You Don’t Deserve What You Want | Stoic Philosophy

[@maryanngarcia3080]

In the last few years, I’ve lost everything. Husband, house, furnishings , jewelry etc. etc. Now I’m slowly dying of cancer, and realize that absolutely nothing is forever, just borrowed. All that matters these days is giving and receiving kindness.

[@shahinazmeerriza5377]

You're so strong... I wish you perseverance and strength ❤

[@chiaraog5476]

bless you soon.

[@kwasiboat9467]

Wish you fast recovery. Hope the best.

[@sebastianemig6089]

Hope you will improve!

[@From-Hurt-to-Healing]

I am so sorry. Lots of hugs. Please know that you are loved.

[@ReynaSingh]

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus

[@anonymous-jp7bo]

indeed!

[@stephaniestevenson6335]

Then I am enormously wealthy and very content!

[@YM-zf8mt]

i'm pretty sure i know about a few wealthy guys who are defined by the fact that they want everything, their wealth comes from it

[@alphonsobutlakiv789]

I have great possessions in spaces, yet barely use them, yet still added on to them the smallest of spaces and only because I could, and at little cost. Had rooms big enough to fit houses in, but spent time in ones I can't even stand in. Now I feel I build for looks over function, and in a way, in abandoning the structures is likely in time, beauty alown me help them lore people in to keep them beautiful, regardless of any function. As as a tree is beautiful for not being bothered, a building is ugly for not being bothered with work enough, and who cares if the ugly get ugly?

[@adammorra3813]

Only poor people say that

[@Eternal.Stoics]

*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson

[@gregorizi]

When there is money you have no normal friends. Collective is bad, self centered and lost without real moral compass.

[@adammorra3813]

​@gregorizi so people with money have no friends? U r crazy

[@gregorizi]

@@adammorra3813 some have seen your programming and majority think your skills suck

[@rahulbarca4112]

@WisdomQuotes Amen to that.

[@garthy4u]

​@@adammorra3813 as a thought, consider why the statement triggered your emotions to the point where you completely misread the comment. They said no "normal" friends. Money changes the dynamics of relationships. To argue otherwise shows you're naivety.

[@MustafaKulle]

I remember Slavoj Zizek saying something like this; "There are two tragedies in life, those who don't get what they want, and those who get what they want."

[@petra-go9jp]

Yes it is one of my most favorite quotes by Oscar Wilde.

[@adammorra3813]

Actually, that quote was stolen from me

[@MrGuggisberg]

How do I be cursed to get what I want?

[@orhanguldag3419]

@@MrGuggisberg cause it will be taken away from you eventually

[@iExploder]

@@orhanguldag3419 The old adage "you can't take it with you [when you die]".

[@thatguy7249]

nobody deserves anything we are born with nothing and we leave with nothing.

[@anonymous-jp7bo]

you got it!

[@CanisoGaming]

Modern wave feminism has greatly boosted entitlement in women. & then modern wave "give him his tablet" parenting greatly boosted entitlement in kids We are jumping into the big societal crisis era very hard & it feels like this one will be the last for humans 😬

[@D.IronsWorld]

Facts! But we leave consequence of our actions. So enjoyment of this experience called "life" it's not nothing!

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@ogungou9]

@Ouga Bouga: After we die we experience nothing, we simply are not. Experiencing nothingness is oxymoronic.

[@yank4621]

Everytime I watch your videos. I get to realise how much work I need to do in my unconscious. Thank you

[@fistyann8434]

Man. It feels crippling. I'm vaguely old now, and have so little knowledge of myself. How did this not happen? It's wild.

[@dirtyunclehubert]

eventually nobody will ever be a fully mature person. we will always be an uncared for baby, crying out its needs angrily in some aspects of our personality. its our human condition to want and want and want.

[@bobhope5114]

Then I suggest...Manly P Hall.

[@parth6115]

​@@fistyann8434 destiny! But don't loose hope you will reach supreme peace

[@kiaram3528]

I have always knew this as a notion. Until the earthquake hit to where i used to live in Turkey. The next two days was a shock to me, seeing it crystal clear that this life-my life was never mine. The fleeting nature of everything i have, my friends, my job, my students, my school, my home, the ground i put my foot on to. That anything can happen any time. Yes we survived, but there is no guarantee something else wont happen tomorrow and take everything else that is left. You cant possibly remain in this mindset more than 2 days, then you cant live. We have to do both. Which sounds impossible to me. Now i am living as if i will not die someday. But the understanding of certain things remained. For example i always thought that i will regret for not going to different places for not being brave, for not being outgoing etc when i am in the deathbed at the end of my life or something. But i never thought of those things. I was suffering mostly when i thought about the hearts i ve broken. For the times i couldnt hold myself and got angry at my students, even yelled at them sometimes. Saying mean things to the people i love just because i was depressed or tired. The very clear fact that i cant take any of it back. And everything is buried under ground, there is nothing to do anymore. I made peace with that. Because there is nothing to do except applying the lessons i learned on the future lies ahead of us. I hope you guys can grasp it without actually living it. Thank you einzelganger :)

[@yerpderp6800]

There were similar things I knew as a notion, like I intellectually understood it without having experienced it. But I didn't really get a lot of them until I experienced them firsthand, then I understood on a personal level. Like knowing life isn't forever is something most people understand when very young, but it tends to not sink in until a loved one dies. Only once death happens to a loved one and realizing never again can you interact with them like you used to does death really start to sink in. It's good to balance lessons. Nothing is permanent, and things tend to not immediately disappear, aka a lot of the time we can work towards something and the thing will still exist once we're done striving for it. I view it as a good way to prioritize stuff. Strive for the things you really want to strive for because you'll never know when you no longer will be able to. It's not good to waste time doing things that aren't fulfilling because each minute you waste is one less minute that could be spent with loved ones, achieving our dreams, helping others, etc. Easier said than done for a good chunk of people but I let this guide a lot of what I do and think, dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership softens my heart and sharpens my ability to live a life I want to live vs living a life I think I need to live.

[@kiaram3528]

@@yerpderp6800 very well said. I think it is wonderful because if Dwelling on mortality and lack of true ownership really softens your heart and sharpens your ability to live, then i think you have gone a good amount of way in your journey of acceptance. It still terrifies me at first, but then when i think about it a little more, there i can see the possibility of that peaceful feeling of being free from all kinds of attachments that there is.

[@michaelpidoto3521]

So, we are not supposed to strive for a better life and live in poverty is the key to happiness? I don't know if I can agree with this.

[@SamuelBlack84]

​@michaelpidoto3521 I most certainly don't. Denying good things in life to be more at 9ne wirh the universe or some other backward idea?

[@sevendeadlychins]

I've practiced and studied religion my whole life. It has always fascinated me. In my opinion Stoic philosophy is the most meaningful and useful for the modern era and our clearly terrifying future times. It's just perfection.

[@Miranox2]

The past was terrifying. The future is unknown.

[@deioped]

Nothing is terrifying, it is what it is.

[@Miranox2]

@@deioped Pretending you are not afraid of anything isn't stoicism. It's being a poser.

[@nguyengiorno9026]

​@@Miranox2 why do you think that person is pretending?

[@Miranox2]

@@nguyengiorno9026 Because if they weren't afraid of anything, they would've already died from doing something dangerous. Why do you think we have emotions?

[@danielschmidt7153]

Going throughone of the hardest years of my life, brain tumor, and now my fiancee of 5 years going behind my back even during my surgery. This is so true, everyone eventually leaves you no matter the reason.

[@armandoadame3029]

Strength my friend strength my partner of 16 years betrayed me just keep going something good has to come I been waiting 4 years I still don't loose hope.

[@orangemike802]

She wasn't in relationship with you. She's in relationship for beneficial to her. Once your service to her is no longer, she's going to find it elsewhere. Learn about women nature, you'll expect less and also know why they come to you.

[@JN-wr9he]

@@orangemike802 guess men are angels

[@erickw2160]

This too shall pass

[@orangemike802]

@@JN-wr9he guess women are always assumed innocent victims because they play victims by default and use it as weapons. Women make a living as victims at times and as their go to until it doesn't.

[@benholden3]

It always drove me crazy when I went to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and people told me "You deserve a good life." I knew this wasn't true. The world owes us nothing. Not even if we are good people that make good decisions.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@mahdisultan3546]

EVERY GOOD HUMAN DESERVES A GOOD LIFE, GOOD PEOPLE WITH GOOD DECISIONS NOT ONLY DESERVE BUT ALSO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE... A BAD PERSON ALWAYS LIVES A BAD LIFE ,NO MATTER WHETHER THAT PERSON IS RICH,HEALTHY OR NOT...

[@benholden3]

@@mahdisultan3546 What is a "good person" though? We all have forces of both good and evil inside of us, unless our name is Jesus Christ

[@rsmetz88]

​@@benholden3 You still drink? Do you use this as an excuse to still dabble in your bad habits?

[@benholden3]

@@rsmetz88 No I'm sober and happy with sober life. I was never one to use excuses. All my problems in life were caused by ME

[@liafuentes326]

I've met many people who feel entitled to people or things without deserving them. You should be careful, there is an inmense greed and hunger in the world. Being away from attachments is a blessing!

[@Tony-ez5ug]

@All about Narcissism WHO are you to tell someone has wisdom or not? WHO am i to tell you have wisdom or not?

[@SamuelBlack84]

I know what I want out of life and no amount of stoicism will change that

[@johngeiger3770]

Makes a lot of sense. Do make choices, do put your effort but remember that nature is alive like an organism and since we are part of nature it helps us to learn to dance to its motion.

[@anonymous-jp7bo]

nature is beauty!

[@keeganmcfarland7507]

​@@anonymous-jp7bo true

[@Trisof88]

​@@anonymous-jp7boNature is a narcissist. Pretty but deadly to people

[@SamuelBlack84]

Nature is chaotic. It doesn't adhere to philosophy or any particular mindfullness Nature is brutal. Kill or be killed

[@Shedrick_Goldsmith]

Basically, everything is going to be okay. Thanks for the perspective.

[@user-vq7nm9hr5o]

Sleep well !!! And carry on too ;)

[@Suiseisexy]

And trust the government, who definitely didn't pay this guy to spread content that encourages apolitical behavior and acceptance of bad conditions.

[@barium4355]

​@@Suiseisexy If you honestly believe what you just wrote then you have serious issues. Like I read a lot of nonsense on KZbin but this comment right here is like a new level of insanity.

[@garthy4u]

​@@Suiseisexy I can almost guarantee the most political action you've ever taken is adding hashtags to your profile. People like you are so effing exhausting.

[@slavic_commonwealth]

@@Suiseisexy they are watching you they gangstalk you they are in your walls wake up wake up wake up

[@maurices5954]

I've implemented minimalism and aspects of stoicism into my daily routine over the past 6 years. Asking myself critical questions through countless hours of introspection has made me more at peace with the person i am now becoming. It's exciting to now have goals and ambitions as opposed to experiencing daily routine as a never-ending struggle, and to work towards reaching them has given meaning to the journey itself. The journey that will lead me to actualize potential i did not previously know i was capable of achieving.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@pride2184]

Minimalism or you just poor? Having one on your mantle doesnt necessarily mean your a Minimalist.

[@maurices5954]

@@pride2184 We all strive towards different ends, each of us choosing our own path to achieving individual goals. There's many layers of minimalism and poor is always a relative concept that can be attempted to be measured in many ways. As i stated before, I've implemented minimalism into my daily routine. I don't label myself as a minimalist. I combine elements that i find useful where ever i may find them to form my own philosophy.

[@SamuelBlack84]

Aren't having goals and ambitions against the philosophy of stoicism?

[@maurices5954]

@@SamuelBlack84 That would imply that the ambition of a stoic is to not have goals, which would be a goal in itself! This would obviously be a contradiction. We all perform certain actions to sustain and prolong our existence, these actions are goals that need to be achieved in order to stay alive.

[@mindjoystudio6436]

I love the saying “when people do things To us, they do things For us.”

[@CamoGuy76239]

I am often overwhelmed by my emotions, but your videos have helped me through the years to deal with them appropriately. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of the stoics.

[@Itsunaiz]

Your content is a gift to mankind.

[@adammorra3813]

I am the gift.

[@Suiseisexy]

If you think Soros still a man, maybe. We'll find his phylactery eventually.

[@nicolehughes5344]

You’re content to gift mankind

[@Der.Geschichtenerzahler]

Germans laughing with the double meaning of Gift

[@MYwinters1945]

I keep feeling entitled to a better salary working for a first world company from a third world country. That entitlement has become a source of constant anger, thinking obsesively about how much I "should" get paid. This video hits the nail in the head.

[@user-vq7nm9hr5o]

Oh...why 3 rd country can't make any company's of there own !!! Empty box...

[@MYwinters1945]

@NothingSpecial exactly what I mean, I have trouble letting go of the entitlement, but thats what it is.

[@keeganmcfarland7507]

​@MYwinters1945 You mean it's better to have a small soulful studio rather than a big shitty soulless corporation?

[@iExploder]

@@user-vq7nm9hr5o They do. It just so happens that first world companies can pay better because they're making all the money. Keep in mind that first world companies hire in third world countries specifically BECAUSE they can pay people there less.

[@USBEN.]

You are not entitled to better salary and the company isn't entitled to your good work either.

[@madnessbydesign1415]

"Everything in this world is borrowed." says it all. Thank you for this... :)

[@ttocselbag5054]

For me, stoicism is the only method I have found that allows me to be at peace and satisfied with my life. Chasing wants, and “I deserves” is counter productive.

[@wernerbuitendag9023]

Just remember if there is for example a narcissist in your life causing you pain and suffering being with toxic people and getting rid of them isn't entitlement it is taking control of what is in your control and that is by getting the toxic out of your life as much as you can.

[@phonesjuda7318]

Thank you, I was looking for someone talking about that circumstance. Where someone is being a piece of shit because they are deeply narcissistic and manipulative, how does one can apply all that pretension of not expecting or not being entitled to kindness of others, while not getting completely abused by this person. How could one apply Stoicism and still get bad people out of your life

[@rush8280]

Well, if stoicism is about knowing that you only have control over your thoughts and actions - you’re free to move away from those toxic people in your life, because that’s within your control. And the not being entitled would probably mean not feeling like you need them to be kind to you if they’re just toxic people in general

[@conanobrian8580]

​@Rush actually the principle being that you "deserve" respect and kindness from others ties in to the concept that you are not offended by toxic people but by the way your brain tells you that you are being disrespected. Therefore you should accept people for how they are cause we are all limbs of a super body.

[@wernerbuitendag9023]

@@conanobrian8580 but keeping in mind to achieve a place of contentment you are allowed not to accept people for who they are and move forward by leaving them alone and focus on your self and people you do accept in your life. For example you have a toxic person in your life wife or husband and they don't want to be kind to you then you have the power of control to move them out of your life as much as possible in order to feel content with yourself. It's not entitlement... People that can't accept this mentality in itself has entitlement because they feel that they have to force their ideas onto others for acceptance.

[@robinbosma2793]

Amen❤.. they suck our energy, fill their ego. An adult argument is a massive fight, i always tell when i am angry, i care so it hurts. But they have no empathie, en Instant trying to hurt me , using my weak side. Which told in trust. And mirror. She has no friends. So i helped. She was on bad medication. Tapering. Had a baby ( with my narc ex) she told me every thing 😅. Wat too much. Now she is of meds. Ieft him. He is an wife beater, cheater, raped a 12 yr old , she got away. Me... 15 times. We 🎉 yes. She ended it. Door closed. And my kid told same day. She plans a vacation. And tomorrow we go 3 days. I was pissed But she turned it al around. And the way.,. It was a monster. 😮 Leasons learned. Use energy for you. Helping here was also boosting my ego.. And never again argue with a narc.

[@sanayalove9194]

Every human being deserves a safe home and to be protected from abuse. Stop saying people who are abused DESERVE it.

[@thenightwatchman1598]

its almost as if this channel is geared towards making the already privileged in society not feel guilty for the have nots. its neoliberalism personified.

[@DrumWild]

This is what the boss says after you work a full day and he refuses to pay you.

[@BuySmartChannel2700]

Something we all dont want to hear and be told.

[@amulyamalhi]

This meaningful video needs to be shown to all those greedy, dishonest and corrupt politicians of this world who always want to cling to power even at the cost of their own citizens.

[@Fawn-mn3zv]

They wouldn't care.

[@michaelshorten7273]

I needed this lesson today. Was feeling jealous and hurt and sensitive. this really helped put life in perspective

[@erockfreedom6399]

Lots of great points, thank you. There is so much of this entitlement. "What injures the hive, injures the bee."

[@aaronmcbride2950]

One of the greatest pleasures is deriving pleasure from not seeking great pleasure.

[@peaceofmind913]

The world owes you nothing. It was here first. ~ Mark Twain

[@AwokenEntertainment]

so this is where the phrase "not your girl, just your turn" comes from

[@deathmetalpotato]

yes, it’s a quote from Marcus Incelius but seriously, no. stoicism doesn’t condone the immorality of betrayal, adultery and ghosting.

[@rydergoode6922]

The most painful sense of entitlement is what some call "heaven's reward" the notion that just because you did a good deed such as work hard most of your life that you are entitled to good things, sadly shit just doesn't work like that. Mostly you get what you reward not what you deserve.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@TheDarkstar3601]

I'm glad I discovered this channel. Stoicism has been a difficult practice since I started, but I'm glad it allows me to be gentle with myself.

[@alexterieur8813]

i think stoicism is greater when combined with mindfullness meditation

[@masteroogway9846]

for the mind that expects too much , life is continually at fault, as reality never satisfies. ~Einzelgänger

[@luisd5098]

Who tf is that?

[@gameguru1488]

@@luisd5098 this video's creator.

[@Userhappi]

​@@luisd5098 😂

[@hectorlamar806]

@@luisd5098 German word for The Lone Ranger.

[@Suiseisexy]

"I got caught taking money from a billionaire who looks like Emperor Palpatine." - Kurzgesagt

[@World.21]

We feel that way because other people have those things! We hate the unfairness!

[@ashspike5232]

Videos like these are like free therapy but actually helpful, learning about the ancient ways of viewing happiness is the most liberating thing I've ever experienced

[@lindyloohoo]

Temporary gifts… thank you i needed to hear this. Now im gonna toughen up and actually stand up for myself

[@mooripo]

*_To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken_* Thank you very much. I always avoid mentioning anything related to my faith publicly, but just bear with me on this. I've been reading on stoicism since at least 1 year and I'm always amazed with its similarities to my current faith, as said, I always avoid mentioning it publicly but this time, bear with it. The core concept in this video is very similar to another very important concept in Islam that we have a idiom for it, below I'll leave the Arabic text, in English it translates to *To God what He has given, and to God what He has taken* لله ما أعطى ولله ما أخذ

[@spazbates5142]

It's tough to hold my attention without skipping. You do it VERY well. Wonderful content.

[@nyallcollinson2937]

These videos always seem to come out just as I need them. :) I've watched so many of these and they have improved my life in many ways. I recently endured a short term toxic relationship falsely believing by stoic teachings that I should have the ability to endure, and make that person better through example. Until one day I came across a writing by epictetus surrounding the removal of toxic people. "Surround yourself with philosphers," and it makes sense. It's not about taking pain continuously but a clever way to deal with aversion until you can remove yourself far, far away from them. The relationship ended and I've never felt so grateful for the simple things I have in life. I've never felt entitled personally but the people I consequently end up being in relationships with, are by their narcissistic nature. I'm kind of a giggling because I know my ex narc would watch some of these with me and say "it's a bunch of shit". 😅 So they'd never value this content with their entiltment alone 🤣🤣🤣. A part of me feels pain for this individual. There is nothing I can do other than control my own actions. I did feel angry because I did at least feel I was owed to be treated with respect by this individual, but as this video points out - it's a waste of time, especially if the other person chooses not to. It was infuriating. However, I've let go now. :)

[@leightonsavary7607]

I typically dont comment or read comments on videos of this nature due to wanting to come to my own divine revelation on what was said but I felt lead to comment today. Also there is nothing wrong with commenting on these types of pages on sage wisdom its just my first time doing so. And this episode comes right on time as I am currently evolving my perspective on a health situation my uncle is dealing with for now. And I must say thank you for another Evergreen episode on a timeless topic👌🏽

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@SamuelBlack84]

​@@Novastar.SaberCombatThere's nothing to embrace in the present I've made plans for the future and others dismantled them

[@emtars1827]

Your videos are getting better and better!

[@tabithasands2257]

We deserve everything we can imagine and believe.

[@earthrooster1969]

Family! The biggest foundation of human society seems where all the 'entitlement' starts early on. My family, my son, my daughter, my next generation...that starts extending to things, pets, lands, countries.. Loss of entitlement is a huge sense of freedom ❤

[@SamuelBlack84]

I prefer not to shackle myself to children. I don't even know why having kids is such an important thing to do. Unless the population took a huge nosedive It's just blindly obeying the instinct to reproduce

[@StoicEvolution1]

"Everything that happens happens as it should, and if you observe carefully, you will find this to be so." - Marcus Aurelius

[@Henry-Wilder]

When we don't aim higher than what we already have, we are crushed by the people who do.

[@Leto85]

I have been subscribed to/fan of your channel for many years so far, but I'd like to say that out of all other helpful videos you've already uploaded this one is in my opinion the best of them all. I'd like to add to your wisdom that by wanting something you can't have (or as your title sad: don't deserve) you're actually giving your brain a task it cannot solve. The brain does not speak to the individual with words, but it does speak to you with a feeling of unpleasantment. Rather one chooses to address that unpleasant feeling and act on it or choses to suppress it instead and continue one's behavior is up to the individual. I don't think the individual can be blamed for not chosing the right option here, as I think the individual in that case for whatever personal reason doesn't believe yet that he or she to can become happy. Of course, there's always time to learn for as long as that individual lives. :) Thank you for uploading this video.

[@mb2647]

I already knew that but it’s still fascinating to hear that yes everything and everyone is borrowed and it’s temporary but we can enjoy it until it’s time for god to call us

[@miguelatkinson]

Great message despite me being an agnosticatheist

[@mb2647]

@@miguelatkinson despite the different choices and Beliefs people choose that does not matter to me. As long as we get together and be in peace and respect and get along that’s all that matters to me have a good day miguel

[@shyper17]

I agree that we must remove our feeling of entitlement to things from our heads, as it is a rather foolish assumption that we own anything in this world. Anything can get legally taken away from us. Thus I am able to let go of a feeling that I deserve something, simply because I never thought I deserve it. I know that all I get is temporary. As is my life. However, there is something I cannot quite understand. "We know we aren't entitled to it, so why hold onto it?" you said. Well, does that mean I should stop feeling attachments to people? Just because I am not entitled to own a person, which I am obviously not, does not necessarily mean I should relieve myself of any emotions I feel. While I do not believe I am entitled to have a girlfriend, I do strongly believe that I am allowed to love a girl. Loving someone is not a sense of entitlement. You do not wish to own the person you love. You wish to protect them. Not because you feel a sense of entitlement towards them, not because you need them to remain in your life, but because you care for theirs. Because you wish best for them. You wish to protect them. Love is not about oneself. Love is all about the other person, and certainly not about you having an "I need to own that girl" mentality.

[@nandozago5]

I simply love this chanel. I can't describe how helpful it was for me in so many moments of my life. This is a huge gift, thank you so much Einzelgänger!!

[@thomaswin5535]

Quite amazing that Stoicism overlaps with Buddhism in their attitudes towards things. We came naked into the world, and so are we when we leave.

[@rainmanjr2007]

Some think that Lao Tzu travelled into Afghanistan, spreading the ideas which are foundational to Stoicism, while his Tao Te Ching became influential for Buddhist thought into the 1st Century. This would explain that link but I came to the ideas largely on my own and have grown from earlier insights and lessons.

[@thomaswin5535]

@@rainmanjr2007 Quite possibly Neil. I'd also add that the Silk Road will have played a role in it too.

[@MiguelTrujillo1]

This is exactly what I needed now. Thank you for the this message. You have really help me today. Thank you again, kind soul.

[@ABC-yk9if]

Watching this, is not less than a meditation ❤

[@Userhappi]

Peace to the world and mankind ❤

[@lindyloohoo]

Ouch. Virtuous parents and fair siblings. I needed to hear this.

[@waltermeerschaert]

This phrase popped into my head a few years ago and now it runs my life: "You want what you want, but you get what you get."

[@nemzyg]

It’s simple to get what you want is to deserve what you want. Your worth it factors

[@hogotusaal]

Being entitled and thinking your deserve better treatment than others is also what is causing the horrible conflict we are witnessing today.

[@chrislopes]

Just when the day before I heard and was considering that "I deserve what I want" and "I'm entitled to what I want". Thank you! You're a candle that lights up the neighborhood

[@Ike1129]

I really needed this video. This definitely is keeping me in check.

[@adammorra3813]

You are not entitled to it though

[@Cronoo]

Every lesson I think "this will be the hardest aspect of self to overcome" but instead they become easier.

[@seneca815]

Always remember. No good deed goes unpunished .

[@susan1302]

I am always amazed by how much Epictetus has in common with the Buddha

[@Faeriefungus]

This just helped me through a very dark thought process thank you so much

[@dadikkedude]

The sense of intitlement if taken away is cause for suffering is only half of the story. In some ways it works getting or holding on to things that you want in the real world. People use this emotion to fight for something or abuse it to manipulate to gain or maintain what they 'have'. Let's say power, wealth, position but also affection. This should be understood aswell before someone uses it against you, especially in case of power.

[@kcdtran]

Know Buddhism and these thoughts and stories feel a lot more powerful than they already do. Thanks for the video.

[@alias9236]

I feel like it's important to say that what you want and what a person needs are different. Don't use this philosophy to stiffle social benefits, like housing, healthcare, and things people need. Always fight for a better life, we can't all be Diogynese living in a pot

[@elliotgoon1428]

You don't get what you want. You get what you fight for.

[@wernhervonbraun3723]

"When it comes to entitlement, the world not giving us what believe we earn isn't the problem. The problem is believing we deserve something we don't." Pause for a second and reload it.

[@parth6115]

Thanks

[@mercury4metal]

I’m entitled to what I want, and when I don’t get it, it’s your fault.

[@canuckprogressive.3435]

Owning an object is indeed a strange concept. It is an arrangement of atoms. Atoms created in a supernova explosion billions of years ago that will continue to exist for billions more. They are just temporarily arranged into that object you call "mine".

[@srijankamboj1621]

Man, I needed this video. Thanks!

[@slowentropy4531]

As always thank you. Your videos have really helped me push aside that desire for more and more and working myself to the bone to get it. Im so content with a simpler life now, working less and spending time with my children and just being mindful of my life and actually enjoying it. Its so sad in our western society we are raised to be so driven to have the newest things, to feel if we are not pushing ourselves to work OT and make our companies more and more profit we are failures. Tell next time everyone :)

[@anjalinetragaonkar3738]

I think this is easily the best stoic video on internet rn.

[@alphaomega5721]

Expectation is the thief of joy.

[@accawithtushar]

Thank you so much I love this channel ❤️

[@comicsans7437]

The teachings in this video match the teachings of Christianity perfectly. Funny that, how it's like living how Christ teaches us to but with the concept of God removed. The ideas of not desiring material things or clinging on to riches, fame, glory, approval or anything else finite and seeking satisfaction in these things is a very prevalent teaching of Jesus. The concept of treating others well even if they are horrible to you, giving without expecting anything back or loving unconditionally and the list goes on. It all fits. I personally find it beautiful how despite the way we live so divided and act as though we are so different from one another, really we are all connected somehow. And I believe that connection lies in being one of God's creations, made in His image. We're all like one big family, and we certainly do act like it too actually if you think about it. Family members have disagreements and fight all the time. Sometimes it can get violent and horrible, there is often emotional blackmail or abuse, manipulation, slander... But all families aren't like that, not all the time. And we don't have to be either. We just need love.

[@kyoshiro4042]

"All idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary" - Nietzsche

[@thembinkosidube3918]

"Whatever Comes is the right thing ".Buddist monk God bless Thank you ...

[@ConstantCompanion]

I have an aunt who married and had four boys. When boy was lost at the age of 7 in a car accident. Her husband was diagnosed with lymphoma. She spent the next several years taking care of him and he actually went to remission for decades. But he eventually died and she remarried twice. Losing two husbands altogether. She's still married. Then she lost her oldest son to a brain tumor about 15 years ago. He was still very young. And then her second oldest just a couple of years ago took a tumble off of a roof. He is now finding brain injuries. Yes she keeps going. She outlived all of her sisters and brothers. We joke about the kind of world we're going to leave or when we're gone. I asked her once with her secret was. How she managed to survive so much tragedy. She said we don't own anything. Our children and loved ones are interested into our care until they're taking away. They don't belong to us. Our things don't belong to us. We are entrusted with those things until that time ends. Nothing or no one is really yours. She plays music. She's teaching herself the violin. She's 85 years old. That's how you do it.

[@jtgd]

0:12 Epictetus: “no” Credits!

[@SteveTheGhazaRooster]

What you own, ends up owning you. Forget where that's from, but I love it.

[@yungmentalproblems]

Fight club

[@SteveTheGhazaRooster]

@@yungmentalproblems how could I forget 🙄

[@andyschwartz8808]

By the same logic, you are entitled to whatever you can take, whatever the means. If you possess the ability to take something, then it is yours. Whoever had it before was just borrowing it anyway, so no need for remorse.

[@SophiaAphrodite]

True but the very core of stoicism is virtue. If your actions are not virtuous. They are unacceptable.

[@andyschwartz8808]

@@SophiaAphrodite doubt it

[@simpatico4004]

@@andyschwartz8808The four virtues of stoicism are justice, courage, temperance, and wisdom. I’d think if you’re entitled to your neighbors wife or possessions, simply because you can take it by force, then you’re compromising on justice, which is regarded as the source of all other virtues. Not only that, if you go around taking whatever you want without fairness, you are inviting a pool of enemies into your world.

[@SusanB101]

Thank you so much for this video. I do wish I could share it with my dear mom but she doesn’t understand English… the way you weave the story, the pace, the editing, and of course the content in itself is so deep, rich and engaging! Hard to replicate in simple words. Nevertheless I shall try and share these wise thoughts with her and see if I can find any videos about stoicism in Korean. Thank you again for this great video. It really struck a chord with me. ✨

[@nilada3668]

Thank you so much for taking time to create this video! Much needed in today's time and age. We need to constantly remind ourselves of this message.Grateful 🙏🤍

[@melusine826]

Entitlement under these definitions could lead to accepting poor treatment and poor conditions. This has a negative impact on personal and societal progression.

[@triciabernard4434]

i didnt get the message that u shud accept poor treatment, more that u shud work to change the things than u can and dont despair because life is treating u unfairly... because u cant make life fair, u can only work on the things that r in yr control

[@treeforged9097]

@@triciabernard4434 How you are treated is much more in your control then this video leads you to believe. Your actions alter the way that people treat you and because you can control your actions you can change the way people treat you. This video is way less profound then people think it is.

[@DigiLab360]

…or more if you understand it

[@22xxjoshxx22]

@@treeforged9097 u cannot change people though .. u missed the message..

[@nicolajames5037]

That's your perspective

[@areejps]

the world need this video the most, now , especially in these inflation status we are living in and the trend of consumerism ... that let people buy more and more stuff, just because someone advertised it or become a trend, even though not really needed ... so this video helped me so much with my problem of over buying .. where i buy a lot of things i do not need and sometimes will never use

[@melusine826]

As an environmentalist, this speaks to me. And I've felt entitled too - but I didn't believe I deserved love at all. I didn't get it either. But I had false hope because I foolishly trusted their words and felt entitled to be treated as they said they would.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

[@1995dios]

Whatever you work for is what you deserve. That's the truth. Don't get attached to temporary things just enjoy those things.

[@rebekkasmith6612]

Summary: Suck it up and dont complain

[@who034]

One of your most important videos. People so much are sold this bill of goods and do not realize this is even happening. 🌈🌠🙏

[@Yakovvandordt]

Another great one, and exactly on time too. Je bent een geschenk voor deze wereld. Bedankt voor al jouw werk!

[@dausk6381]

beautiful, thank you so much for making this video

[@hectorlamar806]

Our bodys are gifts? Really. I never asked to be born into this restrictive, pain prone and decaying meat suit prison which itself is born into a bigger prison called planet earth.

[@Regi.R]

I don't know what you have been through but when God is aligned with what you are doing you will work in that way and you can get it ... ❤ It is true this you are thinking but also there are many ways too! Drink water and don't give up:)

[@SerendipitousProvidence]

You should let go of things that are not up to you lest you set yourself up for disappointment and discontentment. You're only entitled to your thoughts, attitude, beliefs and perception, that are up to you. Society reinforces you to feel entitled to things external to yourself, that are more up to the whims of fortune. Even relationship is the same. Enjoy them, be the best person to them, be responsible and enjoy every other things without feeling entitled.

[@SerendipitousProvidence]

Let others be entitled, just don't conform to them.

[@oussamacharif1126]

I always believed that i don't deserve what i wanted.. because if i wanted really , i simply do what ever needed and get it...

[@mindfulrestaurantcoach]

Simply awesome….I wonder how can someone have so much clarity? Every sentence in this video has wisdom hidden. Thank you for making such content. You are indeed adding a lot of peace in this world with your continuous tireless attempts . Please continue this noble work. I just want to know, what led you to this search ? And how do you continue doing it daily ? What rituals do you follow to be in such pursuit of understanding life daily and this purifying yourself so much ? God bless you ❤🙏👍👏👌👌

[@Suiseisexy]

He's government funded, the only thing he wants you to do is stop voting.

[@rmn8818]

😭😭😭😭😭 I needed to hear this. Thank you so much 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@asktheetruscans9857]

"Eternal happiness for a Dollar? Hmm, I think I'd be happier with the Dollar." ~Mr. Burns, The Simpsons.

[@hardik_mhetre_]

What does einzelgängar mean?😅

[@Respect2theFallen]

Google says "one who lives in solitude", "soloist", "loner"

[@obitouchiha2581]

It’s German and means ,,loner“

[@hardik_mhetre_]

Thank you 😊🙏

[@TheLupine3rd]

I was feeling really depressed because my wife has become really cold towards me., not even sure if she has some feeling towards soemone else and not sure it when I come back shes going to leave me. I took some days off to see my parents who both have been fighting cancer. Their house its a little piece of paradiese but I feel like im in hell because of all the things go through my mind right now. But this video actually helped me to settle down my feelings now, thank you. Im aware that we are all struggling in life , but cotent like this is what helps to appreciate what we have and how lucky we are to be alive.