Body Language Expert Explains How to Show Confidence | WIRED

Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro explains how we can project confidence through our body language. Joe takes a look at various celebrities and politicians and demonstrates the things that they do that can help them appear more confident.
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[@RomanZolanski123]

Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

[@inorite4553]

It's also, "...........There were other people here????"

[@donalgrump69yrsago9]

@@inorite4553 that’s ignorance

[@AB-nb2ic]

I'll move "okay" over to IDGAF

[@-1.2.5.6.3]

Also if you expect confidence your weak

[@coffeejack7458]

Pingu Nootson@ Thats not good wtf lol, by saying that you can excuse a lot of your own behavior, that is not "good confidence". This is something a spiteful person would say when they sit and dwell on negative experiences. Check yourself.

[@theitalianstallion973]

“a confident person takes their time to leave or enter a room” Me: arrives at school 50 minutes late to show my confidence

[@debashreekonwar061]

😂😂

[@larke11]

Lmao 💀

[@nyankanakitty]

Now you may get kicked out school with confidence.

[@sef2533]

😂

[@tradingscape8910]

Ayy possibly true, as you enter, you will get the entire class attention.

[@Sisterlisk]

I think "fake it till you make it" is really important when it comes to confidence. You need to practice it in order for it to start coming naturally. Appearing confident, even when you don't feel confident, I believe, can prevent confrontation or becoming a victim (in some circumstances).

[@michaelfairbairn4283]

As a performer, I can vouch for this! First you have to learn how to LOOK confident onstage, and then with time and experience, you gradually develop true confidence.

[@raillopucci9428]

mf using that to post only fans content

[@467076]

There’s a good book describing this called, “The Confident Gap,” you can’t be confident in something you’re not regularly doing it. Just like you can’t be confident in a certain subject since you don’t regularly practice it. Whereas an expert will be supremely confident since that’s his life.

[@abijahdixon2771]

I'd say yes it's a mix of all of those, meaning it would depends on how well you eventually carry yourself. I can improve, and have confidence in myself in many areas, but I will no doubtly have social anxiety all my life. There are some things that you really can't hide though, that points a giant arrow at others that you are different or not "normal"...so some people will be be more targeted no matter what they do...but I still think it's a good idea to learn these things and one can always improve for sure!

[@ChaseSandman]

As a member of a minority group, I can confirm this!

[@preciousmousse]

He's right. I've always loved studying the gestures and language of appealing characters and I come across as confident most of the times, to the point where people are surprised when I tell them I have anxieties and various inner struggles like we all do. It's not about feeling perfect, it's about knowing you deserve to be where you're at and accepting that you might feel uncomfortable at times.

[@bhavii]

Can u tell some particular things that u do, please?

[@ashley8373]

@@bhavii find a confident person that you admire and practise acting out their body language daily.

[@Carltonwanks]

It's all meaningless nonsense really, some people Will always be miserable And hate u no matter how positive and confident u Are

[@bhavii]

@@Carltonwanks I miserably hate you bro🤧

[@Carltonwanks]

@@bhavii eat some lovely beefburgers Gandhi, after that have beef curry,then cry

[@januaryeliot6958]

"confidence can be very quiet" - finally someone said it, thank you!

[@relisbetrel]

💯

[@christiantava442]

confidence is quiet, the loudest in the room is the weakest

[@BirdTurdMemes]

@@christiantava442 Sometimes, not always, not necessarily most of the time either. I'd say Trump is consistently he loudest in the room, and his confidence knows no bounds lol

[@BygoneT]

Yes, it can be quiet. But it really isn't usually. Quiet confidence is infinitely less annoying.

[@leonnguyen4599]

@@christiantava442 it can be quiet, it can also be loud.

[@QuestionsIAskMyself]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@dakoreandude]

Keep it up!

[@jcdenton4435]

"Lmao I don't even get compliments just get looked at because my bro tells me that I look to intimidating and angry but I swear that I'm a kind respectful individual just don't take my kindness as any sort of weakness"

[@crustydinglecherry3451]

She were being sarcastic

[@Ash-of1yl]

@@crustydinglecherry3451 Oh yeah be the cynical person you are and doubt everything anyone says pathetic

[@crustydinglecherry3451]

@@Ash-of1yl yea right !

[@user-qp2oz1jt4b]

I became more confident when I accepted the idea that I have no control over other peoples thinking and realizing that it is not worth my time and energy to worry about. The things that people say, whether it is about you or anything else, says more about themselves. When someone speaks they showcase and represent themselves for everyone to hear and see. How you respond or choose to say will also say a lot about you, more than the person you are saying it to or about.

[@tamirajohnellestyle]

Well said.

[@krg038]

True. People spend too much time on people convincing someone of something when they don't care about you. Its a waste of energy. You soon realize those type of people and its best to move on.

[@andrianaa846]

I am a positive person in life, but I don’t have the confidence to face some things and I dont ☹️have complete confidence

[@MacMichael267]

I am a teacher and as much as I love my job working with inner-city highschool children I have come to a similar conclusion.

[@theshadow3103]

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. People are comfortable around confident people but they inwardly despise arrogance. Be confident!

[@Breathingmind1]

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

[@KimberlyGreen]

Public speaking technique: _shrink_ your audience scale. Pick 3 people in different parts of the audience. Talk just towards them. Not necessarily directly at them, but look in their general area, gliding back and forth between them. It's much easier to talk to 3 people than, 10, 100, 1000 or greater. It will bring down your anxiety and raise your confidence.

[@psychobillynumbnuts1]

I get nervous just to talk to three people 😭

[@KimberlyGreen]

@@psychobillynumbnuts1 Don't talk directly to the three people you pick. Pick the space _between them_ and the person beside them to "talk to". To the audience, it appears that you're talking to someone, but you're just talking to empty space. That way, you aren't looking directly into anyone's eyes and won't get self-conscious or nervous. Later, as you get more confident in your speaking abilities, you can start looking at people if you feel comfortable.

[@sailaab]

Well put. Good pointers👍🏼 Thank you for the same

[@oliviapos3397]

Thank you!!!

[@cesarbernal4765]

Raise your confidence with tricks.. I don't think that's how you develop yourself.

[@gabriellesnow_ui]

Knowing that 2.7 million people just learned how to say “no” correctly is amazing

[@andrea-th5sg]

👀

[@rv706]

That works only for police officers though

[@analugb]

I have just realized that the only reason I know how to say “no” properly is because I have a dog 🤭

[@vibhoranand1171]

No🖖

[@ramimaalouf]

3.2 million now

[@blessing168]

Thank you for this great video. My key takeaways are: 1. Show that you are in command and in control. For example, make eye contacts with others. Talk to convey your message instead of convincing others by saying the same thing in different ways or over-explaining yourself. Take your time to say it and answer the questions. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own the space 2. Ask yourself how you want to be perceived and what should you do to make it happen. Imitate someone who you think is confident 2. You can build and nurture your confidence. Practice. Practice. Practice

[@slimelove3493]

I like #1. Show that you are in command and in control. Convey don’t convince and over explain. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own your space.

[@bhba2011]

1:00 traits of confident people 3:10 modeling confidence 4:48 behaviors 5:39 intonation 7:33 cadence 9:26 nonverbals 11:32 public speaking 13:10 conclusion

[@himurogentoku7117]

Thank you for the timestamp.

[@bhba2011]

@@himurogentoku7117 ♡

[@NotWoLG]

Teacher: You should be confident Student: *Confidently answers the wrong answer* Teacher: **Humiliates the student** Student: - 9000Confidence

[@iheartjbgccb]

"There are no dumb questions" The next kid immediately asks dumb question n gets unnecessary feedback

[@kingofallworlds]

Then you weren't confident enough (or at least more than the teacher). I've answered questions so confidently before that I made them doubt their actual correct answer. Being right is half the battle. Convincing others is the other.

[@keirfarnum6811]

“Confidentially” or “confidently?”

[@Ash-of1yl]

Well dude dont blame the teacher, I dee hentai in your profile picture so I assume you watch pornography frequently and just know it kills your confidence and self esteem

[@leamubiu]

Confidently answer back "Thank you professor, you just taught me a lot about the kind of teacher you are: the one who kicks down those students who need your help the most."

[@twinkletoes800]

Confidence comes when you have a deep knowing that you are of value and worthy to be on this earth and worthy of respect and being listened to.

[@starfire2863]

💯 bro

[@laila-mx8wk]

or when you see you are nothing like everyone other

[@Aevans786]

💝

[@lamelo3998]

how should you respond if someone doesnt treat you with the value and respect you think you deserve? Genuine question

[@Suleymanakaalp4787]

@@lamelo3998 you gotta be distance and make less eye contact to make the person feel that he's not interested in me,period

[@VaraLaFey]

Anyone who has seen an infant stare at someone unselfconsciously, or do almost anything that infants and pre-toddlers do, will understand that we are indeed born confident. I think fear and inhibition are learned, and later have to be un-learned if we are to regain our initial confidence now that we have an intellectual understanding of it.

[@paolamura3497]

You are so right!

[@dubsdynasty2023]

Trauma 101

[@avashar]

Curiosity isnt same as confidence.

[@VaraLaFey]

@@avashar Right. But infants are confidently curious. They don't shoe-gaze their way through their early lives. While they don't have any understanding of confidence per se, they also don't seem to have a lot of self-doubt. And when you proceed through life without self-doubt, that's confidence. I'm really not sure how self-doubt gets into the mix, but now I wonder if it happens about when we start making permanent memories.

[@JoyfulUniter]

@@avashar It's pretty similar when you think about it actually. Confidence is connected to positive traits, wisdom, intelligence, love, power, charisma, etc etc, not gonna sort through all the positive traits to check lol but i can't think of one that isn't involving confidence.

[@zazu3006]

my mother thought me a lot about body language, she just figured it out being a Volleyball Trainer. about public speaking, she said: stand there a sec, then start with a quiet tone, people instinctively try to hear and will pay more attention, then a joke. i used to be confident, then had panic attacks and anxiety attacks.. while my job was to meet new people and be confident, funny and all. i would go to the toilet before, and stand in a cubicle with legs apart, hands of hips, chest up, slow stomach breathing. so confident body language practice to get your body to feel powerful. it helped soooo much!

[@rihannasahib06]

That reminds of grey's anatomy, that's what Amelia Shepard would do before a surgery

[@soniag4516]

Thought or taught?

[@Breathingmind1]

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

[@teressae.3775]

I cant wait to use this for all the public speaking and confrontation I won't be doing!

[@jonbar2027]

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[@h3009]

Lol yeah 😂

[@DoubleplusUngoodthinkful]

Just put full length mirrors in every room of your house.

[@puddincup9879]

Love this!

[@drawmss11]

😂😂

[@ipettynote]

My social anxiety levels already went through the roof. **Goes to bed with confidence**

[@Frosxz]

*Sleeps with confidence"

[@ausafkhan7757]

😄

[@srrs007]

@@ausafkhan7757 emojigayyy

[@AnveshaPlayZ]

@@Frosxz *Dreams with confidence*

[@achiniwickramarathne5237]

.

[@deenice8549]

Teaching your kids how to properly say “No” isn’t talked about enough. Thanks for mentioning it.

[@shresthaditya9731]

1:33-Less Confident we are less Eye contact we make and we are reluctant to look around 3:33- 4:18-4:47 4:55- 5:38- 7:33-Cadence 10:56-Smooth Movements convey more confident 11:54- 12:12-

[@NidishHurree]

Thx for this

[@Breathingmind1]

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

[@izzamga]

Not being intimidated by others can make you confident. No matter what your status in life is, we're all just humans.

[@yummypasta92]

Also knowing that other people's judgement and harsh comments are a result of their own fear (for survival on the most general sense) and not an objective reflection of you

[@priscille1577]

@Mtra.der Word

[@christineagnew7372]

precisely! I couldn't agree more!!

[@jcald111]

Truth. Martial arts and boxing can help with this. If you can square off to someone and hold your own, the average person out there doesn't seem very scary.

[@BrownGirl444]

@@yummypasta92 spot on .

[@BELPHECROW]

need me this after our years of quarantine so i can have a humanlike posture as opposed to the semi-pterodactyl stance i've developed as a result of solitude

[@starcrib]

Yuck. 🦖

[@Roxy-bq1ku]

😂😂😂

[@angelakorodi5795]

Same 😢

[@jonbar2027]

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[@itspowers9107]

@@vincehenriquez680 Try learning what a joke is

[@ZulcanPrime]

Confidence is projected when you have genuine self-esteem.

[@solaveritas2]

I had an epiphany after having to do some presentations and being very nervous about it. When I mentioned it to my supervisor afterwards, she was surprised, she and others told me they couldn't tell that I was nervous. Body language is everything. Learn to move in a confident manner and you will come across as confident. Then others will respond positively to you and it will make you actually more confident. There's a positive feedback loop here.

[@Breathingmind1]

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

[@lisztdylan7846]

Working as a teacher, having good body language and tone to project confidence is super important. It can be the difference between a class that mocks you and one that respects you.

[@TheDaniela3112]

I'm here for that very reason. I'm a young teacher who just got her first real job. I'm going to be teaching at a school of 300 students, starting in February. I'm doing a lot of studying to prepare as I'd never had such a large scale experience with teaching.

[@TheDaniela3112]

@bubbles bunny thank you for such a nice message! I'm sure it will 🤞🏼

[@palatusgames8800]

@ARC Commander CT-420 🤡

[@davidkottman3440]

Begin kinda strict & you can loosen up over time, but if you start too casual it becomes nearly impossible to regain the control of the room... Good luck it is a great thing to teach & shape the next generation & a couple more through the lives of the students you influence!

[@starvision8742]

@ARC Commander CT-420 😧

[@icantrideslow]

Finally a video that does not just focus on posture, intonation, gestures, etc but emphasises the importance of KNOWING the subject you're talking about.

[@henrlima87]

Arguably the most important factor in attaining self confidence

[@jarenong]

Being rich, tall and good looking helps too

[@kenich2611]

@@jarenong no, more like 50-50, True self confidence comes your perception of yourself. If you base it on something that is not eternal and innate, or something temporary like money, looks, aesthetics. People who know their abilities generate wealth are confident not those who somehow got rich, it's a delusion or cockiness not self confidence, you really need to have ablities and skills to back your self confidence not looks.

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@vishwarao6064]

1Kth

[@mariamish8988]

Confidence should not be equated to arrogance. Shyness should not be equated to humility. 🙂

[@_Gandalf_The_White]

Convey don't convince is the best advice ever. Truly powerful stuff. I like how you admitted that you still get nervous, it's only human and only when we are scared can we be brave. :D

[@spencerwinston4334]

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

[@Breathingmind1]

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

[@ashengrotto]

@@Breathingmind1thank you 🥹❤️

[@nothing8703]

"I'm here to convey , I'm not here to convince". That's the spirit , man.. I need this miracle in my life.

[@Ouchiness]

Only a white man can have that attitude.

[@monkiram]

Preparing for an interview tomorrow. I keep repeating myself every time I practice 😬

[@nigmonster]

@@Ouchiness what do white men have to do with anything in the comment??

[@Ouchiness]

@@nigmonster the guy talking is a white man. Marginalized ppl aren’t always in a position where they have everything they need and can walk away when people disagree with them like if a disabled person is not getting accommodations at university or POC are in a position of being affected by systematic racism. They need to convey but also convince. Being able to agree to disagree is a luxury sometimes.

[@nigmonster]

@@Ouchiness aren't those niche scenarios? Most people don't have problems like that. Also why are u so angry?

[@castawayonthemoon]

Being humble but with confidence is what we should have. Not being narcissistic like the society nowadays.

[@chasehedges6775]

👍👍👍👍👍👍. So true

[@ariesrule2001]

Absolutely

[@QuestionsIAskMyself]

Can you elaborate? What do you mean by being narcissistic like in society nowadays?

[@theodorg.5293]

@@QuestionsIAskMyself What is to be elaborated here? We live in a society in which we love ourselves too much and do not think of others.

[@scotttripp2137]

@@QuestionsIAskMyself kanye west

[@menumlor9432]

Thank you for breaking this down. Many other KZbinrs explains what to do but so few of them can actually explain and demonstrate what is confidence.

[@Breathingmind1]

To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟

[@godfredissaka8352]

Amen!!

[@barcodereader]

- Feeling comfortable and looking around the room indicates confidence. - Confidence is demonstrated through posture, gestures, and eye contact. - Confidence can be quiet and commanding, like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell. - Confidence is also about controlling time and speaking at your own pace. - Modeling high-status individuals and their behaviors can help build confidence. - The way we speak, including cadence and pauses, affects how confident we appear. - Confidence is not just about posture but also about conveying information

[@Ad_Astra2023]

As a woman, choosing makeup, hair and outfits appropriately hugely impacts my confidence. When I’m at my lowest, I can’t even make an eye contact, but at my best, my spine straightens up itself.

[@anuranjana5927]

well I can relate.

[@bhuvaneshwarij1326]

True

[@LuxuryBeatsMusic]

too bad it's a facade we can see through ^_^

[@timmolloy7574]

Do you want a medal?

[@user-ww9ch]

I think that's superficial confident

[@ezlivingmdsoulphysician]

Children are born confident, they lose it due to whatever their environment nurtures. I agree with everything else... Nice talk!

[@tuomasseppanen1651]

children are also born self-centered and narcissistic, coincidence? i think not

[@MrRinre]

That's not called confidence 🤦‍♂️ children are born ignorant and naive. Learn what is confidence first before making wild assumptions...

[@ameliaa5396]

I disagree. Children are not born confident and today's children are not raised to be confident. The "Me" generation. The participation trophy generation. They have no coping skills, and melt down at the slightest disappointment.

[@ezlivingmdsoulphysician]

Hmmmm... nice inputs, I see everyone's viewpoints clearly. Thank you all for sharing💗😇🙏🏾

[@ezlivingmdsoulphysician]

@@tuomasseppanen1651 I see, I understand your point. Thanks for sharing🙏🏾

[@elizabethjackson3176]

Confidence is being beautiful on the inside and being a truly kind person. Your body language and waving to the people is just a Display!! Boom 💥

[@cheeseplease2832]

When I started acting confident in class, changing my posture, tone, and look, my classrooms became disciplined. My students literally started respecting me more and respecting the rules. My supervisor told me that your problem with classroom management was because of how low self-confident you would be in class.

[@mohammedjunaid4643]

"I am here to convey. Not to convince" felt so powerful.

[@Star-rq3jd]

Like when we ask for a leave of absence.

[@nicolenicole319]

I do this now and my stress in speaking is much lowered .. and people react better towards me .. 😀😀

[@eddy4576]

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[@suskoiladygaga5436]

I know exactly what you meant brother 😉 ✌ Happy New Year 1444

[@raillopucci9428]

Alaho akbaar ! Boom !

[@Brian-rs4ug]

One key to developing confidence, is getting to a point in your life that you don’t care what others think of you. Not in arrogance, but you realize that no man is to be the judge and jury of how you feel about yourself.

[@calista910]

How do we feel that way I’m constantly worrying about it it is ruining my life

[@spencerwinston4334]

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

[@SpookiDoki]

You're not wrong but that's called aging. Practicing gets you there faster and saves you years or decades of being people's doormat

[@RPAS1234]

I love coming across confident people, dismantling their internal mental pillars of power, destroying their physical resources of power and then systematically crushing their psychological construct, so that they are left with the same mental outcomes of Justin Longs character out of the body horror movie Tusk. I then go to church on Sunday and help out on the charity stall.

[@ilae.williams1899]

@@RPAS1234 ...ah! Sadistic! Narcissistic!💣💥💣💥💣💥💣💥💥💥💥💥💥Boom! There it is!!!!!!

[@Freya-bs5tx]

Im extremely shy and not self confident at all, but when i walk i do it like i own the world, dress neatly and appropriately, force myself to talk and look people in the eye. I always get mistaken for the supervisor or owners. In otherwords how you present yourselves is how you're treated.

[@samuelhorowitz2812]

I think it starts with .. being comfortable in your own skin with yourself. I try to treat everyone like they are a family member. Being honest to the point first .. eye contact with a smile. Speaking clearly and with the right tone for the right situations. It's so many things it would take all day explaining it. Everyone recognizes who is and who isn't. Try mirror the ones you have came across. Like he has said video yourself and try it in the mirror. He is right..

[@delivia3474]

Confidence in the way one walks is actually very admirable and attractive. One of my classmates always carries herself with certainty and elegance, so natural and smooth, no awkwardness or hesitation in her gestures. It speaks a lot about her well balanced personality and ability to socialise in different environments. Quite impressive in my opinion:)

[@priscille1577]

It's so beautiful how you described her. Your observational skills are astute and keen. It was so vivid in my mind what you described. You're a great story teller :)

[@user-ur2yf5pn4d]

I agree ^

[@authentic_voice]

How nice of you to put it this way. Some might take that confidence repulsive and others would desire that caliber ruined. Impressed by the way you see the world around you.

[@s.j.drakes3247]

So eloquently outlined.

[@marcdumont2275]

You should tell her that, she'd probably love it

[@jessica5497]

Cate Blanchett is indeed a very good example. She has this quiet confidence, she's articulated but not loud, so when she speaks everyone listens.

[@bennyton2560]

She's the queen

[@queenbee7074]

And being gorgeous helps her a lot too

[@bebebonni1602]

And yet she’s Australian, the most avid users of uptalk 😂

[@raphaelhalfon7247]

NO,NO,NO, END NO!

[@rokyericksonroks]

The king is gone, but he’s not forgotten. This is the story of Johnny Rotten.

[@inojmusic]

I am not here to convince I am here to convey! That line got me and really resonated with me. Thank you this is an excellent video.

[@EnnaSnow]

when he said...now go on and teach your children that...OOOF

[@clauhsb]

It made me cry, I remembered things 😔

[@mironricardo]

The cadence part got to me. I talk so fast I trip myself repeatedly.

[@lemiphil2388]

me too 😓😢

[@DavidAguileraMoncusi]

Well.... You didn't know. ... Now you do.

[@mariohumbertomorfinmarin5173]

Me tooo.

[@lalamagbuhat2162]

Same here. For me, my mind is already far in the next bits of the statement (esp if it's an interesting story im saying) and my mouth is trying to keep up, so my words trip. True story.

[@hepcatliz]

Yup, my brain goes so fast my mouth can never keep up 🤣🤣🤣

[@coltonstogner4363]

an arrogant man thinks he’s better than others a confident man doesn’t compare himself to anyone

[@JustEndah]

💯❤❤

[@Ouchiness]

This man is arrogant lol he keeps comparing himself to the people around him, checking his gestures and trying to teach himself to do better. Really don’t like him.

[@alejandrafuentes1316]

An insecure person thinks they're better than everyone

[@michelleptybcn]

Yes! And the same happens with women ❤️

[@english5666]

I'm a confident man

[@hellothere5330]

Facts. It’s also a mindset thing. If u respect yourself to the fullest that energy shines outward on other people, u get a different hand dealt with in life👊🏻

[@wildewildestrawberries]

I was born confident and as a little girl I was constantly scolded for being too bold or outspoken. Now I own it again and found joy in life like when I was true to myself.

[@soshego877]

🙏🏻🧸

[@edgoodwin4389]

You’re confusing confidence of entitlement.

[@304enjoyer3]

nope you're just plain rude and lack awareness.

[@luweezla]

I was harshly disciplined for being a powerful and confident child. It’s taken me 50 years and the death of my disciplinary mother passing before I felt free to be me again.

[@wildewildestrawberries]

@@luweezla it's taken me many years to out learn the limits others tried to impose on me, which I finally understood was merely their beliefs, fears and insecurities. It never had anything to do with me but abuse and social conditioning tries to tell you it does. I'm fully there, the pandemic helped me free myself and the free fun inner child that just went silence but was always waiting for me. I'm so pleased others like you are freeing yourselves, we're becoming a wild bunch ❤️. Stay blessed.

[@angelface333]

my notes: 1. use cadence 2. confidence is about being comfortable but controlled 3. broad graceful smooth movements (less abrupt reactive movements) 4. convey NOT convince (say it once) 5. spaces force people to anticipate what you’re saying next 6. typical “soldier posture” doesn’t equal confidence (comfort) 7. decisiveness is imperative 8. “the person in charge controls time” no need to speed up for anyone or anything 9. self grooming (self soothing) behaviors look less confident (bc why are you soothing urself rn if you’re confident) 10. if you’re scared, own it (say it) instead of trying to not be “found out” (literally worsens social anxiety) 11. rehearse performance so it’s not sudden/new/scary when you first do it (more control) 12. gain full confidence (breathe, etc) before facing the crowd 13. PEOPLE ARENT BORN CONFIDENT 14. KNOW your info/skills have something to be proud of and have the info to anchor and ground yourself in (so you won’t be unsure or face imposter syndrome) 15. look around and make eye contact (keep eyes at about eye level)

[@trexcut6603]

Ty ❤️

[@1er1s]

I have to use myself 😍

[@Mari-bl4lh]

Hey! I didnt understand the 9 note, he says about it in the video? (I finished rn the video, but maybe I didn't saw it)

[@g0d5m15t4k3]

Many thanks for the numbered list! I love when others do this and try to do so myself if someone else hasn't already. A true hero.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

I definitely have #8 down 😂

[@ksjs8893]

i always let people know that giving a speech or presentation is nothing more than informatiion sharing or teaching others what u know. it makes me feel useful n gets me into that "cant wait to educate others" mood so nothing to fear

[@MB20fangirl]

What an incredible teacher! I’ve learned more in this video then I’ve learned in all the time I’ve surfed the internet. Amazing!

[@iwthswlosl]

This man talks so much sense has helped me a lot with my own feelings of inferiority.

[@dustingSoda]

true

[@MrMate8869]

False

[@dustingSoda]

@@MrMate8869 for me it's true xd

[@menassies3224]

Don’t say that you shouldn’t feel inferior it’s weird because I think I’m better than everyone maybe just try to think you are better than everyone

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@killerqueen7489]

I feel like I just paid for a master class, wow

[@kakarotwolf]

You should read his books, or listen to them, they go into so much more depth. You'd love them, he teaches you A LOT.

[@killerqueen7489]

@@kakarotwolf thank you so much

[@I-VisiBomb-I]

but 'chu didn't!

[@buddyrevell511]

Weird...I saw the video for free.

[@georgegakere8283]

Yeah a whole course in 14 mins

[@straightdrive6192]

There are 2 things , one being genuinely confident inside , and second how one shows to outside world their confidence thru body language . Personal opinion fake confidence or presenting to show something you are not will eventually reveal itself . Try first be confident on the inside then show it off . TIP - improve your knowledge or skill needed to show the confidence .

[@shRajanB]

What do you mean “fake confidence “ 😂😂😂. Courage - like my “Thalaivar said “ is how well one learns to hide fear. So it’s all an act to start with my friend 😊

[@Lucifer-sq7nq]

I had ur book in my collection of audiobooks and watched ur videos without knowing that you are the writer till i noticed it in ur background,i think i just naturally gravitate towards ur teachings

[@decarlocalloway01]

The key to confidence is having everything you need. You don’t have to pander to anyone or be concerned with anyone’s opinion. Successful people move differently. Watch closely.

[@ms.d5195]

I'd add that prior to the "having", comes the "getting". When you set goals and achieve them, it builds confidence. It's not so much the having as the knowing that you can achieve. The having is just evidence of the belief.

[@adiem1653]

Yep agree with the original comment - born with 'good looks' almost immediately gives you confidence and an added ability to get success!

[@maryokeefe5351]

@@adiem1653 Yes and there is a lot that every person can do to make themselves look attractive, e.g. good posture, clean and neat appearance, well-fitting clothing, a confident walk, etc. All those things add to our confidence, even if we are not the most beautiful person naturally.

[@sumbae7668]

To me confidence means being happy with who you are. Having that inner peace with the person you are.

[@JCX-9]

I agree. People who are comfortable with themselves make others feel comfortable. I don’t believe in this learned confidence it’s just fake. Saying an actor displays confidence could just mean they are good at acting out confidence.

[@swampgumpharpy7977]

Confidence is not thinking about yourself too much, other than occasionally considering the person you're becoming. Thinking about how happy you are with yourself is a stunting proposition.

[@LocalHolehead]

@@swampgumpharpy7977 Well now you're just turning happiness into an equation.

[@Breathingmind1]

May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏

[@human7491]

That's self-esteem, much more important and powerful than "looking" and "acting" confident

[@rinze8940]

I have an interview tomorrow and that's why I am watching this today. Already feeling confident.

[@papediop9510]

This is honestly the most important video I've watched in the last 5 years

[@MaksimmmTheGreat]

confidence can look a billion different ways. really comes down to being comfortable with yourself and having confidence in your whole self mentally and physically, not just mimicking the actions of someone with confidence.

[@Jacqueline-qd5wi]

100%

[@saishashankk]

The most awkward behaving people sometimes can be commanding and interesting. While what the video says does apply to a broad category of confident people, those aren't the only characteristics of confidence.

[@soumayabnz3249]

fake it til you make it

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@biscuiteater6888]

@@soumayabnz3249 Never ever do that , when you fake it , you're not being yourself or true to yourself, the issue need to be fixed deep within the roots Eg:- changes in perspective.

[@mikebaker6418]

I remember my communications class back when I was in college, and I was horrible at public speaking. It wasn't until I learned the art of the pause and mastering my cadence that I truly began to gain the confidence to speak with a purpose and it changed my life.

[@Ashley-og9ti]

Tell me more!! 👀

[@bookgal6331]

can you tell me more about your major and why you have to do public speaking?

[@beactivebehappy9894]

I know that this is a serious comment written by an actual person but the appeal looks funnily similar to the bot comments related to criptoe (knowingly writing wrong spelling so it doesn’t alert the bots) under some related videos. KZbin really need to do something for these bots

[@aylaha.5216]

Tips!

[@abdullahwaqar7859]

Woo man! That is the most to the point and one of the best videos I have ever watched. It just feels authentic and good.

[@Jeff-un7vw]

Knowing your topic is the best advice

[@evac.7762]

I think that it all boils down to this one thing he said at the end: Know your material. REALLY know it. When you're very good at something-anything- and you know it, you're confident in showing someone, talking about it or presenting it to a room of people. Know your stuff.

[@304enjoyer3]

ye just don't confuse confidence with arrogance when you are more knowledgeable than others

[@girlywench]

First year of my apprenticeship, the grizzly old head chef said to me "fake it til you make it" Best advice I've ever been given.

[@cutiepiebb]

Best advice ever? That's like the most cliche advice ever lol

[@benread5012]

@@cutiepiebb well I feel all of these cliché sayings and quotes are cliché for a reason. It isn’t until you either deep the quote or end up in a situation where the advice becomes useful that you can fully appreciate what it means.

[@cameronjones9092]

Really the only advice anyone ever gave me growing up.

[@065Tim]

And, of course, show cleavage in profile pics.

[@yeanoshiit6272]

@@065Tim and of course you need to comment about it

[@Voncid]

I took public speaking in college and the things you mention in the video were the same thing that were stressed in the classes. It was a very interesting class with a talk to do each week.

[@lesroberts3226]

I always look into the eyes of the person I’m talking to and smile. It’s so interesting to see how people react. Alternatively, when people do the same thing to me it’s a little uncomfortable. We’re all susceptible to manipulation whichever form it takes.

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@andrewgutierrez668]

Confidence is not a show, because it does not depend on other people’s opinions. So many people fake confidence, but it’s soon exposed as a flimsy facade. True confidence is earned in battles of discomfort, which results in the ability to deal with any situation that’s within your capabilities.

[@moonraker6445]

"Fake it til you make it"

[@MinPinSteve]

Beautifully said.

[@kjh4496]

When you know who you are, confidence becomes natural.

[@austinewanga]

Calls for self-awareness. Great piece here. Thank you for putting this together.

[@regorwi]

Really great information. I use these examples to show my elementary students how to become more confident and then how to show it! It is amazing to see how many children are not confident even if they are a top student!

[@angelamaryquitecontrary4609]

I wish I had had a teacher like you.

[@AA-sf4xd]

Honestly I feel like confidence comes naturally when you care about something so much that you are no longer sensitive to how people see you and how you appear in front of others. Like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell - I'm a person that has a mission that's important to me, plus huge experience and knowledge that built me, and I'm proud, and what the world thinks is not my concern.

[@endelliong3369]

wow based

[@clootscalhoun9481]

Well said

[@America12412]

Amen!

[@fundifferent1]

Yes, this makes sense. Rather insecurity (the opposite of confidence) is being unsure and uncomfortable with where you are and feeling like you don't belong there. When you want to be there and feel like you belong there you are more confident.

[@soniag4516]

Agree. I care less who thinks what of me. I have my God- given assignments and go about fulfilling and that's all that matters, so long as I go about it morally and ethically.

[@jimmyhuesandthehouserocker1069]

Confidence is really relaxation, and being relaxed in a given situation. Keep in mind how some people who appear confident, can be hucksters and liars and also think they're better than everyone else. Don't automatically believe, confident people always tell the truth. If you want to see the master of body language and personal confidence, watch the old reruns of Perry Mason

[@alexb.california3933]

This right here I agree with.

[@tosharsaini2962]

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[@NiaPD]

Thank you for writing this. I struggle to understand the point of confidence if it is to be used to hoodwink others to cover one's own inanity or incompetence. But confidence should be for one's own sake and not for others as you mentioned.

[@SusiFroggyPorter]

Seems we've learned that truth especially in the past 5 years. It's exhausting.

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@lesroberts3226]

I’m so grateful for the comments you have made. I have a nine year old grandson who is trying to deal with adhd ( without realising) Your words have given a different perspective on this subject for my wife and I. Thank you so much ❤

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@rukayatolaidealiu3749]

I've watched a lot of videos on confidence and i can confidently say, this is one of the masterpieces.

[@HA-ot6uf]

A former FBI Agent T-posing for 14 minutes and 16 seconds isn't something I expected to see today. Truly inspirational.

[@kevinsundelin8639]

What?

[@therealhellkitty5388]

Read his books, they’re excellent.

[@monroehehe]

@@therealhellkitty5388 what's name? Thanks

[@arnabchakraborty2593]

@@monroehehe what every body is saying The dictionary of body language

[@coolgirlzinuwu1615]

they got us with the taylor thumbnail ✊🏼

[@marammaaroufi6093]

They sure did

[@ATWTMVTVFTVSGAVRALPS]

True lol

[@taylorloverswift5088]

Yepp

[@kamallb4650]

👀

[@Edrntss]

Lol yes

[@WaningGibbous]

"I'm here to convey, not to convince" .... wise words.

[@niaz.shovon]

"know ur materials..." to me that's the real fuel to generate confidence.

[@TubeSomeYou]

A good way to be confident is to simply know wth you are talking about. If you are insecure in the subject matter, then it will convey to your speech and demeanour.

[@nguyenmanh2101]

Not necessarily true, i sale enough bullcrap to know if you confidence enough you can talk about anything.

[@MsSphinx91]

I'm pretty sure the best bullshitters are the most confident people you'll ever meet.

[@prozac5314]

@@MsSphinx91 because they are experts in speech, not the subject they are talking about. That gives them the confidence.

[@quitemundane]

For someone usually timid, anxious and can’t keep eye contact when speaking to someone, this video has taught me that confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard. I truly wish this video was created and came across it during my formative years. I lacked confidence when I was in elementary and high school, and unfortunately, in college too. I would have been a confident student then and would have performed better.

[@ishtarcephei5054]

Would it help you to imagine the quantum world and that what you see as a person is nothing more than a neatly distributed association of molecules that at the very minute scale actually has a lot of empty spaces in there? Definitely better than that old idea of imagine the room empty.

[@TryABaconSlice]

@@ishtarcephei5054 that's the autismo extremeo solution

[@sarahpedeal]

"confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard.". You've got the essential idea!

[@24lisabeth]

You can have knowledge even be scholarly and it doesn’t confer confidence although it should. Lots of other issues around conveying confidence.

[@TerrilynndeGuitar]

If you are in San Francisco I recommend Omar Kudsi at CCSF and Sfsu!

[@boyznthewoodz770]

My issue with eye contact is that it doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but I worry that I’m making the other person uncomfortable

[@thewise2443]

this was awesome, thankyou !

[@SquirtMac17]

I feel most confident In public when I feel I look my best. Sometimes we cannot control the way we look so do YOUR best and feel comfortable in YOUR skin. Also when you have a good team of people around you (i.e friends) it’s a lot easier to feel mor comfortable, more CONFIDENT.

[@pondering-princess]

Absolutely. I became more confident after I started hitting gym, watching my diet and just dressing good. I felt good and my social anxiety has dropped so much.

[@fawziefuxia]

SAME. which is why I continue to put on my lipstick when I go out even though I wear a mask all the time lolol

[@PiyaChoudhari]

People should be smart enough to understand and listen to you you can't be confident amongst idiots you can only be irritated

[@Arch55567]

@@PiyaChoudhari But he said, "explain ones, and then whatever..."

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@carbonfootprint3635]

The presenter here delivers his knowledge succinctly. He IS the example of what he is teaching. Thank you for a concise, no extraneous lesson. It is has been immensely helpful.

[@Breathingmind1]

May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏

[@elgin6772]

Exactly

[@FortuneForecasts]

loved the delivery of this topic. Wired, you nailed it; thank you for sharing.

[@oleksandrkaleniuk7813]

This is a useful video. If you see someone behave this way - be assured that they do not act in your best interest. Taught confidence is a definite marker of a scoundrel.

[@cookitnice1835]

The thing is.. why it's hard for some people is because you are telling them how to copy people who are confident. Whereas, ask the confident people, they aren't copying nobody. Being confident is not about doing this or that. It's about the process a person has to go through in order to become totally comfortable with himself and the surroundings.

[@kiralynae6998]

👏🏾

[@Msfruity44]

👍🏽💯

[@voguexperimental]

[@nobody6032]

He's showing us, not instructing us to copy.

[@MisterL777]

I remember in audio meetings at some point I was dozzing off and people were asking me a question so I made an excuse about the mic being off or whatnot and I felt not very sharp. Later I saw the same thing happen to someone else and he was just like "sorry I wasn't listening could you repeat the question?". He didn't feel like he needed an excuse for not being able to answer straight away. And people just did as he said, and that was it. And I thought "yeah that's how you should handle those situations" so now I do the same. But not everything is copied/learned. I remember asking myself "why was I sitting like that (one arm behind the back of the chair)? I usually don't do that. It felt good. Yeah I was confident and relaxed. So I guess that pose indicates confidence."

[@johnshorba]

This guy is pretty good, seems very confident about this subject

[@fastingislife3766]

He’s an ex FBI agent.

[@Rrrrcc4666]

Over the years i have learned, that confidence is not a facade that people show its your energy of authority that people feels. And Being confident is not just having your shoulders back stand straight. Its far more than that.

[@spencerwinston4334]

Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."

[@nazirulnaim5418]

I remember the day when I was the quiet guy at the back of the class, when I was 14, a teacher approached me and asked me to get involved in public speaking, he promised to teach me, his method is to let everyone in class hear everything I said, I'm definitely shaking as I go to the front of the class thinking that this is impossible. Time goes by I went the competition and lose obviously, but there's this feeling inside me that it is not over, the barrier that concealed me had faded away and as I join many speaking event the barrier get smaller and here I am in my college day presenting my case with confidence even sometimes it's not perfect but I believe mistakes happen and dont back down, I wasn't born with confidence, I came a long way to become what I am now, I believe we all had some sort of barrier and it needs to be bring down, chisel it bit by bit if you have too, as time goes by, you'll make it, and you're not the shy person you're once before.

[@FadeAwayClan]

This was greatly needed. Feels like since COVID first struck I’ve forgotten how to interact with people in public

[@lala-qz3tb]

A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.

[@artworkbybernizzz2654]

Timeline📝 0:58 Traits of Confidence 3:11 Model 4:48 Behaviors 5:38 Intonation 7:34 Cadence 9:27 Nonverbals 11:34 Public Speaking 13:11 Conclusion

[@mathilde_9254]

Thanks!!

[@poohh5500]

Thank u 😊

[@msmbjohnson]

Thank you!

[@MrsKushy]

👍🏼

[@lauras8fia]

thank you

[@cucumbervibes5930]

This was very helpful for me. I am in a public speech organization / club and was very nervous about this upcoming year of competition, but I feel much more ready now after watching this video. Thank you for the effort.

[@Breathingmind1]

You are the only precious person in the world. Without any reason, existence itself is precious. I hope you can tell yourself that you love me and that you worked hard and sleep comfortably.

[@katyinvierte]

I totally agree it is also important to know who you are and why you are here speaking in public or making a presentation or video, or whatever. Thanks for sharing information 👏💚

[@bryanelwell3470]

I think the best place to start is the posture, it’s simple and you don’t even have to speak if talking is hard. I had been thinking about my posture more over the last 2-3 months and it’s really started to show. I went to a wedding and a friend I had known over half my life but hadn’t seen in maybe 4 months asked if I got taller or if I changed something about my appearance (other than the suit of course). I’ve always walked with a quick pace, but I’ve noticed more eyes have been following me as I walk around the office too since I straightened up. I don’t puff out my chest, roll my shoulders back, etc., I just stand upright and it feels better on my back

[@Su_en_youtube]

This is happening to me too. I mean, not exactly like you but I’ve become very aware of my posture and I’m determined to improve it because I find it has all to do with my insecurities and lack of confidence.

[@RooockKyy]

true. Yoga helped me with that, I recommend it!

[@revv2786]

Wow man I will try that

[@leliabacha8351]

Indeed. Yoga has helped me to keep my back straighter, also has improved my mindset to care less about others think about me

[@JessicaDarling2]

The Upright posture trainer is worth the cost - it has quickly helped my posture, awareness and even mindfulness bc it ‘jolts’ me into the present moment…😂 ✨👌🏻

[@yasmincheani4633]

confident = comfortable and happy to be in the situation with honesty and humble😁

[@erenb.2806]

Confidence can be faked and is faked honestly.

[@loonyspangles8173]

@@erenb.2806 What do you mean by that? Confidence is a real feeling. I wake up and suddenly I feel like the queen of the world.

[@erenb.2806]

@@loonyspangles8173 that's not a reality for most people around you, also you might be hiding smth under the facade of confidence.

[@scooby6670]

Love this

[@loonyspangles8173]

@@erenb.2806 Tell me something I don't know - KZbin is most filled with 'I have social anxiety' comments. Also, _"you might be hiding something under the facade of confidence"?_ I'm just telling the truth, dude... I don't see why you'd say this... You trying to bring me down?

[@Carducci1959]

It's not a question of showing confidence, seeming to be, it's something we really are.

[@alfredfreedomjones5105]

It’s fascinating you showed Kennedy’s “we chose to go to the moon” speech because yes, it’s one of the most motivational speeches of the century. But JFK was actually introverted and not the biggest fan of public speaking! Yes confidence is developed. If he could do it so can you.

[@minyazavutpriya]

Real confidence is all about not letting others words ruin our inner peace....