The Narcissist Doesn't Actually Move On

[@carlogambino1979]

Want to hear a nice story for a change? Left my ex narc GF in 2016, went no contact. The kid, a girl, was just turning 5 years old. I never seen the kid again it absolutely broke my heart. I prayed to God and cried in bed for years hoping that kid wouldn't forget me. Last week I was in town and this beautiful 11 year old girl seen me and spoke to me. She smiled at me the entire two short minutes I got with her, she was with her friends. I know I will see her again soon I can feel it. I love the kid so much. I've been smiling non stop since I seen her. And I deserve it because you all know what I went through with the narcissist. One happy Irish man.

[@jamesl2846]

They don't care if you send them love energy or hate energy as long as you're sending them energy.

[@WorldWideWebVEVO]

🤔 somewhat, if you know their weakness & tell them about them selves the will care, some of them do care what people say about them deep deep deep down with in they do care.

[@Octobersky066]

Very true 🎉

[@Kiddo_X]

No wonder they hate silence. It represents NO ENERGY.

[@barbpace-lamb]

It’s hard letting go off the feeling of being played

[@starboijimmy1386]

Exactly. I've been physically and emotionally abused,manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis by my narcissistic husband. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to my old friend who was a Database Analyst he helped me to extract enough information from his device. I was able to access all of his texts, emails, chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages, Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help, Contact @stevenson_techs on Instagram.

[@mizkaponi4853]

I feel you one hundred percent! But it's necessary. If you don't let it go and heal...it'll eat you alive. So evil how folks just willy nilly think its cool and cute to play with people's emotions and mind. They are wicked disgusting ppl.

[@julie4740]

Absolutely true, my first Narc 32 years and still he’s telling everyone how much he loves me lost me regrets it, if only he treated me like the goddess I am 😂 whilst he’s lived his life exactly the same for all the reasons I left him !! Live your life in love with you and all will fall into place xxx

[@Sdy187]

My soon to be ex-wife always goes back to the guy she always told me that he was so bad to her but she always goes back to him so I now know that was a lie.

[@marycauchon4314]

I can’t thank you enough for keeping me moving forward with my life with your videos! So many days I feel stuck after being together for 30 yrs and how he could so easily move on. I am 6 yrs single and working what I want, what I deserve and now I know my worth. Unfortunately pushing everyone I meet away because I see all the red flags. I guess that’s why they call it awareness! In gods hands now!

[@Thunder-lightning852]

I was married, for over 27 years I was discarded and it’s been eight months and I just now starting to get over the nightmare, I was in basically being a doormat within weeks she was posting she was with somebody else and me. I have isolated myself. They will basically put you on the shelf but she threw me away like trash. She’s never coming back. No Hoover for me. That bridge has been burnt. it’s time for a little self loving, after being a giver for so long (people pleaser) to a parasite

[@noturbo]

i recon moving on has been a lot of work -people told me i dodged a bullet more like a hand grenade

[@julezchoi2330]

After I didn’t contact him for a long time, he just texted me yesterday, telling me how all the guilts haunted him. How special my love was, how much he love me and will have place for me in his heart but he is now in a relationship with someone else and telling me how special that person is. It just full of confusion in his texts. I almost fail for it again but I kept reading the texts until I realized that there is nothing there for me. He just wants to clear up his guilt so he can feel clean for himself and his new relationship by not caring how I would feel hearing all that. He just came back to make sure to telling how great I am and rejected me again just to feel better with himself.

[@taz12184]

B.L.O.C.K

[@belroyale]

That doesn’t sound like narc behaviour. They don’t feel guilt, them calling you with apologies and being honest that they are in a new relationship which is more special to him, he just wanted to give you closure. Something that narcs also never would do

[@julezchoi2330]

@@belroyale He mentioned about his new girlfriend because I told him that I got myself the closure since the day I saw him with his new girlfriend. After that he started to tell me a story of her without me asking for it and knowing that it could hurts my feelings. Before we cut each other of I mentioned about I feel like he his narcissistic from what he put me through but I always refused to believe that he is one because I see so much good in him. I just don’t understand why would he texted me this just to tell me that he is now in love with someone else. It’s not doing that for my peace at all that is how he made me feel. I just wish him luck with her.

[@marygavin3203]

He's actually triangulation you

[@samanthajames2032]

They do pine and watch ex grade A . Secondary supplies are just entertainment.

[@edgreen8140]

It's an illusion. The new supply could be a terrible pick; narcs are not known for their judgment. Thus after a period of time they may try to hover. The change in the narc is character trait acquisition. You focus on you.

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

My Ex-Fiance Malignant Narcissist Moved On to the Local Gothlike Cemetery. Stroked-Out Dead at 32 years old 3 months to the day after No-Contact was implemented.....R.I.P. The family understood insisting I pallbeared the funeral staunchly stating my treatment of their sibling was exemplary. Good Sentiment but it didn't help matters much. Trust me. It's true. They really can't survive or even live.....left alone.

[@AlwaysHope2019]

wow my ex fiancé is 36 and He always said that was going to happen to him that he could feel it that he wouldn’t live long. And he does have history of stroke in his immediate family But he has so many friends I’m sure he’ll survive I think he’s always with them

[@iamchannelll]

@@AlwaysHope2019there is such a thing as self fulfilling prophecy also

[@carlogambino1979]

It's still must have been a shock to you. That was somebody you loved, even if they were a narcissist.

[@lorithrall9847]

Thanks for sharing… what a relief to you. Mine talks of his fear too. You can’t let that energy control you and you had already set yourself free.,🌻

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

@@lorithrall9847 😆😆😆

[@elcee7800]

If they were able to “move on” they would have “moved on” by FIXING what was originally wrong in the first place. Same mechanism, different colors.

[@3timesacharm586]

There is nothing wonderful!!! Liar, cheater, abuser, alcoholic, inconsiderate, disrespectful, controlling, backstabbing!! Any "fun" I ever had with him is so overshadowed by all the horrible traits inside of him!!

[@kristiemcinnes304]

Yeah I'm starting to forget the good times, they were so few

[@ericnorthman9410]

After 10 years this person said "it's like I gave up" - referring to me. 10 YEARS and they were so off base they were on another planet. This is someone who thinks they know everything !

[@edtcrandall]

It's even a bit worse than you are saying, I think. We aren't just overthinking bettering ourselves, but how we can help this other person grow and be actually happy - even thought it turns out we can't help them.

[@cherylsokalski5504]

Thank you for providing a path and specific example of how to get out of the victim mentality. Your suggestions are truly my road map out of that mindset. Thank you so much🙏

[@lorithrall9847]

I realized it but I couldn’t give up. I read all the self improvement: how to save your marriage- alone. If I just try harder. If I improve myself… loop. Loopty Loop. Finally, I started cutting the cords. And I found myself saying: I don’t care anymore. You Narc have the right to have a warped sense of perception of me… and I truly don’t care. Namaste, Narc. Thank you Anoushka- This really helps.

[@daljitvirdi1024]

Thank you so much Anoushka makes perfect sense to me. I definitely don't see certain people in the same light like I used to. I was that person that did that and I put certain people on a pedastol because like you said it's the 1st impression that they portrayed to me untill i get shown a different side of their personality! I know we all have our flaws and issues but I don't hide who I am from anyone or need to unlike the narcissists! 😊💖🙏.

[@barbpace-lamb]

We care too much!

[@debramendelson9344]

You are AWESOME!!! Thank you for sharing your talents!! :)

[@angelamitchell1385]

I had to start thinking about him as though he’s disabled Emotionally and mentally disabled Having a personality disorder is a disability He won’t ever be able to “act or react” normally and has nothing to do with me bc he’ll treat everyone the same way eventually 🙏✌️

[@AnnMartin-Herbert]

I just thank god for the very narrow escape and for moving onto happier times

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

They replace the source of supply. In their eyes they do not replace YOU. You are of no value to them, you never were…

[@chrispearson4325]

You were definitely some kinda value too them thats why they staid and hoover you when it's all over....

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

@@chrispearson4325 I’m just saying it is not you they want, it is the supply you give them.. That is why you can be replaced when in fact nobody is replacable. There’s only one of each of us but not to them…

[@LouisKalisa]

You are irreplaceable for nacs.That is why they can not move on,remember at the first place,you attracted them because you are light and they are dark in terms of spirits!Mine cries every day because I sidelined her and this goes with smear intense campaign.

[@CL-we6hg]

I didn't sign up for no circus !😂 and i am not in their sand box!! Have fun narcs!!!!🎉😂

[@MrNice-hv3np]

How to make a narcissist bend to your will with 3 words. Look them dead in the eye, smirk, and say these words in the most condescending tone you can, “Don’t be boring”. It’s like kryptonite. They can’t help themselves but to prove you wrong that they are not “boring”. They will literally do a 180 and turn a refusal into immediate action. That’s always been my Narc Test 😂

[@livingmybestlife5634]

Preach Anoushka, Preach !!! 🙏🏾💜🙂

[@CL-we6hg]

I've moved on , with all narcissists ! In the only empath full of the rest r all narcs, I've had my rounds, but i just keep to myself and set up tall thick boundaries, like being in a glass bubble, they can see me, but they can't reach me!!!🎉😂 i left them all behind , meanwhile I've moved on , the best revenge ever!! 🎉😂

[@Truthh.Shinee]

😂 facts I love it,, it just eats em alive

[@pepe_da_prawn]

This is interesting. It's like I don't want her back, but I feel tied by this invisible rope. I feel stuck eve though I want to move forward. Its 6 months and I'm just starting to get back into my old hobbies.

[@starboijimmy1386]

Exactly. I've been physically and emotionally abused,manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis by my narcissistic husband. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillows or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my arms and shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more. My in-laws were also very verbally abusive towards me. I wasn’t allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to, I had to be ready for an argument. Every day I was reminded that I am nothing and that I was not worth fighting for and that I don't meet the standards of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the texts and pictures, I became numb. I've been a good wife, I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to my old friend who was a Database Analyst he helped me to extract enough information from his device. I was able to access all of his texts, emails, chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages, Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help, Contact @stevenson_techs on Instagram.

[@jhickman4735]

How can you stop thinking about someone you spent 10 years of your life with and loved with all your heart and soul ?

[@Cygnus49]

Sending you healing energies. I hear you. I am healing a 30 year trauma bond and illusion of a marriage. One needs to reprogram the mind and the heart. Get support! Watch as many videos as possible, journal and seek therapy if you need it. I personally meditate and align my spirit with compassion for myself. Know that your love is real. The version of the person you thought they were isn’t. You are the real one and be proud you are a loving person. They presented a version of themselves that you would love but it isn’t who they are. That’s the most difficult part to acknowledge and accept. You will survive this! Be gentle with yourself. Know you deserve so much better. ✨🕊️💖

[@delf5724]

I spent 13 yrs with mine. I moved on rarely think about him. But honestly sometimes I think about him.. it's sad reality

[@finleyscotland]

I did it

[@elcee7800]

Try 40.

[@jermainerobinson8879]

Please tell me too.

[@evasjoholm7457]

Thanks for this word. Need to hear this 🙏. ❤

[@Jeff-ng5ig]

Thank you soooo much!

[@LeonaPayton]

When they want to come back they pick up where they left off and don't reflect on what happened to the relationship they go to when they were { Love Bombing} cause it worked so well the first time ~ the relationship can never be the same for me ~ I can only listen and not give emotions

[@titanniki412]

Journaling, PEP talks in mirror, Therapy for 7 mos. Cognitive Dissonance is working OVERTIME today!! Ruff day for me!!

[@AlwaysHope2019]

Hang in there sounds like your on the way to freedom great job so far Best of luck 🤗

[@titanniki412]

@hope2231 TY Doing my best. She use 2 call me her Rock & Coach. I'm turning that inward towards me. Stay strong!!

[@iamchannelll]

yea my last situation ship put me in jail for a week she was so narcissistic and abusive gave false allegations .

[@seramarie76]

Amen my sister not from here. The Narcissist Whisperer

[@tonyg5132]

I felt like because our relationship was short that she did. I could be wrong though but she’s clearly fine with not talking to me anymore.

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

Halelujah!

[@tonyg5132]

@@moniquevanleeuwen6514 I wish I could think like that.

[@Sylvieanjouben]

I AM Narc Free😊

[@kimMorgan4813]

Can you address marriages that are 10 plus years? I was married 20 and he just decided to leave. Went no contact and blocked me on everything. I feel like I am the narc. I am so confused

[@blueskiesforever114]

I’m confused, if they keep repeating the same “ relationship” over & over one after the other …. How is that not moving on?

[@williammitchell9974]

Ones Finale Too OnesNarc Was(GOODBYE) Post ✉️ Card Written( With Thee Inclusion)( GOODBYE Means GOD BLESS YOU) Highly Recommended Folks Enjoy YOUR LIFES 🙏❤️🙏

[@evelynglover576]

I AM SURVIVOR FROM A NARCISSIST BUT MY BABY DIDN'T MAKE IT

[@JackDubya80]

you sure? mine got married. granted, its to a guy she was with for only 12 days before they married but sure seems like she moved on to me!

[@AG-ui4kw]

Mine meet a guy and married him in 3 days😮 just a fucked up game

[@Love4Life2024]

Just remember though, one size does not fit all. Said person could be going through difficult times and in turn might be a little hypersensitive. This will cause them to seem a little deceptive with their Authentic self,. In short you cannot assume a person is a Narcissist or has Narcissistic tenancies, they just might have stuff going on in the background that they cannot reveal for whatever reason. The person coukd be authentic but you just havnt earned the right to know everything about a persons going on, all you should do is be...... Nice = Reciprocity

[@NS-id7ff]

The music in not needed here.. Majority people visiting this channel must have anxiety issues after dealing with multiple Narcissists and the music triggers it and is too distracting that couldn't understand everything. Dislike

[@barbpace-lamb]

Hopeopium