The Deeper Meaning of the 8th House in the Natal Chart

Evolutionary Astrologer, Energy Worker, and Channel Tom Jacobs (tdjacobs.com and healingsuicide.com) explains how to live with a planet in the natal 8th house.
The deeper meaning of the 8th house in this video is meant to help you cease feeling victimized or powerless when 8th house-type things are triggered.
Tom also offers a way to understand the under-the-surface dynamics between people in trust-based, intimate, and/or romantic/sexual relationships.
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[@myfragilelilac]

Sun, venus, mercury, saturn, neptune, uranus. 6 house stellium in the 8th house. Moon in the 12th house. Such a deep sad poetic soul of mine. I almost feel sorry for it. Haha🖤🥀

[@debbiepeluso]

Absolutely incredible presentation on the 8th house!! I have my Sun in the 8th, and the 8th house has always confused me. I understand on the surface what it entails (cookie-cutter interpretations), but never have I understood it to this level. So incredibly spot on. Thank you so very much. I love your videos. You present things in a very relatable way.

[@cefrench7106]

I have pluto, jupiter and mars in the 8th. I have a life long theme of betrayal, abandonment, gaslighting. I have become so hesitant making friendships. I have become skeptical. I do, like you say, seem to attract these kinds of situations. Not heard of this 8th house context before. I have long wondered what this meant. Thanks for the enlightenment.

[@stepha1390]

This is really spot on for me and especially this past year when I started dealing with childhood trauma. I’m just learning about Lilith and her placement in my 8th house really makes sense. Lilith is Conjunct Mars in the 8th. It’s explaining so much. I really appreciate your positivity. I have survived many traumas and have been lucky enough to grow tremendously as a result. I refuse to let the pain be for naught.

[@shylowheniwasyoung6323]

I'm doing my happy dance... thank you so much for the confirmation that the process I've been going through is valid!!

[@HappinessTheBrand]

Thank you! Learning this now. Loving people is scary! Lol I call it becoming Plutonian royalty. 👸🏾 Cancer Moon in the 8th. Surrender - Process the 'betrayls' - Move on to higher, better.

[@ethereal-synchronicity-444]

Never been thrilled about the ‘dependant’ nature of the 8th House as trusting others generally works out as you describe...”being burnt alive” but the way my natal is set up it seems I’ve no choice but to embrace it. I wonder what my guides will have to say to me via your channel? My Chiron and BML aspects are ‘interesting’ to say the least. You’re in select list people I’d like personal consultation with. Thank you Tom, you’re an absolute gem of information!

[@mlartlife2103]

I just found your channel and am blown away by your knowledge and insight.

[@AstrologyBliss]

You’re amazing. I started sharing this video before I was halfway lol. Thank you❤️

[@adriennesuydam791]

I feel like you’ve just dictated my life in 29 minutes.

[@CrazeeBootiful]

Can you do a video on north node in the 8th house? or Pisces in the 8th? I really like your insights in astrology. It resonate with me, so thank you!

[@dorianmorgenstern1267]

I love your videos. I finished your book recently about Lilith. wish you the best from Mexico. If there is some insight about having the sun in the 8th? 😇😮

[@shylowheniwasyoung6323]

Got comfortable sitting at the bottom of the pool until I see the light from where I AM.. and Beauty others don't see..and suddenly understanding becoming a certified Life gaurd at 12 applies now at 45

[@Tara-mm2se]

Sun and mercury here.. Some how I have been figuring the theme to this house on my own.. I keep having these lightbulb moments despite the gaslighting moments.. lol. Thank you for your time and the info.

[@JanetGrim]

Hi Tom....You are such a great teacher!!! I love this, the way you explained this house I've had so many aweha moments things suddenly become crystal clear, I had my chrion return in pieces and it has wopped my behind yikes and then the nodes shifting into my sign wow!. The inner child stuff is 8th house? After listening to this I connected the dots!!! ❤♋ Thank you Thank you!

[@denise73159]

💕My aspect must be difficult. It shows I have Hades in the 8th house in Aquarius. I don't know what it means but I'm assuming it's a placement where similarly to what you're talking about it's a placement where we're sensitive and can be easily triggered. I know that I could be really triggered in my anger in the past but I've gotten better as I've gotten away from toxic people. I also loved what you said at 16:13 that if I trigger someone or vice versa they still don't have the right to blame, shame, or disrespect me or vice versa. That's so true. I think more people in the world need to learn this knowledge so they'll be less hurt, shame, humiliation, blame, and abuse in this world. Because that's where all the abuse starts...it's when someone is triggered. The worse case scenario happens when you didn't even know that you've triggered someone.💕

[@KathrynDavison]

I love what you are talking about here, and had a few rounds with my son, who also said, "you can't throw your anger and resentment on me." And my response was, I'm not throwing it ON you. It's just an expression of what our history has been. So let's put that shit on the fence between us and grow roses, but let's be honest about what is going on. So... that is my disagreement with the pluto-libra generation, who think that anyone who expresses their feelings or speaks of how they were affected, is "dumping" on the other. We don't say, oh, don't throw that positive expression onto me. So...it's a way of hiding from uncomfortable feelings..., or don't want to connect dots. (Ahem, I have a packed eighth house). Anyway, I welcome your input b/c I honestly have the eighth house bias of getting to the bottom of someone's needs or operating system in order to avoid hurting them in future...Make sense?

[@TomJacobsAstro]

That's a good point about Pluto in Libra people. One of the worst things for us is to feel blamed by others, or be framed as the bad guy. Also what goes with it is sometimes an aversion to own up to our own behaviors, because then that would sometimes be admitting that we're not doing everything right. There is in some of us (I'm in that subgeneration, too) an almost desperate need to be liked, as the deepest Plutonian pain is in not being liked or likeable. So we are projectors and dumpers ... and super hair-trigger sensitive to even the remote appearance, the suggestion or whiff, of it in others. I like your thing here: So let's put that shit on the fence between us and grow roses, but let's be honest about what is going on.

[@aerakyn]

my sun moon venus lilith and chiron are all in the 8th house. certainly isnt a fun time lmao

[@KristiesLexicon]

Pluto, Saturn and South node is hanging out in my 8th house. Thanks for the video, love your work.

[@theresaheyer537]

so i have the sun and mercury in the 8th house,capricorn.now pluto and saturn are there as well....i'm thinking only me can know what's going on,and only me can grow with it.....lovely.....used to feel terrible...am very happy now did a 180 i believe.thanks for clarification.safety has too much bull attached to it.it is all good....in the big picture ALL is good.

[@100woodywu]

Great vid and interesting depth of 8th house I haven't come across. I have Mars in Sagittarius 8th house. I am easy going so people have taken advantage of me on so many occasions. When I first looked into my natal chart I noticed I have moon in Capricorn which explained my subdued nature , the moon can't fully express itself and I felt my Capricorn moon made things difficult for me at times. Now I've seen other aspects as 8th + Saturn in 12th Aries and possibly even Mercury in 7th Scorpio can be a challenge.

[@muschio7]

Wow this is so helpful. I appriciate your sharings so much, thank you For caring so deeply to shine some light in this 💫

[@babypiano28]

Thank you so much for your insights. I have my Moon, Venus and Pluto in the 8th house, North node is in Scorpio in the 9th and Uranus in Scorpio in the 9th. I'm 43 and it has been a struggle to balance my 8th house relationships. I've come to a place of understanding and love and forgiveness as to why men leave me. I transform myself and gain some knowledge of my place and their place in my life after every relationship. But it still hurts every time.

[@chrisdenchal8396]

8th house stellium. Mars Neptune Chiron Venus and Jupiter. chart ruler Neptune. afraid of intimacy for sure. Avoided relationships due to heartbreak and disappointment and became celibate. .

[@TomJacobsAstro]

I understand. Just know that it's not how it has to be, but there's healing of the past hurts wanting to take place. Remember that all things can be healed ... and that you in fact are already stronger than that pain. Have you seen/played with the grounding meditation linked from my homepage? It can help with getting started, and clearing out others' energies, which may be an issue for a person with such a stellium. On tdjacobs.com, look for the forest trail pic. It's 13 minutes, a free download. It's great for beginning to learn to work with one's own energy field intentionally, as with the 8th house planets, it might at times (esp. with Neptune there) feel like you're pulled this way and that by others' energies. Be well, Tom

[@speladolenc1275]

really good video. i have venus in 8th and its true

[@vickivixen5882]

North node, part of fortune, true node, Chiron and hades astroid in the 8th house

[@chrisdenchal8396]

you have only one node... and Asteroids dont count. So North Node, Chiron and Part of Fortune are valid even though they are not planets.

[@vickivixen5882]

And vertex

[@adiaphorous9]

Pluto in scorpio in the 8th house here

[@shinawright]

Jupiter & Venus in 8th house in Scorpio. Oh boy!

[@shylowheniwasyoung6323]

Meanwhile every one claiming to be helping to help you heal yourself.. Throw words like Co dependant and claim it has to be done in solitude.. It wasn't till I said fuck that I need this.. I couldn't see myself until I saw myself threw their eyes..

[@americanwoman3267]

Geez....I have Pluto and Jupiter conjunct in the 8th in Leo. Sheesh....I have a lot of soul searching to do. I trust no one.....my antenna are always up!

[@monicadimperio]

Gaslighting and vulnerability have been big themes of my life. Mars, Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn - any more insight Tom??

[@loriderick]

Great video. Any thoughts on Sun\moon midpoint and vertex and part of fortune in 8th?

[@chrisdenchal8396]

sun moon midpoint does not mean much.. We take the planets separately and look at their aspects. always the whole chart has to be looked at.

[@Symbolsysteme]

Hi Tom, would you like to make a video one day or speak on Sound Cloud about your experiences with Merlin? I never felt a connection to Merlin, but since I work with the asteroid Merlin, I had some interesting experiences with Merlin, esp. during this Mercury R-Phase, because Mercury stationed and retrograded on my Merlin in Leo. Also my mothers and fathers Pluto conjuncts my Merlin and they were both "magicians" in their own weird way.

[@offroadfilms]

thank you so much Tom

[@beckyb1728]

I have my moon in Cancer in the 8th I am the Phoenix. And it is not fun...

[@chrisdenchal8396]

you could be a good medium and communicate with family passed over.

[@ellenkate444]

Venus at 26° Cap in the 8th. Thank you, Tom 🙏🏻🌹

[@Eatshit.die-]

I feel like i just got read tf down i have an 8th house stellium

[@ellenkate444]

And asteroid Psyche at 22°37’ Cap (8 min from the 2020 Saturn/Pluto point) 😳🤪

[@andreachung396]

I need to do a reading with you. I have sun moon and mercury in the 8th house.....fml

[@fairuzthehealer638]

Good explanation of Pluto in the 12th house Libra.(For Scorpio ascendant) Now, I understood why those guys "submissive " /surrendered/ chained/ slave" to their sexual desires/ partners and therefore " out of control of their lives."..

[@kagev2]

Please do 12 house next

[@TomJacobsAstro]

Hi Jose--check out audio files on SoundCloud on the 12th house, notably the first two in this list--because I've done those, I might not do a video on it anytime soon: soundcloud.com/search?q=jacobs%2012th%20house

[@ToThoseWhoVanished]

I have been there

[@fingerprint5511]

I have taurus in 8th with Saturn in 8th ... F UN... Also a scorpio moon elsewhere. Pluto 12th.

[@joseph9302]

Just got my birth certificate and i had to correct my time, my sun and Lilith are conjunct in the 12th, and i got moon and Saturn in aries conjunct in the 8th, i guess I’m not fully living in reality😭

[@TomJacobsAstro]

OR--you're living in several realities at once. That can happen in the 12th. And from the outside, the person looks lost or floating away.

[@joseph9302]

Tom Jacobs crazy you say that because, as a gay male, I’ve had multiple men I’ve incountered, that i felt were me in an alternate reality if that makes sense, and also my mom and a couple of people around me have said that I’ll die early. I’m low key scared but at the same time earth isn’t all that great so Its not too bad