The difficulties of communication in an Asian-American family | Alan Phan | TEDxYouth@YostPark

[@FeonaLeeJones]

Ugh this is so spot on. Grew up with an Asian mom and she never expressed herself directly. It was always passive aggressive or sarcastic. Basically I was groomed to push through any pain in order to succeed.

[@judith7026]

This is so sad . I dated an Asian man and boy oh boy it was so tough . He hid all of his emotions and he thought talking about emotions was weak . Well I broke up with him yesterday , but today I asked him to come over so we can really have a deep convo about our feelings . I’m going to try to get him to open up to me by being empathetic . I want him to cry , show me his emotions , tell me what he’s bottling up . Wish me luck . I’ll let you guys know how it works .... if he even comes over .

[@liamh6686]

Any updates on this? I'm genuinely interested in how it went.

[@jackedkerouac4414]

I'm 46 years old and was vehemently opposed to seeking psychological help. We don't talk about our feelings. It's almost taboo. I say "was" and "almost" because I did see a therapist a few months ago. I have to say, it was a waste of time (and money). Sharing our deepest thoughts equating weakness is deeply instilled in us, so much so that I gave it a try and decided it's not for me. To quote Tony Soprano "There's no cure for life". I wish you luck, but this is what you're working with with your ex bf.

[@Humble_observer357]

Yeah Marcella whats the scoop I have a similar situation with a friend and am wondering if your approach made an impact?!?!

[@JorgeClaudio-m8d]

how did it go?

[@PacificPath]

His aspirations for providing a safe and open space for the next generation are incredibly inspiring.

[@Thejulelaurent]

I agree with this video, I grew up here in the states and my family is from Asia, we have quite similar parents/family dynamic. Mental health is very important

[@sundesertmoon]

Alan Phan, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us. I can relate to many things you shared.

[@judith7026]

You did great Alan ! Thank you for sharing your experiences !

[@II-ud7nl]

Thanks for the video. I am from São Paulo Brazil. Great video keep going!

[@theshimmys]

That’s your problem, “expectations” ...and “it should be”

[@wannabebruce]

Great talk!

[@crystalchaung1576]

What is the word at 6:05 with "transparency and"? I don't think "culture ability" is it. It sounds closer to "comfortability." As the second ingredient of what makes a good listener, this is an important word.

[@스노우걸]

whoaa he's from washington?

[@maxx4944]

Alan Phan, can we link up? i would like your input one some stuff.

[@Humble_observer357]

Maxx you don't need Alan Phan, I guarantee there is people around you that u can talk to about your "stuff". You just first need to be an ounce as vulnerable as Alan. Don't judge or assume people won't understand, you'd be suprised how much other people can empathize.

[@_-.__.-_]

❤️❤️

[@k.k.9777]

This is just really sad...

[@izzymartino6319]

Am I the first comment here? Huh. Okay. So uh...its kinda lonely. Hello? Anybody? Okay I'll leave.

[@II-ud7nl]

Hi, I am from São Paulo Brazil. How are you?😌

[@izzymartino6319]

@@II-ud7nl pretty chill i'm not alone anymore yay the comment section fam is growing XD

[@II-ud7nl]

@@izzymartino6319 Yes! Hahahaha Do you know more good videos like that?

[@izzymartino6319]

@@II-ud7nl on KZbin??

[@II-ud7nl]

@@izzymartino6319 Yes. I use Netflix do you know a good film or serie? I am learning English. Kkkkkkkkk Thanks for this little chat. Nice to meet you.

[@semiramismunoz8948]

Sorry we, emigrant moms can't be therapist too. We are struggling with surviving and providing to our children in a different culture, different language. Sorry boy but all children of emigrants have to go through something like this.