The Discipline of Self Love: How to Honour Your Soul, Shadow & Inner Archetypes I Jungian Parts Work

[@rachelgs8372]

Great video as usual, Jordan🤍. I can already feel myself applying the concept of self-respect. If you’re considering doing one on one work with Jordan, I highly recommend it. Working with him has been one of the best gifts I have given myself.

[@jordanthornton]

Can't escape my positive reputation, can I? Thank you, Rachel! The months we worked together were an incredible journey. It's great to receive this comment from you, I hope you're well.

[@jordanthornton]

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[@methodmuse]

When you mentioned the Netflix thing early in the video, I immediately thought of Jordan Peterson's rule of life "Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping." It's so easy for us to forget that we are responsible not only for our actions, but for our overall wellbeing. It really is a journey of self-discovery, experimentation, and winning the levels of our inner world. Thank you for the video, this series is amazing.

[@jordanthornton]

Great connection - I agree. Self-responsibility is another beautiful tangent to this conversation, thank you!

[@ceejaybeard9121]

Ooooo. I love this. ♥️ So much truth.

[@methodmuse]

@@ceejaybeard9121 Thanks for your comment! 💖 After watching this video another half-dozen times, I gotta say the masculine/feminine concept of self-respect/self-compassion fits so perfectly. I've never heard of this connection before, and it definitely makes sense.

[@jhall007]

Wow. Wow. Wow. Just wow. I think my life just changed in a big way. Your thoughts on self discipline are so beautifully whole. And the unconditional love piece- how unrealistic it is to believe I could offer unconditional love to myself or others when I haven't even received much conditional love- you hit on such a critical and nuanced intersection where this concept and trauma meet. I've never heard anyone who teaches unconditional love speak about this and it explains why I've been driven to be an unconditional love offerer, and also why I've continued to be confused about how boundaries could co-exist with congruence. Brilliant! Your work is a tremendous contribution. Thank you.

[@jordanthornton]

Jenn, your sophisticated comment meant so much to me that I just shared it on my instagram story with gratitude. Thank you - beautifully worded and I'm glad to have made this impact.

[@jhall007]

@@jordanthorntonYou're so welcome, Jordan. I'm glad you were touched. Energy exchange feels yummy since most of the time us viewers are the primary beneficiaries and it's a singular experience. Glad to send some of your generous offering back to you in the form of appreciation after it's had its way with me.

[@ashtree3006]

When I first began exploring self love I felt like throwing up in my mouth. I literally couldn't stomach the words, "I love you, Ash". Now I have them written on my whiteboard to read every day. And when I do, it feels good. And whenever I pass by a mirror I look at myself and smile. Took about 2 years.

[@jordanthornton]

This is fucking beautiful, well done.

[@ashtree3006]

Thank you! I'm happy I found your channel recently. Just starting to dive into your content. Also fucking beautiful! Well done.

[@jordanthornton]

@@ashtree3006 Welcome, make sure to grab the recommended books which catch you're attention - all about the deeper work!

[@ashtree3006]

@@jordanthornton Thank you.

[@Mel-ly7mo]

Me pausing at 4:05 talking to my screen.. "alright, Mr Jordan, it's going to be this type of episode is it.. Well let me put on my seat belt"..

[@jordanthornton]

Appreciate your attentiveness, Mel. Hope the rest of this video provided food for thought! Anything resonate in particular? 🌲🔋

[@Mel-ly7mo]

@@jordanthornton Self-love, Self-Compassion & Self-Respect. I hadn't realized that I hadn't been respecting myself. That hit me like a slap in the face.. The unconditional love being null and void if Trama is involved. That is indeed true..

[@jordanthornton]

@@Mel-ly7mo Really appreciate you sticking around to the end and receiving the message - hope it wasn’t really a slap, more like a cold shower perhaps? 😬

[@isojosi]

Phenomenal man. May the most phenomenal woman be by your side.

[@jordanthornton]

You too, wishing you fortune and flow and fulfilment in your romantic life.

[@jordanthornton]

*INNER WORK ESSENTIALS - EXPECTED LEARNING OUTCOMES (what you'll get from these videos)* On completion of this series, the student should expect to be: 1) Auto-therapeutic. The student will feel generally competent in their ability to select and self-administer the most suitable therapeutic modality on a full-spectrum basis: ranging from the somatic resolution of central childhood wounds to the everyday self-regulation of symptomatic stress responses such as anxiety and addiction. 2) Closer towards baseline integral consciousness (Wilber). Through their combined efforts of rigorous self-inquiry and critical engagement with recommended reading material, the student will have significantly developed their intellectual and spiritual maturity to a noticeable degree, in likely correlation with their depth of engagement. 3) Holistically Empowered. The student will enjoy a meaningful expansion of their physical, emotional, sexual, and creative expression as a result of their healing and expansion work. In short, they will be healthier, happier and feel more complete. 4) Self-educational. The student will have felt organically inspired to move beyond free video content and create a self-structured learning arc which takes maximum advantage of at least several dozen inner working books mentioned within the course. The student will consequently enjoy lifelong learning habits including: critical research skills, long-term focus, and the ability to know when to stop studying. *MY TEACHING INTENTIONS & STATEMENT OF DIRECTION* 1) Provide the student with an informed and representative overview of multiple complementary therapeutic modalities to support their self-healing process; with special encouragement placed upon the auto-therapeutic application of holistic healing modalities for particular problems at particular stages in their journey. 2) Nourish the intellectual and spiritual maturation of the student by familiarising them with the most exciting, challenging and credible concepts in developmental psychology, consciousness studies and transpersonal metaphysics; with central emphasis being placed upon comparative analysis of multiple complex theories. 3) Encourage an empowered and more authentic sense of individual self-expression as a combined outcome of the two previous intentions, plus the application of holistic lifestyle principles, self-educational practises, and foundational healthy habits.

[@Eric-tj3tg]

As a longtime avid reader and student of nonfiction related to Psychology, Spirituality, and Development, I very much appreciate your ability to deliver a message with such an understanding of the importance of the language. This one was particularly helpful. As your love of books, and emphasis on understanding AND application have been made clear through several of the videos I've watched, "A Developmental Wheel", including nature-based, and societal tasks for stages of maturation is, I feel, eloquently and sensitively elaborated in "Nature and the Human Soul", by Bill Plotkin, Ph.D., a self-described "Psychologist gone wild". Thank you for these videos.

[@jordanthornton]

Hugely significant compliment for me to receive today - thank you. Language is critical, it means so much in today’s shallowed linguistics hahah🌲

[@Eric-tj3tg]

@@jordanthornton Glad it landed at a good time.

[@Kadjoaka]

I need to rewatch this multiple times. This is gold

[@jordanthornton]

Truly appreciate your attention & taking the time to comment, be well 🌲

[@brianneml2979]

I began awakening 7 years ago and still seem to not have this down 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@jordanthornton]

Keep going. Awakening requires rooting as compliment - lifelong process. Depth, consistency and quality of practice all matter 🌲

[@escapism2479]

It’s an accomplishment in itself to be on your journey for 7 years and being able to admit this❤️🌞

[@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle]

I feel exactly the same, and I started back in 2009.

[@essencer.9494]

You got a delivery so we could breathe! That was insightful. Thank you.

[@jordanthornton]

Hahah - all in the right timing, eh? 😉🌲

[@morbidme7673]

'Self love' has been thrown around so much since getting sober, yet no one has truly defined it. Starting from rock bottom after my abusive relationship and learning how to believe in and love myself, was a difficult task. I have come a long way since then. But it's trying to pull myself out of those anxiety ridden moments to leave my home and be around others... Honestly, I am terrified of being in any kind of romantic relationship. Still have tons of healing to do, but I'm growing every day.

[@jordanthornton]

I’m glad to see how much work you’ve been putting in and understand your process here - it can be tough. Did the description of self-love as compassion & respect wedded together land for you as a practical understanding? 🌲

[@dianevierra781]

@Morbidme76 if it's any consolation, I know how that feels. the idea of being in a romantic relationship always sounds more appealing than the reality of being in one to me. but it is scary, because you're very vulnerable and you don't know if you'll be enough for the other person, because of how difficult it is to even love yourself with respect and compassion. In that way, the easier thing would be to just spend more time alone. I still have healing and growth to do too, and you're not alone with that fear.

[@morbidme7673]

@@jordanthornton Absolutely it does!! ❤️ It is sad how that's not common knowledge. Then again it comes down to how each of us are raised. I had a loving father until he fell into serious drugs. When I was about 9 yrs old. Our relationship was on and off until his death in '05. My mother is and has always been our rock. My siblings and I are grateful to have her. 🙂 With that being said, I didn't seek therapy to try to heal from childhood SA until I was 37 yrs old. I was literally losing my mind with such deep sadness and hating myself. I learned how to change my thinking in turn to change my life. It takes time and repetition. I was actually happy with who I was!! In 2018 all that came crashing down. Losing my fiance is one of the hardest things I've had to go through. Not only because of his death, but all the pain and suffering that we endure. I will make it. I promise.

[@morbidme7673]

@@dianevierra781 I agree with you. But now I look at "potential guys" as are they good enough for me!! 😉 I am afraid of another relationship cuz I don't want to be abused in any way ever again....

[@NadiaSofi888]

Your content again has deeply resonated & i am so grateful that you are sharing your mastery & wisdom. So thank you for that. So many of what you share are what i have came to realised but could not put into eloquent words or put it in a structural way that make sense. These videos help add structure & clarity for me. Thank you again, i am truly appreciative 🙏

[@panditakasper4631]

I am so glad you sad that about Not knowing what love is suposed to feel like, as everyone seems think that you JUST has to Love your self more, as if it where so easy. I exsperienced extrem lak of emotional safty in most of my life, phisical and emotional abuse, as also lak of suport and acceptance from my very big family. I am trying to learn somatic healing with body movement in my own too, and will hopefully learn to Love and heal my inner self and body with time.

[@mella9619]

oh my, how grateful i am the universe brought us together! you spoke right to me my soul this entire video and i’ve never seen your content before. happy to be here!

[@jordanthornton]

Straight for the soul, that’s the goal 🤣 Welcome - happy to connect and hope you enjoy looking back over this inner work series so far! 🌲

[@bluejay5531]

Thank you Jordan, the way you put this interaction of feminine and masculine energies makes so much sense. I have always struggled to find the right balance in applying it, many times I am not sure when I should give myself a gentle but firm push, to honour my word to myself no matter what (which I always do when others are involved) and build that respect aspect, or when indeed rest and healing are deeply needed and the best thing is to be more flexible and understanding. I have been studying some compassion focused therapy lately and their idea of compassion does have the masculine side integrated, strength is one of its attributes. At the moment I am going through one of the very dark rough patches and this balance is so particularly hard to navigate when I can barely function. I tend to become very punitive (superegoic) which adds what some call "the second arrow" to the pain...the suffering of self judgement..

[@jordanthornton]

Enjoyed reading your comment here, and appreciate your latest comments too - thanks for being engaged in this work at this depth 🌲

[@dominiquejones7260]

Thank you for this gift ❤

[@panditakasper4631]

Wow, " common wealth of conciousness" perfektly put. Beautiful ❤

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you, happy to be helping with these videos!

[@vesta4007]

I agree - eating ice cream and watching Netflix all day isn't an act of self-love. However, while one who is grappling with the mental/physical ailment(that's assuming there is a cause for one's suffering), it could be the only resource available to them at the time. I'm seeing that day in bed as a resource to regulate themselves back to their baseline/ less dysregulated state. We could argue there are more "productive", "efficient", and even "self-loving" ways to get regulated but, unless, one has successfully broken the pattern of thought-emotion-behaviour many times, a more respectful way of treating oneself may not be available to them. Totally agree with the masculine and feminine energy work too as a groundwork for a healthy relationship with yourself and behaviours that follow. Beautiful work, Jordan! New subscriber here ❤️

[@jordanthornton]

Vesta, this is a nuanced perspective and I agree with you to a large degree. Although I might be more intense in speaking, can see that the ‘slop-days’ can have benefit when used sparingly (sparingly being the key word) - but yes, thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. Valuable discussion and happy to hear you’re enjoying the series! 🌲

[@chrissarris5507]

Brilliant so helpful exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom.🙏🏻

[@jordanthornton]

Brother, it's truly my pleasure. I hope you continue to find value in this channel and the videos shared - be well!

[@CruzWithMe]

Brilliant! very balanced perspectives. Thank you

[@jordanthornton]

Always my pleasure.

[@PeaceLoveJoyWorld]

Beautifully put in the reading 📕! ContaInment is better than limitless 🕺

[@gailaltschwager7377]

I'm working through my way through your videos because I find them very useful. I love reading and appreciate your book recommendations. Thank you!

[@Ally-nn9cg]

This concept of balancing compassion and respect as a form of love plays a particularly significant role in parenting, and overlooked and misunderstood by many. Neglectful adults are but neglected children raised by neglectful adults. Could you please recommend some books or make a video that focuses on follow through? I am sure many can relate to the inability to follow through on positive habits, routines and plans. In the distant past, I (motivated by all the wrong reasons) developed the habits of getting up early and exercising, so I find these fairly easy to get back into. But I just can’t seem to stick to a healthy evening routine. I think it comes down to my inability to regulate my emotions? I can’t really figure this one out. What I do know is that doing all that work to make the unconscious conscious eliminated my desperation (not to be confused with an inherent need) to achieve, look a certain way, have a partner, but without these unconscious motives pushing me I find it very difficult to gain momentum and move forward. I feel stuck.

[@jordanthornton]

Check out episode 104/500 - I think it will touch on some of your questions, and I hope it helps.

[@breannacarels6479]

Ooo. I just found your channel and I love what you are putting out there. Very much inline with what I’m currently healing and exploring. I just finished an intense shadow alchemy program structured through masculine and feminine archetypes, healing and uniting my inner family. I’ve also been specifically exploring Devine Eros as an area to begin focusing in. I really enjoyed your video on Addiction and Spirituality… I’m 2.5 years sober and had my initial spiritual awakening through working the 12 steps. This topic is one I’ve explored with a personal curiosity. The information in this video is excellent. I remember when a sponsee challenged me a while back on my advice of “doing the loving thing for herself” I hadn’t realized that that advice wasn’t as clear as I had assumed… she pointed out that to her that meant doing what felt good in the moment and not necessarily what was in her best interest. My on-the-spot response was to act in accordance with what she would advise a child or dear friend to do in a similar situation… but I really like what you’ve shared in this video. It will help me as a continue to learn the art of balancing the inner conflicts within myself and will also help me to guide those I work with. From what I’ve seen so far you are providing amazingly helpful information. It’s so beautiful to see.

[@jordanthornton]

Hey, Breanna - great to connect! That shadow alchemy program sounds wonderful, and I'm glad you're likewise finding value in this video series - truly a passion of mine to share. The self-compassion x self-respect paradigm has proven incredibly useful for me in my own sobriety, which is about three years currently. I understand what you're saying, and it's certainly a process and practice. Again, happy to connect and welcome you to the series so far!

[@CraigerIAm]

thanks for sharing your deep knowledge, let me buy you a coffee

[@jordanthornton]

Thanks for this support - I'll happily accept it and let me know if you ever need anything brother! Will keep at it.

[@singingtree7619]

Thank you so much for all the work that went into this fantastic explanation. I have recently discovered your channel and really appreciate what you are doing. I was particularly struck by what you said about the inner father. It was not until I started to introduce inner boundaries and hold myself to account regarding my daily routine and work, that I began to move past the most hellish years of healing my trauma. I still suffer from CPTSD but I now live a very joyful and mostly emotionally regulated life thanks to the combination of compassionate self love and discipline.

[@jordanthornton]

Inner Boundaries really are important, especially for healing from the more devastating aspects of the human story. Thank you for taking the time to comment and connect - it warms my heart knowing you’ve been doing this work and seeing results 🌲

[@Anna-Amoroso]

What you described here is what I have been experiencing lately. I have this inner conflict inside and I find myself procrastinating so much, finding it really difficult to self discipline myself, sometimes I really feel like there is no hope for me to conquer my dreams if I carry on like this. I probably don't like discipline the way my father did it, in a very narcissistic way but usually life I have been quite obedient and disciplined when I needed to be. So why not now? Why not for something I am trying to.do for myself, while through life I mostly did.what I needed to do and followed the.rules etc... It's so frustrating sometimes, what could I do to make this situation better? It's really getting me and I am afraid to get sad and depressed cause I can't control it. Thank you for all.your helpful videos. Take care.

[@MandySky]

I've been dealing with the same. My healing started off pretty productive and all of a sudden it stalled when I wanted to achieve something bigger than myself. I ask myself internally which evolution of me is holding me back. I almost have a Fawn like sensation. I suspect it's a part of my inner child and being told I'm not good enough and insignificant because most of our parents were/are very self absorbed making everyone including their children insignificant. And as children we take that in as a personal aspect of the self as we develop. Identify it I hope is my first step to healing that part of my inner child. Through meditation and as he talks about reparenting your inner child in a way our parents could not. Give the child inside significance and self respect so we may begin to represent this new aspect into the self. I hope this helps 🙏 Happy healing 😊

[@Anna-Amoroso]

@@MandySky hi, thank you for your answer. Yes me too exactly the same, I started so well and then it got harder. From what I hear it's not an all done process unfortunately and probably every time we upgrade and try to grow our healing needs to upgrade too. Let's hope this won't stop us and we find the strength to push through. Thank you for your comment 🤗 I wish you the very best. Take care.

[@jordanthornton]

Love seeing this discussion here - you’ve both made such great points. Reparenting with compassion and respect as balanced forces, it’s really the key 🌲✌🏻

[@Anna-Amoroso]

@@jordanthornton thank you for facilitating these internal and external discussions with your videos! 💪🦋

[@jordanthornton]

@@Anna-Amoroso Nothing else I would rather do, thank you for engaging!

[@incanthatus8182]

We do think that sometimes sitting on the couch eating ice cream can be the most self respectful thing to do XD But yes, absolutely agree that it's important to ask that question...is what I'm doing right now showing ourselves respect? We sometimes get crushed by our own values 😅 because it can be pretty difficult to live up to them, especially when you're having very different values between system members and the communication isn't always great. On the other hand, knowing that we don't just want to survive our trauma for us to feel better, but to become a better person in the world has given our healing journey more meaning. We often struggled to find motivation to go on for ourselves, it's easier to find Motivation for working towards a goal that feels bigger than just us. We just have to be careful to make the steps small enough so we can actually take them. And not condemning ourselves when we fall short of our own expectations 👀

[@jordanthornton]

Not just surviving, but learning to thrive in a consistent way - yes! Thank you for taking the time to write this comment and share these ideas - I appreciate your attention and engagement 🌲✌🏻

[@josephang9927]

I often find ways to love myself and be at peace, but soon after a day or a few hours, a depressive episode comes. It is like something tries to put me on my place.

[@jordanthornton]

Very normal process which gradually falls away as we return to centre - sometimes these depressive lows can be signals that major elements of life are calling for review (work, relationship, accommodation) Great to hear of your progress so far 🌲

[@mikepackham5260]

Couldn't of said it better myself, for me the negative episodes are far more frequent than the positive so trying to find the happy medium where the positive starts to outweigh the negative is going to take a lot of inner work and self healing.

[@veronicaguerrero3201]

I am agree with everything you say, if you are not able to love yourself, Take care and have compasion...It is imposible that you can love others. IS a básic law...Love neighbor as yourself❣️

[@jordanthornton]

Precisely, self-love is the foundation. Thank you, Veronica 🌲

[@veronicaguerrero3201]

@@jordanthornton thank you to you always, thank you for your job😊💗

[@jordanthornton]

@@veronicaguerrero3201 You are most welcome - wishing you the best.

[@veronicaguerrero3201]

@@jordanthornton I wish the BEST for you as well 🤗

[@Magik1369]

This is a very interesting video and is a topic we have all struggled with. I agree, that self compassion and self respect are solid practicable ways of actively loving one's self. This is until the Self (Divine Center) is known and realized. The ego looks within and sees nothing but wounds and darkness. Like Jung stated many times, it takes a considerable moral effort to face and integrate one's shadow. The good news is that after integrating the shadow, Self love flows effortlessly from the Divine Center or Soul, which is also the circumference of the Being. This is because one of the characteristics of the Divine Center is Love. You are Love. This love radiates from the inside out. I realize this is at a more advanced stage of growth. It is actually very difficult to make the journey across the ocean or into the pits of hell (whatever myth you relate to) but effortless Self love is one of the many gifts that manifests freely from the Divine Center, that is, if one is successful at making it through the black hole and to the Divine Center within. Sri Aurobindo called the personal evolving Soul the "Psychic Being". I call it the Soul or the Divine Center. Self love looks and feels different depending on the stage of growth of the person. At first the ego struggles to love his/her self. This process reverses once one has tapped into the Divine Center. Then the Self loves flows from the inside out. Your teaching is authentic and true. You are providing a practical and truthful way for a person to practice self love, which is absolutely essential Great work! love your content.

[@jordanthornton]

Sophisticated comment, I enjoyed reading this and appreciate your take on this issue - thank you!

[@carlorizzo827]

So great, thank you. What a reading list!! Also by Alice Miller Thou Shalt Not Be Aware, whoa

[@jordanthornton]

Another great book - yes!

[@happytimes-meditativemomen7535]

Really really good. Thank you.

[@jordanthornton]

It's my absolute pleasure!

[@_journeytowell]

I've been really digging into feminine & masculine energies as well as self love - this is such a beautiful connection! I haven't heard this perspective worded like this before. Thank you for this video.

[@jordanthornton]

Beautiful - happy to provide an unlock or hint! What kind of topics are you specifically exploring within these masc/fem dynamics? 🌲

[@_journeytowell]

@@jordanthornton I've been creating videos about tapping into healthy/balanced feminine energy (since we live in such a masculine energy world). I love the dynamic of the two, and how they come out in various aspects of our lives (for example, I was someone who lifted weights at the gym 6 days a week, not taking any time to really rest/active recovery. of course, hurt my back which allowed me the experience of learning ways to balance these energies)

[@jordanthornton]

@@_journeytowell Just checked out your channel - and this is great to read. I love hearing about the new levels of integration you're experiencing, and excited for you in your journey sharing these lessons for the future. Keep going, not that you seem to need encouragement hahah

[@_journeytowell]

@@jordanthornton Thank you so much!! That means a lot!! So happy to have connected with you.

[@laugregall8286]

from my yoga mat in Wales 💚🙏

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you, from my library in England hahah

[@nadnad411]

Thanks a lot! I went to this journey of self love after cutting off all narcissistic people from my life and I am enjoying being alone with books. I was wondering if you have any videos about self discovery and reawakening your passion and creativity? I looked through your videos and couldn't find one

[@jordanthornton]

It’s a very difficult topic to speak to directly because I find that general videos on creativity tend to fall flat, but it’s something which I return to throughout 🌲

[@nadnad411]

@@jordanthornton there is a book called the creative act by Rick Rubin. It is nice but I hope to find more

[@kingfisher9553]

Impressed

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you, wishing you the best!

[@ams2891]

Excellent! Thank you for your service! ❤️🙏🏼

[@jordanthornton]

Amber, thank you for your attention & engagement. Wishing you all the best!

[@daniellehudson3377]

I just read that book! (The drama of the gifted child) wonderful read.

[@jordanthornton]

Great timing - I agree!

[@Graceunderfiire]

🤯 Wow such a fantastic video. Incredible clarity on the importance of both of these values working together. I kind of shrink a little because I am guilty of the overuse of compassion and struggle with self imposed boundaries but this is encouraging to see that the balance is what we strive for. It’s imperative for a harmonious higher self.

[@jordanthornton]

Sarah! This is excellent! It sounds like you’re finding your centre in the perfect timing 🌲

[@ceejaybeard9121]

I’m always so glad I stopped by. Thanks friend. 🖤

[@jordanthornton]

You’re always most welcome 🌲✌🏻

[@Mysticmonja]

This really gives “Honor your ‘Parents’” a different meaning 🤔

[@jordanthornton]

Haha - yes, re-parenting too!

[@Arcturusthehusky]

Wow ❤so grateful to find your videos! Thank you for sharing

[@jordanthornton]

You are most welcome, thank you for watching and taking the time to comment.

[@angelapaz]

What a brilliant series, thank you for sharing!

[@jordanthornton]

Angela, it’s my pleasure - glad you’re enjoying the episodes! Lots of structural intention behind the scenes!

[@book3311]

I try to buy all my books second hand. Between the highlights and the folded worksheets….. Astra Inclinant my friend. Book 33

[@jordanthornton]

For sure - 80% of my library is secondhand! Great way to save money & give an old book a new life (often many surprises inside too!)

[@Saoussennelina]

Beautiful video 🙏

[@jordanthornton]

Thank you, Asma!

[@KS-ox4fs]

How interesting…. I’ve never heard of this perception of self love 🤔

[@jordanthornton]

Me neither - I've read a lot on the topic and, like I mentioned in the video, it's an 'original idea' which came to me in 2019 when I was journaling on the topic. I find the blend of self-compassion and self-respect very practical, feel free to adopt it!

[@ritevibe]

What a brilliant video, thank you. I have a quirky question for you... what is the difference between your purple and yellow marker highlights in the book? I know there must be a reason for it :-)

[@jordanthornton]

Good question! Screenshotted, and I'm going to answer your is in an upcoming video - nice light-hearted opportunity to share some behind the scenes, Anthony hahah

[@ritevibe]

@@jordanthornton yay im so happy you responded Jordan... albeit with a "teaser" answer. I'll just have to keep viewing all your upcoming videos for a behind the scenes proper answer, sheesh!! (well, i was going to anyway haha)

[@jordanthornton]

@@ritevibe For sure, think I'll be putting your question in a group of three about research methods - but it should be out soon enough (but who knows, question flow is out of my control!)

[@JoVeda_xo]

Keep your wisdom tight

[@jordanthornton]

All the best, thank you 🌲

[@telaporta4790]

Jordan, what is you take on, Advaita Vedantic Philosophy - the concept of Non-Dualism - how we are all "Creators" - experiencing the sensation of "Separation" - in an Infinite Universe, of Divine Creation: "All" of us going through; Cycles of Bondage, towards the reclamation of Self-Realization?

[@jordanthornton]

Non-dualistic philosophy has many benefits and drawbacks depending upon the baseline level of consciousness of the person encountering the idea-set. It's a beautiful philosophy for the higher levels, but I don't find much use in the theory in a day-to-day sense (there is also potential spiritual bypassing drawbacks which aren't the fault of the philosophy, but rather how people engage with the ideas) - hope this helps!

[@telaporta4790]

Thank you for your response! I was fortunate to study Philosophy from the age of 14 at a Liberal Arts private school in Santa Monica, California, in a classroom of 4 students. After many years of searching for "Higher Truths" - and with the use of, Hegel's pyramid, I was eventually led to, Advaita Vedanta, and its different branches; the Yoga Sutras, Ayurvedic Medicine, Vedic Astrology, The Laws of Cause & Effect, and so on. I would definitely agree with you, in the sense that, "it is a beautiful philosophy for the Higher Levels," but where I would add, is that it CAN be used, in the day-to-day sense, too. The embodiment of wisdom, just through Yoga alone, can align individuals to miraculous states of homeostasis; clarity of “truth”, heightened cognitive awareness; control of mind, and multi-dimensional balance. There is empirical data from numerous neuroscientists proving so. If you have not, I highly recommend checking out, Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work and theories. His neuroscience findings have ironically led him less “West”, and more “East”. In a world where humans are becoming increasingly more "complex" in their Ego-Matrix, especially, with an endless buffet of information to absorb, from my humble point of view; I believe that humans are needing more tools to embody wisdom. The "Mind" trying to figure out the "Mind", usually leads to more of the same - more "Mind". America has around 49% of its population on some form of pharmaceutical opioid (anti-depressant), which I believe could be the result of an over-active and over-worshipping of the “Intellect”. All-in-all, I'm sure we would both agree, that there will always be the Objective, and the, Subjective when it comes to these perspectives and matters. We are certainly at a rich inflection point in our evolution, and so, I commend and cheer those who are putting in the work to make a difference - like yourself! Anyway, these are my humble thoughts! Please keep up the positive work!

[@gandfgandf5826]

The trouble with self respect is it rules out doing a lot of stuff, and people. 😁

[@jordanthornton]

Absolutely, 100% Does take a considerable level of self-restriction, but I've found that the 'sacrifice' is very much worth it - especially when it comes to destructive lifestyle habits which keep us anxious and low-awareness.

[@nellieali1478]

Sorry had to say this. You have the most beautiful eyes

[@jordanthornton]

Thanks for apologising? 😅 Hope you enjoyed the content itself too!

[@JoVeda_xo]

📓

[@jordanthornton]

🌲🔋

[@conniedean3787]

Not sure this is self compassion - my mother had a drinking problem - my x- husband had a drinking problem - was abusive and abandoned the family - I lost 2 children (I donated a kidney)my son died at the age of 28 - and my daughter had a drug overdose and could not talk, walk blind feeding tube wheelchair for 20 years and died at the age of 38 - Sometimes I feel sorry for myself 😢

[@jordanthornton]

I'm sorry to hear this, Connie. That's a lot of suffering for one person to bare - keep going, it's great to know you're spending time engaging with videos like this and looking to keep healing and finding peace.

[@conniedean3787]

@@jordanthornton Thankyou - I travel to Europe and have gone to Israel and it is very healing for me -

[@budogacha]

You are an old soul.

[@jordanthornton]

It's my first-time... I swear.

[@GalvanicImpulses]

What's your astrological sign? do you have a gf? :) how old are you? haha

[@jordanthornton]

This isn't a dating app. With respect, your comment is tone deaf to the actual video content.

[@GalvanicImpulses]

@@jordanthornton lol. Lighten up, If it didn't get to you. You wouldn't have commented, so not entirely tone def. I listened to your video. Everything to talk about I have successfully accomplished. I didn't have any other inspiring comment to make. So I went with my curiosity. Your astrological sign- well your entire natal chart significantly determines how you approach this subject, and also your childhood experiences. I am just curious to see how much real life experiences you have gained to speak at this level or are you just intellectually spitting thoughts and ideas as you navigate your own awakening and watch it as it unfolds.

[@ovelhanegra3658]

@@GalvanicImpulses I got it why you wanted to know that info from Jordan. I too, get intrigued with these details in order to give weight to what I am listening or reading. To know that, isn't necessarily for a 'date', but it can be useful to see if there is a "match" with our own thoughts/feelings and, basically, to understand where he is coming from - but wanting to know astrological details, usually comes from ppl who explore the planets influence over one's life. You must be an ♈! 😄