The Cheating Partner's Competing Attachments

[@nicolesoryal2024]

the most fukn brutally painful soul destroying l thing I've ever experienced

[@bryantawney581]

I had never heard this before. Now all the puzzle pieces have come together. Thank you.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

I'm so glad this was helpful for you!

[@vaness7437]

This is devastating. The day after I watched it, I realized that my boyfriend's current trip is another lie, and that he secretly reconciled with the affair partner and is spending a week with her while gaslighting me! Only 2 months after my discovery. This is so excrutiating.

[@christyjohnson5618]

He expected me to accept what he’d been doing, what he continued to do. Smh

[@margaretchaney5627]

Mine told me to be a REAL women. I asked him what he means by a REAL women & he said a REAL women wouldn't get upset by his behavior. I said I'm not condoning adulterous behavior.

[@candacekuhn8589]

Deception and lies are the unacceptable behaviors that precede infidelity. Start with: honesty, integrity, trustworthiness and a mutually agreed upon moral code. Sad to say, his actions speak the loudest.

[@KarenGravatt]

Took the words right out of my mouth! It knocks the breath out of you!

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

Thanks for your comment!

[@mollyg.energy6491]

This was very helpful! We spent a lot of money and time on a recovery program that was really good but never mentioned this. I feel like this concept is SUPER important. Thank you!!

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

Absolutely. This perspective can shift everything.

[@kashanoel558]

100% the back and fourth with the affair partner and lying is the worst part after discovery. This my second time going through it 8 years apart.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

So sorry you are experiencing this! Visit my website or join the Hope After Betrayal Facebook group for more support.

[@spencersmith7438]

What if my cheating partner has a competing attachment with herself? She doesn't want to be married She doesn't want to get divorced She just wants to work on herself and figure out why she did what she did.

[@Lifeguard415]

Thank you SO Much for addressing this!

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

I am so glad it was helpful for you! Thank you for your comment.

[@sandicec.5886]

I scheduled an appointment for call twice and I never got a card. I did receive an email but I never received the phone call.

[@Linda-wv7ck]

What should check ins with the cheater look like?

[@Dachshundcrazy]

So if it takes him forever to break their attachments we just deal with it is essentially what I'm hearing. If someone loves you they don't disrespect you you tell them once

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

You can begin to move forward in your healing, even if your partner chooses not to participate.

[@shala604]

I feel like I keep searching for help in all these discussions. All good info ofcourse but how do I even try to stay when I have to see the ap regularly and they are in constant contact due to the baby they now have as a result. I don't think its fair to me and it's just not allowing me to heal not this way. I'm just sick of it always being his way and I just pushing down my feelings and losing respect for myself. I'm not sure it's always possible to recover from something's.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

Thanks for your comment. Have you scheduled a free clarity call? You can do that here: michellemays.com/hope

[@benpotter363]

Are your books pro-reconciliation if the cheating partner commits to real change and healing?

[@robynmarsh1358]

After 42 years of marriage, my husband chose porn over me. He sees nothing wrong with it and has no problem lying about it.

[@eventhere2788]

I'm so sorry.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

I am so sorry Robyn! Please visit my website for more resources to help you heal from partner betrayal.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

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[@Stubbornlydumb]

My husband chose the AP. But he won’t leave me, I’ll have to file. He doesn’t want to be with me, but clearly isn’t unhappy enough to leave for her.

[@MichelleMaysChannel]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this level of devastation. I hope you have great support around you. Go ahead and schedule a free clarity call with me and my team, and we can help you understand the dynamics at play and develop an action plan to move forward in your healing. michellemays.com/hope