The Courage To Be Disliked

We all have the ability to be happy, we simply choose not to! Sounds strange, right? That's exactly the philosophy discussed in the book "The courage to be disliked" written by Japanese authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
In this, book the authors have discussed the Adlerian psychology and have given their views on what makes us unhappy in spite of everything going well around us. The authors have spoken about how we use our past trauma and anxiety as a reason to not focus on present goals, how we fabricate an emotion called anger, how we view everyone as competitors and why we have this need to be people pleasers - all these leading to a state of unhappiness and misery.
To be truly happy, learn it is okay to be disliked - that's the essence of this book. Let's look at some of the interesting points from the book in this book summary video in Tamil.
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அருமையாகவும் நல்ல தகவலாகவும் இந்த காணோலி இருஞ்ச்சி நட்புதோழி

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Thank you so much, Peratheepan :)

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[@namasivayamkaithachalam1726]

A thoughtful post Sree. A better part of our lives is spent thinking of past sorrows as you rightly pointed out. Alongside we worry about others views about us. In a way we are defined by our past and others. Anger and competition are indeed hurdles to our happiness. "The life which men praise and regard as successful is but one kind.Why should we exaggerate anyone kind at the expense of the others" H D Thoreau. You brought out the core of the book too.. It is ok to be disliked.... Thank you Sree. More posts....

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Thank you so much, Namasivayam sir. 😊😊

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Thank you, Ravi sir :)

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மிக்க நன்றி, Subramani :)

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Thank you so much for the summary as it will help your viewers to revisit many times and share as snapshot with others on what you've presented with simple and yet very effective. I respect your reading skills as it's truly God's gift. I respect you as you're willing to share with your viewers in Tamil! It may even helpful for those are unable to read due to so many issues or those who are visually impaired.

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Thank you so much, Karthik! I'm so glad you find these videos helpful 😊😊

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Very very thanks madem.

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Most of the time. I think about the others and past mam.yes it is reallly a superve information mam. When 100 people like us but 1people hurt a lot. We only focus on the one and drop out the 100mam. Ss I connect with the four things with myself mam.I will try to reduce it soon mam.Tq mam🥰😍

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That's great, Mohaideen. Please try :)

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Thank you so much, Sabina :)

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Thank you, Srinivasan sir :)

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Thanks

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All the points are take away for the day. Have added this book to my reading 📚 list. Have a happy day. Why don't we form a group in goodreads and share all our views/comments, if you're OK? Good day All . 😊

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Thanks a lot, Mohammed. Will check that Goodreads group idea. Sounds interesting :)

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அருமையான விஷங்கள். நன்றி.

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Thank you, Vinoth ☺️☺️

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Thanks a lot, Niceli :)

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Thank you, Ramesh! Good morning :)

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மிக்க நன்றி, மதி! உங்கள் கவிதைகள் எப்போதும் அழகு 😊😊

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Thank you so much, Hari :)

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Yes, Gaja. Thank you :)

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Sure, Shiyama :)

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Nammala vida long la irukurathu yesterday (past) athu enna pannalum வராது so past a nenachi feel pandrathu waste.. varatha onnu nenachi feel panna அவசியம் இல்லை... tomorrow enna nadakumo athu கண்டிப்பாக nadakkum so atha nenachi feel pandrathum thappu .. present la enna... tomorrow happy a irukka ipo enna pannanum that's all 🙂

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Well said, Antony 😊😊

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Thank you, Vicky :)

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Thanks a lot, Dr. Selvam :)

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being hated, not easily accepted, I always recheck what I did wrong ...

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Yes, most of us do that and lose our happiness in the process, Jean :)

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Akka. Enda pal knjam konal ah irukum. Enda anna vanthu enaya epa pathlum enaya kona palu, pal ah vachi ye enaya asingapaduthuvan. Athu enakku romba hurt aagum. Na ennna pannatu akka. Pls reply pannunga.

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Hi Prithika! Tell your brother to not tease you as it hurts you so badly. I'm sure he'll understand. Even if he doesn't stop, there's nothing to worry. You are beautiful as you are. You have to believe that 🙂🙂

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That's a great idea, Hari. What kind of segment? Do you have any suggestion for me? 😊😊

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@@MazeWinnersTamil yeah. It may be like book segment one book full book review like chapter wise.. eppo like 7to 10 chapters if a book has you can do it has series. It will get reach more.. and or like take one topic example self development 30days series of self development.. apadi akka like one topic in series wise. So viewers kum konjam extra gain panika mudium ungaluku oru new segment start pana mari erukum.. this is my suggestion sister unga side la ethu work aguma nu parunga... I can see it in easy but you're the person who knows whether you can or not.. anyway you doing great akka👍🏻

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Sure, Gokul! Thank you :)

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To be truly happy. Learn it is okay to be disliked🔥❤️oru hai sollunga mam❤️

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Hi Krish 😊😊

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Thank you, Maruthi :)

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Good one... What aspired you to make these motivational videos ?.... Your role model ?

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

Hi Rajesh! Once I read that "if you think you have something of value that could be useful to others, you need to share it without hesitation." That gave me the idea to share the stories and books I know a little about. I have no particular role model, I take good things from a lot of people :)

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Thank you, Krish 😊😊

[@kasimdigitalart7126]

Hi mam

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

Hello :)

[@arjupan4715]

Ninga romba alaga erukinga madam .... Unga age solvingala madam

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

Thank you, Arju. You can guess my age 🤣🤣

[@arjupan4715]

@@MazeWinnersTamil unga age 24 to 27

[@mariselvan5319]

அக்கா உங்களுடைய வயது எத்தனை என்று சொல்லுங்கள் அக்கா

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

நீங்களே யூகித்து சொல்லுங்கள், Selvam 😂😂

[@jafarjaman8514]

@@MazeWinnersTamil some people asking 32 to 35 times same Questions

[@mariselvan5319]

@@MazeWinnersTamil உங்களுடைய சரியான வயதை சொல்வதற்கு நான் ஒன்றும் இறைவன் கிடையாது அக்கா சாதரண மனிதன் ஒருவருடைய முகத்தை பார்த்து யாராலும் அவர்களுடைய வயதை கூற முடியாது அக்கா Good night சகோதரி

[@shenbashenba8542]

Hi sree Sunday enna SPL veetula 😀

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

Hi Shenba! Nothing special 😂😂 just the usual menu. What's special there?

[@srihariharan4830]

Hi 👋

[@MazeWinnersTamil]

Hi Srihari :)

[@srihariharan4830]

@@MazeWinnersTamil Ur videos are good.. short and informative..