The Emptiness You Need To Address Before a Relationship | Naftali Moses

[@tonky_tonks]

Last week I stepped out of my comfort zone and decided to go into introspection and explore parts of myself that I had been avoiding. From the discomfort of being alone with myself, to the automatic subconscious programs that I would focus on myself once I did this or that, I forced myself to persist. And so, randomly browsing on KZbin, your video popped up, and based on a statement taken out of context, I had the prejudice that it was about latent chauvinism, so I looked up that you are only a year younger than me, and it seemed like just a way to get views. I decided to watch one of your videos briefly to hear what you had to say, and I was very positively surprised. Some of the things you said touched a deeper part of me and brought up questions I hadn’t asked myself in years. What surprised me even more pleasantly was seeing a young person like myself create such content and speak with such clarity and confidence about phenomena and concepts related to introspection and interpersonal relationships. Thank you for the information you share, and I believe that they will also be part of my Journey towards improvement🙏🏻 Wish you a lot of blessings

[@naftalimoses]

I appreciate your kindness. Glad to know the content helped you to connect deeper to yourself. God bless you.

[@greengoddess11115]

Sometimes we have to empty our cups in order to then be ready to be filled ❤

[@Anna_sese]

For the past few years i ve been in , like a void. Isolated, by myself, aware something within me has to happen or change and just waiting for it to happen. Waiting for myself to understand something, to figure it out, or to have a moment of understanding or a realization that will finally allow me to set things in motion. I don't know what im waiting for, but i know something has to happen within me before i open myself up to relationships. This seems to have come in the perfect time. Thank you NaftaliMoses !

[@adimoran5867]

Naftali, I've noticed the commitment you've made to developing self-awareness and clarity regarding what you want in life and relationships. That kind of awareness is certainly a powerful tool, particularly when you're working to create something meaningful in the world. However, I'd like to pose a question: what if this awareness, though valuable, might not be the true key to the deep connection you're seeking? What if this awareness, in fact, is a byproduct of something deeper-perhaps a protective mechanism designed by the ego to shield you from vulnerability, the very thing that would allow real intimacy to emerge? The intellect, values, and abilities you've developed are not inherently negative, but when they become shields, they can create barriers. These layers, while protective, can obstruct the depth of connection you desire. This is something anyone on a deep personal journey may relate to-it's a trap many people fall into when they dive deeper into an awakening process. We tend to relate to ideologies to keep moving forward, but sometimes that new identity we develop is one the ego clings to, hindering true growth. Like one in relation to opposition itself. It's easy to assume that intellect and values will attract the right people or open the door to deeper relationships. However, while these qualities are important, they can sometimes form barriers to intimacy, barriers that go beyond surface connections. These qualities can draw attention, but they don't always foster the profound bonds we seek at a heart and soul level. What if, rather than connecting with your authentic self, you’ve inadvertently been engaging through the persona that’s been shaped by your experiences? What if that persona-formed by opposition and the pursuit of integration-might be more of a philosophical construct than a true embodiment? Real connection is not built on intellectual debates or on being the one with the most profound thoughts. It arises in moments of stillness, when there’s nothing to prove and no need to perform or the checklists. It’s in those spaces where we can be unguarded, present, and raw. True intimacy emerges when we are free from the masks we wear. If you feel that the people around you are not the ones you are truly seeking, it may be because you’ve been engaging with others from a place of intellect or awareness driven by ego, as you cant draw in deep connection from the mind itself. Opposition-whether between people or within oneself-is often an illusion. The ego thrives on creating separation, convincing us that we must defend against vulnerability in order to protect ourselves. But what if that opposition isn’t real? What if it's the ego's defense mechanism that’s preventing you from experiencing the kind of connection you truly desire, both with others and with the essence of life itself? Intimacy isn't found in opposition. It is cultivated when we drop our walls, let go of the need to be "right" or "safe," and embrace vulnerability, surrendering fully. It thrives in spaces where there’s no need for explanation or performance, and where the ego no longer protects us from being seen. Only when we move past the illusions of opposition-both internal and external-can we connect on a deeper, more authentic level, this is where souls can actually meet deeply together. I’m not suggesting you abandon the self-awareness you've cultivated-it's an essential part of your journey, and this is just insight. However, what if part of that awareness has become tied to an ego-driven defense mechanism, creating the illusion of opposition? What if releasing that defense could unlock the deeper connections you seek? This is a challenge many individuals face on their path of growth. Consider this: What would it be like to see beyond the illusion of opposition, both within yourself and with others? What could happen if you let go of the need to protect, to defend, and instead allowed your true self to emerge, free from the masks or story to be told about the journey itself? How might that change the way you experience relationships and your connection to the world? This is just something worth reflecting on in silence.

[@beautieist]

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[@JP_KriptoSlo]

It certainly feels like theres a chance, after a failed relationship we try go looking for answers and we think we weren't aware enough. But i dont think thats it, ofc it could be, but it is much more plausible connections dont last simply because the connections we are seeking today are rare. This doesnt mean that your awareness driven lifestyle is going to bring you any closer to connecting, it very well could be defence mechanism, however people being more aware doesnt hurt

[@paulinepmd6261]

Following Naftali since June 2024 and I love this man. Really intelligent

[@naftalimoses]

Really appreciate the support ❤

[@greengoddess11115]

Thank you for your guidance on this journey.. I feel that at this time on earth, we are all dealing with such a severance from our authentic selves, and for you to have these roadmaps back to who we truly are on a deep level, and to confront ourselves, and also embrace ourselves to be our whole authentic self is such a blessing and the way you do it with such ferocity and power is always so refreshing and I think you for putting yourself out there and sharing with the world you’re doing A great service and I appreciate all that you do for our community

[@naftalimoses]

This means a lot. Thank you for the support

[@btwthblood]

Hi Naftali, You are such a dear. You are authentic and fearless. I stopped saying I was lonely..... My husband of 38 years passed away unexpectedly in early 2023, and it was so very painful. I was lost. Then, last year, I got into a relationship with a man I just adored. Good and bad...I loved ALL of him. I still do! He ended the relationship after I stepped on his ego. He complimented other women in front of me. I lovingly told him he was embarrassing me. I think he was a validation addict. I was gutted when he broke it off 8 weeks ago, and I went into no contact. A level of depression I had never known. I've worked hard on myself. I no longer say I'm lonely. Now I say, "I'm in solitude." I have realized I'm never really alone. God is with me. Sometimes, my heart can transcend heaven and earth. I have a weird level of peace....not always. But I do believe. I appreciate you!! We would be good friends.

[@naftalimoses]

Wow thank you for sharing your journey. God bless you. Please reach out through Instagram DM with any questions you have. Would love to connect

[@videoworkshop7hills31]

We stop trying to project ourselves onto others once we are grateful for the simple things in life. I was hanging by a thread back in 2021 due to the flu, during the same time of the year - knocked-out on my deathbed, clinging for the last possible breath. It was brutal, but somewhat it put me in the situation of me vs. life itself - keep going for me, for my family and for the loved one. Once I checked out and survived all that, full of scars, more fat, basically a limping shipwreck, she left me after confessing of cheating. I felt void, it hit me like a truck, but at the same time I realized I wasn't connected to whom I was - living on auto-mode, guided by the waves of the destiny and tomorrow, without any control. 4 years later, I did an 180 of whom I was then on all possible domains - at the moment alone - but content with the loneliness, because no one but you will be there to uplift and collect the ashes to rise again like a Phoenix. So both a terrible heartbreak or living on the edge will open your eyes, but in my opinion, this is something that one can only learn by experience, not by wisdom.

[@C0smicbeauty1990]

❤❤❤❤❤ you are so wise. Thank you for the wisdom. Proud to say I try to keep my screen time 2hrs a whole week and I try to use my phone as a tool to make money, not connection. I don’t have any social media. I don’t want to have long text conversations I rather meet up with my loved ones and if they are far, call them. I have a face time date to cook dinner with my friend in Chicago next week . Also….i say this with the most respect, I have the biggest intellectual/emotional crush on you. I admire your work. Bravo.

[@JohnFaultGaming]

Thank you ❤ there’s a reason I’m seeing this! The last 2 years and now especially I’ve realized I’ve never been alone. It was me distancing myself in order to come back the version of “me” I thought people wanted. Creating isolation and life in my head. That’s a dangerous place to be. Remember you are not alone, reach out! You may be pleasantly surprised how much people love you! ❤❤

[@naftalimoses]

Beautiful

[@hhh.2.]

So powerful thank you Naftali for your passion + raw authenticity you deliver here! ❤ 🙌🏽 ❤ - you are appreciated!

[@naftalimoses]

You are so welcome

[@jillianrhodus7950]

Always impressive, influential & inspiring! Thanks for raising the level of conscious awareness which helps humanity out of hell and onto heaven on Earth! ❤ it’s hard work but praise God for those up for the challenge who lead by example!

[@naftalimoses]

God bless you

[@jaquin103]

The timing of this

[@Rissa_Harvest]

Wonderful video as always. ✨

[@naftalimoses]

Thank you! What resonated with you?

[@devinajohnson4106]

You just speak to my soul❤

[@jacquikehoe1254]

Man! I dont like how right you are! But, then again i love it too, for the same reason 😂 Muchas gracias.

[@meiamba05]

Everything here is an art. I see..

[@philkann2986]

What is the name of that movie

[@naftalimoses]

A Complete Unknown

[@EduardoPaez-uq8qx]

So what you're saying is to not close myself off from dating? To date and look for a partner and put myself out there regardless of my insecurities; which I think I'll be able to work out while dating. I was thinking of not dating for a couple of months so I could focus on self improvement, but do yoy think I would be missing out on the growth I could experience when dating? I was able to experience some growth from the woman I last dated(she was 34) I was 28 when we dated a couple of months ago. What's your opinion Naftali?

[@MayaKhuzam]

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[@Yielem]

@2:29 👁🩷