The More You Try, The Worse You Feel | On Mood Swings

Mood swings can be very unpleasant. And when extreme, they can severely impact our quality of life. But where do these changing emotional states come from? And what can we do about them?
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#moodswings #mood #depression
00:00 - Intro
01:22 - The misery of mood swings
04:12 - Why do we have mood swings?
11-27 - Inherent moodiness
15:17 - Philosophical approaches to mood swings

[@ReynaSingh]

“Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from arising but we can choose which one to surf.”

[@fl646]

You nailed it very well.

[@lordoberon22]

Are you truly choosing freely, though? Or are your/our choices rooted in the our thoughts, environment, upbringing, and others' opinions about your/our thoughts/opinions?

[@Sreyas007]

I'd say emotions are like waves and feelings are the deep sea

[@_..-.._..-.._]

Sounds good, but really just an aphorism.

[@morgengrauen1977]

I'm not so sure that you can choose which one to surf

[@_..-.._..-.._]

I often find that I’ll realize I’m in a good mood at a random time for no reason, when I can’t think of a reason to be happy it goes away and back to despair 😔

[@coltenro5199]

I totally get you

[@MYwinters1945]

Think of it as a way for your mind to rest from unhappiness. Try to enjoy it while it lasts. If everything is impermanent, joy is impermanent yes, but also unhappiness is impermanent.

[@kibayi]

You do not need a reason to be happy. You absolutely can simply just be it when you feel it

[@trudibarraclough478]

Habit

[@ArisEmriis]

Society teaches us that we need reasons to be happy, and that they should be good reasons. It tells us through media and attitudes that the only people who are happy for no reason are nuts. It's some work to let go of limitations we have in place but it can be done and is totally worth it.

[@cherry-xz6ei]

It took me a long time to understand that feelings are ment to add to your life not control it.

[@Kaisersozze]

Everything controls our lives and we have little free will. :)

[@generalnawaki]

I went the other way, strove to feel nothing at all. It's liberating. I am leaf in the wind.

[@Nibiru3600X]

⁠​⁠@@KaisersozzeAs long as you think that, you won’t. Mind over matter! 💪🧠 🙌 ✨💖☮️💖✨

[@Nibiru3600X]

@@generalnawakiFor now… 🍃 Until you begin to feel/act like a robot & suppression comes out 💔 🙏☮️🙏

[@generalnawaki]

@@Nibiru3600X I wouldn't say I suppress, I just let the emotions wash over me and then past me, giving none anymore time than any other. I am the master of me, not my emotions.

[@ultimatefreedom6934]

Keeping our daily behaviour constant can keep mood swings at bay. When I'm exercising daily, I've something to cling to, to feel that way daily, mostly good. When my morning is messed up with no proper routine, I'm very much prone to mood swings. Keeping disciplined life is key to not experiencing wide mood swings..

[@dexraikkonen7]

I think a lot of people are not necessarily worried about the emptiness and the pointlessness of life as such, also not too worried about the unavoidable darkness of nonexistence after death; but much more about feeling wasted, not fulfilling their potential, not being able to do what they want in their brief time alive and not having the experiences they crave while they (potentially) can.

[@Sloth0801]

Things will always happen; enjoying the opportunities that succeed is far better off a life than living in disappointment of the opportunities missed

[@ultimatefreedom6934]

Not living the life we estimated 2 years back is the reason people are more anxious.

[@ayajameelmahdi9910]

Your channel is like a mean of adding salt and pepper to our thoughts as we are overthinkers , it’s such a stimulation to our imagination and therefore internal conflicts

[@patrickmorton1187]

Thank you for making this, I am currently going through a stressful divorce and I have ridden the wave of so many emotions. Thank you for putting emotions in perspective.

[@danlamorte7494]

Hope everything turns out well for you friend

[@_..-.._..-.._]

I’m halfway there I think. I’ve been with my wife for 9 years and I still flip-flop. Some days I think I can make it work and others I can’t possibly imagine staying. We haven’t done anything bad to each other, we’re just roommates that don’t feel romantic love for each other. Every other day I’ll be grateful and feel love for her, then other days she’ll be off putting and I’ll think it can’t go on forever.

[@patrickmorton1187]

@@danlamorte7494 Thank you I really appreciate it.

[@samyakchhajed]

​@@_..-.._..-.._That's normal for every single relationship on this planet. Not a reason for divorce. You won't be happy with anyone if you feel you can't be happy with just this. Only other option for you both is stay alone for life, but you can do that without even having a divorce.

[@Maleboligia]

I went through a divorce about 9 year ago after being married 9 years. We just grew apart. I hope all goes well and make sure to make time for your mental health, I definitely ignored that at the time and paid for it.

[@Sawaedo]

I used to suffer from constant mood changes, it was very hard to keep relationships and goals working that way. I confirm that having a good philosophy for dealing with life is a big step, but in the meantime, just having a routine, a good night sleep, exercise everyday, eat low-sugar/natural food, and write your thoughts seems to do the trick with maintaining the energy levels and remain calm in adversity. Thank you for the video!❤

[@JohnSmith-ef2sx]

You never brought up dopamine.... That's the key to it all.

[@sarahe.7490]

dopamine has nothing to do with mood swings

[@joshfugate6018]

@@sarahe.7490serotonin on the other hand…

[@avaonalee]

Needed this. Brought me a lot of peace when I needed some.

[@srichman5]

don't let your external circumstances dictate how you feel internally

[@kigalbert]

Thank you. Watching your videos gives me a greater understanding of the world and myself, which helps me deal with both.

[@stefekburczymucha4756]

I watch every video you post, I consider you my soul guide ☯️

[@SUCCESSCHASERS]

Really enjoyed this one, thanks for another great video! Remember, mood swings are just life's way of spicing things up. Ride the waves and you'll learn a ton about yourself.

[@rodbelmont4576]

Thank you for making philosophy content, your videos have helped me and I'm sure many other people so much,and this one has helped me to calm down and feel better,after going to many panic attacks and anxieties about the future and "success" , I'm an english teacher and my students love your content,thank you from all of mt heart , your channel is gold.keep doing this content

[@jeb6314]

I have Mixed Bipolar 1 Disorder a.k.a. Rapid-cycling Manic-Depression. I can go from a murderous rage to deadly suicidal despair in as little as ten minutes. I am on medicine for this. However, as your video points out, I have learned that these moods are transient. Eventually they will go away until the next cycle. Cycles come for many reasons and often no reason. One thing I have taught myself over the years is a positive attitude. I take joy in a cold, snowy day or a warm summer day. Birds chirping (NOT CROWS!!!!!), playing squirrels, a nice book or piece of music, perhaps a good video like your channel -these make for a happy attitude. I often pretend to be happy even when I am not. It's contagious. I bid folks a happy day -and mean it. When I was Christian (Mormon), I feared whether I had made God happy. Now, as an atheist, I just AM happy and take life in stride. I realize that some day I will be dead -no big deal. So one's attitude about life can frequently mitigate the ferocity of mood swings.

[@user-ky2eo5ll3e]

I have the same diagnosis. It's a tough hand to play with. I go on psychosis sometimes and I realize afterwards. I am also on medication and I m an alcoholic. Give me an advice ty.

[@jeb6314]

@@user-ky2eo5ll3e There is not much other advice I can give. Each day is a MAJOR struggle. One thing: NO MATTER WHAT -don't stop taking your meds! On severe days, it will be hard; on easy days, you will figure you don't need them. Medications can do only so much, but they can do that. Of alcohol or illegal drugs, you need the right impetus to stop. My dad was a Baptist who married a Mormon girl (mom). He said giving up alcohol and cigarettes was one of the hardest things he had ever done. But he wanted a family, so he did. I grew up eating LOTS of candy and swore I'd never give it up. One day I realized I was losing my eyesight due to sugar and had given up pop and candy in two weeks. (Of course, I now do the sugar-free versions.) So, unless you have a major reason, like loss of eyesight, you will find giving up alcohol to be very difficult. Will power can only do so much. A good counselor is a major asset, almost as necessary as prescription medications. Something also: in your low moods, pretend -as difficult as it is (I know) -that you are happy. It will change your mood immensely. As dad used to say, "Keep a stiff upper lip"; that is, deal with everything courageously. Take life one day at a time and don't bog down on things you can't control. I still find that one hard. While you can't choose your beliefs, becoming an atheist made life so much easier for me as i no longer worry about a vengeful god or the threat of Hell.

[@Sheboss333]

Luv ya, brother! Your videos always seem to come when I need them the most! 💙✌️🤗

[@weidergonga2997]

Thanks for providing the captions in Portuguese, my wife’s still learning English and it’s quite difficult to her to be able to understand everything on the moment, we appreciate the effort.

[@Cinconegativoprimeiro]

“It’s impressive how you consistently manage to synthesize my emotions and feelings through words! Excellent content, congratulations, my friend!” 🌟👏

[@victorashul]

Take care , man! Your work is honey for the soul!

[@1laforees9]

Your mood is your emotional intelligence. For every situation there is a correct action that leads to the proper operation of these planes we flew here with. Your emotions is a manual with a language of how to operate these planes based on action(mind speaking) and reaction(heart feeling) in a language you were given an entire world with endless amounts for you to feel and think your way through. You have arrived at your destiny. Enjoy your stay! And don't forget ro share the joy. Choose the right mood that serves you and your mood is no longer moodiness to others but a good mood you both now can share. Preach the gospel of good news, your mood will be your reporter of what your message is relaying.

[@d_shuffles]

Thank you for this ☮

[@beach182]

Perfect timing !! 😮 my WiFi is not working and I was contemplating the very same thought as Aurelius: all of this just to die? 😂

[@waedjradi]

People give way too much attention to their thoughts. In result, this is what stimulates 'mood swings.'

[@tricialow217]

Take medication as prescribed and consult doctor proved to be most effective for my friends with depression. It's a medical condition. Some people just not good at understanding philosophy, not interested in spiritual or religious stuffs.

[@thoomm]

This is so timely. Thank you so much❤

[@psilo0419]

I myself have Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar 1, and high functioning autism. The struggle can be very real, but meditation has helped me greatly over the past few years. It has helped a lot with dealing with the inevitable mood swings.

[@DiLARADONUT]

Exactly what i needed to watch right now... been experiencing a lot of mood swings. And it is sometimes so exhausting!

[@kristofferkr3254]

Been having mood swings this week and this video helped me get some perspective. Thanks a bunch ^_^

[@maxvaessen]

Sometimes I feel like you’re watching over my shoulder. Thanks for the useful topics and your commitment ❤

[@user-im2wg2uz1v]

Helpful, amazing content. Thank you.

[@NewEra2496]

I’ve recently learned about rejection sensitive dysphoria within myself. And just being able to grasp the concept has given me perspective towards my intense mood swings as more of a biological response. It’s helped me a lot, very grateful for this video coming after I had a bit of an episode. It was like a hug from the universe.

[@mountainhobbit1971]

seems to me that 'moods' are just part of this wacky human experience, I try my best see them as yet just another teacher and friend, which definitely is not easy sometimes. "As it is, not as you would like it to be" S.N. Goenka.

[@vladislavkaras491]

Thanks for the video!

[@VASHON-ve6ki]

You tell the truth Brother

[@Davlavi]

So very true.

[@danialmr5960]

Great timing man

[@jeraldbaxter3532]

Thank you!

[@kellychuba]

If you are living in a house with someone who is unkind to you, get out fast.

[@nrs6956]

Thank you.

[@RPenn-si2pr]

My problem is that too many people (including family) think that I have a great life, that I am focused, successful, and intelligent. No one sees the fact that I am teetering on the edge most days, but I have a wife and child, and many friends at work, who rely on me day in and day out. I always seem to go to great lengths to limit my highs, but my lows seem to be a bottomless pit.

[@Guus]

This might be one of your best videos yet

[@philippamediwake1235]

I suppose we should look at moods objectively. I mean it would be ridiculous to think we can stay in a state of constant happiness but this also applies to the opposite mood as well. Life is full of opposites & they all exist for a reason to make living more interesting! I agree about the ‘lack of sleep’ issue. I really don’t function well after an inadequate amount of sleep & we all know that the weather can affect our mood as well. Mood swinging is a complex subject for sure!

[@pranjalm1238]

9:15 in this day and time we just spend time on mobile phones

[@Dae334]

Yes, life has no meaning because everything is vanity as the preacher says in proverbs. Mood changes are really difficult to deal with, and we really shouldn't let ourselves be carried away by our feelings.Because they can change constantly and this needs to be controlled.

[@jasonthomaslaxdal333]

Thank you for this.🙏

[@nadiael-bakali728]

Wauw! Wat een eyeopener zeg. Precies wat ik zocht. Dankjewel 🙏🏼

[@liafuentes326]

Important video. We are just human after all, but having a strong and inamovible state of mind built through philosophy and resilience makes us powerful.

[@dpelpal]

Commenting for the algorithm. Thanks for the great content!

[@user-wf1nh1ix2i]

Thanks ! Really interesting and gives answers, from what it seems you should be philosophers!

[@Justineyedia]

😎 Thanks for the cool video. You hit on a lot of good points. Like always. Man, the mood swings are something i have been thinking and talking about too. And I thought maybe it's my ego inflating out-of nowhere. Like unconscious compensation for something. Usually a perceived inferiority (personal deficiencies). Something that makes me feel a sense of inadequacy and insecure. Threatened.

[@reme7903]

I personally have pretty much come to terms with total lack of meaning while staying motivated and excited by life. It's possible if you embrace paradox as a feature of the universe rather than an error of sorts as people often see it.

[@skywalker7778]

You naughty man when placing that Fortune Cookie on Lady Fortuna... 😊 Love your channel ❤

[@mariahsmom9457]

I feel seen. TY 🙏

[@jcjs33]

'EXPECTATIONS' = 'MOOD SWINGS' ... expectations are pre-meditated resentments...OMski

[@user-bv7vc7li8n]

5 mental hindrance: Desire, anger, stagnation, worry, and doubt

[@genesisk85]

This came at the right time

[@Nibiru3600X]

Same. I love that feeling 💖 …Like a lil “mysterious” validation ✨🙌

[@brandmasis]

Thank you for the video, I have a hard time focusing on reading

[@GlobalistGazette]

i had bipolar diagnosis for decades. Ive given up my meds. i did it too quickly but thankfully Im stable- though it is tough. I use stoicism but also healing through grieving past traumas like in Daniel Macklers videos. Our parents pass on mental illnesses through their actions. We have to heal ourselves. I have given up the chemical imbalance theory as medical nonsense.

[@tvh024]

I've had intense mood swings in the past and I think they were caused by inflammation in my neck. My neck/posture isn't completely fixed yet but the mood swings happen less often. Intermittent fasting can also reduce inflammation in the body.

[@georgeandrews2839]

Good one.

[@ouuyou6584]

best channel on youtube 🗣️

[@soggytablet4852]

I try to remember to be thankful/

[@ros8986]

Try eliminating sugar and caffeine for two weeks (note fruit juice has a lot of sugar, switch to eating whole fruit). Yes, of course there are other factors, but doing this can make a significant difference.

[@sv6743]

This channel is a goldmine

[@darlamerrill8052]

That's great😊

[@alicearcturus8610]

If you have your health, rejoice. I live in constant pain. No happiness. All alone. Waiting for release. Find joy in little moments with pets and nature.

[@cherielevinson1537]

Thank you very much💛

[@user-eq2dx2jp6v]

Hiiiiiii ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@worth2worthnation]

A mood is a moment’s reminder of my human frailty for joy, sorrow, and the wandering of my imagination and emotional instability. My Worth2Worth Theory is the quality of Rii (Recognition of Individual and Interconnectedness) by which we measure, assess, and align our intent, context, content, and the 'through processes' toward anticipated results. The mantra is simple: I Am My Worth! You Are Your Worth! We are the Worth of Each Other. In this sense, WORTH means the following: Each of us is (Warded with Ownership Rights to go Through every Hardship) alone and together and always as the respected other. "Through" represents my constant effort to claim rights I have earned by recognition of respect for my journey to discover this side of knowing the Wealth of My Worth.

[@nirioid]

I don't have a lot of mood swings, probably because I'm more indifferent to external factors than other people I know. And I'd say most of my mood swings are caused by internal factors, or in other words, my menstrual cycle.

[@armandoacosta9828]

This to shall pass...

[@Maleboligia]

I am bipolar, and I am extremely familiar with mood swings and how the affect my life. I have developed strategies to deal with it, but it is a significant factor in my life and has cost me a lot of friends and relationships. I appreciate your approach to Bipolar Disorder, a lot of people seem to take it very lightly and it is certainly not. Thank you very much for the video.

[@missmaryamjanusch]

Those who take Bipolar disorder lightly must be totally uninformed. There's this channel "polar warriors" -quite helpful for those suffering, and the people around them. I wish you well !

[@justaman33]

imho, "genetics" puts many in a mind cage or trap. Thanks for your work. Cheers from the us.

[@shiem_ngiuen_hie]

I'm only in good mood whenever I am alone, and can laugh whenever I want without people questioning me?

[@Bussjaeger]

Please do Ecclesiastes episode… this reflects

[@awildcyclistappears]

People desire "meaning" instead of creating it. It's easy to exist as you can without meaning, but very hard to live as it requires meaning.

[@parvezmosharaf2145]

Keep the reason for your happiness simple and easy. So that you can find more reasons to be happy . One can achieve this by trying enough .

[@gesmar21]

I can't seem to find the link to the video mentioned in the last minutes in the description 😕

[@chrisinoz886]

Rain will come but not last forever, obviously never been to Manchester.

[@chuckcrunch1]

i found for my self diet and sleep help a lot in stabilizing my moods, high protein, low sugar . sardines are good omega 3 and calcium, apple juice bad

[@streetrat160]

My gut and sleep go hand in hand with my emotional and physical states. An play off one another.

[@allantankl]

Mood swings could be due to the food we eat

[@streetrat160]

Um I felt like death an anxiety then I had Taco Bell an feel better.

[@Cynique_savant]

The paradox of being a human is that you're aware of all your animalistic impulses that drive 90% of your coming and going, but you also have an intellectual mind that shuns and shames you for wanting revenge, sex, power etc

[@_Dark222Angel_]

when pms comes knockin i have to lay low and not assign it to anything 😂

[@reignofchaos3176]

And i quote : When i get sad, i stop being sad and be outsome instead , true story! 😂

[@cjumbalin9608]

Back at it

[@icarus166]

If you follow the noble 8-fold method the Buddha laid out rigorously and correctly. Mood swings no longer occur. You step off the wheel of samsara. Every mood starts with a thought/reaction. I like it/don’t like it -> I want it/don’t want it. Feelings are the result of this. They dependently originate based on these judgement -> craving. An advanced practitioner is able to let go of and avoid all preferences. Thus he walks in bliss independent of conditions. Low dopamine doesn’t mean depression. It just causes the stream of experience to change color. We react to the color and that causes the depression. And so it is with everything.

[@moveiserisedit2444]

I love your videos so much, can I take some videos in put it in my channel?

[@SparkyHelper]

It's interesting... I find myself looking away from the screen, uncomfortable when stock footage of someone looking directly into the camera comes on.

[@Name_Lessness]

I'd also bring attention to the study of the influence on ones mood concerning gut bacteria. Also, in quantum physics like atoms are connected via string theory and if DNA has similarities I believe this connection is translated as psychic in nature. Finally, if we're dealing with quantum physics and meta physics it's possible that DNA in a quantum state isn't bound by linear time or a single dimension.

[@Rollacoastertycoon]

I’m bipolar shits a nightmare might just end it fuck it mood swings suck

[@aforabe1197]

I know I’m a stranger who just doesn’t understand your experience, but it’s possible to cut down the intensity of mood swings even in bipolarity. Think of your mood like a sin wave, and any high will be equalled by a low. If you start to take away energy from highs, your lows won’t be as bad. I focus on the highs because you’ll most likely be in a better state of mind to enact change then. Please also consider speaking with a pro about forms of PTSD as that can contribute to the severity as well

[@aforabe1197]

The info above has helped me. I hope it can do the same for you. May you find peace

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

I have ADHD & PMDD which feels like bipolarity. I am exhausted of this roallercoaster i am never allowed to get off. I can't even do anything about it because of the ADHD because i am handicapped, i am just trapped in my suffering alone, been stuck in the same state of mind fir decades & stuck in the same spot. Everyone goes on with their lives, i can barely take care of myself

[@derek8149]

Seems more like borderline personality disorder or PTSD if it’s a daily fluctuation of mood swings. Bipolar is more like weeks of highs followed by weeks of lows. Highly suggest being diagnosed by a professional, since there is very effective treatment out there. Ending it is not worth it cus there are very effective treatments for BPD, PTSD, and bipolar.

[@rockstarofredondo]

Eat more animal fats, eat less carbos.

[@patricesf]

“Even the Gods were moody sometimes” ❤

[@angeladawn805]

... "one moment you feel fine, or even great about your life. Things flow naturally, and you're moving with the rhythm of the universe as a flourishing part of it..." Ermmm, nah, I can't recall such a state for many a year. Menopause gives you brain fog, waves of angry red mist, aches and pains... I'm sure that this explains the demographic of a typical 'Karen'. 😔

[@Psychx_]

A pack of magic truffles usually fix negative mood swings for me for a good while. Due to the meds I take, I get the benefits without the hallucinations.

[@KAREEM-uw2ml]

❤❤❤

[@NorthernCapeGrower]

i need a blunt

[@iOnlyPlaySolos]

Me too man

[@BrandonCook74]

You need some milk

[@Silver-_-Crow]

Same

[@iOnlyPlaySolos]

@@BrandonCook74 no bro I'm lactose intolerant

[@BrandonCook74]

@@iOnlyPlaySolos Wuuuuuttt wuuuuut GET OUTA MY FUCKING WAAAAAAALLLLLSSSSSS!!!!😭😭😭😭😭😭😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳👹👺- Peppa Pig

[@lorenzofalcon2955]

how do I unattach from external things

[@clearthewindy]

nice❤

[@adityakaushal1844]

True hindu culture advocated balance of mind...

[@Namrec_Molai]

I play pubg, i lose most of times, no matter how much i try i still lose But the more i try and lose, the worse i feel Being tryhard gave me depression Despite i intalled the game for sake of joy

[@d_shuffles]

Im the same way with fighting games. I had got Street Fighter 6 last year and went through the same emotions. Ended up selling the game and feel alot better haha.

[@new-bp6ix]

be zero be happy