The Demons of Childhood Trauma | Aaron Stark | EP 405

[@aaronstarkauthor]

Hello everybody. I am the guy in the video. If you have any questions ill try to answer them. Im a regular guy, i work full time at a gas station in denver, and try to speak as much as possible to stop other people from becoming another Me. Thanks for listening

[@aaronstarkauthor]

@@AFringedGentian hug accepted 🙂 nice to meet you

[@seanfitzgerald4207]

Thank you very much for bringing your story to JBP's platform/audience. this is so important to understand root causes of pain that can lead to the darkest states of mind and actions (hugs)

[@2Planked]

Have you wrote a book ?

[@FinnyC]

​@@AFringedGentian Keep being a wonderful person :) Your positivity is beautiful!

[@merrick8000]

Cheers man.

[@jessesavage9363]

I wish Dr. Peterson would do more interviews like this where he psychoanalyzes people. I know politics is important, but I learn a whole lot more in these kinds of interviews.

[@Wingedmagician]

yeah but the guest has got to be good like this one. trauma dumps are not always this well spoken.

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@Wingedmagician The guest has got to be "good"? What does that even mean? Useless reply

[@barrow_3490]

@@piquedcommenter6252 That the guess is well spoken and can follow Jordan's thoughts. The guest can handle the pressure speaking knowing millions will see the raw underbelly of their trauma. I believe your comment insulting someone else for suggesting most therapy sessions are not this articulate is less useful.

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@barrow_3490 I wasn't "insulting" him, I was "insulting" the reply, just like I"m going to insult yours: What a worthless reply on your part. You're not the OP, thus you don't know what he was thinking, so your reply was completely pointless. It's up to OP to articulate what he meant, so "I believe" that you should just sod off mate lol

[@suzikirby1973]

Me,too

[@zachcostello_]

“I’m the one that broke the cycle.” You are the man, Aaron. You’ve made the world a better place because of your life. This is a great interview and very inspiring. To Mike, a single act of love literally can change the world. Well done.

[@EncourageLegacy]

Right. And if his family members, individually parted from their toxicity, I don't doubt to believe Aaron could have an impact similar to Mike's. But they were lost in their hell self-chosen, and continued the cycle. Love is best communicated individually.

[@glassytea3315]

Yay, Mike!!!!🎉

[@chrisklaeffling1]

Very inspiring and I fully applaud Aaron Stark. Also thank you Dr. Jordan Peterson!

[@Solitaire427]

I was hooping and hollering after he said that!

[@vaughncassidy5242]

Like Jordan has said, “People need so little encouragement to keep going.” to someone reading this: you either are the person that needs that little encouragement, or you are one of the thousands of people that have inadvertently given someone a new chance at life by saying hello, holding the door open for someone, or just saying, thank you. Keep it up.

[@andresd.4593]

this is a great advice to follow, another good one is from iroh from the avatar series when a dude trues to rob him"while it is always best to believe in oneself, a little help from others can be a great blessing"

[@annasmith5908]

Jordan Peterson needs to stop interrupting, pay attention and let the man speak

[@Technical_Tek]

This is the mindset everyone needs

[@confident-communication]

Who else wants to tell Dr Peterson " Thank you" for this interview and Arron "Thank you" for the courage of opening up and allowing us to learn from his life!

[@Jest_Jesse]

I just thanked Aaron under his comment. This was an excellent conversation in my opinion!

[@scapps8173]

AMEN.....and God Bless them both for the help they give others.

[@jazflanagan8693]

Aaron is my old boss at the store I transferred from, he was a great boss and a hell of a guy!

[@MargieDougherty]

Yes indeed! Thank you both for making this happen!

[@metalted6128]

What?? The guest gives speeches about his life. It’s what he does. You are exactly what is wrong with society. Pay attention to the details. I was shocked at your comment.

[@MarioTsota]

I got emotional listening to how supportive Mike was and how he stopped 2 tragedies from occurring. Goes to show what a loyal friend can do for you.

[@NoahPreston-cd9yw]

Amen same

[@alev4287]

Proverbs 17:17

[@Unt0t]

Reminds me of Samwise Gamgee

[@blackananaas]

And « funny » to think what a bad friend can do for you…

[@jenniferrosolinovonstoops6683]

Amen, I was moved in the deepest way and cried my way through that part of Aaron's story. Everyone: be a Mike. Be an Amber. Be the hands and feet of Christ. We can each do that.

[@activatekruger446]

We treat people like monsters, and then act shocked when people behave monstrously.

[@SalvationIsInChristAlone]

It’s a sin issue. Plenty of people who’ve had good fortune who do terrible things in spite of it.

[@anewwaveanewbeginning3606]

Yh but some are just natural born monsters trust me

[@AnonymousProPublicaHakr]

Don’t help that people are rage baited these days more than ever -

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

Yeah. Most people simply reflect how they have been treated.

[@DouglasLippi]

Who's "we"?

[@ArnoldSig]

Mike is a real life superhero. Goes to show how it's the quality of friendship not quantity that matters. And undoubtedly congratulations to Mike's parents for raising a kind and emphatic child... Mike basically saved a dozen high school kids lives including Aaron's.

[@Kate-it7cn]

In fact “ quality” could go down when quantity goes up.

[@metalted6128]

A superhero??? Growing up to be an adult. Stop being a troublemaker. That’s what it’s supposed to happen. You are putting overcoming, tough life. On a pedestal. That’s should be normal behavior.

[@ArnoldSig]

@@metalted6128 I don't think you watched the video.

[@bankgotbeats3359]

This just means dude can snap at anytime just like most humans

[@donovanwilliams5424]

" A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down just to feel its warmth". My childhood was similar in many ways to his upbringing (even if it was in a much less violent and psychotic way). I can really relate and it breaks my heart to hear him and I can even see myself separately as that child who was bullied and hated at school for being different. I recognize that I could have easily gone down a dark road myself. If they hate me, I might as well give them a reason. After I got to high school and got to "start over", I "became" a very different person. I never forgot what it felt like to be shunned for being different. I always reached out to those who were considered "weird". They were some of the nicest, most intelligent people ever. More importantly, they were people with feelings and needs. No different than anyone else. Please keep that in mind throughout life. Everyone is human and need to feel like they matter.

[@horsymandias-ur]

What is that quote from?

[@Kelli-ru7yy]

All my life I did this. Just treated people nice. Because as a young kid I was ugly and different. But as a teen and adult I became "hot." This made me just treat everyone the same, with respect. Plus the real Christians in my life taught me this. Didn't matter if I was punk, rap, goth, prep. I was treated the same with respect and love by these Christians.

[@kishdom282]

A "MALE" child because of its co dependent nature, fragility and testosterone driven NATURE. Biologically and neurologically violent and aggressive. Women giving birth to xys is a complete disaster not knowing the science behind THEIR existence 😏

[@IloveJesus777j77]

​@@horsymandias-urJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

[@IloveJesus777j77]

​@@Kelli-ru7yyJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.For it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].😊❤

[@justmadeit2]

Life really can be hard at times and that’s an understatement. I’m 49 and I still feel lost.

[@leivaisabelcontreras538]

Te mando un Abrazi🫂❤️ Entiendo como te sientes.

[@MissKAllDay]

The self awareness of this man (Aaron Starks) is absolutely astounding. Amazing. Keep up the good work and helping men in this world, sir.

[@henrythegreatamerican8136]

While I believe he went through a lot of hardships as a child, I think he comes across as someone who likes to embellish situations and overdramatize the truths in his life. He did say he liked to read a lot and was into art and fantasy as a kid. That pretty much tells me a lot of his childhood story was overexaggerated.

[@ALMMF]

@@henrythegreatamerican8136I agree

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@henrythegreatamerican8136 So, reading a lot automatically translates to him exaggerating his story? You don't know the guy at all. Worthless comment

[@4DramaticEffect]

@@henrythegreatamerican8136He has no need to embellish, find a different video to spread BS

[@henrythegreatamerican8136]

@@4DramaticEffect His body language comes across that way. No need to spread BS. People do crap like that all the time.

[@claudiap.6838]

I love Jordan videos the best where he is interviewing like a psychologist and the other person answers like a patient.

[@HaveAHuff]

​@@moleenamountainlionIs there a specific way patients have to answer questions?

[@HaveAHuff]

@@moleenamountainlion Maybe you should have said that then.

[@bryandyer5454]

​@@HaveAHuffWith honesty. Nothing else in particular.

[@theSemiChrist]

​@@HaveAHuffMaybe instead of like an authority on a topic? Don't be disingenuous.

[@jonathanmarkham1998]

Yep. It’s usually the other way around.

[@ridgerocked2254]

Mike's a hero. As a middle school teacher, I find this very helpful and inspiring. Thank you both for this.

[@spartanmanti622]

Don't be the teacher that stands there and does nothing. Please don't.

[@thinkingthoughts83]

My only friend in the world since I was a child died a little bit ago. His childhood and upbringing was a lot like Arron's. During his funeral, his friends and family that he developed in his later years said to me he wouldn't have survived if it wasn't for me (his "Mike"). While hearing all this, I couldn't help to think how he got me through the dark times during my youth and that I wouldn't be here if he hadn't treated me as a person, much less a friend.

[@evemaria37]

❤

[@alanna4520]

So sorry to hear about your friend. Glad you got to have a friend like him though.

[@Braptist]

I can't stress enough how valuable it is to put a conversation like this online, thank you Aaron and dr. Peterson

[@gitrekt-gudson]

This brought me to tears. My childhood wasn't nearly as hellish, but it was a nightmare still and I can relate deeply. Even now at 38 I still struggle. I won't speak to my parents. Same as Aaron said near the end, I took the examples set by my parents and decided to do the opposite when I became a father. I am married for 20 years and have a 12 year old and a 2 year old and they're a couple of amazing boys.

[@areacode3816]

Yeah same. Not as crazy, not as constant but still one trauma after another. There is a much larger epidemic of this than the world knows. I honestly wonder if it is the root cause of most women's attraction to dark triad personalities. CPTSD is a recent diagnosed mental disorder. Starting to control it changed my life. The trauma broke my mind. At 44 I'm still alone, but God literally saved me and in turn I use my broken state to help others. I'm glad you were able to get past it. Peace to you and yours.

[@ShivaKumar-pg4ft]

Proud of you brother. Mine wasn't as bad obviously. But I had the full gamut, drunk father, him abusing my mother. Although he rarely hit us. Anyways I can sort of relate. And I'm so proud that you are turning out to be an amazing father. To becoming the best fathers we can be and breaking the cycle!!! 🥂

[@hoobyhoo]

I cried hard, too. Sad and glad tears. Thank God his children will be ok and he is the reason!

[@westcoastlass]

Good job for stopping the cycle.

[@creativecraving]

If the buck stops with you, then you're one of the most influential persons among your peers. Best of luck on your new life and good adventure!

[@jessemockler616]

This definitely increased my self worth. I never had it so bad as this guy. I always knew i didn't have the hardest life of many ppl, but some how still got stuck with feeling worthless. This felt like therapy. Thanks Doctor Peterson and thank you Aaron.

[@ebruvurket]

Exactly what Dr Peterson wanted with this interview 🙂👍

[@EncourageLegacy]

I do not think he had an agenda. This was authentic. This was genuine. He really just listened. And asked good questions. For Aaron to show what he's made of, after all. Good man.

[@frans7399]

Really found this conversation beautiful. Thank you both. He handled life well. Thank you Mike, you are a sign from God. Lord, have mercy on us.

[@MattSmithMidwest]

This was so heavy, but so good. Simple acts of kindness can have such a huge impact on others. I am humbled by this man's story.

[@missnellaful]

Have you Matt or Dr. Peterson considered evaluating Singer Burton Lorne Cummings as a candidate for a psychotic patient for any program for a candidate for your program? He stole my home in Otter, Wisconsin township finally in 2014. He was a stalker and had been stalking my family for over 3 years. We lost our home and he took our land, he is a greatly desterburbed human, and refuses to leave our family alone. He is a very aggressive man. We are willing to press charges against him. It’s horrific.”situation.

[@JakeKaufman-k1k]

He listens, he presses, he’s empathetic, he’s cautionary. A true intellectual helper showing what a career of help can do in terms of a conversation. Thank you Dr. Peterson.

[@MicahBratt]

Great reminder that we can fundamentally change the course of someone's life for the better with a small act of kindness, even though it may seem insignificant.

[@lynx1357-f3c]

You referred to yourself as regular guy Aaron, but you are a walking miracle. People who haven't had to go to those incredibly emotional, deep dark and painful places have no idea how courageous you are for doing so, and I have nothing but respect for you, not only in doing so but for sharing your story with the world in such a public manner. Your work is not done my friend. Thank you!

[@aaronstarkauthor]

Thank you very much I really appreciate that

[@EncourageLegacy]

Nailed it with this comment. I mean, walking miracle is only one to me ever. Yet, there were good deeds of Him throughout moments of Aaron's story. Aaron is certainly a bright light in our World. I'm happy that he exists. He refused to tolerate being the eternal victim and instead took his blessings, in the little moments of light he eventually decided to reflect himself. Thank you, Aaron. You're making a difference here.

[@KorriTimigan]

I have lived a good life, loving family, good friends, all that jazz. But I have been in that self-destructive mode, and I know what it feels like to be empty and to be ready to end my life. Hearing Aaron talk about that birthday party which changed his mind actually brought me to tears. I had my plan one year to end my life (also via overdose, funnily enough) in October, then less than a week away from my planned date of death I had written and printed my suicide notes, I had left instructions for who got my belongings, I had even pressed my suit and my favourite tie and left it out so it could be used for my funeral. I was ready. Then my best friend and housemate invited me to his birthday party, a trip away to take place in mid November. He was excited, only his closest two or three people were going, and he made it clear that I was one of those people. And suddenly I couldn't do it, I couldn't ruin his party by killing myself, so I postponed it. But mid-November was too close to the holiday season and that would spoil it for my family, and I didn't want to do that to them, so it was postponed again. Then again, then again. Very slowly I worked my way out of the pit, until now I have a good life and a woman I'm going to marry, and that self-destruction is far behind me. All it took was a friend simply treating me as a friend.

[@micdrop-jh3pf]

Wow. Thank you for sharing your powerful story with us.

[@punjab135]

It's crazy how little of that is out there hey. Feels like you're taking on the world stepping outside your front door atm. Gotta find the others I suppose.

[@jeanniepiller3421]

Did you ever tell your friend that him inviting you on that trip is what ended up saving your life?

[@autumnleaves2766]

Great to hear that you have turned your life around, well done. At 42 years of age I had a half-hearted suicide attempt, with notes written out, pain killers taken etc, but I chickened out, mainly because I knew that it would have had a devastating effect on my parents and siblings, who would probably be left blaming themselves. Seventeen years later, I feel much better and much of that is thanks to reading the two 12 Rules For Life books by Dr Peterson earlier this year. Creative activity has also helped me greatly over the years, be it playing jazz piano, composing piano pieces and doing artwork too. Have even tried creative writing in the past too, but that is much harder to get just right of course. Aaron was so interesting to listen to, what a remarkable man.

[@KorriTimigan]

@@autumnleaves2766 We must never understate the importance of loved ones. You and I didn't follow through with a terrible, tragic act because we didn't want to hurt the people we loved. But even then it was a close call for me, and my self-loathing almost overwhelmed that feeling of shame and guilt at the thought of causing distress to them. In many cases they will never know they played that role, and it may be that we have played it for others and don't know. I'm really glad you're doing well!

[@eclipsearts3398]

It's scary how Aarons symptoms, thoughts, feelings and experiences match with mine growing up. It's good to hear him speak about it as someone being affected by a traumatic upbringing. It approves that what I experienced is real, so are my feelings and my pain. Great conversation, i love hearing Jordan reflect on Aarons experience. Clearly he listens and connects the dots really well. I wish I could have a talk with him too one day!

[@somecallmetim46]

Beyond fascinating. Dr. Peterson's ability to unpack such profound trauma is phenomenal. Mr. Stark's childhood would be terrifying to experience even for many criminals. The fact that he had a turnaround is nothing short of a miracle.

[@frspyridonpapavasileiou2649]

How can we ever thank God enough for you Jordan!!! Providing antidotes to the darkness by reaching out to the people that have managed to recover from trauma!!! It takes both genius, and a loving heart!!! So hard to get both!!!! Thank you!!!

[@zoezzzarko1117]

❤ By PAYING KINDNESS FORWARD EVERY DAY IN ... YOUR LIFE !! To keep helping all OF TODAY'S victims to become SURVIVORS !!! And thrive like AARON !! Thats HOW !! 🔥🧡💜❤💛💛🔥💜💜💜💜❤🧡❤❤❤❤💜💜💜🔥💜🔥🧡💛🧡🧡💜💜🔥🔥🔥💛💜💜💜🔥🔥🔥🙏🏼😇😎

[@lovenosa1105]

Oh I love people who speak quickly like this guy! It’s so refreshing to listen to his cadence. And God bless him for pulling himself out of that HORRENDOUS situation. My mouth fell open so many times and I took a break to cry too. I just thank God for the miracle that he was able to build something beautiful from broken pieces.

[@Sealoctopus]

Aaron’s story of his friendship with Mike is very touching and beautiful.

[@tossacointoyourwitcherOriginal]

Wish this was longer. Definitely one of my top 10 Episodes ever. Mikes a legend of helping you and so are you for being so tough.

[@opheliadays5803]

I think I’ve found my new hero. Why have I never been encouraged to listen to this man? Why did I have to seek him out myself? Why is he the only one defending our humanity?

[@nicolamontoro]

Best 1.5 hours of screen time I’ll had in months. Dr. Peterson way of pulling the best out of an interview, and Aaron! Wow! That is a strong intelligent example of what is capable with hope and love. Great video!

[@SL-jv9ck]

This made me tear up, especially when Aaron talked about his kids. He is proud not because they are smart kids, but that they are kind kids. Kudos Aaron! May all your days moving forward be happy and blessed. God loves you and gave you a great friend in Mike. Jesus has been and is the same for me.

[@Iron-Blurr]

I think the best friend Mike is singlehandedly responsible for saving dozens of lives. The small acts of mercy we might consider inconsequential have very far reaching and life changing effects. Mike is without a doubt a hero.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Oh WOW!! That was So WONDERFUL! I want Part 2!! How he met his wife and how he chose healthy ways and established an open, loving family ..mostly because Everything that came out of his mouth could have come out of mine. I won, too and am forever grateful!! Didn't get emotional until you started talking about your 12 yr old, Dude. But now I am waiting with painful JOY!!! Love and Grief... GREAT conversation, Dr Peterson. Thank you both.

[@petrabear2]

I think it’s so amazing that in the midst of such darkness, you were able to face the darkness, both in yourself and outside of yourself, with such humility, wisdom, strength, honor, integrity, and I don’t even know what else, and you went towards the light, towards what is good. Listening to this was an honor and it brought me to tears. Truly beautiful. And what an amazing person Mike is as well.

[@peekieandjerichovideos7870]

Brother, thank-you and your friend Mike for hanging onto humanity and choosing not to make the innocent pay for the terrible things you suffered through. Congratulations on having beautiful children, who are so successful. Just like their dad!

[@googlinstuff8910]

@aaronstarkauthor I am 12 years older than you and had a similar experience as a child. Mine wasn't even half as bad. But thank you for speaking about it, this has left me in tears of grattitude for my "Mike" family that saved me. I was resilient, like you are and ended up making a success of my life, and not passing on the generational trauma. May God bless you, Brother, and your family.

[@madeofwar8781]

Having suffered childhood abuse as he did, i have cptsd and i completely relate to this man. Especially the way he speaks faster about the trauma. It activates your sympathetic nervous system. I'm glad he's doing better.

[@jeffreynair]

This has been the best podcast I've seen Jordan do so far. So eye opening. Moral of the story: treat people with love and respect.

[@Manjrachel]

An absolutely breathtaking testimony! God bless you, Mr Stark and your family, for breaking the chain and setting yourself free. Everyone needs a friend like yours. I was bawling in tears when you were narrating the 19th birthday incident; most of us tend to forget the impact the simplest act of kindness can have on another person. Just being seen and being known is indeed life-altering.

[@YetiMama]

This guy’s story is one of the best examples of how powerful loving your neighbor as yourself is. (Mike)

[@natashamiller4860]

My dad had the same job in the navy during the Vietnam War and was really messed up. He was very abusive when I was young and he was still drinking. He just passed away 2 weeks ago and in his final months, he softened and I saw a different side of him than I grew up knowing. My heart goes out to this man and what he went through but I am so glad to see how much of a better man he has become than who he was raised to be.

[@alteaters]

The moment at 1:29:00 is the most powerful part of this conversation. Explaining that freedom isnt the same thing as retaliation is huge. Just incredible, thank you so much for sharing your story.

[@kellyl9450]

This was incredibly moving and powerful. I listen to a lot of true crime podcasts and all the time I hear about the terrible upbringings these people had and how it led to the absolute atrocities they commited. It is so so refreshing to hear about someone who took the darkest pain and fostered it into something beautiful. You really did break the cycle and that is something to be proud of.

[@Brookiecookiesmacarons]

I loved his take home message: that tomorrow can be different .

[@darlenaingram3688]

Aaron, I believe your existentialism associated with your intelligence is a rare gift to humankind. Soo thankful... your message, if heard, is such a tangible experience to the suffering it is massively relatable. You are a gift. Thank you.

[@passerby4507]

1:25:00 I don't cry at movies, but this part genuinely had me in tears. There is something about the tiny gesture of kindness from a friend as the singularly redemptive moment of his life that resonates deeply and profoundly.

[@ADDDDDYYYYYYYYYY]

me too! tears!!

[@hndygrl]

I totally understand what he meant by holding his parents accountable for creating him by causing chaos and then dying. When my mother beat me, after so many beatings, I prayed she would kill me so that maybe she would feel bad for what she was doing to me. I thought I was the only one who ever had those thoughts.

[@H.P.Blavatsky]

my dad was 300+lbs and his favorite punishment was to lay on top of our little bodies with his hand over our nose and mouth to stop us from crying and shouting to the neighbours for help us (they never did) he would force us to wear long pants and turtlenecks in summer to hide our bruises.

[@MarianneHMiettinen]

Oh wow, that is really rough :( Sending virtual love for you. Hope you're doing better

[@MarianneHMiettinen]

@@H.P.Blavatsky People can be horrible :( I'm sorry your dad was such a cruel person. I really hope you got away from him

[@antibull4869]

@@MarianneHMiettinenpeople protect children. Once someone takes deliberate action to harm a child? That *thing* can no longer be considered a human being.

[@JRDAuxArc]

Mike deserves an award!! This one hits home. Made me cry a couple times. Thank you Aaron for sharing your story. How awesome is it to give back like this !!

[@Tribloqa]

Was only planning on watching part of this, but got sucked in just by the pure indomitability of Aaron throughout his life. Aaron is a fully inspirational human being who truly shows what peak humanity is. Congrats!

[@seagul6g]

Such a fascinating interview, the story of what this man endured at such a young age is absolutely harrowing. Aaron almost chewed his tongue off the speed at which he was talking, like the dam walls broke, he couldn't seem to get his thoughts out fast enough! Really happy this man turned his life around and is teaching good values to his kids. Truly inspiring.

[@jbrinker2007]

This is amazing. I struggled with some severe depression in my teenage years as well and felt like an outcast myself. All anyone needs who is struggling is a good role model/someone who cares. Thank God for Mike and anyone like him who can see through the madness and reassure us that every life matters no matter how broken. This is truly inspiring. Thank you Jordan for all the work you do. You’re the man

[@blondegiraffe2023]

I really understand how the bitterness and pain can make you want to reinforce the negative view your family hold for you and make you want to go all out when you feel trapped like there is no other way. This interview was so astounding and insightful. Thank you to you both.

[@katswift1678]

I am moved so deeply for Aaron's experience. The way the system missed it all and the love of Mike and Aaron for their friendship is beyond a miracle. God bless your work helping others.😢🎉

[@2Based4Life]

Wow... I think that JP just had a incredibly valuable therapy session for 1000's of people in 1 video. Incredibly smart and I think he knew it from the start.

[@TrustinGodalone_7]

Very possible to remember so young. My dad died at 4 and I remember so clearly what happened that day.

[@ca147]

I grew up similarly. I feel like I don't know how to interact with people or how to make or keep friends. I know how to be polite. But to keep anything deeper has always been a struggle.

[@JustMe-mw4xt]

Can relate 100%

[@robinnobles5785]

Be proud that you know how to be polite. That's admirable & courageous concerning what you have been through. While having a solid social circle is good, it's not crucial. Most people won't be able to comprehend what you have been through appropriately & how difficult it was. You're not missing out on much. Give yourself grace.

[@linslus86]

Wow, this was so eye opening to listen to how Mr Peterson get so interested in his life and explaining, giving real/direct explanation, theory’s. I wish am someday get to talk to somebody like him

[@jacquierobinson6183]

So much of this conversation hit home. Childhood trauma sets you off on a path. The best thing about terrible times is that it makes you fully appreciate good people and good times

[@GrowlingAraknid]

This made me cry and think so much. This was so beautiful and Aaron is such an inspiration. Thank you both! ❤

[@EUSA1776]

This is one of the most important conversations the Doctor’s ever put out. Share this, make this go viral! We can save lives!

[@Yakovvandordt]

The hell this guy been through... man, I was in tears. First I though to myself - why would anyone expose their most vulnerable parts so publicly? As I kept on watching I realized that his story was helping me iron out some deep kinks I didn't even know were there. Thank you Aaron for sharing you story. The word that comes to mind is heroic.

[@royluttmann5670]

Great interview. Very moving and inspirational. I really enjoy when JP interviews a guest as though it’s a counseling session with a patient. The questions asked and answers elicited are so informative and interesting.

[@sirbenigdeus]

It is nearly incomprehensible to me how someone can experience so much abject malevolence and misfortune and not be utterly annihilated. I mean an upbringing like that logically seems about as lethal as a bullet to the head, but somehow the humanity persevered…

[@tammygallagher976]

You would be surprised how many children have blocked this type of trauma.

[@tammygallagher976]

People have to decide not to build resentment in situations like this

[@ErikGagen-ev9kw]

Please make more content of survival stories like this. I’ve been devastated by childhood trauma desperately wish to hear more success stories like this one

[@rachelfree1083]

This is a wonderful interview I just love this guy He's so very intelligent. Reminds me of my brother. Thank God for Mike. Mike really loved him.

[@ChristopherRyans]

I haven't cried since I found out my girlfriend was pregnant i was so happy. But this guy really had my eyes watering. His story really open my eyes of my past It made me think of all of the people at school that had a hard time. Some of them were dirty or smelled. But I never thought when they went home what it was like for them. My mother took great care of me even though she Went through a lot of the same trauma. She broke the cycle and gave me a good life. And I am internally grateful for her. People The world is not all bad. If you are sad or depressed just remember the very air we breathe We should be thankful for.

[@TheIndependenceThinker]

I can't help myself... I think you meant eternally and not internally (though not mutually exclusive).

[@ChristopherRyans]

@@TheIndependenceThinker im hardly high school graduate grammer escapes my grasp most of the time. I was going to correct but internally works technically so I'll leave it for authenticity

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@TheIndependenceThinker Out of everything you could have responded to in OP's comment, THAT was the thing you chose? A single word as opposed to the actual tenor of the comment? How pathetic. What a worthless reply on your part smh

[@christopherkucia1071]

I like hearing about what makes men cry. I did a lot of crying when I was a self destructive alcoholic but that was just feeling sorry for myself for my own actions. The last time I remember crying not related to suicide attempts or being in jail obervnight or wrecking my car was when I watched Roman Polanskis the pianist. I cried during the part the Polish or Russian army finds wladislav in a German winter coat and almost shoot but he is saved. Only movie I’ve cried to also. I think the time before that I cried because I COULDNT cry for my dead cat lol…. It bothered me so much I was sad sure, but that it didn’t HURT and I didn’t cry. I eventually cried and realized I was crying because I missed childhood. A cat dying is meh because I pickled my brain, drugged myself so hard and skipped childhood. My biggest issue in life is not heing a wondrous and creative child anymore. I was told life is beautiful and I can be whatever I want. Which is true, but not the way to go about living. I do cry for happy things often actually but they don’t stick as hard as the negatives.

[@leviwarren6222]

Marry her. You watch JP, you know the direction you ought to go. Sounds like you've got a decent head.

[@cursed.5952]

Having Mike as a friend changed his life. I wish we all had a friend like this.

[@roxxanne.adventures]

This is sooo encouraging, to rememeber that nothing that happened to us is an excuse to do evil, on the contrary, its a lesson on how to do better. Thank you

[@JenUno818]

Excellent episode. I teach college course in LA county jails and I’ve used Aaron’s Ted talk in my anger mgmt course and boy, is it a tear jerker and conversation opener for my students. I have so much respect for Aaron and his healing process and of course I highly respect and appreciate the messages you bring to this world Mr. Peterson. Thank you

[@TheNightOwl-i8R]

My mother is a mad woman. She does crazy things. I’m a guy- 18 gonna turn 19 next month. For me my life is a mess, it’s been miserable from the start. I don’t know where I’m headed, I got no future. Ending my life is my way out, to escape everything.

[@TheNightOwl-i8R]

My mother is a mad woman. She does crazy things. I’m a guy- 18 gonna turn 19 next month. For me my life is a mess, it’s been miserable from the start. I don’t know where I’m headed, I got no future. Ending my life is my way out, to escape everything.

[@oOCottonMouthOo]

Shed a lot of tears watching this podcast. Struggled a lot with childhood trauma self harm sexual abuse suicide attempts mental health issues etc etc. I now have borderline personality disorder as a consequence. In treatment (on meds and in therapy). Almost 24 now, and I am a lot better than I used to be but still struggle. This style of podcasts is so important, thank you for giving Aaron the opportunity to share his story. Gave me hope :) God bless you both!

[@handsonmyface88]

His friends acceptance made me cry.😢 How beautiful Thank you all!

[@waden404]

This poor guy.......wow. Happy that you are doing well and arent continuing the cycle. Jordan, i cant explain how much ive learned about myself since you came on the scene. Thank u

[@donaquixote]

Wow, wow, wow. I too had dysfunctional beginnings and it is so, so interesting to see how Aaron decoupled from that vortex. Yes, "turn the other cheek" such a strong lesson to recognize to let go of the dysfunction, to be honest but let go of grudge and resentment and be set free. Mike was part of the key to recognize your worth and what a moment that is in time. He sounds like such a pure soul. Obviously you have much worth, just ask Mike. So grateful you are a cipher of hope in a snowy, cold world for many others.

[@sammysnipes5059]

Turn the other cheek could have meant letting someone slap you as an equal. Slaves were slapped on a certain side. Equals slapped the other side

[@SilverRain223]

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I have so much compassion for you, and I'm appalled anyone could treat anyone the way you were treated by your family. Thank God for Mike, the friend we should all aim to be ❤

[@TheNightOwl-i8R]

For me, my situation is bad. My mother is a mad woman. I’m turning 19 next month. My life is a mess. I got no future, so it’s better to end it.

[@catarinaclau]

This conversation got me very emotional. The things he went through as a child… Bless you for wanting to be better than what your family did to you. Dr JBP as always, you are the best interviewer!

[@avoiceinthewilderness9864]

Families that sadistically abuse their children move around alot, as soon as a voice of concern is raised they move.

[@0ptixs]

I don't know how to share how I feel about this. I cannot believe the hell that he went through. How evil everyone and nearly everything in his life was towards him. And I cannot believe how he came out of that with the ability to raise a family, aim towards food and be someone better. The only words I can find are thank you Aaron.

[@autumnleaves2766]

This was simply outstanding. I do love it when Dr Peterson is able to conduct an interview more in the way he would do with a client in his clinical practice. Aaron's story is a remarkable one, the triumph of the human spirit against all the odds. Aaron is blessed with high intelligence and a great depth of self-awareness and insight. He has clearly transformed his life and will inspire many others to do so. Thanks to Dr Peterson and Aaron Stark for this excellent, thought-provoking interview, and wishing both of them a happy Christmas too.

[@Fiona2254]

I’m so glad you had a friend like Mike who had parents who allowed you there. I understand Mike’s parents. When growing up my parents house were open to any of our friends. When our kids were in school we also had an open home for any of their friends. One time a boy spent a week sleeping over in or son’s room and a friend of my daughter pretty much lived with us sleeping in the couch for a whole summer. Kids were always coming in and out and they were always welcome.

[@DrDavenstein]

When he started telling that story about Mike, I was almost in tears. Crazy how this kind of thing is inspirational. There is always hope!

[@Solitaire427]

Damn! I’ve cried and cried while listening to this.. may we all be more like Mike!

[@zoomkaboom1]

These personal interviews or testimonies are way better than watching a movie! This video felt like 40 mins! God bless Jordan and Aaron! Well done!

[@benrees8797]

Thankyou Jordan. Thankyou Aron. The open articulation of Aron’s life story truly is a gift. Two great men. Much appreciated.

[@Medietos]

I love how you mix into your interview teaching and helping, and stay cognitive and empathic rather than sentimentally sympathetic..

[@maddywadsworth4312]

The part about the birthday party brought me to tears. It’s amazing what our seemingly “simple” acts of kindness can do.

[@billwassell3718]

WoW! Congratulations to Aaron and Jordan. A sinister story with the most positive and loving outcome. In a world of evil and dark forces, these stories need to be told. Thank you for providing the platform!

[@noorzanayasmin7806]

One of my toxic trait of growing up in abusive family, is the uncanny ability to just cut family or people off my life that I think are hurting me. I have to stop that and try to have convseration and realize that it is not ever going to be 100% better. I have to try to have relationship. It is very hard for me to maintain or keep relationship because it is very emotionally taxing for me. I am sure in time it will get better

[@KR-jq3mj]

This gentleman Aaron Stark has gained so much insight and wisdom from such a sad childhood which is truly inspiring for anyone forced into a dark childhood. It is possible to successfully break the cycle.

[@EncourageLegacy]

Exactly. It is just really tough. It is rough work. And yet we say in German „wo ein Wille ist, ist ein Weg.“ Where there's a will, there's a way. Said like that by our English-tongued brothers too? God bless you.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

​@@EncourageLegacyIndeed it is.

[@LilaSilk]

Thank you gentlemen for this extraordinary, revealing conversation. It moved me to tears, actually, especially at about 1:33:00 when Mr Stark says, that he wanted to bring to his parents light, what their responsibility was, what they had done wrong to him and how it had affected him. Like to expose their lies and if they hadn't have any sense, or insight until then, he wanted the public and authorities telling his parents how wrong their parenting has been and force them to accept responsibility and eventually, maybe be punished for it. Mr Stark, you have done an extraordinary job of turning your life around. You are a role model for others in a similar situation. My dad came from a broken home as well and he too was able to turn his life around. Wishing you all the best.

[@TtotheCizzel]

Such bravery to own up to such terrible urges. God bless this dude, he's already saving lives

[@nancyk3615]

My best friend rejected me while we were seniors in High School and I didn't know how to deal with it well. I ended up acting out and making bad decisions and losing self respect. It was a long rocky road to recovery after that.

[@Chainsawctopus]

Good lord, I'm so glad this guy came out on the other end. Parts of this just made me feel dead inside. I can relate to a few things he said, even though I considered my family life growing up to be good, and I have a great relationship currently with my folks. I'll never take them for granted, that's for sure. Anyhoot, wishing y'all well! ❤️

[@andrewskuta63012]

Jordan, if you ever need someone to speak with about drug addiction and alcoholism and being successful in recovery I’ll do it in a heartbeat. You’ve helped me tremendously throughout the years and I think we could have a meaningful conversation that could help people. 11 years sober here. Let me know. -Andrew S

[@ria2159]

I want to say "well done" and hope I don't sound patronising. I'd love to listen to you 😊

[@marieb8049]

What Aaron said about change is gold. Thank you for that.

[@Albanian_Accountant]

This is pure open honesty and compassion. Thank you, jordan, for letting this man speak, the world is a better place for it

[@mikahs7944]

Aaron is a stand up guy! He works a couple blocks from my house. Always looking up to seeing him and having some small talk! Thank you for repping Colorado people who came up from the botom

[@dangood8839]

I used to look after young adults in a care setting. The children would manipulate and move people on shift to see the outcome, because as you said, testing the boundaries and commitment levels. The only way I managed to bring order into their lives was to never lie to them and never make promises i couldn't keep; which is what I think their ultimate goal was to expose in people. So many people try to appease, which leads to the game intensifying. These kids in our world are always at the precipice of making bad decisions. If you spot it, treat them equally and with kindness folks!

[@susannahsinclair4338]

Probably the best interview Dr. Peterson has ever done. Props to both these gentlemen

[@aaronstarkauthor]

Thank you im glad you liked it 😊

[@windsongshf]

Oh I would love to hear more of these discussions! I'm so used to listening to Dr. Peterson's lectures and talks with other intellectuals. Hearing him "in action" as a listener is really insightful.

[@Ron20042004]

Hey Aaron! Keep helping people and changing lives. Hurt people hurt and the more we learn this and how to stop the cycle the more we help people.