The Honest Reality of Bonding with My New Guide Dog…

[@jandyhumble637]

Molly I love your strawberry blonde hair color. It was made for you. Also all the pink tones in your outfit and the decor in this video are incredible 😍

[@clarechong879]

That's literally what I thought too! The hair and shirt and everything in her bedroom looks so good

[@sarahtrue98]

I was just gonna comment this! All the pink here looks so cute!

[@Corasinne]

That is the first thing I thought when the video came on too. She is phenomenal with design.

[@simonethevvitch]

I was coming to comment the same thing!

[@hanako_w]

Me too! This hair colour is beautiful on Molly! 😍

[@trashythetrashcan9741]

holy shit she sure knows how to make these videos aesthetically pleasing asf

[@catloverKD]

I was slightly put off by the pillow with eyes behind her though.

[@fraggelrock9974]

@@catloverKD yea I don't really like stuff with faces on it, they really pull the eye

[@RiverWoods111]

@@fraggelrock9974 I love art with faces and especially eyes on it. I noticed it, but I didn't get focused on it. I would love to see the whole pillow at some time.

[@kthx_bai]

@@RiverWoods111 you can see it at 8:50

[@RiverWoods111]

@@kthx_bai Thanks!

[@juniper617]

In some ways this reminds me of when I became a mother. The baby was absolutely planned and wanted-but I had a hard pregnancy and a hellish delivery; I had PPD; we had difficulty breastfeeding; and I just didn’t fall in love with her immediately. I took care of her and did all the things you’re meant to do, but it took several months before I was really *happy* with her. But I feel like our bond actually became stronger because it was something I really had to work towards.

[@LadyAurian]

I do not have children but that is what I was thinking of as well when watching this, I kept thinking of mothers and bonds with newborns. I am glad Molly shared, because although the situations are different, I think it might help some women feel less alone and guilty if they took time to form a bond with their baby.

[@sngray11]

My sister went through the same thing with my nephew, so that came to mind while I was watching this as well.

[@poorlydonenailart]

This is what I went through with my kid, too. 💜

[@raccoonspirit5369]

Without reading this post first, I commented that Molly talking about not falling in love with a new guide dog right away is how I hear mothers describe not falling in love with their newborns right way. I’m sorry you mothers had to experience that and I feel so happy for you to come out stronger on the other side. I feel this is an extremely important issue that should be talked about more. Thank you all for sharing your stories.

[@cynthieful]

I think even us "normal" dog owners can say that every dog is different, and in my experience therefore the love I feel for them has a different flavor to it? it's not about loving more or less, but it does feel somewhat different for each animal. And I can honestly say it took me some time to deeply start loving my second dog after my first one of 16 years passed away. And we have a different kind of relationship, too. So I think it makes perfect sense that you wouldn't love a guide dog right away the same every time

[@Adventurous-Emma]

This 100%. My first dog of 15 years was a dog unlike any other, a total angel that loved everyone and everyone loved her. I’ll never meet another dog like her. My next dog, well, I’d describe her as “special” rather than an angel. But the love and bond we have is so unique and special, it’s just different!

[@Kattleyah]

Definitely. As a teen my family got a dog and she was my best friend. I took her to the stables, walks, learnt tricks with her. Over a year ago I got a new dog again (like 20-ish years later) and I do love her dearly. But its different. If someone would place dogs in front of me and tell me to chose one, I could not. I love both of them in their own way and they are definitely not comparable. As humans, each dog is different, so each dog will feel different and just will never replace any previous dog.

[@spirited_stories08]

This is so true. I adopted my first dog (I’ve had family dogs my whole life but this is the first dog that’s solely mine) 3 months ago. And I had some pretty serious regrets pretty fast because she had a behaviour crop up that wasn’t disclosed to me prior to getting her and it was serious. I got her a trainer. Now I see how far we have come in a short time and I cannot imagine my life without her. I mean she has that same quality as Molly is explaining Benn had, seeing her love for me is special because she’s so stranger weary and her fast trust in me and how she looks to me for reassurance feels special. But we have our hard days like when she’s looking for my attention in the worst ways and I get frustrated because if she just came and asked nicely I would go for it she doesn’t need to try to eat a blanket or tip a trash can or grab my shoes

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

Yeah, I've found the same with my companions too, I lost my second rabbit who I was very bonded to two years ago unexpectedly and I was so lost without a companion I adopted another a few months later, but it took a long time to not feel like getting him was a mistake, and would I ever be able to love him the same way... and it's not the same way, it's very different as he's a completely different personality, but I can actually say I love the new long-eared miscreant without feeling weird saying it.

[@simplymonca]

Omg the color pallet in this video ❤

[@thephamilybusiness9485]

Right??? I’m obsessed

[@sburkie9]

Even down to the sparkly nail polish! I love it

[@ella7637]

Same!!! ❤ So lovely Molly! Thank you for this eye candy 🥰

[@AmazingBouncinFerret]

Your Dad’s words of comfort were exactly what I needed to hear in this moment. I came to KZbin to try to distract myself from my grief and his acknowledgment of how much things like this suck helped me to feel better. Thank you for sharing your own grief.

[@LoneTraveler-nc6rf]

I always find your information and message very enlightening and helpful. However today I just have to say the new Rosegold hair is rocking it! As a former colorist myself, I greatly appreciate the terrific job your stylist has done. Your color looks fantastic.

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

Aw, thank you!! I'm loving it!!

[@RiverWoods111]

@@MollyBurkeOfficial I am sure we are all loving it on you! I was like "Damn Girl! You rocking that rose gold hair!"

[@aidanmcauliffe8999]

Honestly! Being told "it. sucks." is one of the most comforting things to hear

[@RachelKay528]

The muted blush color of the walls/bedding, the bunny, your hair, makeup, and shirt...the charcoal grey headboard with a gold rim...omg. Everything is so gorgeous 😍

[@alexbuzick]

Molly I'm super proud of you for sharing this. You had a very short transition between Ben and Elton, it sounds like you're going through the normal grieving process. I think Elton and you are meant to be BECAUSE he loves life so much. I also know you can't see the way he looks at you, but it's very similar to how you look at the Christmas lights. Full of pure joy and love ❤️. He likes attention from those around you, but he LOVES you.

[@SlimChayT]

Aweee, again thank you so much for sharing all of this with us. I'm sorry you've had to experience this but I am glad that you're opening you're heart up to Sir Elton. Love you Molly ❤🐾❤🐾

[@erinnstreeter]

You described the start of someone's service dog experiences as "emBARKing upon your service dog journey," and I know you didn't mean to make a pun, but it was so well timed I have to offer kudos. 😄

[@harveyabel1354]

Can't say it was ARFul 😂

[@EpochDarkleaf]

I am not a service animal user but I went through the same feelings when I adopted my dog in 2020. Those first few weeks and months were very stressful( ie: crying on the kitchen floor) and I was questioning whether I did the right thing. 3 years now he has been home with me and we both have come a long way together.

[@GoodDoggoTaco17]

Same here, though mine was a rescue - she was so scared from being on the street/the shelter etc. that she would snap at us if we came near her while she slept or if we tried to clean her, then she would bark and lunge at the dogs outside and pull so hard. It felt very overwhelming for those first few weeks and months even, but as we gained her trust and love she completely stopped with the snapping and has gotten loads better with being reactive! She even will cuddle with us at night for safety. We love her soo much and she came out of her shell to be the happiest and friendliest dog ever ❤

[@leeatkin9925]

me 2. When my cat Dark Chocolate passed suddenly I was devestated and before I left the vet's i knew I was adopting the foster I had at home. I had to remind myself for several weeks that Necco Wafer wasn't a replacement for Dark Chocolate and that it was ok that he had a different personality. It took time to love him and now I can't imagine my world without the furball.

[@Jtotheamie7]

This video may have been about your guide dog transition but I'm going through a really tough break up right now and your words of wisdom about not beating yourself up and knowing that it takes time to heal and feel better and feel optimistic about the future really resonated with me thank you so much for sharing both the good and the bad of your life, I know that can be very difficult and yet you do so with such grace and your vulnerability make me feel a lot less alone.

[@harveyabel1354]

Your future *will* be full of love, light and happiness! All the best to you, I've been where you are, but now I'm happily married for lo, these past 37 years. My wife told me I had to say "happily" 😉

[@sunflower7874]

me too. :(

[@ghosty22xx]

me too ❤

[@beverlydust5381]

Love the background of the video and Molly's turtleneck colors. Also very interesting and informative topic for service dog users 👍, and education of those who don't.

[@indeanjali3216]

This video really does mean so much to me. It took me 5 months to truly love and bond with my service dog (program dog). I didn't anticipate it and felt a lot of hatred and guilt toward myself over it. She's really sensitive to human emotions so she definitely knew it. It wasn't until I let my guard down that I saw her true personality and love for me shine. The difference between the bond of a pet and a service dog you're entrusting your life to is so incredibly different it's jarring. Like you, I still am unable to describe it to people.

[@lizzybearcutie]

i'm glad that you understood that grief and recovery was going to take time and that you did what you had to do to get where you wanted to go while allowing yourself to grieve.

[@carly282]

Two weeks ago, I had two dogs. best of friends, old married couple-level dogs. we decided to get a puppy since they were getting old and grumpy and we wanted to add some positive, bright energy into the house. two weeks ago, one of those dogs passed away suddenly. exactly a week later, the new puppy arrived. of course i liked the puppy, but being heartbroken from having losing one of the dogs i grew up with, it was so hard. it's still hard. although he wasn't a guide dog, he was still part of the family. i feel you, molly. it takes time. i have so much empathy.

[@MossyBear]

You're so right about how to be empathic with others, to acknowledge that things suck and are hard sometimes. I'm very glad your dad was able to provide that for you. You and Mr. Elty Cheese Melty have a slow burn going on, and that's also valid 💚

[@natalieazizian4685]

I love your relationship with your parents. How supportive they are with you and are there every step of the way. Reminds me of my parents! I hope you have a great bond with Elton because he is honestly so perfect for you!

[@sviolet892]

Your hair is STUNNING!!!! Every time you change it I think it couldn't possibly be more beautiful and then somehow it is every single time!

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

OMG thank you so muchhhh!!

[@lindsey5338]

I’ve never had a need for a guide/service dog. Just a regular pet owner. I went 7 years before getting another cat after I had put my childhood cat down. It was traumatic - the vet didn’t use enough in the shot, and I was in a room with my cat and she couldn’t blink and they had to give her another shot. Almost 20 years later and typing that I start to cry. My next cat? Was 7 years later, and I wasn’t ready. He’s a wonderful cat and I now have a few more along with him. I love him dearly and am so glad he’s in my life. But it’s a different love than my other cat. They all have their own spot in my heart. I can’t imagine the pain of having to start moving forward and healing with a new animal when you aren’t ready for it. But knowing you need to because you rely on them to guide you. That sounds soooo effing hard, and it’s ok that it’s taken you over six months and that you’re still not fully there - each of your dogs are irreplaceable members of your family and it really sucks that they have such shorter lifespans than we do. Add in the fact that you’re going on this journey so publicly? You’re a damn champ. You and Elton will continue to grow and bond and heal - at whatever speed and pace comes naturally.

[@MilesToTheRescue07]

17:55 I love the point that you made about the relationship between a service dog and handler. It is unlike anything I’ve felt before and yet I feel like you summed it up very well.

[@delaneypdkearns]

Molly, I think this is one of my new favorite videos of yours. Thank you for always being so authentically you. Much love for you and Elton! ❤

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

Aw, thank you so much!

[@KeriJo12]

Thank you Molly! I really needed to hear these words. While I'm not a guide dog user, I had a boyfriend of three years who took his own life. In the year since that happened, I met someone else and started dating again, and I've been worried that the feelings are just not going to ever come back. This resonated with me in a way I was not expecting, and I'm so grateful.

[@TinaMarie1984]

The aesthetic in this video is immaculate, Molly! The background, the hair color, the pink turtleneck?! *chefs kiss*

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

AH, thank you!! I love making things as aesthetic as possible!! Makes life more fun! hehehe

[@baylamakarov8701]

I can relate to the service dog craziness. My little brothers service dog passed away a month after she came home from her service program. It was extremely unexpected and painful. During that month they were getting to know each other again, there was a lot of ups and downs and transitional training challenges. It can be extremely challenging and more frustrating than magical at first and you’re right that no one talks about that. Being patient and setting a routine, especially one that includes activities or a game that both of you guys enjoy

[@melleme89]

Important conversation, thank you for sharing! Also: The makeup matching the sweater, matching the hair matching the throw, matching the pillows, matching the bunny matching the walls? 10/10

[@melsoft121]

My husband and I lost our son just over half way through pregnancy, and now we’re expecting our daughter. I definitely took way longer to bond with my daughter, but with some work (and therapy) I feel very bonded to both of them in their own unique way. Once I started understanding that I was trying to protect myself, but the bond was happening anyway, that really helped me make space for actually getting in touch with my real feelings for my daughter. I feel like that type of guarding comes more from a loss where it’s unexpected and there should have been a lot more time.

[@jja_0262]

When I was placed with my assistance dog last year, I had doubts, tears, frustration, and regret. I of course had plenty of positive emotions as well, but the negatives were hard to work through. I feel so validated from what you’ve said and relate so strongly. It is difficult to put what you’ve said into words and you did it beautifully. Now, passing the one year mark with my dog, I can confidently say I am absolutely in love with him and he has changed my life. Time will heal, and I’m glad you’re healing with Elton. Sending love to you both. Thanks for sharing this video ♥️

[@karenolson9258]

It's so amazing how honest you are in your life journeys and sharing them with us. I really look up to you, you're so genuine ❤

[@WholeFoodSpark]

You’re right, bonding takes time. I never thought I would have another cat after my soulmate kitty passed away. A few years passed and my heart healed. I got a kitten June 2021. At that age the main way to bond with them is playing. It’s a LOT of work when all you want is a snuggle buddy. Now she’s almost 2 and snuggles with me every single morning. We’re bonded in a way that makes my heart explode…. And a guide dog bond is no comparison to a pet!

[@melissaruppert1127]

Your comment is one of the most relatable comments I have ever seen. My soulmate kitty (literally call him that too) died tragically at 8 years old and honestly it was hard to even have the will to live after that happened. I’m sorry you lost your baby too! I didn’t know if I could get another cat after Oliver. So I got two. Totally unplanned! My boys have all the best qualities of my Oliver and my girl I lost before and I say they sent them to me. Like you said, I miss my snuggler and I get a bit of snuggles here and there from my boys, I’m so glad they are different so I don’t feel like I replaced him.

[@harveyabel1354]

@@melissaruppert1127 I've always gotten another cat after losing one (and grieving, of course). Not as a replacement - which isn't possible - but as a "living memorial". And, yes, I have lost a few, all fondly remembered and still loved.

[@ChimeraTruely]

They are our favorite, because we can find fake everywhere. Unfiltered truth isn't as easy. Thank you for helping us feel less alone, & educating us in areas we may not relate to.

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

🙌

[@ThatWeirdo04]

My cat Diana, who I'd had since I was seven, passed away in December of 2021. She was very much a one person cat. She tolerated most people, but she loved me, and our bond was so special. I adopted two cats about a month later after she died, and it was really hard at first because they were so different from Diana that it made me miss what I had with her even more. A year later, I love my boys very much, and I've come to be okay with the fact that I probably won't ever love another cat the way I loved Diana. Some bonds just can't be recreated, but that doesn't make the other bonds you form any less meaningful.

[@ms-rachel-anne]

The idea of anyone judging Molly for her experiences of grief, healing, and bonding with her guide dogs is absolutely ludicrous to me. Everyone's heart is different and everyone's experience with individual animals is gonna be different, so how can anyone feel they have the authority (read: gall) to judge? Mind blowing. Personally, I just feel privileged that she shares her experiences with us, especially or non-guide dog users like myself who learn so much from these kinds of videos.

[@motionless_horizon]

Thank you for making this molly. I’m in a really hard place with my SD currently. I’m owner training and we have absolutely incredible bond, but I’ve felt like a failure because I’m not training him “fast enough”. He’s doing well but has his struggles and I work with him everyday to help, but it’s slow progress. I needed the reminder that I’m not the only person with a service dog that has struggles, and that it takes time. Those who aren’t in the SD community will never know what that bond is like, or how difficult it can be at times. We absolutely love our dogs, but some days are harder than others. Some days I feel like I shouldn’t have ever gotten him because I’m not a good trainer, or that I won’t be able to provide what he needs. Some days the anxiety of public access is too much and I can’t take him. The bad days happen and that’s nothing to feel ashamed of. Service dogs aren’t robots, they won’t always be perfect. Like you said, it takes time. This video really helped me feel less alone, thank you again for being so open and honest about your struggles.

[@TheAlexaDawn]

Thank you for your honesty and authenticity. It's amazing to me that two totally different stories of grief can have so many parallels. Your heartfelt videos have helped me through a miscarriage and navigating TTC again. I relate so much to the fears that you built up in your mind, and the defense mechanisms to not get your hopes up.

[@8randomprettysecret8]

Thank you for your kindness! Hoping all is well. Life is filled with insights and one day at a time. All of the sparkles ✨

[@amym7046]

Even losing a beloved pet dog and trying to bond with a new one can be like this. It took me 8 months to love (or even like) my current dog after losing my "heart dog." Now I have three "new" dogs. They're all different and all very loved. It's normal to mourn what was while moving on to something new.

[@littlemissshihtzu]

Molly, I so appreciate your honesty. Sugar-coating struggles helps no one. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that your dad gave you the validation that you needed. Sometimes life sucks and it's okay to say so! And sometimes we just need to cry it out - I've been doing exactly this for 10 days in a row now! Grief is a monster of an emotion! 💙

[@teri6726]

I got my first ever dog; a brand new baby puppy almost 2 years ago and for the first couple months I was having panic attacks and really regretting getting her, and even considered rehoming her. I ended up slowly falling so so so in love with her and she’s literally my everything now. I can’t imagine my life without her!!! I’m so glad I stuck it out those first months.

[@4thina4ngel]

Your hair color is so amazing, especially with that turtleneck!

[@wolverineuncovered]

I have been following, well in general for a few years, but specifically relating to your struggle and journey with Elton. I got my dog Hazel near when you got Benix. Not only was she part of the fam, but she was also partly my therapy dog. She died suddenly and unexpectedly, in the same time period you had to say goodbye to Ben. I then got a puppy, again same time you got Elton. I've been on this journey with you when it comes to bonding with a new dog. Hazel was perfect, my doggy soul mate. It took me a while to really really let myself open to Inara. She'll be a year old in March and I'll have had her as my baby for 8 months this week. There are days where she does something, like eat toilet paper or not listen, and all I can think is how much I wish she was Hazel. But this little, dumb adorable puppy, loves me so much. I am her human. She is sooo strongly bonded to me. And it has been rough. But now, she is my baby. It did take a lot of time. I still have days... I miss Hazel every day. Inara in no way was a replacement or could possibly be for Hazel. That was never the intention. It is just different, and its change.

[@makaylamoynihan6897]

I am loving Molly's new hair, the cut the color, so cute! I have been watching for so long and I have learned so much about service dogs and handlers, I have since taught my son and my preschoolers in my classroom, I love educating and learning more!

[@sngray11]

While I don’t have a guide dog, I have had a few dogs that became my furbabies and it took me time with each one to form a loving bond and connection. So I can imagine that that process would be amplified exponentially for having a guide dog because you form a partnership with your guide dog and rely on them to keep you safe and navigate you throughout each and every day. Thank you for making this video Molly. 💗 And I am loving the strawberry blonde hair on you! 💞

[@miiissfox]

Gosh Molly these videos always make me cry! I love you and I’m happy everything is getting better. Slowly but surely.

[@Flipper568]

So much respect for your integrity & honesty Molly. You are honouring all of the dogs you have had with your words ❤

[@amandamyththelegend]

That moment with your dad is so special. Such good and relatable advice thank you for sharing it!! Also from an outside perspective, Molly you have such a big heart and you love so beautifully. Needing time to heal before you could let a new dog is just a symptom of the beautiful bonds you create and that is not something to be hard on yourself for in the slightest.

[@aaronwolf1045]

I’m three months into training my new service dog prospect and we are finally starting to figure each other out. My last dog washed out. I got her as an adult and we trained together for about 5 months with the help of professionals, but she decided she didn’t want to be a service dog. The dog I had in mind has nothing in common with the puppy I actually ended up getting, but she was the best fit for me. The decision to wash a dog from training is hard, and the decision to start over from scratch is hard. The whole process is long and difficult, especially with this being my first service dog. It will be worth it in the end though

[@poodleguiderpeyes7388]

Owner-trained Dogs must be a real challenge to have success with. GuideDog schools typically have less than a 50 percent graduation rate. School Dogs train from birth almost to 2 & 1/2 years, there are many tasks they have to know. It's about them having the Handlers back, so to speak. They are wonderful educated Doggies!

[@LoneWolf-pr6rf]

I love what you said about the "yeah it sucks part" I've struggled with depression and anxiety for years and I am so tired of people saying "I'm sorry" to me because like I understand it's good intentioned and that they're trying to express compassion but to me like depression and Anxiety, exactly what you said, just sucks sometimes and I wish people around me could just validate that. I understand the people that say im sorry because they're trying to help but the people that are just like yeah it sucks it helps me relate to them better, build better connections with them and feel more valued and cared for.

[@kaitlynschaaf6023]

“You’re right it sucks” is the most comforting thing anyone has ever said to me

[@heatherstephens-cantu3181]

Your video reminded me of Brene Brown’s TED talk on vulnerability. Highly recommend if you haven’t seen it. And not that you need a random subscriber to validate you, but it’s so obvious in your language that you’ve done a lot of personal work in therapy. I hope it’s been supportive in allowing yourself to process and experience all the messiness of being human. Thank you for sharing.

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

I love her!! And yes, therapy has been so helpful for me throughout my life and especially during hard times like this past year. I'm a firm believer that everyone should go to therapy because it helps you understand yourself better and be able to communicate your feelings effectively to others!

[@latuacantante1990]

The way your shirt, your hair, your pillows, your bed sheets, the wall, the bunny plushie... THE WAY EVERY MATCHES. The same tone of pink. wowww!! you are the most stylist youtuber ever, Molly!!

[@EmUhlee-]

My first dog took me months to bond with. I had a cat I was very bonded with and my cat went missing when my puppy was only 4 months so that made the bond even harder. But over time we bonded in so many ways and now she’s my world. Then I got another puppy and at first I was unsure about him. Now he’s my world too. These bonds aren’t one size fits all the way we feel is completely valid. These dogs came into our lives for a reason.

[@cheryltucker6589]

Yes, Molly! This episode was spot on! Very well done, honest, open conversation about a touchy subject. Time heals, so they say...Rock on...Elton, TOO! 🦴🐾💓

[@daniellepardon3453]

As a normal dog owner, I can certainly relate to this! I had my childhood dog whom I loved and eventually passed away from old age and then I adopted my next dog shortly after and she was truly the love of my life and my other half, but she devastatingly passed away from cancer. To help me heal, I adopted another dog, but my next dog had pretty severe mental health issues and it was just a very different experience, and I had a very hard time falling in love with her. I felt so guilty about it! And I couldn't understand if it was because I loved my previous dog soooo much that just nothing would compare, or because she was so difficult, it was just a longer process to love.

[@spiritflame]

At 23:55 that hit home hard and made me really realize how much I relate to this video in 2016 my dog got injured do to jumping through the snow. He had to be put down. It was incredibly hard for me one of the hardest things ive gone through still. We ended up getting a new dog 2 months later. And one day i started crying somewhat do to pms...but my new dog had pooped and moved it to another area of the house with her mouth. And i broke down missing my old dog cause i just hadnt formed a bond with this new one while being still in pain. But eventually i did. And she is the sweetest most adorable thing ever. Id do anything for her.

[@Cloudyconfusion]

This reminds me of watching someone you know date the perfect person for them and even tho they understand it’s a good fit they take longer themselves to feel it. It’s so heartbreaking because you can’t rush someone, and they know it’s a good fit objectively, but a spark is something you can’t make someone else feel. It is such a healthy relationship you’re forming and much like a real one with a healthy partner, the best are the slow burns, the one that before you know it you realize is such a solid and secure part of your life and so stable and loving. They say love should be like a fireplace (slow burning, constantly, can keep you alive with its ongoing warmth) and not a firework (fast, beautiful, fleeting, excitedly there one moment but gone the next), and EJ is your fireplace. I’m so happy for you because it’s the kind of love you grow old with and is so beautiful.

[@samieyl7426]

The aesthetic of this video Molly is amazing! From your hair to clothes, jewelry, make up, and all the colors and objects behind you…😍😍😍

[@nikkideruiter5772]

It is so good of you to make a raw video like this. It’s good for other people to see how hard this can be. That it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. I am studying to become a paramedic and I find these videos very interesting because I can learn a lot from these brutally honest videos. You’re so strong, please keep your chin up cause everything will fall in place for you because you deserve it. Your time will come! Please feel the love from all of your family, friends and viewers because you deserve it!

[@CorwinFound]

Grief is weird. It happens in its own way at its own schedule. No two grief processes are alike, not just between different people but even within a single person. Sighted person here but I appreciate hearing your thoughts and feelings on this. You had indicated some of your struggles and I really wanted an update on where things were at. Glad you have gotten through some of the hardest times.

[@sarahbrant5415]

It’s nice to know that it’s normal to take time to bond to a new pet I lost my emotional support cat of 15 years July of 2022 and got my new kitten later that month it took me about a month to fully bond with him

[@hannahgilbert437]

The hair color and room decor is immaculate!!! Gorgeous girl

[@alyssacrannis4981]

This was so relatable. Thank you. I'm an agility handler and it's my passion dog sport. I lost my dog to cancer and didn't know how to live without a dog, so I rushed into a puppy, and we are bonding slowly, but it's going to take a lot of time.

[@puppabella6]

The last few minutes of the video were so spot on. Back in June my family had to put our dog DJ down and we had him for 15 years. Last month, my dad adopted an adorable little girl and yes, she’s very cute but she’s not my DJ. I love her so much because I will never deny a doggy love but it is definitely a weird transition building a connection with her, it almost feels wrong. I know I have enough love in my heart to still love/miss DJ but to also give love to this new angel in my life.

[@soybeanokra]

Molly! tomorrow I begin my first step in becoming a guide dog trainer! You inspired my interest in disability advocacy, and helped me find a way to combine my passion for helping people and my passion for animals, and I’m so thankful to you for that. I’m going to try to document my journey of becoming a guide dog trainer, hopefully vlogging to an extent (though I need my hands free a lot and consent of owners!) and I’ll share it with you!

[@soybeanokra]

I should add, inspired in that you are a disability advocate, I watched your videos, learned a ton, and became interested in it myself (and recently joined the disability community myself), not “omg you’re disabled, you’re SOOOOO INSPIRINGGGGGG”

[@kirstensteininger5011]

I feel like your story is so relatable to different situations too. I adopted a dog and it's gone nothing like I planned. I've gotten so discouraged over and over again, especially because I didn't (and sort of still don't) feel like my dog actually loves me. Thanks for sharing and encouraging everyone with your story!!

[@natsjournal3828]

Yes this is the same situation for me too! I adopted a Labrador 3 months ago, she's just turned 1 year and everyday has been such a struggle and I can't say that I have fallen in love with her just yet. There were multiple days where I would cry, it can be very frustrating and think that I am doing something wrong but this video was so helpful especially to see that it does take time and it took Molly 6 months to actually fall in love with her dog!

[@MissySimpleM]

I haven't finished the video yet, but I can't help but comment on you hair. It's GORGEOUS. It suits you so well. I love it.

[@davydoesthings]

I miss seeing Ben so much! But I'm glad Elton has helped you move through your grief. You've been through A LOT in such a short time, and your honesty is refreshing. Having a service dog can feel really complicated at times but they are so special to us.

[@irhonda31]

I’m kind of surprised that you didn’t feel special to Elton John because even in the training videos from Mira, we could see how focused he was on you. That said, I can understand all that you explained. So happy that you’re feeling bonded with him, since he is a very important part of your life.

[@personincognito3989]

Ya, he really loves her and is attentive to her.

[@eden-caledoniajohn3168]

I think though, that as Molly can’t see Elton, she missed out on his full on adoration of her from day one! We could see it and I remember posting a few months ago, that I knew she would fall head over heels for Elton if she could see what we can see - his total adoration for Molly and only Molly!

[@personincognito3989]

@eden-caledoniajohn3168 yes! I saw that also! So sweet

[@EvelineUK]

I was just going to say that, if only Molly could see the way Elton looks at her, and has done from day one. He was the only dog she tried out who had that focus on her, and looked up at her so lovingly. He's in it for the long haul, bless his hairy paws.

[@forevertheweird0ne]

I think something so beautiful about grief is that it doesn’t matter how you got to the grieving stage, we can all relate to one another. When you shared the paranoia and the anger of not getting what you wanted I related so much. I lost my daughter while pregnant and it can be hard for others to understand my experience. Hearing that you share this feeling is really amazing and helpful ❤

[@Tina.bina.]

I am 2 seconds into the video and need to say I'm OBSESSED with the amount of pink going on. Pink shirt, nails, bedding, walls and of course the hair. Love love love!

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

There's never enough pink! hehehe Too much pink? doesn't exist in my world!!

[@tashachantal5711]

Molly, idk how many comments you read because I know people suck but I just wanted to say thank you, genuinely, for being so real and honest and open about your struggles with mental health and trauma and healing. I’m not physically disabled but I am healing from trauma and I felt so validated when you expressed that sometimes the things we feel while healing aren’t logical but are still an important part of healing. Thanks again for being you! Long time fan, wishing you happiness and fulfillment in 2023, cheers!

[@AlwaysTubin9213]

I definitely prefer for people to acknowledge when I’m going through something sucky, rather than trying to just make it better.

[@baylamakarov8701]

Also the continuous training and careful handling required for the first year or so when a service or guide dog comes home is so underrated. Especially managing proximity to other dogs and times the dog startles. It’s not easy but you got this!

[@simplylinn1533]

I’ve seen multiple comments like it but: CAN WE PLEEEASE talk about the aesthetics of literally everything in frame? The dusty pink walls, and the dusty pink stuffed rabbit, and the pillow, AND her shirt, AND her lipgloss AND her blush AND her hair. Her hair… IM OBSESSED 😍

[@laurenlamberson4356]

I’m so happy that you posted this. My autistic daughter is 7 and she just got a service dog in April. Their bond isn’t there yet. He has bonded with me faster because I’m the facilitator.

[@tessapal]

I’m in the process of retiring my first service dog and training my second, and it’s been really hard to bond with her. I know it’s a pretty normal second dog experience, but it’s great to hear your perspective on this to reinforce that it’s okay not to be in love with your new dog immediately-you’ve just lost or are in the process of losing your best friend and lifeline, and it’s HARD. I’m so grateful that I have the capacity to be training my new dog, but it’s been a rough process.

[@munk828]

My current dog is 4 years old and I still grab my retired dogs gear hoping he can work like he use to. It’s hard to let another dog keep you safe. It took my 2 years to bond to my current dog l. I still have days where I miss my old man.

[@accidentalgenius6833]

Sometimes I get sad that beautiful people will never be able to look in the mirror and see their own beauty. I hope you feel happy and beautiful, thank you for sharing your stories and always making us feel like a part of your life 💖

[@chocjamie]

I think we could see the way he was looking at you with such love, right from the start, but that's not something you could see, plus you had so much baggage coming into the relationship. I'm glad that it is coming on for you now ❤️

[@samdoman7008]

Hi Molly. I know this video is over a year old, but thank you so much for making it. I recently had to return my first guide dog back to the school after 6 months of dealing with a lot of health and work related issues. I feel so validated whenever you say it took a long time to bond with your dog and it was easier for everyone else to bond with him because that's exactly how I felt with mine. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us, but I'm planning to get another dog after I graduate college and am in a more stable position. Thank you so much.

[@oklibrarian]

Not a service animal user, but we are will probably be getting a new cat in a few months after losing our last one during Covid. Because we'd had at least one cat in our life for over 20 years before we lost Jade, we intentionally took some time off to heal, but this is a timely reminder that bonding may still take a while. Thanks for your candor!

[@mirrorocean]

15:00 as the 'therapist friend' who often literally prefaces my advice with some variation of 'god, that must suck so much, I'm so sorry,' and worries that I'm somehow being trite, this is incredibly validating. I know it's not the point of the video but it was nice to hear!

[@kinseyfreed3692]

I will be retiring my first guide dog sometime within the next year or so, and I am going through all of the emotions and thoughts. This was helpful, Molly, and you’re not alone in these feelings. I worry about how it will be for my current guide, if I’m making the right decisions or not, and bonding with a new dog. It is all very exhausting to feel so conflicted.

[@TheYoungBaker]

It is similar with baby humans as well. I bonded with my son very fast.. But I struggled bonding with my daughter at first. She was the most wonderful baby ever, but she was a stranger. I spent every waking moment with her, and loved, and cared for her so much. But it was still difficult.

[@kathrynmilesfenton2755]

WOW! Thank you for this. I can imagine how difficult it is for you to not only go through this but then to share it with your millions of devoted fans. Living your life in a goldfish bowl as it were. You are a brave and selfless young woman and I so appreciate you sharing your life with your followers. Elton John is an amazing dog, an amazing guide dog and he completely gets you. He understands what you have gone through and he is patient because he knows it will pay off in the end. I can see it in his demeanor and how he interacts with you. You will get there and he will be waiting with open paws! Embrace the journey! Blessings in abundance to all Burkes and to Elton John.

[@maddi3909]

I love all the pink in this video and I love seeing the jelly cat bunny in the corner. I love jelly cat and I’m so glad you love them too.

[@johnkeith9237]

Your story reminded me of getting my only dog. Not a service dog of any kind. He was 100lbs and believed that he ruled the universe and i was his sidekick. It took me a long time to love him. We were together 15 and a half years. Love will come.

[@Judymontel]

I'm sighted and obviously not a guide-dog user but I feel like all of this video has a lot of wisdom for important relationships in general. And not just with dogs. Thank you, Molly - glad you can keep talking because you have important things to say.

[@FoxDreams]

If it's any consolation I still cry when you talk about Ben.... If I ever am blind, I will not be a guide dog user. I couldn't handle the losses. Your strength in dealing with that situation is so great.💜

[@momsspaghetti1440]

Your hair looks amazing!! It never even occurred to me until you said how Ben loved YOU and Elton John loves everyone, that my first service dog was like Elton John and just loved everyone and everything!! I got him not long after my pet dog of 14yrs died. The bonding process took time. I've been waiting for my next service dog for a while now and anxiously awaiting the call for a match!! Thank you for this content, Molly!!

[@michellel5402]

I find it so interesting when you talk about the bond between your guide dogs. I thought of your videos when watching a lecture on a researcher that did work in the Arctic, and she talked about the bond between her sled dogs, and how the bond with a working animal is just so unique. It was fascinating because she had said she wasn't a dog person before, and after only a short period of time (2 years I think?), she had an incredible bond with them, had to put trust in them, and learned so much from them. Made me think of your channel right away!

[@myopinionmatters]

While I don’t have have experience with a guide dog/service dog. I do have experience with a dog, being my best friend, losing that dog, and then having a decision. For me because I didn’t have an urgent need, I took a year and a half off of having dogs. I still had my cat, but I allowed myself the room to grieve for my loss. A year and a half later, we felt the urge, and I can honestly say, I really believe that my previous dog lead me to our current dog. It’s really weird that sometimes life gives you exactly what you need. My heart has gone out to you for this crazy journey that you’ve had to experience. I can’t imagine how hard it must’ve been trying to bond when you’re also trying to heal. I am so grateful for you that Ben is still alive and with a family and thriving, while he may not be doing the work that he loved doing, he has a life, as do you. I hope that you forgive yourself for feeling guilty because you’re always allowed to have those feelings. I appreciate that you share these with everyone.

[@sdfghjasdfghjk8175]

I so appreciate the authenticity of your shares, and how relatable the core of it is, even for people not in your unique circumstances. Thank you for taking the time you need and not trying to force what isn't there, from a dog trainer and animal lover. I am excited for you to continue finding your rhythm with Elton John, however that manifests at the necessary pace.

[@roxysmom1986]

Between your hair and what you’re wearing, you are matching your room extremely well

[@atheaiven]

I think I know what you mean, my horse, wars my hart horse, I got her when I was 12, and i had to put her to sleep wen I was 21, because she was beginning to be dangerous, she spooked at everything. I haven’t had the same bond to another horse since. It is hard, but I know there will come a time where I meet my new heart horse 😊 I wish you all the strength to get through your journey.

[@haleyfoard9685]

I recently had to unexpectedly wash my service dog in training and it was truly one of the hardest things Ive ever done. I unexpectedly got my new dog and its been so hard to bond. thank you for making this. It makes me feel so much less alonr

[@Cloudyconfusion]

The comment about people falling in love with Elton John and being angry because “but what about Ben?” This is SO real and touched me deeply. I feel things so strongly and completely relate to this in other aspects and things I’ve been through. Thank you for sharing that in the way that you did. Whenever I speak in this way it’s totally belittled and dismissed and to see you own your truth so confidently and then heal with this honestly is very inspiring. Thank you so much!

[@lezbhonest6592]

I love Mollys honesty, she does a good job of balancing it with her mental health needs and I hope she continues to. As an autistic person one of the things in life that stresses me out the most is when plans change. It’s like I can’t wrap my head around this new reality as fast as it comes. Molly had a big life change very quickly, a service dog is one of the biggest life changes on top of a hectic year. It’s natural for that to take time to heal from. Also, definitely taking notes from Mollys dad about how to be supportive. I need a Mama and Daddy Bee how to be supportive even when you can’t directly relate to a situation 101 course for sure.

[@CJMGalaxy]

Thank you for sharing this. Not a service animal user, but I just lost my cat, my dearest friend and companion who helped me through such dark times. I'm not the kind of person who can live without a companion animal, but I have no clue how to cope with getting a new cat. I was with my boy for seven years, we knew each other so well and he really was so special - he was my heart outside of my body. I don't know how to go about connecting with another cat and welcoming him into the space where my soul cat used to be. It's good to hear your perspective on this.