The Dark Side of "Misyar" Marriages with Yasir Qadhi

Women suffer the most under this sham Islamic "marriage" even as admitted by Yasir Qadhi.
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[@carnivoreisvegan]

"what's the point of this?" So they can have sex when they go on trips.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

😂

[@j.p.vanbolhuis8678]

No, no. no, you omit a very important requirement: "And convince themselves they are doing nothing wrong" Ironically this is exactly what is described in Proverbs 30:20, but replace the "adulteress" with "Adulterer" 20 This is the way of an adulteress: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I have done nothing wrong.’ That is also why "honest muslims" in the west try to get hookers to "pretend to marry for 1 to 2 hours". Yes, the infamous muta, that does not exist. And no. it is not only Shia who do that...

[@YEY0806]

Yeah, Muhammad needed to make sure that his warriors didn't get sexually frustrated and turn on him

[@maseokemapodile6389]

​@@YEY0806how about self control?

[@YEY0806]

@maseokemapodile6389 Muslims: What is this "self control?" Sounds blasphemous

[@user-vg2cz4cq5h]

Legalization of formication and prostitution...and they have the nerve to judge and even attack non-muslims😮

[@illmeeillmee9373]

Exactly. They call non Muslims immoral for having pre marital relationships when they condone the worst things

[@expose8434]

When U ask them, they will say This is to protect unlawful sex 😂

[@giant108]

​@@illmeeillmee9373In short, it's an islamic halal prostitution.

[@bengtina]

Exactly

[@mspaint93]

This raises the really scary question about the spread of STIs not only to these women but potential children...

[@ragsrare3771]

Islam never held men accountable that is why no one is asking this question.

[@razamughal4582]

The cheap western women have ALREADY spread STIs. You dont worry your little brain about that….

[@kellycharif1526]

If the women are all virgins, it would be seemingly impossible for that to be a concern. I’m always perplexed by people who say that as it is also a common response regarding polygamous marriages.

[@emmaearhart]

@@kellycharif1526that’s not necessarily true, you can have an STI and still be a virgin.

[@lastprophet8338]

If you take a deep dive into Islam, that’s when things become more awkward, it’s like a beautifully polished piece of Rotten egg

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

😂 👌

[@RobespierreThePoof]

More like an egg that's been fermenting and petrifying ever since 700CE. You could not create a religion more resistant to change or less compatible with modernity. The question remains... How will it reform? Or who will make that happen

[@edward1412]

I refer to Islam as a cow dung; it looks dry but when you step on it, it’s so wet .

[@nadiasyed5090]

Perfect example, totally agree

[@qasmb1546]

So true, on the surface it seems great..

[@PeeedaPan]

Yasir is very honest about how hard it is to be a muslim and how many horrible things are in it and contradictions yet won't take that next step to saying its all BS

[@Kristu.Salvan]

I believe he's an apostate and that he's just in it because he doesn't want the consequences of being an apostate of that magnitude

[@stillhere1425]

Umm “Friendly Ex-Moslem/Muslim” says it all.

[@b34rea1]

Yasir Qadhi is a gem to the ex muslim community

[@razamughal4582]

Yet he has converted YOUR mother and sisters to islam 🤣😂🤣😂

[@ricetanzania4148]

He does his best to save the day, and holds on to the basic s of islam in stead of leaving it.

[@Mr.PhatsVarietyVibesShow]

Reminds me the concept of having a girl friend on the side while being married.. something out of a mafia film or something.. The good wife at home that don't ask questions..

[@stelfran1546]

There are people who say that they don't mind marrying a second wife, but they can't afford it. These men typically consider the age and looks of the women they might marry and often believe they're doing them a favor by having sex with them - even when it's unprotected. They might not take responsibility for any children that result from these encounters, but the women involved are left to deal with the consequences of their decisions. This can be particularly difficult for women who are already struggling with being unmarried and may carry the burden of these experiences for the rest of their lives.

[@stelfran1546]

Did you know that some Saudi men travel to India, Thailand (the southern part), and Indonesia for what they call "short marriages" but it is prostitution? A lot of young women without proper knowledge of what they are getting into did not realize they left high and dry after a few days or months. These men usually travel in groups and they have agents in these countries. Even young children are engaged in these activities. Most wives do not know or they turn a blind eye as long as they are in marriage and as long the husband is not going to them as wives. They are shut up by their male mahrams and female relatives.

[@satuituahadbukantauhid3031]

it is called nikah mut'ah qs4:24... rent a girl, get satisfied then pay to make it halal...

[@teknoid5878]

Yeah those who are uninformed may be happy to be married by a random arab guy. In indonesia it is considered prostitution.

[@suga9875]

So adultery is not forbidden in islam?

[@bratwurstmitbiryani]

​@@suga9875it's not technically adultery as you need a imam to carry out the ceremony. But they don't give a shit about age of consent so they are technically graping many underage girls as young as 11

[@MalikaRose2000]

I remember learning of this practice in Hydrabad Dhakan back in the 80’s and 90’s. These dirty old men from the gulf states would travel to India to take advantage of the poverty there and contract Nikah’s with underage Muslim girls as young as 12 years old and pay the parents a ‘mehar’ in exchange for staying with the daughter for a week or fortnight, after which they would talak her and go back to their country. So many young girls lives were ruined to help her struggling parents put food on the table. These men did this with impunity, with the aid of the local mullahs who officiated and brokered these so called marriages of convenience.

[@drsubashn4025]

Muslim woman defending this atrocity is like chicken defending KFC and saying KFC recognises the freedom of chicken to live. .

[@razamughal4582]

YOUR mother and sisters are converting to islam in their MILLIONS. Oops…

[@blueStarKitt7924]

😂

[@user-nx9rt4lk7e]

👏🤣👌

[@momo19991]

“Think long and hard” and leave Islam.

[@apran2010]

In "normal" Islamic marriage, there is no mention about the length of the marriage, BUT ...the husband can divorce the wife by saying "talaq" three times (the wife can not do that). So, in a way, normal marriage is worse because the wife can be divorced at any time by the husband while in misyar or mut'ah marriage, the woman understands that the marriage is temporary. At all of marriage types, the women only get paid by the dowry and some living allowance for food, accomodation, and receive nothing when divorced. So, the cost per sex can be much much cheaper than being with a prostitute.

[@teknoid5878]

Misyar marriage, unlike Mut'ah, doesn't have predetermined length.

[@Shahid2971]

We need this in the Western World. Secular societies will benefit greatly from this.

[@bratwurstmitbiryani]

No. It's actually a condition that the women shouldn't know that the marriage is temporary. Please watch Adam seeker's stream on this and look in the details.

[@donhue4546]

@@Shahid2971 and marrying 6yr olds ,what a dirty evil cult

[@historyloveriii2949]

Cleaner for the "husband" too as they all demand virgins!

[@kayn6858]

So thats how some of these saudi princes have 100s of kids

[@richardwootton1932]

And we are told that this religion is the best and must rule the world!!

[@clipaqua8848]

So sad that women are defending this too

[@ricetanzania4148]

Every time you learn more about islam, the darker it becomes.

[@womenlifefreedom2024]

Yes! I tried to be fair and give everything it's fair shake, but as a woman, it's terrifying. I want Muslim women to be free and equal everywhere.

[@jasral7767]

Still, people keep converting & supporting Islam.

[@onibioh]

The sad part that is not addressed is the transmission of all types of sexual diseases. The innocent wives at home get to bear this ugly burden.

[@momo19991]

Amazing video! I didn’t think it was possible to make Islam any worse for women. I was wrong! Growing up Sunni Muslim, I never heard about Misyar! The Misyar success story Dr. Qadhi told us about was pathetic and degrading. I would rather be single than in such a degrading situation.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Thanks!

[@momo19991]

@@FriendlyExmuslimcongratulations on your marriage! Glad to see more content from you!

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Yeah their success stories are really just sad.

[@whereisacbijustice-4ssrdis737]

Agreed

[@user-dn5bi4si5w]

Just more taqiyya and dishonesty from the religion of peace.

[@romanski5811]

You should watch a video about taqiyya by Friendly Exmuslim. He exposes it for the BS that it is.

[@kellycharif1526]

Taqqiya is in the case of someone threatening to kill you……..not talking to nitwits on KZbin.

[@MadridBarcelonaRota]

The contempt that Islam has for the intelligence of their supposed creator is breathtaking in its extent and childish sophistry.

[@rachelleoladejo7296]

I sussed Islam when I realised Mohammed claimed Allah had revised earlier revelations (via an Angel) when coincidentally they suited Mohammed’s plans.

[@ultrasignificantfootnote3378]

But Yasir ,have you not forgotten that Islam is the perfect religion.

[@inkyfingers3447]

Perfect pagan sex cult!😂

[@illmeeillmee9373]

and for ALL time periods

[@razamughal4582]

Damn right it is thats why YOUR mother and sisters are reverting to it in their MILLIONS. Oops..

[@YEY0806]

​@@3ygdftttywwyes Prophet Momophile, may Police be upon him

[@Kristu.Salvan]

I think he's secretly an apostate, but doesn't declare it and keeps this character so he doesn't tarnish his reputation nor get on the bad side of muslims

[@kenid4144]

Yasir Qadhi: Misyar marriage is not haram. Andrew Tate: Why didn't anyone tell me this a long time ago?

[@luciafaustina9360]

Sneako: Hmmm...this is good. I'm gonna stay Muslim. 😂😂

[@ragsrare3771]

He still sinning and no one is saying anything so I don’t think its matter

[@kenid4144]

@@ragsrare3771 Are you suggesting that Islam permits celebrity sinners?

[@donhue4546]

@@kenid4144 mia kalifha

[@freemanontheland507]

⚠️ The effects of eating too much PORK, lol 😂

[@exmuslimchronicles]

0:49 This marriage is new to me as well. Not being taught by Sunni scholars where I live. I only been taught about Mutaah by the Shia, where a muslim can "marry" a woman for short period. Like 24 hour, lol.

[@Talktothehand.253]

I know sunnis who practise mutah also. Mostly women whose husbands work in saudi arabia or are divorced. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Slaw6602]

No diffrence

[@Sofasurfa]

At 5:20 he asks why is it always the woman that make sacrifices, it’s because the Islam is a religion made by men for men.

[@bensweiss]

Congratulations on the marriage! Wonderful news! This is heartbreaking as I think about my ex and other Muslim women.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Thank you!

[@Mr.PhatsVarietyVibesShow]

what an awful shame this is no mention of love, or romance ,or any of that fun stuff during this kind of dumb marriage... who ever came up with this dumb shame of a marriage doesn't understand women at all.....Sure it's fun to hook up on the weekend, but even that gets dull.. men & women in this kind of shame of a marriage ends up feeling lonely ..Yasir Qadhi in my opinion is an awful man..in my opinion he's just a gate keeper . Hardly any wisdom out of him.. I am better off getting marriage advice from my puppy.

[@MuftiMasala]

Yasir Qadhi said to think 'long and hard' about misyar marriage 😂

[@qasmb1546]

Mufti can you give us a fatwa on this.

[@MuftiMasala]

@@qasmb1546 150% halal

[@MadridBarcelonaRota]

I thought the harder it was the better it was. 😂🤣😂

[@goldie862]

​@@MadridBarcelonaRotaLong too! 🤣

[@Llp323]

But he doesn't dare say it's haram!!!!

[@MalikaRose2000]

“Spinsterhood” I hate this archaic, sexist term to describe unmarried women of any age. It brings to mind a barren, unhappy woman waiting for a man to rescue her from her involuntary celibacy!

[@jodawson5268]

Spinster is an occupation, young women who spun yarn.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

​@@jodawson5268???

[@jodawson5268]

@blueStarKitt7924 That's where the word comes from. Young unmarried women spun yarn on a spinning wheel. The word wife comes from the anglo saxon word wifenman " a weaver of cloth"although you won't find it in any modern dictionary but true non the less. Female occupations.

[@canusapak7535]

Congrats on getting married again Abdullah!!! 🎉🎉 ❤❤

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Thank you!

[@kenid4144]

@@FriendlyExmuslim Secular humanist version of Misyar...hope you got a Pre-nup this time around to seal your misyar?

[@illmeeillmee9373]

@@kenid4144 If a man requests a pre nup he shouldnt be married. He has a deep distrust and hate of women. Also, you have no place and no right to speak on a man's marital life. It's disrespectful to him and his wife. MEN do not play around when it comes to disrespect towards their wife. Mind your business.

[@annegreengables6367]

​@@kenid4144 prenuptial agreements also protect women. Women can protect their assets & income. If a low income woman marries a very wealthy man, the prenup includes spousal support based on the number of years married.

[@goldie862]

29:26: "Technically, it's halal...". No. It's halal. Period.

[@Tennyson999]

just sounds like a certain oldest profession in the world with extra steps

[@tinamenon1593]

Yes, not paying the worker! Basically theft!

[@1whitkat]

Any religion that doesn't respect half of its members isn't a worthwhile religion.

[@luciafaustina9360]

Aaah.... another great video! Listening to Yasir speaking about misyaar is just like watching him sugar-coating Islam to attract men to it. I'm wondering how the women see it. 😮😮😮

[@eddiebrugal8660]

Excellent work

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Thank you! Cheers!

[@Johnwick-wi8zw]

​@@FriendlyExmuslim thx for making humanity great again brother .

[@ThomasEdison-dd8ms]

@@FriendlyExmuslimI was in Bangkok as a Muslim once and all Thais told me these arab sheikhs come here do one night marriage and divorce in morning. They can just do with these girls without all these type of hooplas. I was so embarrassed I started studying led me to become an atheist

[@kenid4144]

​@@FriendlyExmuslim Good articulation of the situation, but your cognitive dissonance was so obvious when you alluded to the same situation in the Western society. You totally invalidated your morality argument.😢

[@majeromajero7330]

​@@ThomasEdison-dd8mssame in Indonesia - Puncak Area is a famous touristy spot for Arabs. They do contract marriages.

[@sadib100]

This is the problem when you let religion dictate morality. Laws should exist to protect people from religion.

[@wandering_circles7487]

If you let an awful religion dictate morality.. this is what happens.

[@goldie862]

I suspect that Yasir, having been forced to examine Islam through a western lens, left Islam in his heart some time ago but he, of all people, really wouldn't be able to be a public ex-Muslim. He would lose his livelihood and very possibly his life

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Possibly

[@wandering_circles7487]

Truth.

[@catherinehoward8128]

Seems like it's just Islam rebranding or renaming hooking up or cohabitating.

[@suga9875]

And prostitution

[@stillhere1425]

In “Ten Years Old-and Divorced!” the author describes a situation where her father takes a second wife and as a result neglects both families. She goes on to explain that her father sold her into marriage due to not having enough money to support his two wives and their children.

[@OzarksUSA]

Congrats on getting married.

[@donhue4546]

that was on aishas cot

[@Sofasurfa]

It’s a work around so a bloke can get his rocks off and Islam doesn’t care about the woman so long as a bloke gets what he wants. The hypocrisy of this religion is off the charts.

[@mjp-bi3re]

In the U.S., we call it friends with benefits.😊

[@kellycharif1526]

Just one of the many ways your society sucks.

[@jacstvofficial4490]

But this one comes without the benefit 😂 just sex and maybe occasional companionship.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

​@@kellycharif1526Of course....🙄😮‍💨

[@kellycharif1526]

@@blueStarKitt7924 hey……y’all have to live in it! 🤣

[@blueStarKitt7924]

@@kellycharif1526 Not at all, pal!🤣

[@nevergiveup9937]

Thank you very much for talking about this and I would like to add something more. Secret marriages are used to clean up statistics and give the impression that polygamy is way less common among Muslims than it actually is. It's definitely not only 1% of couples that experience that, like some argue. Just read an article on this topic and apparently in Germany it could be as high as 20-25% of Arab men that get a second wife. Usually the first wife knows nothing about it. It's very frustrating when I try to talk about it with Muslim women who don't want to admit how common this is, when every Muslim man has told me his father has two wives, or a relative, or a friend. In Egypt, this kind of marriage has been made formal and facilitated and it's called orfi, I guess because Hanafis don't always need the wali's permission. It's a sad situation 😞

[@nickelsworthmytencents393]

First comment on your channel you are wonderfully blessed and thank you for blessing us such good work on such important issues subscribed subscribed subscribed.

[@Talktothehand.253]

Without lies islam dies!!!!

[@sadib100]

10:46-10:52 "Islam doesn't allow men to go through the back door. They have to go through the front door." Heh.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

lol

[@MadridBarcelonaRota]

I thought Islam allowed a man to enter his fields any way he wanted.

[@Llp323]

🤣🤣🤣

[@donhue4546]

@@MadridBarcelonaRota 200 boy servants in jennah

[@TheMagnificentGman]

Just when you think the cult can't go any lower you learn about a new disappointment

[@UniteAgainstEvil]

Great video, thank you

[@nooralimran4643]

The first question that comes to mind is - is the 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife to be aware that she is entering a Misyar Marriage? If so, then that is a risk both parties have assumed before entering into this contract. If not, then that is exploitative indeed. The burden of disclosure should fall upon the man entering this arrangement. The second question I'd ask is, if the woman knowingly enters into a misyar marriage, is she taking the necessary precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy? Is the man taking precautions to prevent himself impregnating her?

[@nevergiveup9937]

It is exploitative even if she knows. Because she's only accepting this kind of marriage because of the limitations that this religion and culture impose on her. She might feel that nobody wants her for being too old, divorced, unattractive, etc. Or maybe she's got feelings for him, she wants to show she's understanding of the man's lack of financial capabilities and he uses her kindness against her.

[@alahatzaifat1872]

From what I understood of the video as well as I what I already knew... a true 2, 3 or 4th wife follow the rules of a nika marriage.... ie: they are not temporary, the husband must provide for all his wives etc..... whereas the misyaar 'marriage' is an excuse to get some on the side, from what I can tell.. even more disgusting than the nika version, if you ask me.

[@irkkauskali1009]

Thank You! You explained also this custom so good! I love Your peaceful way of talking about these matters! Thank You🌹

[@Andersljungberg]

In addition, it is stated that female circumcision is common in Egypt, there is information on it

[@RobespierreThePoof]

One minor point: Yes men and woman all want sex, love, companionship etc. It isn't as binary as he wants to make it out to be. However, there might still be some play of biological differences between men and women, when we are discussing something where (literally) hormones are invovled. Oxytocin, estrogen and testosterone do have a role to play in thnigs like libido. It isn't just a matter of gender socialization - not purely, anyways. obviously, that doesn't mean we need to cling to medeival ideas about gender when thinking about how we want a legal and social insitutition to work.

[@brotherben4357]

Quality content. Thank you.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Thanks Ben!

[@danyto]

This is a new one to me 😳 I knew of mutah marriage but not this one 😮

[@thetabletopskirmisher]

There are many Arabs who come to Indonesia and 'marry' local Muslim women. For several hours, days, weeks or months (depending on the man). Then, because divorce in Islam is so easy (just say 'I divorce you' 3 times) the man divorces the woman... With suitable monetary recompense. I leave you to draw your own conclusions as to what kind of arrangement that was.

[@Cristina6537]

What woman would agree to this non sense?

[@manulajo1803]

Brainwashed ones who believe this is from Allah

[@loloybaloloy4402]

hello and thanks brother

[@ereksa]

Muta Misyar etc. Same shit. Horrible practicies coming from horrible people stuck in 7th century Arabia...

[@julieponce3345]

Exactly

[@user-ng8bb9kz6x]

Think long and hard that is how my brother becomes long and hard this is what Yair meant..

[@luciafaustina9360]

I watched this a second time. Its mind boggling to know that such kind of marriage exists and it's so sickening to hear Yasir repeating (4 times) that it's technically halaaal but.... I think he tried to do it but the women he chose rejected him. If I were one of those women I would have rejected too cos he's not handsome enough to arouse me. I would rather have it with Abdullah!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Lol I'm married 💍

[@Slaw6602]

​@FriendlyExIt It does not matter.Your wife will never find out .After all it supposed to be secret

[@that_boi5551]

YOOO you're just gonna drop that info just like that? Congrats man on your marriage!

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Hahahaha

[@that_boi5551]

@@FriendlyExmuslim May the years ahead be filled with lasting joy.

[@that_boi5551]

@@FriendlyExmuslim Im new here and was basically binge watching you for the last few days, amazing channel. Forgot to subscribe, just rectified my mistake just now.

[@luciafaustina9360]

​@@FriendlyExmuslimI have been following your channel since COVID. Being Asian, I struggled to understand what you were saying cos of your accent but now I'm so used already. Your ex-wife was still Muslim, right?

[@BadKarma108]

Chickens defending KFC 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@matthenley3886]

30:50 Why has this practice been deemed halal if in most cases it ends badly. If Islam is perfect and Allah knows best why would it be allowed?

[@razamughal4582]

Easy. Misyar is a marriage that BENEFITS THE WOMAN. Islam always puts the woman first thats why the FACT is that more women are converting to islam than men 🤣

[@yyc246]

Exactly. This is not beneficial to the women & it only leaves to more heart break and mental instability. Islam is supposed to be protecting women but the things I hear about Islam is very biased towards women.

[@qasmb1546]

Wow. Alhamdulila for Islam. As a man.

[@tigrayplea5385]

shame on you, what about your mother , sistet, daughter and antis

[@qasmb1546]

@@tigrayplea5385 We loveAllah and mohammad more.

[@animebros9214]

@@tigrayplea5385 he was probably being sarcastic

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Don't think so

[@TENGRI-101]

​@@tigrayplea5385 He's an ex and this is sarcasm

[@MuftiMasala]

Where can I sign up for a misyar marriage?

[@kenid4144]

Are you Andrew Tate😅?

[@helenisaac3576]

I cannot understand Yasir Qadi. Muslim scholars are supposed to be secretive about the flaws of Islam. Yet this man reveals it all and he is not harmed by the militant muslims😂 In Malaysia this practiced widely by the royalties and the wealthy Muslims.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Oh interesting. Not just Saudis

[@helenisaac3576]

@@FriendlyExmuslim no not just the Saudis. The Brunei royalties practice this too.

[@razamughal4582]

There are NO flaws. Oopsie……

[@vibes6255]

Muslim scholars are not meant to be secretive lol they are meant to guide and solve issues. Obviously there are corrupt ones but thankfully yasir says it how it is

[@user-rt4ys8wl3d]

In Malaysia, the Muslim in PAS control area, it is common. It is also very common among the rich Malay elites. Misyar & Muntah are common among the sultans & royalties.

[@generalali7609]

I think he is making a very good point right here. 24:51 . You know people in the west get married and stay married for reasons that aren’t about love and care. For example, a green card. Now the government might reject the green card application if the find out but they won’t nullify the marriage.

[@franciscarodrigues1516]

Woman depending isalm like chicken depending Kfc.

[@debrawehrly6900]

Does the man leave money on the night table?

[@Lexer584]

Thank you for your comments, I agree with everything you say. Greetings from Germany.

[@generalali7609]

Be fair, some scholars also say that this type of marriage is wrong. 12:00

[@Slaw6602]

But I ender what Allah says about it

[@tigrayplea5385]

😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥 because you would not allow the women to go out and met men when thw are young , what a shame.

[@goldie862]

19:18: But if he gave her one of the other many versions of the Quran that she didn't already have, that could be a gift...oh wait, no...then she might find out that the Quran actually has NOT been preserved. Not even close

[@anastasia10017]

what is the difference between misyar and the muslim temporary marriage ? The mullahs in Iran make a lot of extra cash handing out temporary marriage certificates.

[@FriendlyExmuslim]

Explained in the video 😏

[@Earthling108]

Well I get where they are coming from actually. There is a website called Ashley Madison. The guy who started it said that the whole point of it is so that a person can be release their need to be sexual without breaking apart their family. Basically lets not have a marriage fall apart due to boring sex or no sex. As a woman I clearly would not accept this but I guess when both partners are in agreement it would make sense. But I do not think either Ashely Madison or Misyar marriages believe in being open about it with the previous or original spouse. It COULD be marriage saving but I bet it is extremely rare. And you are correct, the whole bullshit and mental gymnastics about making it halal because it worked at the time. A man of God defending this shit doesn't make sense. Also Islamic people detesting hook up culture in the West and defending this bullshit is fucked up. Like wtf in this situation its not single people hooking up this time a life of a married person is involved. I like that you brought up. Can women do this??? HMMMMMMMM

[@donndelfin1312]

as an outsider my question do the men that uses Misyar Marriages do men need to court the women? or how do they get to have both parties agree for this type of marriage.

[@sanghakado]

Thank you

[@diana-cy4kj]

“Spinsterhood is increasing” 😂😂😂

[@raijinhatake6558]

9:40 😐 never thought I would hear this from a women , complete blew me away

[@nc0849]

In the West a wedding ring is the official sign that the couples are married, and it means from that point they are both entitled to 50/50 of the combined assets.

[@vister6757]

Unfortunately, many muslim women are taught to accept the fact that men can practise polygamy, must satisfy the husband lust even when the wife doesn't feel like having intimacy, etc. I know many muslim women are like this because my muslim friends told me so. In my country there are many issues with divorced muslim women (were formerly married legally) couldn't get alimony from their husbands. Sure they could complain to the syariah court but it will still take a long time for them to get the case heard / get the alimony.

[@crossroadsoffaith411]

Wow .. this is so sad .. seems like Muslim men really think that they are simply incapable of monogamy .. it's almost as if it was all made up by a really horny dude .. thanks for making a video about this, it needs to be talked about more often!

[@YEY0806]

Muhammad was just trying to justify his harem kink, then accidentally made a religion

[@janicepanton5976]

Friendly Exmuslim, you are a sweet man. Your wife must be happy.

[@tkling5909]

congratulation on your marriage Mr. Sameer!

[@ImysAcer]

I read somewhere that in Misyar marriages you can’t have children, is this correct?

[@truecrimeallofthetime]

You absolutely can have children. Its just going to end badly for the woman since it only works out 10% of the time.

[@nc0849]

It's nobel of you to bring up this issue

[@caroliner2029]

A woman of good character and self-esteem would never get involved in being a secret s-x object, and be the side piece. She would feel sad thinking about the wife being cheated on and betrayed because SHE would h@te to have that done to her. She'd feel very guilty for the betrayal of the little children of the real marriage, and what if she became pregnant and had no father for her children? They'd be brought up in sadness and shame, and feel second best. It's cruel, and she wouldn't do it. I wouldn't do it. It's a fast track to depression and anxiety.

[@maheshramouthar7103]

Please check the meaning of Nikah and you will be surprised

[@duaneelliott5194]

This is a culture issue as well.

[@mysotiras21]

I doubt that there could be a "bright" side to misyar marriages. Just saying.

[@michelleg7]

Let's just be honest that this is real abuse using religion to further their means and try to get around this crap and as you said extortion. This is really gross and I just want to add that a muslim man with a non muslim girlfriend can say that she is my slave will use that and can that as a loop hole in muslim law. But any muslim woman cannot ever be enslaved by another muslim. That idea of what these guys are doing is disgusting period. I am glad at least the muftis are telling the women to not agree to it at least and are not promoting it either.

[@silviahannak3213]

Because it's on the Family. It's not possible to be independent, they can't flee. If they do they face hardship. Muss brauch after Misuse.

[@ramintaelba1107]

The secret married in most cases is not between two people, that’s why is a secret. There is a first wife who suffers the most when the truth comes out and sometimes is not come out with the evidence ,but the first wife know that something is going on, the husband denies and call her crazy, until she actually become crazy from this situation.

[@jachet7462]

@10:30 they pretty much saying sin and hope for the best?

[@cinnamongirl5410]

''shagging papers", os how I heard those marriages described. Which then they need to look up what ''marriage" actually means in Islam.

[@martiansarepunk]

😮Exploiting vulnerable women for personal gain, say it ain't so.😢

[@elizabethgeorge4708]

Worse than misyar is ORFI. عرفي. It’s very popular in most Arab countries especially Egypt.

[@nevergiveup9937]

They're basically the same thing. Orfi is when misyar marriages are given more recognition by the state.

[@skontheroad]

"How does it benefit women?" (Assuming he is NOT treating her as a slave!) He asks as if it is something negative..... Don't assume how ALL men and women think! Not all women want to cuddle after......

[@user-qo3in4qy4u]

Listening to these kind of disingenuous practices, and there are so many of them, it is a tad difficult to believe that this is actually a religion which claims to be the last and final word of God. What kind of God? What kind of spirituality? What is their path to salvation if most things they believe in are disingenuous?

[@KM-zn3lx]

I like the fact two Arab men are saying this us abusive to women!

[@generalali7609]

It’s like a tax loop hole. Or other loop holes in laws. Yes it is wrong but it is very difficult to legislate against because of the principles around it. This isn’t unique to Islam. As you can see it is disliked and discouraged but unfortunately or fortunately we have the freedoms to make bad decisions.