The Hard Truths of Your 40s 😢

[@ohwowitspau]

I’m 40. My advice to younger people is to let go of the ones who have hurt you, you have escaped them. You are free. Embrace those who care for you, these are the people who check up on you, listen to you and value you. Don’t let social media pressure you. You don’t have to be a “somebody” but be someone people can look up to. Always save money. Do not buy things that are not important, you don’t need 20 purses or 60 pairs of shoes. You just need a few comfortable shoes. Be kind to anyone you encounter and don’t let people intimidate you. We all make mistakes and we all have insecurities. Reward yourself once in a while. Travel if you can.

[@sweethoney11]

tq sir! ❤❤

[@midnightscreamer2481]

Beautiful advice, I screenshot you just to remind myself what's really important.

[@alluringbliss4165]

I need that, hard for me to forgive and let go

[@YuyiLeal]

Wonderful comment!!!

[@AngelOnEarth0614]

Great advice. I had to screenshot your comment . I hope you don't mind

[@rickholland6695]

Enjoy life while you're young. Work to live, don't live to work. The decades of wear and tear can really take a toll on your body. I am 62 now and an EMT/Paramedic Instructor. In my late teens, 20s, 30s, and even into my 40s, I was lifting patients, slowly destroying my body. My wife, Penny, was also an EMT/Paramedic. She lifted patients until she was in her 40s as well. Then, she transitioned into medical dispatch. I look back. Penny and I worked a lot of hours (24-hour shifts). However, we worked the vast majority of our EMS careers together. So we were able to enjoy work more than most because we were partners both on and off duty, building a successful life together. I knew Penny for 43 great years. We lived together for 30 years, married 15 of them. Unfortunately, she passed away suddenly in 2020. Nothing lasts forever. Enjoy it all while you can. I love and miss you, my wonderful wife. But life goes on.

[@eclass96]

💯%

[@DubG9]

God bless you, Sir!

[@gtorr47]

Sorry for your loss, Rick. Happy to know you and Penny shared some great moments in this ife time 💗

[@leefunkera]

Sorry to hear my man. It seems you met your soul mate! Truly blessed you are to have experienced that. So many can live a lifetime without that luck and never find their true mate! 💕

[@BC-om9ui]

Thanks for sharing. Hope life continues to bless you. OneLove brother

[@ResistanceQuest]

I'm 40 this year. I realized I spent my 30s not making money or having fun, but worrying and waiting for something to happen. I believed I was special and something would just come through for me, or "one day," I would start working hard enough to bring about my inevitable success. If I could do it all over again, I'd a) listen to my heart more, b) choose a different career, c) accept that nothing is a given, nothing is permanent, and no one else can help you but you

[@pigeonlove]

I'm 43 and preparing to go to university for 6 years for a complete change of career basically because it might be late now but less late than in the future 😂

[@natedog69420]

appreciate this. im 26. ur 40, not old. just older. focus up and work hard

[@ResistanceQuest]

@@pigeonlove good for you mate. That's awesome! What are you changing to and from?

[@ResistanceQuest]

@@natedog69420 I appreciate that. When time is gone, it seems so precious that it can feel like it's all run out when it's really only down a notch or two. Hope that makes sense lol. But you're right. I have time. And I will focus, dammit! (saying that to myself) Cheers 🤜🤛

[@the_true_hier_to_the_sharingan]

I needed this.

[@Josh-99]

This man speaks the trust. I'm 45 -- almost 46 -- and my wife, who is about the same age as me, received a cancer diagnosis last year. She beat it, but it still got me wondering why I was working so much, especially when we own our house, have zero debt, have plenty of cash on hand, and have lots of money saved for retirement. So I pared back to part-time work and started doing things I enjoy more, especially spending more time with my wife and my friends. I don't need to be wealthy, I just need to be happy.

[@john.premose]

If only billionaires could see things that way

[@john.premose]

@@Cocoisagordonsetter what are you even talking about?

[@john.premose]

@@Cocoisagordonsetter and I'm worried about them because what they do affects my life.

[@dsvet]

Working hard when you were younger has afforded you the ability to do these things now.

[@Josh-99]

@@dsvet It's so much more than that. I've received a great many advantages over the course of my life, as has my wife, that we didn't earn for ourselves. The biggest being that we both hit the birth lottery and were born into well-off families that loved us very much. The second biggest being that we never had any serious physical or mental health issues until just last year. I don't want to minimize the value of the work my wife and I have done or the decision we have made to get to where we are in life, but we also need to acknowledge the value of the massive advantages we have over the vast majority of the American population. We took a path to "winning Capitalism" that most people literally cannot walk.

[@loxley75]

Best thing about life in your forties is the lack of toxic people. By this time you learn that you don't need to keep them in your life, you can just...let them go!

[@nicolettakouris]

Yes! In your 40s you finally prioritize your own happiness.

[@kathyhansen2820]

It's good you figured that out at a young age. Many people never do.

[@Jp18888]

That’s encouraging to hear. I’m nearing my mid 30s, been drowning under so much Toxic people in the past three years as I’ve hurt and been learning slowly to see them for what they are through many tears, anger, disappointment, anguish etc… going through a healing process now but the realization of what you shared comforts me greatly. I guess all I’m feeling and going through now is the process and journey of weaning off the wrong people in life and becoming more acquainted with the standard of healthy loving peeps I truly deserve in life. By my 40s, I can look back on all this and bask in freedom in this arena of life ❤

[@Kruz3r]

I'm already doing it and I'm on my twenties.

[@ihnmefgfu16428]

Is it ok to cut off an old friend if you feel anxious everytime she tries to contact you? I kind of feel guilty but i don't have the energy or desire to meet the friend

[@conorgrogan]

My Grandpa (RIP) was probably about 90 when he told me what age he would be again if given the chance. I honestly remember expecting him to say 20 something or close to that. Without hesitation he said "60. Life clicked a lot for me at 60". Will always be glad we had that conversation because it was a perspective I needed to hear. Just goes to show ya, really.

[@sobeidalagrange7129]

👏👏👏👍👍👍🫡🫡🫡😎😎😎😻😻😻

[@jorgesaltus9885]

Lovely❤

[@vegetossgss1114]

4 DAYS WORK WEEK FOR A BETTER WORK PERSONAL LIFE BALANCE!

[@sarahbilotta8814]

I love this.

[@riphihe]

me2 (needed to hear that)

[@rolsonDotcom]

I'm turning 50 in a week. This gentleman is right on the money about TIME. Don't waste it. You never get it back. You don't have all the time in the world. The work you put in today in your 20's and 30's will reap rewards when you hit your 40's, 50's and 60's. Also...you're never too old to make a change in your life. Work hard and never give up.

[@HarmeetSinghBrarOfficial]

Thank you for this ❤

[@vegetossgss1114]

4 days work week !

[@buddyrevell511]

ok that's not really what he said but i agree more with your position, of not wasting time.

[@sphinx_8872]

Not in my forties yet but if there's one thing my 30s have taught me it's that it's good to have goals and dreams, but it's the journey not the destination that really matters.

[@CookRugbyCinemaTravel]

That's the poem from Kavafis, "Ithaki"

[@krisweaver7524]

One thing I learned through my 20's: Don't waste time on people who don't have your best interest in mind. Your circle will be smaller, but much more productive.

[@philipoconnor2236]

What happens if the person themselves doesn't have their own best interest at heart??

[@fab956]

@@philipoconnor2236they will gravitate towards bad people and they will “destroy each other”

[@alswearengen6427]

Why would anyone have your best interest in mind? From your comment, I guarantee you don't have anyone's best interest in mind, other than your own.

[@igloozoo3771]

I give people the room to change. I don't automatically cancel them. I am glad I didn't cancel my parents. I see them as my friends now and individuals even though they weren't the best parents growing up. Being a forgiving person is a better advice. Burning too many bridges will eventually make you the only person on an island of one.

[@romystumpy1197]

Very true,

[@paulmarsh8974]

I'm 69 and can honestly say that you're a spring chicken at 42...

[@rarebreeds8738]

Exactly!

[@AwakeningVibes-369]

oh Uncle Paul i am 36 and i feel like 60 yrs old. I feel like is this it? I working like a dog and on weekend be happy and on weekdays stay sad and also, the depression that hits on Sunday night to go over again another Week of rat race. 😭😭

[@jinxc1620]

that's a nice age

[@razorfists]

Nice

[@CobraHigh]

You don't know the suffering of my generation. At 40 we've already lived several lifetimes. 9/11, the stock market crash, the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq, crushing student loan debt most of us can never pay back, under employment, social media destroying lives and dividing society, with new daily Hashtag movements, cancel culture, woke culture and ofcourse let's not forget the pandemic. We're just waiting for the next catastrophe and it should be here anytime between now and the next two years.

[@Sig_716]

I’m 40, I feel 100 times stronger and better than I did in my 20s-30s.. The key is to stay in shape

[@pigeonlove]

I think he meant mentally

[@robertsnellgrove2664]

Advice everyone should pay attention to, without good health and strength you will struggle later in life. 💪☺️

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

​@@pigeonlove omega 3

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

@@pigeonlove mentally lm 100% better wisdom comes with age

[@paulhelden]

Faster and stronger

[@wheathusk2499]

When they said health is wealth they weren't kidding. In my 20s I chased success and finances in my 30s I was stressed and burnt out now focusing on health and living slow

[@rubenssz]

I'm 34 and I'm reducing sugar intake drastically. It's one of the best things I've done. Makes it so easy to be fit you can't believe it. Also, your skin, your energy levels, your sleep, your focus, almost everything has been improving. Great really

[@greyeyed123]

I'm 48, and I feel like if I DIDN'T prioritize money in my 20's and 30's (or at least getting myself on a path to money), my 40's would have been MUCH harder. It's easy to say other things are more important than money when you've finally achieved financial stability. When you have no financial stability and DECADES of your life are looming in front of you...money is indeed important.

[@greyeyed123]

@9λ I do that also. I just have more money to spend on better food choices than I did 30 years ago.

[@kgs_7186]

I'm 51 and I'm glad I grew up in the era that I did. This society today is a god damn joke.

[@D-A-N-]

Most people who made money later on said that money is not the most important and they wasted their life on losing time with loved ones because of it . Perceptive my f

[@warewareno]

@greyeyed123 I’m glad you said this. Because I definitely feel the same. It’s like the hierarchy of needs. If not having money, like being sick and missing pay, will result in you not having food, rent money, transportation, etc. money becomes important really quickly. All these people saying money isn’t important change their tune when you mention words “invest”, “have”, “borrow”, and “me”.

[@mr.nobody2401]

Facts

[@allikohcysp]

I’m 42 and after doing literally nothing with my life through my 20’s and most of my 30’s, I feel life is just beginning. Smoked weed, drank alcohol every weekend and spent my disposable income on stupid shit. Fell in love at 36, now 4 kids later I just bought my first house and working every spare moment I have. No regrets. The single most important thing I’ve learned is that you need to take care of your health. You can have everything in the world, but if you don’t have your health, you can lose it all in an instant. All that smoking, drinking, unhealthy eating, unhealthy lifestyle will catch up to you and it will hit you all at once and hopefully it’s not too late when it does.

[@michaelchia6972]

That’s awesome you empowered yourself and grateful for your health. continue to be grateful and that joy you feel will one day bless others who want it. Like you posting here, keep encouraging to get better daily and each step. But take the time to be still and reflect. All the man’s miseries from not being able to sit quietly in the room alone.

[@allikohcysp]

@@michaelchia6972 thank you for your kind words 🙏🏽

[@hockey_hungry]

This actually feels good because I'm 27 and do all the partying you just talked about. If your saying i have 10 more years to fall in love and eventually have kids. God damn this is gunna be a good 10 years haha.

[@VansSpartacus]

I agree..

[@eatlovetravelwithheidi]

Very true!

[@theriffguy8237]

Never make someone a priority that doesn't reciprocate.

[@TheFlareMind]

True

[@TescoRoadman]

Aka modern women

[@sammujkic7869]

WTF get in shape omg 42 wow

[@ayaexplores]

i needed this

[@Mono_Autophobic]

​@@TescoRoadmanmisogynistic clown 🤡

[@MrPicklerwoof]

In my mid-40's. I have one piece of advice to young people: Stop worrying about what others think of you! Forge your own path and be yourself. Become happy and comfortable with who you are. Do not put on an act or maintain a persona. That was my biggest mistake and it took me around 20 years of adulthood to finally figure it out.

[@davidw5532]

I’m 43 and feel the best I have ever felt in my life ! It’s all about staying fit and eating right!!

[@elsie9434]

Yes yes & yes 👌🏾👏🏽❤️

[@shantideva30]

same age, same feeling o/ greetings

[@boilerhousegarage]

Don't you get nagging pains, sore and locking joints? I used to work out a lot and did several martial arts, but my right hip is knackered now and I get these pinching pains in my torso (don’t know what it is, doctors were useless).

[@preityb200]

i do not agree with this man ,i am 40 he looks way too old and not fit. My energy is somehow the same as i had i my 20s,only reason i am tired is because of taking care kids and aging parents along with a career .Also i do not agree with taking your time in 20s ,pls .....20s and early 30s are about setting goals and making money and a great career.By late 30s and 40s ,If you have a house and enough money in your bank account now is the time to enjoy with kids and family........i learnt from my mistake ,i had a good start in career in my early 20s but i switch my career in my late 20s and my entire my 30s are spent in motherhood ,so my finances are not that good but i am working on it now .I am a woman so i am still considered successful but for a guy i will definitely recommend figuring out what you want to do in your life and working hard for it. Also by 30s pay attention to your diet,eat healthy,......you will thank yourself in your 40s

[@lukesky8531]

Say word lol. Low key, he big as hell he’d feel better if he ate better. I drank and ate like shit forever. I lost 30 pounds when I quit drinking, and I stopped eating out. I’m in the best shape of my life. Im only 37 but I know 42 won’t be bad if I keep this up. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@austenhead5303]

I'm 43. I too am exhausted. My advice to younger people: The older you get, the harder it is to make friends. So make good friends. Be picky. Don't invest time and emotion into people who don't value and respect you as they ought, but also don't discard good people because of trivial reasons. You'll only have enough time to develop close ties with a handful of people - so choose wisely. As for money, don't throw it away on expensive luxury items which depreciate in value within a short time, such as flagship phones. Save up and buy smart things, like realestate.

[@damnjustassignmeone]

I’m curious why you’re exhausted. I’m in my mid-40s, and I really don’t get it.

[@austenhead5303]

@@damnjustassignmeone The daily grind, dude. Full time job, and then the constant maintenance of living space, car, body, paper work. Add elderly parents getting increasingly needy. No support from anywhere. Never enough time. And I'm lucky enough to still be healthy and to have no kids.

[@damnjustassignmeone]

@@austenhead5303 Huh. Well, I have a gut and a small old house. So maybe that helps. Hear you about work though. I feel like there’s almost no job that’s not a ton of hours and stress. That much is true.

[@htadelle]

@@austenhead5303acts. Well said. The daily grind is exhausting and all that adulting entails.

[@kellyvariste4831]

Oh these or facts for sure! Well said.👏👍

[@erdevon3257]

Staying fit,healthy and flexible is the priority

[@M_SC]

Sounds like you neglect your kids emotionally

[@lostcrouton5342]

@@M_SC how did you even jump to that conclusion?

[@evolutionofmoeco]

​@@M_SC 😂😂😂😂 are you having a different conversation?

[@manny57]

@@M_SC I think you may be a Bot, that's programmed to say that line to 1000s of people who mentions "fit and healthy"

[@Gary_Winthorpe]

@@M_SCsounds like you 💨 your dad

[@coolbreeze8820]

I'm in my 40s, and I feel the same as I did when was 20.

[@steved6269]

I call BS lol. Not the same...maybe similar, but let's not get crazy 😎

[@coolbreeze8820]

@@steved6269 Nonsense, if you take care of yourself.

[@derrickbelafonte1423]

I mean I'm 38 and I don't feel anything,I also did 10 years in prison so I'm really 28 spiritually 😂​@@steved6269

[@diegoandrescortes9278]

​​@@steved6269dude you are still on your prime until 45 if you just took care of yourself over the years , like 40s are not considered old at all is an age when are starting to build up wisdom from experience , no muscle loss you still can do all things you used to do back then when 20 as long as you are healthy

[@WalkingWithAlex]

Same. Better in some ways

[@aaronlebabo3927]

"Some men are old at 30, some are young at 80" Joseph Murphy

[@cameliap1146]

Don't fool your self. It's simply not true. Just words said by elderly people trying to feel better .

[@pitt5674]

FU

[@takezomiyamoto1390]

or so they say

[@mikec4487]

@@cameliap1146 not true at all I ve met people who died jn the early thirties of health complications from an unhealthy and there is people in there. 60s that can bang out sets of 20 on the pull up bar

[@adrienhenao3256]

Facts

[@andrewvo8395]

Here’s what I’ve learned at 41. All these relationships that you stress over in your early years, the sacrifices you make to “make it work” usually ends up being a complete waste of time. My message to all you guys out there. Focus on making money, not to be rich, but to be able to buy time… time to do whatever the hell you want with your life. Whether that’s traveling, reading and doing nothing, taking care of others… don’t waste your time trying to make a woman happy, because you can’t. Make yourself happy first and foremost. That is all.

[@jared3519]

😂😂 divorce court got another one 😂😂

[@favianpliego559]

I’m DEAD 💀

[@michaelchia6972]

it’s great that you are looking inward first. But only start relationships when you yourself are overflowing with joy and emotional maturity to share with a partner. Life is good and life goes on. No man is an island, so make the best of life with its ups and downs.

[@Kenny-Ross]

Love it! We’re on the same wavelength. I just turned 41 back in December. I’m single, never married, nor have children. I’m on a South American adventure with a buddy of mine who is 31 and also single, never married and no children. We talk about this all the time. Staying focused on yourself, making money and doing the things you want to do. If we were tied down with a wife and kids we wouldn’t have been able to do the things we’ve done in our lives. Or even a girlfriend we would be tied down.

[@ben-cl5in]

True 100%

[@travissmarion]

I'm 44 and the most important thing is "Quit caring what others think about you". And you can pick your friends, but not your family... Some of the people closest to you (family) are the ones talking about you behind your back.

[@emeraldelle6]

Oh totally. I realized that a good portion of my family are actually some of my worst enemies because I trusted them and love them and they should have been there for me and yet they are the ones most damaging to me and speaking ill of me whenever I’m not around

[@codeeater0]

@@emeraldelle6 I know what you mean. And what was given to the family was unconditional, and I was too young to see what they were really like.

[@t.f.6297]

#facts 👆💯🙌🏾

[@dixoncesarean3338]

This talking behind your back thing, isn't it what everybody does all the time when talking about others? Does it make it ok if it's positive things even though talking behind one's back? In this case it's not spreading rumors, just talking behind one's back, like a parent discussing the child's future but not in front of the child.

[@VansSpartacus]

I agree with you, we can pick our Freinds, life partner but not our Family….

[@wizardofahhhhhhz]

He is spot on. I’m 40. My niece asked me why I was tired the other day and I told her that I’ve been tired for the last 7 years 😩😂

[@intelligentmeditations8378]

I'm guessing you haven't heard of shilajit? Look it up, completely natural, it's minerals and it gives you so much energy among many other benefits

[@annanajduch5201]

Get a complete medical evaluation

[@MrJamesdryable]

That's your fault. Don't drink, eat healthy, exercise, hydrate, prioritise sleep over absolutely everything else.

[@wjb4578]

​@@bookofrhymes225no, it literally is easy. Nothing is forcing you to have unhealthy habits. You choose to drink, you choose to eat junk food, you choose to have horrible sleep hygiene, you choose to not work out. I'm saying "you" in the general sense, not you personally because I don't know you, fyi.

[@wjb4578]

​@@MrJamesdryablepreach

[@FunkyChild718]

I'm 42 and tremendously enjoyed my life, primarily because I have loved ones around me and have been a remote worker for 20 years. I travel around the world for several months out of the year and have had a lot of adventures that wouldn't have been possible in any other era unless you were super wealthy. I feel lucky and look forward to the next 20 years of travel and seeing my kid grow up.

[@maggiepp7997]

Hey, can I ask you what do you do for living that you can work remotely ?

[@DaisyandJesus116]

Enjoy every day. Im 44 and I have no idea how fast the years went. 😢

[@bogrunberger]

So true. It seems like just a few years ago I celebrated the new millenium and graduated high school. I can't believe it when I see young adults that were born after 2000 - it just blows my mind.

[@michael7286]

Time goes by so fast but at 44 you are still VERY YOUNG.

[@Jadelove46]

Me too girl! What month were you born? I was October

[@Silentnomore0]

I’m 44. I wish I didn’t buy into the hype of home ownership and new cars so early. I should have spent my 20’s living more.

[@millevenon5853]

Did you ride the cock carousel?

[@mr.bluenotedoobop]

I just turned 41 and I’m in the best shape of my life and I also prioritized how I work out, eat and just general self care. I realized I’m also in the best shape vs my 30’s and 20’s because I also prioritized my mental health. Even though I always took care of myself physically starting in my mid 20’s, I never took care of my mental health until my late 30’s. I always felt like I was running empty, workaholic who was always “grinding”, but all I was doing was always running myself into the ground and it was difficult to prioritize things I loved to do and people I wanted to be with. Work hard people, but def set aside time for things you love to do and people you care about.

[@anaz5918]

Everyone is different not many people have choices of having a balance life especially when it comes to work or personal problems like taking care of a family member. While I do take care of my health and I still try to workout 4/5 times a week I don’t judge people who don’t because you never know what they are dealing with on their every day life .

[@antispiritanimal3467]

I'm interested, could you specify what you mean by taking care of your mental health? I'm 23 and I think and reflect alot on my mental health but I don't do therapy or something. What has done the trick for you?

[@mr.bluenotedoobop]

@@anaz5918 100% I find that it's easy to judge people, but realistically you never really know what someone is going through unless you really know them extremely well. One thing people can use more of is kindness.

[@cmg1819]

Na I bet your as miserable as everyone else.

[@Vanessa_L]

I’m 42 and at the best shape of my life. Life & age is what you make it. I work A LOT…on top of being an it project manager i have vacation rentals. I manage to exercise and meditate at least 1.5 hrs a day 5-6 days a week. Sometimes 7

[@Davebro38]

I agree I'm 53 and feel unstoppable. Health is wealth

[@KnicksNYanks84]

I’m 60 and healthier and stronger than most 22 year olds I only consume vegetables fruits and nuts

[@JayRay-u9k]

Well Vanessa and IT project manager guess it's not that hard when you don't have kids

[@Vanessa_L]

@@JayRay-u9ki have a stepson who lives with us. My husband does the same as i do. Even if its 30 min you can give to yourself, its super helpful.

[@BobbyMcGee_2023]

I am in my mid 40's and the advice I would give a young person is save your money and prioritize trying to retire as early as possible. Nothing else is worth it. Try to escape the rat race as soon as you can. That's all that matters. Trust me on this.

[@iam_topg]

26 here, thanks for these words i really needed it 💕 this is exactly my thoughts

[@jammie2475]

Wish i had known this. I started investing last year and i'm 39. I'm afraid of how late i'm going to have to work before i retire. If i had known what i know now, I would have hopped on that FIRE movement.

[@artugert]

That does matter, but there are things that matter MUCH more than that. You will die some day. At that time, you won't give a crap when you retired.

[@GoldKingsMan]

43 here, and agree with this statement.Stay on your grind gents!

[@amorepsyche808]

Absolutely with you, the rat race is tge worst

[@ephermallove]

My father passed away at 42. He suddenly was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer at age 40. He was the rock of our family and was in the mindset that he needed to work constantly to provide for the family-sometimes 60-70 hour weeks. In his final years, he finally was able to slow down and he said that was the “happiest he’s ever been.” Don’t forget to enjoy the moments, friends, and especially your family.

[@kirerunte1046]

Yup not working is great so that's what I prioritize, enjoy the depopulation and collapse since work doesn't pay a basic living anymore cuz I'm not killing myself for money that doesn't buy the basics anymore

[@ResistanceQuest]

Wow that messed up. I'm sorry for your loss 💜 I lost my dad when he was 54. I hope he was happy; he was a little bit of the quiet type. Be well :)

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

❤❤❤❤❤ prays

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

Tomorrow not guaranteed to anyone

[@god563616]

My Dad died at that age too

[@christineyoung8345]

I'm 45. I think one of the biggest shift is realizing how important family is. When i was in my 20s，life was all about fulfilling my dreams, "finding myself." Then I realized I am not that important. Love is the driving force of life. Cheish those that deserve your love. Love well and love hard, it's worth it.

[@natureswhisper1397]

Amen to that! There's nothing more important than love

[@someguycalledcerberus9805]

I've realised this at 15, and have been saying this to all my peers all the time. Real human connection is the only thing that matters. Find someone you can love and who can love you and stay healthy. That's it. Unfortunately, I have never succeeded.

[@BodyAndSol96]

​@@someguycalledcerberus9805I agree but sadly I haven't succeeded yet either. It is difficult to find true deep soul connection.

[@ieatkids03]

​@someguycalledcerberus9805 Relationships are probably the most important thing overall but they're not the ONLY thing that matter. If you want good ones you still need a strong sense of self that comes from spending time alone

[@Ozmni11]

Same, I'm mid forties and my advice to me in my 20s would be save your money. Surround yourself with people that make you happy and appreciate you. Don't try to fit in or worry about hurting others because nobody worries about hurting you. Also, avoid stimulants like a bad plague.

[@morisn]

When I was 42 over a decade ago, I thought I was already old. I see this man and I now think he's a young man. How relative life can be. PD: he has actually more white hair than me.

[@mypersonaltestgia2704]

😅

[@ztkrx]

ha ha, me too. l’m 52 and have none, it makes a person look old before their time.

[@Wanderlust073]

Stay fit, and make sure you’re doing something with every minute (work, fun, learning, etc - never idle). The good and the bad gets amplified in the 20 yrs between 20 and 40. Make good choices that benefit you later and don’t leave you run down, tired and filled with regret.

[@omariparker3769]

I’m 41 and have the same energy as when I was 21. Less time to do stuff, sure, but I have more money. It’s not as exhausting as he says.

[@chineloblessed4628]

Ditto

[@steveh5307]

It all depends. You may not be that busy but he obviously is. Many people are in their prime earning years and hold senior positions in their career. There's a lot to do. A college buddy is a VP at a company. Another is a Sr Manager. Another is an attorney. They're all extremely busy and exhausted. I'm just a Sr Engineer and luckily, I'm not that married to my job. Maybe 45-50 hours a week. It all depends by person how exhausting their life is. Heck, some of my friends aren't busy at all. They're unemployed. LMAO

[@sandyny]

Everyone is different man

[@simasoumi5551]

It depends how busy you are not everyone isbthe same, but at 40 usually someone is at a well paid career position but has to manage things at work and most probably a parent...so deffy more hectic then a life of a 20 year old..m

[@arlenparker5138]

you have to take care of youself more and prioritize nutrition.

[@kilojeire2011]

Ive had the exact opposite experience. In my 40s I am the happiest I have ever been. I know more about myself. I care less what people think, thus I no longer people please. I am child-free. I have a job that is rewarding. I continue to travel. I continue to enjoy my hobbies. I have my own place. I feel great! Life is good.

[@SIB_COMEDY]

About to turn 45, and realizing that if I'm lucky I'm at the midpoint of my life already, and that it's time to make my dreams and passions happen, without giving a damn what anyone else thinks.

[@MrMoG2030]

I feel u Mark. I'm in my mid 40s as well and I feel like it's now or never with going after my dreams....no more excuses and no more explaining myself to anyone.

[@PjORourkeflyelyfe]

I decided this at 25, 11 years ago. Cheers to all gents who take risks and go for it!

[@almondjoy112]

Get at it

[@jackedkerouac4414]

Well said. Started a business at 47 and I don’t count the others since this time money is incidental to doing something I love not the other way around

[@swiftkarma4436]

My thoughts exactly I'm 45 also

[@elizabethwall8063]

I’m 46 and so far really enjoying my 40s. Except for some muscle soreness when I wake up, I feel great. Around the time I turned 40, I became truly aware of how short and precious life is, and I started to take much better care of my body and mind. Now I’m much healthier than I ever was in my 20s and 30s, and I’m so much calmer, more centered, and happier. I have also completely stopped caring about what people think about me (which is extremely freeing!) and I feel more motivated than ever to pursue my goals and dreams. My kids are older now and much more self-sufficient, and although I loved having little kids, life is a whole lot more relaxed now. The 40s are great!

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

The little you loose in your body the more you gain in wisdom

[@ilmarinen79]

Nice!!

[@scott7521]

I turn 50 in 12 days and can't believe it's finally here. That being said I do a lot more and appreciate a lot more now than ever. I eat really well, I don't drink and my life is definitely not as chaotic as it once was. There's more of a peacefulness at times and I feel like I have less to prove. A quiet life is not a bad thing.

[@Ayztee23]

Workout and never stop. You will feel better, look better and more importantly move better as you age.

[@MariaAyersCoaching]

I'm 43 and not exhausted. It's all about preventative maintenance. Always have an exercise routine, always prioritize self care, always spend time in nature. If you do these things, and don't spend your free time in front of a television, you will feel younger longer.

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

You can not abuse your body and expect it to last. Also listen to your body see doctors

[@puhistagram]

He said he is working all the time, not watching TV. He is a man.

[@graduke1]

I felt very strong at 40 but late 40s there definitely is a drip off in your physical capabilities even as a fairly active fit guy. However, a fit 40 is better than a heavy drinking no exercise guy in their 20s or thirties.😅

[@johnconde8837]

I am 54 always take care of your body health is the most important , nothing else matters if you are not healthy. Always put family and real friends first jobs will come and go , stay away from that material life it drains you .

[@mineandmine4528]

Thank you for the wisdom. 😊

[@Journeestothesmokeymoon]

A fellow 1968er. I am sitting on my couch after major surgery after having cancer scraped out of me and some parts taken out. I was working out twice a day before they found the 13.5 tumor. Always outside with the dogs....I was feeling weaker and having more pain than normal. But I didn't think it was cancer. My advice to women or those who love women....ovarian cancer is a silent killer. Just because you go in for your woman check does not mean that they are going to find ovarian cancer. It's hard to detect until the last stages. Bloating, gas and other problems are signs of ovarian cancer. I'm not sure what I could have done differently at this point other than recognizing signs something is wrong....happy 2023 everyone.

[@Jennilovesmakeup82]

Im 40. Prioritize your dreams and passions. Don't worry about what others think of you....if you love what you do then do it. Prioritize your health and mental well being. Enjoy nature, family, friends. Save money. Improve humanity. Spread kindness and empathy. Smile and help eachother. Be yourself and be proud of who you are. You are beautiful ❤

[@AmanSingh-xb5bn]

Appreciated..

[@Filthy_Larry]

I’m 41. I live to smoke pot. Been doing it since I was 17. I work a good job and make good money. Weed is finally legal in my state and now I just keep smoking and playing video games.

[@Ioana850]

44 here! I’m living my best years. Kids are grownups and me and my husband enjoy life. Sacrificing over the years and the hard working has payed off.

[@steventoms7940]

45 and feeling a lot healthier and centred than when I was in my 20s

[@genghischan69]

I hope I'll have the same to say when I'm 45.

[@timesseven589]

can you give some advice how you become healthier than when your at 20s

[@steventoms7940]

@@timesseven589 don’t smoke weed/tobacco, eat nutritious food, don’t drink much at all, practice yoga every day. Have an active job.

[@davidserlin8097]

💯

[@gascon861]

This is a nice series, I enjoy hearing other people's take on life through their experience

[@sylvialupehernandez9154]

How old are you?

[@MalluStyleMultiMedia]

When I was in my early 30s, I took almost 3 years off from work and enjoyed my time. It was a good experience.

[@joaofrederico7361]

But how did you survive?

[@MalluStyleMultiMedia]

@@joaofrederico7361 I had a rental property and I lived overseas. Stretched that dollar.

[@ictechpro9192]

That’s awesome!

[@RamjiRao_Listening]

Machane. Kuuy. Nattil evideya ? Me from maapranam . Jai beva rage 😎👍🤓

[@MalluStyleMultiMedia]

@@RamjiRao_Listening 😂😁 njan 10 🐘 place … manasilayo?

[@saijanaswamy7210]

Money IS impt. The number of times i lost sleep or cried myself to sleep worried sick abt not having enough, not having any money, "do i have money for food"? "Can i keep roof over my head?" Money is also what allows you luxury, being able to take care of you, travel (if that's what you want)

[@Bearkat87]

I’m only 36 but blurted out “time” before dude even said it. If you’re in your 20s and reading this, what this dude says is so true. Money is a stupid concept, but definitely find a comfortable middle ground, because you have to, but as soon as you find that spot, spend every minute of the rest of the time available enjoying the present.

[@SpiritusMundi4EVER]

1000%

[@vegetossgss1114]

4 DAYS WORK WEEK FOR A BETTER WORK PERSONAL LIFE BALANCE!

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

People in their 20s typically don't prioritize their health and take their healthy bodies for granted.

[@IamRocque]

I’m on the opposite side of that. I prioritize my health and so forth on because I want to at least live a long life. I am worried about retirement and etc because it’s not easy to save anymore like it was for past groups.

[@FromTheWombTotheGrave]

Not anymore People in their teens and 20s prioritize their health

[@flowertree2732]

I’m 41 years young and I still feel quite young. So teach its own,we are all different. Tired yes some days but I was tired somedays in my 20s/30s too. Age is such a perspective thing. Also I really try to take care of my mind/body/soul. I feel blessed and try to wake up with a grateful heart everyday. I say🦋I made it another day. Definitely don’t try to people please anymore. As well accept myself wrinkles/ cellulite all superficial things I think my body is amazing for what it does not what it looks like. Until the day I die I will keep trying to be best version of myself/ keep learning/ keep experiencing new things/ being silly and just try to enjoy the gift of life without paying much attention to the nonsense that some humans put in the world. Ex nay on drama and toxic negative garbage! ☮️ ❤

[@Fugayzy]

If you want to experience new things watch the film Level2021

[@elsie9434]

45 young thanks to Jesus Christ This is me every day thank you for sharing this::: this is the truth ppl @flowertree is blessed with wisdom and discernment 👌🏾👏🏽❤️🙏

[@sarlaccstapeworm990]

As someone who's turning 45 this year,, I can vouch that he's absolutely correct. I tend to try to take things in more these days. As opposed to when I was in my 20's & 30's, when my motto was, "don't bother stopping to smell the roses, you can always smell them when you're running with them in your hand". Damn,, how wrong I was.... It doesn't pay to burn your candle at both ends, people.

[@46FreddieMercury91]

In my teens and twenties I was sprinting. The years have gone by and I realise life is actually a marathon. Time is the great leveller for us all

[@canchero724]

Death comes for us all. Thank fuck for death. But until then, enjoy life

[@mrmurphy895]

I like this analogy. I’m 37 now and feel like that moment where you’ve been sprinting for a long time and realise you need to change pace.

[@eclass96]

💯%

[@Rjcuatrocinco]

Realizing this in my early 30s

[@cincereqoutes8844]

@@Rjcuatrocinco realized this in my 20s. I dont want to get to my 30s too fast. I want to slow down and enjoy time now.

[@efrainquevedo6148]

A lot of these people say the same thing. "Take your time" or "relax"... I feel it.

[@BlueCodesDev]

Yeah

[@itsisk2043]

Stress = heart attacks and many other negative things.

[@jakkuwolfinsomnia8058]

I needed to hear this, this is why I always ask older people what’s most important and what advice would you give to someone like me. They often say the same thing; don’t live to work, work to live, don’t do what others expect you to do what you want to do, don’t be afraid to pursue what you love, don’t let yourself get stuck in the never ending circle of work work work, spend your money wisely but don’t cling to every penny, don’t put your happiness on hold, spend your moments being happy, don’t follow riches and money, follow your happiness and experiences

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I enjoyed my 20’s and early 30’s and have not recovered in my mid 30’s since Covid; it shock my life up and I’m not in a good head space

[@qweenjeans8]

I'm turning 73 this year. I appreciate his answers. Made me realize that I remember what life was about for me in my 40's. Sooo....much better then. 😊 Just found your interviews and really like them.❤

[@gianna3582]

Hi beautiful, I’m 26.. starting over. Life is confusing, I’ve always felt like the black sheep of my family. Friends are okay but I always have to have my guards up because of envy and being misunderstood. I Don’t need a lot to be happy, I just want to be around good people who appreciate the small things and enjoy life. I wish there was a place I can run to sometimes and be free. I would appreciate any advice from you. Please and thank you 🤍🤍

[@rosezful5241]

@@gianna3582Hi. I’m going to be 40 next month. I have some advice if you want. 1- Start over every and any day that you want. :) You can. 2- You don’t have anything but good friends at my age. People know when the aren’t great friends. Just leave the ones who aren’t that great and don’t worry about how they feel about it because they feel the same about you and it’s SO much more relieving not to be fake with each other and just be kind acquaintances if you do meet in public. 3- Dreams don’t ever change but motivation, intentions for having them and your body does. Go for it now or it may never happen. I should have started my business when I had the energy and ideas were fresh. I listened to others too much. Take the risk now because it’s always going to be and easier to recover when you’re younger then later in life. Just do it. 4- Learn about healthy relationships and narcissists. Run at the very first sign that someone’s intentions may not be good towards you. Don’t marry for love because that’s how you feel. Make sure that man makes YOU feel loved. 5- Hold on to your family, especially to your siblings if you have them. I’m just starting to realize their importance in my life now. 6- The first step is always the hardest because it’s in the mind. Take your foot and walk out of depression, an unhealthy body, a lonely life, etc. It only takes a second to change something. One step, one action. Hope that helps. My mom said her forties were the best years of her life. I hope she is right but I feel she may be right. 😊

[@DMillerFlorida]

Priority... LOVE. And definitely money IS important. With money, you can help others and you can help yourself. And at 40, I was NOT tired. I was a machine! I'm fifty now and still going strong! Definitely NOT tired!

[@vegetossgss1114]

4 DAYS WORK WEEK FOR A BETTER WORK PERSONAL LIFE BALANCE!

[@Will-xf3qe]

Only people who already have money say money is not important

[@vegetossgss1114]

@@Will-xf3qe how much you need to say it's not important?

[@Will-xf3qe]

@@vegetossgss1114 what

[@badraUmera9804]

Well you should know by now that everyone’s lives & paths are different. It all depends on one’s situation & circumstances they might be facing in life, & like I’ve already mentioned, everyone has different lives/paths…

[@alexandercove1194]

Love this man! So honest, no pretense and no ego! Thank you for being a solid human being

[@javiismael1480]

I’ll be 40 this year and I cannot cannot emphasis this to young people, save money, work harder and smarter then you’re doing now. Pay attention in school, college and university and get a degree which matters. I didn’t even go uni and I’m working along side people with degrees, it took me a while to get here based on experience but had I got a degree when I young, I’ll be way higher then what I’m today. But I’ve been there done it and now I can only advice young people.

[@kellyboltonjonathan3386]

I just turned 31. I am in network marketing to get time freedom and make extra money, I don't regret it, it allowed me to do lots of traveling and have experiences in my 20s that most don't get to do till they are retired. During our travels we saw that many in our tour groups etc were way older than us those experiences were treasured. Anyway, I agree that health is number 1 and time is precious. I fully support the new generations love for working at hoke or a hybrid work model and especially a 4 day work week. Quality of life is so important and the young folks see so many older folks who worked way too long and hard and their health suffered and often family life suffered, so i think work/life balance will become better

[@user-ce4pt6nn6l]

Stay in shape and take care of yourself and you won't be exhausted all the time at 42.

[@intelligentmeditations8378]

That and shilajit that stuff is a fake changer (completely natural it's minerals)

[@GTRrocker84]

No work still makes you feel like shit. I’m 39 and in shape and am exhausted all the time

[@gagejoseph91]

Incorrect. It has literally nothing to do with physical fitness. That is disturbingly reductionist.

[@user-ce4pt6nn6l]

@@gagejoseph91 fitness, nutrition, and healthy lifestyle. The rest follows. No excuses.

[@gagejoseph91]

@@user-ce4pt6nn6l Understanding, individual care, and an open mind. No excuses. People cannot be reduced to simple catch-all answers. Anyone who says otherwise is selling something. Some of the happiest people I've ever met are massively overweight. Thinking that fitness solves mental issues is a red flag, my man.

[@dustincartie3502]

I’m 40 and in my prime. It’s all a mindset. Power of the mind is phenomenal

[@nweeezy]

yeah I'm around there and sometimes I am straight lusted over by the opposite sex and that RARELY happened in my teens/early 20s Yes, you are right - internal dialogue is key

[@roberthart3989]

@@nweeezy This is so positive and nice thank you, I'm feeling crazy most of the time because I'm not where I want to be right now but actually you have a point

[@Owyourhurtingme]

If I had to pick an age to be for the rest of my life it would be 40. The best age.

[@schmingusss]

@@nweeezy They want you now because you are more financially secure. That's all. They'd still rather have sex with guys ten years younger than you.

[@nweeezy]

@@schmingusss A stranger doesn't know how "financially secure" I am when I dress like a bum and keep to myself....you are referring to attraction, I mentioned *lust* (quite intentionally, i might add...)

[@carrie1974]

I’m turning 49 this year. The 40s has been the worst decade of my life. I’m trying hard to keep hopeful that my 50s will be better.

[@davidaustin902]

I'm 40 and this guy said exactly what I would have said.

[@طعنةغدر-ث8ت]

Me too

[@gardeningandtruecrime8504]

Exhausted 32 year old married mum here.

[@Biggest5]

@@gardeningandtruecrime8504 keep going now u have your kid to live for as well. Good luck💚

[@m.ta.r.6443]

Just turned 38 on the 3rd and This puberty crap is just always gonna hurt. I wonder when it stops for most people.

[@takezomiyamoto1390]

im 41 and I do not agree with that at all

[@artkidolee2162]

I realised money is VERY important in my 40’s. Maybe this will change when I get older

[@TM-173]

that's bc Biden took over and inflation is the highest in 40+years

[@HotShotsDynamo]

It’s really important until it’s not (when you reach a threshold)

[@cameliap1146]

It's always important till you have enough to be confortable and secure.

[@yo_eddie2576]

Live in the moment. So true. Go to any major event and people just instantly have their phones out instead of enjoying the moment. So sad.

[@ismailmiah1446]

They maybe want to capture the moment. ...just as we did with those kodak cams in 80s

[@koppeFL]

I’m in 40. Honestly, money is more important than so-so friend. Cut so-so friends. Money won’t disrespect you. Money won’t disappoint you. Money is what you need to have comfortable life. Don’t believe people say “money can’t buy happiness and health.” Because to be happy and healthy, you need money. I might change my opinion in 50s and 60s.

[@lilyviolette2189]

True 👍

[@ShadaeBalancesKnightAstro]

I’m liking the idea of earning money with friends 😅

[@enneaf1676]

Money isn't sentient, nor can you eat it or drink it. Gain knowledge first, then lose material attachment

[@ShadaeBalancesKnightAstro]

@@enneaf1676 Can’t eat money but try walking into a restaurant and ordering something to eat without it.

[@universal3025]

There are unhappy people with a lot money. Miserable ..

[@kimbaa.g.4038]

I’m Female, 35, and thriving… I eat well, workout, Married, no kids, good job, I invest and spend my money on travel not material things. I hate drama and enjoy the simple things … So young people don’t fret just make good choices

[@greenytaddict]

Same, just turned 35 and learning to appreciate things I didn't when I was younger.

[@Nines_Rodriguez]

I am 49, doing Martial Arts and reading books like hell. I feel far better than when I was 20.

[@lionelgrisbane-ud87]

Keep telling yourself that my brother

[@theworldisimmense]

@@lionelgrisbane-ud87 im 29 about to be 30 in a couple of months and I definitely believe him. If I had the chance to go back being 18-22 again I Wouldn’t but I’ll definitely take 24/25 again.

[@user-bl1ds6cj8t]

Wow, i am 49 too and totally tired

[@dena264]

Any book recommendations? :)

[@Nines_Rodriguez]

@@dena264 Depends of the genres you are interested in.

[@hopeisit1347]

I’m 42 and still have no clue what career to follow..Would lover something that I didn’t have to work with people

[@pippo1785]

It’s not a easy burden finding a work you love I think it’s the thing that will give you more peace of mind in your life I’m in that search still at 38

[@abbyc.4215]

You have to pick one that meets your basic needs, allows you to save, and one that enables you to do some (not all) of the things that you want. I'm a foreign language teacher in the states of all places, and while I don't always love my job, I do love that it allows me to be able to save over 20k annually (single, no children) and spend my summers travelling throughout Europe and Latin America. Yes, I deal with disrespect and extreme immaturity from my students, but I do find some joy in it as well. My advice would be to not look for fulfillment through your job/ career, rather use your job/ career to be able to do the things that you love and are passionate about. Wishing you the best!

[@hopeisit1347]

@@abbyc.4215 thank you so much for your advice…It’s the backstabbing and rude work colleague that gets me down

[@eyespy3001]

@@hopeisit1347 To put it bluntly- leave. Quit that job if it’s a bad work environment. There’s no shame in leaving a job that’s bad for your mental health. Hell, you don’t even need to find a different career or better job. A lateral move to the same job, but at a different company or location, could vastly improve your life by getting you out of a toxic environment and negative mental state. Not only will you feel empowered by having freed yourself from a shitty situation, a change of scenery may lead to new opportunities. From my own personal experience, I left one job I was at for a decade, where I thought I was happy and had friends. Little did I know I was actually languishing at a place that was incredibly toxic in terms of people. I got out of there and took a similar job somewhere else (two places, actually), and I met some of the best friends and mentors that I still have to this day. I have learned and grown so much after leaving that toxic job. The moral of the story: you have the power to leave and improve your life. Go do it

[@hopeisit1347]

@@eyespy3001 Thanks for your reply..The unfortunate problem is that it’s healthcare I work in as a radiographer and I have moved three times and it’s exactly the same in each hospital…Honestly it’s terrible and the worst of it is the women, they are so bitchy and rude

[@jezzmeeh7044]

i am 57 this year and I am grateful to be given the privilege to be a mother, a friend, a colleague, etc. As for the rest of the years I am not sure how many more, I will use them to connect more, give back and be a blessing to others.

[@justinwmusic]

Everybody has a different list of regrets depending on the choices they made

[@Aggie4life77]

Very true!

[@D-A-N-]

The problem is people only live in the moment and not prepare for the future and end up regretting their decisions!

[@mbogucki1]

And certain world philosophies would say we live in the past, worry about the future and never experience he present.

[@Silentnomore0]

I have seen so many people sacrifice and save and put things on hold for retirement and then the money doesn’t go as far as they hoped, they have no energy, they have physical limitations and retirement turned out to be the biggest con. You want to make God laugh? Tell him your plans. 😂

[@ellie-tk4jy]

Agreed. Don't do that. You have to think about the needs of your older self.

[@michaelmendillo7513]

You have a long way to go bro ! I am 61 and minus aches and pains, I am 25. !!! But, I never had children, I think it sucks the life out of people,,,

[@dac8939]

Kids suck life out of people?

[@citizenm9590]

Good choice children's age you like crazy as well

[@michaelmendillo7513]

@@citizenm9590 I see it,, it to the point thats I can just tell by looking at people in public who the people with children are, and I seen it in my friends,,,and wow,,then

[@NF40375]

I’m 47, never wanted marriage/kids but have 1 child (one and done). Minus aches and pains I’m 32 😎 Kids, Marriage, Work, Mental Health, Dealing with Toxic Folk, and Existing sucks the life out of people

[@Bravebelly]

@@citizenm9590 what language are u writing in 😆

[@pacifist1360]

Like my yoga teacher once said, "the most important thing you can do in life is to love and take care of yourself so that you can love and take care of others". Because if you don't respect yourself how are you going to respect other people? And always of course try to find the positives and embrace them, super important one as well.

[@LanieLouK]

I'm 35 and I agree about treasuring your 20s. I thought time was slow during my twenties but as I aged further, I realized time was passing toooooo fast.

[@josephback2131]

I thought money was less important when I was young and now I'm almost 40. Money is really really really important.

[@Malini108]

same here

[@swilsonandassociates]

Agree!

[@aestheticman2662]

I am 66 and can confidently say from my own experience that whatever this 42 year old dude says is EXACTLY right Nothing less. However, as you get "younger" -- toward 60s - everything will turn to normal and you will not feel that your age is "exhausting" anymore. God bless!

[@ihaveadreamformykids4400]

It’s okay to age.

[@jasoncarson369]

I'm 45 and I feel more invincible now than I did in my 20's. Life is all about perspective. Tell yourself that you're limitless and you will be. Tell yourself that you're exhausted and you will be. Simple as that 🤷

[@vegetossgss1114]

4 DAYS WORK WEEK FOR A BETTER WORK PERSONAL LIFE BALANCE!

[@Prince-lo3nz]

You can also live in self denial

[@jasoncarson369]

@Prince yea go for it 🤷

[@drbgshealth]

Preach!!!!!!

[@sperez3275]

@@hhjhj393love that. Any tips? For constantly improving, but keeping workload (or at least stress) small?

[@brendanwilliams8235]

Guys in their 20s are going around asking people in their 30s and 40s questions as if they're 103

[@kirerunte1046]

Because the 103 year old boomer destroyed his kids financial future so who cares what they think?

[@ResistanceQuest]

I think it's still important though. 40 *is* like 70 to younger people

[@Sunshine-lo6vd]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 pretty much 😂

[@mysterious7092]

​@@kirerunte1046boomers are in the age of 70s & 80s he's not a boomer.

[@Sankara561]

I know, like "Tell me O wise elder"

[@itz_noturs]

He says money isn’t important but then he’s working all the time?? What are you working for if not for money? Bruh..

[@MijoShrek]

Duality nature of us all as humans bruh. You recognize that, yes materialistic society worships at the alter of money. If you got family, people get stuck on that treadmill of wanting to have more time with them yet cannot stop working all the time if they are in the middle classes. The trapping of the rat trace.

[@aanand27]

Once you have some money, work alone is enough to keep you going. Look at Warren Buffet, does he need to work at 90?

[@NF40375]

We all in the USA are hanging on by a thread and working ourselves to death just to pay bills/survive, make ends meet Best advice is live below your means, make enough to pay your bills, to do the things you enjoy and retirement

[@Sunset1705]

Purpose

[@mesalouis8976]

For air…

[@lenwoodturneriv6169]

So far, my 40's have been the best. It's not so much that 'things;' have changed, but how I see them and the way I feel about them has changed. My 40's feel 'old enough to know better, but still young enough to act on it'.

[@ewaleokadia76]

When I was 18, my mother's cousin said that once you reach 18 the years will fly by quickly. Now I am 46 and shocked that INDEED time flew by so quickly but I did learn some lessons over that time.

[@shashankkr1008]

True words, I am 22, I feel like my childhood went so fast, bcz I still remember all the moments, it feels like it all happened yesterday😢

[@likewise4gaming]

I’m 47 and this poor guy is making me feel like my life is over. 😂

[@ronnierahman8543]

😂

[@Gforu81]

Same

[@OnPointFirearms]

You're doing fine with your David Goggins lookin' ass. ;)

[@Batony]

Lol

[@vinuthaize1]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@cascadianseagull]

I'm 40 and I'd say definitely prioritize money, you're going to need it.

[@Kenny-Ross]

Yes! Prioritize money. Then once that's taken care of then you can move on and focus on a relationship. You'll have more peace of mind.

[@unclefester831]

FACTS💯%

[@dmsjt5181]

I think he’s referring to thinking money will solve all your problems, chasing a dream of having a certain size house, cars, etc. If you make smart decisions with your money and can live below your means, you’ll do great. But the reality is most people aren’t actually using money to accomplish the things they really want or would really make them happy.

[@margottfon330]

​@@dmsjt5181 and the absence of mony will create all the problems you listed. Old and with no money... wohaaa... you would agree that this aspect should be going uphill, not downhill, wouldn't you..

[@margottfon330]

Yes, despite time is more than money, it includes money AND further down the road one will need more of it...

[@Mmyythandle]

I’m 40 and 100% agree. Prioritize relationships over career and money. Time waits for no one. Don’t spend so much time worrying about the future that you forget to be present and enjoy the moment. No life isn’t just about seeking pleasure but it is a large part of it. Having all the money in the world doesn’t matter if you’re not enjoying yourself along the way and building solid connections to share it with. I’ve realized over the last year more than any other time how little I know and how much learning and growing there will always be.

[@ztkrx]

l’m 52 now and it’s weird hearing this young pup give worldly advice. 42 is sooo young these days. 42 ain’t old, you’re just starting out at 42, these days.

[@thomasshort1784]

@johndebolt I understand where you're coming from (and I'm 40) but, just because somebody's younger than you doesn't automatically make them less mature and at the same time, there's older adults out there who are ABOMINABLY immature (I'm NOT insinuating you fall in either category because I don't know you personally; we all have different life experiences, for better or worse)!

[@daveyt4802]

If you make it to 84, your life is half over.

[@swiftkarma4436]

​@@thomasshort1784exactly

[@hoedemakerbart]

Depends lol. I started working when i was 15. 36 now. These days people start working late 20s

[@rg4517rg]

​@@hoedemakerbart And there's nothing wrong with that. Your 20s are to be selfish with your time and take massive risk. It's to try 3 different things at a time and collect dozens of experiences. Everyone tells you to "get a career", "figure it out" and "get to work!" because they want you to conform just like they did with their boring, miserable lives.

[@jjsjrs997]

I’m 18 and me watching these shorts really inspire me to better myself each and every single day. I just entered adulthood and it does scare me what the future may look like for my life like where im going to be, if I’ll be financially stable, if my family will still be around, etc.

[@PissedOffPatriot]

The fact that you're thinking about it and paying attention to those details tells me you're going to do great things in your life. I'm sorry that you were born into a crazy world - but you were placed here at this time for a reason. Life is beautiful. Don't let [them] scare you. God is with you! God bless you 🙏🇺🇸

[@jjsjrs997]

@@PissedOffPatriot Thank you it really means a lot having someone tell you that you'll do great in life. This will genuinely stick to my mind for life

[@jjsjrs997]

@Chris M Thank you for sharing your advice. I've been doing things from what you've mentioned like avoid arguing with people, focusing on myself and not women, consistently hitting the gym and keeping myself busy when Im not doing anything and keeping opinions to myself or not spilling out my ideas in life. Im still yet to take care of my money because I do spend it on some things I dont necessarily need. From now on, I will make sure I can manage my money effectively. Thank you again for these tips.

[@waynek3366]

Some Advice... Don't stress and just go with the flow and do what you want to do and enjoy life if not one day your life will be over.

[@2004cyrus]

Try not to borrow worry from tomorrow. Enjoy today. Soak in all of the happy moments with family on holidays and friends and just be aware that today is all you have. The regrets of the past will be gone and tomorrow hasn’t come yet. So prepare for a better tomorrow but know that tomorrow will take care of itself. Don’t worry about finding a relationship. Focus on getting your own life together. Your physical health and mental well-being. Pace yourself. Try to make good decisions and stay out of trouble. 1 bad decision had consequences that will affect the rest of your life. Calculate risk. Don’t increase risk by doing stupid things. Stay away from drugs. Try to avoid alcohol or don’t drink often. It will age you or you might have alcoholic genes. As far as money, commit to saving 10% of every paycheck or money you bring in. Have fun with 10% and the other 80% should go to your living expenses. Life is expensive. And emergencies happen so keep that 10% in a separate banking account and only use it when emergencies come up. You have to have savings for a rainy day. A new tire may cost $200, so you gotta be ready. If you get credit cards. Make sure you don’t charge more than you can pay off in a reasonable amount of time. Build good credit, it will help you more than you know as an adult. Pay your bills on time. That way if you ever need to borrow money, you can, like for a home or a new car. Even apartment landlords pull your credit. Get a credit card now that you are 18, make small charges like gas for your car, and pay it off each month. That will help you to show up as a responsible handler of credit and finances when companies that you do business with see. Respect others and help others. Respect your parents. Open doors for people. And start everyday by making your bed. It gets you organized for the day ahead.

[@Zton-yn4kc]

I realize in my 30’s w/ a fully disabled back that this is going to be a long painful road to the finish…

[@AbhinavSingh-wh1qi]

God bless you, prayers and strength to you.

[@mamadoom9724]

I’m 42 and I actually felt way more exhausted in my teens and 20s. I was pretty tired in my 30s too. Physically I feel better than ever for some reason.

[@Carlos_Spartacus]

What are you doing differently???

[@3DPTR]

Same here, I feel more energetic now, I think is because I go to the gym every day, maybe..I try not to eat junk food

[@mamadoom9724]

@@Carlos_Spartacus I definitely eat way less junk food. I eat fast food like once every two years and make most my meals from scratch. I still have low energy but it’s not painfully low like when I was younger.

[@MrArash]

I’m blown away by how consistently people seem to say money isn’t as important in these shorts.

[@ssoffshore5111]

I have a 7 figure NW and 52. You need enough to be comfortable, but realize it's not the most important thing as you get older. I kind stopped caring about it in my early 40's. The YT influencers are misguiding young folks IMO.

[@lionelgrisbane-ud87]

The people who say money is not important are the people who have a lot of it

[@rockchick128]

I'll be 40 soon and my advice to someone in their late teens and early 20s with controlling/overbearing parents is to try not to let them dictate what to do with their lives. Never live your life trying to please your parents or anyone else. If they can't disagree without being rude they can forget about having a relationship with you.

[@mdomain1]

“Forget about a relationship with your parents.” Bad advice. Learn to communicate even if you disagree and learn from the wisdom of the years. It is a a priceless asset to be able to have your parents through the ups and downs of life.

[@godisgood2011able]

@@mdomain1trust me there are parents like ver controlling to the extend they yell at your everyday!! It’s ridiculous! Can’t have a good conversation! I’ve see this multiple times especially asian families. Good thing my parents are not like this but for my friends their friends act like this that they need to cut them entirely because they meddle like crazy making shit up to break their kids partner!

[@prezian1312]

@@godisgood2011ableI thought my parents would be the type to force me to go to college but there not.They said if it doesn’t work like on the first week tell them to change my major.If I don’t feel college I can leave.Of course I can’t do nothing though but yeah.I’m thankful for my parents I’m going to college on August 14th majoring in electrical engineering 😊.

[@SnakePlantCollector]

​@@prezian1312That is nice. Forced to go to college is easy in my opinion because I was forced to attend a PhD program. I even have two Masters degree. I wished my parents would be like that. It feels like my time was wasted because studying was not a decision that I made 100% by myself.

[@JulieSevelson-nb9nj]

​@@mdomain1Not if parents are abusive or toxic. People don't change, basically. Anyone who has felt they had to cut off and leave the parents out of their life usually have valid reasons for doing this. It's not just a " willy- nilly " spur of the moment thing.

[@gtorr47]

I'm 38 and I feel 💯 better now than I did in my 20s. I'm genuinely happier and curious about the future. I can't wait to be in my 40s, they're gonna rock!

[@scarlettkhan9667]

Great mindset, many fear the 40s

[@miamitten1123]

You should wait. Why wish your time away.

[@Dmitis-nk7xi]

So true 😢😢 I am now 43.. I just think of my self when I was like 17-25.. I was so happy, energetic, wanted fun and felt I can do everything.. my energy level at 43 i 0 compared to that of late teens and early 20s

[@chadyo99]

I'm 41 and still feel pretty much the same as I did when I was 20. I weigh the same amount as I did then, eat healthy and exercise. The key is to not over exert yourself with exercise too. People that lift too much weight and/or run all the time are causing wear and tear. Be gentle on your body but keep moving. Body weight exercises, yoga, pilates, sit ups, all that good stuff

[@mixa23y]

This! I hate running, I walk. I dont go to the gym, I exercise at home with dumb bells and kettlebell and body weight

[@miamitten1123]

I agree. No one here is an athlete. So what’s there to prove?!

[@miamitten1123]

@@mixa23y same. Jogging 🏃‍♀️ is not my thing either unlike I was playing a sport.

[@MOTU1978cl]

Of I give one advice to the younger folks it would be to cherish your parents. You never know when it's their last day. Maybe even record your parents so you can have them forever.

[@hotigrl]

Once i hit 40, i decided ive lived half my life. Its a relief, in a way.

[@DanielPriestley]

I’m 42 and I totally love life. Happy family, great work, plenty of energy. This isn’t a forgone conclusion.

[@firebird5288]

How anyone thinks they were ever invisible has always been beyond me. Even before I was 10 I knew I could easily die at any moment.