The Crisis Friend Is The Most Exhausting Type Of Friend - Must Watch

THE CRISIS FRIEND IS THE MOST EXHAUSTING TYPE OF FRIEND -
In This Video A Woman Is Venting About How The Crisis Friend Is The Most Exhausting To Have As A Friend, She Proceeds To Express How She Has Been A Safe Place For Her Crisis Friend But She Is Drained.
#mustwatch #crisis #friendhip

[@arcticprowl971]

There's a difference between a crisis friend and a friend in a crisis.

[@LoveK1]

🎯

[@charde9739]

Unless they live in it.

[@rosiecheeks.k]

Spot on!!!

[@BolU88]

WELL SAID!!

[@pratkier]

​@@charde9739that's the difference

[@nnn9854]

The people that took it the wrong way are definitely the crisis friends 🤣

[@Goosebumps1395]

Exactly.

[@hellokaumea8315]

Yes and my pain is real sorry to bother you

[@nnn9854]

@@hellokaumea8315 then it’s not directed at you and you know it isn’t.

[@dragonslayer616]

They are... Just a mess.

[@Jana_7]

Yep!!!

[@ksis86]

Im not trying to deal with anyones constant BS. We all have hard times, but when your general presence has become more negative than positive you cant expect everyone to want to keep being around you. People like that become such energy vampires and they tend to be very self centered. The crisis friend isnt the only one who has problems but they tend to act like it 😒

[@Goosebumps1395]

These people sound crazy to me. All this time spent using these exhausting terms to describe this woman not wanting to deal with your inability to adult on a daily basis. I have had many crisis friends and yes its exhausting. I moved them all off my plate because most of their issues were self inflicted. People who trauma dump daily and can't self soothe don't need friends they need a therapist, a hotline, and maybe a minister. You are not a friend to them, you are a support animal with resources they can exploit.

[@hellokaumea8315]

All relationships are interest based what is your point

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

@@hellokaumea8315 I could ask you the same question - what's YOUR point? Relationships being interest based is not an excuse to treat those relationships like a one-way resource to leech off of. A friend in crisis is someone you can strategize with, someone who can both make their own decisions AND listen to advice or other points of voice. A crisis friend, on the other hand, will treat you as a bank, a sounding board, their confessor - anything but a friend.

[@jaifyre702]

10:49 I'm putting a boundary on this chick. Ma'am crisis friends don't give a damn about boundaries stop trying to shame the supportive friends.

[@Jae-by3hf]

I laughed at that point because shes acting as if people haven’t tried!

[@BABYDOLL87LOVELY]

I COMPLETELY AGREE...THOSE TYPE OF #FRIENDS DRAIN YOUR MENTAL BATTERY! #EXAUSTING

[@diosa.loba333]

a crises is a time of intense difficulty, trouble, or danger. i think this term "crises friend" is not an accurate description of what the op is talking about because in most cases, this "friend" is not going through intense difficulties such as abuse, a disease like cancer or is facing homelessness "every week". most of these type of friends just feel they are entitled to vent dump minor issues or seek you for validation, attention or compliments. i feel the correct term and what most people experience with certain friends would be "main character syndrome" which describes the lens through which a person sees themselves. people who think they’re the main character tend to believe that they’re the most important person in most situations and interactions with people. main character syndrome is not a specified diagnosis, but generally, someone may be described as having main character syndrome if they show some of the following behaviors: 1. attention-seeking or dramatic behaviors, like being loud in public 2. overdramatizing life events, either to come out looking like a hero or a victim 3. inflated sense of self, or feeling like you’re better than other people 4. lack of empathy for others’ struggles 5. viewing everything that happens around you through the lens of how it affects you and your life 6. high level of outward confidence, which may or may not hide underlying insecurities 7. centering yourself in every situation or conversation 8. romanticizing experiences or relationships 9. acting in ways that aren’t authentic to your true self 10. dissociation from your true values or needs 11. constant seeking of drama/novelty to keep things exciting in life. (these people usually thrive in drama) 12. being overly dependent on social media “likes” for validation 13. feeling the need to outshine/compete/compare themselves to others to stay in the spotlight 14. throws sneak insults/shade or backhanded compliments (usually in public settings when someone else is getting admired/attention and when called out will play victim 15. also plays victim/lashes out when others enforce boundaries 16. voices/vents every issue they have no matter how minor or major 17. feel entitled to your time/energy anytime they want it 18. the world revolves around them and has tendencies to treat others as servants 19. in friend groups .. has to be the most liked friend and will talk negatively of one friend to the other and vice versa to ensure their title as "best friend" or "closest friend" 20. every act of kindness they extend to you is conditional, but they want to be seen as a generous person who does not seek anything in return

[@Life.Love.Locs.]

This sounds like a Cluster B personality disorder, most similar to histrionic personality disorder (it's a real thing!)

[@Jae-by3hf]

I think the term crisis in this instance is used because the person deems all their problems crisis’ not that they actually are!

[@LoveK1]

These people are being willfully obtuse. The “Crisis Friend” isn’t someone who has occasional bad circumstances. These people have a “urgent crisis” every 3-5 business days and are always in emotional turmoil. Sobbing, ranting, despair and then they repeat the situation or something equally as bad. They love attention and chaos and they’re energy vampires.

[@cookierooney655]

And somehow they never have the energy or time to reciprocate when you’re actual crisis.

[@Trilldayz4436]

@@cookierooney655 NEVER.

[@WacoBeautyQueen]

@@cookierooney655heavy on the they never have time to reciprocate. And I’ll add in that they don’t make any attempts to even have a regular conversation to keep up with people and see how they’re doing. Everyone is just their therapist.

[@Lizzie9024]

And even after coming to you for help/advice will continue to make poor decisions even though you warned them.

[@CBean94]

Yes and love to include you in it and get you just as riled up as they are. The moment you try to get them to help themselves you’re the bad friend

[@officiallykayanna]

some of these women abuse the village! the village is Tired! TIRED!

[@BolU88]

That’s is such a great way to put it!! The friend in crisis will appreciate the village and use it as support until they are better. The crisis friend will abuse the village and use it for attention until the next issue comes up.

[@lurker616]

Thank you for being a village to and for someone. But yes, we are tired.

[@NikkiAtlanta35]

Some of these people in this video are crazy as hell. She's not saying that if a real legit crisis comes up that she would abandon her friend. Like a death in the family or something like that. But some people literally have something wrong every couple days and when you are the only person they run to, that's exhausting.

[@madmann1000]

People on TikTok be so unrealistic. I had to cut a friend off who kept threatening suicide. After dealing with it for six months, I had to separate.

[@nomaswazinyawo5642]

Exactly,I feel like the ppl that think she's rude have either not experienced a friend like this or are the crisis friend.I had a friend who had no issue calling me at any time of night to vent.No! boundaries plz

[@tashawilliams8093]

💯

[@MachineGunKali]

And they contradict themselves too much for me either. Because how are we protecting our mental health and our peace, but then turn around and keep a person like this around? Also, I don’t blame you. I had a friend like this too. She would blame all childish behaviors on having anxiety. Eventually, I had to let her ass go.

[@WacoBeautyQueen]

@@nomaswazinyawo5642with the way they’re talking with a lot of what sound psych terms/studies terms, they’re definitely the crisis friends. Bringing their therapy to TikTok to defend their overwhelming behavior.

[@hellokaumea8315]

What will you do if your child is the same?

[@aundreanaphiffer3572]

I don’t mind being there for someone as long as they do the same but the crisis friend is usually only for their muthafuckin selves… like how tf do u keep getting into these situations smh

[@Trilldayz4436]

Right. These people will wear you out!!

[@aundreanaphiffer3572]

@@Trilldayz4436 exactly. I believe in just matching the other person’s energy

[@K.C.Uncovered]

This!!! The conversation starts out about what you have going on then they find a way to quickly flip it into whatever situation they have going on

[@6ftNaturalBeauty]

😭😭

[@MsSPrescott1]

Exactly! I’ve had a crisis friend and whenever I had an issue and thought “oh, she’ll reciprocate the support I’ve given her” girl I was WRONG

[@chanelgodd]

Even worse - I have a crisis MOM. I eventually had to tell her to pull it together because her constant episodes were ruining my mental health.

[@ca6248]

Yep!

[@MiiPhiMuah]

I feel you on this, atp you just have to let them know and utilize "DND". It does wonders

[@childfreechick2980]

I had one too! Notice I said HAD. I set boundaries. She finally cut out the number one cause of her crises and now she's totally fine. Can you guess what the cause was??😂

[@blackstarkitty9387]

I have a crisis DAD lol

[@MsBeautifulDemus]

My dang father…. Chile I’m over it

[@mentalalchemy4819]

To anyone saying sit down and have a conversation with them about your boundaries has probably never had a true “crisis friend”. Talking to them is impossible, because they truly believe that they never contribute to any situation they find themselves in. I had two crisis friends I had to distance myself from in the last 5 years and I more or less had to ghost them because any conversation i tried to have about their behavior would become somebody else’s fault, or my own for drawing attention to the issue & making them uncomfortable.

[@LoveK1]

Exactly. Crisis friends aren’t rational people! They’re self centered and bad decisions makers.

[@mentalalchemy4819]

@@LoveK1It’s so true. I was that person for a few years of my life. Any normal person had to just stay away until I figured myself out, then my life followed suit.

[@tahtz20]

Talking to them becomes a crisis lol

[@Liklian-p8s]

Exactly. Talking to them turns you into their next crisis.

[@Jana_7]

THIS!!! Those friends are not rational. I've tried that and they will sit in your face and pretend to be listening, but more than likely they are not. Will call in a few hours/ the next day or two with the next part of the saga.

I don't think people are ready to discuss the people who are in a constant state of crisis because they subconsciously ENJOY being in crisis. The girl who started this discussion could've went into detail about what she meant by "crisis" and this would've been a whole different discussion because she meant the people who manufacture their own drama repeatedly, not people experiencing death or financial struggle. She definitely shouldn't be keeping exhausting people around though. My mom is a "crisis friend" type of person. Constantly manufacturing issues for herself and then WHIMPERING for attention when things hit the fan. I wish I was exaggerating, but she literally becomes baby and looks at me with a weird pout like I'm supposed to coddle her. The "crisis friend" is an attention junkie and they don't mind putting themselves through something dumb for it.

[@purpleflows5680]

Don’t want to be that person (ie. arm chair therapist) but the “crisis friend” behavior is actually very covert narcissistic. They enjoy the crisis because the crisis centers them and makes them the most important person in any conversation. The crisis is the trump card and wins the attention game. People don’t want to talk about that because it’s ugly. Also, the behavior is often rooted in trauma, so no friend can help a person who this is their pattern. People like this often need a professional, ideally one with expertise in trauma.

[@Harleyxjokerforever]

Are the people in video purposely misinterpreting what the woman in video? Di they not know what a drama queen is?

[@Trilldayz4436]

If you are the type of person who is successful, confident, caring, and "always seem to have it all together", beware of the crisis friend. They seek out people like you and will take and take! You will either feel pity for them and help them so much until you are worn out (or the one time you need reciprocation, they are usually blunt about not giving back). Or they hold you "hostage" about being in a better place than they are and you better not ever share any of your problems with them because "you are privileged and your problems are never as bad as mine so HUSH" Leave these people alone! I have been burned so many times by these types and therapy has helped me figure out why i attract them and how to respectfully distance myself away from them. You do not owe these people undying loyalty and nuturing. You deserve peace and happiness!

[@NikkiAtlanta35]

You said a word right here baby, no lies told.💯❤️

[@Trilldayz4436]

@NikkiAtlanta35 I have learned that not everyone deserved my friendship. I've learned to emotionally detach and select friends who don't project their insecurities on me. I'm alot happier!

[@divinebeaute]

exactly! they feel entitled to your stability and will end up ruining your mental health. it’s not worth it at all.

[@valery5900]

Friendships need to be mutually beneficial; especially as an adult. Before I ever vent to ANYONE, I always ask for permission and if they have the mental capacity for it. You NEVER know what ppl are internally going through. Your friends don't HAVE to be your therapist and listen to your bad decisions all day everyday, especially when you refuse to take solid advice. I can't stand trauma dumpers. Mind you, crisis friends are narcissists as well. They're never there for YOU when you have your issues going on.

[@ca6248]

Exactly!

[@Jae-by3hf]

Yes!! Was coming to say that they are narcissists!

[@tahtz20]

Girl in the turtle neck was spot on. How is the OP getting backlash and blamed for someone elses actions?? Once again, her feelings have been put on the back burner for the crisis brigade.

[@notyourfrind9415]

Boom. I agree with every little thing you said. Beautiful comment.

[@AdelTheForsaken]

💥💥💥

[@melaniehassler2405]

the thing about crisis friends is that they are the only ones who get to have a crisis. I tried every way I could think of to set boundaries with a long-term crisis friend. i finally snapped when she demanded an apology from me for not being her trauma dumpster yet again. enough was enough. i deeply regret how i broke it off, but thank God it's broken off. this is great vocabulary for the future if i need it, but i'm choosing better now.

[@JanniqueB89]

The crisis friend never wants to work towards solutions thats why they are so draining. Its not all the things that they go through...its the lack of self awareness /working towards better.

[@Minney-Me]

Yep

[@Sliverbunny]

I have never seen a video where so many ppl gave wrong advice, lol. The crisis friend is EXHAUSTING. I agree with the 1 person in the video. You give them advice they don't listen to, and they complain about things in their power to change. The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing and expecting a different outcome. I dont lack boundaries they do, even when you tell them "Hey can we talk about me now", they still talk about them it's Neverending 😢.

[@froufroushoo9266]

It's one thing to be going through a rough time, but to ALWAYS be in crisis?? Not normal. Some people are ADDICTED to suffering. Being a victim becomes their whole entire identity. I don't care what these annoying Tik Tok people with their responses say. I can't stand the ALWAYS in crisis friend. These people need professional help. Heck, even therapists charge alot of money to listen to people's problems! People's issues are exhausting and can affect your mental health.

[@reet7060]

You damn near hate them from how much excessive stress they bring to your “chill” life

[@Mochalolo1928]

It’s the “just tell em you’re not in a good space” comment that made my jaw drop. Do you think the crisis friend is going to accept that as an answer?! They’re going to say you suck, you’re a bad friend, you blah blah blah! Bc the crisis friend is ALSO the victim friend and don’t even play like that’s not the case. I’m not here for the “help help help! Me, me, me” friends. You either learn to deal with your life and stop exhausting the people around you or you end up alone going from group to group with tales of “they were so selfish and couldn’t deal with me when I needed em” leaving out that they NEEDED all of the time to a point people had to start ignoring your calls and texts.

[@deez4evs]

That is the point. You can only control yourself. You cant control the reaction. Like yhe last girl said, her friends gave her a reality check and cause her to look at her own behavior. If you respectgully and kindly express (and hold) your boundaries.. anything there after becomes a “them” problem. Other than actual for real trauma etc, they need to learn to self soothe and not look externally for emotional regulation. All you can do is say what you can and cannot handle. And hold tight to those boundaries. They will either rise to the occasion and mature.. or stay in the same dramatic cycle.

[@Jana_7]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@6ftNaturalBeauty]

ALL of these people are definitely the crisis friend. I can deal with a friend in crisis, but if your crises are chronic. Kick rocks. Acute me

[@valeriehodge8408]

I am an empath and an astute problem solver. There is so much energy expended being me that I find myself totally drained and even depressed when trying to help a friend in turmoil. I have discovered that if my energy to help someone puts me on a constant vampire's-draining cycle, I have no choice but to establish boundaries and oftentimes it means leaving that friend to their own design. When these encounters resemble working at a thankless, no gain job; I have a personal responsibility to save myself.

[@SupernovaX72]

The crisis friend will have over dramatic crisis like their ex boyfriends sister didn’t wish them a happy birthday on Facebook. They’re annoying af. 😆🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@BolU88]

I think there’s a MASSIVE difference between someone who happens to have a lot going on and someone who’s always got something going on because they either 1)Repeatedly make poor decisions 2)Don’t learn from past mistakes 3)Love the attention they get from being in crisis. There is a VERY big difference between the former and the latter. Also, if you try to set a boundary with the Crisis friend and they act a way and they get upset, just know they are a crisis friend and not a friend in crisis 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@jenmar9428]

I absolutely agree with the OP. I used to be close with a lady. I met her because my husband told her I am a lawyer specialized in Family Law. I am a person with anxiety, depression and a fragile mental health. I am in therapy every two to three years. This lady would invite me for tea and would always trauma dump on me. When she did that, it would take me 3 to 4 days to recover mentally. So, what did I start doing? I would talk to her at the door of my apartment whenever I see her, but NOT go out with her or go to her apartment for tea. I suggested therapy SEVERAL times to her because I am always in therapy. But she does not want to go to therapy. Sorry, ma’am, I need to take care of me first.

[@AyaneSoto]

I agree with the first woman and specially the woman at minute 9:09. No one should be used as an emotional dumpster, especially when that friend deliberately seeks drama because he/she is addicted to that state of chaos and the need for validation that he/She gets from constantly complaining about its problems.Ends up draining the empathy you have.

[@TiffanyNicholeCatley]

It is not healthy for people to rely on others solely to help regulate their emotions. You have to learn how to self-soothe as well as emotionally regulate. People do care for you, and that is why it's tough to be one or the only person always available for you emotionally and / or physically. On the flip site. Everyone is right that the other party should have stricter boundaries. The healthiest relationship is where there's a balance and mutual respect.

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

Friends and family fall into this category. There’s always drama and emergencies manufactured by them. I can’t be bothered. No one owes them constant 24/7 emotional support. Go to therapy or call a crisis line with trained professionals. That pouting and manipulation in these videos are a problem! They have audacity and entitlement. I will curse you out period! A lot of crisis friends are narcissists! Stop playing!

[@SharonMulanga-g5c]

I think that this lady does have a point. The crisis friend is someone who always in crisis and they have this paranoia that everyone is always after them, there increase in paranoia sometimes affects you because they constantly want to be justified no matter what they do good or bad. It's okay to be there for someone but it's not your job to fix them or to help them when they cant see there faults it is honestly exhausting having a friend like that 😢

[@Duchess1990]

I have a friend (love her to death) who is a semi-crisis friend. Everything always seems to be about her. She will call me at random times during the day to recount some awkward/hostile interaction she had with a coworker or her boyfriend. She is calling for my validation (e.g., “was that rude??” Or “do you think I’m gonna get fired?”) She always asks me “how are you?” during these conversations, I’ll tell her what is going on in my life, and her response is always a long silence followed by something related back to her troubles. It is truly exhausting.

[@sispeepgame]

I hate to break it to you but the “how are you?” isn’t because she actually cares, it’s so you think she cares. I cut off a girl who would do the exact same thing, ask how you are and then go on a monologue about herself. 😂Those are the self centered types.

[@TheHomegirlHealer]

I realized in my early 30s that I am not a good match for crisis friends bc I’m always the one they rely on when shit is hitting the fan, but when it’s not they are nowhere to be found. I don’t have the capacity or desire for emotionally needy friendships. I got rid of my crisis friends and I’m much happier being a good friend to those friends who reciprocate good friendship.

[@hayaq9991]

The OP is on point and ppl need to stop acting like this does exist.. I had one friend who had 3 evictions in 1 month (from friends and family) failing school which she never came and public transportation is free and when she got acted by a dog (all in the same month) I had to cut her off.. emotionally I couldn’t do it..I had to cut my lost from the money she owned me and got out of that situation.. and she told me I was stupid for helping her

[@Briel_2u]

I had to learn the hard way. I had a childhood friend who was this way. I constantly gave her the same advice but she never took it, until I finally removed myself and developed boundaries. Anytime I needed encouragement or a little advice she would always flip the conversation back to her. Sooo glad I learned.

[@NAla2526]

That means they know it’s not going to work lol

[@nicolethorpe6498]

But on the flip side of that is when your life is going great they get upset at that as well!

[@LoveMe0516]

My ex-bestfriend was a “crisis friend” and for 4 years I dealt with her constant roller coaster of emotions, there incredibly extreme and sporadic but I constantly feared she would harm herself so I stuck around but funnily enough she was rarely ever there for me. One day I had had enough and I cut her off. Some of the most selfish people tend to be “crisis friends”.

[@childfreechick2980]

I find most of these people to be utterly ridiculous. These are the kind of people to constantly demand other people's time and emotional labor, and never look within themselves to try to figure out why they're always in crisis and excessively codepentent. These crisis friends are also the type to rarely be reliable and often do not care about what the friends they always call on are going through. None of us are entiteled to the time and labor of others. Go seek therapy. Work to change your circumstances.

[@h3tur]

i’ve adopted the habit of not telling anyone besides my parents, crisis or any problems in my life until the solution has been implemented. when my car was in the shop for 3 weeks, my friends didn’t know until i picked it up. when i was almost so close to not passing an english uni class, i didn’t tell anyone i was nervous about it, until i passed it. i know it’s not for everyone since sometimes you do need a listening ear, but everyone’s going thru their own shit, especially as we’re settling into adulthood. 4:25 “do you want to vent or do you want advice” is great advice bc often times people will do what they want to do, whether you advised them differently or not & you don’t waste your breath

[@pld-wc7gf]

Those things you mentioned aren't even major problems. You have a lot of life to experience.

[@h3tur]

@@pld-wc7gf you’re right, exactly why i specified uni 🙂 i watch these vids as a reminder while im growing up

[@BENZ_ASMR]

Why do people always act like it’s just “western individuals” that do things🤦🏽‍♀️💯

[@Jae-by3hf]

I skipped that part, because it was giving victim mentality!

[@kimallnaturelle]

As a social worker, I'm a "yes and" person. Yes, to communication and boundary setting. Yes, crisis friends need to seek professional help when needed because friends can only help to a point. Being entitled to others all the time is unhealthy. Leaving people to deal with their reoccuring problems is the best act of love if they need to self-resolve. If its a crisis that is life/death and/or financial (not based on said crisis friend's choices/behaviors) of course provide support. But, the moment someone's problem becomes yours and not theirs for resplution is the moment you need to boundary up and separate

[@kirstin1000]

Damn, you'd of thought this girl lit someone on fire from the reactions instead of venting about having toxic ass relationships that can be very difficult to let go of.

[@Jessica-go6cy]

Whenever I’m in a crisis, I’ve learned not to run to friends or family, I’ve learned to go to therapy have an outsiders opinion. I have a sneaking suspicion they aren’t that empathetic, or as empathetic as I am.

[@ca6248]

That's how I am now. I no longer run to friends or family for any problems I'm having. I write it down and deal with it internally or in therapy. At the end of the day, most people are as lost as you when it comes to dealing with problems, meaning that their "advice" can only go so far. Also, some people use your "crisis" or "problems" as something to throw in your face later. I opened up to an ex friend about issues I was having with my boyfriend, and she used that against me later. I learned my lesson. Never again. The only one I can fully lean on and trust is God. Everyone else falls short.

[@Jessica-go6cy]

@@ca6248 💯 percent agree, they will twist the narrative and bring it back to them, or for sure use it against you. It’s weird because so many people, come to me with their problems, and i listen and ask them if they need to vent or need advice. You are so right.

[@ca6248]

​@@Jessica-go6cyYep! I've learned it's easier in the long run to figure things out on your own. I've also always tried to be that person that listens and gives advice, but unfortunately the same hasn't happened for me. I'm done playing Dr. Phil to everyone else. At the end of the day, we have to work on ourselves and do our best to make good decisions.

[@KaimaVixen]

This! I’ve had a lot of trauma and didn’t have a strong support system. You’re so right… I’m just going to go to therapy, journal and go to the beach because I firsthand know how people dismiss your feelings

[@reesecup95]

My therapist tells me to lean on my support system, but people like the OP on this video is why I’m hesitant

[@purpleflows5680]

You know you’re dealing with a crisis friend when you have a crisis and start to share what’s happening with you and they’re like “😐😑😐 so let’s talk about my latest crisis.” The crisis friend, who is an energy vampire, is different from a friend in crisis. It’s not your job to be someone’s pseudo-therapist. Remember that. Boundaries are essential. The people fighting against this need to acknowledge their trauma, CPTSD, etc and seek the proper support instead of trauma dumping on their friends because that’s not what friends are for.

[@candycrush]

The victim mentality is out of hand for real.

[@hellokaumea8315]

Narcisism et individuality is

[@TaliVarda100706]

Had a friend like this. Childhood trauma and mental disorders, after her mom died 5 years ago, she got worse. 10 therapists in 5 years all of whom were the problem but never her. Would rage and destroy her boyfriends stuff, then turn around and blame him for not being there for her enough. In her words, all she needed to get better was 'someone available 24/7 to help her'. After her boyfriend(main support) left, it was my turn. Would call in the middle of the night screaming that she hated me, just because I didnt respond to her texts as I was trying to sleep because I had work the next day. After the 5th time she screamed about how much she hated me and wanted me out of her life during a meltdown, I simply said okay. I hung up the phone, send her a message saying I hope she gets the help she wants and deserves and I blocked her on everything. Best decision ever. Havent missed her one bit. In fact, I finally realized how little energy I had put into my other friends and my family relationships over the last few years. I build up those relationships again, got a new job, bought a house all because I finally have the mental space because I'm not dealing with her anymore.

[@amydecker6207]

I distance myself from these people. My peace is more important than their desire for attention.

[@purpleflows5680]

Someone on here shared that crisis friends seem to enjoy the crisis. I shared under that post that the “crisis friend” behavior is actually very covert narcissistic. They “enjoy” (ie. get energy from) the crisis because the crisis centers them and makes them the most important person in any conversation. The crisis is the trump card and wins the attention game. People don’t want to talk about that because it’s ugly. Also, the behavior is often rooted in trauma, so no friend can help a person who this is their pattern. People like this often need a professional, ideally one with expertise in trauma.

[@cocoace7587]

Some people live / love in constant turmoil. They feel alive when things are chaotic . When everything is going good for them , they can't mentally handle it , so they unconsciously destroy the " silence. " 😢 Sooooo , yes , save yourselves . # Everyone can't be saved 😒 ATP , they need a professional. ❤👌

[@indiganoir]

The exact scenario that you described is exactly why I cut my friend off… a lot deeper than just the second baby of course, but I wasn’t going to be played with anymore.

[@Ambrosia__]

Are these all crisis friends stitching op?

[@sweetfr33]

Crisis friends are also smart enough to seek out the strongest people for friends. Let’s not forget that part. I was that strong friend. And after offering unused and ignored advice, late night calls, and dramatic behavior……I cut ties. Trauma dumping is real. Boundaries are necessary.

[@Trilldayz4436]

100% ! I am definitely the strong friend and I attract these types ALL THE TIME

[@mahastover]

I think the point of contention is when you express yourself/ set boundaries with said crisis friend, and they don’t listen or become resentful towards you. It’s a problem when it’s one sided.

[@BlendedBarbieDoll]

I think I might have been this person at one time. I grew up learning to bond by complaining and as I got older I realized that wasn’t normal or healthy. Don’t give up on your friends if you love them, gently bring it to their attention because they may have no idea.

[@divinebeaute]

A lot of us are talking about people who keep self-sabotaging and being in denial about it. Loving your friends isn’t enough when they don’t want to be helped unfortunately. Sometimes bringing it to their attention can be the first step fo getting them out of denial but unfortunately in more extreme cases, that won’t do anything and they will just end up blaming you for not being considerate enough regardless of how much you have already poured into them. I think the real reason why this conversation is so polarized is some people have never experienced actual emotionally immature crisis friends who have little regard for their support system and therefore will never understand how toxic that can be.

[@sharicebryant8149]

The light skinned girl is finally someone with sense. Anyone that disagrees with the original Poster IS The crisis friend! The crisis friend always has something going on but then they can’t be there when it’s your turn. I literally stopped being friends with someone who was still trying to vent to me abt an issue she had with a mutual friend when i was dealing with the loss of my best friend who passed not even two months at that time. I communicated to her that i didnt have the capacity to be on her side and she started ignoring me, hid her IG stories from me, didnt wish my happy bday, and didn’t answer my texts, so i let her go. Thats an abusive tactic and no one has to deal with ppl’s trauma dumping just bc they’re friends.

[@Jae-by3hf]

I’m sorry to hear this, I hope that you are grieving and healing in peace 💜

[@sharicebryant8149]

@@Jae-by3hf thank you so much, that means a lot ❤️

[@felixthecat2786]

My mother is this person. Every time I speak to her there is an emotional crisis and I need to sooth her constantly emotional fluctuations. I know she does this because she didn't feel like anyone did this for her as a child. It's a trauma response. It can become exhausting always being the one they turn to. It feels somewhat abusive and I wish she would get a therapist and just work on her emotions and being able to handle them as an adult. It's tough when you're mothering your own mother. I wish I had someone to be this to me, but I often don't. I often deal with my problems on my own. Bad break ups/abusive relationships, being kicked out of an apartment, job losses, etc....I've always known how to self sooth and take care of myself. I usually withdraw from everyone in my life and just deal with it on my own. When I feel better I come back into their life. Oddly enough, most people trauma dump all over me with no reciprocation. It's definitely a boundary issue and I've become better at establishing boundaries. I still don't feel comfortable opening up to people though.

[@B_Millie]

When they dont follow up on the resource or network that CAN help😮‍💨😒,they wanted the attention and a savior, not long term solution. Let it go, and let it flow...🙌

[@Jae-by3hf]

The responses reeked of self entitlement and main character syndrome and definitely are the crisis/ toxic/ narc friend! These people are exhausting and constantly want supply! The way they turned it around on the other friend is classic DARVO. Stay away from these people!

[@jaifyre702]

Listen I'm there for people but when people keep acting like they don't want their problems fixed and they just want to complain I have too tell them I'm not their emotional dumpster and to get a therapist because that's what they are for to hear you out so you don't burn your friends out. I used to good through a whole lot and you know what I did? I got therapy UMKAY. I was not about to dump my burdens on my friends when I need them too be my friend not my therapist. There's a difference.

[@amandajade8012]

A friend who is always in a state of crisis is probably a friend that needs professional help. Be that friend to help guide them there.

[@mwatson4970]

Girl at 11:00 is also right abt the burned build up, BUT I also find that these types of friends do NOT accept boundaries without backlash- whether ignoring your boundaries when stated, pouting/retribution/other negative feedback, etc.

[@ayyyejesterdazed]

Once it got to the point where I felt like I was going to get car jacked for trying to save a 304… that’s when the friendship ended. Tried to have me drive 2 hours from my house and couldn’t do something as simple as get her phone charged beforehand so I can get ahold of her once I make it. YOU chose to hang out with drg users instead of me…. you chose them over me and I chose peace over your dramatic azz. Don’t ignore your good friends for jerks and call crying when the jerks are mean to you💯

[@shondellecumberbatch4410]

I had a crisis friend who would ask for my opinion, do the opposite then cry when she ended up in crazy situations. I live in a very cautious way, she is the very opposite. It was always some messed up situation with the flavour of the month. It got exhausting because I told her not to do what she did!!

[@twilson2605]

I imagine a lot of these crisis friends who are upset often don’t want to do the work to avoid some of the crisis that they face. I know it everything is avoidable, but we all have had a friend at one point or another that just stayed in crisis mode and when you talk to them, the issue could be largely solved with minimal effort. I think it’s the trend of weaponizing trauma for everything these days.

[@MsSPrescott1]

Sometimes setting boundaries with the crisis friends becomes a whole new crisis that they take to another person in the friend group

[@AdelTheForsaken]

0:06 every time I saw that person coming I nope out of the situation! I wasn't born equipped with the energy it takes to deal with someone who lives and thrives in drama.

[@minahtheweirdo]

I know 2 girls like this... make that 4. I just put 2 on mute on what app

[@ladyhagaming]

I am not the crises friend, I am the advice friend 😂😊

[@ijustneedausername6742]

A crisis friend isn’t a friend experiencing a crisis. it’s that friend that reaches out only when they want something emotionally from you. Like if you see it’s them calling does your blood pressure go up? Do you get stressed when they tell you they have a new boyfriend because you know in three months you’re going to hear nothing except about what a bastard he is, because this is the cycle? I’ve had friends in crisis and ‘crisis friends’ and there is for sure a difference.

[@thediscustedkitty6348]

I had to cut contacts with my best friend who is like family because i couldn't take the drama anymore. I dint feel like being called a bad friend because I dont feel like letting you stay at my house because you and our boyfriend are physically fighting. We were friends for over 30 years. I miss her but I'm could take the drama anymore.

[@Seamannon]

Did you suggest any other place she could go to in order to get out of her abusive situation?

[@thediscustedkitty6348]

@@Seamannon She has family she can call. She wasn't in danger believe me. It's not a one sided abusive situation.

[@Seamannon]

​@@thediscustedkitty6348 Well, if you say so... I hope it wasn't just your assumption, but the actual situation. People often have a very narrow image of what a "dangerous situation" should look like and disregard dangers that don't fit their stereotypical mental box. The most abusive people tend to act in ways that wouldn't raise immediate suspicions, because they are well aware of public perceptions, so their ways are hidden and each small act seems harmless until you get the full picture of all intertwined factors. But that's the thing, most people who feel stuck in abusive patterns need to put all the puzzle pieces on the table and someone with an outside perspective to look at them and help them sort things out until the picture gets clear, otherwise they only have a bunch of negative feelings and doubts about their situation and about their own perceptions or available options, and they often remain unsure what to do about any of it, when people close to them give them dismissive or unclear feedback. Confusion is the glue holding patterns of abuse together. Someone who can help clear things up has the power to break those patterns directly or indirectly, depending on their involvement. I have no idea what your or your friend's situatiomn really is, I'm not trying to cast any blame or shame or determine who is responsible for what, because that's something that has to be sorted out case by case, taking all induvidual factors into account. You may be right with your decision, you may be wrong, it's not for me to say. It just sad to me when people give up on longlasting friendships and relationships because they are annoyed by the "drama" that the other person is dealing with. It sounds so cold and uncaring. As if some people only defined a friendship by the ammount of fun they had with someone, free of any real responsibility and commitment. I don't think a friendship is defined by the good times you have with someone, but by the challenges you get through together and by the mutual support in difficult times. Good times are only for aquaintances, they're not real relationships when there's no real vulnerability and meaningful connection. It's amazing to see people who can maintain good relationships for 30 years, I really admire that and it's hearbreaking to see such relationships break down after such a long time for unclear reasons. Maybe the reasons are clear enough for you, I can also understand the other side of the argument, people who feel taken advantage of, who feel like there's not enough reciprocation and so on... I've also been there, but it's so much better to be in a situation where you can simply distance yourself from someone's problems, than to be in a sitaution where you're the one stuck in overwhelming problems and not being able to count on anyone's help to get you back on track, where you simply feel defeated and hopeless... I know both perspectives quite well and I prefer to make sure I did absolutely everything I could to help someone before I cut them off, I have to make sure my own conscience is clear enough for my own peace of mind. If that's what you did, then that's the right decision for you.

[@rosannarichardson7951]

When someone is just dumping their life obstacles as if you don’t have your own whole life to live and navigate through. Some people aren’t and don’t want to be independent and figure things out for themselves or try to first-their default is to go run to someone about their stuff to get the answers and support vs them figuring it out and supporting themselves first. If that doesn’t work then yea, ask for help. But they automatically go “I have a problem so it’s your problem too until it’s resolved” and this is so much easier for them. It’s like they can’t be an adult, always have mommy and daddy clean up their mess. And they use people around them as a freaking diary. Like, can you make it at all being on your own because you’re giving off “I’m weak and should be darwined at some point”.

[@divinebeaute]

When I first saw that woman’s video I misinterpreted it because my crisis friend is autistic (so am I) and we both grew up undiagnosed. I was facing a lot of financial hardships because I had recently moved out of a toxic household and just assumed our challenges were similar because of my own situation. The truth was she wouldn’t deal with situations in her life until shit hit the fan because of her self-sabotaging tendencies and would just pretend she would work on it when I would advise her. I cut her off a few months ago and it was the best thing I could’ve done for my own mental health. What made it click for me was a post saying people like this don’t want supportive friends, they want soldiers. I saw another comment under this video saying everyone centers the crisis friend’s mental health but no one realizes the toll it takes on the friends who are expected to pour into them in ways that are just not humanly realistic a lot of the time and that is just not talked about enough. If it was talked about more I would’ve seen the red flags sooner imo, it was truly traumatizing going through so much and having to assist someone who would put herself in crazy situations constantly. I think it is a way of normalizing narcissistic tendencies as well because people are expected to push themselves so hard to help someone who doesn’t even want to be helped. And we’re being blamed for leaving???

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

I have 1. I just tell her “protect your peace” and don’t even try to help her 😂. I’m a Virgo. I can’t have a crisis friend. I will block u. Because I can be in Crisis and most women are mammies and side with men so they don’t listen to me about anything

[@mogulmade]

And most of them are parents. I'm so hurt for their kids because if you have no sense of balance, how are you parenting these kids. It's a lot😢

[@cocoace7587]

I was always the laid-back person & kept everything on an even keel . Always kept a plan A , B & C in & after college. My college friend of 20 yrs has ALWAYS been " high strung ," nervous & easily upset . You couldn't talk without her jumping down your throat at the wrong conclusion. It got tiring & annoying. But , what i HATED , HATED , was that her behavior rubbed off on me & i am still trying to get back to " me ." 😡🤬 3 yrs ago, i told her i needed a break . And , when i tried to explain myself , she made excuses or flipped it on me . # How do you spell relief 😂🏃‍♀️ # every one can't be saved # save yourselves ❤👌

[@DiMagnolia]

A crisis friend fabricates drama, refuses to take accountability, refuses to respect boundaries, refuses to support others the same way they demand to be supported, they have a huge victim complex, the world revolves around them, their relationships are entirely one-sided, taking but not giving. Compared to a friend who is in crisis, even if it’s a prolonged crisis, appreciates the support, accepts advice, takes accountability, actively tries to improve the situation, actively seeks out professional help, respects boundaries, checks in before trauma dumping, and pours just as much back into their friends however they can.

[@lyndceib9973]

I had a similar situation to this. I was always trying to be there for her and would go to dinner with her let her vent, but I never really felt like she would try and be there for me when I needed that space. Needless to say we ended our 20 year friendship and it was for the best because we both needed to set boundaries.

[@karlatyson12]

I’m the friend people always call because I’m actually the therapist friend , I make sure to let them know I’m only gonna listen and not use any of my skills 😂

[@faniamesa5639]

What about when the crisis friend doesn't care that you are in crasis and don't want to hear what you need..😜

[@pld-wc7gf]

If your home, safety, freedom or life isn't on the line, you're not in a crisis.

[@WacoBeautyQueen]

My mom and I were literally talking about this not even a few minutes ago, where I’ve been wanting to let go a friend of mine I’ve known since practically middle school because she is a selfish human being and is in constant crisis. I don’t even call her now because I realized she doesn’t attempt to see how I’m doing m, but she’s quick to call me when there’s a crisis going down in her life or when another of our friends drop her for the same reasons I listed. Last we spoke was when it was the second time another mutual friend dropped her, she explained how she’s going to be a better friend to the ones still in her life…. Yeah, never happened.

[@why140]

Previously: a friend in need is a friend indeed. Now: a friend in need is a nuisance

[@Seamannon]

😂great summary! friendship has lost its meaning.

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Empaths got to protect themselves; these folks smell you a mile away.

[@Trilldayz4436]

That's the thing... HOW do we protect ourselves from these types?

[@rosannarichardson7951]

@@Trilldayz4436 setting boundaries, communicating them, and standing firm in them.

[@er6730]

I think people are having the confusion about what is a friend in a friend group. Maybe this is because the sense of community is lacking. But this is what a friend group is, it's not just your curated bunch of besties, it's all kinds of people! Your best friend's cousin might be in your friend group, because in group settings she's always included. We can't always pick and choose, and that means there will be tiring people in the mix. And that's okay, you know? They're not happy, but I don't think ostracism will help them. I have a "friend" like this. I think she's a former friend now, as I stopped responding to her dramatic texts and statements with sympathy, instead being deliberately stupid and taking her "I'm fine (but ask me about it)" style statements at face value. "Okay great, good night then, I'm off to bed!"and not answering any more texts. We'll still have conversations and go to the same parties. We're not NOT friends, but she probably thinks I'm heartless and I am fine with that as long as she leaves me alone. Thing is, it's not that she's got it so easy. Her life has a lot of hardships. They went through bankruptcy, she's had miscarriages, and was disappointed about having boys and no girls, and she struggles with weight and her mental health. I sympathize, but at the same time, she makes as much of every tragedy as she possibly can, and weeps for weeks and months. I was more involved and "on her side" until it became very apparent that she's selfish and addicted to the drama.

[@user-lp2he1md6i]

I believe I was a crisis friend, at age 22-26 I was a mess 😂. I was depressed, separated from family, in therapy, chile I was trying. One person stuck around, an older white man who was my landlord. We became friends and I thank God for him. He was there /with me towards the last two years of 22-26. I came out strong! It’s not your responsibility to be there emotionally there for us if you can but people in a crisis aren’t trying to be malicious.

[@ca6248]

Everyone's saying the crisis friend is the most exhausting, but if you have ever dealt with a narcissist, then you know better. Edit: Apparently, my comment ruffled a lot of feathers, but I stand by it. Y'all stay ugly and mad. 😂✌🏼

[@Trilldayz4436]

Honestly , the crisis friend is probably the narc. They seek out codependents, IMO

[@ca6248]

​@@Trilldayz4436That's true! I could see that.

[@chaosspy6723]

isn't that a diagnosis and not an insult?

[@ca6248]

​@@chaosspy6723Who is insulting anyone? I'm talking about full blown narcs.

[@chaosspy6723]

@ca6248 people ddiagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder can live a relatively normal life without disturbing people with the right care. Is that who you meant because that's what the word means?

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

Lot of people in their feelings about how cutting off the crisis friend is somehow callous, self-centered, insensitive ..... Look. At a certain point, you have to face facts: some people draw misfortune and chaos onto themselves because of their bad decisions, bad karma (if you believe in that), pathological need for attention or love of drama, early trauma left unaddressed and unhealed, whatever whatever whatever .... and the average person, your average friend, is NOT equipped to deal with that ish on a continuous basis! Especially because its usually a ONE WAY STREET WITH THESE PEOPLE. How often does a crisis friend magically vanish when you need help with something?

[@Seamannon]

It's also exhausting to get through one crisis after another without any of your friends showing up for you when you need them the most, especially when you were there for their problems in a heartbeat, wearing yourself out to help them. It's exhausting to get to therapy and being asked by the therapist who is there for you to support you practically in your private life and having to answer that there's no one, because the people who were supposed to be your friends and family, and offer help when you asked them, only answered with "everybody has got problems, you need to get some professional help". It's exhausting to hear the therapist saying things like "you have to ask people for help, nobody can do everything on their own.." while knowing that you already did that and people were just to busy with their own stuff and couldn't be bothered to put in any time or efford to help someone else. It's exhausting to tell a friend what you are currently going through, hoping for some suggestions on how to improve the situation beside all the things you already tried or some emotional or practical support offering, but only getting negative feedback for "venting", "trauma dumping" or "being annoying and too needy". It's exhausting when people make such assumtions, when you're constantly looking for solutions, working to improve yourself and you're actually hoping for someone to help you make strategic plan to takle all the problems and you don't have any intention to just vent, you're just putting all the puzzle pieces at the table to sort them out. It's exhausting to discover you don't have any supportive people in your life, only fairwheather friends and onesided relationships. It's exhausting to be taken for granted when you're supportive and being ignored when you need support. It's exhausting to be in perpetual crisis mode because no one is willing to offer a helping hand to pull you out of a pit, when they could easily spare the resources to change your life, but they won't, so you have to make deals with exploitative people to get by, because there's no one else willing to deal with you. It's exhausting to hear people moan about losing a firend or family member to self-inflicted harm, hearing them ask questions like "why? why didn't they tell us? why didn't they ask for help?", when you know that they probably asked over and over but weren't listened to, because it's apparently never serious enough until it's too late. It's exhausting to hear how people sometimes justify their ignorance and lack of commitment, their willfull blindness and selfishness. Some people are in prolonged crisis because they run of better options and got cought in a negative spiral, a real friend could be a life saver, but people who get too exhausted by just listening to someone's problems, let alone helping out, are obviously not real firends.

[@SoulfulNaomi]

I accepted Christ and became that friend 😂❤ but I take my prayers to God and God alone (or trusted friends) when I was in world drinking living for myself (emptiness) but now I did have to remain prayerful. Now I don't create drama but had became a mom alone, lost job, gained amazing things, but also have financial attacks. Fasting prayer 🙏🏽 declaring scripture and relationship with God is enough 😊❤😂

[@jams1070]

4:01 she’s probably the crisis friend 5:45 there’s a difference between being stuck in the individualism mindset and being exhausted from constantly giving yourself to someone who probably isn’t doing the same for you. 7:44 see yall be saying ‘don’t be our friend’ and then that happens and we’re the bad guy 😂 i have experienced crisis after crisis and it’s hard asf but I’m not the crisis friend. I HAVE a crisis friend and she’s draining asf, i can’t even want better for her cause she doesn’t want better for herself frfr. And i have depression and anxiety, i understand where she’s coming from but we don’t tackle the hard times in our lives the same way. 9:34 that part 10:25 every fucking time. And Ive told her I’m not her free therapist, so i either end the friendship or keep dealing with this right?

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

No the always need money friend- which might be being described here- these chicks need money, but have a man or husband sitting up at home. Isn’t the point of having a partner, or “‘man” to be able to on your partner when you don’t have something? These are the type of people who say to protect the little family they create- but your man doesn’t provide you with anything.

[@Slowmetamorphis]

@11:35 yh... that "shitty friend for u" is probably what the OP is describing . I know such a person. She complained and made a crisis about the friend who said they didnt have time for them and their crisises 😂

[@ifyganobi]

FYI, if you keep abandoning your crisis friends. Do not creep into their lives when they are healed and successful people.

[@all4Dorian]

I had a friend like that once. Doomed because weak and insecure. It was every damn week omg …

[@hellokaumea8315]

With friends like you I would feel like that too

[@avairejustdesserts9921]

I've had the crisis friend. Bipolar and every day she'd come in crying or angry and seconds away from an outburst and I felt terrible for pulling away as hard as I did but she'd repeatedly make the same awful mistakes, a pick me that victim blamed even her best friend for being harassed by men (I highkey think it was jealousy over other women getting male attention), and honestly I just felt so stressed out being around her because her behavior triggered constant trauma responses in me from having a pickme Borderline Personality Disorder mother and I was constantly exhausting myself trying to cheer her up, being there for her, helping her, constantly having to support her it was MISERABLE. We weren't friends very long and im friendly to her when I see her but she is always minutes away from a crisis

[@LovvinLifeeMiyaa]

i say i’m the crisis friend because of how sensitive i am but how even more trusting i am of my community (plus therapy is expensive 😭). nonetheless, i know this about myself, and after venting, crying, and b*tching, i have regular talks with these friends about how they feel regarding me coming to them about these issues i have. sometimes they don’t mind, other times they genuinely can’t help and it’s slowly helping me with self-soothing and solo problem solving (plus they have lives they complain about and they know they can come and talk to me bc i’ll channel the emotions they don’t feel comfortable dealing with so it’s not one-sided). i do agree with one of the videos of being self-aware towards being the crisis friend - we don’t like it; we feel like children throwing tantrums because we can’t get a hang of being alive and it sucks for us as well. now if we’re talking about a friend who only uses your presence to validate themselves as individuals, then you’ve got bigger issues than just a “crisis”

[@RD-ub1jj]

Go to therapy…

[@hellokaumea8315]

​@@RD-ub1jjtherapy is not magical, plus guess what therapists will say that you need FRIENDS duh

[@RD-ub1jj]

@@hellokaumea8315 no it’s not magic, but your friends aren’t professionals or responsible for your mental and emotional well-being. I lost my mother and my best friend within 6 months of eachother and yes, I’m grateful I had supportive friends but it gets to a point where you need to take your own mental health into your own hands. Victimhood is a state of mind and therapists can give you the tools you need to help learn new coping strategies and to actually heal the wounds rather than expect your friends to have answers or help carry the weight of your trauma. It’s not fair to those around you to expect them to do your emotional labor for you. Therapy helped me immensely and it helped me get my power pack. My recommendation was not me trying to be sarcastic or rude, I sincerely recommend therapy if someone acknowledges that they are in fact the friend that’s in perpetual “crisis”.

[@LovvinLifeeMiyaa]

@@RD-ub1jj when you pay for it, definitely will! 😁

[@Seamannon]

@@hellokaumea8315 exactly. I've talked to so many therapists and every single one of them would ask me who I can rely on for help. I never knew how I was supposed to respond, what exactly they expected for an answer... I honestly told them that if I had people in my life who I could rely on for help, then I probably wouldn't have to look for someone I have to pay for sessions I can't afford, just to talk over some problems... "I wouldn't be talking with you if I had supportive people to help me solve my problems". Is that some kind of joke? "what do you mean? my support system? Why whould I need a therapist if I had a whole support system to help me out of my crisis?" This cruel paradox doesn't compute in my mind.

[@Jajabydesign]

This is honestly why I agree with TikTok being banned. Respectfully, the girl whose commentary ended at 8:57 commentary is representative of a lot of awareness. And with that much awareness, it does an injustice to those who are the crisis friend. Most people in crisis are not aware of the mental toll it’s had on others, nor do they necessarily think the same as she explained. There’s a difference between someone who wants to emotionally dump, and someone who is in a crisis. It’s important you separate the. It’s important honestly, while you can support the crisis friend, advice from professionals should be sought. For both parties.