelation is liberating. We don’t have to do what God won’t do himself. Thank you for echoing this.

[@patrick.alexandru2006]

Wished more pastors were open minded and wise like that

[@Kendro53]

Never thought that a person from across the globe will help me so much, thank you, and greetings from Hungary.

[@Beta_Mixes]

When God makes His miracles, anything is possible

[@geargrinder7714]

God bless you this was cathartic. There's a huge difference between forgiving someone and letting go of what they've done to you. Thank you for putting it beautifully

[@dariuspringle2608]

At 69 years old, that’s the best piece of understanding I’ve heard.

[@nancykruger1392]

I’m right behind you, and am overwhelmed by the simplicity of wisdom that is clear in scripture, but this is a first for me. I couldn’t be more grateful.

[@jeanmarie19]

Yes i agree at 63 !!!

[@roxanns9149]

Ditto at 67😂 Heck, I had to repeat it! 🤯

[@danbergmann7461]

I have struggled with this forgiveness issue for decades now. I am a 66 yr old Christian who has been wronged by three individuals in my life. Family members tell me I should just forgive them and move on, but I know that none of them acknowledges their wrongdoing. This is the greatest clarification I have heard yet! Thankyou.

[@sqd37l]

I divorced my wife 3 years ago. She was impossible to live with. She got hooked on oxycodone and it radically changed her personality. Last spring she died from a heart attack. Now I feel I should have tried harder to get her help and I should have stayed with her. The load of guilt I carry is heavy and unbearable. I do not sleep thru the night anymore. 2:30am is when the demons come to torture me. I have noone to blame but myself and nowhere to go for forgiveness. I guess that I deserve it.

[@Taylor-ge5ex]

@@sqd37ldang I’m sorry for you

[@sqd37l]

@@Taylor-ge5ex if you get a chance, please pray for me, thanks

[@Chuckfrey05]

I never thought of biblical forgiveness like that and it honestly makes complete sense

[@Nomadestra]

The only way to truly understand it is to go and forgive your mother and father. The only way to learn forgiveness is to forgive those who are closest to us, and therefore who affected us the most. No parent is a perfect parent, so all of our parents did things that directly and indirectly did harm to us. You need to forgive your mother first for turning us away from the father.

[@eg4441]

@@Nomadestrai'm sorry but i don't think it's fair to say either parent is chiefly responsible. it depends on every person

[@ronaldmoon6567]

I am 20 yrs your Sr and I really needed to hear this thank you Jesus shalom

[@PeptoAbismol]

"there is no answer greater than silence, and no punishment greater than forgiveness" -the elephant i was throwing rocks at

[@GraydonRicker]

Your an interesting guy for sure,,I ENJOY YOUR POINT OF VIEW AND STYLE

[@primozeroyt]

😂

[@bungusflooligan1844]

I LOVE THIS MEME

[@eenzaakvanliefde1969]

Wonderful statements! You're a wise man and always get me something to ponder about. 🙏

[@DvCM]

You are 100% correct. Thank you for explaining this Truth with such great clarity, Dwayne. You have given me the words to explain the dilemma of forgiving someone who is repeatedly decietful or cruel without apology, and who aparently counts on victims to let things go.each time. The only answer is to let it go and walk away, with willingness to forgive if and when forgiveness is asked for. The hardest part is learning to stay out of harm's way!

[@jeffhayes1027]

Man to Man i tip my hat to you sir.and thank you for your wisdom

[@francineclave2207]

This forgiveness issue took me a lot of years to get right. I landed on this….. A wrong is done, be willing to forgive IF asked, what makes the waiting bearable for me is this; God knows, he SEES, he understands every bit of it perfectly and he says “Vengeance is mine”. SO, SINCE MY HEAVEN FATHER has it, I leave it to him. He has this and revenge is in his hands not mine. Now what is up to me is to forgive as I want to be forgiven…. If they repent, forgiven just like you said. The restoration of our relationship is up to me, and I base that on my judgement of their repentance and future actions. Does their walk match the talk? As always sir, I appreciate your great perspective and telling it true!

[@groopmmex]

Man, this is important stuff, good stuff. It's like saying hey, "you may not have learned this yet, but you're finding out now... and what are going to do?" I say, it's making the world a better place when we show others something they don't know. BUT it may not land well, and that's ok. Wink

[@jonfernandez8027]

I don't comment much, too busy. But I wanted to just thank you for this video. I've been struggling with the burden of forgiveness for a long while. What you've shared today has help clear things up. Thank you, Dwayne.

[@raYrefiedAire]

Without repentance there cannot be forgiveness, offense and forgiveness are often taken but never given...😅 Closure means confession... and that's something that most that demand your forgiveness will never offer ... Nor regret... I'm printing this on a tee shirt 🎉 We're not accepting verbal apologies this year. Only changed behaviour.

[@ape8572]

god bless good workers like you, someone who doesnt have 10 seconds to comment must be doing something very important

[@tuoctran43]

This meant everything to me. Thank you.

[@coreytaylor2017]

You are a breath of fresh air. I love you like a grandfather. Please keep on getting your content out there. It means the world to some of us.

[@jedidiahross7447]

Wow, Dewayne, i felt this one. I agree with you through lived experience. And I got forced into this fork in the road by good Christian folks trying to presume my forgiveness for their bad acts. Maybe it's a quirk of me, but, after struggling in one relationship for 15 yrs, COVID happened and the church went crazy. I guess the "peace" that I've found is the forgiveness that I'm 'demanded' to give even when it's not pursued is an agreement with the Judge of all the Earth that it's in His Hands now, and that anytime I'm called back to the stand, He can advocate on this one. That's the forgiveness, the trust factor is another hill to fight for entirely. To conclude, I don't know if I fully followed your train of thought (i might've projected my own experience); but, i I don't care how many preachers disagree, I'm backing your play, because, you're right. Till we meet in Him, Jed

[@Hotshot1989]

Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

[@chickbowdrie4750]

Dwayne wisely points out that Christ did not forgive you of your sins until you came to Him for forgiveness. It was never intended to be automatic. So, likewise, we forgive others in the same way. Even in Matthew 18 when Jesus says at the end to forgive trespasses, the story still involves the debter ASKING for forgiveness. I think thats what you're missing. The master forgave the man his debt only when he begged for compassion. It is in this context that Jesus is requiring us to forgive the debts of others.

[@Hotshot1989]

@@chickbowdrie4750 Luke 23:34: And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” I don’t think the Roman guards executing Jesus asked for forgiveness but Jesus forgave them.

[@thechemistamvs5033]

I love Gods character ark. In the last book hes drowning children, pregnant women, men, animals and damn near everything on the planet. Hardening peoples hearts against him so they deserve the punishments that he gives them and the innocent people around them. Then in the sequel its suddenly all about forgiveness and mercy :p

[@chickbowdrie4750]

@thechemistamvs5033 Why did you skip the whole core theme of the book that led up to the drowning? Seems like you weren't paying attention, so I'll bring it up - it's called "choosing sin or choosing God."" That was also the reason for the hardening of the hearts as well, but you probably didn't notice that either. The whole reason for the drowning is because, at one point, practically ALL of humanity was already drowning in their spiritual sins. And God couldn't fix them. He felt bad He had made them. So, He had to end their lives, which He decided to do through drowning. One one man and his family had decided to follow God, so He blessed him instead of killing him. Also, it seems like you only read the back cover of the sequel instead of reading it, so I'll sum that one up for you as well. God had decided to enact a plan he's had from the very beginning, where He sends His own Son to save the people from their sins (a final act of love to give them one last chance before they are destroyed like the people before them). The way it works is that His Son ends up sacrificing His life to pay for the wrongs of the people because He knew they couldn't pay for their wrongs. In turn, the people who accept His Son's payment for their sins are accepted by God and will be allowed to live forever instead of dying forever. There's more to it than that, but that's the driving theme of the entire series. So, it's no wonder you think the books don't make any sense - it doesn't seem like you read them in the first place!

[@chickbowdrie4750]

@Sean34146 No, it never said Jesus forgave them. It says He asked the Father to forgive them. You're also leaving out the fact that when Jesus was on the cross, and had said "Father, forgive them", He was, at that moment, separated from God because of how He was the actual embodiment of sin. Nothing ever implies that God fulfilled that request. On the other hand, the rest of the New Testament proves that people still need to choose to believe in Jesus' payment for their sins before they are cleansed of their sins. So, for some reason, you're leaving out 90% of the theme of Biblical forgiveness. You've only addressed 2 verses on this topic. Therefore, I C safely say your conclusion about forgiveness is extremely narrow and incomplete.

[@themejiasfamily9931]

"We add to the burden of people who are victims of bad behavior..." I agree 100%! I agree with you. I struggle with this topic of forgiveness. Thank you for speaking up about it!

[@letitbee7248]

Amen!!! Thank you for this message. As a child, I endured all kinds of abuse at the hands of my family. For over 50 years, many Christians have told me that I had to forgive them or I would go to hell. Yes, that adds a terrible burden to the victim - so much so that I turned away from God for many years. Recently God gave me the very answer that you outlined in your video - that God forgives those who ask for forgiveness. It's the same for those who wronged us here on earth. No one who abused me ever asked me for forgiveness so God told me it was ok for me to let them go. God bless you for sharing this word.

[@Thankful305]

Precious ♥ Forgiveness in Greek is the word 'aphiémi' it actually means, (like you just said you let them go) send away, let go, release. :)

[@scottfreeman5289]

You are indeed right on the full understanding of forgiveness. I’m someone of very strong moral compass and goo judge of character, I trust my judgement 100%. You are right

[@Johnnyo1300]

Don’t forgive the unforgivable. God bless you sir. I’ll never forget that statement. No truer words were never spoken.

[@Nomadestra]

No, you should, though. It's not up to us to judge who is forgiven or not. If you can't love your enemy, then you can't love a single person.

[@ryanmcnabb5722]

Forgiveness is just not letting them have control over you anymore

[@cobrazoid]

@@NomadestraHow can I forgive someone who wrongs me and then they repeat the same thing AND as well they do the same thing towards others? Seems unforgivable in my eyes. No way in hell I’d forgive someone who does those dirty actions. If they really want forgiveness then they’ll have to earn it and prove themselves that they want forgiveness. How I see it, forgiveness is earned.

[@johnrudge418]

This is all so true spot on Real comen sense 👏

[@AlleyCat-1]

Forgiveness gives us back our power. We can become so consumed with hate or pain that it can effect us physically. I went thru this with my mother in law that pulled some crap that parent's just shouldn't pull on their kid's/grandkids, I couldn't handle hearing her son act like nothing had happened, that I started getting physically sick. I sat down & wrote her a letter saying what I needed to say. After working on it for abt a month, I mailed it. I literally felt all the pain & anger & even hatred leave my body, go down to my hand's as I sealed & addressed it. In the last 26 yrs., she's never apologized to me for the thing's she's said & done to me, my oldest or my husband's oldest. But she's still not a part of our family, we even help her & her brother (mostly him) with food often. Her son (hubby) has followed in her footsteps of stupidity & not taking responsibility, it's always someone else's fault but his. 🤷‍♂️ but I forgave him (several too many time's) because the stress from it all started effecting my health & he just wasn't worth dying early for. Forget? 🤔 unfortunately or fortunately, I haven't. But I don't you have to forget in order to forgive, otherwise you'll just keep being put thru something over & over. It's not worth it. 🙏😊

[@paulsims6888]

Family dynamics are interestingly difficult. I have to say I am working through a similar situation with my daughter inlaw. We are at a loggers head, and an apology would not dissolve the situation. My son is stuck with the burden, which I feel sorry for him.

[@AlleyCat-1]

@@paulsims6888 I sort of did (felt sorry) for my husband. But he didn't even make an effort to side with, not even for a day. Then he blamed me because the kid's didn't have a relationship with her. Your son is between a rock & hard place, he's got to decide if he's going to allowing her to do whatever that keeps you guy's from having a good relationship with her/them. I don't understand how a grandmother can just sit by while her grandkids grow up & do nothing to be apart of it. 🤷‍♂️ Hopefully your son will do better.

[@paulsims6888]

In my opinion, if he confronts the situation, he will loose her and his kids. I am not sure he has a choice at this point. I hope I am still alive see true joy in his life. I need to heal. that's why I seek out uploads like this. Work Hard, Be Honest, and the hardest of all, Be Kind. Because sometimes the truth hurts. I say it like I see it. Not so good sometimes. I feel for you, because I know how all consuming all this is.@@AlleyCat-1

[@abcbizarre]

Get a therapist

[@AlleyCat-1]

@@abcbizarre don't need one. Thanks 🙏😁

[@jeffhayes1027]

This message hits home hard my farther really done me wrong i been struggling with the mental damage.. and sir you have tossed a light into the darkness

[@sunig5590]

Thank You! I am that victim carrying that burden.. Been carrying it for a very long time, and it's so heavy.. Thank You for helping me to understand what i did not know.. I needed this message today.. ❤

[@rulistening7777]

You have a person here who totally agrees with your understanding. For me, choosing forgiveness allowed me to give up bitterness. I was growing in my faith. But I was shown that I had a dark bitter place that was holding ME back. Choosing to let go of anger and bitterness. Choosing to stop wishing ill-will on the offender opened up a whole new world for ME. A weight was lifted. The skies opened up. The sun came out inside my own heart. I don't remember if the person ever asked to be forgiven. But I do know that they had said they were sorry many times. When I called and told them that I was no longer angry. And that I forgive them.... They cried. Several years later that person came back into my life. We were able to be friendly and not act as enemies. And we were able to have love and compassion for one another., though we remained casual aquantiences. So glad... because... He was suddenly killed in a car crash just five years later. At age 48. Our very last conversation was over a cold beer on the side of a dirt farm road. We reminised. We laughed. We parted with smiles. I will always have that.

[@jimbearone]

You are a very Wise Man, they need to make amends for some kinds of wrongdoing.

[@Jose-tn8pp]

Great video, never thought about this topic like you, but i can not help but completly agree to your point here, brighten my mind, thank you.

[@coreyfletcher4806]

Thank you sir. 23M from Virginia. I have been struggling with forgiveness with my family. They have wronged me greatly and have not been able to recognize their faults and ask for forgiveness.I have not talked to my mother, father, two brothers in over a year. This messages has soothed my soul and relieved me of my contempt for them. Thank you. Your messages always help me when I am feeling rough about the situation with them. I am just a lost man seeking wisdom and you sir are a very deep well. I hope you see this message and will feel the change you have made in this world.

[@superman5150]

You are not alone.

[@basilborisk.3326]

Right on the money!! The people you wouldn't think will do you premeditated harm. Look at the Cain and Abel story. Be careful people. So much has happened to me but the great thing is that i have learned the lesson. Just have control to who gets to be around you!!

[@robinnormannjespersen1602]

Im not religious but I just love listening to you Mr. Noel. Whether it's biblical or your own opinions, there's just so much wisdom to gain. Thank you ❤

[@KenjiHato]

Thank you good sir I try to live by the good book and through life experience every day and be the only the only thing ever ask from God is guidance.

[@GaleonGuitar]

That reflection on forgiveness is so important, I see this common mistake of people giving bad advice like: "you should just forgive that person" before the other person even acknowledged their wrong doings. I notice that people who try to forgive someone who has no regret will often end up with resentment and bitterness about the situation. When someone ASKS for forgiveness and you forgive them (like you should), that's when you feel REAL peace of mind and move on. If the person never asks for forgiveness, don't put that weight on yourself.

[@jdvturbo]

Thank you Mr. Dwayne. This was the exact lesson I needed today. God bless and keep you and yours.

[@jamesfluit2203]

Dewayne, I have been through this many times. I have realized this exact same truth years ago and have never met someone who believes the same. It’s the truth and it has set me free. Thank you sir for sharing.

[@heathaaron3443]

Thank you Brother, this unlocks a great burden.

[@umbradread8703]

I really needed this right now, Dewayne. Thank you sir. I gotta say... As an agnostic, you're a really good preacher. Greetings from Norway

[@dakotaashley-hw4xf]

Thank you Mr.

[@falcontoledo]

You just can't imagine how much I needed this video and take on forgiveness. Thanks for your wisdom and caring, sir, from the bottom of my heart. Regards from Spain.

[@gcarias2010]

"people don't understand what we're trying to do here!" 👏🏾 👏🏾

[@kendrickharding514]

I agree with this. Makes perfect sense to me. Thanks for this message

[@KarenLarsen22070]

When you explain it the way you have makes a lot of sense and is the right way. Makes more peaceful sense to me

[@user-cy3uw6hm5s]

Amen Brother! I came to the same conclusion addressing this topic about five years ago, nothing compares to God's truth:) Thank you for continuing with "Tack Room Bible Talk" The first video of yours that I watched was about regrets; you have great wisdom. Blessings to you and yours.

[@waynelutteroty5332]

Tk u sir always good listening to you! This world needs more people like you. God bless🙏🏻

[@breannelove7442]

Agree with you this talk was from the heart. I am so grateful for all Dewayne and Momma both compassionately share.

[@RayBot68]

Both Judgement and Forgiveness return in the same measure and portion as given... 🙌🏼 Amen

[@RayBot68]

The older one becomes it's perspective that measures trials and tragedy as blessings because they know first hand how the Lord works ALL for GOOD, in TIME

[@cdawg_692]

U have no clue how bad I needed this.. you won't ever understand how much I agree. I've always thought this but never spoke it aloud. You just helped me beyond anything man. Thank you so much

[@RowFarmVlog]

I agree with you, 100%.

[@crocodilegrundee4514]

I have been telling my fellow Christian’s this for years, and I have been telling them basically the same thing. I’ve had many arguments about this on KZbin as well. This conclusion of yours is the one I came to years ago as well. Christ forgives, but only when we humbly ask for it.

[@Isaac_Joe01]

I needed this more than you could imagine

[@ae96nupe]

Yes, you are right. Amen!

[@Sturm_-]

I will come back to this video many times

[@juandavid-fu7ld]

I have been pissed off at someone for a while. These words help to cope Thank you

[@jewcyk8268]

You can forgive, but never trust said person again.

[@ambergeorge6435]

I wish you were my grandpa❤ thank you, you touched my heart

[@jaydenray2803]

This helps so much in my life. You couldn't have posted this at a better time for me. Thank you.

[@johnnydavidson1611]

Great point! I never really looked at forgiveness like that. Thanks!

[@369Leperdomo]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Papa Dwayne, I am one of the few people who decides to forgive others as a good Christian and from you I learned that we can easily walk away from problems, especially those who do not value us, so as not to live a life with bitterness ♥

[@Smyrna37]

Wow this is such a useful topic very applicable for me and my situation. Thankyou for your sharing of wisdom

[@jacktodd3439]

Lots of truth in your words and wisdom, we do pray with words "and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us", Christ died for our sins, it tells us to forgive others because God forgives us, I am not sure if this only always applies to those who ask for repentance... I think many saints/martyrs did forgave their executioners without them asking for it. But Dewayne now you did made me to think about it and I will have to dig more into the Bible and beyond to understand this, thank you.

[@lalogarcia6811]

You are God sent.. thank you so much this message is for me...

[@Sandppy]

I have always agreed with you on this. It is much easier to walk away from those who are unwilling to repent. You can not force forgiveness down someone’s throat

[@Nomadestra]

You're looking at it wrong. Forgiveness is for you, not for the person you're forgiving. It matters not if they accept it or not. It has to be something you fully accept with all your heart. Until you see it this way, you don't know how to forgive, and God won't forgive you. Let it all go.

[@Sandppy]

@@Nomadestra chapter and verse please, God and Jesus forgive those that repent. Forgiveness is for the offender not the offended. Just walk away till they are ready to repent

[@Nomadestra]

@Sandppy Forgiveness is not something you give to somebody else. Those are just words and thoughts that the other person receives. Forgiveness has to come from a specific state of mind that is at peace with the world, themselves, and God. For instance, you can forgive someone who has done you wrong even if they don't accept it or even don't hear you say it. It's something you yourself come to terms with. Not anybody else. You can forgive a dead relative for doing you wrong. They don't have to be alive for you to tell them. You're too hung up on what the Bible says, or where you've heard that info from. God is within. God even says in the Bible not to worship knowledge and thoughts, which is what people are doing when they thump the Bible with scripture quotes. You don't need to read and quote the Bible to have an understanding of everything that is taught in it.

[@Sandppy]

@@Nomadestra look up the definition of forgiveness, it is exactly something that one person gives to an offender. Letting go of something you so for yourself. Definitions matter, because if we cannot agree on the definition of words then we cannot communicate. Yes God, if there was a no higher authority that you or me then there is no actual way to measure good and bad, there is only personal feelings and that my friend is what is wrong with the world today

[@Nomadestra]

@Sandppy Those are just words and thoughts to the person being forgiven verbally. It means nothing if your heart isn't in it. That's what I'm saying. And if your heart isn't full of love and forgiveness for ALL people, you don't truly know how to forgive. The majority of so called Christians lack this logic and judge people til the cows come home. If you have bitterness and resentment in your heart towards anyone at all, you are not yet capable of truly forgiving anybody. If you don't love all, you love nobody.

[@prydainianspy4625]

As someone who is not religious i really appreciate your point of view. Thanks for the cigar wisdom.

[@MartinAstin]

Duane, I appreciate you weighing in on this. As ive gotten older & wiser ive come to realize for myself, that forgiveness is something that i must do for myself. You mentioned for us not to allow bitterness to eat us up over the situation. I have a tendency to do that. And for my own healing and sanity i choose to forgive those that dont even ask for it. Not for their sake, nor to diminish the righteous that DO ask for it but, for my sake. See, i watched my mother suffer because she did not let what my abusive father did to her go nor did she forgive those men in the church that allowed him to get away with it. I believe that, besides the cancer, ate her up. She said to me, " ill never forgive you if you do what i did to myself. " I believe she meant that i should forgive and let things go. I understand your point about what God would do. Ive found ive been able to " conquer my enemies " by extending my forgiveness even When they've not asked. Its a very healing and powerful thing to do so. Im not saying everyone should. Each man should do what is in his heart. As for me, ive found this works for me. Again, thank you for weighing in on this subject. I always enjoy hearing you speak.

[@gettingintrospective]

We don't forgive for them. We forgive for ourselves.

[@Notthatguy137]

I care. I’ve been wronged. After hearing this I will never forget it. Thank you for the wisdom sir 🙏

[@AChunkyDog]

I've been devastated for 3 years since being cheated on and going through a divorce with a child. I've been apologized to a lot in my life, but never has someone asked me to forgive them. I cried listening to this video. I've been carrying that burden of trying to force myself to forgive and it's only made me angrier and more hateful. I don't have friends that stick around for more than a year, I live across the country from my family. I'm alone 95% of the time and it feels like no one cares.

[@charlessaint-dizier330]

good luck finding peace in your heart my friend. hope you do. it's worth it !

[@redpillow7221]

@AChunkyDog Keep your stick on the ice! Look at Job, in The Bible. He lost everything and got twice as much back. You never know what God's got in store for you!

[@AChunkyDog]

@@redpillow7221 I operate on God's time. I realized when my life turned upside down that I have very little control over my own life. The only thing I can do is choose between left or right when I get to the fork in the road.

[@themadhimalayan3267]

Maybe it is because you moved AWAY from your family. Did you ever think about what it did to them or is it always just about you?

[@AChunkyDog]

@@themadhimalayan3267 lmao Imagine believing you've never made mistakes. I did what I had to do, now things have changed.

[@Sugarput1]

Much needed & right on time thank you!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️❤️❤️. Give Momma a hug please 🫂🫂🫂

[@why_fight]

Well, I forgave my step father for years of abuse and he never asked for it. I never told him I did, I forgave him because it was holding me back. How can you hold all that pain? Just cause you forgive doesn't mean you gotta go crawling back to em.

[@johnmckernan7657]

I feel so fortunate to have stumbled into Duane’s channel. He’s truly blessed with great fatherly advice. I say that even though I’m a couple years his senior! Keep on truckin Duane! Thank you!

[@taconinja4802]

Once again, speaking words that I need to hear. Thank you you’re a good man.

[@dethtron]

You’re the man Dewayne.

[@TheShrewdServant]

Dang Dewayne, my names Corey Wayne and just wanted to genuinely say thanks you come in clutch...been truly struggling with this and been praying a long time. Seen your videos through the feed and never really watched one till this one. Much obliged, also I don't mean a clutch on a clapped out Kia sentra but a clutch holding back 1000+ ft lbs of torque. Be good, be good at it.

[@SlickNick98]

I'm drinking my coffee too and having my morning smoke listening to some good wisdom ☕💨😌

[@hightonesdrifterkent6600]

my morning smoke is no joke!

[@Lucydcd]

I know them and some times they talk to me I love it it when they do.

[@ProCoach2373]

"Father forgive them for they no NOT what they do." I respect you greatly and I think there are times when you are 100% on, but I don't interpret it the same way. "What credit is it to you if you love those that love you?" I personally believe there are many times when mercy and grace are the answer regardless of if the other person asks for forgiveness. I believe Christ expects us to do so.

[@CarlosGarcia-vt7mf]

1 John 1:19

[@Bmorrissinging]

It protect yourself. Letting that hate in your heart fester and build will make you miserable. That’s why we forgive. God wants you happy.

[@SunBlissDreams]

Agreed

[@jeanmarie19]

Narcissist know what they do and enjoy killing your soul

[@Hekeepblessingme]

They didn’t know they were crucifying the Son of Man. They didn’t put him to death knowingly. It was ignorance. If they KNEW he was the Son of God and did it anyways, that would be unforgivable… it’s like accidentally eating meat during Lent. You didn’t do it on purpose and it was a mistake. God forgives genuine mistakes that aren’t deliberately sinful.

[@amyrose3167]

So here is my take on this. I actually agree with you on several points you bring up. Me being a Catholic, this is how i understand forgiveness. There are two parts to the forgiveness process. There is forgivness which we are called to do, because forgiveness is a letting go of a debt owed to you. Which is what Jesus did for us. That is why we must forgive if we want to be forgiven ourselves by God. We cannot hold on to debt and at the same time expect God to forgive us. Now for the second part to forgivness, that is reconciliation and that is what i believe you are referring to. And i absolutely agree with you. You are not required to reconcile just because you forgive someone. But we must forgive, because we have been forgiven. We must let go of any debt we believe is owed to us, because Jesus took our debt upon himself when he died on the cross for all man kind. But... Reconciliation is only required when the person that offended you is softened, humbled and willing to start anew. But the forgivness that is required is between you and God, That is between you and him. Reconciliation is between you and the one that committed the offense. And i agree with you a thousand percent, the person should come to you with a changed heart for reconciliation to be possible. Anyway thats my take. I very much appreciate your thoughts on this. You gave me some very interesting new ways to look at the scriptures. And i haved learned from your interpretation of the scriptures. Thank you, " lets come and reason together"

[@jty1999]

There are so many verses about forgiveness, but my favorite is probably Ephesians 4:32: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Forgiveness is made difficult when one regards themselves too highly, whether or not they know it. Forgiveness is made easier when you love Christ and lean on His grace and mercy. I'm speaking from my own experience, from times of unforgiveness and holding grudges. Thanks for the message, brother Dewayne.

[@bobbyb7127]

Yes, forgive and you will be forgiven.

[@celtdawg01]

Paul’s a heretic.

[@calebboles2697]

@@celtdawg01 if you’re saying that the Paul of the Bible is a heretic, that’s blasphemy, scripture is inspired by God and by saying that someone in the Bible wasn’t right, you are saying that God isn’t right and that is very scary

[@edward97073]

WOW! SUCH PROFOUND CLARITY!!!!! YOU ARE RIGHT!

[@mamapoppins7422]

🙋Hello from GA. Definately something to think on. Thank you for sharing. God Bless.

[@ChristopherWilliams-mp8lh]

Father, forgive them for they know not what they do. Christ died for us while we were yet sinners. No man comes to the Father except thru me. Woe to you teachers. A tiger may not change it's stripes but the Lord can do what no man can.

[@WiscoMike]

Actions done from a place of ignorance are more easily forgiven than those performed with knowledge and intent. Acts 17:30-31 (KJV) And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent... God's forgiveness requires us to acknowledge and act on our wrong. It's not unilateral pardon in perpetuity giving individuals carte blanche.

[@mtgrunge]

i always get the right experience at the right time with you D, have a great week.

[@hamzazahoil48]

I needed this thank You ❤

[@JimBeauMcB]

Dwayne, what a wonderful lesson, thank you! You’re making distinctions between, forgive and pardon and let go. I never thought of it like this. I never thought of it so thoroughly as you have. Those are three completely Albeit related independent different actions / choices.. Going forward, I will concentrate on letting go. Whether the offender approaches me with an apology, or not is out of my control. I don’t have to rely on that person’s for me to let it go. And for me to let it go is what’s in my best interest, for my mental and spiritual health. Both of which affect my physical health. Great lesson, Sir! Please keep them coming.

[@neogbfe3587]

I’ve had an ex fiancé, just stop communicating, created distance and eventually walked away. I forgave myself for ever taking the time for her, and wished her the best. I left the rest up to the strings of fate and wheels of time, to take care of the rest.