The Hard Truth of Living & Dating in Norway

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@lucaspierre9305 7 ай бұрын

So Marina, you're telling me that there's one talkative male Norwegian out there who agreed to talk for almost 2 hours on a podcast. This man must be an exception to the general rule! 🙃 Informative and entertaining talk.

@datingbeyondborderscast 6 ай бұрын

Haha he is one of a kind. I am telling you - I met this man randomly on the street. He looked super scary but stopping him resulted in a conversation we couldn't stop. We just stood on the street chatting away for ages 😂

@ahkkariq7406 4 ай бұрын

I know many Norwegians like this, but I belong to a different generation. Maybe he was born 25 years too late.

@justicekaleobbs1566 Жыл бұрын

His sense of humour is over the roof. Laughed throughout the podcast.

@datingbeyondborderscast Жыл бұрын

Yes he has a very dry sense of humour which I absolutely loved. This is basically why we connected immediately in Oslo and why I wanted to continue chatting to him

@liahk1000 8 ай бұрын

Yes dry humor is the way to go in the north😄

@sofieromanovspector6677 10 ай бұрын

This was great! Please Sondre, start a KZbin channel, I want to hear more. You are so funny 😃.

@datingbeyondborderscast 10 ай бұрын

He is the best!

@pumagutten Жыл бұрын

Marina, Norwegians from the south are not the same as we from Northern Norway. We are known as the Italians of the Nordic, so you should visit Tromsø.❤️

@datingbeyondborderscast Жыл бұрын

Yess - if you listen to the whole Podcast, Sondre actually makes that distinction

@pumagutten Жыл бұрын

@@datingbeyondborderscast I did listen to the whole podcast, but I never heard him talking about other places than Bergen and Trondheim. That's not Northern Norway.

@gautearefjord 11 ай бұрын

Jo, men det der er for ENKELT....Hva med alle som er en mix av nordlending - søring ? Trøndere ? Jeg er mix Bergenser og Balsfjording.... ALTFOR ENKELT..

@nilssveinsson8811 3 ай бұрын

Can't tell too many people about that hehe

@tangbein 2 ай бұрын

As a søring who just visited Bodø, I can confirm this is true.

@AlyssaChloeNYC 11 ай бұрын

I wish foreigners would be informed of these cultural differences before getting involved ...save us a lot of misunderstanding

@jacobc519 3 ай бұрын

I love how he apologized for saying "lazy, get nothing done Spaniards" then explains why Spain is so important to Norwegians xD (although, as a Spaniard he's not wrong )

@OakwiseBecoming 3 ай бұрын

Sounds the same to the British view of Spanish work ethnic but need and love for Spain.

@annastayziaa 8 ай бұрын

can you please interview him again? he's such a great interviewee!

@arnesnielsen 4 ай бұрын

As a Norwegian I think this guy represents only himself and not all Norwegians, being it boys or girls. You can’t categorize people that much. Norwegians are all individuals and of different types or personalities. You can’t say that Norwegians are like this or that. We are all different. I have never experienced a Norwegian not wanting to talk with me even though we don’t know each other. It all depends on how you approach them.

@FredrikSkievan 2 ай бұрын

Å snakke med noen som åpenbart prøver å starte en samtale med deg er nok ikke alltid fordi de virkelig ønsker å snakke. Noen Nordmenn kan være ganske konfliktskye så ikke sikkert de kommer til å si til ansiktet ditt at de ikke ønsker å snakke med deg, for å ikke såre følelser. At du aldri har snakket med en Nordmann som ikke ønsket å snakke med deg er rett og slett noe du ikke kan vite. Men ja selvfølgelig representerer ikke denne karen alle Nordmenn, hvem i all verden trodde det?

@bobtheaverage7189 3 ай бұрын

The Julebord was a huge culture shock. I tend to separate my professional work from the partying and socializing so seeing my older bosses somehow magically gain the energy of a 17-year-old while binge drinking at the alcohol fountain was so crazy to me. Awkward social interactions happen. People show up at the professional workplace afterwards like nothing happened. I can't unsee what I just saw and no one talks about what happened at the Julebord.

@liahk1000 3 ай бұрын

Regarding the question at about 1.19 h regarding how Norwegians view sex growing up. As a Swede I don't remember us ever getting any kind of information how it would be good to wait with sex or anything like that. We were informed about the different ways to protect ourselves from pregnancies and STDs, that's it. We had a visit with school to the adolescence clinic- a clinic free for teenagers where we get free condoms, can get prescribed birth controls etc etc. They're not in communication with the parent. So it was a very non judgmental attitude.

@MMasterDE 2 ай бұрын

Nobody telling you that should wait, or find someone special before doing it etc, that your first time happens only once etc, is kind of irresponsible and gross when talking to kids about it in my opinion. I actually live in Norway, and were told these things.

@galaxytrio Жыл бұрын

Interesting and charming guest.

@chriscoll6493 9 ай бұрын

Norwegian-American here. Sondre and his natural contrariness, gives me hope for my cousins there.

@anastasia10017 6 ай бұрын

I was involved with a Norwegian man for some years. To this day, I can't figure him out. In all the years, he has never said happy birthday or bought me a Christmas present. his sister was quite different in that she was quite emotional.

@Ridiculina 4 ай бұрын

I think you can replace ‘Norwegian’ with ‘socially inept,’ lol. It’s not a normal, nor common feature among Norwegian men or women.

@OakwiseBecoming 3 ай бұрын

Was he inexperienced with relationships? I had trouble with my British husband being an absolutely inept gift giver (as in not bothering at all) but it wasn’t down to culture, he was baby of the family and never had a girlfriend before. He wasn’t used to having to dote on or take care of another person before. I was very hurt by it and told him it was emotionally abusive to neglect someone this way and he’s better now.

@LisKofod Ай бұрын

You must have found a cave man 😊

@georgia_swann 10 ай бұрын

This was EXCELLENT!

@annastayziaa 8 ай бұрын

36:00 - I DIED LAUGHING OUT LOUD AT THIS LMFAOOOOO I love that Norwegians literally have a name for this!! BAHAHAHAHAHA 1:13:05 - bergen :) ... best place in Norway to connect with Norwegians as a foreigner (both in friendship and romance). 1:36:42 - bergen & tumheim

@sumbajumba3037 Жыл бұрын

a great conversation

@glykokoutaliousyko 6 ай бұрын

Really interesting video! Thank you both! 😊 Seems that Bergen is the Thessaloniki (Vs Athens) of Greece 😋

@princegates6227 Жыл бұрын

Next Denmark 🇩🇰

@The-Vega-Islands Жыл бұрын

I am from Northern Norway, and I find what he is describing weird.

@bringiton5282 7 ай бұрын

Thank God 😂

@StoltHD 5 ай бұрын

I'm from South-East of Norway, I also find it weird... This is more the jokes we tell about us self as Norwegians when we want attention from some foreigners... Except the part of the "Julebord", and the part of "one good friend vs. multiple not so good friends". Maybe I am to old, and experienced the '80s and '90s.

@ahkkariq7406 4 ай бұрын

@@StoltHD And I am both from Northern Norway and too old. But I live in the south and have children of the relevant age. I suspect he is describing Oslo's dating scene.

@StoltHD 4 ай бұрын

@@ahkkariq7406 - yeh, and the dating scenes of today, because it was never like that back in the days when I was "fast inventar" at John's, "Søstrene Larsen" etc.

@scarba 11 ай бұрын

Sounds exactly like a Scottish Christmas party, but then we do have a lot of Norwegian DNA. 😂

@Alaskan-Armadillo 4 ай бұрын

Maybe the Norwegian DNA is from a Christmas Party centuries ago :P

@Rehook2 2 ай бұрын

Most likely he visits or visited Spain in summer time which is quite a special moment even to the spanish people where we increase our tendency to approach people very much so should they be foreigners, let alone if they are blonde with blue eyes although i acknowledge this is not the case, that makes this interaction even more interesting. On the other hand, he most likely went to the coastal areas of Spain which also have an extra predisposition to being specially welcoming to foreigners also from an economic point of view. This spanish stereotype born out of this particular context and areas differs quite a lot from the interior and northern parts of Spain, but very specially from the interior . Not gonna say they are scandinavians but it's a whole different animal in comparison to this other Spain depicted or stereotypical. But there is one thing for sure, Spain, given its history where the scandinavians by the way had their part, is been very much exposed to many cultures and different people through millennials so i guess that that together with the climate, beaches and a very much tourism based economy explains the average spanish character.

@jennyal8857 7 ай бұрын

I love your podcasts especialy this one because you both made me laugh.Why didint you make a video about Greeks and dating culture in Greece? I would love to see that

@datingbeyondborderscast 6 ай бұрын

Will get to it ☺️

@AndrewTheVikings Жыл бұрын

Ironically, they don't like acting like alphas but they want to be with alphas.

@placeswelive5388 2 ай бұрын

This dude spun gold.

@itsemmadearcaute 4 ай бұрын

where is this guy from? he was very positive about western cities, is he from Bergen as well?

@nicholasdoyle7342 7 ай бұрын

So I’m at marker 39:57 and . . . did Marina just go 50 SoG on this man?!? 😂❤😂 And he turns it around on her! Love it 😂😂😂

@anastasia10017 6 ай бұрын

The thing is that dating did not used to be so expensive. Taking a girl out to the movies and an ice cream was a "cheap date", affordable for everybody and very enjoyable. it would be "low maintenance" as Sondre puts it. In addition, if the young man wanted to see you, he would come to your family home and he would socialize with you, some friends, and your family. Your mother would feed him and he would be invited to Christmas parties and other events. Now dating is more isolated and one on one. Now going to the movies is $60 if you share the popcorn. Who can afford that ? I went to a boring, small neighborhood pub and on the menu, the basic hamburger was $31 !!!! So for a guy to invite you out for just a hamburger and a beer is going to cost almost $100 !! I am on the side of that men need to pay for dates. It is gallant and good manners. But even I can see that expecting a guy to pay $100 - $200 every time he sees you is unsustainable.

@joninator7858 3 ай бұрын

Splitting the bill seems like an easy fix for the problem, but since you think men 'need' to pay for dates, it kind of feels like this issue is partly self-inflicted.

@Commentator488 2 ай бұрын

@@joninator7858 I would argue that depends on the culture, splitting in Scandinavia absolutely yes

@joninator7858 2 ай бұрын

@@Commentator488 I mean considering that OP claims that going to the movies in her country costs 60 bucks which is Insane btw, I'm very certain that she is going to have to cope and pay for herself sooner or later regardless of her culture

@Commentator488 2 ай бұрын

@@joninator7858 Or they won’t watch the movie lol

@joninator7858 2 ай бұрын

@@Commentator488 Use your brain and think about it: If going to the movies costs you 60 bucks, how much do you think other dating activities will cost? The answer is probably more. I live in Norway which is considered expensive and movie tickets are nowhere near 60 bucks.

@CharlotteVogt-w2s 2 ай бұрын

Hahaha jeg er norsk, men har bodd 30 år i Frankrike. Sondre du er så morsom 😂❤

@Fjord_Driver 9 ай бұрын

Mel Gibson would be a good interview on this alcohol topic.

@Fjord_Driver 9 ай бұрын

Free meal women are very common in the US. The more attractive they are, the more likely you, as a male, will just be used to pay for a meal because she is bored on whatever night it is. They have their list of guys on their phones and they sure as hell know who the pushover free meal guys are. That is why as an American guy, if I am going on a date, it is clarified up front that we are splitting the bill long before we get to wherever we are going. If there is another date after that, it will also be split. This method quickly washes away the women who are only interested in using you for your wallet, versus actually interested in spending time with you.

@BillLaBrie 4 ай бұрын

“Just come over, I’m making spaghetti.” That’s the way to handle it.

@OakwiseBecoming 3 ай бұрын

Bitter loser will never have a meaningful relationship. Will likely be emotionally abusive because he walks through life with a chip on his shoulder always expecting the worst. Ladies, AVOID AVOID AVOID men like this!

@Fjord_Driver 3 ай бұрын

@@OakwiseBecoming It must have been the chips and salsa you wanted to get for free. So sorry you had to cough up actual money to pay for your half. Men, stay FAR FAR FAR away from women like this! She probably pretends to go to the bathroom and then leaves you with the bill after ordering lobster. Run don't walk men!

@liahk1000 3 ай бұрын

Hm interesting. I wonder though if it's the actual free meal that would be the driving force for this behavior. Maybe it's more to feel in a position of power, to try out how much she can make men do for her. Like more of an ego trip thing?

@BillLaBrie 3 ай бұрын

@@liahk1000 Of course it’s not driven by the threat of starvation. It’s just nicer to eat in restaurants and even nicer to know you got a guy to pay for it.