The Learning About Dementia Series || Beginners Video 5 of 5 || What Now? What’s Next?

[@joycedwyer3799]

I have been on other sites about dementia and you are the best. Thanks for being there for us.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I love how you have hung silver platters on the walls of that room - so pretty! I had NO IDEA that the stages could vary in the way you have described here. I now see this in my 79-year-old husband depending on how how much (and well) he has slept and if he has recently gotten enough protein. I never understood his time hording his things and spending hours every day going through the, reviewing and fondling them was how he started. I had NO IDEA this was an early dementia behavior- I was so hurt by this because he would rather spend his hours in the pole barn rather than spending time with me. (I remember thinking we could have traveled places, had driving adventures with our dogs, attended music in the park or we could have gone dancing together like we did when we courted and so on.) Every day I am very grateful when I listen to your blog, that I still have my own clear mind and my own purpose for good. My friends call me a "caretaker" - I'm not sure about that but I do try to "pay it forward."

[@mariatrotter6889]

Thank you Vicky . I love your videos and this series .I missed a few will Need to back track . Thank you .

[@danal3178]

Thank you for such a positive perspective.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

You’re welcome!! ❤️ Vicky

[@dovie127]

Love you and appreciate all you do!! Happy New Year!!😘

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thank you Dovie!! I love you too! Thanks for all YOU do in the group! You are an amazing moderator!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@marthacervantes6264]

Hi Vickie , I’m 68 and am now the full time caregiver for my Mom who is 94 and has dementia. I don’t know what stage she is in but has had it for at least 9 or 10 years, she has been with me for about a year now she still doesn’t remember how long she has been here or how she got here isn’t sure where restroom is, I have my own health issues too and I’m starting to feel that I’m the person with the dementia in this relationship……now I find that my older brother has already filed a grant deed to mom’s house. There’s 4 of us and Our Parents wanted for us to all be beneficiaries long story short I’m feeling overwhelmed not sure where to turn. I’m not sure what my question for you is, I guess anything will help😢😢😢

[@DementiaWithGrace]

First, come join the group on Facebook m.facebook.com/groups/dementiawithgrace There is SO MUCH help in the group. Other caregivers going through this exact scenario and you will find “buddies” there who can share your burden just by talking it out. Copy this post and post it there. You will people respond with ideas of their own! People routinely say the group is their lifeline. Now, as far as your mother, I would guess Stage 5, just by this. Watch my videos on Stage 5. See if it matches up with her symptoms. All my love, Vicky

[@susanoutler1724]

Thank you!❤️✨…. You are an angel and I am finding this information so important and helpful.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

So glad! I am not an Angel! But I do feel blessed to have the knowledge and the platform to share it!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@dauneiceherrellbenfield23]

Thank you.

[@pattitibble]

Last night my 62 yo husband said he wants to die of a stroke ..because I make him feel like a child., Rather than live with me... He's just been diagnosed past summer. He thinks he's doing great. Cause he is able to go into his office and functions well. But cognitively he is declining ... It's heart breaking. He is still trying to run his insurance business as if he does not have this diagnosis. So I have to remind him to protect us from his mistakes. I'm just at a loss....

[@toryberch]

Hope your feeling better 😊💕💓💛♥

[@cindyesper1219]

I want to start with thank you, thank you for your videos. Do you have a video for how yo handle it when my mom with dementia accuses my dad 4-6 times every week of making lg purchases without her (such as their house which they have owned for 20+yrs, their 7 yr old car etc?) Then refuses to stay in their home.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Thank you for joining the Facebook group! Glad you got some answers there!

[@MaddyCooke-h2d]

Hi! I’m 17 and I started volunteering at a care home about a month ago and I’ve been watching a few of your videos. I was just wondering if you could advise me how I could get to know a dementia patient personally so I can bring up topics of conversation they enjoy without them getting annoyed that they cannot remember certain things which could lead to anger. Thanks for your help your videos are great

[@DementiaWithGrace]

That’s great! I have a book on Amazon that is for this very thing. It gives you ideas on what to talk about by asking them questions! Since are young and volunteering…and not doing a complete life history which the book covers; go on to Google and ask for a kit of questions to ask a grandparent maybe. Then write the question on the top of a page in a notebook and write the answer. (You can tell them it’s for a school assignment and that will feel good they are helping!) BUT keep it private or give to their family. They deserve privacy!

[@MaddyCooke-h2d]

Thanks!@@DementiaWithGrace

[@leesomerton5707]

I love your videos and the way you embrace caring for people, and supporting the caregivers! I sent you a message on FB messenger; would LOVE to hear back from you! Thank you for all the positivity you share and hope you infuse into this most challenging time in people's lives:)

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Response on FB!

[@amateur_football9751]

It is sadly true, most facebook groups seem to have caregivers that are nearly always angry and want to use drugs to keep the person with dementia in a stupor, instead of dealing with the underling issues.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

It can absolutely be true. In fact, that is why I first started my group, Dementia With Grace, on Facebook. I wanted there to be a place to vent, but also get “back in the game” and do the hard work of caregiving without being stuck in anger, negativity or ambiguous grief. I call it “being in a mud puddle”. It’s ok to have mud puddle moments, but you can’t live in a mud puddle. My group serves you as move back to solid ground. The book is also a guide to behavior management so that meds are not the first line reaction. Come on over or get the book! Links in the show notes under the video!

[@jjschannel6532]

I have a question, maybe you have answered it somewhere but I haven't made it through all of your videos yet. You talked about stage 7, the end. They can't sit, walk, ect. Do they ever, at the end remember something or somebody? I ask because right now (I have no idea what stage hubs is in) but he has horrible, horrible days however sometimes he still has good days when he can have a "normal convo" and remembers things that he didn't know the day before then in the blink of an eye he's gone again. I get it that stage 7 means death and I haven't wanted to dig too deeply into things I'm not ready to hear yet but this is something I would like to prepare for if you know the answer. Do they sometimes remember a loved one on death's eve? Thanks, Vicky. You are a shining beacon in a cold, dark lonely place.

[@DementiaWithGrace]

Yes, I believe the soul remains all the way through the stages. There can still be soul recognition. Try this video. All my love, Vicky. What Remains in Stage 6 7 Dementia || Not ALL is LOST! The What Remains Series kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoSpkouKm8Ron7c

[@toryberch]

It's at Life Recovery Services PLLC Here on KZbin

[@kendrawilliamson1737]

Please please quit that cutie smile and up front hair do! Irritating!

[@DementiaWithGrace]

I honestly am not sure what you mean about the hair (the hair is it’s own conversation) but the smile is 100% genuine. Hope you found something useful, otherwise! Is there any feedback on the content?

[@beverleytaylor9350]

@@DementiaWithGrace Please don't quit that smile! I have found you the warmest, most engaging person who talks about dementia care. I can feel your sincerity, through and through. The fact you take the time to make these videos to help people is a godsend! Your hair is great and your smile is wonderful, don't change a thing, you are doing great work! Keep up the positivity :)

[@chrismeister884]

You don’t have to watch Vicky if you don’t like her smile. Sad you are so Negative

[@MaryKnight-yk5mh]

Find something that pleases you. Duh