The hidden costs of people pleasing: My personal story

[@mynameisburhanaltintop]

Could you please make more videos like this? Sharing stories

[@Psych2go]

Yes we can but for some reasons these videos don’t seem to get much views :/

[@PikSmores]

​@@Psych2goProbably because its rather new, or in my case it is, that it doesnt appeal to what people expect of this channel just from judgement alone

[@Vapor_with_a_hat]

@@Psych2goKZbin might not be recommended or sending notifications for this kind of video, you should check up with KZbin incase

[@Psych2go]

@@Vapor_with_a_hat Could be that too! We will look into it. Thank you!

[@Whynotbabeily]

​@@Psych2goCould You Make A Video On Turning Oneself Heterosexual. I Mean I Don't Want To Remain Gay, & Never Be Able To Come Out?

[@JaydenVera-cj5pu]

Moral in this video: Heal the brokenhearted people, so they’ll give you some help. 😊

[@Psych2go]

Good things come around! :) Thanks for your comment!

[@KayKay-fc5sg]

“It’s beautiful to do something for other people, but never at the expense of your own well being”.

[@onnie1036]

Taking care of yourself enables you to offer genuine and sustainable support to others. It's a beautiful act of self-love and compassion.

[@jeremyyates1026]

I used to be a people pleaser but after many breakups,being cheateed on, and the getting ghosted by a best friend i started going the opposite direction and was preparing to be hated just because i knew i wasnt gonna do it again. Then i met my gf and now its more balanced. To all my fellow people pleasers try to strike a balance or its gonna destroy you and turn you into something very evil.

[@wyin2454]

You'd make a great dad husband or familial member and you deserve the world, and thank you for being the most real person, Stephen.

[@ranc1977]

The voice is from a girl, not a man.

[@littlecutewriter]

​@@ranc1977LMFAO

[@NeverToMuch21]

I use to be a people pleaser, the sad, harsh trush is. i didn't even know i was a people pleaser, but when i realized it, it made me upset, mad, careless. So i took matter into my own hand and craft a new purpose in life and i call it... the road of winning. Now it will be hard and not fair but, its for my own good cause im not going to make my life miserable just so i can make someone happy.

[@Candy-O1776]

Teach me, or is 72 too old to learn.

[@NeverToMuch21]

@@Candy-O1776 you are who you are. Live the rest of your life in peace and make no horrible decisions.

[@aiiiia9971]

"The road of winning", I kind of like that term. Simple, but feels right. Getting to know ones real self and shape a life of meaning after people pleasing can be challenging. Maybe I'll start thinking of it like that.

[@onnie1036]

It's truly empowering that you've recognized this pattern and are taking steps to prioritize your well-being.taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's necessary. Wishing you strength and success on your road of winning!

[@Morpheus-pt3wq]

Once you learn to say "NO" to wishes and needs of others around you, you will learn, how these others truly value you. The reality of it can be harsh. But it is necessary to face it, so you can move forward.

[@Theressomethinghere.]

Ive been watching you for awhile and you’ve helped me a lot!

[@Luna_Starlight-Galaxias]

Same :3

[@Vapor_with_a_hat]

Me too, their voice is really calming too, I love it💚

[@Psych2go]

@Theressomethinghere. Aw thank you so much! What did you think of today's story format? We're testing out different types of videos so any type of feedback would be appreciated! :)

[@Wolf_Dominic]

So sometimes, a little bit of “selfishness” is alright? My, what a novel concept. Genuinely kinda liked this video. Definitely better than a certain other video about people pleasers you did.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! If you don't mind my asking, why do you prefer this video over some of our other ones on people-pleasing?

[@Wolf_Dominic]

@@Psych2go I think, when it comes to psychological stuff in general, I generally prefer personal stories, and experiences, as opposed to hearing doctors, and experts explaining it. Not that I hate those ways of telling it, they definitely have their own appeal, it’s just i think there’s a genuine honesty to stuff like this. I don’t know if many others would agree, but it is simply my perspective.

[@yuhongooi8146]

I wouldn't say selfishness, more of self care.

[@Wolf_Dominic]

@@yuhongooi8146 True.

[@dtikvxcdgjbv7975]

Selfishness must exist, it is the line that is not allowed to be crossed, the line of the core of very You.

[@Nightowl-m6w]

Amazingly explained story. The problem is that instead of appreciating people like steve people take them for granted. Very nice video pyscho2go.I hope for more stories like this.

[@saranonimus9211]

I was raised in an environment where I was devalued. It took me years - decades - to see this because it wasn't overt. It was through the subtext of "normal" interactions that conveyed the message that I was less than, that I was undeserving, that I shouldn't speak up for myself because my needs were unreasonable. That led to me being a desperate pleaser in my adult life, which led to some terrible consequences. My own children are almost all grown (my youngest is still in high school), and I when I reflect through the eyes of a parent, I realize how awful it was. I would never dream of treating my children the way I was treated.

[@MusicalMarzy]

Me too, I'm still struggling with this and other issues, hope we are able to overcome this in the future 🙏

[@nicola-xk5cp]

This last phrase deserves praise🙂🙂👍

[@Frogert11]

This is very relatable

[@saranonimus9211]

@RelaxCreatorMary all abuse is a lie. Everyone has value and deserves to be treated with care and respect. The key is to see the past for what it was, to recognize the lies. Sadly, the next step is acknowledging how hurtful those lies were so you aren't still carrying that pain around, like boxes of junk in your attic. You have to purge it from your soul to live a life of honest reality going forward. The medicine can be quite bitter, but remember, you are moving toward the light. 💜

[@MusicalMarzy]

@@saranonimus9211 Amen, that's true!

[@veronicapiccinini7956]

It reminds me of “It’s a wonderful life”, where George became extremely frustrated at himself for keeping people pleasing others, even random strangers, at the expense of his own dreams, with that money theft being the last straw, thinking that his life doesn’t matter if he can no longer people and achieve his goals at the same time. So it is rewarding and cathartic to see all the people he helped throughout his life, helping him back in his darkest hour.

[@Twekion]

Yesterday I was hanging out with my crush and a friend of mine and they got into an argument and I wasn't taking sides because I wanted to avoid conflict and not offend anyone, 5 minutes after the argument my crush said I was a people pleaser, I asked if it was an insult or not, and she said it depends on the way you look at it, and I relate to this video alot actually, and now I think I don't want to be a people pleaser anymore

[@Psych2go]

I think the word "people pleasing" usually, though not always, has a negative connotation. For you personally, why don't you want to be a people pleaser after watching the video?

[@betterthanyt7351]

Thank you guys so much. Love your content. The stuff you do is so real.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! We try our best to make our content relatabe! What do you think about our new story format?

[@betterthanyt7351]

@@Psych2go I think it’s really good. It helps give real examples to these issues, but I do think I prefer videos where you break it down more with causes an posible solutions

[@daniyal7903]

The more and more videos I watch on this channel, the more I relate, and realize just how many issues I had been dealing with, that I didn’t even know about, since they were repressed and not dealt with in a healthy way for all those years, since childhood, even though I’m not 18 yet myself. But Stephen’s story really hits close to home. I remember my family environment was harsh and dysfunctional, with loud fights all the time, whether it was due to money or whatever, and my parent’s behavior was abusive and ignorant, and I didn’t even know it. But because I was still only a small child at that time, it affected my behavior negatively, making me overly sensitive and prone to emotional outbursts. That affected my life at school as well, where I would be bullied and judged unfairly for things not in my control, and because I couldn’t express myself properly, it felt like no one could truly understand me, due to how I felt unsafe both at home and at school, and it caused me to spiral down into depression before my age was even in the double digits, and I was about to develop serious tendencies because of that. It was because I would remember my few understanding friends, as well as all the things I wanted to do later on, like all the games I’ve wanted to play etc. that stuff is what held me together in those times. It also especially hit hard when Stephen brought up how it’s because he’s afraid that his girlfriend will stop loving him, as I could totally relate to that as well. Feeling afraid that the people in your life would leave you behind if you don’t keep them around yourself. I’ve remembered the times where it felt like my friends in elementary school would just feel forced to keep me around due to how I couldn’t fit in, and due to my behavioral issues back then. I remember them even indirectly pushing me away at one point. I felt like a misfit most of the time, and I felt like I should earn people’s attention by “being nice” to them, and not being a hassle to deal with. That’s another thing I had, where I would feel afraid of being a burden on the other person, and doubt if I really am worth it. Because, mentioning my parents’ abusive behavior and my chaotic family environment from my childhood, one of the things, was that I didn’t even know until recently, that my father would gaslight me a bit too much, even though I knew how damaging his behavior was to me. But it was one of the major reasons for my low self-esteem. I still experience some things from time to time, and my life at home and school is better now, even if there are still some problems, and even though I’ve improved myself in that aspect now, it takes a lot to learn to say no, when it’s things like these which influence your “people pleaser” tendencies, as another thing is that one would be too shy to ask for help in matters like these.

[@iiantixsocial]

I was a HEAVY people pleaser. I would do anything for my ex even if it mentally drained me. I would treat his own problems as my own. I would basically become his therapist. I would drop whatever I was doing to help him if he was going through a depressive episode, because I felt responsible for it since I was his girlfriend. I would do countless research on how to help him with his mental issues even though he didn't wanna put in the effort himself (he never went to a therapist). I was afraid that if I didn't help him, he'd accuse me of not caring about him or not loving him. I also don't really have many friends irl, and I crave to be understood and accepted by others. I said yes to everything my online friends asked of me cuz I didn't wanna upset them and cuz I was worried if I said no, they wouldn't wanna be my friend anymore. I don't quite remember how I got out of people pleasing, but all I remember is I set limits for myself and put myself first. With my friends, I would always be there for them if they needed to vent to someone, even if I was doing shitty myself, which drained me a lot. So what I did was say to myself "I don't always have to help people. I come first before anyone else. If I'm not in the right headspace to help someone, that's perfectly ok. If they don't understand that, that's their problem. They could ask someone else. I shouldn't sacrifice my own well-being for someone else". Of course, it was hard. I felt a lot of guilt/shame when setting limits, but it paid off.

[@TheBestLoser1]

This was me for the longest time. I sacrificed so much for other people, only to have no friends and no close relationships with anyone. A lot of the "friends" I had were fake, and I ended up getting heavily betrayed by so many people. I ended up closing others off for months, out of shame and guilt. I was so focused on avoiding conflict because of how I was raised. When I displeased my parents in any way, my dad in particular would grow way too angry about it. Sometimes he'd get mad because I couldn't help him right away, and then he'd act like I'm intentionally disrespecting him by not helping him do tiny things ASAP. Nowadays, I started getting real help and I am making real friends. I stopped pleasing people just for the sake of avoiding conflict. I still don't have any close relationships, nor do I have a girlfriend or anything, but it's fine. I know it will take time. I'm working towards this and I am trying to fix relationships I accidentally broke due to my trauma.

[@GhANeC]

Thankyou for this. Will be a bit hard, as a people pleaser sharing a house with an extremely caring and loving and sensitive close friend with high borderline personality disorder, bi-polar, anxiety, adhd and serious abandonment, judgement, self destructive and self worth issues, to even contemplate approaching a discussion about space, boundaries and saying no.

[@aiiiia9971]

You both deserve happiness! I hope that you can strike a compromise.

[@gafer8808]

It's okay at all, and everything is It's possible

[@GhANeC]

@@aiiiia9971 Thank you very much for that. I hope somehow we can. We're going through some hard days. hard days. for me and her.

[@StarsServent]

I'm a people pleaser mostly because I'm a coward. I leaned early that the pain of just shutting up and doing the thing involved less time wasting and less emotional pain. So now confit scares me and I will do a lot to avoid it, even if it makes me unhappy.

[@heyHachi.]

"People pleasers have the underlying belief that who they are is not lovable rather crave being loved in otder to feel worthy and happy" dam that touched deep into my sould fr

[@senadbah]

"You cannot pour from the empty cup." That is so deep yet so simple.🙏👍

[@onnie1036]

that's right, well put!

[@owenbicker799]

It's hard to do things for myself but I always find myself going the extra mile for others. I often don't even know what it is I want. I'm starting to do better though, and live for myself as well.

[@onnie1036]

It's wonderful that you're recognizing the importance of self-care and making positive changes. Your needs and well-being matter too. Keep taking those steps toward self-discovery and self-love.

[@_aconite_cj_]

I know if I stop this behavior I'll loose most people around me. But I will do it eventually. I will have better people around me eventually.

[@liamcraddock9539]

Happened to me when I stopped but you don't want those people leaching off you. Nothing more frustrating than being conditioned to be a simp to the point where you feel evil for asserting/ standing up for yourself.

[@_aconite_cj_]

@@liamcraddock9539 I can't escape it rn, I have no means, but I'm glaad you're in a better place to not let those people take advantage of you!

[@liamcraddock9539]

@@_aconite_cj_ For me it was a simple act of saying "No" and standing up for myself. It will be unpleasant, my (no longer) friend threatened to punch me, knock my teeth out and choke me if I didn't act the way he wanted me to. I had to brush it off, look him right in the eyes and say "you're not gonna do that"... And he didn't, it was an empty threat and a last ditch effort at testing if I'd be submissive to him. I'm a very lonely guy with a few friends, no social life and no social group. But never be willing to attach to someone who's only interested in controlling and harvesting you. Are you sure you can't escape it? Why can't you?

[@onnie1036]

Setting boundaries is a brave step towards your well-being. True connections are built on mutual respect, and those who value you will appreciate your growth and authenticity.

[@yawnamousaj7856]

I love how this video shows both perspectives in a manner that provides awareness.

[@onnie1036]

I noticed the balance in the video as well. It effectively portrayed both perspectives, contributing to a comprehensive understanding of the topic.

[@Wolfy634]

This is exactly how i feel and I don’t know how to get out of it i am such a people pleaser i’d just feel guilty or an awful person or selfish if i put my own needs first… Thank you for the story its nice to know I am not alone being this way

[@onnie1036]

You're definitely not alone, and it's okay to acknowledge that you struggle with people-pleasing. Learning to set healthy boundaries can be a gradual process, and you deserve to prioritize your well-being.

[@anubiswerelupe]

This all sounds well and good, but if I try any of these, I'd be called selfish. I help others, but no one helps me. I have to bear the weight of everyone else's problem but bottle away my own. I have no other choice. :(

[@xyz-pg3zd]

You do have a choice. Put those who reciprocate as priority. Come on..

[@anubiswerelupe]

@@xyz-pg3zd Really, I don't I am trapped in my current place and have no other options. I've tried to reach out for professional help a number of times, but it always ends badly. I don't know what else to do.

[@liamcraddock9539]

If a controlling, emotionally manipulative person calls you "selfish"... That's a good thing. It means you've stood up and asserted yourself. You don't exist just to do and say what others tell you to on command.

[@LuckyBlast1]

This video is excatly what I need! Thanks Psych2go!

[@Psych2go]

We're so glad you found the video helpful! What was your takeaway from the video? Did you find it relatable?

[@LuckyBlast1]

@@Psych2go Many things I found relatable. But they were said in a different kind of way. It's good to see many things in different perspectives!

[@blueempoleon6507]

The way I am reflecting on myself right now. Thank you for this video

[@CCEquestrian-je5uc]

As a big people pleaser, this hit close to home

[@Psych2go]

Which parts did you relate to the most? :)

[@Duvstep910]

Love the little additional voices and little details in this. Very insightful video ❤

[@idunnopookie]

I would do anything for someone like “people pleaser” NEVER would let them down

[@victorfedun4036]

Yeah, had a similar story( just was trying to help others, made somebody's life happier, in the end after all sacrifices you are just realizing that nobody is worth of your pain( nobody will say thank you, nobody will care about you, there are no friends in the adolt life, we are making friends only in our childhood( I don't believe in love I don't believe in friends, there is nothing left to believe in...

[@gafer8808]

Let's give in mediation, and don't wait for the tender to be returned so as not to feel shameful, also there are good people who give for nothing, there is sincere love, there are people who deserve too, but sometimes the painful experiences make a person lose confidence in everything.

[@Simon0501]

Try to balance between your friends and yourself

[@KittyKat0702]

I shouldn't stuck in my favorite games or be the core or always-angel for helping others, thank you

[@mysterytruck]

this is a wonderful video and i can relate to sone degree though mine is a bit different. it's hard to achieve the freedom from that grasp especially at certain cultures and mentality but you can achieve that freedom in your way too. it took years for me to finally let them know that i am an individual that needs to be respected and accepted as one. some understand this some don't and i'm fine with that. i definitely learned a lot through the years and learned to protect my boundaries too. But ever since I was young I always voiced out my true thoughts. I just lost that side of me because of some reasons but thankfully I am able to regain that strength in me again. i do my best to help people that i see are trapped in that situation by giving them their strength to the best of my abilities. I gave them hope when there was none for me then. i refuse to allow anyone going through what i went through. As one known fictional character said ' break the chain.' so i did. glad i did.

[@mysterytruck]

Your videos about anxiety, trauma, narcissistic people and more have definitely help me understand things. Also your videos help me see my strengths and sides i have to improve on or accept. I have followed your channel for years and glad I did. You're all doing a fantastic job at helping spread information about mental health. Thank you so very very much.

[@fziv31]

I used to be like this. My 1st ex want me to do this and that, and so is my 2nd ex. It's exhausting, really. I love help other people, but nowadays, I really choose who can get my help. My family come first, like my mom, dad, and my little brother. Then I can help others as well. Also, it depends how other people excluding my close family member treat me. If I help them but they refuse to do so with me, then it's a goodbye. I don't want to stuck with endless loop of helping people with no good feedback to me like I used to. It's tiring, exhausting, and people always take advantage of guilt trip me whenever I said no.

[@maryfearn3844]

Thank you information very helpful for me im a people pleaser now i understand why from this video im working on correcting it

[@msahindilmen]

With your useful content you’re really helping me. Thank you.

[@lowryfoster253]

Wow, that's my story over and over again until I finally found healing and now take care of myself. Which also means I don't look for others to rescue me either!

[@hassanaziz2622]

Yeah,i think u should use this technique in face of those ppl who you think possess psychopathic traits and you can't help remove themselves from your life,and especially if u don't have physical strength to fight these type of ppl in ur life who get violence everytime due to their psychopathic traits. Other than that,you should love yourself first and be direct and genuine with other ppl who aren't violent.

[@maxyoufurry]

Im so happy i came across this video ive been struggling with this for so long.. just to hear that its okay to say no to people is pure freedom and that im not a bad person for doing so makes me feel so freed thank you so much for this video i will start applying this now. ❤

[@onnie1036]

Taking care of yourself allows you to be there for others in a healthier way.😊

[@maxyoufurry]

@@onnie1036 man i wish i knew bout this earlier :(

[@joelmckaig8923]

With a woman if you’re to nice it’s a no. If you’re to mean it’s a no if you’re normal it’s a no. The real truth is no matter what kind of person I am I will never be good enough for them because they hate me literally no matter how I present myself. It’s the truth.

[@liduanhelenchong1237]

Yes its very true 🙂 we only have so limited energy & time, we cannot "help" so many others Prioritising é ppl whom we love cherish & give our very best ❤ also not forgetting "ourselves" too ❤ Ur channel has been guiding me thru my hard times & sharing much info in coping w oneself, one's life & better understanding on issues 😊 benefited so much fr ur channel 🙏🏻 thk u ❤

[@Gabstrology]

I love this. You are doing a great job. Each video gives access to resources and information to learn how to better engage with others around me and see warning signs concerning interpersonal relationships.

[@onnie1036]

It's wonderful to have resources that support positive and healthy connections with others.

[@soniyamukhopadhyay1355]

Thank you for sending this notification in right time

[@gafer8808]

Really a great video Sometimes people also do this not because they do not want to be alone or are afraid of leaving, but sometimes you may grow up in a big family that does this and prefers others and the child sleeps and feels that this is his duty and it is very difficult to leave this habit unless you are watching yourself well to change this habit,

[@WhitePantsClub]

I’m a people pleaser. It’s exhausting. And then one day, I lose it and drop the people who take advantage of me. The cycle is traumatic for my (former) friends and myself.

[@daniyal7903]

I hope things are well for you right now. And I don’t mean to sound cynical, but that fact that you said “former”, implies that they’ve ditched you because you don’t help them anymore, or that you cut them off yourself. I know I shouldn’t assume stuff, and that the way you presented yourself about it, may have affected this outcome, but still, that doesn’t change the fact that it’s making it rather evident that they only kept you around because you helped them, and not because you were a “good friend”, otherwise they may have tried to reach out to you in some way. And so, they’re the ones in the wrong about it, if you’ve been cut off. I’m sorry if what I’m saying sounds judgmental or if I’m assuming wrong. But what I mean to say is, do not blame yourself for it. It was clearly not in your control if you acted erratically about it.

[@onnie1036]

It takes immense strength to acknowledge and break free from such cycles. Remember, prioritizing your well-being is not selfish, it's an act of self-love and empowerment.

[@nematodes2323]

I’m a people pleaser. I made friends with one person and the group they were previously in. A few months after I became GOOD friends with the person I kept being told by the group how my friend would ‘bully’ them in the past. I personally believe the friend just didnt realise what they were saying was hurting them cause I asked what they knew and they just looked stressed upon being told why people don’t like them. Now I have to pick the group of people and can’t be friends with the ‘bully’ but I want to be friends with ALL. Idk if I’m just trying to make the person happy by being their friend or if its that I just know them better than others and know they can’t help their behaviour most likely due to their traumatic childhood. I so badly want to be their friend again but I feel awful cause now I’m hanging out with the group more, they talk about the ‘bully’ more to me yet I still so badly want things to go back to normal, my heart aches seeing them sit alone

[@emilrodriguez2705]

I so needed this.

[@blancabarrau2708]

Thank you for your content!!! It helps me so much❤

[@Yohann_Rechter_De-Farge]

Extremely Thank you for your guidance, I am really grateful to you. 🌹🌷🌺

[@ShelbyMunro-m6n]

I once spent 30 years of my nearly 49 years on this planet pleasing my family and trying to be cool in order to wow people. I wore the family name and things that had the Union Jack. I was hiding my true self from the world. Back in 2016, I've decided that enough was enough and that I was going to be myself from that point on. It's been worth it.

[@liamcraddock9539]

What's the 🇬🇧 got to do with this?

[@cookiemonnom_]

People-pleasing can attract the wrong attention. Energy vampires and manipulators LOVE what they can take. Unconditional love is not unconditional access.

[@SatriaMP167]

As someone who likes to make others happy, i find this video helpful

[@onnie1036]

Keep spreading positivity, and take care of yourself too!

[@TheNonameHousehold]

Holly used to be like this too, I'm glad he met his friends. -Tucker

[@Pronellyllon]

Thank you for these videos! I love the channel because of the many great content. It makes me learn a lot. I also know that I am a pleaser, so I'll try to work on this. ❤

[@niasiamack9333]

This is the video i need

[@Keg_the_ytchannel]

Dude i can't say no i just manipulate ppl into thinking they dont want me to do it. Like i dont be good at things i don't want to do

[@ItsMy149thTimeHereHelp]

God damn you really good the timing right psych 2 go

[@Twekion]

Bro yesterday I litterally found out I was a people pleaser, timing is too good

[@LordBrittish]

There was a song I learned at summer camp when I was a kid about putting others before myself, or me being “Third”. (God is first, the other man second, and I am third) As an adult, I’m not sure about the whole “God” thing, (“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing”) but I can definitely look back on things and see myself as a people pleaser. I can definitely see how this could have added to some of the stress I have experienced in my life, but would I change anything? Nah.

[@hughboyle7251]

25 years of marriage, it took me to figure this out. Look after you.

[@CarolynnMc01]

I used to go above and beyond, but yes it's exhausting. I quit doing that, and I'm happier. I take care of myself first. If someone really needs help, of course, I'm happy to do it. But If my first thought is "no"... that's what I say.

[@jujuoof174]

People pleasing suck. This video, on the other hand, is great!

[@K-Mix90]

i love the nichijou art style

[@EternalTotem]

This bideo is very insightful. I like the animation. When you put the full words of what isbeen saying is key for me i enjoy it.❤

[@JamieSwitzer]

Been a people pleaser almost my whole life. Nowadays I try to be kind.... within reason.

[@MagicSylveonAnimeArt]

Yes, more stories please. I might not go this far, but I certaintly can’t say no…..

[@sweetmusicwoman984]

I used to be a people pleaser but then realize I couldn’t please everyone and it was severely hurting me so I stopped trying to. I just do my best to be a good person

[@onnie1036]

That's a wise and empowering realization.

[@mdnashiruddin1860]

I have been a people pleaser with my dad. I am afraid of him he is like an intimidating person and short temper I can't be open about my feelings around him. It hurts a lot to can't share your feelings with your loved ones.

[@onnie1036]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging situation with your dad. It can be difficult when there's fear and intimidation in a relationship, especially with a loved one. If you feel comfortable, consider seeking support from other family members, or a mental health professional who can provide guidance on navigating difficult relationships and help you find ways to express your feelings in a safe environment.

[@mdnashiruddin1860]

@@onnie1036 thank you

[@buggus0034]

For all you people pleasers, just know that no matter what you do you can not save anyone from themselves.

[@mariolazo6150]

i rlly needed this

[@repidoza]

im a people pleaser and i have attachment issues and I haven’t even entered my teenager years and its really bad i keep getting used over and over again

[@onnie1036]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such challenges, especially at a young age. It's important to recognize that your feelings and well-being are valid. Developing healthy boundaries is a skill that takes time, and seeking support from a trusted adult, teacher, or counselor can be beneficial.

[@peachnecctar1658]

this... my boyfriend moved in this year. i pay almost all his bills and clean up after him constantly, ive never been more exhausted in my life.

[@tapesayshowdy]

Your videos make my day!

[@Psych2go]

Your comment makes our day! :) Thank you!

[@tapesayshowdy]

',:D@@Psych2go

[@drinasun6984]

Thanks for the content!

[@crow3370]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to help someone just Remeber you can't please everyone

[@Psych2go]

That's absolutely true. I think that's a common trap for people pleasers; they can't stand the thought of not pleasing everyone. But, as you said, that's impossible. Thank you for your insight.

[@crow3370]

@@Psych2go your welcome

[@jeanneanberglund531]

Thank you so much for your videos!

[@itz_maivy]

Thank you psych2go!😊

[@kiilboy]

Thank you for posting at 4:00 am 😐

[@ParadoxHunter_]

Is there any chance we could see advice for guys in toxic partnerships and friendships, or just friendship advice in general in the future? I enjoy the content, keep up the good work

[@newmewheart]

Regarding your post a few minutes ago, have you tried combining animation with a real person as a host and make it into an informative "did you know" video approach? This is just a suggestion. Another suggestion would be making a sequence of videos and turning it into a game, like at the end of a video the viewer could choose an answer to the question posted and he/she would be linked into another video

[@neofulcrum5013]

Sometimes its hard to say no

[@iamthatiam44444]

I say NO to everything now.

[@lavender-amyy]

i need this ❤

[@setareh5888]

I know I should communicate for my difficulties but it's not easy as it seems for a people pleaser like me. It's almost impossible when it's time to act like that 😭😭😭😭

[@gudrun9547]

Thanks for sharing this topic

[@lovelumity]

I have a question I like to help others and make them happy. It's hard for me to say no, but I say no occasionally. I don't have a problem being alone and it gives me peace and the possibility to think about things. I don't feel like I need anything to be happy, but helping others gives me more joy than anything. I like to invest in myself and invest in others with the results Is it a people pleaser or not? doing it hurts me sometimes but because people take advantage of me and think it's stupid to help others but probably it's just because of my environment

[@aiiiia9971]

It's not stupid to be a compassionate person. It is beautiful to want to make others happy. However, if you know that someone is taking advantage of you and you are allowing it to happen, you may want to assess why. What are you afraid of? Why are you afraid? What can you do to change the situation? Learning to set boundaries will not make you a less compassionate person. It will ensure that you are well enough to give when you can, and your self worth won't depend on other people as much.

[@liamcraddock9539]

If people are taking advantage of you and making you out to be offensive/ evil/ guitly/ opressive for standing up and asserting yourself then yes... You're a people pleaser. Don't let people emotionally control you because unfortunately, people do try to do that.

[@lovelumity]

@@liamcraddock9539 I think you missed the point. I know manipulation, body language, and I can easily find out who is taking advantage of me, I hate to use it and it just hurts me to know that people can really do such a thing to a person who gives them everything and helps them to see them happy, I talked about my past, it wasn't so nice (my childhood) I am currently working on myself, I stopped helping others after I went through this, I want to return to it in the future, but it will be after I am mentally and physically strong, You did a terrible thing to myself to stop helping others But I don't want to say more than that, it's a bit private But thanks for the help and I will be happy to receive an answer that is adapted to what I mean Like if I'm still considered a people pleaser in this way or not 🙃

[@lovelumity]

@@aiiiia9971 And it's nice that you think so, But it turns out that people think it's childish and stupid, I have a problem that I like cute things and to help and feel like a child even though I'm 15 years old I like to do that people thought it was stupid so they beat me laughed at me and took away all desire to live and worst of all it came from my family too, I don't know with whom they tried to do it but they always called me fat, stupid, weird, annoying, useless, Now they ask why I'm not happy and want to be around them, I'll stop here because I see it's long, my intention is that I used to be nice, now I'm secretly nice, I don't help people in real life only on KZbin Tiktok So I got screwed

[@lovelumity]

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[@ladydy8263]

I love your way of explaining things in your videos it make them seem so clear❤, so could you mayby talk about dyslexia😅? It's something i've been struggling with for years and it would realy help me

[@Psych2go]

That can be a very helpful topic! If we were to make a video on this topic, what do you want to see?

[@ladydy8263]

Well, mayby a video on the strengths and weaknesses of dyslexia

[@SanymariyamThomas-vo1jw]

Thank you for this..

[@brain_respect_and_freedom]

👍 Well done!

[@piotraugustyniak6591]

Great video 👍

[@Truthseekerandteller]

I can't help it

[@DasHeino2010]

"You cant pour from an empty cup!" I can! "Well what is pouring then? Dust! "Your dehydrating!" We all are dying. Holy sh*t that got dark quickly Im gonna go outside and play with my dog!

[@stevec3892]

I can relate to this

[@LGchickenchick]

U r so inspiring

[@rileyanthony]

Could you please do a video on how to tell your parents you have been in a secret relationship with someone please as this could really be helpful.

[@rayzhang3425]

Ayyy is that nichijou ❤

[@theoryofsentience]

I don't EVER want to be like this. You will be like the dude in the video, submissive and weak - hi girlfriend was literally using him as a tool. So proud that I said "no" to someone last day

[@Inferno65654]

Please I need advice from anyone doesn’t mess around. My crush likes me and I like her, but she’s expecting me to make the move. I don’t think I have the courage to ask her even if she likes me. What do I do?

[@jayykale]

Life is too short to be hesitant to do things, you’ll never know how things are going to turn out, you could die next week and not of gotten that chance to see a relationship between you two flourish. I say you should just man up (not trying to be offensive) and tell her about your feelings towards her next time you two get the chance to speak alone

[@Inferno65654]

@@jayykale thanks dude

[@theoryofsentience]

@@jayykaleHe can't "just" man up though, its not how it works. He won't suddenly become a high value big penis big confidence man overnight, it takes months. It might just be me, but reading advice like this that you'll get hit by a gamma ray burst or something if you don't approach her just made me even more nervous and less self-assured. Luckily, I've improved a lot now, im definitely much more confident and that did NOT happen in 1.42 seconds.

[@oliik]

I am not sure if it is related to the subject of the video directly. however, it bothers me because I really don't know the reason. so, I had 4 close friends before, and I was acting the same towards them. like you know, just being myself. unfortunately, due to some circumstances, we ended up being in different countries, far from each other, and in the end, we lost communication.. so now I have a best friend. we became friends a year ago. and I noticed that I am no longer acting the same as I did with these 4 friends. I feel like I was more open back then. she is a really good person, we have a lot of similarities, and she doesn't do anything that would upset me. but for some reason, I just don't feel so happy and energetic around her. she, btw, is that person from a video (people pleaser, I say it because she is up for everything, you know). And I just don't feel like I'm me around her. that is just so bizarre to me, since I think we are similar (in terms of personality), like I ised to be that sunshine, but now it's not like that, and I'm frustrated about it, because I know that I would feel much happier and energetic, being that "past" me. so confusing ..