the DARK side of being a flight attendant | former singapore airlines cabin crew

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@reezevlog 10 ай бұрын

i once witnessed a senior female crew having a go at a junior female FA in the galley (i was in First Class of a 747 Malaysia Airline, flight from LA to KL via Taipei).. i was just waking up, n over heard the quarell (as my seat was at the back,near the galley). then i paged n asked for some water, the junior came n can tell she had watery eyes, but still managed to put a smile. she took my order n gave me my water. after we touched down n taxi at Taipei airport, before i left while waiting for the dooor to open, i told her (in front of her senior), “ dont stop smilling, coz u have a very beautiful face and a beautiful heart”…. i saw the senior’s face like black even though she was smilling n i ignored her when she said “thank u see u again”… that senior has an attitude problem, cannot be an example to the juniors. this was back in 2003….

@febbylyan 10 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing! that sounds terrible but it was really sweet of you to offer some positivity and words of encouragement :) honestly, I can only imagine how things must have been way worse back then vs now...

@zulhilmi9685 7 ай бұрын

You should write ✍️ proper compliment letter to MAS management to support her. That evil 😠 supervisor should be ashamed. 😊

@nothingison3633 3 ай бұрын

flew with Malaysia airline once when i was a kid, and the crew was mean to me, from then on i avoided the airline/

@PhuongMai-rh5eg Ай бұрын

I was the one who had watery eyes when I was FA in VNA, I quit, but I still do respect them, they have me the memory, even someone don’t bring the good memory. I love the job, still wanna try another airlines!

@lucaenglishteacher4059 9 ай бұрын

Former flight attendant here (20 years) … you’re SO accurate in your description of the job! I’m impressed! 😬 xx

@febbylyan 8 ай бұрын

OMG 20 years?! which airline did you work for if you’re open to sharing? I hope you did enjoy the perks of the job despite the downsides that come with it. yes, a lot of people seems to echo the sentiment, which is unfortunate…

@lucaenglishteacher4059 8 ай бұрын

@@febbylyan 😂 can you believe it? And I’m still alive! It was British Airways (Heathrow base). Very fun at first, but unbearably challenging in my final years. 🙂

@Summeramennnnn Жыл бұрын

your story is amazing ! bullying in workplace is not acceptable, I hope you are stronger now and have a good mental health :)

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I am glad you found this useful! thanks for the kind words and well wishes :)

@TheeMcMas 5 ай бұрын

Febby I have been in Management for an International company for more than 40 years, I need to tell you that Bully behavior was never tolerated in my departments, and every 3 months I had the workers give me a review of their supervisors, then the supervisors reviewed their managers, the managers reviewed their next line in authority, my reason for this was because I had learned that people dont truly quit companies, they quit managers, so I informed my managers and supervisors to love them or lose them and it worked for me, additionally I did one-on-one private exit interviews as to the reasons that someone wanted to resign so that I could constantly improve our organization. Don't ever allow another person to not see the value in you, they actually dont value themselves enough to open their eyes and accept your contributions to the team and to the organization. Good Luck on your MBA journey, new subscriber of yours today.

@mriz7258 Жыл бұрын

Now I finally understand why so many cabin crew resigned from their jobs. Like legit my place has a lot of ex Cabin Crew working here.

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I see - ya I'm sure everyone has their own reasons but I think a lot of what I talk about is a pretty universal experience unfortunately

@ashweenkaurkohli6190 5 ай бұрын

Where do you work btw I want to join because even I am FA and done with these nonsense things

@mriz7258 5 ай бұрын

@@ashweenkaurkohli6190 its just a call centre for an Airline based in SG.

@davidchan5424 Жыл бұрын

Tq tq for these great info. Appreciate your frank approach and did not "sugar-coat" any issues raised . Congratulations to pursuing your MBA.Best regards from David, Kampar,Perak.

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

thank you so much David! I appreciate the kind words and I am so glad you found this video informative :)

@jkt7774 7 ай бұрын

After graduated from the Uni, i really wanted to work as air crew to see the world before i work in the normal corporate world (or work as management trainee at some airlines) I applied to Garuda Indonesia, SQ, Emirates, Lufthansa, KLM, Air France, to name a view. I got rejected from all of airlines that i applied for ( and keep all the rejected letters until today). I was so sad, but so grateful now to learn about the culture in an airline industry could be that toxic. And i realized later that it was not my path in life, instead i was accepted as management trainee in an oil company, then have a change to travel around the world as passenger in business class for more than 20 years now. So yeah, i learned not to be discouraged, there are other pathways that suit us better.

@febbylyan 7 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing your story! honestly, it is so true... many times, rejection is redirection to better things. I am glad you found a path that suits you better and in the end, you still got to travel the world, but as a business class passenger, which is even better!

@MICPG9 11 ай бұрын

Hi Febby I am a F/A my biggest surprise for me was despite all the travel, all the people you get to meet and all the things you get to see and do, it can be a very lonely life Thank You 🙏

@febbylyan 11 ай бұрын

hi! I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and I can relate to what you said. being surrounded by so many people yet still feeling lonely is a tough one to navigate 😥 wishing you safe travels always :)

@ritikameena5997 Ай бұрын

Omgggg!This is so true...I have watched so many videos on why people left their job as a flight attendant...but nobody has ever talked about these reasons...I can feel you,all the things which you mentioned are the ones why I left. These were the things which used to be in my mind all the time while I was working as a FA and I used to think that what am I even doing here why I am taking all this,but you can't do anything until you reach that level of seniority,and this is so true that you do become submissive when you are starting your career and for some people it takes time to come out of that. Thank you,hope you are doing good 🤗

@ninetosixhuman Жыл бұрын

You’re such a good public speaker, the way you tell your story is way too much different to others. Best of luck in your next journey.

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

thank you SO much for your kind words and well wishes! I pay a lot of attention to my storytelling, so I am glad you found it engaging :)

@alyonapetrova694 11 ай бұрын

Yes, I concur. Your delivery of the English language keeps me captivated. You’re missing your calling. Have you considered moving to the USA? Multi-National corporations would be dying to get you on board with them.

@CMCJJT 10 ай бұрын

The purpose was you remembered for life the lessons learnt on your that second flight. That's why you can still tell your story today. It toughened you up for your future challenges in life. It shouldn't be classified as a dark episode. Personally, I have had a worse experience working as an intern in the construction industry full of rough and tough men. I faced Gordan Ramseys everywhere and everyday. I saw past 'bullying' for the invaluable trade lessons learnt from those experienced and hardworking men.

@vbrandi7928 10 ай бұрын

You have a very analytical perspective which I haven’t seen from other KZbinrs. Enjoyed your comments and feel you will be very successful in your professional life

@amodernpoet 10 ай бұрын

SIA and it's pilots/flight attendants are seen as a symbol of Singapore...interesting to hear about the experience of someone who has worked in the company....thank you for sharing and wish you well 🙏🏼

@febbylyan 10 ай бұрын

I would agree that SIA crew definitely is part of the country’s branding. thanks for watching and the well wishes :)

@Sensational_one 11 ай бұрын

I came across your video today and I have to say well said. I was an ex crew member as well from that same particular airline. I’m usually very vocal I would say and I if I do see some form of bullying I would usually help my fss out no matter what the rank. But what I’ll never forget was, a flight where I was dead tired and I had to arrange the carts in the galley, and a senior crew member saw me all tired and said this exact words. ‘ my name, do you regret not studying hard enough’ at that moment I was like what… and I was so pissed. I’m not gonna reveal my education qualifications here but when I went back to the other galley the other stewardesses saw that anger in my face , and asked what happened and felt disgusted. Well jokes on him, I’m a pilot today. 👍🏼

@febbylyan 11 ай бұрын

oh my... that's so uncalled for, but I am not surprised 🫠 kudos to you for working your way to where you are today! that's amazing - safe travels always :)

@serenelim1957 8 ай бұрын

Am disgusted too reading this , what an asshole seriously to insult people like this , I was on a flight I heard a stewardess telling a steward off I was like wth 🤦🏼‍♀️

@omgsadaiqa 5 ай бұрын

a fellow cabin crew here! i just got back from my leaves and finished operating my flight to FRA. thru out the time operating i wasn't in my 100% to socialize. what matters to me is i did my job and no complaints from my guest. felt lonely when i reached the hotel. the crew member didn't asked me to go out with them as well despite them asking others in front of me. i am not offended cause i wasn't interacting much with the rest. for me, this flight i just want to get everything over with. i just feel indifferent at everything honestly. with my life in totality. flying has suck the light out of me and i am just unbothered with what's going on around me. i don't have the energy to even make new friends anymore bcs it's exhausting after a long-hour of attending to people. and its sad because you need a social life outside of work so that you're life is not just work. but its also hard because flying really does take a toll on your body so trying to even do smth outside of work really does takes effort. so glad i bumped into your video. thanks for sharing this, felt less lonelier now :") now i am just trying my best to focus on smashing my personal goals so i can quickly leave this job for good.

@febbylyan 5 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing! I understand where you are coming from, I really do. I hope you are able to use flying as a stepping stone to hit your personal goals, and soon enough, you'll be well on your way for a new and exciting chapter. all the best and safe travels always ❤️

@gerardgilmartin4394 7 ай бұрын

It saddens me to learn this, I really enjoyed my journey from the UK to Australia with Singapore Airlines.I think Many of the things you highlight are common in any job to be fair.I hope and pray for your colleagues injured in the recent incident.Best wishes x

@ryankrishnanboongkannanmbs7791 Жыл бұрын

Nice microphone and you sound so soothing talking about flight attendant life

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

my mic is pretty good yes! and I appreciate the kind words :) hope you enjoyed this video!

@henryshen5445 10 ай бұрын

I work in the airline industry. In my previous job, I was managing the airline call center in SG, and wow, we hire really good-looking call consultants. The supervisor said, "yeah, most of them were ex-cabin crew." What I realised most of cabin crew couldn't find a proper job after decided to come on the ground, and some had to settle for call center.

@chrishenniker5944 19 күн бұрын

@@henryshen5445 I thought they’d marry into high society, go the Kimberly Chia route into acting or the music industry, or become every teenage boy’s favourite glamourpuss. Think Isibella Karnstein. Are there any Ang moh Singapore Girls?

@muzziyoga1722 12 күн бұрын

I was definitely like you when I was new. I had my senior cabin crew with whom I used to fly a lot. She had some issues with me but never said what! So during my flight she used to scold me or try to take me down each time she could, during our briefing I was the center of her briefing where she used to ask all the questions to me. I cried 2 times because of her during my flights. Being new i never understood what was happening to me. At the end I told her she can talk with me if she has any problems. I shared this experience with my pilot friend and he told me what to do next it this shit happens again. In the end i changed my roster, because we have a fixed roster and just went to her opposite ones. Now I'm a cabin supervisor and whenever I hear such stories similar to my own experience without hesitation I tell them what to do and that it they need me I will go with them to the office. I try to keep a very friendly environment during my flights and respect the newest cabin crew members. It is not easy when you become a cabin crew and meeting such horrible people makes us feel just way worse. I hope one day all this to be gone for good and just enjoy our flights because in aviation unfortunately meeting people most of the time is, temporary meeting. ❤️

@Pandaeyedninja 8 ай бұрын

It’s not just SIA, my brother works as an engineer for SIA Engineering, they have the same toxic culture, when he first started, he got bullied by his seniors. Good thing he pushed through and has been with them for over 8 years.

@febbylyan 8 ай бұрын

that's great that your bro managed to make lemonade out of lemons - kudos to him! I can imagine how tough it must have been when he just started out

@Pandaeyedninja 8 ай бұрын

@@febbylyan yes indeed! Yeah he almost wanted to quit at one time, luckily he had us to support him haha.

@the.mystictraveller 4 ай бұрын

@@febbylyanI think its a Singapore thing. I experienced this too by senior staff members when I worked in a travel agency in Singapore.

@salakau777 Жыл бұрын

Ironically the things you said you were encouraged to do in your MBA class at the exact things you are meant to do as part of good CRM. Witness the number of fatal accidents that occurred when a junior member knew something was not right but failed to speak up because of the culture of “whatever the senior person says goes”. From a human factors standpoint that is extremely dangerous.

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I’d say “what the senior says goes” would be applicable to the daily non-life threatening situations. when it comes to potentially fatal accidents, that's a different story. goal would always be to help address the situation. sadly most of the time, if the issue doesn't impact others, the injured crew members themselves choose to keep quiet cuz they don’t want to be grounded and take a pay cut. overall, agreed with you that everyone needs to feel safe to speak up regardless of how big or small the situation is. thanks for watching!

@gosikh 10 ай бұрын

Great honest video. Was married to a FA. It is one of the most underpaid jobs in the planet

@tastylambstew 8 ай бұрын

True, sadly in our current world, people in senior management only care about lining their own pockets more rather than sharing more of the profits with their employees on the ground. When profits are low, staff are cut off or bonuses removed, but when profits skyrocket, management pockets more shares and bonuses.

@the.mystictraveller 4 ай бұрын

Depends on the airline. Singapore Airlines crew make US$3000 on average and they get about US$20K bonus every year.

@intanjuwita21 Жыл бұрын

Will this be the new series of the dark side of crew lyfe?? More tea please.. You looked more relaxed talking to us❤

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

oh that might be cool - let me think about it :) and I'm glad it came across that way!

@QueenTahreem 5 ай бұрын

When I was in my cabin crew training my communication instructor would tell us to prepare three briefings per day and then give viva the next day which was very difficult for some of us. Since I was not well and couldn’t study the briefings because of being sick and my batchmates and I had to shift to our own flats/paying guest houses the next day due to which I had to pack and even give my viva the next day and hence I couldn’t perform well due to which my instructor shamed me for my age and insulted me before everyone in my batch that there are others who are doing it and I’m not doing it. She said I was giving excuses but I never gave excuses for not studying it was something genuine which was so terrifying. This instructor was very inhuman because she wanted us to smile throughout the viva whereas there are some who are so sweet and patient. Also, the training is very intense they don’t care about your health. They just want more and more employees so that they can exploit them.

@trainattendant5810 7 ай бұрын

I'm a train attendant in the USA aboard long haul passenger trains. All of your points I have personally been subjected to. The bullying, gaslighting, gossip, physically & emotionally demanding work load! Another dark reality I will chime in is the absolutely un supportive management/supervisors. We are just a number to the company. Virtually zero appreciation & recognition for what we do.

@febbylyan 7 ай бұрын

OMG I am so sorry to hear... I wasn't aware and it makes me wonder if these issues are somewhat common in the service industry. I hope you are holding up well and taking care of yourself!

@duomax100 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the sharing. 😮, i felt surprised listened from your story regarding SQ.

@kernow9324 11 ай бұрын

I remember being shocked by the way a Singapore Airlines stewardess spoke to me. She was serving coffee and I tried twice to take the cup off the tray she was holding, not realising that she had to give the cup to me. She snapped at me and kept moving the tray away. I get it, she was trying to minimise the risk of me being burned by hot coffee, but her manner wasn't good at all. Out of all the stewardesses in the economy cabin that flight, she was the least smiley. She didn't seem happy to be there. I don't know if she was in training, but she changed my opinion of Singapore Girls.

@febbylyan 11 ай бұрын

I am sorry to hear… I hope the next time round you travel with the airline, you’ll have a better experience!

@rikokojima 11 ай бұрын

Your experience reminds me so much of my trainee days at a major hospital

@febbylyan 11 ай бұрын

oh no … I didn’t know this would happen in the healthcare industry as well. did you go through the training in SG as well?

@mohdfazli789 17 күн бұрын

Not only flight attendant , i was waiter before ,senior bullied me because i am junior .but how i overcome this situation , i being asertif , when they did something not right i warning them report to management. Then they stop bully me

@joannepereira6143 7 ай бұрын

Yes, 20 years ago I was an Sq crew and I was zapped.. I only flew for 2 years and I left. Not to mention night stops where stewards tried on the stewardess.. it is horrible

@febbylyan 6 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your experience - I am sorry to hear and glad to hear you made your way out not long after. I can only imagine how hard it must have been, I heard the crew even had it worse in the old days.. the second point that you mentioned is also valid which is unfortunate

@joannepereira6143 6 ай бұрын

@febbylyan I don't regret my time but I would not have made it my career long term... eventhough when I left 2 years was considered senior and my team flights were great but there was the standby call ups where creepy stewards and pilots were just a nightmare... maybe I am old school so I did not like these things but all in all, it was good for a while

@alyonapetrova694 11 ай бұрын

In NYC, several crew members told me SQ pays for a building in the East Village for ALL SQ crew once they land/layover. Is that correct?

@the.mystictraveller 4 ай бұрын

No. Singapore Airlines puts layover crew in major hotels in Manhattan.

@flyingkr7 7 ай бұрын

As a one of ex middle east major airline crew. I totally agree about your opinion. As I heard SQ has strict seniority that most of asia airlines have. My previous airline has black lists for those crew that bully many junior crew. Actually, they think thay are empowered when they become supervisor. My previous airline also has reporting system which has been misusing and crew can report each other. But there are still some nice supervisors exist. From my perspective, airlines which has high reputation has more pressures to maintain the high rank about the service and quality. My ex airline ceo always wants to get best airline award but SQ always took it as I heard.

@febbylyan 6 ай бұрын

oh hi! glad to meet a fellow ex-crew member here :) thanks for sharing - it sounds like the airlines you worked for had some system in place to minimize any bullying, which is good. also, I would agree with your point on how the pressure to maintain high standards would impact the day-to-day culture for the front-liners in general

@yiyifan Жыл бұрын

my colleague was also a SIA flight attendant, she also said senior crew bully junior crew......

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

ugh ya... it's so unfortunate that it is something experienced by many others

@PI90000 6 ай бұрын

Asides from getting bullied, sabotage, blamed, I have gotten fat shame many times. Yes my body is more muscular and doesn’t fit the Asian beauty standards perfectly, and whatever they said to me and to others does not really bother me. However I think it’s pretty toxic as it happens to many others as well. The most toxic is that whenever us crew fly with a nice (normal) crew we felt very very appreciative as we know it does not happens often. Shouldn’t it be the other way around 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@febbylyan 6 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your experience! yes, it could be a harsh world out there I agree, and it's great to hear that you were able to stand your ground even though to your point, doesn't mean it isn't toxic 🫠

@Laksh13 11 ай бұрын

Do they provide accommodation and cab during duty?

@marvelerth6168 9 ай бұрын

SIA will never give a accomodation to their cabin crew unlike the middle eastern five star airlines, SIA do not care about their employees. You will see when you travel with SQ, when you look at the cabin crew, you will see stress and unhappiness on their faces in spite of smiling at you, totally different that the vibes you got from Emirates, Qatar and Etihad cabin crew. SIA cabin crew wear the fake smile. Based on my experiences.

@byronsutherland1380 6 ай бұрын

I grew up in Malaysia flying MH and SQ as a passenger. I work for a US airline and in my 24th year. Everything you touched is present in all airlines. Yes, I was bullied as a Chinese speaker on my first China flight. The senior galley in business class complained about me being "slow" with the service and the purser just told me to eat my meal and just go on break. She didn't stand up for me. I went in the bathroom and splashed some water on my face and continued. It's shameful that bullying is tolerated and the union does nothing.

@febbylyan 5 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing and I am sorry to hear the similar experiences you went through in another airline... it's so frustrating that this kind of behaviour continues to be normalized. I hope you find ways to manage and prioritize your well-being always. take care :)

@hbsgroup Жыл бұрын

Hi Febby. Did you manage to take the jump seat for Takeoff &/or Landing on your SNY flights?

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I did actually! I sat in the cockpit for takeoff/landing on my first SNY flight :)

@hbsgroup Жыл бұрын

@@febbylyan 100 ... check, V1, Rotation, Positive climb, Gear up. / Approaching minimum, Minimum, .... 100, 50, 30 .10 ..., Retard, Retard.

@OG21020 10 ай бұрын

I don't know about point one. It sounds more like impatience than bullying. If she kept picking / referring to your mistakes, using hurtful words / actions etc every time she saw you, then that is bullying. I remember when I was in Pri 2, the teacher asked me to fold some papers because I was in the front row and close to her. My family hardly use English (this was back in the 70s). It was always Hokkien so I had not the slightest idea what the heck was "fold the papers". I sat there dumb and didn't move. Seeing that I didn't do anything, the teacher yelled impatiently. "Fold! Fold! Like this! You understand or not? Simple thing like folding." She then pushed the papers to my desk mate and told her to do it. No prizes for guessing how I felt then. I didn't cry though.

@mishallemon3847 8 ай бұрын

I don't think you get to decide what bullying means for someone though 😬😬 getting berated by a senior just because you handed them a drink from your hands instead of offering the whole tray kind of sounds like needless picking to me.. which is bullying 🤷‍♀️

@fahminorazman2186 10 ай бұрын

I done my medical check up on november 2023, until now i still waiting for SQ to call me up .. what should i do ?

@the.mystictraveller 4 ай бұрын

Where are you at now? Foreign hires have to wait and wait..

@sngs9565 Жыл бұрын

Bullying happens in most service industry, especially in Hospitality industries such as Hotels, Restaurants and also, airlines! Terrible things! Karma is watching!

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

you made a good point! it’s unfortunate that it’s normalized 😞

@khairulazan6310 10 ай бұрын

I always dream to become a cabin crew, and currently i am working as a Customer Service Representative for 4 years and still counting in Airlines. When i was junior 20 years old, I remember i was crying because i failed about 2 times for XX Product Knowledge. My senior keep bulying me like I need to be fast, I need to remember this & that, write that, been asked and get scold when I cannot answer the question. Now I finally became a senior, and I dont do that to people because I knew how hard it is to be felt when I was young in Airline Industry. Im not saying im strict, but I teach people well those who really show effort to learn. Reading your journey as Ex- Cabin crew, sometimes this might be the answer why God still not give me my dream job. But anyway, I believe, everyone have different journey, different characters, and lets however be nice to people around. Thanks, I give you like for the video.

@febbylyan 10 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your journey. it's great that you were able to help break the negative cycle and took others' bad behaviour as an example of what NOT to be. the workplace needs more people like you :) all the best to you as well!

@wazx8420 Жыл бұрын

Hi, may I know why you waited for 7 months until you went for the training and what process made it longer for your training to start?

@wazx8420 Жыл бұрын

And can you please make a video about the paid please is it a good paid job or not i’m joining soon , thank you .

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

hi! it’s because I had to do some follow-ups for my first medical check up. as for the pay, let me think about it - not sure how much meat there is on this topic. perhaps you can google to get a ballpark and see if it’s in line with your expectations? also, all the best!

@Liza-mn2vc 11 ай бұрын

One thing I noticed during my cabin crew interview in Mumbai Indian that was HR team was good no doubt but they were very particular and only chose the girls who were skinny mind you they were okay to select girls who were low on bmi was they were skinny but still didn’t select girls who looked medium size or little chubby even though they were extremely healthy and were under bmi requirements. So yaa with my own first hand experience i can singapore airlines is one the airline promoting extreme beauty standards.

@manassaweeassawakittiporn3516 Ай бұрын

Diversity is not only within each country. The environment in the airline could resulted from this as well. During the time I was couched and prepared to become flight attendant in academy, I have been told that "there have been 2 main mindset that set a standard of flight attendant between Asian culture and Arabian culture. Those working in Asian environment are to be submissive and convey great sense of hospitality regardless of any situation. However, when it comes to Arabian culture, you are the one who decide and command and find whatever it best suit for each situation. This is quite contrast and I am certain that the situation you have been through has its own purpose for your own achievement. No one can be like you. ❤❤

@febbylyan Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience and also the encouraging words! Cultural differences can be both challenging and eye-opening for sure

@4bl250 Жыл бұрын

Hello there, thank you for this video !! my boyfriend is currently now in training. I really2 hope that it wont change him and our dynamic cus just by the observation, it drained tf outta him. Can you share your opinions on those crews who are in rs and the culture of mile high club ? is that a real thing here :/ thank you !

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I am glad you found this useful! I think for this one it all depends on the individual and how they honour their own commitment. I've heard (and seen) both good and bad things. I personally was already in a relationship before I started flying. now, a couple years after I quit, we are still together :)

@the.mystictraveller 4 ай бұрын

Depends on where you're based, and if your bf is commited to you. He willl meet people who will flirt with him and give him offers. Its very easy...

@tglenn3121 6 ай бұрын

The people that oversee and supervise even the senior cabin crew need to address the issue of bullying and emphasize that seniority does NOT give anyone a free pass to bully or reprimand a junior cabin crew, and discipline should be rendered to those senior cabin crew who engage in such unprofessional behavior rather than just ignored that behavior. It is the airline's responsibility to make sure ALL cabin crew (even the juniors) be made to feel comfortable while working. It might even reduce some of the turnover.

@stephaniealmasco5296 Ай бұрын

Actually bullying and gossiping is in every workplace, but then i dont understand why people normalise it, aside from that if you work in a foreign country, there is discrimination, but then you still keep going even its hard.

@dave642 2 ай бұрын

Emirates does the same thing you never fly with the same crew I think it probably has a lot to do with avoiding labor unions, or any talk of organization.

@rg5806 10 ай бұрын

Asian passengers rate the flight attendant job similar to waiter / waiteress & does not visualize the pressures on the job to take care of the passengers . I being a frequent flier can immediately figure out a new & an experinecd flight attendant by the intial responses.

@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG Жыл бұрын

Personally I observed that Workplace Bullying seemed to be the Norm in Singapore’s work environments. Not just in the Airlines. Doesn’t help that the Unions there are basically for window dressings or simply just another COVERT HR department representing the companies’ interests instead. Alot of toxic work environment over there with no authentic protection for employees.

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

OMG that is so unfortunate... it sounds like this might be more common in the unionized environment? I do hope it's not the norm across workplaces!

@Listen321 4 ай бұрын

What about the pilots? Do they feel the same?

@KokoKrunchs 10 ай бұрын

I didnt know there are so much bullying in this industry.😮 On april 2024, i will do my very first training as flight attendant. Omg now im worried tbh

@febbylyan 10 ай бұрын

which airline are you joining? I think cultures will vary depending on which airline you are joining. that said, I'm sure you will learn how to navigate the environment and tackle any challenge that comes your way :) all the best with your training!

@KokoKrunchs 10 ай бұрын

@@febbylyan it’s Jetstar airline. Thank you for the encouragement :)

@Joeyt24 Жыл бұрын

Love your new haircut 😍

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

lol I knew it! thanks girlie ❤

@michaelbgn13 8 ай бұрын

I can agree on every single point except point number 5, there is a reason why airlines in asia mostly in top 10 of world’s best cabin crew. Because those stunt you mentioned really matter. Especially for asian people.

@febbylyan 8 ай бұрын

thanks for watching! I think you made a good point and you are right. it does make a difference to a certain extent

@wrd980 10 ай бұрын

It didn’t sound so dark to me. All these points you would have known already very soon on either applying or training for the job. However your thumbnail is good click bait.

@chrishenniker5944 2 ай бұрын

Gossip is quite understandable. Especially when you get passengers who beat off over you, rumours of the cute stewardesses giving a teenager a handjob and her phone number, even rumours of a smuggling operation by crew. It’s no different than in any industry.

@prettymandy5850 3 ай бұрын

As they got the best cabin crew I could image how strick they were. And I do hear a lot of gossips about negative work experience...

@yeowchongong5608 Жыл бұрын

No wonder SQ service not that great anymore

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

sorry to hear your experience with the airline wasn't that great. I honestly think what I experience had been going on for a while - I hope the work environment has improved

@nothingison3633 3 ай бұрын

i work at the airport with cabin crews and the seniors especially the malaysian cabin crew seniors always have an attitude, even with me she was so rude. at my workplace they are known for always being rude. at the end of the at any and every workplace seniors will always have a higher hiearchy

@watchhans 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this insight into the work culture of SIA. As a former flight attendant with Lufthansa German Airlines I am a little shocked how deeply Asian mentality impacts the way of how to interact with each other. I was a senior myself for many decades, but our company's culture was entirely different. We always appreciated the fresh input juniors can provide, new ideas of the juniors combined with the senior's experience, that is Lufthansa's cabin crew policy. And we all had to work 'according to the book', seniors and juniors alike. Another example: if I was granted a trip to Singapore (many flight hours, popular destination, longer rest time after returning home) I requested for January, and if I requested the same trip again next month, but a junior did not get that trip in January, the junior would be next in February. And btw.: the uniforms are all the same, except for the pursers, they have more stripes on the sleeves of their uniform. After 33 years of working as a flight attendant with Lufthansa, now I am enjoying my retirement and look back to all the pros and cons, not entirely without sentimentality 🙂😢

@febbylyan 10 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing - this is so insightful and helps me learn about the culture in other airlines. I am glad to hear you enjoyed your time with Lufthansa and are now enjoying your retirement :) honestly, 33 years of flying sounds like an incredible ride!

@Aisha_Nasrin 7 ай бұрын

How long did you stay with SIA?

@febbylyan 6 ай бұрын

a little over 4 years :)

@dbsfun2923 Жыл бұрын

Hi Febby 🙋 I hope you are doing well. I got the video interview opportunity on Singapore Airlines. Could you please tell us the social media policy of the airline. I have a youtube channel where I post my art videos and daily lifestyle. Can we do vlogging along with the Cabin Crew job in Singapore Airlines??

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

hey! I know SQ is pretty strict when it comes to posting on social media while you are in uniform, but I don't remember the entire policy in detail. I think it will be stated in your contract when you receive an offer to join the company. good luck with your interview :)

@dbsfun2923 Жыл бұрын

@@febbylyan Thanks for sharing. I am not interested in posting videos in uniform of SIA. I just want to make art vlogs regarding my art and lifestyle. Is it allowed if someone does vlogging in their personal life apart from serving the company?

@hanzoOOO7-q5t 27 күн бұрын

I remember my cousin shared with me how the trainer was being racism against her - colour shaming. She almost gave up!

@SREEKALYANY Жыл бұрын

Hey Febby. Love this video. Is it TRUE that only fair skin people have chances to be a cabin crew at Singapore airlines??

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

hey! thanks for watching this video :) i don’t think so - they may have policies around race/nationality, but not necessarily skin colours

@louises6729 6 ай бұрын

Bullying is not on in ant job and it’s unlawful. Bulling is someone feeling threatened and people are flying they don’t need these added pressures Disgusting

@melsdesignerdiaries 11 ай бұрын

Probably that senior who yelled at you got bullied when she was a junior so she's just taking her revenge now when she's in the same position. Disgusting behaviour. If I knew a sia stewardess was like that I would complain to the sq and not want to be served by this type of horrible person.

@febbylyan 11 ай бұрын

that is a valid assumption. I think that is also how this kind of behaviour is bred and normalized 🫠

@freeagent8225 10 ай бұрын

Why should people tell us if we don't ask?

@황윤기-p2r Жыл бұрын

Now Do you do SQ crew?

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I left before COVID - if that's what you are asking :)

@ridzwanwahid5424 10 ай бұрын

Same goes with MAS.

@praystation 8 ай бұрын

Id have fought the bully right on. Right then and there. Id make a commotion to let the bully know I will not be bullied/ take it lying down. There are right and not right ways to be an example / to mentor your fellow coworkers. You handed her the drink from the standpoint of one coworker to another. If she wanted to be a client then be a client and stop pretending to be a flight attendant. Id have raised hell to the point of that plane requiring to land somewhere as emergency landing. Id have made headlines as IDGAF. I do not give a f*ck. Come mess with me and find out. I work at SFO airport and I was bullied by the Security / TSA agent and I argued with the guy in front of all to see. He tried that again another time and I got him reprimanded.

@wojiaobill Ай бұрын

I was surprised you didnt talk about unruly passengers or harassment from male passengers, as I thought for sure that would be something youd encounter as a flight attendant

@Potomacstud Жыл бұрын

Thank you , i appreciate your video Crew members put on smiling face lol

@simple-run 6 ай бұрын

do not agree with the example you gave in point no.5. you definitely can't say no to the customer right away. even pretending to go one round and coming back with the no is better than rejecting upfront.

@tastylambstew 8 ай бұрын

I was expecting something specific to the Flight Attendant job itself, but most of the points you mentioned (with the exception of the physical demands) are generic things that people would encounter at just about any workplace. And given that the things you mentioned are very human-centric.. it'll be unique to each individual's experiences.. when you title it as "the DARK side of being a flight attendant" it's misleading, like you're speaking on behalf of the entire airline industry. It would be better if you titled it something along the lines of your own experiences as a flight attendant 🤔

@AhmadAfifIsa 11 ай бұрын

I kind of believe whatever that you are saying exists at every industry, every organisations. Although I don't condone such behaviour, but I also believe that we need to brace with it and adapt. thank you for sharing.

@ManlyHK1 10 ай бұрын

When you gossip about other passengers make sure someone is not recording lol 😂

@MatthewAiTajir 11 ай бұрын

I think the most hurt part for newly joined crew members are from senior crew members’ bully 😂

@Livinginthephils65 11 ай бұрын

Lack of Emotional Maturity... Sadly, many adults haven't mastered this and it all boils down to being sensitive towards one another.

@ashleyhockenberry2187 6 ай бұрын

Welcome to Canada!

@dankoneko 9 ай бұрын

Bullying and seniority system in this video surprised me because I thought those do exist only in Japan and Singapore Airlines is the company more open and westernized organization ...

@febbylyan 9 ай бұрын

I am not sure what the culture is like in Japanese airlines but I’ve heard similar stories from people working for other huge Asian airlines, so I am guessing the cultures might be similar

@firdausazaliabuhassan6970 10 ай бұрын

and the work as cabin crew will never get as many praises, appreciation or as good enough. This constant nagging puts us and forces our mind to work in the cabin galley as basic rank flight attendants until we retire just so as to be appreciated . We cant expand our mind and knowledge if we are bombardment with these sort of nagging endlessly, non - stop. Please correct me if I am wrong @febbylyan

@whyh 10 ай бұрын

What you'd describe is common in any company run by Singaporeans.

@reneecollin8825 8 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry that you had to exp the bullying & foolishness - you seem like a nice young woman. I was an FA for 12 yrs with a major (U.S.) carrier, and I witnessed alot of crap! So after 12 yrs, I resigned and went back to school and got my Masters in healthcare - nest decision ever. Although I loved (and still do) Aviation, I do NOT miss the ignorance, scheduling, the $$ or lack of, and the competitiveness - smh. I'd take an "irate" pax anyday, than work with some of my crew mates.. Not everyone was awful - I've met very nice /cool folks, and I've seen alot of cool places! It was a wonderful experience, but I wouldn't do it again!! and I would recommend every young woman or man, to just do your research , and don't just want the job because of the "glamour". Take care & best wishes 🌸.

@febbylyan 8 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your experience and well-balanced perspective. I echo the sentiment. also, it sounds like there are some similarities in our trajectory which I find fascinating! all the best to you as well ✨

@reneecollin8825 8 ай бұрын

@@febbylyan I know right !😊 what a coincidence !

@josephyeo6966 10 ай бұрын

Disgusting. SIA tolerates bullying. This is really bad Karma and sounds like toxic culture. Having said that, a smart organisation will see your value in good HR management. The point I am making here is even big organisations like SIA failed to realise that HR managers should be sensitive and alert to these issues and make corrections before it becomes toxic.

@febbylyan 9 ай бұрын

unfortunately, I feel like some of these cultures have already been ingrained for decades so they are normalized. I am hopeful that with more and more of the younger generation who is typically more outspoken joining the workforce, things would somehow improve for the better eventually

@RoslanBin-oq4gt 3 ай бұрын

Aiyah u work with nurses also no difference ... they r definitely not ANGELS

@g_ia Жыл бұрын

Totally unrelated .. but girl your skin is glowing ❤ What's the secret

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

aw thank you so much! honestly, nothing special lol I am just generally pretty good with my cleansing and basic skincare routine. maybe I'll make a video about it one day in case it might be helpful :)

@shiro.maruchizu 8 ай бұрын

Although it’s somewhat true, just a reminder that point ① zapping doesn’t only happen in SIA. In real world, any industry, any country, when we’re still new, it’s pretty common. I DON’T condone bullying, it’s just that sometimes we “live in a lala land” thinking that everybody is supposed to be nice to us. Any job, there will be good days & bad days. Just enjoy the ride & stay positive. Speaking as ex SIA crew here :)

@febbylyan 8 ай бұрын

I get what you mean and I am with you conceptually. that said, before I joined the airline and after I left, I personally have never experienced point 1 to the same extent like I did when I was flying. I think it also has something to do with both the industry & company cultures which dictates what is normalized/acceptable. anyways, hope you are enjoying your time on ground after leaving the airline :)

@sukhdeepsingh7322 9 ай бұрын

I know many F/A that love their job. One man meat is another man’s poison. I do agree that somehow we do get home sick. I have notice that cabin crew eating their meals standing in the gallery. Then again whatever happened in Rome stays in Rome. From the passengers point of view we do understand your predicament. I always thanks the crew for the excellent service they provide. Maybe it’s not a job to your liking but there are others that adores the freedom and the lifestyle. The rewards are plenty as a package including high bonus. Think about all the money you have made to be able to study and the exposure to be independent. I wish you well in the cooperate world. Equally stressful and if not more demanding.

@febbylyan 9 ай бұрын

thanks for watching and sharing your perspective! I get what you mean. I am honestly forever grateful for this chapter of my life as it has shaped me into who I am today and helped propel my life forward. these are the downsides as no job is perfect but to your point, there are the upsides as well. I’ve shared about my flying experience from different angles in my other videos - they are in the “flying journey” playlist :)

@RoslanBin-oq4gt 3 ай бұрын

I would like to take a look at u with ur SIA make up ok?

@Evolutiontweaked 8 ай бұрын

Toxic people ruin the whole dynamics of a good team she needs to be fired. She needs to work in a profession that not team oriented

@patrickchun1558 11 ай бұрын

Great storytelling! I volunteer for an NGO called 'World Civility Index' helping young people to have better "people skills". Your firsthand experience would be a great addition to what this group does.

@takanna 8 ай бұрын

this video is really full of negative vibe and crying for being chided really screams strawberry

@mishallemon3847 8 ай бұрын

She is just reminding people to be good and decent human beings to each other because once upon a time we were all new to something. Doesn't give people the excuse to be mean. If bullying is the norm culture then maybe ask yourself why it has to be. You could use a reminder too 😅

@primeartifacts6467 Жыл бұрын

It’s amazing how you have masked the Canadian accent

@blinoldluv Жыл бұрын

How about the free sex life among the flight attendants and the pilots?

@febbylyan Жыл бұрын

I think because of the work environment, having flings and affairs become easier than in other industries so these do exist, but at the end of the day, it's a personal choice and there are definitely many folks who honour their relationships and do not play the game

@blinoldluv Жыл бұрын

@@febbylyanWhat environtment? You please those pilots but you put down yourselves at the same time. What have you got from them? They don't want you. They just need sex and that's very disrespectful. My close friend who used to be a flight attendant said, having sex with pilots were so so very common among them.