You have been speaking to me honey! I’m always the one to help, but now that the tables have turned….oooh wee! I feel like a failure when ppl offer to help and undeserving of their help. Give me more to help change my stubborn mindset!
@GEMNaturals Жыл бұрын
I'm right with you, Sandy! My therapist made a point that blew my mind. (long post but it's worth it lol) She asked me how I felt when I asked people for help. Similar to what you just said; I felt like a burden, an inconvenience, a failure etc. Then she asked me how I felt when I helped other people. I said as long as I don't feel they've taken advantage and are grateful, I felt amazing. Helping and being of value to other people gives me so much joy. She paused and said, "you realize you are denying people that same joy when you refuse to accept their help, right?"... 😳 I pretty much fell out of my chair! Lol! I'm still not at the point where I'm able to ask for certain things (like money or HUGE favors) but when help is offered, I'm getting better at accepting it. Day by day! We got this, Sandy! ♥
@sandyb296 Жыл бұрын
@@GEMNaturals Well that was a gut punch for sure! Never thought about denying others their joy for trying to help me. 🤯 I definitely need to get better at this, but it's sooo hard. Thanks for this great info and support. I know we can do this over time. You truly are a GEM! 💖