The Gaslighting of Nurses part 2

[@theamerican_insider]

It is tough out there for healthcare workers and it's only getting worse.

[@akum2010]

Truth. I tell patients that we are short staffed. I don't play super hero. I will never take responsibility for the hospital's foolishness.

[@nickysunshine8734]

Then they try to pre-warn us that we shouldn’t tell patients we are short staffed! NOPE, I’m not playing super hero either! They need to know why it’s taking long to get some things done. For this reason I REFUSE to work in the Hospital setting or Long Term Care! I refuse!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Solange94]

Preach

[@ChuckysOveralls]

I will tell the patients we're short staffed in a minute

[@lizrod1799]

Hospitals don’t pay CNA much, and we be slaving gurl!

[@Inkpinkierosie]

Fr even in nursing homes it's insane

[@ScreamTatumRiley]

That’s y I go through agency

[@Terranceon4k]

So true. CNA deserve no less than $20 plus. They are the true hands, eyes and ears.

[@sarahbouchard5388]

When management got on me for filling out white boards I put my name under nurse, charge nurse, tech and RT. That shut them up.

[@SamM32727]

I would say just being honest with the patient makes the most sense because what burdens the patient more? Knowing that the hospital is short staffed, which is a problem going in everywhere, or thinking that their nurse is either incompetent or ignoring their needs? Come on.

[@patriciareaux2584]

I always tell the patients when we are short staffed and that’s almost every night!

[@loraqgui]

I always did the same when I was still doing bedside nursing.

[@omegasage777]

Yupppp they need to know!

[@goldyndyme7436]

It gives that corporate wants to run hospitals like a conveyor belt line and that will and has NEVER WORKED! Ppl are ppl they have their own minds and no two ppl are alike! BIG BUSINESS DOES NOT WANT TO SEE A PROBLEM!

[@Liv9660]

I was working as a tech in 2022 on a medsurg floor. I was a newer tech, newer to healthcare in general at the time. I told a patient that we were short staffed and an administrator heard me and disciplined me for it. I never apologized for it. How will they sit there and say we need to be honest with patients, yet when we are, we get in trouble for it? If the patient asks if we are short and that’s why there are delays in response to call lights, I’m telling the truth!

[@loraqgui]

I have now switched to tech, and in this career, we have what we call "managing expectations," "underpromising but over-delivering." Telling patients when you are short-staffed is a form of managing expectations. That way, when they ring the bell and staff is slow to respond to the call bell, patient has been primed to expect that and won't be disappointed.

[@ediesmiles1]

What needs to be done is document your time in your personal diary! So when it comes to file your class action suit for non paid overtime, no breaks, unfair ratios, etc. Unions work with the hospital; plain and simple! Keep your diary people!

[@MNP208]

Not all hospitals are union. Especially where I live.

[@KendraRN]

@@MNP208 Keeping a record is an excellent thing to do, especially if you’re missing lunch and breaks.

[@jenifad9959]

Yes, you must document your workplace from day one because those EEOC rules is a quick way to collect your coins and as for a severance package.

[@Terranceon4k]

🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ You speaking straight facts and they hate you for that.

[@KendraRN]

Thank you!

[@Solange94]

This is why I left the hospital the Olympics is BS

[@maggiepierre9119]

Preach sister! You are 100% correct!

[@AyyRalphy]

When I was sick in the hospital I would always tell the nurse when it was her time to check in on me she didnt need to do anything with me. I would call in case anything happened and to use that time to eat, go to the bathroom, check their phones. Nurses are burnt out to the max.

[@bobbieriales8764]

That sounds really sweet, but you are not going to be able to call your nurse if you are passed out for some reason.

[@AyyRalphy]

@@bobbieriales8764 you’re right!!! I’ll be fine no worries!!!😁

[@melrosejuannah3563]

You nailed this again Kendra! I don't think these corporations or leaders fully understand the issues nurses are facing at the bedside. As a bedside nurse, the focus is patient centered care, and not all BS they expecting nurses to do.

[@kimpossible2725]

A fall automatically adds 2 extra hours to your shift...🤦‍♀ I had so many falls at my very 1st nursing job that I had PTSD. No lie!

[@NadiaPink]

I think you would be perfect to be a politician. You are smart,kind and caring and brave! I would vote for you.

[@Abidjan-weekly]

This is why I didn’t pursue any other degree in healthcare after my associate degree. No thanks, keep that chaos away from me.

[@jgloryrich4967]

@abidjan-weekly I'm going for my lpn. Is it lucrative obtaining your license to become an lpn?

[@meme-sb7vr]

It's so easy for do nothing/know nothing managers to scream "time management" from the safety of their closed door offices!! So glad to be retired! This video is PTSD inducing! My heart is racing and my blood pressure is sky high watching this, after 31 years at the bedside on an extremely busy cardiac/neuro PCU unit and having been retired for almost 2 years I am still trying to recover from just dealing with hospital management and administration not even counting the daily life or death drama of dealing with patients!! It's just much too much, it is unsafe and unhealthy to be a nurse anymore!! In my 31 years I would conservatively estimate that more than 70% of the time I was late clocking out by at least 20 or more minutes and denied OT payment by my manager at least 50% of the time, and uninterrupted lunch breaks.....yeah, what's that? Lunch was routinely a 10 minute choking down of a snack while charting (completely in sufficient for a 12 hour shift)!! And this hospital had a nurse union, which obviously was just as incompetent and uncaring as hospital management!!!!

[@astrideakamba7756]

Enjoy your retirement ❤

[@MNP208]

In my state there was a lawsuit against a hospital and the employee won. We are now REQUIRED to take a 30 min break. We cannot clock in early.

[@meme-sb7vr]

We were also "required" to clock out and back in for what everyone called a "fake break" or be endless harassed or forced to explain the obvious over and over again.....the unit was too busy, too understaffed and had useless incompetent management that spent more time kissing the asse5 of administration than caring about the staff!!​@@MNP208

[@meme-sb7vr]

​@@astrideakamba7756thank you❤

[@esotericavenue]

the CNA gaslight is REALLLLLL! They have us down to two techs for 40 patients I mean be for real! And most of our patients are in the geriatric population, psych, or confused and fall risks😩 I have also had the scenario where I had no sitter as I also work overnights within the last two months ...You have had so many important points and as a new nurse that's been working only in a hospital setting for two years I am glad to know that it's not just that my nursing abilities "aren't enough" (for lack of a better word right now). I think in another one of your videos you mentioned how they are still treating it as if these are five walkie-talkie patients when the reality is the population is much more sick and we have less help and more expectations every time. Thank you genuinely for posting nursing truths!!

[@roxylalondes]

Not only is your mind busy working when you're sitting still, but you're A) charting, and B) giving your body a rest. All very important

[@NanaKersi]

The favorite one they like to pull: "you gotta learn how to multi task"

[@ada5851]

Right, let me multitask putting this fall risk patient back in bed with the lift while my other 5's call bells/bed alarms are going off 🙄

[@AnnaYAH5315]

People need to stop talking to nurses about time management because it's sooooo obvious that sicknesses and how the body decides to act up are spontaneous!

[@KendraRN]

EXACTLY!!! Lol

[@ediesmiles1]

Exactly, keep your patients safe always! Legally, if you take the assignment, it’s yours. But, at the start of shift, you don’t feel safe; report to the supervisor; because if you accept it and walk out; that’s negligent and abandonment!

[@Elleelleem459]

I will tell patients and family members that we are short staffed immediately. I will tell them how many nurses we are supposed to have, how many called off and how many are present. I will then give them the number to the complaint hotline. I will also encourage them to call the state or joint commission if they feel it’s necessary. But I will not take the fall for the hospital trying to save money for their bonuses or beach houses.

[@prettyangie18]

Hey Kendra, I'm speechless. Everything you're saying is happening in the Hospital where I work and even worst in my floor. At this point, I'm taking your advice: leaving the Hospital bedside. I don't have the power to stop the War in Healthcare, but I can choose my battles. I prefer to earn less, then loose my sanity, putting my life and the patient in danger. Thank you for speaking out.🙏

[@taniapirillo6450]

Thank you for this. I'm a Canadian northern nurse in the middle of nowwhere. We are a 24 bed hospital running with 4 nurses all the time.ive been doing this for over 25 years. Watching you after a crazy night shift. You help me to know that I am not alone.Thanx

[@tinafurler8279]

Im.in the US midwest were going threw the same we have to do something soon it's not getting any better.:/

[@jazzysweat2fit]

I appreciate this so much! You taught me something I will carry on my nurse journey. Time management is a complete scam in real time.

[@MeekMeek1486]

Kendra you put these videos out right on time every time! I have been going through it lately beside is getting worse and worse!

[@kaygall4973]

How about the hospitals that are short staffed on purpose to save money.

[@Terranceon4k]

That’s the real reason for shortage

[@RMA8159]

They tell us not to tell anyone we’re short staffed too. But they can figure it out really quick; one smart patient we had asked ‘so who’s all here?’ Well, A, B & C. ‘That’s it?’

[@Fineapple22]

In my ED, most of our techs are sitting with psychs which leaves us with no techs on the floor. So when I have a patient that soiled themselves and can’t clean them myself cuz patient can’t turn, I ask the family member to help. That’s the only way. The other nurses are taking care of their own mess and I don’t have time to wait cuz they just called a stroke code in triage and I have a patient up for discharge and I know that stroke will come to me as soon as I flip my room. So family member it is.

[@Angelajones-w6f]

You hit the nail on the nose. Every point you made was exactly right. Part 3 please!!!

[@naomim5746]

Thank you for the boldness in which you speak.

[@VLVR4]

@KendraRN- thank you SO much for your insight on “Time Management.” You have literally changed my mind on this topic. As a preceptor, I always emphasize “Time Management” as a priority, but the way you described Time as “only God can control time” and how unforeseen circumstances ALWAYS happen in which we can no longer manage our time, you made a believer out of me… I will continue to teach “clustering care” to help with efficiency, but I will refrain (from this point on) on teaching time management. #TimeManagementisAScam

[@tlivsey1]

Scapegoat=Nurse. From above and below. They will blame absolutely Everything on you. RN here for 26 years including ICU, House supervisor, inpt ortho, transplant unit blah blah blah...Just Don't do it. Run while you are young, smart and beautiful. Get out now. It's not worth it.

[@tenzinlek1262]

Wow so on point about short staffing 👏🏼

[@alwayzhope4ever]

Was in-patient for a combined 8 months in 2020. I adored the majority of my nurses. We had an extraordinary bond, not just due to the length of time, but also since Covid prevented visitors, and I had a terrible time with that. Lake Charles Memorial nursing staff is TOP-SHELF…even when short-staffed. Administrators shouldn’t do that to their nurses, yall are the bedrock of the hospitals, and should be taken care of accordingly. My daughter graduates with her RN/BSN next month! We are so incredibly proud of her. Her externship continues to go wonderfully; she’s just trying to prepare herself for the REAL world of nursing & all that entails. She wants to eventually be a flight nurse.

[@skelker06]

Lollllll my favorite question in x-ray is "how long is this gonna take?" Well that isn't up to me, Sir.

[@erickadw1]

All he'll breaks loose right at shift change. Sometimes it's beyond our control as you explained, but sometimes the patient knows the shift is changing. For me, the patients will start pressing the call buttons demanding that I do this and that for them right at the time I'm about to leave. LITERALLY just gave shift report and everything. Some patients will get out of bed and walk out in the hallway in search of me. So there's your fall right there. Smh. I tell the patient that the day shift team will help them because I was leaving. Some understand while others get a little crazy and complain that the next shift nurses will take too long to get to them. SMH.

[@Journeyofthehouse]

Patients always fall at the beginning of shift and they are found on the floor in am. OR,,,,,,, they are on the floor or ostomy bag busted at 255p when I count the cart at 3pm,, YUP lol never fails.

[@Tammy70101]

Cna here! Kendra, you are preaching to the choir. I used to be one of those "Go Hard" employees. It took me awhile but eventually, I woke up. We are given a lot of tasks to do and we are expected to get them done regardless of staffing. I still do my best but I've learned that short staffing equals short cuts!

[@raquelwarchol8532]

I’m in school in Baltimore and it’s my first clinical and the hospital clinical instructor is already giving our group our first dose of gaslighting. It’s been such an awful experience especially when she snaps at us or yanks things out of hands. It’s so bad but there’s nothing we can do because the last group that complained got back to her and she yelled at them. I have nothing but a bad taste for nursing after this experience. This floor is not understaffed and has CNAs (our instructor takes naps and disappears during our shift) and this is a major hospital in the city. If this is happening as a student I can’t imagine how I’d be treated as a new nurse on one of the busy floors.

[@myimperfectdiary890]

The hospital I am at in North Carolina is so short-staffed that they are requiring nurses to work double shifts. Despite this, nurses are still being blamed for every problem that arises.

[@pamami1227]

So true. All corporate and nurse leaders don't watch Kendra. Her talk is beneath them. Thanks for speaking up Kendra. More please.

[@misumobo]

They've been using nurses as scapegoats forever. A patient got mad at me for not attending to them earlier. Pt was giving mad attitude too. I said, I'm sorry I couldn't get to you on time but unfortunately, we are short staffed today which means I have extra patients and extra responsibilities so it's taking me a bit longer today. Pt was still a bit grouchy. I said, but I'm here now, is there anything you need help with? 😒 all this while, my other Pt trying to get sicker on me. I also have Q6h bloodwork to do for another Pt and a running from one end of the hall to the other end hanging one abx after another. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@supermomdj758]

FACTS definitely true

[@Elaina944]

I work for a hospital in Baltimore, in an administrative capacity. Often times , I have to explain to the patients who have become disgruntled that the nurses are doing the best that they can to provide the necessary care and please be patient. Sometimes, it’s a no win situation for the nurse and the patient. I just love your videos because, they are so informative and soothing to watch. You’re an exceptional, storyteller.

[@SummerSunflower]

Why I left health care.

[@CourageouslyMeWithoutApology]

Nursing is getting harder in all areas. I can't even imagine hospital setting. It is increasingly difficult in all areas of nursing. Long-term care as well. So many patients that are sicker. Wounds, breathing issues, mobility, falls, full assessment, discharge, new admissions, readmittions, medications not available, calls, and have not charted yet,ect. its always short staffed allways. Thanks for speaking on this!

[@KendraRN]

Right! Like how is it possible to manage everything. Don’t forget dealing with unreasonable family members, management, etc. It’s too much.

[@Cariicarky123]

The way I see it when I was a patient I’d rather my nurse was competent and cared and the reason it’s taking so long for something is because they are short staffed. At least they know you care, and that the delay is not because you are lazy or incompletant

[@Maniacworld98]

Wheres the rest of the video 🥹 it cut out at the enddddd

[@lisagardner903]

This is why I retired from ICU. The nurses take the brunt and have no time to do their job.

[@JMC-1989]

Well said on everything!

[@TheAngryCleric]

Nothing will change until we stop running it for prophet.

[@elizabethsm6617]

PROFIT

[@astrideakamba7756]

Kendra we need more of this video 😊

[@KendraRN]

I’ll try

[@mistermilkman]

Gotta love the end of shift BS that never fails 2 happen. I'm supporting a place now where a rapid has 2 b called when there is a fall. A STAT CT is ordered automatically. They love telling the nurses 2 ask 4 help if ur falling behind. I do not hesitate 2 tell the pts & their families that we r short staff. I inform them that they will still get care, it may be delayed. I'm not taking the blame 4 anything. These pts & the families know what's going on though.

[@erickadw1]

Yep. The patients and their families know. Some care while others don't and still demands that the Nurse play super hero with limited support and sometimes limited resources. People people people smh

[@mistermilkman]

@@erickadw1 Lucky 4 them I love my job. I just hate the system.

[@Queenlife101]

… and then they say they are short staff , but fail to hire and put time into training a new hire. They say, they need experienced people to hire. Make it make sense 🤣

[@chrisk4053]

I absolutely love you. You are so real and tell it completely how it is ! You are also stunning. Your skin is glowing and gorgeous. I could watch your videos 24/7 and never get tired of your content Wishing only the best for you

[@erica11717]

Keep preaching!

[@emmadear3276]

If they gonna offer a service survey they better have a tipping option at the end for nurses like everywhere else asking these days on the ipad🤣

[@yolandasumner5777]

Lord it makes people scared.

[@gr-eg3ld]

Hi Kendra, you are an inspiration to me. Going on a tangent here to ask you if spirituality plays a role in your life and if you'd be willing to discuss. I walk with Jesus but often have trouble "giving it to God" and remembering He is in control.

[@dangit459]

The short staff thing is giving me HCA vibes! I quit that! So much happier now

[@mylifeinschrampbells9604]

Omg! I just love you! Thank you!

[@KendraRN]

Thank you 🩷🩷🩷

[@MISSCOOKIE41]

👍FACTS. 1000%

[@Maniacworld98]

YOU SAY IT GIRL!!!

[@niathenurse]

Kendra will you be making a new video because the end of your video cut off 😔

[@KendraRN]

I know😭😭😭 KZbin or some kind of glitch didn’t let me upload in its entirety. I will today. Thank you for watching 🩷

[@niathenurse]

@@KendraRN Thanks Ken you are amazing and so informative inspiring and such a sweet person thank you for all the videos 💕 I enjoy watching all of your videos 💜

[@Earthsbodye]

I'm in Conneticut in the ER and there is no freaking ratio limit...8 to 1 in ED and you can have 2 or more ICU on hold if no beds available. No thanks

[@GMerietheCEO]

Same thing with visiting nurse. It's ridiculous and unhealthy.

[@prettyangie18]

What! Please explain to me why, because I just applied for that position to get away from bedside. Please help a sister here, what's happening in that field?🤔

[@cindyt3416]

Yes! Shortage is in all specialties

[@Keana43]

It sounds like you are trying to manage time ,but things come up out of your control.

[@susiq1121]

Sad that advocating for nurses to unite for change was deleted. This is why nursing is the way it is. Instead using energy against the employer, nurses often use energy against one another.

[@Solange94]

Love this analogy so true

[@sharonbushong9559]

That's why I left patient care.

[@jordanzzzh]

watching ur video at the nurses station right now just after starting 2 blood transfusion... one of them is feeling funny.... 🙄 gotta go back... there is no time management possible... 😮‍💨 that's just not happening....

[@KendraRN]

Oh wow! Was it a reaction? I hope not.

[@jordanzzzh]

@@KendraRN all good... just had to poop.... 😇👍

[@Vesta0831]

I’m just here to show support ❤.

[@aliciagolden2456]

Sis : This situation make you look like a lair/ when short staff is present. My legs are bruised and scratched from running into sharp bed edges wheel chairs ect.. clocking after a incident happened. Bosses want that bonus at the end of the year gurl!!!!

[@KendraRN]

I don’t understand your comment

[@bubblesboss4937]

I sure let them know with the quickness

[@Solange94]

3:50 conditioning you to lie lol

[@loggcabin2434]

What is a resource nurse?

[@ThePinkBellz]

Float pool nurse

[@MamaOAwesome]

Right on!

[@jam6web84]

Ma'am, where is part 3? 😂

[@TinTran-rl9cg]

The fact that Health Care and Nursing become SERVICES (like being waited at a table, like a chauffeur, etc) is INSANE. Baby we are here to heal and help. In my opinion, it is WRONG to call patients clients. Patients are Patients and they need to know that. Health care in this country is a JOKE.

[@tahyrmatos9286]

We always clock out late no option. 0745, am,

[@lizrod1799]

You speaking your truth🙌🏽🙏🏽🫶🏽💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@lizrod1799]

You speak your truth💐🫶🏽

[@apostlelshelly9900]

You're right, like a chicken🐓 Exactly! John 14:6

[@21Luna]

OMG I love watching your videos. I'm an RRT working as vascular access specialist, I just applied to nursing program at local community college. What you are saying is spot on!

[@KendraRN]

Oh wow 🤩 !!! Make sure to keep me posted.

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

Sis I tried to find you on social media?

[@lovefee1981]

The reasons you guys don't have any CNA's is because the starting pay is 15.00 dollars an hour, in the hospital.

[@ScreamTatumRiley]

😂😂😂facts

[@JelloHamster]

sooo true.... ahhhh lol

[@bobbieriales8764]

Bed full of poop!!

[@mistermilkman]

Kendra....ur gonna STOP chopping up this video. 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@KendraRN]

It’s not me, it’s KZbin 😭😭😭😭

[@mistermilkman]

@@KendraRN 🤨 Darn YT! 😤

[@MNP208]

😂😂😂😂😂 She wants to post cliffhangers!

[@mistermilkman]

@@MNP208 😂😂

[@KendraRN]

@@MNP208 Noooo I promise I don’t 😭😭😭. It’s 25 mins total but when I upload, it keeps cutting it off where it pleases😔😔😞

[@lizrod1799]

🫶🏽