The Introvert's Survival Guide to the Holidays

[@FrankJames]

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[@lori1647]

Frank James does it count for a Starbuck’s if I send this video to Aunt Hilda in leu of small talk?

[@sandybeach8596]

My Buddhist solution to the holidays is NOT seeing people I don't like. Om 😁🙏.... problem solved.

[@pink5345]

Auteur! Auteur! 👏👏👏

[@IYKYKtwins]

Frank James - Lord have mercy...THIS is comedy gold! So flippin funny, man! Uncomfortable accuracy = A+++

[@spring202]

Hello! Fellow INFJ here. I just got roped into helping my sister do some Christmas shopping this weekend, and I'm dreading it. This video made me laugh, and I will definitely be using some of these tips to get through the next couple of weeks!!

[@AlexHolland123]

My trick is to drink a lot of water when I feel awkward. It gives something to do with your hands, you cant talk anyways when drinking water, and you have an excuse to go to the bathroom more

[@Quawnks]

This is a great idea! Especially if you employ the excuse at 1:10 😄

[@ms.bubs4fun506]

It looks weird drinking excessive water and going to the bathroom frequently. People will think you're snorting coke in the bathroom. lol

[@sergipmgp]

I do this every time! It also helps you get more time to answer questions you were not expecting 😂

[@katitax508]

Ms.Bubs4fun I’m always drinking water, so my family is used to it

[@robinmoore4994]

I work that one often ;o)

[@strawberrii-moon]

Online shopping is every introvert's paradise.

[@evasccl7846]

Paradise is the word 🤣

[@michaelaj5977]

That and self checkouts

[@strawberrii-moon]

@@michaelaj5977 Oh my gosh yes

[@keyanna2633]

@@michaelaj5977 The worst part is when they're down. I panic when I have to go to a regular register. 😱😰😨😟

[@ccsworldaustralia4332]

Totally.

[@sophiaredwood5825]

“I was checking to make sure the tree had enough water.” “...our tree is fake?” “I was CHECKING to make sure the TREE HAD ENOUGH WATER-“

[@kuddlykirara]

Say u were admiring the exotic ornaments in the back

[@Darswar4]

Recovering: this should only take several weeks 😂🤣😂

[@Lalala-of5dp]

Everytime 😭🤣totally exhausted

[@lalights6]

I was surprised recovery could be complete by Valentine's day! I thought it would take much longer.

[@tokensharma3738]

Or some months. 🤣🤣

[@andreagro9015]

Sadly enough

[@praise_lord_jesus_christ]

Valentines' is a week away.

[@LoneWhiteMage]

“Yes, I’m still single.” “I don’t know when I’ll have kids. Probably never.” I relate so much to that.

[@etaash9878]

Jordan Palmer same. It was a joke first- now i’m im not to sure.

[@Kapthos]

I related so much with the...yeah, it's the 10th year in a row that I'm single 😣

[@emergency.jergens]

James please narrate me through the holiday parties

[@shayla_lesk1542]

Ahahahhaa, there are 666 likes on this comment and I really don’t want to change it.

[@saidaabdille8603]

@@shayla_lesk1542 but that be the devil's number ChAnGe iT!

[@thebrightestrainbowever3841]

911 likes now lol

[@shayla_lesk1542]

@@thebrightestrainbowever3841 lol. I have a weird experience with 911. I always seem to look at the clock when it’s 9:11 and I seem to always see things with 911 in them. It’s really weird. Oh well. 😙

[@LonelyCinderella123]

@@shayla_lesk1542 I'm always looking at the clock at 01:23. It once happened like 5 days in a row.

[@2MidnightBlue]

I always volunteer to do the dishes to avoid social interaction. It’s perfect. You’re helping AND you get to avoid those troublesome awkward group dynamics.

[@domedweller4202]

Me too! It's the only time I actually enjoy doing the dishes.

[@2MidnightBlue]

Mustard Seed Right? At any other time, it’s a tedious chore, but at large social gatherings, it’s my salvation.

[@infinity3l181]

It will be the opposite in my case because there's never only one people doing the dishes. The kitchen is just another gathering place with lots of people

[@tweety25m]

Same!

[@amberr3662]

It's all good until some extrovert come over and is like "Do you need some help?" and you say no but they help you anyway, and try to socialise with you

[@paulgreen2401]

"Find an inconspicuous place in the room, such as behind the tree." Hilarious. I'll need to try it.

[@m-_._-]

🎄😂

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

I usually end up in a quiet corner, petting the cat. No cat? Big problem! 😂

[@jensden284eva]

I actually used to lay under the tree and look up at the lights and shimmering ornaments Does that count? Lol

[@4Distractiononly]

When I was a kid I used to bring my book with me everywhere and my mother's family would look at me fondly and say how smart I was. Now, as an adult that is not appropriate. Such a bummer.

[@KanaNyctous]

That'd actually work so well at my place as the tree is huge, infront of a window & right between a half wall & shelves- well, until someone has to get to the window, a light that won't turn on properly or the presents underneath the tree 😂

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

Who else doesn't like using other people's toilets? I only trust my toilet.

[@aimee828]

Its the same with me.... Also what's to say you didn't lock the foreign door properly and someone walks in on you

[@OfficialAtlass]

I hate ittt. Even if I have to go badly, I can't bring myself to use the toilet even if I have to go really badly

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

@@aimee828 I be thinking that exact same thing.

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

@@OfficialAtlass Just don't embarrass yourself by wetting your pants because you didn't want to go to the bathroom. Lol

[@grimbluesins7592]

Public bathrooms are always super awkward lmao

[@lhargerful]

The worst is walking into a holiday party and having to greet everyone with a hug. So many people... so many hugs... so tired...

[@kiradelarochefoucauld7499]

WHY do you do things you do not want to do? Are you a slave?

[@sophiaredwood5825]

Lauren Lovely Especially when the majority of the people initiating conversation with you expect you to remember them, and you likely don’t, but you have to act like you know everything about them just because they seem to know everything about you (unless they’re just pretending like you, in which the situation could get better or twice as awkward)...

[@MeOnionz]

i try so hard to purposely hold things when people come to the door to avoid this xD

[@4Distractiononly]

I only hug my close friends and family. So nope. Sometimes people lean in and I pat their arm like I'm rushing through. Hey I'll catch in a sec.

[@artiscrutial]

Lauren Lovely girl same

[@Nathallyacanedo]

Well, my family members hate each other and we don't celebrate anything together. We also don't buy presents for Christmas because it's expensive at my country. I always pass my Christmas watching random youtube videos, It's like heaven.

[@michellecottrell3553]

Lucky

[@kseniyaella4142]

Wow, I envy.

[@julg3498]

lmao same

[@haleyjames3066]

Sounds like paradise

[@4Distractiononly]

Eh sounds sort of sad tbh. I don't like huge parties but I do like being with my family at Christmas.

[@staceerae597]

I was thinking about sitting a laptop at my place at the table where I will Skype from my room. That way if someone tries to make me interact with them I can just sit really still and everyone will think it's lag.

[@openrealm]

Pre-record a video loop with "lag," and go have a bite.

[@staceerae597]

@@openrealm Good idea, this way I won't pass out from holding my breath for so long.

[@fbiopenup5345]

You genius! 😂😂

[@IceSk8Princessa12]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kateg5763]

Or you can turn off the wifi on your computer so you really freeze😊

[@heyitscatica]

Pro-tip from my ISTJ mom: “Get an extroverted child and have them do all the interactions for you. It’s like a guide dog for the socially-impaired” 🙃 Also, Frank in a suit... 😍 *swoons*

[@cathryneallen9257]

Maybe Timmy could do it! 😂

[@sparklewithin4482]

This is gold, between breastfeeding and my first son the social butterfly, I have so many excuses to leave mid way in Boring conversation and appear busy

[@AK-jt7kh]

It’s me, Duh you must have one fat baby

[@heatherjones6647]

This totally works. I had to take a shift at a fundraising table at my college. Three of my particularly bubbly students came by while I was setting up and I asked if they could help out for a bit. They stayed for my whole shift (God bless them always!!) metaphorically tackling people and sitting on them and talking at them re the cause (wildlife conservation). They were relentless, and my shift was a great success to the surprise of everybody. And all I did was stand there and guard the money. YAYYY!

[@heyitscatica]

Desert INTJ - While true, if you train them correctly, they should be able to recognize when to leave you alone and when to assume “interaction assistance” mode. It helps if you give them treats, too. I like mine in the form of coffee, chocolate, or money, but obviously every extravert support system is different.

[@spriggansiedeutsch6817]

Oh, that pesky psychotic episode strikes again.

[@lex6819]

I always say I have to leave to feed my cats. It's usually kind of true.

[@sc7796]

Vicki Hale I-

[@aliya1923]

"helping dinner ready so that you'll appear busy" Me at every family-gathering even though cooking noodle and egg is the only thing i know how to :)

[@fluffyclouds555]

Re Chaena same here

[@bostonterrier2976]

lol same! And I try to help clean up but I never make dinner for more than one person so I kind of don't know how to even clean up? They open the dishwasher and I'm like, "what even is that? Oh god where does everything go?"

[@lisaellis9749]

Exactly! I make myself super helpful, help with guest coats, pour up drinks, help in kitchen, keep rugrats entertained , Before you know it , the night is over! Thankgoodness!

[@AnkhaLavey]

I went complete savage this year and just told everyone that I am not coming, because I am done with all the 5+h long sittings and useless talkings at the table and wont do it anymore, just to please them extraverts who need that. I am okay with giving them gifts, saying "Merry Cristmas/Happy New Year" and leave. I know, thats quite harsh 😀, but hey, we dont have to if we feel drained after, life is too short to pretend you like attenting something just to please others and I hate lying, so told them the truth. They did not care that much anyway. Now I am going to cozy up home with a blanket, have some snacks and play video games all Christmas and it makes me happy :3

[@jasminemariedarling]

Lol nice! I'm up against an issue, because I have opted out the last 4 years, so now am feeling pretty guilty. I've never seen my cousin's kids, my grandma is super old, etc. REALLY want to stay home again, but thinking one holiday every 5 years is a must or the guilt will kill me...

[@AnkhaLavey]

@@jasminemariedarling I do not feel any guilt, because people literally tried to push me do something I dont like, just because "you have to" as its some kind of grocery list. Its my husbands (also INFJ) family who does this, mine are all introverts and are okay not doing any gatherings 😁 wich is nice. I love them all and such, but we both just hate the gatherings.Also I live in a small country and we all live in the same town and see each other often already so its all okay. But if You live further away then probably once in couple years is a good thing to push yourself a little and try to survive that one-two days. I would attent every now and then too then.

[@jasminemariedarling]

@@AnkhaLavey Yes, i definitely will go this year (sigh lol) Oh wow, married to an infj? Amazing! I can only imagine! (My hubby is ESTJ. It's interesting lol) Happy holidays! Enjoy your video games, sounds awesome! ✌❤

[@LadyGodiva7460]

yes! My daughter and I caught up on mortal Kombat today! Merry Christmas

[@southernkatrina8161]

It's the party hats, the dumb jokes, the noisy men monopolising the conversation, the voices getting louder and louder as the people get drunker and drunker...I hated it. And then all the useless token gifts that hit the bin and all that wrapping paper! I used to go explore the house or just slink off for a walk. Too much...

[@stelianajasmine8960]

I'm the only one who thinks he is madly attractive?

[@icexangel]

He's very handsome.

[@user-iu5fi2qk6b]

You are absolutely not the only one

[@Scotchandboots]

He takes his own advice. He stays cool and attractive.

[@purplecrayons96]

Nope.

[@somebody9369]

He's yummy :)

[@Mysticfoxxxy]

INFP method: get drunk and stumble over several shit, they will be glad when you leave or make you leave. Then cry at home that nobody loves you.

[@nyxlecatte]

My little sis is INFP and this worries me... D: DON'T WORRY I'LL PROTECC U!! *mom friend powers activate*

[@MercedLeiker]

Yes true. I am an INFP.

[@crystaljean522]

Ok. I'm very glad to know this isn't just me... 😅😅

[@ange1el222]

this has happened to me several times

[@ML-gh2ig]

Think i will dress in green and hide INSIDE the tree with a glass of mulled wine.

[@blacksheep9772]

Oh! Camoflague! AND Alcohol. Another great idea.

[@ML-gh2ig]

@@blacksheep9772 We have a big tree here Ill make room for you!^^ Spending solitude together in silence is a great way of socializing. Sorry for sounding weird, Im an infp... merry christmas!

[@immaputcocaineinyoass9122]

i honestly read “An introverts suicidal guide for the holidays”

[@jesfields1269]

The introvert hangover is SO LEGIT - I went speed dating 2 weeks ago {don’t know what came over me} and I’m still recovering Should’ve taken a hint from the introverts guide to surviving the holidays.... and stayed home with a glass of wine and my chronic flatulence. Happy holidays FJ ♥️

[@zp6097]

Introvert Hangover!? That is the BEST description of needed downtime I’ve ever heard! Stealing it

[@shenequakimbro5146]

Lol. I tried speed dating online and have not went back yet.

[@바보-j3q]

Just keep cramming in the food so you can only nod politely. Never keep a drink with you so when it gets too intense you can fake a coughing fit that will allow you to flee to the kitchen for safety and water. Then, leave the glass behind. Repeat as necessary.

[@pikabuns_]

R N u are the real hero

[@MeOnionz]

@@pikabuns_ i am consciously aware of timing an empty glass at the perfect time that will give me a get out of jail free card when i need it hahaha it's funny actually realising the things you are doing xD

[@pikabuns_]

Ania life Hahahaha that’s awesome, I’m writing all these things down

[@felipevasconcelos6736]

So that’s why I’m never hungry at parties? I’ve been stuffing food into my mouth all along!

[@alexachipman]

I've done this!

[@YunaMoon_93]

I actually often sat down behind the christmas tree as a child "to play in peace" ... as a teenager "to admire the beauty" ... as an adult it is a bit difficult, I always sit with my grandmother's cats and dogs on the floor "to make sure they don't break anything" ... I have to honestly say, actually I love the Christmas season, warm drinks, soft socks, lights everywhere ... but all these people everywhere make it real a lot of broken ... and that shopping and family questions... I have to say that the suit suits you really well, my eyes thank you for this moment I wish you a nice and relaxing Christmas time

[@godsgirl9497]

Instead of making boundaries like a healthy adult 😂😂😂

[@sunnysal3889]

Sarah Henderson Yes but people are so devoid of social skills these days that they question the validity of my boundaries. Then the INFJ dark side can get ugly.

[@nyxlecatte]

This year will be especially scary for me as an INFJ bc I'll celebrate with my stepmom's family for the first time and I don't know them very well. But I've already warned them that I'll probably need to take some breaks and go outside for a small walk and they seemed understanding so far. Now I just have to actually go outside when I should and not stand there like a statue and endure everything lol. I hope you other introverts also manage to communicate your needs early enough and have understanding or at least accepting people around! U can do it! x)

[@nyxlecatte]

@The Inner Life Thank you! Yeah I'm lucky with the few people that actually care about me. And it still was a big struggle to even come this far and I still need to practice a lot. Setting boundaries is a big problem for most of us, I assume. But really, thanks a lot and I hope you'll have a good time as well!

[@4Distractiononly]

The bathroom and usually there is like one uncle watching a sports game. Link up with that guy and pretend to be into it so you don't have to get up from the couch.

[@zp6097]

I haven’t been to any family thing for 2 years. Having people say they understand, but when you are gone from the festivities for 85% of the time, they are like what’s wrong? I say”nothing, I told you I need to get away” then they are like, when are you going to be done with your alone time? I’m like, Fuck, I guess right now! What the hell do you need from me? This is just an example folks

[@nyxlecatte]

@@zp6097 well I hope the festivities still went okay-ish for you :/ Guess I'm really lucky with my friends and little family I have left. They just accept my need for alone-time and leave me be if I ask them to :o

[@paragoncumulus6636]

I have the perfect solution this year. Got my daughter a kitten that needs taming. All attention will be directed at it's cuteness and I can escape whenever I need to because it needs fed, cleaned, or cuddled.

[@wolfishpotato6978]

How to care for introverts during the holidays: 1. Gift them books 2. Skip small talk and discuss magical warfare 3. They will probably run away at some point 4. Lure them back with snacks 5. Keep the snacks coming 6. When the food is gone, introverts will vanish

[@naaitxo]

Or as i do, don't go there until the dinner starts and during the meal, avoid visual contact and pray for them not to notice you and ask you stuff. This is specially hard when you have a big, VERY loud, Hispanic family.

[@cv8642]

Nai it helps to be an INFP. People tend not to notice you anyway.

[@naaitxo]

@@cv8642 I'm an INFP and well, they notice you 'cause when you are also the "family black sheep" they gotta throw some comments at you hahaha

[@Francesca-nj3jj]

@@naaitxo yeah, that's what happened to me this Christmas

[@naaitxo]

@@Francesca-nj3jj Luckily it's almost over haha

[@shannonmarie5236]

I've used that armadillo fact before. -INTJ

[@Shinebakaaho]

5k views in 3 hours... James, I believe you are saving lives here!

[@CantWaaait]

"You're leaving so soon?!?!" Oh, I'm just getting more wine for everyone, be right back! Oh, I just forgot one of the presents at home, I'll be....right back! I have another party to go to...double booked again! This week is nuts, right? Well, my mom's expecting me. She says I just HAVE to try her jello almond marshmallow salad this year. I promised her...you know how that goes! I have to cover my plants. Didn't you see tonight's forecast?! I made an eye doctor appointment for really early in the morning. Gotta use up those benefits for 2019, am I right?!? Who has two thumbs and put off their oil change again?! This guy! I gotta get in early tomorrow before it gets crazy. My cat's afraid of carolers knocking on the door. Plus tonight's her bath night, sooooo. Yeah.

[@MeOnionz]

xD xD My cat's afraid of carolers knocking on the door. HAHAHAHHA never been so proud to be an introvert hahahaha what a troll

[@5gonza541]

Thank you for your service XD

[@Aillin846]

thanks, i saved this 😇😂👌

[@zatzu]

Unexpectedly useful

[@kristinegangman7756]

Cooking and cleaning dishes are the best... when eating you have an excuse to not talk. You can go home after cleaning the dishes because with all those, you spent enough time to be recognize you are there and not just for attendance. When you go home, people would think you got tired with all the work.

[@cynder2C]

“Chronic Flatulence” Me: A human bio weapon My family: “This is nothing new, dear, the party starts at 11am. Bring some bread.”

[@soniagalaviz5667]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fiorellalescano]

"I need to take my medicine or I'll have a psychotic episode" 110% effective :D

[@fiorellalescano]

@@LilacSnowBun Hahaha. Clever!

[@missryecakes]

But like, can we get more of these introvert survival guides plz?!

[@agustd3191]

i thought i was the only one who did the help in the kitchen thing lmao that one never fails plus u get to eat whatever u want and taste everything beforehand lol

[@kellyeradford9585]

Yes, I also love hiding out in the kitchen. Plus helping out gives me something to do, and I can’t talk and work at the same time. Well, I just don’t feel like talking a lot of the time, unless it’s an intense one on one.

[@katieblue5458]

Behind the tree!!! I'm going to try that this year!😂

[@kellyeradford9585]

Just looking to make sure the electrical connections are safe. Anyone smell smoke?? Fire 🔥

[@Terrormitzsu]

😄 Girl, same. Think I'll wear camo for added concealment.

[@KCGalanski]

I knew there was a reason for getting a big tree this year!

[@manifest2963]

This guide was long overdue.

[@felipevasconcelos6736]

About 14 billion years overdue.

[@jsphmcc1]

The armadillos are approaching rapidly Run

[@lorddraconian2228]

Du nana nana

[@grimbluesins7592]

THINE ARMADILLOS SHALT COME i live in the more northern part of the midwest (america). the armadillos are coming to take over and honestly, that would be perfectly fine for me 🤣🤣🤣

[@druxypierce5534]

I always go to the alcohol then look for the house cat/dog and cling to them

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

Druxy Pierce - Yes! I do that, too! If they don’t have pets, I feel trapped in hell.

[@blacksheep9772]

This is my usual plan, & works well. Its always a good idea to supply your Christmas BFF some of the Christmas ham, the ham will sooth them in preparation for awkward silences/ useless comments about armadillos and hiding behind the tree . 🌲🌲🌲

[@andreathionville]

Haha, this is so funny and spot-on!! You're an amazing actor, Frank!!! Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄 please keep it up!!!

[@Reikisimo]

I loved the blank stare on your face while asking uninteresting questions, that's how I do it lol. And, I have to walk my dog.

[@songbirdforjesus2381]

No kidding this is so true. I had a friend who left her own son's wedding reception early and told people she had to leave to walk her dog. Of course people looked at her a little weird when she told them. Like, couldn't you get a dog sitter for this important day? But actually, she wasn't missed. The event was held at her sons Rich in-laws backyard. And, of course the rich in-laws did mostly everything and ran the show. She put in 2 hours and then was gone! Her husband stayed around and drove home with us while we had a blast.

[@daniellesebire2508]

Thank you for making life a little better

[@mizukidor]

I like how this gets recommended to me right when it is needed again

[@Uniquely-Unoriginal]

I'm actually hosting the family Christmas dinner this year, (Oh, I'm an INFJ) so outside of the procrastination of actually finishing the overwhelming amount of cleaning my small place needed/needs, the anxiety of "do I have enough food" and "will everyone like what I'm serving" and "what should I cook and when because I don't have enough pots, time and oven space" and "where the hell am I going to put my table to serve all the stuff where people can actually get to and from it" and "how the hell am I going to get the futon out of my daughter's room all by myself so that I have enough seating in my small living room" and "how am I going to block my dogs in the kitchen to keep my anti-social dog away from everyone and the other one away from the one nephew that isn't used to dogs" (and, and, and), at least I'll be able to use the "I'm cooking" or "checking on supper" or whatever to avoid the family interaction :) My poor 14-year old daughter will have to do most of the interactions (hee hee). (Yes, I am wordy. Sorry.) Oh yeah, and I can't use the "behind the tree" thing because I don't actually have one - I'm making a "tree" out of the 12 feet of lights that I bought and some cool foil tissue/wrapping paper and putting it on the wall, so the kitchen and the bathroom are my escape and avoidance rooms.

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

Kim B, that's me - INTJ mom here, who hosts every year. Wish I could say it gets easier, well, maybe it does a *little* .The only way I survive is to make lists, *lots* of lists. Cleaning tasks, decorations, gifts, menu & food shopping. It gives me something to obsess about that’s actually helpful in keeping my preparations on track ....everything, including (very important) list for the actual day, otherwise I invariably forget to serve some appetizers or drinks. I have a great family, but I always worry that my hosting skills might not meet the expectations of my grown children’s partners. Wish I could relax more! 🙄 Maybe you could ask a burly neighbor to move the futon? Bring some cookies, or fruit, as a gift. Although asking a favor can be as painful as a back injury! LOL

[@Uniquely-Unoriginal]

@@altitudeiseverything3163 -- Oh trust me, I have made more lists that I could possibly need and thrown out and rewrote just as many- some needed tweaking :) I've got in grave detail what needs to be cleaned where, and I divided my although small, but has lots of crap in it, living room into 4 parts. I have cleaning lists for each room or section of course, "what to pull out of the freezer when" list, "when to prep this or that" list, "what to do the day before" list and am going to finish the "what to do the day before" and "what to do the day of" lists, oh yes, and the "make sure this goes on the table" list, either today or tomorrow :) I think I missed a list to list above, but no doubt I have that one too lol. As for the Futon, either my daughter or my ex can help me do that - the one neighbour I talk to is a small older lady so don't think I'll ask her ;)

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

Kim B, that's me - LOL, it sounds like you’ll do fine! BTW, that tree idea sounds great! What a space-saver! Wish you could post a photo!

[@Uniquely-Unoriginal]

@@altitudeiseverything3163 -- Aww, thanks :) True enough, and cheaper too haha. I'd wish on it only after seeing how it turns out when I get to it...until then it's a whew! I can't post a pic hahahaha.

[@elisaw8367]

Lol, so good. Lots of covert introverts in my family, so after dinner the dining room would suddenly be empty and you would find my family members all over the place - in the kitchen helping, outside with the dogs, in the toilet... usually the only ones left at the table is my grandma and grandpa (and maybe one or two more faithful souls) 🙃. So I can't even tell how glad I am not having to apply your lovely tips - for all the other ones suffering out there: I feel with you!

[@shelbysmith681]

You forgot sitting in places nobody wants to be (ex: outside during cold weather, laundry room with the lights off, on the roof, etc.) and pretending to have taken a vow of silence!

[@Rosenaification]

The pre-determined excuses made me think of my childhood. When I got sick of hanging out with friends, I used to look at my phone and be like “mom wants me to go home and eat, then we gotta clean 🤔” and just chilled at home LMAO

[@misslauriesmusings2709]

This ISFJ loves cooking for others, it’s the best way I know to Introvert while also showing love for my favorite humans. Planning out answers for difficult questions is also a great one!

[@batjon1963]

LOL. Your funniest video yet. Also, some great tips. 😀

[@easytoslip]

he forgot: STAY OUT OF THE LEFT LANE

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

1. Offer to co-host the party or if you are daring host yourself. This has many perks: 1.a On the invitation include an ending time. 1.b. You can greet everyone one by one as they come in the door. 1c. You can use this occasion for a fragment of small-talk and nobody will notice if it is always the same. (Compliment the hostess - gift or their outfit. Mention the weather.) 1 d. You can introduce them to someone else that is willing to talk. 1 e. You will be too busy looking after this and that to talk. 1 f. One of your introvert friend will do the dishes. 1 g. You can select some activity that eliminates talking, like all cooking or baking together. 1 h. You can shoo everyone to a walk to see the Christmas lights or whatever and end the party right after. 2. Come first, find strategic places for your coat and stuff so you can make a silent exit. Offer to help in the kitchen or whatever. Take this task very seriously. Slink out when everyone is having the maximum fun. No one will notice and you will leave with good memories, rather than remembering the downhill part.

[@lorddraconian2228]

I'm taking notes as we speak

[@enzomthethwa5861]

I don't know why it took me so long to finally watch your videos. But now, I can't stop because they are so on point!

[@user-yk6gj4id2e]

" I have a fear of using other people s toilets " sweet! Would be using that, definitely. Tnx

[@frostyhannah]

Thanks for the guide, now I will be prepared I hope instead of people talking to me, they talk to each other so I can listen to the conversation. I also once I am way too full to eat, I go to my room, or outside in the dark before someone gets the chance to talk to me

[@cathryneallen9257]

I nearly suffered ‘chronic flatulence’ from laughing so hard!

[@blacksheep9772]

You're coming allong nicely then!? 😄

[@rachelcarter2893]

When I run into people-I just offer to get them something, leave and never come back. It’s so crowded around here they won’t notice. Works like a charm lol

[@w13rdguy]

It's like MAD/Cracked, in it's irony. Nice production, too!

[@elaceyc6853]

This really helps me as I’m seeing my extended family this Sunday. I’m already dreading the “single/job/life” questions that’ll be thrown my way. My mom told me to play nice unfortunately. That’ll be easy with my flask full of Jack Daniels.

[@aliciasawyer2688]

I couldn’t find a gift for my son I needed on Amazon so I had to go to the mall. Still recovering 😳 spot on FJ! 👏

[@aubrey3494]

Yep still hiding out in recovery mode 😂 ! The holidays are always hell even though I really do try to enjoy the continual overstimulation and shallowness of it all I just can't. Actually I just discovered you on KZbin yesterday while in this state. Beyond entertainment value, your videos really have provided me with the reassurance that I really am not alone in my ways. I'm just beyond the simplicity of most people's comprehension 🤣

[@ashe1317]

This reminds me strongly of the Krusty Krab Training Video, and that is probably the highest compliment I can pay you. So I guess when it comes to the holidays... I'M READY 😂😂😂

[@michellecottrell3553]

Can I make a Krabby Patty now

[@zp6097]

I love that show. And I’m 44

[@vgcc9723]

"This will only take several weeks." So true!

[@jphillips8545]

No pesky Christmas gatherings for THIS INFJ! Husband just had his gall bladder removed 👏 Must rest, no parties allowed. Yay!!!

[@bettye444]

Jas Phillips one year I had a knee replacement.

[@heatherjones6647]

@@bettye444 A bit extreme, but OK. LOL Merry Christmas

[@altitudeiseverything3163]

I’m so envious! Wonder if I can arrange for my husband to need surgery ASAP? 😈😉😂

[@sunnysal3889]

Scheduling a surgery. A time- honored avoidance technique.

[@blacksheep9772]

Yep. That husband is a keeper!!!! 😁

[@penelopeclark2505]

I can identify with most of these, especially when going to family function, calling my daughter to make sure she’s inside before going to the door. I always do that. I have a long list of reasons why I can’t go - anywhere. And I’ve learned to say no!

[@AvaRosss]

Okay, I haven't hidden behind a tree yet but yesterday at my art class I did hide behind a table with the excuse of checking if my painting is dry already. I was indeed checking but did I need to - nah 😂

[@kayleemagoffin9573]

"10th year that I'm single" oooof. I felt that

[@danihancock7981]

Professional oven-watcher over here 🙋🏼

[@chocoboasylum]

Helping in the kitchen is actually a great way to both please people and avoid conversation

[@fursteveferret3771]

I could do with an extroverted clone of myself to cover me over the holiday season.

[@HotSeat17]

My goodness! You are so handsome, Frank, and get better looking as you get older! Your video cracked me up!!! Blessings!

[@ruthjeffery2539]

I lost my shiz long ago and it never came back.

[@Trewave777]

YES THIS IS THE 10TH YEAR IN A ROW IVE BEEN SINGLE OMG THAT IS LITERALLY ME EVERY YEAR!

[@cjh9696]

NAILED IT!!!!!!!!!! try being an introverted pastor's at Christmas. 🤯

[@cjh9696]

So much for humor.

[@teambeining]

This is why I insist that Christmas is ultra chill. No formalities and tradition is not required. It helps me get through it, although it is still my least favorite time of year.

[@donnawoodford6641]

Living with pre-planned avoidance. I'm staying home to declutter.👍🎄🎀💚☀️Have a Holly Jolly Holiday, Yeah!

[@songbirdforjesus2381]

Donna, I use that excuse for New Year's

[@kotirenata98]

2:25 When I was a kid I actually volunteered to be the guard to the food so they don't burn(and I actually could cook them since age 9), while I sent my mum outside to chat with the family members because I know she wanted to. Yes, I was her favourite child😇

[@basilbaby7678]

The moment that I realized all conversations within my family were rhetorical...the holidays become a lot easier. Still thinking about faking my own death though...

[@catherinebrown9300]

I always busy myself in clean up. Nobody tries to engage in conversation or makes an attempt to stop you when you quickly (I.e. before everyone else gets up from the table) immerse yourself up to your elbows in dish suds and start tackling the cookware and plates used in serving three dozen people. Skip the tree-stake out the sink.

[@miriamw.]

I don't know, usually I listen to John Coltrane's version of My Favorite Things on repeat with the bass turned all the way up to put me in a meditative state while driving, but screaming might work, too. 😂 Merry Christmas 🎄

[@StephanieJeanne]

I'm dyin' over here! That was my life!! The preplanned excuses for leaving, especially!! 😂😂😂👍👍👍And yeah, one drink around family? Not gonna happen😆 Thank you for the laughs!

[@Pharagill]

At get-togethers, make a beeline for any pets or a fellow introvert ally. I also just straight-up told a friend before her party that my social battery runs out fast so please expect and excuse an early departure. It's best for everyone if you're upfront about it!

[@sunnysal3889]

Nine extroverts disliked this video. And are the reason I need Survival Guide at all. 😑

[@AWanderingEye]

When there are already 4,000 thumbs up, why yes, I do add mine. Merry Winter Season to all here who are loving on F James! Have to go take care of the rats now!

[@relei]

Oh boy do I love watching a single episode of Netflix

[@catrocastre8215]

When I was younger, I used to play with my cousins, that made me avoid feeling all pent up, but now that they have babies, I JUST go sleep on the couch under the excuse I'm too tired, too deaf to hear anything, used to drink a lot, but that just made me self-harm so nope.😤 I still love them through, they are my only friends I've kept around. 🙃

[@nickgior3849]

Nice video FJ

[@boxkitty6914]

These legitimately work. Every year during one of my family get togethers, I hide under the food table- been doing it for years. It's like I just disappear into thin air.

[@nourn07]

This is so cute and funny 😁 I actually call myself a survivor, this one I’ll add to my survival guide collection 😆 Also, HELLO HOLIDAYS ❄️

[@StephanieJeanne]

I've already got the pre-holidays blues, and rewatching this made me forget for a few. It dawned on me this style of video is like the old pre-movie shorts they used to play before Disney movies, with the narrator describing some schlep using his new lawnmower or something. This is a classic. 😄

[@sandra9060]

i love these videos. Thanks FJ. Have you done one about 16 personalities at the airport....at Christmas? ...😱 please do.

[@sandra9060]

@jovana o oh yes, the one where the INFP walks through security without being noticed. i forgot about that one

[@Djbadley]

Please don't, enough of the 16 type videos.

[@gintongaparador999]

How did you know?! How did you know that I'm in sooo much stress right now?! Thank you for this survival guide! I shall survive!

[@justwannawatchyoutubegeez2381]

Lol this is exactly what I need to get through the holidays!! Lmao I might actually do the paper of topics and just hide it in the bathroom xD

[@saradwyer2451]

As an extreme INFP, I can relate to all the tips! Thanks for the tips!😆

[@Toranghu]

Lucky me, my family consists of mostly introverts 😍✌️ So we all understand that we need our own time very soon for very long after meeting during the holidays 😂 Everyone is just like: Ahhh I am so exhausted, please don't talk to me🤚

[@juliettepaynter4148]

May I just start by saying that you look especially cool & attractive with the new cut 😍 But also, funniest video of yours I’ve ever seen. Your content just keeps getting better and better! I honestly don’t suspect you’ll ever plateau, it just keeps peeking

[@sephpare9567]

Lets not forget to say the "Yes I am still alive, and no I have just been busy"

[@kristacarvajal9692]

That's The best one yet! Chronic daily migraine is really helpful for everyone letting you go lay down in a dark room. Plus there's no sibling rivalry that continues into you 60s

[@hollyp.8849]

“(funny)” oh good 😌 The shot of you screaming in the car = me driving out of the school parking lot every day this week 🤪

[@sandybeach8596]

Omg Holly...I love you...dies laughing. When I was teaching I did the same thing. I've said it before but it's worth repeating...the best gift I gave myself for the holidays was NOT seeing people I don't like :) Dude, it made my life soooo much happier...giggles.

[@hollyp.8849]

Sandy Beach Amen to that! 😂