The Cyco Podcast E7 - Friendships ft Nyawira Gachugi & Wanjiru Njiru

[@VariniaMiriamWandere]

Always coming back to rematch these episodes ❤

[@beatricekimunya8311]

I think for me I stopped questioning how many friends I have and just started focusing on what kind of friend I am ..like am I kind , supportive , loyal and dependable? ..mostly you just attract what you are ;also instead of expecting so much from people look at what value they add to you and appreciate that eg who is good to go out with ? Who gives best advice ? Best company ? Biggest supporter ?

[@mathewrym4381]

Wisdom

[@naominzioka496]

I agree Beatrice not all friends have to fit one coat.Learn their value,their strength and live with them as such And appreciate them for that.Like i have friends who we not necessarily hang out with but when it comes to praying and interceding are warriors and hold me down seriously and i them.It's not a one size fits all.I have learnt to make this differentiation as i have grown older.

[@NJENGA.M]

@@naominzioka496 100%

[@minniemwangi3633]

Nyawira's wisdom eish! she is very bold and articulate, we need her more on this podcast.

[@gracesamuel9136]

Just from watching over 25 .. ivy and Julia's friendship reconciliation video .... Then😍😍😍 this

[@maryann-df5zx]

same

[@christinekioi]

Ben's humor is out of this world🤣🤣🤣 Nyawira is brilliant 🌟 ! Wanjiru's advice was 💯

[@BenCyco]

Asante Sana Kioi 🙏

[@TheKimieD]

I'd be nothing without my inner circle. These 6 human beings have held my hand, hyped me up and loved me through and through. They're my family.

[@BenCyco]

That's Wassup fam, we all need such 🙏

[@kcmirth]

Nyawira on boundaries.... perfection!!

[@sharm_ye]

After a break up i just realized i don't actually have friends, or rather i have very few. So besides a boy-girl relationship , have a conducive social life too.

[@MulelaMusic]

Having uncomfortable talks with your friends is key.... Without them you might be living a fasad and you don't know it.... When you cross a boundary or when they cross and you don't speak about it...its a ticking time bomb and when it explodes the toxicity level will be high.... Having the uncomfortable conversation leads to growth and better friendships

[@BenCyco]

I agree 💯

[@naominzioka496]

I agree.At the beginning of the year we challenged ourselves with my close friends to having more honest conversations.The fakeness and facade in friendships is honestly due to avoiding the uncomfortable talks.There is beauty beyond honesty in friendships.

[@mohshii6672]

If you guys are a representation of our generation... I am proud of it

[@awam951]

I would like to see a podcats with Ben and his other close friends (plus Nyawira) without Bae to see the kind of person he is around them.

[@HYPESAVAGE]

Yeeees pleeeeeeeeeaaasee

[@mercy_.njoroge]

Yessssssssss

[@margiemweru1833]

My inner circle is 4 people. I would describe myself as a listener, supportive and accountable type of friend.

[@missella6451]

nitaosha vyombo nikimaliza kuwa watch ghaaaaaaai ghaaaaai am addicted

[@sharonnjoki9143]

Some friendships of mine have faded because of the different paths we have taken. Like different interests in life. Yes

[@wanjirururi5307]

So true..

[@mathewrym4381]

Si ni life banaa🤷‍♂️

[@ms.essiejohn]

Wanjiru has such a beautiful smile 😍😍😍

[@KeamKym]

I'm here coz of nyawira, she has been behind the scenes sana in the entertainment scenery, lovely soul. Big up.

[@terryannenkatha9942]

To anyone reading this it might not be as necessary to you but id recommend a series called A MILLION LITTLE THINGS so basically the series is based on a story about a guy from a close circle of four men who committed suicide despite his life seeming perfect you know(perfect dad, husband, friend) and he still went ahead to take his life.so In short the series is trying to teach its audience that friendship is about so many little things that we brush off easily and as ben said that most of our friends that take their life might always be smiling and present and surrounded by us but we do not notice the little things that are eating them up id really like to commend you guys for choosing to speak on this topic its a really crucial one

[@BenCyco]

I'll check it out, thanks for This

[@thesoundgirlpod]

Watched this one! It's really great. It emphasises a lot on understanding friendships.

[@rahabwanjiku6231]

Its such a great series..I cried from episode one...its eye opening for sure...

[@lucykabu]

@@BenCyco you better iko sawa sana.

[@chebetcheruiyot7446]

I saw it..it broke my heart

[@monieqvus]

Yesterday that lone rangers' connection to suicide crossed my mind, but forgot to look it up until Ben mentioned. I agree with him; most people who seem to have many friends don't actually have a self identity & that's why sadly it's easy for them to give it up when life takes some bad unexpected turns. On the other hand, the loners with their small inner circles tend to be more self aware and sorta know how to deal with different challenges in life. Neither has it all figured out, but clearly, Quality over quantity.

[@BenCyco]

Any day any time, thanks for watching 🙏

[@jennipheramulaku8250]

Wanjiru is slowly turning into Ben with her jokes, love to see it😂😂

[@alicekingori90]

Yaani every point for me is like "oh yeah!! This is happening for me" waaa.. but there's some level of peace that is manifesting from listening to this podcast

[@BenCyco]

Glory to God, the peace is from him 🙏🙏

[@karugasir.george7514]

🗣️Friendships are like a long cord, dont be in a hurry to cut them just tie a knot Hmm Oozing Wisdom 💥💥👌😊

[@wanjerimwangi259]

Lakini the way Nyash explains the category of friends is incredible. 🙌👏

[@BenCyco]

She's a genius

[@ritaakelo138]

I just realized i don't have an inner circle of friends

[@missw.4882]

Lol me too😅

[@dianacheche8432]

🙈😂I thought I was the only one this confirms to me that am not weird lol

[@BenCyco]

It's common, we all take our time haina haraka 🙏

[@njerijenny5508]

Gosh😅me too

[@geej608]

Me too😭😭😂

[@patiencethiongo8384]

My take away..Friendship is like a cord know when to tie a knot, evaluate yourself and always less is more and focus on depth in friendships..mindblown! You guys are amazing!!💞

[@BenCyco]

Pesh 🤗

[@patiencethiongo8384]

@@BenCyco keep shinning you guys are amazing!!

[@norahkavenya6579]

Picked this from a podcast - a boundary is where you end and I begin.

[@yohanabergz2750]

Meaningful conversation! I actually went to primary school with Nyawira. That is besides the point - My female friend was surprised the other day when i told her, I won’t be this close to you once i get into relationship/marriage. Having the opposite sex as a close friend after you get into relationships is a recipe for a disaster! You can love them from distance.

[@mathewrym4381]

😂😂 true

[@justgracious3196]

Well said 👏👏

[@pecarl]

24:10 Comparison is such a disease to progress, especially trading your attention onto life paths that aren't yours and unconsciously fighting against your own purpose. I mean just looking left and right in comparison can wreck your neck and throw you into kizunguzungu. My inner circle keeps shrinking but highly attaining in the overall value and it's such a painful experience to be mature enough to understand when it's the right time to drop a relationship; so true, we constantly need to evaluate relationships with unwavering feedback. Thank you guys for this episode; you guys are so cool!

[@joymwende4080]

Yaani this shanol is just refreshing every time I watch the podcasts Mimi I don't have close friends I'm a loner and plus different seasons of life have taught me to be my best friend in some way Hopefully I will have a few some day Good content 💯🔥 More grace 🙏

[@keywesttraveldiaries-Bravin.M]

Ben is a learned comedian🤗👊

[@carolm4691]

I have different friends at different levels... They complain they don't know each other but in my mind I have compartmalized them. Also I take a break from all of them most of the time... I don't hate them, but at times I need to be in my own space. I have realized very late in my thirties that at times your journey is your own journey.

[@kap849]

I feel you sister.

[@BenCyco]

I like this perspective, thanks for sharing 🙏

[@angiewahu7522]

This makes So Much Sense

[@periskanyi8467]

Nyawira is full of wisdom.. not to say that Wanjiru and Ben are not.. But it seems she did her Lybu research so well.. One thing i can say is that as you age or grow old your cycle of close friendship seems to become small and very very strong.

[@missmuindi965]

There are also those people who come into your life as friends but they wreck everything including your other friendships...such are the people we are supposed to say hi and walk away from them 🙌

[@mathewrym4381]

Very fast....mbio

[@cupidambale8678]

Eihhh.... I love the way Ben fixes his mother tongue in the conversation 😂😂😂❤️👌

[@BenCyco]

Nie reke gwere 😂🙏

[@faithblaine3454]

Nyawira is sooooooooo brilliant!!!! Y'all are doing an amazing job! Great conversations! Great job guys!

[@cynthia.wambugu111]

I group my friends in 3 parts 1. confidants These ones are your ride or die friends, they love you for who you are. very very close friends 2.constituency These people are for what you are for, your dreams, your vision, your direction in life. 3.comrades These ones have common facts with you. It's a specific thing that brings you together and if that thing is not present you are not friends at all, eg people you party with, after the drinks and fun, that's it.

[@99imelda]

I love this Nyawira chic, quite smart and articulate.

[@BenCyco]

Extremely 🙏💯

[@kariukimolly8172]

wanjiru Njiru yes she is really good energy and wise.....i can tell from watching soo many of her videos..

[@doreennjeri7915]

I love nyawira she is such a beautiful soul, rem how powerful she is spiritually, namkubuka zile time za prayers kenya cinema on tuesdays from 5pm

[@harryousu4680]

Friends hukua we go but kuna categories Bytha vida poa na uendelee hivyooo 👏👍

[@lynnanduvate3635]

I loved Nyawira's parting shot... It's something worth thinking about and putting it into practice

[@sheneevents8522]

I have been surrounded by emptiness.. And i decided to take every friendship as it comes.. I have had different friends on different levels in my life and im able to move on when it no longer serves me, because i put my friends in different tiers and hardly alow just anyone into my inner circle.

[@Miss__RS]

When Ben said, "she's my baby". I smiled so hard 😂🤣

[@stephypeters]

Shiru is so lovable❤

[@tiniwanjiku4590]

I think Waniijru is that friend you just gotta have in your corner. She has really supported Ben and Nyawira in this content creation journey! Wanjiru, God bless your kind soul! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@nicolemusundi3858]

I love this channel because I get insight and comedy 🔥🔥

[@BenCyco]

Thank you Nicole 🙏

[@djrakams8825]

It's very weird how this week I was really evaluating my circle...I just came to realize actually the people I call friends are just there because of what they are benefitting from me..There are things I stopped doing like just going and doing things without planning and am shocked they have never looked for me again😂😂😂😂😂😂😂...but am greatful...kuna wenye tuko tight and I don't take it for granted...

[@nicholastoo858]

A close friend or fam borrows cash, doesn't return, what happens to the friendship? I have two layers, inner and everyone else (those that I know and strangers). The two layers are pretty much the same except that inner is intimate. Else I'm all about exchanging knowledge, sharing cool experiences, helping each other etc... Cutting across all layers. You have no idea how new people can enrich your life, you also don't know how you could be a blessing to others - I have experienced both. Being too closed doesn't seem like my thing. You like traveling? Visiting new countries and such? New people that you meet are like new countries.

[@NancyLeahKE]

How I gauge a true friendship,💝💝💝 are they able to stand the test of time both through good times and bad

[@BenCyco]

💯💯💯💯

[@josphine291]

Cyco, your first few podcast episodes were PODCASTS, if you know what I mean. The voice was clear and concise, no much interruptions from one person talking to another, and you know, there was clear focus on delivering the message. I could put the podcast in the background while doing some stuff in the house and still get the message. But the recent videos, are they sit downs? Vlogs? Chitchats? I don’t know. The sound quality? Sometimes filmed outside with background muggy noise, Interruptions from one talker to another, I feel like I have to be present watching the video the whole time for one hour otherwise I lose track of who is speak and when and why they interrupted, Why everyone is laughing and what is going on. Maybe I’d say that is for a normal video and not a podcast? I listen to so many PODCASTS, I guess when podcast involves 3 or more people, it really requires alot of coordination. Maybe I mistook the name of the channel and thought it is a podcast channel. The collabos are nice, but Just wondering if you will be doing any podcasts in the future and I mean like, you know podcasts podcasts. No pressure just a curious subscriber who subscribed for you know, podcasts and not chitchats....

[@naomimaina3428]

I love you people, @Cyco,Shiru you inspire me especially your dress code Nyawish wonderful voice n laughter. @ na look ya shiru akingalia people

[@breemukung535]

Donald Ngunjiri..😂😂😂😂..Upper Hill gang👏🏽👏🏽...Jojo-Parklands Baptist Church!!Looove this channel ❤️❤️

[@turisclan.8151]

I had to watch it till the end for me to comment....the take out was awesome ....I really get hard times keeping pple who are toxic to me .....I have only one friend ...and Soo happy than those times I used to have Soo many and was always struggling......keep up Ben ......kakitu kadogo (I'm Embian and learning that pple know that tribe from shiru it's Soo awesome)around where I live pple dint know this tribe .... ◖⚆ᴥ⚆◗

[@juliewan4125]

Amazing, Thanks to Ben,Wanjiru and Nyawira , this was so eye opening. Applause for your strong friendship.

[@valeriewambui2199]

I'm about to have that friendship evaluation form..Always a great time guys

[@CarolKuyo]

Leaving with one word, "evaluate!".

[@njukisperspective]

#cycosquad Wisdom ikam through na cracked ribs💃. Ben keep going. You're inspiring many young people out here👍

[@BenCyco]

All for God's glory fam, Asante Sana 🙏

[@suewayesu5908]

my best gaaang, aki i need these kind of friends

[@everythingdeeke]

I can listen to this so many times.....times and tides of friendships. Your podcast is life changing and these 2 ladies are just the best Ben.

[@NancyLeahKE]

Having a smaller circle is very key for me max 5, I believe success starts with your inner circle

[@BenCyco]

Very true 💯

[@dianacheche8432]

When you walk with Jesus you will never be alone I failed in many friendships and I was failed to because I expected them to understand where I was in life but then it wasn’t in there capability. I am now relearning to be a friend and understanding where my boundaries are but above all I chose me and it’s okay because if you have Jesus you have one lasting friend who can fill a void no human being can. Am happier and enjoying life like I have never before enjoying new friendships without expectation. I enjoyed the conversation am learning a lot from you guys 👏🏾

[@BenCyco]

Baraka Diana 🙏

[@phydeswanjala9728]

Ben: I'm normally so happy when I see most of my friends excelling because in the end we all have value🔥Woow!👏🔥

[@BenCyco]

You'd be shocked when the key to your success lies with your friend 😆

[@MsUnderstood]

I am a living testimony 💪🏽💪🏽

[@MsNimo]

Ben Cyco Say it louder

[@juneshammah93]

If only I could have an inner circle 😂😂😂.may the Lord come through !

[@anastasiakosgey457]

Wow such an amazing discussion to indulge into...The wise one: Nyash mwenyewe says it all.

[@chillspotroyalty4895]

I will also do an episode on friendships and see what mine will say you have opened my mind kabisa

[@peternduati6520]

Yeeeeeyy the trio is back!Thank you for always keeping us posted 😊😊💕

[@BenCyco]

Always, thanks for watching 🙏

[@Kiptuibrenda]

Leo nimechelewa😭 But I'm soo excited!!!!!😭😭😍🥳🥳❤ Yaani tuko episode 7! Wow👏🏾❤

[@susannabalayo4358]

Always looking forward to this candid conversations, big up, no cap. We all should be keen on those who surround us in the name of friends There are lots of lonely people in crowded rooms

[@BenCyco]

So so many, thanks for watching 🙏

[@Nanjala_cr]

Your podcasts have always been a class for me .Always more information to take home. Thank you 💜

[@victormuchiri9060]

This is just the vibe I like. It made me reflect and also got entertained. But someone clearly is a third wheel in this video. It is what it is :) Well done!

[@Young_Techiez]

Thank you Nyawira for your honesty and the knot concept! This is the first vid where @wanjirunjiru...was not able to be truthful..or chose not to. To herself and to us, and its okay, it is allowed. The reason why she is able to face conflicts with ben is because she is real with him. A healthy relationship/friendship addresses conflict. It also helps to be honest with yourself. Conflict is not a bad thing, its part of relationship/friendship growth.

[@patsymugabi9868]

Rewatching this on International Friends Day !Solid Gold !

[@josephinenjerikiruku5174]

We had this discussion with my friends the other day and we actually evaluated each other. Pointed out our strengths and weaknesses as well. It was refreshing and honest. And yes, friendships need to be intentional. Thanks for this👏

[@mathewrym4381]

Intentionality is key

[@YOLO-tf2zv]

Atleast i see my comment worked...the group is maintained ....patience its going to be a bigger thing.AMEN AMEN

[@giegor28]

I discovered your podcast today..I think the 3 of you should be a permanent thing,very good energy and chemistry on screen ..very good content👌..

[@keziahNjoki]

Can the Keziah's assemble here kindly! Friendship evaluation is so deep!

[@thesoundgirlpod]

Eish Nyawira!! You're dropping some really great wisdom about categories of friends. I love it!! Keep doing this guys, there's so much enlightenment here. Uuuh!!

[@BenCyco]

Kabisaaaa 💯

[@chemutaichelule3815]

Really important conversation!!! so much wisdom

[@kwambokadeborah480]

This is REALLY IMPORTANT try to balance a friendship in a way that your inputs can be equal and add value too

[@filesanddocuments6448]

Number one podcast in Kenya

[@carolnyambura6553]

This has come at a point I really need it in evaluating my friendships. It's like having a conversation with you, through your experiences. Alot of us out here need these.

[@vivianwanjiru86]

Ben keep the fire burning.Your podcasts are always inspiring, fun and eye opening.God bless!

[@amosvegas870]

That Kez should come and show us that evaluation form.... It seems crazy though 😂😂😂😂

[@BenCyco]

I need it as well 😂

[@allankiprotich7336]

I've always struggled with friendships alooot,,,,,I don't think I have any friends

[@thecircus768]

yaaayyy!!!! always looking forward to this podcasts.... good work Ben ..the channel is really growing❤️❤️

[@Tata-bd9nx]

Can a family member be in your inner circle?..Wueh..coz mi these friends have shown me things..I think my siz is the one who will always have my best interest at heart,and maybe 2 other friends...Those 25 Ben is talking about,i might invite them to functions,hang out from time to time but..its mostly for fun times,and what they can do for you,or you for them.

[@clarahsarah1275]

I love this podcast ive been too attentive on it, learnt much like making sure you are happy in the friendship, knowing what type of friend you are ......was awesome

[@mulishdavy]

Tufike 15 episodes ndo tufunge season. 😎🌛🌄

[@furahathestar]

Wooow..I learnt quite alot🔥🔥 From Ben- celebrate your friends success From Wanjiru..Self evaluation From Nyawira..know where to tie the knot

[@kingorikinnz9339]

I've never resonated with a talk like the way I have with this one. Insights tupu #Cycosquad

[@kevinkkirimii]

13:30 eclectic is the word.

[@clairengugi]

this really put into perspective we have different levels of friendship, plus i learnt about boundaries.

[@BenCyco]

I'm still learning....

[@tatyanacheredi]

On the issue of best friendship I think 2% of those friendships are real and very respectful. Personally I've been friends with my male best friend and it has never interfered with his relationship which is 2yrs in

[@alicekingori90]

I have been waiting for this.. we all can agree that friendships hutuchanganya mara mob.. from betrayals to manipulation, disappointment, wueh !!! Thankyou Ben ,Nyawira and Wanjiru because I need to rethink my friendships urgently!!!!

[@doreenk.arinawe]

very nice conversations guys...hilarious too

[@BenCyco]

Karibu Sana 🙏

[@rembotrish7383]

So true Ben we are surrounded by emptiness and maybe we dont know......nice conversation there.....what i've learnt so far is to confront my friends.....koz najua apo pana shida sana....

[@marjorievuyiswa9559]

Yaani na hizi miaka zangu zote.... I have put my employment on pause ni watch cyco podcast!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@gracekinoti]

The love I have for this podcast is unmeasurable ❤❤Loving the gang gang, Team Wanjiru,Nyawira and Ben👌🏽 Nyawira with some strong points,eish

[@TheKimieD]

I thank the 3 of you for always inspiring me to push on with my goals. Watching you all thrive, engaging in these awesome topics while laughing is a blessing. God bless you all. ♥ ♥ ♥

[@BenCyco]

Asante Bro 🙏

[@Jacie_matic.]

This gal nyawira is very intelligent

[@marymaina590]

Weee Ben! I like you guys a lot. More Embu names for your referral; Nyaga, Mbogo, Njogu, Njoka, like that like that.