The Cons Of Having A Big Butt/Booty & Being Curvy | Big Booty Problems | The BBL Epidemic

[@TajaMay]

being constantly sexualised is annoying, I often intentionally leave my house not looking my best to avoid unwanted attention 😩 I hate it. Thanks for sharing!💕

[@pictureportia]

No problem hun! I can definitely relate to not wanting to look my best just to avoid attention 😭 thank you so much for watching ❤️

[@Monkeygirl2222]

I mean that happends you don't need a big booty lmfao some females think only cus they have a A fat ass they only get serialized lmfaooooo I have a flat butt I'm cleN and Got nice hair and sort of thin and Pretty face and skin and Yeah It happends to all of us . LOL I know im Pretty because I have pancake butt and I been chased And loved on Better hahahahaha 😅

[@Zlervo]

I know the feeling

[@niziaharrison1686]

All these years 45 years I thought I was alone in this situation even though I’m a grandmother it seems like my hips and my butt has gotten bigger and no one seems to understand that I just am human being

[@Someone-td3rp]

I wish I had your problems

[@pictureportia]

I know it may seem like I’m smiling/smirking during some parts of the video but I tend to do that when I’m uncomfortable. Whenever I’m giggling it’s because I’m trying to make the topic less serious even when it is and it’s something that I’ve been working on. Again thank you so much for watching and let me know how you feel on the comments ❤️

[@xursssulaxx]

never had a big butt, started lifting and eating lots of whole foods and proteins like fish and chicken and brown rice and stuff, now i have a big butt, and i honestly feel this so much :( I feel like i can’t even go to the gym without wearing an oversized hoodie or else some random guy will start talking to me or some old guy will stare at me. Even my female coworkers have made comments about my “booty” as like a joke and to flatter me but idk man it just feels really awkward. I’ve started walking differently, like there are times i will literally walk a bit stiff legged because i’m afraid my ass will be shaking left to right as i walk normally and people will stare. I don’t wanna have to hide myself, i am proud of my body, and my bf certainly likes it, but its just…like i feel unsafe sometimes if i’m alone in public either at the store or just getting gas and i honestly think maybe its just anxiety and i’m overreacting. But anyways thanks for making this video cause it is relatable and nice to hear that its not just me who experiences this sort of anxiety

[@pictureportia]

I am so sorry you feel the same way I do 😭 it is reassuring that I’m not alone! Hopefully we can find a happy medium when trying to learn what we were blessed and cursed with 😂

[@xursssulaxx]

@@pictureportia Oh definitely haha yeah there’s always gonna be pros and cons. That’s just life unfortunately 😅🤷🏻‍♀️ But it is nice to know that other people can relate to the things we go through.

[@SanctifiedLady]

It’s called taser, mace, Glock! Take protection and live your life

[@vicious26]

This comment makes sense I just got a good perspective, but it’s still not a reason to treat men badly lol

[@darlineme]

We’ve literally have and are having the same experiences 😭 I hate being sexualised so much and it makes me dress differently to the way I actually want to

[@pictureportia]

It’s honestly sucks 😭 I’ve gotten to a point where I’m not caring anymore! Granted, the older I get the less I want to wear revealing clothes anyway lmao and who knows? It might’ve been a result of the sexualizing I experienced growing up 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@SanctifiedLady]

This is why they say that these women have an attitudes…it’s because they are consistently harassed. They are used to being treated a certain way.

[@pictureportia]

Definitely true for some

[@vicious26]

The woman are wrong for acting like that. It’s unchristian like

[@micchaelsanders6286]

@@vicious26Exactly.

[@vicious26]

@@micchaelsanders6286 I don’t even know what this video is about anymore, but aren’t the woman using their negative experiences as a weapon to justify their negative behavior? If so there not doing the right thing.

[@2536seymore]

I have a real booty and the older I get the heavier it gets and at 50 I'm just pretty much toting it around. My husband is Nigerian and I we've been married fof 6 years and you would swear he was seeing me for the first time everytime he sees just an imprint of my butt.

[@terrasseberry5403]

Portia, I'm so sorry you have had to deal with this issue all your life. I pray the Father protects your heart and covers you so that ONLY your husband will see you and see your heart and not your body. God's blessings to your life always!

[@pictureportia]

Thank you so much for the prayer love ❤️

[@xursssulaxx]

Honestly, just wanna say also that i totally understand how frustrating it is when people constantly say things like “i want your butt” “damn how can i get mine to look like that” etc because even though i want to be flattered and say thanks, after awhile its like damn how do i even respond anymore?? It always just feels so awkward like i just awkwardly laugh and say aww you’re beautiful don’t worry but then i’m like wait wtf did i just say? 😭

[@pictureportia]

So glad that you can relate 😭🙏🏽

[@shesadiamond5167]

I wish i had those problems, having no shape as a 23 year old black women, let alone skinny is very hard. 😢We don’t get the same attention, we don’t get praised as much, we don’t feel as feminine. Curvy girls get hit on alot, but when you aren’t, guys dnt really pay u any mind unless ur drop dead gorgeous lml. I would honestly kill to be curvy❤️ atleast i will look sexy in everything i wear, nd i would feel more confident in public. Consider yourself extremely lucky if you’re curvy in the right places😊🥺

[@pictureportia]

All that glitters is not gold 😭

[@SanctifiedLady]

It’s hard either way but I get wanting to look nice in your clothes….even that is hard because we live in a society that men were taught it’s ok to chase you down and take advantage of you because you shape nicely

[@graceofgod218]

Most times, men chasing curvy women is not because they really like them or want something serious with them is just lust to satisfy their sexual fantasies and desires. Women are more than just there curves. The right guy will see beyond just your curves and will love and admire you for the beautiful human that you are with all your God giving gifts and talents that makes you unique and special. Just keep love yourself more, takacare of yourself and you will attract the right kind of guys not men that are superficial.

[@alexandriabell8528]

Maybe everything that glitters isn’t gold but it still glitters 😅. To be treated less than most of the time because you don’t look like “a grown black woman” with curves I feel like most women wouldn’t like it if they didn’t get any type of attention. Most men will lust after any woman that he wants even if he plans on marrying her. I’m sorry that y’all experience is negative and makes y’all uncomfortable but to us or maybe just me, but I want the woman experience. Y’all get attention because y’all are beautiful and it seems to get on y’all nerves (this woman is literally beautiful) 🤦🏾‍♀️ It’s cold on the outside looking in 😅.

[@dinahfisher]

I remember when I was young I kinda like the attention I would get from my butt. Now that I'm older and married I hate the attention and people irk me. I love my booty girl but these guys be mad perverts I keep a jacket wrapped around my waist or wear loose skirts and dresses. The only time I wear something tight in public is when my husband is with me. I agree with everything you said girl and don't feel awkward about the laughing this is an awkward conversation I'm the same way.

[@pictureportia]

I’m jealous that you loved yours 😭 I didn’t start appreciating my body until maybe like late high school but now I can feel myself crawling back into that reserved hole. It’s nice to see that the curvy shape is in trend but I’ve never been one to like all of that attention. Thank you so much again for watching my video hun ❤️💖

[@AbianahTheGemini]

My butt makes me uncomfortable expecially when I sit in a chair and my ass claps against the chairs or if I’m running in a dress or something and my butt starts clapping. A big butt is embarrassing asf.

[@pictureportia]

Very embarrassing smh 😂

[@ln8396]

Not clapping in the chair😂

[@akemi5358]

And I literally can’t lie flat on my back

[@LiotaR]

When dating if a man brings up my body immediately I stop talking to him i hid my body for a while just to avoid that kind of talk but you know your gonna have to meet these people and if their attitude changed I would move accordingly I’m more comfortable in my body now but I still keep an eye out

[@pictureportia]

Same! I definitely still keep an eye out!

[@prinprin3324]

Omggg I just came across this video glad you talked about this.I have a naturally big booty and hips and I intentionally don’t wear certain clothing due to I don’t like the attention it brings me very uncomfortable feeling

[@pictureportia]

I’m so happy that you could relate to this! Thank you so much for watching 🤗❤️

[@thelandz8865]

How is a man supposed to talk to any woman that has this problem?

[@AmandaCC88]

I used to show it off in my younger years but now I’m over 35, I’m covering up more because I am tired of the hyper-sexual attention and men only seeing that. Also women feeling free to comment on it and show it off to others. Weird! I was in a very long relationship in my 20’s so I wasn’t worried about getting the right man. Ultimately it didn’t work and the dating scene in the BBL era is horrible so I now want to look different. I can’t even really cover all the way up because you can see the curves whether my clothes are baggy or not. So sometimes it’s just very annoying bc people spend so much money for this attention as if it’s fulfilling in the long run and it’s not. Not saying this is the case for everyone. Nothing is ever an “all” situation.

[@pictureportia]

I agree with everything you said! I’ll be 30 this year and the urge to be more modest is so strong! Wanting your body to garner attention is no longer interesting lol

[@Minuitestla]

We have the exact same body type, but I have never been hit on or “catcalled”. Ever. So I have had this believe that it’s because I have this body and that people just think I’m ugly (I go to a prodominantly white school) or it’s because I’m black. The way that I have been insecure for soooo many years! Thinking I’m just fat and wishing that I was as skinny as all the other girls😒

[@pictureportia]

You’re not ugly! I’m pretty sure it’s because of where you went to school lol I grew up in a predominantly Jewish neighborhood and they didn’t bother me at all lol

[@Minuitestla]

@@pictureportia Thank you sooo much for your message and for confirming my “hypothesis”! I guess it really is the case of “go where your are wanted”.

[@micchaelsanders6286]

@@pictureportiaThere are Jewish neighborhoods in Houston? Lol

[@xoangelicaf0523]

I got a bbl in June. & no matter what you wear ppl will sexuality you. I’m married & hate to even post pics bc I don’t like men in my dms. I love my body tho happy with my choice. I’m getting a mmo next year. Oh yea I had no complications at all.

[@pictureportia]

You’re so right! No matter what men tend to sexualize women smh. What is an mmo btw? And I love that you did what was best for you and that you love your decision on getting the bbl ❤️ thank goodness you had no complications 🙏🏽

[@SELFCAREMODEL]

@@pictureportia I think it means “Mommy make over” ❤️.

[@sapphirespalace2549]

Imagine being sexualised by your own dad… he told my my bum was disgusting and wouldn't let me wear leggings or pants around him but let's my pittit sister and mum….. I have been asked while playing volleyball if I have a bbl. If eel like a little cloud. I have an ed because I want to go from UK SIZE 8 to 4

[@pictureportia]

Omg I’m so sorry you’re going through this hun! It isn’t easy being objectified because of your body, trust me I know but with time loving the skin you’re in will come. I’m sure you’re a smart, kind and beautiful person! Don’t let what your dad says about your body get you down! All that matters is who God says we are and what you believe about yourself ❤️

[@munchies08]

To be honest with u.... the struggles of being bottom heavy makes me love it even more

[@SanctifiedLady]

It’s the preferred shape for a woman. It’s rare. However clothes are made to fit the average. I never like being average ever, now that I have a hourglass ⏳ shape clothes are needing tailored and extremely expensive. I love it though… I will just have 3 pairs of pants and 16 tops for them. 😂❤ I hate when some stuff make you look big. I’m trying to lose 20lbs as we speak.

[@pictureportia]

Lol to each their own

[@pictureportia]

I’m trying to lose 20 pounds too 😂

[@ABC-ho5jo]

@@SanctifiedLady Rare! It's on every street corner

[@kasanova44burn]

I empathize as a black male attraction to certain things is taught through music and black men standards when it comes to sexualization,for the most part most men i observe mind there own business for every problem a women has there is another who wishes for attention and crying themselves to sleep getting ZERO attention at all,im indifferent as giving attention is a choice some don't take, funny thing is when a man snaps into reality and realize his peace is most important than attention HE is willing to give someone else all of that other stuff becomes a waste of time he just has to grow into it

[@BigSnead76]

One of my twin daughters has a "pamper" booty. I'm so hating the pending pressure she may face between 13 and 30...😭

[@SanctifiedLady]

That sounds so awful…our society is f’d up.

[@BigSnead76]

@@SanctifiedLady the funny thing is I talked to my wife about it and she said the booty pressure is real. I asked her how did she got past it and she said over-sized clothes. I was like😐

[@SanctifiedLady]

@@BigSnead76yep, it’s real…then you have a natural butt and men asking if it’s fake. If it’s too nice, men grope, malest, date rape, try to get you drunk, walk by touching and pulling on our clothes, every Tom, Dick and Harry looking to see who will approach you next and watching your every move. It’s trip but most women want to be desired

[@pictureportia]

Exactly 😭

[@SanctifiedLady]

@@BigSnead76 I would definitely keep the whole family in the gym as a major family practice several days a week…at least she will have the confidence and be able to shape it well while she’s young. ❤

[@jennieblanco9496]

Can yu make another vid of ur experiences on having a big butt. I’m a skinny shaped girl n i be hesitating on gaining weight bc I’m scared I’ll feel uncomfortable while having one n I don’t want to feel like that. What do I do?😫

[@pictureportia]

I’ve been thinking about filming a part 2! Maybe this is a sign 😂🤗 honestly just try gaining the weight slowly and make sure you’re working out as well! Working out will make your bum lifted and toned lol if you’re uncomfortable with it then the good news is that you could always go back to being slim hun ❤️

[@brandonmilbry6793]

My girlfriend has a big butt and honestly, growing up i viewed women as objects who only cared about their appearance. After talkin to my girl alot i remember i used to say things like "wow girls are actually people" 😂😂😂 but i also realized how annoying it could be to be harrased constantly by men 😂. Yes girls love attention but i can imagine even on days you're not feeling it and just wanna be a normal person there is somebody staring at you like they wanna eat you 😂😂😂

[@pictureportia]

I’m curious, what made you think women only thought that? And why didn’t you think women were actual people? What it movies you watched or your environment that influenced you ?

[@brandonmilbry6793]

Of course I know females were people 😂 ijs from my young perspective girls only motivation seemed to be their looks. That's how I thought when I was young teenager. Now that I have daughters I realize girls have personalities 😂 sound crazy but I grew up with womanizing Brother and cousins and hearing their stories growing up as a lil kid it felt like women were just pretty objects here for mens pleasure. I don't think that way now tho

[@Vivien_Ekong]

Nigeriannnn,we’re built like that

[@pictureportia]

Facts 😂

[@bonfilsduniaexperienced1544]

She is lying she don’t got the donk 😂

[@caley1115]

Stuff like that never made me uncomfortable... I didnt think it was a big deal

[@pictureportia]

To each their own 😊

[@alis-anime5484]

Problems i would like to have, "I am too hot."

[@pictureportia]

🤣😂

[@msve3730]

Most women say getting a bbl only attract men who want to sleep with you, well I never had a bbl and everytime, guys just wanted to sleep with me.

[@pictureportia]

Some men are just deplorable :/

[@vicious26]

Woman, just get to the point I came here to be enlightened instead you’re just rambling before the video starts. I need a rundown that’s it.

[@pictureportia]

Run over to TikTok if you need a run down, not my fault your attention span is fried grandpa 🤗

[@vicious26]

@@pictureportia I knew I’d be arguing with a black woman tonight 😂. You ramble too much. Get to the POINT!

[@pictureportia]

We are not arguing 😂 bye Lmaoo

[@angelcharles8497]

Girl your story is all about me like😅

[@pictureportia]

Oh nooo 😭 well I hope my video was helpful and made you feel like you weren’t alone?

[@angelcharles8497]

@@pictureportia and am Nigerian😂

[@ahulin49]

Wow...be careful guys...

[@pictureportia]

??

[@ln8396]

Stop the cap😂😂😂

[@pictureportia]

Lol what cap??

[@ln8396]

@@pictureportia i didn't see a booty on you

[@pictureportia]

Aww okay

[@jeremiaharyeetey9877]

What’s your ig?

[@gargeluy3035]

There are none…the end 🥲

[@vicious26]

Please get to the point 🥱. Thumbs down on this point we need less story time and more of the points explored.

[@pictureportia]

Who is this “we” YOU speak of?? Not only is your attention span fried, but you’re delusional too? 🥺

[@vicious26]

@@pictureportia we is ( your audiece) get to the point your video should be here are the 10 reasons why, bam bam bam. Not a villain backstory about being chased at 10. You ruined your own video

[@pictureportia]

Because it’s MY video I wanted to give my audience context to each point. As a man I can understand why you wouldn’t sympathize with 10 year old me being sexualized at 10 because it doesn’t often happen to boys but if giving my villain backstory annoyed you then maybe you aren’t my target audience and that’s okay lol

[@vicious26]

@@pictureportia no it’s fine. Sorry if I was harsh.I was somewhat trolling

[@pictureportia]

I figured 😂 thanks for watching 🤗❤️