You Don’t Deserve What You Want

You Don’t Deserve What You Want | Stoic Philosophy

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@maryanngarcia3080 Жыл бұрын

In the last few years, I’ve lost everything. Husband, house, furnishings , jewelry etc. etc. Now I’m slowly dying of cancer, and realize that absolutely nothing is forever, just borrowed. All that matters these days is giving and receiving kindness.

@shahinazmeerriza5377 Жыл бұрын

You're so strong... I wish you perseverance and strength ❤

@chiaraog5476 11 ай бұрын

bless you soon.

@kwasiboat9467 11 ай бұрын

Wish you fast recovery. Hope the best.

@sebastianemig6089 8 ай бұрын

Hope you will improve!

@Hurt-to-Healing 8 ай бұрын

I am so sorry. Lots of hugs. Please know that you are loved.

@Eternal.Stoics Жыл бұрын

*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson

@gregorizi Жыл бұрын

When there is money you have no normal friends. Collective is bad, self centered and lost without real moral compass.

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

@gregorizi so people with money have no friends? U r crazy

@gregorizi Жыл бұрын

@@adammorra3813 some have seen your programming and majority think your skills suck

@rahulbarca4112 Жыл бұрын

@WisdomQuotes Amen to that.

@garthy4u Жыл бұрын

@@adammorra3813 as a thought, consider why the statement triggered your emotions to the point where you completely misread the comment. They said no "normal" friends. Money changes the dynamics of relationships. To argue otherwise shows you're naivety.

@ReynaSingh Жыл бұрын

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus

@anonymous-jp7bo Жыл бұрын

indeed!

@stephaniestevenson6335 Жыл бұрын

Then I am enormously wealthy and very content!

@YM-zf8mt Жыл бұрын

i'm pretty sure i know about a few wealthy guys who are defined by the fact that they want everything, their wealth comes from it

@alphonsobutlakiv789 Жыл бұрын

I have great possessions in spaces, yet barely use them, yet still added on to them the smallest of spaces and only because I could, and at little cost. Had rooms big enough to fit houses in, but spent time in ones I can't even stand in. Now I feel I build for looks over function, and in a way, in abandoning the structures is likely in time, beauty alown me help them lore people in to keep them beautiful, regardless of any function. As as a tree is beautiful for not being bothered, a building is ugly for not being bothered with work enough, and who cares if the ugly get ugly?

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

Only poor people say that

@MustafaKulle Жыл бұрын

I remember Slavoj Zizek saying something like this; "There are two tragedies in life, those who don't get what they want, and those who get what they want."

@petra-go9jp Жыл бұрын

Yes it is one of my most favorite quotes by Oscar Wilde.

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

Actually, that quote was stolen from me

@MrGuggisberg Жыл бұрын

How do I be cursed to get what I want?

@orhanguldag3419 Жыл бұрын

@@MrGuggisberg cause it will be taken away from you eventually

@iExploder Жыл бұрын

@@orhanguldag3419 The old adage "you can't take it with you [when you die]".

@kiaram3528 Жыл бұрын

I have always knew this as a notion. Until the earthquake hit to where i used to live in Turkey. The next two days was a shock to me, seeing it crystal clear that this life-my life was never mine. The fleeting nature of everything i have, my friends, my job, my students, my school, my home, the ground i put my foot on to. That anything can happen any time. Yes we survived, but there is no guarantee something else wont happen tomorrow and take everything else that is left. You cant possibly remain in this mindset more than 2 days, then you cant live. We have to do both. Which sounds impossible to me. Now i am living as if i will not die someday. But the understanding of certain things remained. For example i always thought that i will regret for not going to different places for not being brave, for not being outgoing etc when i am in the deathbed at the end of my life or something. But i never thought of those things. I was suffering mostly when i thought about the hearts i ve broken. For the times i couldnt hold myself and got angry at my students, even yelled at them sometimes. Saying mean things to the people i love just because i was depressed or tired. The very clear fact that i cant take any of it back. And everything is buried under ground, there is nothing to do anymore. I made peace with that. Because there is nothing to do except applying the lessons i learned on the future lies ahead of us. I hope you guys can grasp it without actually living it. Thank you einzelganger :)

@yerpderp6800 Жыл бұрын

There were similar things I knew as a notion, like I intellectually understood it without having experienced it. But I didn't really get a lot of them until I experienced them firsthand, then I understood on a personal level. Like knowing life isn't forever is something most people understand when very young, but it tends to not sink in until a loved one dies. Only once death happens to a loved one and realizing never again can you interact with them like you used to does death really start to sink in. It's good to balance lessons. Nothing is permanent, and things tend to not immediately disappear, aka a lot of the time we can work towards something and the thing will still exist once we're done striving for it. I view it as a good way to prioritize stuff. Strive for the things you really want to strive for because you'll never know when you no longer will be able to. It's not good to waste time doing things that aren't fulfilling because each minute you waste is one less minute that could be spent with loved ones, achieving our dreams, helping others, etc. Easier said than done for a good chunk of people but I let this guide a lot of what I do and think, dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership softens my heart and sharpens my ability to live a life I want to live vs living a life I think I need to live.

@kiaram3528 Жыл бұрын

@@yerpderp6800 very well said. I think it is wonderful because if Dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership really softens your heart and sharpens your ability to live, then i think you have gone a good amount of way in your journey of acceptance. It still terrifies me at first, but then when i think about it a little more, there i can see the possibility of that peaceful feeling of being free from all kinds of attachments that there is.

@michaelpidoto3521 Жыл бұрын

So, we are not supposed to strive for a better life and live in poverty is the key to happiness? I don't know if I can agree with this.

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

@michaelpidoto3521 I most certainly don't. Denying good things in life to be more at 9ne wirh the universe or some other backward idea?

@yank4621 Жыл бұрын

Everytime I watch your videos. I get to realise how much work I need to do in my unconscious. Thank you

@fistyann8434 Жыл бұрын

Man. It feels crippling. I'm vaguely old now, and have so little knowledge of myself. How did this not happen? It's wild.

@dirtyunclehubert Жыл бұрын

eventually nobody will ever be a fully mature person. we will always be an uncared for baby, crying out its needs angrily in some aspects of our personality. its our human condition to want and want and want.

@bobhope5114 Жыл бұрын

Then I suggest...Manly P Hall.

@parth6115 Жыл бұрын

@@fistyann8434 destiny! But don't loose hope you will reach supreme peace

@thatguy7249 Жыл бұрын

nobody deserves anything we are born with nothing and we leave with nothing.

@anonymous-jp7bo Жыл бұрын

you got it!

@CanisoGaming Жыл бұрын

Modern wave feminism has greatly boosted entitlement in women. & then modern wave "give him his tablet" parenting greatly boosted entitlement in kids We are jumping into the big societal crisis era very hard & it feels like this one will be the last for humans 😬

@D.IronsWorld Жыл бұрын

Facts! But we leave consequence of our actions. So enjoyment of this experience called "life" it's not nothing!

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

@ogungou9 Жыл бұрын

@Ouga Bouga: After we die we experience nothing, we simply are not. Experiencing nothingness is oxymoronic.

@YourThoughts. Жыл бұрын

“Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realise how unnecessary many things are. We’ve been using them not because we needed them but because we had them.” - Seneca

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@Kalipay_1 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this quote. I really needed to trip on this gem today. 🩷

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

What things are considered unnecessary?

@masteroogway9846 Жыл бұрын

for the mind that expects too much , life is continually at fault, as reality never satisfies. ~Einzelgänger

@luisd5098 Жыл бұрын

Who tf is that?

@gameguru1488 Жыл бұрын

@@luisd5098 this video's creator.

@Userhappi Жыл бұрын

@@luisd5098 😂

@hectorlamar806 Жыл бұрын

@@luisd5098 German word for The Lone Ranger.

@Suiseisexy Жыл бұрын

"I got caught taking money from a billionaire who looks like Emperor Palpatine." - Kurzgesagt

@MtnGirll Жыл бұрын

I've practiced and studied religion my whole life. It has always fascinated me. In my opinion Stoic philosophy is the most meaningful and useful for the modern era and our clearly terrifying future times. It's just perfection.

@Miranox2 Жыл бұрын

The past was terrifying. The future is unknown.

@deioped Жыл бұрын

Nothing is terrifying, it is what it is.

@Miranox2 Жыл бұрын

@@deioped Pretending you are not afraid of anything isn't stoicism. It's being a poser.

@nguyengiorno9026 Жыл бұрын

@@Miranox2 why do you think that person is pretending?

@Miranox2 Жыл бұрын

@@nguyengiorno9026 Because if they weren't afraid of anything, they would've already died from doing something dangerous. Why do you think we have emotions?

@liafuentes326 Жыл бұрын

I've met many people who feel entitled to people or things without deserving them. You should be careful, there is an inmense greed and hunger in the world. Being away from attachments is a blessing!

@Tony-ez5ug Жыл бұрын

@All about Narcissism WHO are you to tell someone has wisdom or not? WHO am i to tell you have wisdom or not?

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

I know what I want out of life and no amount of stoicism will change that

@Jhawk_2k Жыл бұрын

After nearly 6 years of feeling entitled to not being single, letting go of that concept is actually proving to be more productive than chasing the "perfect partner". Thanks for the reminder that our partners will almost definitely not check all the boxes. We settle constantly in life in so many ways, and it is part of joy

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@kirdot2011 Жыл бұрын

I haven't even wasted my time on the chasing part... It's all gonna happen by itself... Or it won't...

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

@@kirdot2011 sure let me sit at home and have everything come to me including a partner, job, money, etc.

@scr4932 Жыл бұрын

@@adammorra3813 People know whether they're interested in someone in the first few seconds they see each other. There's a point in making yourself more visible if you think you have a chance, but not in chasing. A job isn't similar at all - it's guaranteed to pay you as long as you make an effort and if it doesn't pay you despite promising to in the contract, it's illegal.

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

@Scr all I am saying is put effort in. You dont have to chase but go out there and get what you want by putting in the hard work

@CamoGuy76239 Жыл бұрын

I am often overwhelmed by my emotions, but your videos have helped me through the years to deal with them appropriately. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the stoics.

@johngeiger3770 Жыл бұрын

Makes a lot of sense. Do make choices, do put your effort but remember that nature is alive like an organism and since we are part of nature it helps us to learn to dance to its motion.

@anonymous-jp7bo Жыл бұрын

nature is beauty!

@keeganmcfarland7507 Жыл бұрын

@@anonymous-jp7bo true

@Trisof88 Жыл бұрын

@@anonymous-jp7boNature is a narcissist. Pretty but deadly to people

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

Nature is chaotic. It doesn't adhere to philosophy or any particular mindfullness Nature is brutal. Kill or be killed

@Clearlight201 Жыл бұрын

Awesome presentation, thank you! I like the following story, which I believe is attributed to the Jewish tradition, but could apply in any tradition: a man went to see a Holy man for advice. While he was there in the small lodging of the wise teacher, he couldn't stop thinking about the fact that the room was almost completely bare. Eventually he blurted out: "Where are all your things? Your furniture, your possessions?" The Holy man replied, 'Well, where are yours?' .. the man responded: 'But I am just a guest here, I'm only here for a short time.' .. the wise man said, "I am too."

@Clearlight201 Жыл бұрын

(he was aware of death and impermanence, so he did not feel the need to own anything and was content with very little)

@ttocselbag5054 Жыл бұрын

For me, stoicism is the only method I have found that allows me to be at peace and satisfied with my life. Chasing wants, and “I deserves” is counter productive.

@B3NJMN89 Жыл бұрын

It always drove me crazy when I went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and people told me "You deserve a good life." I knew this wasn't true. The world owes us nothing. Not even if we are good people that make good decisions.

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@mahdisultan3546 Жыл бұрын

EVERY GOOD HUMAN DESERVES A GOOD LIFE, GOOD PEOPLE WITH GOOD DECISIONS NOT ONLY DESERVE BUT ALSO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE... A BAD PERSON ALWAYS LIVES A BAD LIFE ,NO MATTER WHETHER THAT PERSON IS RICH,HEALTHY OR NOT...

@B3NJMN89 Жыл бұрын

@@mahdisultan3546 What is a "good person" though? We all have forces of both good and evil inside of us, unless our name is Jesus Christ

@rsmetz88 Жыл бұрын

@@B3NJMN89 You still drink? Do you use this as an excuse to still dabble in your bad habits?

@B3NJMN89 Жыл бұрын

@@rsmetz88 No I'm sober and happy with sober life. I was never one to use excuses. All my problems in life were caused by ME

@madnessbydesignVria Жыл бұрын

"Everything in this world is borrowed." says it all. Thank you for this... :)

@danielschmidt7153 Жыл бұрын

Going throughone of the hardest years of my life, brain tumor, and now my fiancee of 5 years going behind my back even during my surgery. This is so true, everyone eventually leaves you no matter the reason.

@armandoadame3029 Жыл бұрын

Strength my friend strength my partner of 16 years betrayed me just keep going something good has to come I been waiting 4 years I still don't loose hope.

@orangemike802 Жыл бұрын

She wasn't in relationship with you. She's in relationship for beneficial to her. Once your service to her is no longer, she's going to find it elsewhere. Learn about women nature, you'll expect less and also know why they come to you.

@JN-wr9he Жыл бұрын

@@orangemike802 guess men are angels

@erickw2160 Жыл бұрын

This too shall pass

@orangemike802 Жыл бұрын

@@JN-wr9he guess women are always assumed innocent victims because they play victims by default and use it as weapons. Women make a living as victims at times and as their go to until it doesn't.

@maurices5954 Жыл бұрын

I've implemented minimalism and aspects of stoicism into my daily routine over the past 6 years. Asking myself critical questions through countless hours of introspection has made me more at peace with the person i am now becoming. It's exciting to now have goals and ambitions as opposed to experiencing daily routine as a never-ending struggle, and to work towards reaching them has given meaning to the journey itself. The journey that will lead me to actualize potential i did not previously know i was capable of achieving.

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@pride2184 Жыл бұрын

Minimalism or you just poor? Having one on your mantle doesnt necessarily mean your a Minimalist.

@maurices5954 Жыл бұрын

@@pride2184 We all strive towards different ends, each of us choosing our own path to achieving individual goals. There's many layers of minimalism and poor is always a relative concept that can be attempted to be measured in many ways. As i stated before, I've implemented minimalism into my daily routine. I don't label myself as a minimalist. I combine elements that i find useful where ever i may find them to form my own philosophy.

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

Aren't having goals and ambitions against the philosophy of stoicism?

@maurices5954 Жыл бұрын

@@SamuelBlack84 That would imply that the ambition of a stoic is to not have goals, which would be a goal in itself! This would obviously be a contradiction. We all perform certain actions to sustain and prolong our existence, these actions are goals that need to be achieved in order to stay alive.

@Itsunaiz Жыл бұрын

Your content is a gift to mankind.

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

I am the gift.

@Suiseisexy Жыл бұрын

If you think Soros still a man, maybe. We'll find his phylactery eventually.

@nicolehughes5344 Жыл бұрын

You’re content to gift mankind

@Der.Geschichtenerzahler Жыл бұрын

Germans laughing with the double meaning of Gift

@ashspike5232 Жыл бұрын

Videos like these are like free therapy but actually helpful, learning about the ancient ways of viewing happiness is the most liberating thing I've ever experienced

@mindjoystudio6436 Жыл бұрын

I love the saying “when people do things To us, they do things For us.”

@michaelshorten7273 Жыл бұрын

I needed this lesson today. Was feeling jealous and hurt and sensitive. this really helped put life in perspective

@erockfreedom6399 Жыл бұрын

Lots of great points, thank you. There is so much of this entitlement. "What injures the hive, injures the bee."

@simranbansal9303 Жыл бұрын

1) when we attach ourselves to external factors, we limit our happiness to things that are not under our control 2) it's not the person who calls you names, it's not the person that is annoying, it's you who believed these things are insulting. 3) makes you feel less grateful for things you do have. reduce your needs to such a small amount that fortune cannot steal it away from you. get intimate w poverty that it doesn't feel like such a burden 4) Don't ask for things to happen as you want, wish things happen as they do and you find peace in it. 5) if we're all limbs of a body, entitlement is like asking for more resources which will disrupt the balance of the whole body, and ultimately, you won't be happy either.

@shizznp7411 7 ай бұрын

Your Chanel changed how I experience life

@lindyloohoo Жыл бұрын

Temporary gifts… thank you i needed to hear this. Now im gonna toughen up and actually stand up for myself

@amulyamalhi Жыл бұрын

This meaningful video needs to be shown to all those greedy, dishonest and corrupt politicians of this world who always want to cling to power even at the cost of their own citizens.

@Fawn-mn3zv Жыл бұрын

They wouldn't care.

@StoicEvolution1 11 ай бұрын

"Everything that happens happens as it should, and if you observe carefully, you will find this to be so." - Marcus Aurelius

@TheDarkstar3601 Жыл бұрын

I'm glad I discovered this channel. Stoicism has been a difficult practice since I started, but I'm glad it allows me to be gentle with myself.

@alexterieur8813 7 ай бұрын

i think stoicism is greater when combined with mindfullness meditation

@Shedrick_Goldsmith Жыл бұрын

Basically, everything is going to be okay. Thanks for the perspective.

@user-vq7nm9hr5o Жыл бұрын

Sleep well !!! And carry on too ;)

@Suiseisexy Жыл бұрын

And trust the government, who definitely didn't pay this guy to spread content that encourages apolitical behavior and acceptance of bad conditions.

@barium4355 Жыл бұрын

@@Suiseisexy If you honestly believe what you just wrote then you have serious issues. Like I read a lot of nonsense on KZbin but this comment right here is like a new level of insanity.

@garthy4u Жыл бұрын

@@Suiseisexy I can almost guarantee the most political action you've ever taken is adding hashtags to your profile. People like you are so effing exhausting.

@slavic_commonwealth Жыл бұрын

@@Suiseisexy they are watching you they gangstalk you they are in your walls wake up wake up wake up

@leightonsavary7607 Жыл бұрын

I typically dont comment or read comments on videos of this nature due to wanting to come to my own divine revelation on what was said but I felt lead to comment today. Also there is nothing wrong with commenting on these types of pages on sage wisdom its just my first time doing so. And this episode comes right on time as I am currently evolving my perspective on a health situation my uncle is dealing with for now. And I must say thank you for another Evergreen episode on a timeless topic👌🏽

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

@@Novastar.SaberCombatThere's nothing to embrace in the present I've made plans for the future and others dismantled them

@MYwinters1945 Жыл бұрын

I keep feeling entitled to a better salary working for a first world company from a third world country. That entitlement has become a source of constant anger, thinking obsesively about how much I "should" get paid. This video hits the nail in the head.

@user-vq7nm9hr5o Жыл бұрын

Oh...why 3 rd country can't make any company's of there own !!! Empty box...

@MYwinters1945 Жыл бұрын

@NothingSpecial exactly what I mean, I have trouble letting go of the entitlement, but thats what it is.

@keeganmcfarland7507 Жыл бұрын

@MYwinters1945 You mean it's better to have a small soulful studio rather than a big shitty soulless corporation?

@iExploder Жыл бұрын

@@user-vq7nm9hr5o They do. It just so happens that first world companies can pay better because they're making all the money. Keep in mind that first world companies hire in third world countries specifically BECAUSE they can pay people there less.

@USBEN. Жыл бұрын

You are not entitled to better salary and the company isn't entitled to your good work either.

@earthrooster1969 Жыл бұрын

Family! The biggest foundation of human society seems where all the 'entitlement' starts early on. My family, my son, my daughter, my next generation...that starts extending to things, pets, lands, countries.. Loss of entitlement is a huge sense of freedom ❤

@SamuelBlack84 Жыл бұрын

I prefer not to shackle myself to children. I don't even know why having kids is such an important thing to do. Unless the population took a huge nosedive It's just blindly obeying the instinct to reproduce

@spazbates5142 Жыл бұрын

It's tough to hold my attention without skipping. You do it VERY well. Wonderful content.

@wernerbuitendag9023 Жыл бұрын

Just remember if there is for example a narcissist in your life causing you pain and suffering being with toxic people and getting rid of them isn't entitlement it is taking control of what is in your control and that is by getting the toxic out of your life as much as you can.

@phonesjuda7318 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, I was looking for someone talking about that circumstance. Where someone is being a piece of shit because they are deeply narcissistic and manipulative, how does one can apply all that pretension of not expecting or not being entitled to kindness of others, while not getting completely abused by this person. How could one apply Stoicism and still get bad people out of your life

@rush8280 Жыл бұрын

Well, if stoicism is about knowing that you only have control over your thoughts and actions - you’re free to move away from those toxic people in your life, because that’s within your control. And the not being entitled would probably mean not feeling like you need them to be kind to you if they’re just toxic people in general

@conanobrian8580 Жыл бұрын

@Rush actually the principle being that you "deserve" respect and kindness from others ties in to the concept that you are not offended by toxic people but by the way your brain tells you that you are being disrespected. Therefore you should accept people for how they are cause we are all limbs of a super body.

@wernerbuitendag9023 Жыл бұрын

@@conanobrian8580 but keeping in mind to achieve a place of contentment you are allowed not to accept people for who they are and move forward by leaving them alone and focus on your self and people you do accept in your life. For example you have a toxic person in your life wife or husband and they don't want to be kind to you then you have the power of control to move them out of your life as much as possible in order to feel content with yourself. It's not entitlement... People that can't accept this mentality in itself has entitlement because they feel that they have to force their ideas onto others for acceptance.

@robinbosma2793 7 ай бұрын

Amen❤.. they suck our energy, fill their ego. An adult argument is a massive fight, i always tell when i am angry, i care so it hurts. But they have no empathie, en Instant trying to hurt me , using my weak side. Which told in trust. And mirror. She has no friends. So i helped. She was on bad medication. Tapering. Had a baby ( with my narc ex) she told me every thing 😅. Wat too much. Now she is of meds. Ieft him. He is an wife beater, cheater, raped a 12 yr old , she got away. Me... 15 times. We 🎉 yes. She ended it. Door closed. And my kid told same day. She plans a vacation. And tomorrow we go 3 days. I was pissed But she turned it al around. And the way.,. It was a monster. 😮 Leasons learned. Use energy for you. Helping here was also boosting my ego.. And never again argue with a narc.

@aaronmcbride2950 Жыл бұрын

One of the greatest pleasures is deriving pleasure from not seeking great pleasure.

@kcdtran Жыл бұрын

Know Buddhism and these thoughts and stories feel a lot more powerful than they already do. Thanks for the video.

@nyallcollinson2937 Жыл бұрын

These videos always seem to come out just as I need them. :) I've watched so many of these and they have improved my life in many ways. I recently endured a short term toxic relationship falsely believing by stoic teachings that I should have the ability to endure, and make that person better through example. Until one day I came across a writing by epictetus surrounding the removal of toxic people. "Surround yourself with philosphers," and it makes sense. It's not about taking pain continuously but a clever way to deal with aversion until you can remove yourself far, far away from them. The relationship ended and I've never felt so grateful for the simple things I have in life. I've never felt entitled personally but the people I consequently end up being in relationships with, are by their narcissistic nature. I'm kind of a giggling because I know my ex narc would watch some of these with me and say "it's a bunch of shit". 😅 So they'd never value this content with their entiltment alone 🤣🤣🤣. A part of me feels pain for this individual. There is nothing I can do other than control my own actions. I did feel angry because I did at least feel I was owed to be treated with respect by this individual, but as this video points out - it's a waste of time, especially if the other person chooses not to. It was infuriating. However, I've let go now. :)

@chrislopes Жыл бұрын

Just when the day before I heard and was considering that "I deserve what I want" and "I'm entitled to what I want". Thank you! You're a candle that lights up the neighborhood

@bananabread888 Жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this video and needed this teaching and talk on entitlement today. It feels good to remain balanced, grateful and grounded in life and it’s something I’ll be complementing for a lifetime ❤

@shyper17 Жыл бұрын

I agree that we must remove our feeling of entitlement to things from our heads, as it is a rather foolish assumption that we own anything in this world. Anything can get legally taken away from us. Thus I am able to let go of a feeling that I deserve something, simply because I never thought I deserve it. I know that all I get is temporary. As is my life. However, there is something I cannot quite understand. "We know we aren't entitled to it, so why hold onto it?" you said. Well, does that mean I should stop feeling attachments to people? Just because I am not entitled to own a person, which I am obviously not, does not necessarily mean I should relieve myself of any emotions I feel. While I do not believe I am entitled to have a girlfriend, I do strongly believe that I am allowed to love a girl. Loving someone is not a sense of entitlement. You do not wish to own the person you love. You wish to protect them. Not because you feel a sense of entitlement towards them, not because you need them to remain in your life, but because you care for theirs. Because you wish best for them. You wish to protect them. Love is not about oneself. Love is all about the other person, and certainly not about you having an "I need to own that girl" mentality.

@mooripo Жыл бұрын

*_To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken_* Thank you very much. I always avoid mentioning anything related to my faith publicly, but just bear with me on this. I've been reading on stoicism since at least 1 year and I'm always amazed with its similarities to my current faith, as said, I always avoid mentioning it publicly but this time, bear with it. The core concept in this video is very similar to another very important concept in Islam that we have a idiom for it, below I'll leave the Arabic text, in English it translates to *To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken* لله ما أعطى ولله ما أخذ

@joshuakaeble7810 10 ай бұрын

I love your wise words. I feel like I'm not being ad bombed and scammed when I watch your videos, and this is so very refreshing.

@MiguelTrujillo1 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I needed now. Thank you for the this message. You have really help me today. Thank you again, kind soul.

@comicsans7437 Жыл бұрын

The teachings in this video match the teachings of Christianity perfectly. Funny that, how it's like living how Christ teaches us to but with the concept of God removed. The ideas of not desiring material things or clinging on to riches, fame, glory, approval or anything else finite and seeking satisfaction in these things is a very prevalent teaching of Jesus. The concept of treating others well even if they are horrible to you, giving without expecting anything back or loving unconditionally and the list goes on. It all fits. I personally find it beautiful how despite the way we live so divided and act as though we are so different from one another, really we are all connected somehow. And I believe that connection lies in being one of God's creations, made in His image. We're all like one big family, and we certainly do act like it too actually if you think about it. Family members have disagreements and fight all the time. Sometimes it can get violent and horrible, there is often emotional blackmail or abuse, manipulation, slander... But all families aren't like that, not all the time. And we don't have to be either. We just need love.

@emtars1827 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are getting better and better!

@Faeriefungus Жыл бұрын

This just helped me through a very dark thought process thank you so much

@nandozago5 Жыл бұрын

I simply love this chanel. I can't describe how helpful it was for me in so many moments of my life. This is a huge gift, thank you so much Einzelgänger!!

@edyncrowley2894 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for all of your amazing and edifying videos. They are truly enlightening and inspiring. I am now trying to incorporate Stoic ideas into my own life as often as possible. It just seems to make dealing with the madness of modernistic life, so much easier. Thanks

@Henry-Wilder Жыл бұрын

When we don't aim higher than what we already have, we are crushed by the people who do.

@hogotusaal 10 ай бұрын

Being entitled and thinking your deserve better treatment than others is also what is causing the horrible conflict we are witnessing today.

@peaceofmind913 Жыл бұрын

The world owes you nothing. It was here first. ~ Mark Twain

@Leto85 Жыл бұрын

I have been subscribed to/fan of your channel for many years so far, but I'd like to say that out of all other helpful videos you've already uploaded this one is in my opinion the best of them all. I'd like to add to your wisdom that by wanting something you can't have (or as your title sad: don't deserve) you're actually giving your brain a task it cannot solve. The brain does not speak to the individual with words, but it does speak to you with a feeling of unpleasantment. Rather one chooses to address that unpleasant feeling and act on it or choses to suppress it instead and continue one's behavior is up to the individual. I don't think the individual can be blamed for not chosing the right option here, as I think the individual in that case for whatever personal reason doesn't believe yet that he or she to can become happy. Of course, there's always time to learn for as long as that individual lives. :) Thank you for uploading this video.

@mb2647 Жыл бұрын

I already knew that but it’s still fascinating to hear that yes everything and everyone is borrowed and it’s temporary but we can enjoy it until it’s time for god to call us

@miguelatkinson Жыл бұрын

Great message despite me being an agnosticatheist

@mb2647 Жыл бұрын

@@miguelatkinson despite the different choices and Beliefs people choose that does not matter to me. As long as we get together and be in peace and respect and get along that’s all that matters to me have a good day miguel

@anjalinetragaonkar3738 Жыл бұрын

I think this is easily the best stoic video on internet rn.

@TheLupine3rd Жыл бұрын

I was feeling really depressed because my wife has become really cold towards me., not even sure if she has some feeling towards soemone else and not sure it when I come back shes going to leave me. I took some days off to see my parents who both have been fighting cancer. Their house its a little piece of paradiese but I feel like im in hell because of all the things go through my mind right now. But this video actually helped me to settle down my feelings now, thank you. Im aware that we are all struggling in life , but cotent like this is what helps to appreciate what we have and how lucky we are to be alive.

@nicholasmazmanianjr.2690 Жыл бұрын

I had a professor last name Aste, who would always quote "Life is a paradise of lies, mine and yours."

@alexterieur8813 7 ай бұрын

love that

@who034 Жыл бұрын

One of your most important videos. People so much are sold this bill of goods and do not realize this is even happening. 🌈🌠🙏

@World.21 Жыл бұрын

We feel that way because other people have those things! We hate the unfairness!

@waltermeerschaert Жыл бұрын

This phrase popped into my head a few years ago and now it runs my life: "You want what you want, but you get what you get."

@ABC-yk9if Жыл бұрын

Watching this, is not less than a meditation ❤

@thomaswin5535 Жыл бұрын

Quite amazing that Stoicism overlaps with Buddhism in their attitudes towards things. We came naked into the world, and so are we when we leave.

@rainmanjr2007 Жыл бұрын

Some think that Lao Tzu travelled into Afghanistan, spreading the ideas which are foundational to Stoicism, while his Tao Te Ching became influential for Buddhist thought into the 1st Century. This would explain that link but I came to the ideas largely on my own and have grown from earlier insights and lessons.

@thomaswin5535 Жыл бұрын

@@rainmanjr2007 Quite possibly Neil. I'd also add that the Silk Road will have played a role in it too.

@sanayalove9194 Жыл бұрын

Every human being deserves a safe home and to be protected from abuse. Stop saying people who are abused DESERVE it.

@thenightwatchman1598 Жыл бұрын

its almost as if this channel is geared towards making the already privileged in society not feel guilty for the have nots. its neoliberalism personified.

@Nila0608 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for taking time to create this video! Much needed in today's time and age. We need to constantly remind ourselves of this message.Grateful 🙏🤍

@doptimist Жыл бұрын

I really love your videos and found them at a time in my life when I badly needed them. Peace and love from Ireland!

@nemzyg Жыл бұрын

It’s simple to get what you want is to deserve what you want. Your worth it factors

@breemo1991 Жыл бұрын

This channel is a manifestation of love. We love you Mr. Einzelgänger. You're awesome! Thank you for what you do. Please do something on Islam and the new reversion trend sweeping the west. Peace and blessings ❤

@Ike1129 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this video. This definitely is keeping me in check.

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

You are not entitled to it though

@srijankamboj1621 Жыл бұрын

Man, I needed this video. Thanks!

@Succulent_Stroker Жыл бұрын

Starting a new chapter of my life

@areejps 9 ай бұрын

the world need this video the most, now , especially in these inflation status we are living in and the trend of consumerism ... that let people buy more and more stuff, just because someone advertised it or become a trend, even though not really needed ... so this video helped me so much with my problem of over buying .. where i buy a lot of things i do not need and sometimes will never use

@rydergoode6922 Жыл бұрын

The most painful sense of entitlement is what some call "heaven's reward" the notion that just because you did a good deed such as work hard most of your life that you are entitled to good things, sadly shit just doesn't work like that. Mostly you get what you reward not what you deserve.

@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын

@dausk6381 Жыл бұрын

beautiful, thank you so much for making this video

@accawithtushar Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I love this channel ❤️

@MichelPham-z2x Жыл бұрын

Thank-you so much for reminding us these well worth practicing ancient wisdom. Much needed to renew these days...

@Userhappi Жыл бұрын

Peace to the world and mankind ❤

@lindyloohoo Жыл бұрын

Ouch. Virtuous parents and fair siblings. I needed to hear this.

@Chuck_N0rris Жыл бұрын

This is key to get. If you get to a point where you dont care if you loose everything, you are doing something right. You know that you can loose everything and still be okay. Because you have skills and you have a purpose.

@coreywiley3981 Жыл бұрын

There are some useful tools in Stoicism, but I believe that it can foster indifference and encourage acceptance of the status quo. Additionally, I think it teaches people to repress their emotions and be less empathetic.

@chanson8508 Жыл бұрын

I find this to be true as well 👍🏽 I think finding a balance between being a "stoic monk" internally, while still being meaningfully engaged with the world & yourself is the "trick" so to speak 🗣 the duality of the world strikes again! ☯️

@christinebeames712 Жыл бұрын

Hi I agree , the stoicism at the moment will be the death of us , we need action not acceptance , we should not accept slavery when there is a chance of stopping it ,

@professionaloverthinker8991 Жыл бұрын

Stoicism actually promotes action. The acceptance part comes when we can't change something

@soufianeelhagani9483 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are truly life changing. Thank you tremendously!

@dadikkedude Жыл бұрын

The sense of intitlement if taken away is cause for suffering is only half of the story. In some ways it works getting or holding on to things that you want in the real world. People use this emotion to fight for something or abuse it to manipulate to gain or maintain what they 'have'. Let's say power, wealth, position but also affection. This should be understood aswell before someone uses it against you, especially in case of power.

@russellniebolt1493 Жыл бұрын

This is food for the soul........thanks Einzelgander.... What a lesson for the entitlement culture currently at play in the western culture.....and personally in our own hearts and souls.

@susan1302 Жыл бұрын

I am always amazed by how much Epictetus has in common with the Buddha

@rmn8818 Жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭 I needed to hear this. Thank you so much 😭😭😭😭😭😭

@joaohenrique25 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your video, man! It's a great inspiration

@adammorra3813 Жыл бұрын

Joao is that you? Are you still in Portugal? Hit me up.

@tabithasands2257 Жыл бұрын

We deserve everything we can imagine and believe.

@slowentropy4531 Жыл бұрын

As always thank you. Your videos have really helped me push aside that desire for more and more and working myself to the bone to get it. Im so content with a simpler life now, working less and spending time with my children and just being mindful of my life and actually enjoying it. Its so sad in our western society we are raised to be so driven to have the newest things, to feel if we are not pushing ourselves to work OT and make our companies more and more profit we are failures. Tell next time everyone :)

@thembinkosidube3918 Жыл бұрын

"Whatever Comes is the right thing ".Buddist monk God bless Thank you ...

@andyschwartz8808 Жыл бұрын

By the same logic, you are entitled to whatever you can take, whatever the means. If you possess the ability to take something, then it is yours. Whoever had it before was just borrowing it anyway, so no need for remorse.

@SophiaAphrodite Жыл бұрын

True but the very core of stoicism is virtue. If your actions are not virtuous. They are unacceptable.

@andyschwartz8808 Жыл бұрын

@@SophiaAphrodite doubt it

@simpatico4004 Жыл бұрын

@@andyschwartz8808The four virtues of stoicism are justice, courage, temperance, and wisdom. I’d think if you’re entitled to your neighbors wife or possessions, simply because you can take it by force, then you’re compromising on justice, which is regarded as the source of all other virtues. Not only that, if you go around taking whatever you want without fairness, you are inviting a pool of enemies into your world.

@SusanB101 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I do wish I could share it with my dear mom but she doesn’t understand English… the way you weave the story, the pace, the editing, and of course the content in itself is so deep, rich and engaging! Hard to replicate in simple words. Nevertheless I shall try and share these wise thoughts with her and see if I can find any videos about stoicism in Korean. Thank you again for this great video. It really struck a chord with me. ✨

@alias9236 Жыл бұрын

I feel like it's important to say that what you want and what a person needs are different. Don't use this philosophy to stiffle social benefits, like housing, healthcare, and things people need. Always fight for a better life, we can't all be Diogynese living in a pot

@preetamgupta1589 Жыл бұрын

Brilliantly narrated wisdom!!

@wernhervonbraun3723 Жыл бұрын

"When it comes to entitlement, the world not giving us what believe we earn isn't the problem. The problem is believing we deserve something we don't." Pause for a second and reload it.

@parth6115 Жыл бұрын

Thanks