The Most Important Skill Nobody Taught You

Being alone and connecting inwardly is a skill nobody ever teaches us. That’s ironic because it’s more important than most of the ones they do.
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[@TheArtofImprovement]

"To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions." - Deepak Chopra - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - BOOK MENTIONED Pensées by Blaise Pascal BUY THE BOOK ON AMAZON: geni.us/mz5H

[@jeffreylonigro1382]

Lest we think this is a Hindu teaching, I will point out that is the point of an Ignatian retreat. There is no talking on a Catholic retreat. This practice goes back to the desert fathers of the second century who sought silence by living alone in the desert.

[@breadbaconcheese]

deepak chopra is not someone inspiring to be honest

[@tictoc5443]

many animals understand this skill

[@coderveer]

Agree completely

[@michaelcraig9449]

How exactly is this accomplished and the desired results obtained, in this modern world? I cant afford to go to the desert or on retreats. I am not going to be conned into buying stuff, that is for sure.

[@chineseboxer108]

The only time I've ever felt lonely is in a room full of people that I have nothing in common with.

[@Tedzee8]

it's at this important moment you know you don't belong there. So maybe try another group. Or maybe find them similarities/skills/potential you like in them :)

[@brakeme1]

I absolutely love that statement.

[@morenomt27]

True

[@damonlloyd6025]

Facts

[@GaMuSiNo4ev3r]

Yes, but take it as a middle step. Some years ago I moved to a different city knowing no one. I had to start meeting people and making friends from 0. I used to hang out with some work colleagues, but it was a group that caused me a bit of shame and not my ideal people. Even so, I was there just to do something and find some connections. I eventually made friends, groups, activities I was interested... So sometimes even being with people with nothing in common, is a little step towards more interesting relationships.

[@titlespree]

"Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born." - Nikola Tesla

[@laralebeu36]

When you are really alone, you can hear our intuition telling you great ideas to act on.

[@WaterspoutsOfTheDeep]

The irony being Tesla practically single handedly brought about both directly or indirectly everything that gives us the "connectiveness" mentioned in the video.

[@91722854]

@@laralebeu36 reddit on science and engineering also help

[@bigjohn8407]

I can't even tell you how true that is.

[@keithfoester7326]

in moderation. to be alone for a long time is to invite madness and evil.

[@TheLifeFormulaa]

You can get so much done when you are alone

[@isthereasunthereisnt]

Or so little

[@LiftOffLife]

Alone does not mean lonely.

[@mexicounexplained]

I'm NEVER bored, but then again, I spend 95% of my time alone. Some days I don't even use my voice. Solitude is glorious!

[@nimverxza2485]

Agreed!

[@sohinidutta4606]

Totally agreed !!

[@MegaSammura]

That's really sad :(

[@mexicounexplained]

@@MegaSammura lol

[@mo-om]

I totally identify with this. The one thing I can't seem to do is to have no thoughts. Within seconds, I am off to some dreamland.

[@kindlerashod]

If you've never had tears in your eyes or been upset after learning about yourself during self-awareness/self-discovery, then you have not yet learned the deeper depths of yourself.

[@mohittalgotra744]

Crying is a little much. I would say maybe being shocked and disgusted.

[@bubbaguu5921]

@@mohittalgotra744I just finished the video then decided to just sit still and do nothing. I even stopped myself from tapping my feet and fiddling my fingers. It literally just reminded me that I need to focus back up. I’m going to take time everyday now to do this. It helped me realize that every moment I’m not doing something. I instantly go on my phone. It’s time to stop that. I don’t think the phone is horrible. But there are better things I could be doing

[@dumbcat]

just to be clear, sitting in a room alone watching KZbin does NOT count. lol

[@jlina]

Haha

[@paulflaubert7355]

What about watching jeapardy

[@Tim_Sviridov]

I feel personally attacked.

[@protorhinocerator142]

Everyone who reads this sees the truth and wisdom of it.

[@Hi_Im_Jie]

Lol, guilty!

[@zelenplav1701]

"Conversation enriches understanding, Solitude is the school of Genius"

[@edthewave]

Thank you for this video. Pascal is one of my favorite philosophers and his insights really resonate with me. I experienced firsthand what he meant when I completed my first 10-day silent meditation retreat. No talking. No reading. No music. No cell phones or electronics. No contact with friends or family or the outside world (unless for emergencies only) for 10 days, sitting in meditation, witnessing the breath and the bodily sensations 10 hours/day. This was one of the most profound experiences of my life. It was like a boot camp for learning the self. Your mind won't shut up for the first few days. You're constantly seeking stimulation and excitement. Always thinking. Your legs hurt from all the sitting (despite having stretch/break periods). But you get glimpses. Glimpses of beauty, glimpses of insight and glimpses of the sublime. For a time, my senses became more acute. I could smell flowers from 100 yards away. I could hear different bird songs, and hear different INDIVIDUAL birds of the same species. I became transfixed on the iridescence on a butterfly's wing. One day, it took me one and a half hours to chew one spoonful of food, completely absorbed in the changing tastes and textures of the morsel of food, with barely any other thoughts in my mind. I learned a lot about myself and thought a lot about society. I realized that we are COMPLETELY ADDICTED TO what I call "noisemakers". There's always a TV or a radio or music playing in public. People are always on their phones. Couples on dates are gazing into their phones instead of in each other's eyes. We are always seeking something to do because we FEAR THE NOTHINGNESS OF BORDEM AND WE FEAR LOOKING DEEP WITHIN. We are afraid of what we may find. I cried almost every day thinking about my life during this period. I thought about those I hurt. I thought about those who have left me, including my father who passed away one year prior. We are afraid of our own souls, so we live life as one grand distraction. Oh, and us Introverts aren't off the hook, either. Many of us don't really understand what Pascal meant. Distractions don't just come from without, but also from within. Us introverts often will, if left to our own devices, DISTRACT AND OCCUPY OUR OWN MINDS with various fantasies, reveries, caprices, anxieties, hypotheticals, compulsions, and obsessions, instead of just witnessing and observing without attachment or craving or aversion. There's more to be said, but suffice it to say, I had a very valuable experience in solitude and silence learning a particular meditation technique and I think the whole world could benefit if everybody had this experience at least once in their lives.

[@javier3941]

Awesome! What do you do with all this thoughts in your life?

[@nightfighter7452]

This skill comes naturally when you have no friends

[@mukopu3a]

"Hanging out with friends" is just another form of distraction for people who are scared of being bored by hanging out with themselves.

[@spiralviper8158]

@@mukopu3a unless their friends are real friends, though. most people hang out with people they don't like and call them friends, like you said to avoid feelings of discomfort

[@francisjtuk]

Lmao

Can confirm 😂

[@andrewd5135]

lol yea im alone wayyyyy to much

[@adeeamoguis3287]

"They say humans are socials animals, they can't live alone. But you could live pretty well by yourself. I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, its better to have real solitude all by yourself"

[@PurpleAmalgam]

lmao nice pfp

[@cxa011500]

I don't know, seems like good advice for extroverts. But as an introvert, being in solitude has been my default state my entire life.

[@casey-zd5mj]

it doesn't matter if you spend time alone when you're still occupying your mind with something else. I'm an introvert too, I spend 90% of my time alone, but doing something, internet, videos, reading, music, drawing.

[@shadylady34]

Haha, thinking the same thing. "Extrovert problems", pshhhh 😂

[@AexisRai]

For any given piece of advice, the exact opposite is going to turn out to be more appropriate for some people. Consider reversing any advice you hear, if it seems to apply to people much different than you. Failing to introspect is what you might consider a "failure mode" for extroverts. Failing to do _anything but_ introspect is the more likely failure mode for introverts. The thing most likely to be the opposite of the advice given in the video, is "get yourself out of your head, direct your attention outwards and start to connect with other people." That's the kind of thing I'm trying to start doing.

[@shadylady34]

That's really good advice @Aexis Rai!

[@choco_matcha]

Doesn't matter you're being alone or not, the most important thing is to ignore all 'aimless distractions', instead focus on fixing the problems in front of you.

[@4saken404]

Ironic that I stumbled into this as a result of looking for aimless distraction...

[@reggiebdog]

It's a great reminder to me why my life seems more balanced when regularly practice meditation. It's the addiction to the 'lack of boredom' that makes me go go go. It's so easy to get lost in that cycle of always feeding the addiction of distraction. Mediation quiets the mind, allows you to know yourself, and to hear the truth of silence.

[@EvolvedTeachings]

I totally agree! It may seem very counterproductive at first to the Ego, but sitting in solitude can teach us many lessons. I've learned along my journey that facing my own fears, being introspective, and focusing awareness on myself is what brings me massive growth. This skill is definitely useful for those who seek real personal development results.

[@rebbeshort]

@@TF80s Having trouble with faith is a very good result from your situation. Deciding your own truth and a good truth is a quality way to know yourself. Faith is believing in something you don't know is true. Not healthy. All thinking men are Atheists. Clears your mind up. Lets you see the world for what it is. In my opinion, logic and reason backed by science are much better than faith. Let the rest of the fools around you wallow in unwarranted faith, while you trust, and think for yourself.

[@digitalbrand5510]

“Who looks outside dreams Who looks inside awakens” CG Jung

[@charmedprince]

I already learned this myself in high school. I am 29 now and have the best friend for life, myself and that's why I don't feel comfortable surrounded by a bunch of people.

[@laralebeu36]

This video was meant for people who are too connected and aren't comfortable with themselfs. You seem to be comfortable with youself. Now search yourself people with whom you like to connect and share. Life is to be experienced and other peoples perspectives help you with that. Do not stew in your own juice. Don't rely to much on youself or on others. Seek balance in your life. It seems to me that you use this video as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone.

[@JoseRivera-rl3qv]

@@laralebeu36 it seems to me that his life is not of your concern, so you use his experience to justify your judgement about him

[@laralebeu36]

@@JoseRivera-rl3qv I am thankful that you remind me about my judgement, tbh sometimes I get triggered by comments like these because I see their limitations and that reminds me of myself.

[@JoseRivera-rl3qv]

@@laralebeu36 Maybe he is not limiting himself I can tell from my own experience that some people are just not worth our time and effort to talk to them so, for me it is ok to stick with a best friend, wich is something I don't have at the moment

[@charmedprince]

@@laralebeu36 Maybe you are right. But I see through people. I am not a very judgemental person but I don't like to be bullshitted upon by hypocrisy. As a creative person, i prefer to work alone as i can accomplish more that way. I do have people who share common interests with me. But we only talk short senseful talks when we meet and we go back to our small solitary lives to keep creating more.

[@wendallparker8420]

I knew the value of solitude at 16. I know myself too damn well. I’ve got a lot accomplished during solitude. Solitude is pretty sweet. I also have happy relationships because I can be by myself and be happy.

[@javier3941]

@@GabrielCazorlaPersson1 why not? Maybe he knows himself well and he wants to show it to the world. Or maybe he only want people know his empty intelligence. Udk

[@ioioioio5997]

What you just described is the process that happens in a 'bad trip'. It forces you to confront yourself and that makes a lot of people extremely uncomfortable. Good video

[@Waynimations]

This is what I'm trying to do. I've once heard that the best way to get work done is to be boring. Although I do enjoy my time going out and hanging out with friends, I have recently found time to shut myself in my room to get things done. This is a very important channel to me and I hope other people can learn from it too.

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Facing boredom is definitely one of the key pillars of success! 🔥

[@fleskimiso]

Pain of the learning with it's boredom

[@heenaj4968]

This video confirms I am not anti-social or an extreme loner/dummy, I just mastered the skill of solitude 😌

[@aaronzywicki6384]

Yep

[@rudyleotardo8278]

Same here

[@mikefox3939]

"I need solitude for my writing; not 'like a hermit' - that wouldn't be enough - but like a dead man" Franz Kafka

[@dirtydelva]

Awesome video, I was started thinking like this a few months ago and realized "as above, so below" There must a be stillness where we can embrace the all of our being, whether be sitting in your room or in a park looking at the tree branches sway in the wind. I believe it goes hand in hand with patience but that's another topic haha . I love your videos!!

[@jas4animation]

This is a great video! it really got me thinking about that 'fear' of boredom, I'm quite happy to be in my own thoughts but I have definitely noticed a trend of me always looking at my phone in recent years. There is always a new distraction, I truly believe we need time to reconcile internally some things in this hectic life. Thank you again.

[@TheArtofImprovement]

Thanks Jason

[@PapiBocaChula]

and how talented you are.. you can only find out when you go, and be ALONE.. omg loved this video

[@ishwaryachitrarajaraman5258]

Thank you. Beautiful. Your channel is in its own way, a service to humanity.

[@TheGonzedd]

It's all related to time and the use we give it. Some philosophers believe time is undervalued, and therefore, wasted on trivialities. But this notion is even greater when you realize that time actually doesn't exist and that you create time by living the moment. These 'moments' or 'life experiences' are what memories are made of, and that's the true meaning of time.

[@FzCzombie1group]

it took me years of being a shut in inside my own hell and it is a very humbling experience to really know oneself, you begin to conquer ones own shadow i later learned car jung speaks of this, its truly amazing to feel like youve done so much only to realize this is a lost art that many people used to train and is not lost

[@parthsharma6170]

Zat Rana at it's best. Kind of Wisdom only few can impart in such a concise way.

[@BigHeavyLove]

today, before viewing this i decided to go a random stroll down the park. it was beautiful and i could not believe how much I'd recently disconnected myself from everything, even myself. As a core part of looking after myself now I have to promise that I will spend at least 15 minutes a day walking and thinking alone.

[@arktunes285]

You can't know yourself no matter how much time you spend with yourself alone or with others if you do not learn the skills of analysis and critical thinking that is dreadfully missing in most School curriculums

[@yazansetabouha7943]

I would say it’s parental. School is a place for interaction with the outside, students would be lucky if they have a teacher who knows solitude. Same goes to parents. Giving space at home for the children and themselves, space to get bored. Analysis and critical thinking are some of the children of solitude.

[@matthews.2833]

I've embraced time for myself for years and it's a wonderful experience to be so deep in your own thoughts that you don't realise the sun has gone down and you're now sitting in a dark room. On the flip side, and this may be seen as a good thing or a bad thing, people who are constantly switched on and 'connected' can tire you very quickly, so much so that I choose the people I spend time with based on their ability to appreciate and accept any silence without feeling the need to break it. Great video, thanks!

[@markstout9032]

I'm out here when you are ready

[@thethrill3645]

Enlightenment at its finest explanation. Thank you

[@evopwrmods]

At middle age i decided that I was not satisfied with my life and my direction. I made many huge changes to my daily life and my future preparations too. However; the single most important and beneficial discovery that I made and consequently added to my daily struggle. Was to implement a quiet time for myself each and everyday. I lay down and try to relax. I wouldn't call it a nap for I am in and out of consciousness. I simply try hard to relax and let my mind go where it wants to go. I have tried meditation very early on in my life and I was not quiet enough to allow meditation to work much less take hold. Now at 57 years young my daily meditations as I refer to them are the most important part of my day. I lay down on my bed with my dog by my side. My kitty also comes in and lays with us and we all relax together. I allow my mind to wander and go where it may. I also allow my body to nap/rest/relax; for whatever it needs to occur. I set a certain amount of time each day usually 2 hours but at the very least 1.5 hours. Nothing that I have changed in my new life has woken me up to learn more about myself than my daily meditation sessions. I encourage all of you; especially our youth to do like-wise or similar time spent to allow one self to relax and let your mind do what it wants. This was a fantastic video and I do appreciate that you have shared this was so many. I am pained by the lack of people that truly focus their lives upon BEing all that they can BEcome. Until we all put our maximum attentions to this goal then we will continue to wallow in the mire and stay irrevalent.

[@susan5244]

Thank you so very much for this video.

[@sunnybux]

I campaigned heavily to keep you on FB. I wrote a great letter about, well, how great you are and what a marvelous service you render. Keep it up. Your friend, Deborah Lloyd

[@Sunshine74444]

Fantastic, well done. Thanks so much!

[@alexanderbaranov8299]

Well done brother. Much Love !

[@SkyGrymm]

Bored seems like a mischaracterization. I'd say the correct word is introspection. Mindless boredom is not the same as productive introspection. Otherwise, a great video!

[@-peter5905]

Real eye opener. And so true. Always knew this, but noone listened ....

[@Angell_Lee]

Thank you for this beautiful video!

[@santinosamuel5301]

No matter how much I keep huge company, life has forced me to bring alone. It's bitter. Really bitter. Lost connection with wife, children,sibblings, friends and everybody overnight. Am through extreme pain. now I know life force you to things you can never imagine yourself in. Thanks for video

[@Winnersclubpodcast1]

This video is more valuable than ever with all this technology that can consume our day with such ease. It is important to know ourselves and be content with our company before we branch out

[@moargames2179]

I thank You, and I hope this video is viewed by enough people to catch on and become more understood.

[@MarceloOliveira-gc3gv]

Great video. Thank you!

[@mariangroeneveld7401]

Thank you for another great video with great drawings! Keep up the good work!

[@kelvin869]

I like to spend as little time with others as l can. Outside of work, l keep a very small friend list lol. Less distractions, less stress and much, much more quiet. I love my peace and tranquility.

[@MentalHealthCalmingSoundsRelax]

I like that part you said,it’s like a child seeing the world for the first time” 😊😊and that’s how I feel

[@sanushengovender6578]

Such a great video. Thanks.

[@TheHelghast1138]

As someone who has delt with a ridiculous amount of loss in the form of death of people I deeply cared about throughout my life, being alone often brings up the feelings of those that I miss, for me, that is the hardest thing to deal with when trying to embrace solitude. I do enjoy solitude because I can remember the memories of those I care about, however the flip side is I also feel the pain I'll just how much I miss them. I guess you could say it's a double-edged sword. Two sides to a coin.

[@kumokundomo9705]

Sorry to hear that. Hopefully, it will get better.

[@zerolarge61]

You might benefit from reading Thich Nhat Hanh's meditations on impermanence

[@TheHelghast1138]

@@soccerandtrack10 hahahaha! Wow. You are a special customer. I sincerely believe you should seek help. Have an awesome day.

[@angelmendez7651]

I'm deeply sorry for your losses CurbsideUnderwood. I have to say that out of all these comments yours is the truest I've ever read. I've always been a loaner in the sense that I would only have a few friends and would only communicate with the people I know and trust. However, I find myself spending even more time alone as the people I love have become much more distant. I used to love solitude because it has allowed me to be much more insightful than anyone I have ever known. BUT, what is the point of this insight on life if knowledge seems to only bring sorrow? Now I find myself wanting to connect BACK with society because I see that this insight is useless to me. Knowledge is useless if you don't use it or share it and that's why I think once you have mastered a state of being alone you should use what you have learned and change people's lives. THAT TO ME IS WHAT I THINK TRUE HAPPINESS IS.

[@mathiasjustesen4910]

dont know why but I just bursted out laughing when he said '' all of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone''

[@TheSometimesWhy]

We live in a world that is designed to separate you from yourself. And if that weren't enough, we align ourselves with that force because we exalt interconnectedness over the loss of intraconnectedness. And the irony is that we are all the ultimate losers, alone.

[@kumokundomo9705]

Makes me feel better that I enjoy solitude. Society says it's lonely to be alone. I find it strange some people cannot be alone. I had friends who didn't want to do anything alone and always needed someone there.

[@moses6719]

Thanks for the amazing insights.

[@christiansakai]

People are also afraid of awareness. It is scary. Ignorance is bliss. People intentionally choose ignorance.

[@jaycook5028]

Great advice.

[@thephoenix2176]

I am much more now connected to myself, AND very comfortable - as I am a middle sibling - self preservation was natural in upbringing - observing genuity in anything/one very simple in guidance thus far.

[@byrnardsalavedra5969]

I like the thought of this. It's hard to face boredom and loneliness. However, it do helps sometimes to think clearly and know yourself more.

[@Mr.FranciscoJesusAldana]

Bravo!

[@sandrajovic9304]

I must be a freak then cuz I've been mastering the art of being alone for years. No kidding, truly. Everything you say is true, my friend🎯self taught... Love the art work on this channel as well❤

[@justStardust940]

great videos and channel! really adds value to lives

[@faizantanoli7979]

Thanks 4 sharing such a great content

[@dougsdiggings9127]

As my gran once told me. "only boring people get bored" Great video , thanks!

[@bradpetehoops]

Amazing tips.

[@Californiansurfer]

I work in Michigan,Indiana,Kentucky and waxahachie Texas. I have learned to work alone and I love it. Home is a distraction. Downey California

[@aldavedesierdo42]

I agree. Everytime i am alone, i dont feel alone. I am on introspecting what my purpose is. Being alone make u focus on ur goals much easier. However, u cant slay the dragon everytime and evryday. I need to take a break from these thoughts so i go socialize and have fun and do my favorite hobbies. Life is beautiful and i find that people who can't handle being alone do feel alone and i pity them.

[@Gabe62046]

I approve this message. It is like seeing the world for the first time. Boredom has a u shaped curve, but once this get hard, we avert from it before we see the benefit

[@chrisschey7818]

Truly food for thought.

[@bondmembersaxon2832]

Dude...... Great video!

[@AmanSingh-hq3rj]

Thanks 👍

[@mindpoacher7613]

I love being alone….I spend so much time working with my subconscious and the insights I have gain is mind blowing, and now it is addictive and empowering.

[@chuckebbs7541]

Thank you

[@maryannemoll]

My favorite and intellectually richest moments are the moments I was alone.

[@dinelli630]

Everything has its time. I You have to know when to be alone and when not to be...You can be alone even in the company and felt comfortably 🙂

[@sh0gun98]

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy; same can be said with long bouts of solitude and isolation.

[@krgaurav1511]

Very good video. For the first time something written on the video has held true with its content. Thank you for this video. This will help me a lot please.

[@lightnindawn7710]

The sound of my phone ringing makes my spinal cord draw up. I have hidden in the coop with my chickens, in the barn with my horse, crawled around on the floor of my house, etc to hide from unexpected company. I've spent my entire adult life trying to spend as much time alone as possible. My problem with it is getting other people to cooperate & let me be alone.

[@sajidanonto5221]

This video is a summary of some core aspects of spirituality and mindfulness.

[@dangkhoanguyen7841]

I love the contents you are making about.

[@MrPelikan500]

That was a powerful insight ... much needed Antidote to Modern LIfe .. and I can't but help relate this to the pivotal reason why last year, a group of a Thai school boys survived days in total darkness without going bezerk in panic ... it was their Buddhist Monk soccer coach who kept them meditating ... keeping calm under unimaginable stress of pure survival on the edge minute by minute :-)

[@electronresonator8882]

when I awake I can't be in situation of really thoughtless even if I'm alone, I always thinking of something , start looking at things around me and observe it

[@jeffreyelya9996]

This is one of the most ironic topics anyone could discuss. Being alone can be a blessing and a curse. If you can't handle being alone, you need to work on improving yourself, yet if you're drawn to isolation, than you probably have to work more on social skills.

[@sampereira6748]

I totally love your videos. It is totally inspiring. If you ever think of having versions of it in other languages let me know! I run a language academy in Brazil and I could help you with that!

[@clouds280]

You need the opportunity to do this. Physical stability. Assistance gave me that. Before, it was a boring job I chased because my life depended on it. Then it was depending on someone else (that was bad-was conditional and not sustainable). I think bad stories in the news are just people trying to cope (not bad people, so much, although they can cause things indirectly). We all gotta survive 1st (or you don't get to do the other things). They taught us what they could, for the life they thought we'd have. Or our parents or caregivers couldn't be there for us. Crisis gives clarity but it's not healthy. I guess we have good days or bad days. I liked the previous video and one other (take care).

[@notallthatbad]

Anyone here not experience boredom? I don't. Too many fascinating things to experience in the world and appreciate. Haven't felt bored, lonely or restless in years. Don't need internet to fill the void.

[@pursuingpeas8236]

I’ve always enjoyed sitting in a somewhat dark room and just look out the window or my hands or the ant on the ground I’m often accused of being depressed but I actually feel really good if I’m given the chance to do it without being harassed Then afterwards I will feel good about being around people and noise and light I think I’ve had time to process my thoughts and have learned in my early 30s that facing my fears is scary but then I feel freedom There’s no sense in carrying the weight of suppression I then decide if I’m ready to pursue working on the fearful topic or if it’s too much and I put it aside and think that perhaps in a month I can revisit it Even that helps me to sort things out

[@bicyclist2]

I've always been very comfortable by myself. Some people call people like this "loaners" but there shouldn't be a bad connotation associated with it. I agree with the ideas in this video. Thanks.

[@kumokundomo9705]

Yay!

[@dave6222]

you mean independent?

[@paulflaubert7355]

Some call them outsiders....maybe you live on the wrong side of the tracks...if you ever go to the driveinn movie walk to the back and say hi to us greasers

[@chasekurtzeborn4092]

Love this video

[@petronilobuan4648]

Thats why the Greek philosopher Socrates summed it all about this aversion to boredom and connecting to ourselves when he said Know thy self! This is the secret to ones happiness! K

[@jedi7160]

wow thanks for sharing

[@pjruffin7191]

This is true. When I was living in Chicago during the lockdowns last year due to coronavirus; my bank account grew immensely, I was more focused on my goals and I lost 55 pounds in 3 months. There was no social temptations anymore and I didn't feel I had any obligations to anyone or anything.

[@uncut119]

Mind BLOWN

[@verablack3137]

Most people are just shallow oceans, when I am alone with my thoughts I am not overcome with my own profundity, I am tormented by just how simple I truly am, a mere collection of purposeless desires and self interest. I spent a few years working alone, with a great deal of time of just me and my thoughts and if anything all I got for my trouble was some eroded social skills and I became marginally better at writing.

[@luckenzo1000]

nice video.. really inspiring and motivating

[@peregrinefalcon1150]

Being alone in a room is definitely not a good thing. Especially if a room is of inadequate size, furniture placing, daylight access etc. Being in nature alone in other hand, is completely different stuff. Because if you don't have enough sensory stimulants, like in quiet room, this is a good path to depression and madness. So get yourself big spacious room with fireplace, big windows with nice view, maybe aquarium. And a pet that is sitting beside you.

[@ronitnayak4408]

Very true! Great videk

[@ronitnayak4408]

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[@ms.parker4880]

My family are all loud ducklings I loved silence as a kid but now it’s kind of hard the world is so loud 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@sevengrapes1257]

From my own experiences "alone" has been a hallmark of my life. Not by choice, but by circumstance and feelings of comfort. I'm considered quite creative and have survived without too much financial distress although I have been homeless on occasion. I have patents to my name and have made a living off several mechanical and chemical innovations. I don't have much of an education. I can state that ALL of my formulations and mechanical ideas have come in times when I am alone with my thoughts for extended periods. I liken this phenomenon to the cycling fraternity. I have a cousin who stayed with us for a while who was a racing cyclist. He was pretty average racing in a bunch to a point where a winner crosses the line first. He excelled however during what was known as "Time trials." This is where the cyclists are set off singly, minutes between starts and the winner is the one with the quickest time to the finish line. You cycle entirely on your own and race against the clock. Relationships are difficult for me so I have one friend who I see maybe once a year if we are lucky. We don't talk on these occasions much, simply enjoy each others company. I am considered anything from weird to insane. I will have it no other way. I have experienced huge amounts of serious trauma of differing types in my life from day one. I know of no one personally who could have endured what I have without succumbing to life. I have only heard of such folk. I don't consider myself good or bad, weird or normal, just different. I have been attracted to ladies in my life but never had the skills to make a successful relationship out of them. I am not gay. I am not criminally inclined and vigorously defend the underdog or down trodden whenever they cross my path. One such event got me into major trouble. I don't do these things for recognition or thanks. I have no expectations of the many times I have helped someone who has stumbled by the wayside of life. On most of these countless occasions I have been bitten in any case. It's OK. Socially I am awkward and my lips seem to have a mind of their own. I get passionate about things and can focus for long periods. My latest focus is the child trafficking going on in the World that absolutely disgusts and shatters me to my core. Paradoxically I have been told people are attracted to me and warm to me easily. People tell me I am calm and collected and above averagely capable. Inwardly I feel exceptionally anxious. I like ocasional gatherings of a dozen or so folk but for short periods only. During these occasions I can usually be found under a tree or on a seat, on my own. Small talk I find especially annoying. Television is offensive to me. Mainstream news misinforms me but I am not uninformed. I consider myself to be lazy though people tell me I`m super unlazy. I have several interests such as aviation ( Pilot), martial arts ( Practise), music (Piano - drums), dancing (Tap my passion), science, technology, psychology, writing and a few more, though I am not particularly good at at any of them except have been vigorously, by many folk, urged to follow one in particular. Well I have gotten that off of my chest. Blessings to everyone!