The Money Hungry Narcissist (Personal Experiences)

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@KatrinaTait-g8c]

Hello. My name is Katrina I'm from Detroit and I have a sister. That always beg for money. I only get one income. From Social security. Every time I get my money. She always thinks I'm obligated to loan her money. And she works.

[@KatrinaTait-g8c]

How? Do I get her too respect my Boundaries. She always Treats me. She been doing it all her life. Because she thinks Because me having a disability. It's OK for her too Use me. And I'm tired of it. I Am always Praying. For God too move her out of my life and stop her. Plus my mother doesn't say anything about it. When I go too her. But I told them that God doesn't like ugly and don't care about financially abuse. Because that's what I been facing. Should allow God too handle it. Because I reported. It ?

[@KatrinaTait-g8c]

She always Threats me. Because I'm disabled. Thinks I don't know any better. That I'm slow...! She always uses that against me. Because I am fully life time disability

[@ElizzzaB]

Danish, To put the money in a drain shows they lack intelligence. Also he was probably afraid someone would find it in the house and take it......which is something they would do (projection). Also they will pay for their education but they will want something in return. You will make more money with college degree and you will owe a narc A win win for them.

[@direstraights]

They cannot utter any answer Wow!

[@sherrymurphy855]

OH YES... your money is their money. Everyone's money is their money. Very secretive about money. Lies about money. Disordered - dysfunctional - disregulated - delusional - disturbed - wicked - evil. Thanks always for helping us understand and heal.💜

[@sickofcrap8992]

🙏 Amen!

[@selfesteem3447]

He also stole some really great t-shirts I had early on in the relationship. And these things that he would steal from me I would never see again in our 6 years together.

[@sherrymurphy855]

@@selfesteem3447 as long as he doesn't steal your life you're doing better than some of us. Go strong - Stay strong.

[@WooHooLaLa]

You know my husband?!

[@joseenoel8093]

My husband has tons invested, dividends and such! I've no clue to what/where how much/having had to sign a pre-nup I tell him "The moneys all yours as are all the bills!"

[@bonnielee316]

Yeah and another reason why they can’t give you money is because they need to keep you down to keep themselves up.

[@dwayneneal9977]

I like your comment this is so true he always wanted me to look like I had nothing

[@Godbless62254]

@@dwayneneal9977 so true

[@sunnycatc6491]

Wow your Dad is a piece of...work! My ex would receive my large paycheck into a "joint" account, and hand me back $5 a week for gas, to keep working. I was brainwashed...one day got my own secret account and soon escaped! Love your videos, Ty Danish.

[@sushmayen]

They flaunt their money and use it as a weapon against the less fortunate, including you or other family members.

[@HUYI1]

My ex constantly talked about his winnings and how much he had but he didn't often spend on himself he just wanted to make more till he lost it all, repeat till fade, I would starve because of it, get into debt because I had to bail him out for bills, I think tbh he enjoyed seeing me struggle with money back then

[@joseenoel8093]

Sure they're less fortunate, instead of helping you out they're rubbing your nose into the fact that it took money to raise you, once I had kids she told me if we complained we were hungry she'd tell us there's always bread 🍞 and laugh so narc humour I guess!

[@HUYI1]

@@joseenoel8093 wow, that is callousness 😡😡

[@sushmayen]

@@BushraS-zm5zc yes I agree with you

[@01splitpea]

I am exceedingly sorry your father said such an agregious thing to you. Appalling beyond the pale. I agree with, and have lived for myself, all said, Danish. The concealment of money, the endless spending of money earned by me, on himself, the financial obligation he insisted I owed him, because he helped me raise my son. Endless. Endless. You have said of narcissists, "because they just don't care." I'd like to add, "because they despise their victims."

[@rajusharma6437]

Money is everything for them, they worship money.

[@R73949]

It's all about money, because they're a evil

[@gardenfaerie9903]

So sad and horrifically true!!! They use all money as another way for them to abuse! Nothing is beneath them

[@minsanmew]

It’s amazing that you came out of it all to be the fine person you are today. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s helping me so much. You’ve done a great job parenting yourself. You are a wonderful caring person with the ability to help others greatly.

[@jacalynanderson1340]

Wow!! This episode is an example of why you’re my favorite channel. You cover every aspect and you have personal experience.

[@yvonnecamacho9773]

My mom, queen narcissist…loved putting her every last penny in the bank but NEVER taking any out! You are so right! Cries poor and unfortunate while rolling in money.

[@bsbawa10]

exactly like my mother too. I trusted her for 40 years. Boy I was so.....wrong

[@cymali]

Am so so glad someone talked about this .. husband took 750k USD cash without Rukhsati . left me after 14 yrs for the next supply because I couldn’t buy him a car and a house. Left the Nikah hanging only to come back, yet I know what to do now because of your channel .. I’m crying listening to this, thank you Danish.

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Sorry😢

[@natashahall2134]

This describes the one in my life to a Tee. He claims to be so broke, while he has 100s maybe 1000s in their pockets. They will do anything to get some money, even illegal activities. He got arrested once and ask me to hold his wallet. When I opened it up he had multiple 100 dollar bills! And he'd been asking me for money and making me buy and provide everything. It was a nightmare!

[@Scorpio.connect]

My dad use to take my moms income and leave us with $20 a week... he made quite a lot, lived well himself but completely screwed us.

[@n.n9035]

My husband is doing that to our family now, all the money goes towards making himself richer while my kids in me have to beg for clothing and get told were unappreciative when we say we don't have something

[@jennylynfujioka]

This is my ex so disgusting

[@Allaboutblaze]

@@n.n9035i totally understand going through the same

[@tarey05]

These narcs feel joy and satisfaction watching their own family suffer physically and psychologically.! U learned the depths of ur father's sadism that day, Danish. It's soul crushing to learn this about a parent. Our own gov'ts make us pay money to them in perpetuity, as they in turn waste it on useless policies while skimming enough to fill their own pockets. Thank u, Danish for sharing these dark, revealing anecdotes. Again, how u survived is a miracle! 😮 ❤

[@1233-h1g]

That's the part about narcissism and narcissists that people woyld discuss more often-the sadistic undertone of it. Two in my family loved to see others suffer. They HATE me because I figured them out so I NEVER showed them anyrhing other than a happy go lucky the world is my oyster face. Then they looked for the silliest "flaws because they want to see me squirm in some way.. One day I finally just said, you guys want me to suffer so bad why don't you just start kicking and beating me-go ahead-since thats what you really want. Just imagine. I'll be at least in hospital bandaged from head to toe in excruciating pain at least. But then think of all the Billy bad asses youll meet in the slammer where you will be at the bottom of the food chain. Result. They stopped dealing with me at all. Haven't heard from or spoken in years. Good riddance.

[@saj4642]

Quite true, my narc ex husband earns a huge salary, 3 times more than me, but, till I got separated I never had an account nor I lived with what I want. He always made me feel guilty that I'm spending, even for a simplest thing.

[@Jane-rc2rk]

I completely understand… my ex was the same x

[@JamesNGames]

From my personal standpoint, I have encountered a challenging situation involving my mother, who exhibits narcissistic tendencies. I have observed her consistently portraying herself as living in destitution, often pleading for assistance and making others feel guilty, while simultaneously hoarding her own finances. A particularly distressing incident occurred following my father's passing, where she resorted to fabricating the circumstances surrounding his death to conceal a substantial sum of money, totaling hundreds of thousands of dollars. In my opinion, individuals who engage in such deceptive behavior exemplify the worst traits a person can possess.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

this is so true. absolutely. in my family, my mother was such a thief herself and then her "golden child boy" who she used like a monkey to do her dirty work (he had been a cop and was very aggressive and yes, you would be afraid of him, I am still and so are my sisters). when he thought she might die soon, moved in on her to "take care of her" (not on your life, trust me), he used all her resources and just saved his pension and SS coming in, God knows what else, anyway, then my niece (another "golden child" favorite my mother spoiled horribly) slipped in and pressured my mother who by then had "issues" with remembering, she took her to a notary and changed her will to GIVE IT ALL TO MY NIECE. it was perhaps 7 MILLION and she left the country after my mother died. THIEVES, ONE AND ALL. do they care? not about YOU, it's all about THEM. thank you Danish!

[@Prometheuspredator]

@JustMe-uu3bh Oh my gosh! So sorry to hear that. The type of story you described happens all the time. When a relative dies the thiefs come out and show themselves. I have personally seen this myself.

[@tammystewart10]

​@@PrometheuspredatorI'm currently going through this right now. My sister and her husband been stealing my parents investments right under my nose. Now they're worth millions is there anyway to recoup some of those finances after they're gone?? They're currently 76 and 81. Dad's not doing well. Sister took his 401k to invest and lost it supposedly. They're planning to let our mom move in while I'm here with the parents for the past two years. I have no access to my mom's hoarding cash/stash but their medical bills.

[@keithstewart7514]

My tiny wealthy Aunt was a dollar or two tipper til I SAID I won't go out to eat with her unless I leave the tip. Now going to Red Lobster or Chilli's is Kewl.

[@dumbphonemom]

This is something my mom would totally do. She’s done similar things.

[@rochellet1333]

Their money is their idol. This video is 100% true. They are very deceitful about how much they earn and have in the bank. But, they will tell others they are piss poor. They are liars!

[@Tend2Rose]

My ex narc would not keep money in the bank. He was working and getting benefits at the same time. With the money he was secretly earning, he would invest in gold and silver coins. I didn’t know the true amount he had, or where he put it. All this, so that no one could ever take it away. He was so tight with money, when he moved into his council house, some of his neighbors helped him, by giving him their old furniture. The old lady even gave her old hoover and he kept using her lawn mower knowing he has 10’s of thousands of pounds hidden away. He hadn’t seen his children in years and paid no child support. We argued about money all the time. He complained when he bought food for us. What I saw in this man, only God knows.

[@pocahontas4583]

Thank you for addressing this! I’ve never seen anyone else talk about this and other people don’t get what I’m talking about.

[@josiah5776]

This was my mother 100%. Money was the center of her life, and she held onto it with a vise grip. She manipulated family with the promise of it, while at the same time exaggerating how much she really had. She once loaned me some money, and then immediately proceeded to bash me daily about how much interest she could be earning if it were still in the bank. Interest was rock bottom at the time, so I calculated that she would earn about $3 for the period of time I would have the loan. I gave her a $5 bill and said, "Here, you made a profit." She immediately played the humble victim, stating "Oh, it's not about the money." "Then why do you bring it up every day?" I repaid the loan early and eventually cut her out of my life due to all her manipulative shenanigans and slander behind my back. Of course, she alienated me from the entire family. She strung along my son an his wife for a few years with promises of inheritance until she died and that inheritance proved to be much smaller than they thought it would be.

[@Prometheuspredator]

👍👍👍

[@robertajohnson7519]

Bashir you are excellent. I love the way you clearly, precisely, and Compassionately help our community with healing. Keep up the good work.

[@narcabusecoach]

Appreciate that. Thank you so much

[@manapeace]

Danish, please consider doing a talk on using the threat of disinheritance for coercive control! In a family culture of “obey me or I will punish you” once you leave home it’s like blackmail is all they have left to maintain the relationship.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

I hate to break this to you but they can use that over your head and STILL cut you out, for some reason they like to be vengeful to punish you for whatever reasons they can make up in their minds. happened in our family. and it is indeed generational, monkey see, monkey do, who has the power to control over the others? that's the game.........

[@Prometheuspredator]

Please don't worry and stress yourself out about inheritance money as they will swing it above your head to get what they want to control you. Do not allow money and inheritance to control you as they know they are controlling you. Live your life the way you want and be happy and free from this mess. Family money and estates are a mess believe me. Don't let it control you. Who says that you will receive an inheritance or not. If the executor of the estate is your families "Golden Child" and you are the "scapegoat or forgotten child" there will be drama. I have seen examples of the "Golden Child" sabotaging sibling relations with their parents such as smearing your name and talking behind your back to gain favor with the parents. They will fragment your relationship with them and isolate your parents. Be careful. Live your life the way you want to. Don't allow money and inheritance to rule your life and if so you will be controlled and bound to them. If you get an inheritance great and if not that is ok to. Word of caution: You living your life the way you want to will cause a split in the dynamics between you and your parents and siblings. Don't let money control you as it will rob you of your your and happiness. You can not allow it to rule your life and if so you will live your life to meet their expectations which most of the time are ridiculous and unreasonable.

[@abigailmcewan]

Yes! I’m experiencing this scenario too. This would be an interesting talk/video. I live with, and care for, my elderly NPD mother - desperately trying to leave and ho no contact but i cannot afford any housing. I feel totally stuck.

[@JustMe-uu3bh]

try to figure out how to make money or put some aside and make your SECRET plans. she may die tomorrow, who knows? there must be something you can do. Pray too. don't give up all your power, keep thinking and praying on what you can do while you are living there. God bless you.@@abigailmcewan

[@martinahavelkova9828]

Yeah, but it seems best tactic to leave as soon as you can. You cant any way relly on them. They will always blackmail you and nothing is good enough. The only way is to blackmail them too and keep them accountable. Narcissist only fears bigger narcissist. Treat them to destroy they reputation, unmask their mysteries, have evidence. I told her if she will threat me again, she wont ever see me again. And she knows she will stay old, miserable and alone with her bitterness. Thats her biggest fear.

[@ladyluck5248]

This is so true. My narc father squeezed money out of me after I was widowed. Nice guy. He has also reminded me all my life that he helped me through university. He once gave me a itemized bill on what he figures he spent to raise me and he says I owe him.

[@empathicwarriorlissy3716]

I hope you didn't pay him back

[@ladyluck5248]

@@empathicwarriorlissy3716 I paid him $35,000.00 and then stopped paying. I sold my home after my husband died because I couldn’t afford it and all my narc father saw was dollar signs.

[@wtf9987]

I knew someone who did that to her daughter… before I knew what narcissism was all about. It totalled in the thousands and offered her daughter could ‘pay in instalments’. The daughter and I lost touch not long after but the general feeling was she wasn’t going to pay.

[@sinceresong9907]

​@@wtf9987I think there's a balance to be had...Parents shouldn't hang the costs of raising their children over their heads however , children shouldn't just expect a free ride and nothing wrong with wanting to give back to our parents later in life

[@ladyluck5248]

@@wtf9987 he played the victim so bad at a time when I was vulnerable just losing the love of my life my husband to kidney cancer

[@2000adus]

Danish we hear you and feel very proud of you for lighting this torch to show others the path! It is not easy for you ( felt the pain when you spoke with eyes closed) and yet here you are healing others on the path!!!

[@riddhidharaiya5032]

Money is everything for them. They breathe money. They are connected with only money, not any person, not any relationship. They believe that money is power. They love counting money at the expense of any relationship, any person, molarity or even God, too...

[@narcabusecoach]

Yes yes yes!!

[@lornasmith1286]

Now You see our NARCISSISTIC LEADERS & GOVT. MONEY IS THEIR GOD & THEIR POWER...JUST AS MONEY IS PUTIN & CONTROL IS HIS POWER...TO the point of DESTROYING UKRAINE AND RUSSIA Even threatening NUCLEAR WAR! CONGRESS & FED. RESERVE CONTROL TAX PAYER MONEY & BIDEN GIVES AWAY BILLIONS TO OTHER COUNTRIES WHILE AMERICANS SUFFER! HE CARES NOTHING ABOUT THE AMERICAN PEOPLE! HOW MANY US PRESIDENTS HAVE GOTTEN RICH OFF OF US?

[@shailajab7468]

Where does this money land up at d end 😲😇

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

Yes, the cheapness and deceit with money and lack of paying for basic necessities for their own children actually totally crosses the line into the realm of gross abuse. I know too.

[@rosemarie7816]

I used to work at a bank and the couple who owned the gas station beside us (an Indian couple) did their banking with us. The man was an ugly, dumpy, disagreeable fellow, the wife was absolutely lovely in appearance as well as her personality. She would bring us homemade Indian food and was just the most sweet person. Her husband, the whole time, was stashing ungodly amounts of money in a separate account, and had us to hold his statements at the office for him to pick up. He warned us not to let her know, and we legally could not divulge that information to her. I've never had a hard time keeping confidential information confidential other than in their case. I wanted SOOOO badly to tell her. I hate to think what that poor lady's life was like with him.

[@Prometheuspredator]

😢😢😢

[@katmandoo223]

Thank you for this video. I never even knew this could exist and then I saw your video, and you described my father perfectly. I always remember growing up my mother would tell me to keep a secret bank account that my husband should not know about. I always wondered why, and now I know. Your videos are very informative and help me understand my childhood. Thank you.

[@nicselectronics81]

They'll die alone miserable with a pile of money. Fabulous meaningful life 😂🙄

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

Danish it sounds like your father is not only a narcissist but a sociopath. I remember you told a story of the cruelty your father showed to pets you had. Also goes hand in hand with the sociopath. What to look for if you suspect someone is a sociopath not just a narcissist is: 1. Scheming (especially about money) 2. Extraordinarily dishonest 3. Cruel to animals 4. Shows fake empathy but has zero in reality 5. Might have a prison record 6. Conman 7. Plus every trait of a narc 8.Not only mentally abusive and manipulative but get physically abusive and threaten you

[@Prometheuspredator]

You just describe my malignant narcissist brother who I believe has a character of the "Dark Triad." NPD, Psychopaths, and Machiavellianism (sadism).

[@narcabusecoach]

Yes he is a malignant narcissist.

[@Prometheuspredator]

@@narcabusecoach 👍

[@saj4642]

Yes, you're right. There are endless stories which we can't even imagine a human will do another, irrespective of their relationship.

[@tzeniblond9091]

My mother stole my money!!!! She lives with my money!!!!! Sne created huge drama, so I felt sorry for her!!!! And now I am broke!!!! And she is a queen!!!

[@gagahusband]

Honestly- relateable

[@butterflyink8651]

This is true, these pple are disgusting, lairs, evil, greedy pple who will not care for anyone,but do anything for money, speaking from personal experience. Thank you Danish.

[@joseenoel8093]

Couldn't believe it, at 70 yrs old and more money than she knew what to do with, covert mom said it was high time (I'd been a stay at home mom for 1.5 decades, married to another cheap narcissist at that) she asked me for money, unbelivable!

[@MeghanNystrom]

At 90 I bought mine a new golf cart and she tells everyone she bought it.

[@dyoung2739]

Living this rn. My soon to be ex narc is well off & he’s dragging out this divorce in an effort to render me completely penniless. It’s sad that narcissists see money both as a way to validate themselves and to manipulate others. My narcissistic brother in-law lets his 3 grandchildren struggle when he can well afford to help them w/college expenses.

[@Prometheuspredator]

What? Why is it his responsibility for your narc. brother in law to help with his grandchildren's college expenses? Just sayen. It is not his responsibility or anyone's except their own to pay for their college tuition, living expenses, and so on. Don't get me wrong I do not side with narcissists. But, when I attended college and graduated I was responsible to pay all my expenses. My parents helped here and there some, but I paid for my college education. It was not my parents' responsibility to do that. I paid for my college education and after I graduated and working a full time and part job on the weekends for years I paid it off. My parents didn't help me.

[@dyoung2739]

@@Prometheuspredator It’s not his responsibility but he could help,out of the kindness of his heart, since their parents can’t afford it. They’re good hardworking kids. Their parents are hardworking,too.

[@margolane3361]

My father always had money for drink and his sports cars and cupboards full of skin care bottles of goo and fragrance but the family were cutting their feet on the broken shower tiles and the little ones couldn't play in the backyard sometimes because of the septic tank getting full and leaking poo on rainy days, claiming it was too expensive to get it fixed. And when I got a job and bought my own food he would take that and then he beat me because I complained to my mom about it and she told him.

[@Prometheuspredator]

😢😢😢

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Hope u are gone now...

[@AvengerCrazy]

Why narcassist beat their children mercylessly, dessert them for even life essential basic necessities. But love others children and spend lavishly on them...! Why it happens.!

[@HUYI1]

At the rare times they actually do "help" you it will be at a cost, be it a favour, or something to manipulate you with to do their bidding, if you refuse to help, they will severly make you pay for it, my experience from my narc ex who was not only greedy for money, he was a gambler also, but did this to me over and over, after a while i got smart and refused his money so there was no gateway that he can use me for later use

[@barbann675]

You described my dad. When it came to family....nothing. For him the narc king...the best and whatever he wanted, and also for his friends they could get more than family. Destructive....I could not plant a garden to grow food for the family, but the friends get free use of the land for hunting and firewood and give him nothing but "supply"...butt kissing, lowly loser, ball dragging, dogs with no integrity.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Oh yes, during our divorce he tried to cheat me out of my fair portion of 20 years of marriage. He emptied our combined bank account. He told me a higher amount of school money to reimburse him despite making almost double of my income at that time since I couldn’t go from part-time to working full-time immediately. My lawyer has to sue him for every penny.

[@ronandheather3079]

YES! This man knows his stuff! My step dad was a complete MISER! He wouldn’t even help me fix my truck 🛻. Yet he gave his stupid church 30,000 dollars! What d!ck!

[@Prometheuspredator]

Why would you think it was his responsibility to help you fix your truck? Be grown, responsible, and take care of your own needs and develop a plan inorder to avoid of thinking he may help you. Live your life and never rely on a narc. to help you to fix anything, financially or otherwise.

[@scotttyson607]

Obviously, he valued the social recognition more than his relationship with you.

[@scotttyson607]

@@johanna006 MATTHEW 6: 1-6

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Buying his evil self to heaven..

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

​​@@Prometheuspredatorthat was not the point,charity begins at home..but a narc,is a narc,is a narc..

[@anniethompson1041]

Danish you are a treasure, thank you

[@This_Planet]

Get them upset about anything around money and if they feel the need to prove something they will show you to hurt you just to prove they could help but it's your ways or you don't deserve it etc. Right about guilt on using your own money even for your bills. It's a horrible feeling to hear a parent say those things Danish definitely know the feeling. People that don't understand these things think it's made up but having seen it and experienced it I can speak empirically

[@MTASAHM]

My mother is a covert narcissist and I didn’t realize how bad this money issue was until I moved back to my hometown where she lives. My sister clued me in that money my mom was giving me to help in a tough situation actually was coming from my sister and not her. My mom always made it seem like it was from her, further indebting us to her. Then when we moved back my mom always had her hands out. I made the mistake of giving her money out of guilt so much that it put us in a tough financial spot. When I stopped doing that she turned on me and things just got worse and worse. We have little kids and was trying to buy a house. she absolutely expected us to give her our stimulus money! We had to stop asking her to watch our kids so we wouldn’t “owe” her anything.

[@untraversed]

That's so true cuz thats what happened to my mom - leaving her in denial to the point of near poverty. After her separation and recovery from such terrible financial abuse, now she's thriving with her real estate business. It's like God is compensating her back after what has been lost.

[@stacygyuricza2187]

I know about this all to well! My ex still tries to monitor my money and how I spend it because we have to do co-parenting. I just ignore him now.

[@n.n9035]

How do u co parent with him. I want to leave him soon but don't want to affect the kids.. Im thinking there should be a middle man to manage the payments for child support to avoid problems and end control

[@timr2007]

Self absorption, they are right and know what is right,

[@LornaLast]

Oh! Now i learn the exact term to describe my Ex' traitsi been dealing with for a long time😕 Money Hoarding 🙃🤔 Exactly..😮

[@ladydrzn4343]

I have a very narcissistic father who thrives on control, belittling my mother and I, screaming at us etc. He’s weird about money too but almost the opposite of this. He holds money over our heads as a way of controlling everything. Then makes you feel guilty or justifies his calling us a piece of sh!t every second, among other things, because he paid for something. Does anyone have similar experiences like this? He wants us codependent but always screams that he always has to pay for everything. Which isn’t even true. 😞

[@Prometheuspredator]

Do you live there? Please get out. You are a target and your mother is too. He has become used to using you and "vomiting" on you both. If you live there or visiting go "Gray Rock" on him. Say nothing to him, remove yourself and leave. Go somewhere where he is not. Narcs. love to perform in front of an audience it gives them an "Adrenaline Rush" a high feeling and they feel powerful and invincible. Like they are the conquer of the world. My brother does this crap, but he also enjoys to go off in a rage in public places. Getting the attention of others and seeing the stunned look on people's faces and their processing thinking of what to do. He knows now that when he flips out it is highly unlikely that anyone will deter and confront him.

[@keithstewart7514]

Yeah my best score was ten Grand from my narc mom. I forget the bold face lie that paid off bc there's so many lies that can change colors faster than our old rotary phone got a dial tone when picking the hand held part of the phone, with the curly thing that was considered a leathal projectile when thrown or flung....

[@ladydrzn4343]

@@Prometheuspredator I don’t live with them, but I do live in a condo of his in another state. Long story but turns out my best friend of 30 years talked him into getting this place across the street from her. Turns out she’s a full blown narcissist too. Which is what led me to this channel. I’ve watched soooo many of these posts and can resonate with all of them. Having a narc best friend didn’t even cross my mind. It sucks!! I went full no contact 7 weeks ago with her. Just super depressed I moved all the way out here.

[@Seamen7229]

This sounds like me 😂 #FinancialStrategies well I don’t eye other peoples money but I hoard mine and don’t give it away because people take advantage of me good to know some knowledge that I’m deluding myself , is my money decaying in the bank by inflation ?

[@susanfernandez5817]

Oh Danish, I hear you. My husband is a miser just like your father. Of course he spends money but only when necessary to pay bills and household expenses. Everything he spends on has to be the cheapest and me and the children went without a lot of things except bare necessities, no luxuries. He always acted poor like we could not afford anything. He is retired now and has superannuation that he is now allowed to access. He will never do this because in his opinion that would be unwise to spend it. Our house badly needed renovations and repairs but he never did it. His brother ended up paying for the repairs and even renovated most of the house. My husband let him do that and just cried poor. I guess his brother felt sorry for all of us and so offered to pay as a gift. Now every time something needs to be done, my husband puts on a sad face for his brother and gives him another sob story. I started to see the pattern in this behavior and felt very disgusted. I finally left him a week ago.

[@beloved999]

Oh my word this fits my ex in laws! They live super cheap, SUPER CHEAP. One of them complained that the other ones shoes were falling apart. And then I found out they are MILLIONAIRES 😮

[@blk5124]

My mom was like that. Not the decomposing money part but not feeding her kids even when she had plenty of money. Instead she made my brother and I work (as teenagers) to support her and five other kids (our siblings). To this day she lives off others despite having lots and lots of money (through inheritance).

[@isabelolsson1890]

It's like you are talking about my father, mother, sister, ex's. They made me pay for everything because they said that I was an idiot that didn't care about money and gave money to everyone in need.

[@shreyaindia4024]

You know there are men who can do that. I know a man like that. He wants me to earn and he wants me to give him 50%

[@narcabusecoach]

How entitled must he be to think that it is okay ask that? These are pathetic souls

[@shreyaindia4024]

@@narcabusecoach thanks for your reply

[@empathicwarriorlissy3716]

My ex thought I would help him pay child support what a clown

[@Imjustme712]

My parents had plenty of money. But often denied me medical and dental care . I remember being so hungry that I sometimes stole food out of other kids lunches. A teacher must have noticed because everyday I only had a peanut butter sandwich that I had only been given everyday for lunch for years . Somehow I finally got a school lunch and thought it was delicious. I was so grateful

[@Imjustme712]

Both of my parents are narcissistic and my brother is also a golden child. I have no contact with them . Unfortunately I married a narcissist and I over compensated with my daughter because of my childhood and I guess combined with her dad she is showing narcissistic traits at 20 . That hurts the most because I love her so much

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Why have a child?

[@andrewsmith3257]

The worst kind of narcissist

[@blknwild9047]

Sounds like my spouse. Plus the false sense of support they create

[@blknwild9047]

@jbrown2908 I swear they offer support with no intention of actually following through. . . And the entitlement is unmatched!

[@Cygnus227]

When I was little, strangers would ask me if I needed food or money because they thought I was homeless; My mother, who owns expensive real estate in NY, used to dress me like a bum...She would go to Macy's to buy expensive clothing & overpriced markets like Balducci's to buy a loaf of olive bread & a glorified croissant for $40...Then, she would buy me & my sisters crappy Dunkin Donuts for breakfast...It wasn't until my school called my parents to ask them why me & my siblings looked malnourished that my father told my mother to buy us more food. I can't believe how greedy my narc parents were throughout my life. Years ago, my mother robbed me of all of my possessions & had them thrown in a dumpster; This was right around the time I was moving in w/ my boyfriend & planning my 'escape' from the family...She lied & pretended that she thought all of my belongings were trash...Sadly, I actually believed her because she was one of the best liars! This is how evil this woman is; My father actually got angry when I confronted her about the situation...You literally can't even make this sh*t up. Years later, I found out the truth about it; She had robbed me of everything I had owned to prevent me from leaving the family & to devalue my legacy...I still can't fathom how I believed that she did it 'by accident'...I must have been stupid from all of the abuse. Now, when I think of my mother's fate, I KNOW that she is destined for Hell for how she treated me & my sisters.

[@martinahavelkova9828]

For sure she didnt want to let you go. My mother "throw away" 4 full bags of new clothes with labels and dont remember that :D We think she actually donated it to some of her friends to look generous. But she didnt starve us, she overfeed us and then complain we are fat.

[@atianazim3968]

Thanks a lot for making me feel we are not alone.i can see my eldest daughter in you being victim of cruel father

[@keithstewart7514]

How bout the DEMONIC less than DARLING mother who label's the Scapegoat as SPECIAL NEEDS just so the Golden CHILD can finish me off in my golden ELDER life as he over sees my trickle down inheritance...

[@christinefeinholz9115]

Oh my goodness! First time I heard this “they would rather let their money rot”…omg…my “best” friend when I was young was an extremely wealthy trust fund kid, I mean extremely wealthy. I was a struggling single mother and she just bought a new BMW..I asked if I could buy her ten year old car for $1500 (this was in 1990). She kinda laughed at me and said no. For ten years I watched this car rot in her driveway until it was eventually towed off to the dump. You nailed it here.

[@dianagoode676]

Perfect description of my ex yet again! He would walk around with a wad of cash in his pocket, but made me pay all the bills!!! If I asked for help, it turned into a huge argument! His money went to casinos, his flying monkeys, and other women!!

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

My husband got involved with a couple who were into evangilism,to this day I am clueless as to how much money he gave them,,but I know the first night I met the wife,she was after my husband. I TOLD MY HUSBAND the first night that these are no good people, it took him 4 years later to realize the truth...those people both eife and husband almost destroyed my marriage ,a dress that I did not want her to have,was the undoing of his relationship with them..He saw them for who they were after I gave her the dress...

[@lortigosa]

Yeah I know, he's been 4 years now without paying for his kids pension because he's so so poor but he takes them for a 15 days trip through France and UK by car (we're from Barcelona). They just came back with me and they're so excited about the trip, and I can't do anything remotely similar because I have to pay for all the things a responsible mother has to pay for. He's buying them.

[@pauline6005]

My narc ex never bought me anything in all the 3 years we were together. But always said he would buy me a birthday cars when we are officially together. But will cost too much to send from india. But goes into debt to buy a brand new motorbike

[@lilu7430]

You are an amazing survivor of this horrific abuse! Your life is making such a good difference to others, it is hard to imagine you had to put up with that, and yet you are kind, and full of empathy yourself. Life is best when we realize it is not what we have, but what we give to others that really matters. Thank you for all you do!

[@penguinZ85]

My ex was extremely controlling with money. Before we got married, I had my own apartment, and I saw some nice dishes on sale. I needed dishes for my place, so I bought them. I was really excited about my great find, but my ex told me that I shouldn’t have bought them without consulting him first because they were going to be in our apartment after we move in together. They were just basic white dishes. I told him that they were for my place and I used my own money. He tried to convince me that I was in the wrong, but it didn’t work. I should have called off the engagement after that, but I convinced myself to overlook it.

[@kikijewell2967]

Charity: where lies the power? Poverty requires wage theft and inadequate taxes. Services supplies by a democratic government has the power in the populace. Charity is rich people with too much money, wanting to feel more important and powerful than others.

[@saraliburd7752]

Ye the nex got my money and had little schemes going on all over the place-I was so brainwashed/in the fog-I had no energy or wherewithal to keep up

[@SuperBlakes2]

My ex was a gambler. I never understood why we were so broke, cause we were both working. He'd been gambling online, on my computer. He had nothing of his own when we met, everything was mine. Stupid narcs.😮

[@revathikr1852]

I know a narcissist who doesn't give money to his wife and children..he lavishly spends for prostitutes...from his messages we can see that he even bargain with them. In spite of earning well he enjoys wearing old torn undergarments😂 such a psycho

[@markrichards6863]

Their sense of entitlement is amazing. She had her own house but moved into mine, because it was a better address. She used my credit cards without my permission, because hers were maxed out and, She forged my checks with no feeling of guilt. Then she wanted me to cosign a car loan (for a Jaguar). Finally, World War 3 broke out when I told her I never planned to put her name on the title to my house. I worked my behind off to pay for it before she came along. She lived with me rent free. Two months after she moved in, I made her move back to her house, went no contact shortly thereafter. Her adult son, who lived at her house, was shocked I could stand living with her for that long.

[@speedracrx23]

All facts 💯. My ex wife narcissist. Money hungry

[@nicolehastings4879]

Or Keep it from their spouse and won't fix anything around the house

[@vanessajoycecollett6607]

My mom 😂 ur money should be my money n gets jealous when i visit her wearing bling n for marrying a rich hysband who is too smart she cant manipulate

[@atianazim3968]

Thanks a lot for making me feel we are not alone.i can see my eldest daughter in you being victim of cruel father

[@Jane-rc2rk]

There was always money for what he wanted… and I never understood how. There was never enough to live on for me and our children even though I worked full time. What was mine was his, what was his was his. I paid for everything every time, for everyone . He took money from me when it turns out he was literally earning ££££££s. I didn’t know just how much was earning but it was at least double what I thought. I never expected him to keep me, I provided for myself, but he didn’t want to pay for anything. It was so painful to see him spending money on his very young gf when I was struggling to pay his debt. That was the end…he took my inheritance and when I asked for it back it transpired he had a gf and had bought her a flat in Spain with it!

[@kimjones1007]

Praying for your healing. So sorry that happened to you

[@sthomas4634]

This is so true!

[@tzeniblond9091]

Very very true!!!!!!!!

[@KG-ly5fu]

He did mention one time that if he was to pass away his money wasnt going to anyone it was going to be left in his bank account.

[@samueltom517]

This is so true! They make me spend all my money while they hoard theirs!

[@sergesakayan]

My father too was very rich he never gave me money to go enjoy with my wife and kids .

[@DesertLife4me2]

Huge red flag. Thank youvfor sharing ❤

[@gojiberry7201]

I don't think my dad has NPD (I usually talk about my mom lol). But this reminds me of my dad. Although he acts ethically, money is his whole life. It absolutely consumes him. If the stock market has a bad day, he'll have a panic attack. He also judges people on their money, too, like if they don't have it, they're somehow morally wrong. I think it's a trait passed down by his mom, my grandmother who was a Great Depression baby. He would not give me money for dental care even though he has over 2 million dollars. And it's still not enough. He scolded me for giving money to charity.

[@gojiberry7201]

@JosuperheroWOW. That sounds like my dad for sure. 😮 Or Ebeneezer Scrooge ☹

[@graymoon3000]

My Narc got canned form her job. Is 2020. They offered her a package. I never knew what the package amount was but she managed to not work up until this very day. I knew when her money was getting low because she started pressing me about money. Which means it probably went down to the next decimal but she probably had plenty. She would not spend on gifts for family friends or even me but I don’t need gifts. I always had to tell her you’re going to a party you have to buy something then bought it cuz she wasn’t working. Her nephew was born and she did not buy anything for him. I’m like we have to bring clothes and diapers wipes for your nephew all parents welcome these things and I made the purchase. I did not understand her and she did not understand me. So disconnected to real things but attached to that money. Unreal they are.

[@martinahavelkova9828]

haha, once my uncle and aunt brought a wine in plastic bottle as a present to 60 birthday party of my father :D

[@kimberlyartis6515]

A Fool and his money, will soon part..

[@dr.vasudhataoript8187]

Any solution if we are dependent on them?

[@aisha9109]

❤❤Thanks so much for all your videos very beneficial topics

[@knittingpassion6106]

Narc has no money actually only showoff fatichar hote h poor people only showoff

[@pocahontas4583]

THIS!!! Absolutely my soon to be ex husband. We made enough money to live in the nicest places comfortably. Yet he had us living in the roughest most dangerous neighborhoods and would have a complete fit if I tried to look at places in nicer neighborhoods. Even now that we’re not together one of our kids told me that he didn’t want to be the one to pick them up anymore because he wants me to bring them to him so he can save gas. Not because he needs the money that desperately but just to hoard. He doesn’t even pay ANY of their expenses. I pay all their living, transportation, food, recreation costs, etc and he threatens me about the possibility of him having to pay child support.

[@pocahontas4583]

@@jbrown2908yes I’m working on that. The issue is we live in a state that requires mediation before any type of hearing for orders can be put in and he refuses to go to mediation. So I have to also try to get a court order for mediation, even though it’s required already.

[@pocahontas4583]

@@jbrown2908I’ve been told by attorneys that he’s probably going to wind up in arrears when a judge finds out he hasn’t paid all this time.

[@pocahontas4583]

@@jbrown2908 thank you! It’s been long and drawn out and wearing on me. Definitely been praying to be done with this soon!

[@1233-h1g]

Here was my solution to narc relatives who used me for money usually through loans they refuse to pay back. They usually had money all along. I sued them in small claims court to teach them a much needed lesson -DONT Eff with me. And then I announced that the wallet is closed permanently. They stopped speaking . I told them fine. My money belongs to me and they have always seen me as,an object to be used.

[@Cat-sx6ep]

they are fool he closed his bank accounts which is crazy because we all know in this life you cant live without working or saving so wtf

[@justwondering3800]

Oh boy, don't get between a narcissist and their money. Money is their god.

[@narcabusecoach]

Literally! Once he brought two big bundles of cash home and his covert narcissistic wife took like 20 bucks out of it. The money must have been a few thousand dollars in total. He found out and created such a scene. They fought until he got those few bucks back. Such a crazy combo!

[@justwondering3800]

@@narcabusecoach My husband, who I now know was a narcissist, got mad at me when our daughter failed to be born on her due date - December 31 - and instead was born in Jan 3 in the new year. Why was he angry? He lost out on a tax deduction for the previous year! He got angry when the doctor sent me home when he knew the baby was not going to be born. He was literally making a scene at the hospital. As if I had control over the labor process. His daughter was nothing more than a tax deduction.

[@evelynnelavelle2015]

They value their money, over people, their friends, their cousins, aunts and uncles, and most of all their family!! They Think, that they are entitled to like, this because they were treated like a piece of shit, by their parents, their other siblings, when they were growing up during their childhood and their teen age years

[@narcabusecoach]

Yes they value their money over everything

[@mjsinger1944]

I didn't know how much his pension was until the divorce, it was $90,000. per year. But when we went out to eat, he had to use a coupon. Not long before I filed he asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I told him then he said I can't afford it. I told him to just forget about it. I was getting wise to his wanting a reaction.

[@SarinaValentinaxo]

🤮 just lost for words . Experienced a lot of similar things.

[@user-hn1sw4cf7x]

Excellent analysis

[@evelynnelavelle2015]

Their money becomes their best friend, they are pathetic

[@margaretwhelan1475]

He told me there is a fireproof box with money in attic and when passes one of the children will give me the key. Please can someone give me their thoughts on this insidious situation 🙏..

[@margaretwhelan1475]

Yes. Trying to get my ducks in a row. Exhausted and burnt out. Praying for a miracle.🙏

[@cazjay017]

Great video. Spot on.