"Sometimes you are not strong enough to kick people out your life so the Lord does it for you! Do not run behind them, Let them go"! Thank you so much! When he contacts me my only response is God is good! He has nothing to say after that! I keep my accomplishments to my inner circle and yes God has been blessing me over and over again since he left!
@bertaalvarez46372 жыл бұрын
Oh please. God will remove narcissists from someone's life. Just ask God. So stop your lying!!!!
@maryellis41972 жыл бұрын
Amen All the Time He is Good
@camillecooper19642 жыл бұрын
This is so true...God is sooooo good!
@lettybethel16272 жыл бұрын
I want to reach where u are in life one day. I am so heart broken right now.
@lalani888ARTblue Жыл бұрын
Excellent response 👌
@headofhairsecrets6946 Жыл бұрын
1. They cannot celebrate others & always turn the convo back to themselves 2. Their facial expressions will change when YOU are being celebrated - ‘malignant resentment’. 3. They gradually disapprove of the important people in your life 4. They make your accomplishments seem insignificant- diminishing the moment 5. They’ll contradict your view of reality (gaslighting) 6. They disappear unexpectedly (ghosting) 7. They swing in and out of your life
@PyrPupMom2 жыл бұрын
"Do not retrieve somebody that the Lord has kicked out of your life..." That resonates. Amen!
@Mia-ei4mh2 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏
@sharonwhitehamilton26672 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏾 and AMEN 🙏🏾 AGAIN.
@natural3362 Жыл бұрын
Amen. God knows what he's doing
@ATurnergirl Жыл бұрын
Epic_🙌
@bklyn20143 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Once you experience a narcissist, your whole world changes until you wake up.
@homeoffavours2 жыл бұрын
very true
@yvonnewashington7538 Жыл бұрын
This is true, I had a roommate who was a narcissist. I packed up and ran, and never looked back!
@DivinevirgoFeminine9 ай бұрын
Towards the end of the relationship I started recording our conversations because I honestly thought I was going crazy!! I’m single and he is gone!
@thepurplequeen256 Жыл бұрын
Im so happy I found this channel now. I am 11 months into my celibacy journey and so in love with God. The holy spirit led me to this word today to upgrade my healing and glow up in 2023. These types of men HATE themselves and hate successful and happy women. NEVER allow them back because the always come back begging. Thank you so much pastor RC Blake ♥️🙌🏾
@hj8501 Жыл бұрын
❤ I thank you Dr. RC. Most pastors aren't qualified to be real with people. Life is so great..when behaviors are in tact. Living God's life...❤
@cassmon284 жыл бұрын
I'm one of those women who keeps allowing narcissists into her life, along with disrespect. He'll be nice, then throw in little sly comments and insults, then play it off like it's a joke and I shouldn't be so serious. Really? No. It's not real attraction or the foundation for real love. I recently learned I need to say NO to these individuals. I deserve my own respect and love over any man's. By cutting this man off early, I'm telling myself I'm beginning to love myself.
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
blueascetic You described the so-called “friendly” Narc who begins his campaign of DISDAIN with the snide remarks on a daily. Cut to the chase and be done with the nonsense. They’ll try to WASTE your time...you know the drill. Blessings🌷
@spacelyman94824 жыл бұрын
@blueascetic Sounds like a toxic person.
@mecsekiagnes2964 жыл бұрын
Shortly after you stopped the intimate relationships with the narc, God will lead you. But you have to do the first step which is NO sleeping with him
@mariamerchant3734 жыл бұрын
Ditto! 😘
@sadittyb33334 жыл бұрын
blueascetic 🙌🏽 a coworker of mine. She’s older than I am but always insults folks in a joking way when it’s really how she feels. A woman was promoted and prior to that had a bariatric surgery and was losing weight , the narcissist talked about her so badly for no good reason! If a person says anything to she, she gets butt hurt and says they treat her bad.
@redeemed13524 жыл бұрын
Don't love anybody more than you love yourself. Preach Pastor!
@BeautifulMorning-dl6nl4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@latyraRudolph504 жыл бұрын
@@BeautifulMorning-dl6nl p
@lashaeleaf88424 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@marlenebragelman72514 жыл бұрын
Definitely.
@northfloridapomskies23164 жыл бұрын
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@preciousjewel53234 жыл бұрын
Those who disliked this video...the truth really does hurt when you realize you are the "Narcissist." 🤔 It's never to late to change....🤷🏾♀️😉 carry on Mr. Blakes we are learning and listening....😉
@pkgibbs20514 жыл бұрын
Yup and they never dated one either. Its a dangerous deal.
@preciousjewel53234 жыл бұрын
Thankfully I have never dated one but have been in the prescence of many; work, family, associates, etc.
@flamingsword7774 жыл бұрын
@@preciousjewel5323 God bless you...ive been surrounded by them for a total of 41 years. 25 years married and planning my escape RIGHT NOW......
@preciousjewel53234 жыл бұрын
@@flamingsword777 "Re-evaluate what you have rather then relive the agony of what you once lost. Keep it moving!" -Bishop T.D Jakes Hopefully, this quote will rescinate with you once you make your move beautiful Queen. Pray about your steps, be smart and steadfast about whatever decision you make....#KeepItMoving Blessings to you.
@Stargazer99334 жыл бұрын
Narcissists NEVER change.
@kellyellis60803 жыл бұрын
This is so true! My granny was one of the wisest people you would ever meet. She would sit in on conversations with company or family ( or whoever ) and just listen. Barely making any remarks or suggestions , just listening and getting a feel for the conversation at hand. And she could ALWAYS pinpoint trouble , shadiness , or dishonesty!! 🎯 She opened her ears and closed her mouth! She was a very godly woman and trusted God 100%! And , she always told us " be sure your sin will find you out "! " You reap what you sow "!
@esthersaldana9772 Жыл бұрын
Still learning to sit back and zip the lip!!!!!!! Many people are NOT who you think they are!!!!!
@lauralusk62924 жыл бұрын
I am free!!! Narcissistic abuse ended 2020 Chains are broken !!! I am saved thank you 🙏🏽 I pray for the new victim that I was replaced with , bless your soul Black Queen. I hope you have people in your life that see the evil inside of him , like my children and I ignored every red flag . Thank you Jesus for the opportunity to live and continue on a righteous path . I was lost and now I’m found .
@jodowsett69383 жыл бұрын
I was baptised today thanks to my narc 🙏🏻
@jasminethornton3078 Жыл бұрын
Please pray for me
@starryskies78884 жыл бұрын
1) The narcissist has nothing to say when in a convo about others. They always consistently change the convo back to them. It is impossible to celebrate others. There is no room in their soul to accomodate others. Love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. 2) Their facial expression will change when you are being celebrated. Malignant resentment. They will never be able to hide their disdain for your advancement. They are fundamentally incapable of supporting you. 3) They gradually disapprove of all the most important people in your life. Be aware when people talk against those who were with you from the foundation of life. 4) They make you feel bad when you are supposed to feel great. They take a massive moment and make it so small. Humiliation is intentional. Do not internalize the junk, call it as it is and keep celebrating. 5) They will constantly contradicting your view of reality. Intended to make you feel crazy. Make you not trust your sense of reality. Spiritual and psychological warefare. 6) They disappear suddenly without a word. Ghosting. Intended to rupture your self esteem. Rejection + abandonment. Approval from them is not necessary. When somebody leaves your life, change the locks and lock your door. 7) They swing in and out of your life. Don't have anybody disrespecting you. Hoovering. Do not entertain them. I'm not gonna love anybody so much that I fail to love myself. Start testing relationships. You're supposed to walk in love. You need the light of wisdom to test your relationships.
@mdmmalou4 жыл бұрын
Lyn M, Thank you for 'sorting it out'. Because of you I can write it faster in my notebook, in dutch. We really have to engrave these kinds of texts in our mind .. Trust You, love You, be You, thank You. 🧡👍
@christielove90004 жыл бұрын
@@mdmmalou Amen!🙏💫💖
@christielove90004 жыл бұрын
And Thankyou very much for The Detailed Outline!🤗
@brookegazy20964 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@lancejevonacoligado56904 жыл бұрын
SO TRUE! YOU NAILED IT!
@starryskies78884 жыл бұрын
Holy spirit, show me the hearts of the people I am dealing with.
@sharonclark92364 жыл бұрын
🙏Yes Lord...💞 SHOW US The True Heart and intent of ALL PEOPLE!
@LaSharonIsbellPilates4 жыл бұрын
Amen!🙏💜
@DJRenee4 жыл бұрын
Its always there ask to stop choosing to be blind.
@tsheagreer354 жыл бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@beesimonee4 жыл бұрын
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@feliciacarrington6814 жыл бұрын
A soul tie with a narc, is like digging your own grave,you will eventually feel like you are dead.
@lola-vm5qb4 жыл бұрын
Very Deep! True..
@marshamcdonald14754 жыл бұрын
Felicia C: I agree. I felt like I,with time, dug my own Grave and went to hell.
@msciselyscott4 жыл бұрын
Felicia Carrington truth!
@demetrioperkins74244 жыл бұрын
Amen! This is one of the realest things that I have ever heard! For most of my life I've dealt wit a narcissist, and what you've said is true Felicia C. I had givin up hope and on life as well.. To the point, you wished that you were dead.. Just so the suffering would end.... And like Pastor has said, the goal is to break you in all aspects of your life... As the many years had went by, I realized that all of my friends, family, and whoever else I cared about was completely out of my life... And the wild thing about it, she still had all of her friends, family, and other support connection fully intact.. And as the years when by, there were signs that they all despised me and wanted nothin more to destroy me... God tried many many years earlier in my life to break this tied with them by showing me all of the signs.. I regrettably ignored them and brought 4 beautiful lovely children into this world with this person.. So as the years went by, I became dependent on her family and friends.. All to no avail.. Everything that the Pastor had mentioned about the body language, false praises, and energy and mood sucking moments took place all the time.. Now since I know what to look for and look back on it.. And the worst thing of all is, that my kids are seriously suffering from brokenness and very confused and bein torn apart from all of the manipulation and deceit.. Three of the 4 of my children are bein turned against me right now to the point that they wished that I was dead or themselves... It is breakin my heart to be witnessing my kids go through the same things I did when I was heavy involved wit their mother and her inner circle... 2 of my children live wit me, one doesn't want to have anything to do wit any of them because she is smart and mature enough to pick on what's really goin on as all the things that Pastor has mentioned.. My other daughter that lives wit me is on the brink, because she goes back and forth to each home more So... And every time she comes back to my home.. She brings a piece of the negativity and evil ways of thinkin wit her... The tension is so thick, you can feel it and it causes severe headaches in me and my other daughter... I haven't givin up hope and I have faith in God that he will deliver us from this brokenness and negative soul-tie to a point that it is no longer causin strife, depression, anger, sickness, anxiety in our lives... I am oh so thankful and grateful that God had lead me to witness and receive this much needed powerful message... That I have shared wit my children and a few other relatives and friends... I pray that All will be so blessed as we all on here are to witness and receive this powerful, life saving message... In Jesus name I so humbly pray, AMEN!
@shehasjesus40214 жыл бұрын
Wow! So that explains why I feel like I’ve been buried alive....
@meredithbarrett83952 жыл бұрын
I agree narcissism is an epidemic. I was involved with 3 men who had personality disorders and was never set free emotionally and spiritually until I understood the disorder. Also like you said, the accountability on my end for letting the involvement deepen when I saw the red flags. The biggest thing I learned too is beauty is always skin deep, ugly is to the bone.
@Giftis2sing2 жыл бұрын
“If U want to live well, U have to live right”. Mercy! That’s good!! Glory to God!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
@kevinjanghj4 жыл бұрын
Never settle for someone who cannot learn to celebrate or appreciate you for you.
@bernicecherfrere77364 жыл бұрын
"I'm not going to let my love for you make me hate me (or the spirit of God in me)" Thanks for teaching the truth.
@tamibell48884 жыл бұрын
Amen, I'm going to type that comment out to carry with me. My x Narc did that to me.
@deanne77184 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your eloquent and Godly explanation of the spiritual warfare we in. I can relate to your eye-opening message. God bless you and yours. 😇🙏🏿💝
@shehasjesus40214 жыл бұрын
WOW
@7RB3733 жыл бұрын
yes, so very accurate.
@user-dp5qi8cz1n4 жыл бұрын
Narcissists target the humble meek people and feed on them for their survival ,use them as a stepping stone to progress in their life. Everything happens so subtly that we wouldn't have realised it that we've been played so well , by then its too late to even regret.
@chynadoll77cyn594 жыл бұрын
That’s what he did to me , another lady as well used us for his Financially gain . I broke up with him , he went to prison he used this older lady to take care of him 30 days before he got out of prison he ghost her. Then he started calling me telling me that he changed and he want his family back and that he had time to reflect while he was locked up . Smh 🤦🏾♀️ my stupid a$& took him . The older lady Facebook me wanted to talk to me I didn’t know who she was , and he didn’t want me to talk to her. So the lady was driving pass my house , I walked up to her car she drove off . I told him he was wrong for using that lady like that , when you had no intentions of being with her . Low and behold he did me the same way , I didn’t think 🤔 he would bcuz I have a son by him . But that didn’t stop him, his mission was to use me to get on his feet and when he got his CDL became a truck driver I saw the change. Lack communication, lack of respect, didn’t want to pay nothing, he felt better sleeping in his truck over road then to pay bills . He cheated on me 10 years ago with a 19 year old girl he was 36 years old at the time , gotten that 19 years old pregnant 🤰🏾. I forgave him and I stayed, but every time that boy came around it was slap 👋 in my face of betrayal. Well fast forward the 10 year old and bad as hell . The baby mama had other kids after and now she didn’t want his son , so she told my ex come get him . My ex pick him up didn’t really sit down and talk to me about the situation. Instead he used that excuse to walk away from our relationship. When he had other stuff going on like cheating, and now that he gotten his credit up and license it was screw me . Pick his son up that was is exit . So it won’t look bad! It would like it was my fault, that’s what he want every one to believe . It no closure, so I gave myself closure I put in a 30 days notice and moved from the place that I’ve been for 19 years. Blocked his number it’s been six months now no contact. Our son don’t really talk to his dad because he knew what he was doing. My son’s said mamma we knew he was going to get on his feet and leave you . Mamma you’ve should’ve never took him back . All I can do cry but I take responsibility for my actions and the part I played . But I’d learned my lesson. I don’t ever want to talk him ever . Blocked his family and him. I since then I have peace ☮️ and energy I loses the 10 pounds I gained that I couldn’t losed for nothing while I was with him. It hurts 23 years off and on with him
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
@Chynadoll77 Cyn The JAILHOUSE Narc is one of the worst! I know spouses and women who have been PLAYED and betrayed by these lying, rotten and demonic subspecies when they become free. Blessings to you🌷
@kia5174 жыл бұрын
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Everything he said about a Narcissist is so true, spent years married to one without knowing understanding what a narcissist was until after, I wish I would have seen this video years ago.
@AmylovesIceland4 жыл бұрын
😔
@4lifekr084 жыл бұрын
Wow you just summed up my husband
@mommagee3403 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic men will make you feel full of self doubt, almost to where you don’t even know who you are. You just go along with it. But ba-beee, when you finally wake up!
@tonyajames38773 жыл бұрын
I was married to a narcissist. I showered him with love, honor and respect. He couldn’t receive it. I covered him in prayer. He didn’t cover me. I thank God my family foundation and support is so strong, I’m not scarred from the manipulation, control, malignant resentment, gaslighting and drama. I still cover him in prayer, from afar! I pray he doesn’t do this to anyone else’s daughter!!!
@moneymitchamp4 жыл бұрын
People listen to this man. I’ve studied narcissism 9 straight months. At least 6-7videos a week. 15+ Narcissistic Coaches , counselors, THIS IS MY 1st time hearing this from a Pastor. As a Christian man everything he’s saying. EVERYTHING IS TRUE.... Do not listen to these dating coaches that say the narcissist word is overrated.. It’s in a regular dating coaches best interest for knowledge like this not to get out to the masses. Especially dating coaches with a large Female following. Study Narcissism. It will open your eyes. You will be like NEO in the matrix to toxic men/women. You’ll see them coming from a mile away.
@anneiconex14732 жыл бұрын
Yes look at my comment. He is soooo wise about this. 🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓
@ultimateoptimist52172 жыл бұрын
Very well said.
@tiffer3478 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly
@dineend8335 Жыл бұрын
Which dating coaches say that narcissism is overrated?
@ravenshanks4 жыл бұрын
Being christian you try to see the best in ppl but God also teaches us to guard our hearts everything we do flows from it
@fruitinspector82474 жыл бұрын
@@Msaliehs92 Well done darling, for choosing to watch this video. I would advise you to watch alot more to protect yourself from this insidious demonic people. You never want this behaviour to be generational. Most times daughters mimic and model their mother's behaviour. Pray, be discerning and love yourself.
@juneo74 жыл бұрын
Raven, you said it just right for me
@shamsimunroe9224 жыл бұрын
My ex narc was a great pretender! He played a role the entire time! I am so grateful i escaped that toxic relationship!
@sharonclark92364 жыл бұрын
💞 AMEN SIS! 💞 🙏 Good for you!🙏 God helped you to dump him!
@godzillamanstreb5244 жыл бұрын
You did it! Binge watch Lisa A Romano too❣️
@faithsandstrom38833 жыл бұрын
Yes mine played one for 8 years. I'm aware. He was not my only narcissist. He was the worst covert. I'm aware!!!!!
@claudianoel86723 жыл бұрын
Me too sis it took me eight years but thank God I am free🙏
@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD3 жыл бұрын
@38:00 that house cleaning anecdote had me deep in my feelings. My mother is a covert narcissist. I graduated from Yale, then became a doctor, but the woman makes me feel like a complete failure of a human being because I’m not a domestic goddess. When she cussed me out because I bought her an SUV and paid off the note a year later (she wanted the cash not the paid off car), I decided I was DONE. SMDH… I just went no contact. Enough.
@wisdomknowledgelover62932 жыл бұрын
Wow...You were so good to your Mom..you work hard and you're smart! God made you perfect...Each of us fearfully and wonderfully made! God will bring you another Mom in the Body of Christ! Blessings!
@SusieQ156 Жыл бұрын
Sister- she was jealous of your success!!!
@juliamarie8551 Жыл бұрын
God bless you! You tried but had to protect your spirit and peace. Good for you!! I wish I could do the same 😞
@October3074 Жыл бұрын
Are u still n/c with ur mother? I've been n/c 23 years. What did she do 4 a living? She was indeed jealous of u.
Holy Spirit, show me the hearts of the people I am dealing with, in Jesus Christ's name. Amen.
@healed20113 жыл бұрын
Amen!!!🙏🙌🏾
@suzanoz45063 жыл бұрын
Me too. X
@MrsTee-ql1hw Жыл бұрын
Amen.
@deborahybarra Жыл бұрын
🙏 Amen.
@sharoneh8929 Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙌🏾🙏🏾
@rainingpatchouli44764 жыл бұрын
Don’t accidentally think you’re a narcissist if you’ve suffered at the hands , mind and spirit by being with one. They will turn you from sweet to sour and you can go back to normal once you’re away from Them. ❤️❤️❤️
@lisataylor30274 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! I questioned myself all the time....”am I a narcissist”. I know that I’m not but because I was with mine for 18 years and I suffer from PTSD and am healing I see when people are playing the game and I find myself questioning myself all the time. Pastor Blake’s validated something I was already thinking. America breeds narcissists, that’s the reason I encounter so many plus I’m an empath. I pick up on peoples emotions and feelings.
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Yes
@jjewleeuh2 жыл бұрын
I needed this, sister. ♥️ I don’t feel like myself anymore.
@jjewleeuh2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. 🙏
@KAMROXX2K112 жыл бұрын
I felt this because I feel like I am the narcissist.
@shamsimunroe9224 жыл бұрын
Amen....you must leave the narsissist in the hands of God!! Leave them alone!
@tyedajones71983 жыл бұрын
Faccccts!!!! Alone with God!!!!
@New-mg4zp4 жыл бұрын
Pastor you should be on every schools curriculum for how to live as you are extremely valuable with information and wisdom 💜
@user-ir5ul1ph1c4 жыл бұрын
Adolescents and young adults need this information.
@nieyshabrown95784 жыл бұрын
Agreed! 🙌🏼🙏🏼
@marshamcdonald14754 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!! This should be Taught in our schools. USA has High rate of divorce.
@kikikiki32164 жыл бұрын
Absolutely x
@zurigee64 жыл бұрын
Yep because if you let those types,they will hurt and destroy you and quality of life.
@JM-kj7ek Жыл бұрын
I experienced the same thing during my marriage to a narcissist. I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer and the rage, gaslighting and resentment got worse until I finally left while still receiving treatment for cancer. I didn’t know what I was experiencing but I knew it wasn’t right. I stumbled across this page and realized that I was battling a demonic spirit. I went straight no contact, filled for divorce and now focusing on a long road of healing. Although it’s still hard trying to piece my life back together again. I can truly say that I’m in a much better place. Thanks to powerful messages like this. Pastor Blakes is God sent!
@SelfishlyM33 жыл бұрын
I recently left my demonized narcissist. I was tired of his mind games, his inconsistencies, and his "greater than thou" mentality and behavior. Moving forward. I'm so grateful that I came across Pastor Blake. I definitely have my eyes open now. I refuse to believe anyone at his face value. AMEN.
@kayoniecole54494 жыл бұрын
Real disgusting character and Oh they over love themselves and believe everyone should cater to them. Hate being challenged and have a high sense of entitlement Run run Run
@chynadoll77cyn594 жыл бұрын
Yep my ex was this type always felt entitled and used multiple women and gets a way with it . When i used to call him out on his BS he’ll get mad 😡. Very selfish even towards his kids , I have one son by him and never really did sh&$ for my son unless you asked for it. My son is now 20 years old and now he see for himself. My ex had 4 baby mammas 5 kids very toxic person his whole family ratchet ghetto loud they fight among themselves . I never like to be around his family, his family use to tell him she stuck up because I don’t drink or smoke 💨 nor weed . He’s had no values or morals . He cheat and cheat with old ex’s and then some . 23 years I was with him
@kayoniecole54494 жыл бұрын
Wow hmm really disgusting human beings. My ex hmm was this exactly. They are often a womanizer or vice versa. When they are ready to Discard of you is one of the most horrible moment. Think I.am dealing with another now this spirit seems to be hunting me down. I refuse to accept such selfish self centred thinking and manipulative ignorant proud spirit. They cause such trauma if your not strong enough to run away from them it becomes a roller coaster of toxic emotions
@lanitaykelley88384 жыл бұрын
WOW! I too have been advised - R U N !
@bosstravels362513 жыл бұрын
Wow you are so right.
@bosstravels362513 жыл бұрын
@@chynadoll77cyn59 This is so crazy my child's father and his family are the same way. We have no contact with them because I don't trust and honestly I was embarrassed. But I'm praying for you all and blessings are coming your way.
@KrishawnaC4 жыл бұрын
Someone will be delivered after hearing this message 💜
@denise34324 жыл бұрын
Amen
@3669lizzy3 жыл бұрын
In the process of healing now
@eprixciate3 жыл бұрын
Myself. I am getting persecuted extremely now for even listening to this video.
@steeenab23063 жыл бұрын
So true. Wish I had seen this last year.
@teshiajones8073 жыл бұрын
And Is🙏🏽😌
@Mspuddin674 жыл бұрын
God's Voice: Stills You, Leads You, Reassures You, Enlightens You, Encourages You, Comforts You, Calms You, Convicts You. Satan's Voice: Rushes You, Pushes You, Frightens You, Confuses You, Discourages You, Worries You, Obsesses You, Condemns You I cannot take credit for this message.
@AmylovesIceland4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely agree. When he says "You should never 'love' or create soul ties with someone who builds doubt in your spirit."😔💕
@calashibryant2954 жыл бұрын
My Word!!!! Amaze sis!!!!!
@queenruth77774 жыл бұрын
I believe you i have first hand experience on this
@shannonwhite65914 жыл бұрын
🔥 🔥 On Point!!!!!
@evezazzle59744 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this 🥺😵🤯💓🙏
@jasminearcher72414 жыл бұрын
They’re crazy he went from saying “ I plan on spending the rest of my life with you” to discarding me the next week , 3 months after that hovered me , called me and said, “hey I haven’t heard from you” as in nothing ever happened, I stopped entertaining him, praying and staying no contact, God please help me break the soul tie from my ex narc
@JM-kj7ek Жыл бұрын
First stop claiming him as “yours!” You’re on the path of healing. I pray God heals you in the name of Jesus!
@jasminearcher7241 Жыл бұрын
@@JM-kj7ek thanks ❤️❤️
@KatriceJones3 жыл бұрын
He’s spot on when he said they gradually try to cut important people out of your life… I have 4 grown sons, and I dated a guy that was very intimidated by my sons… He would always tell me your sons are too old to be living with you… He was hell bent on this … every single day he was beating me upside the head with this… It was clear to me that he trying to divide and conquer by trying to get me to put my sons out, so he can have his way with me… I got rid of him quick!!
@karenblueford9082 Жыл бұрын
You're saw the RED FLAGS thank God you saw them,and got rid of him . He wanted to control you and take away your support team your son's. That's one of the first things they do are try to move you away from your family and friends. So you can just reply on him and depend on him. May God continue blessing you and your family ❤️♥️🙏
@MDWhite-qg6yb3 ай бұрын
Wow, I’m glad you noticed that too. They are your sons and that is ultimately your decision on whether or not you want them to continue to live with you regardless of age. Having 4 sons was an added layer of protection that he didn’t want to deal with. Glad he is gone 😀
@kymistryw4 жыл бұрын
I'm in 😢 tears because EVERYTHING he's saying is the truth, I couldn't believe how low I allowed myself to go dealing with a narc, everything my mother taught me I put it down 😢 I know she was turning in her grave, but I tell you God love me so much he gave me back everything that I lost. To God be the glory. But pastor you are the truth, I thank God for you. 🙏
@shaheeda4 жыл бұрын
Forgiving myself was the first step to moving on. Also forgive them as Jesus forgave those that did what they did to him
@shaheeda4 жыл бұрын
The narcissist can take a person to the depths of hell and you wouldn’t even realize it until you get there.
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Girl me too.... The crap I put up with shames me🤦🏿
@anneiconex14732 жыл бұрын
Yes right 😊 👍👍👍👍👍👍
@mecsekiagnes2964 жыл бұрын
When you ask God to help... You have to be ready!!!
@fruitinspector82474 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately many women are not ready. They are sitting in abuse and waiting for God to change their spouse. They convince themselves it's God's will.
@DJRenee4 жыл бұрын
Very very very true.
@willawtry51194 жыл бұрын
@@fruitinspector8247 its not a gender thing! there are just as many possibly more men living in shame at the end of our ropes waiting for God to change our Covert Narcissistic Wives, trying to be faithful and not divorce
@keshondapepp3714 жыл бұрын
Yes you are so right
@johnvigil41544 жыл бұрын
mecseki agnes Amen! Then, GO! AND NEVER LOOK BACK! Only look up, to Jesus!
@amymorale13794 жыл бұрын
grown 50 year old men do not want to have the necessary conversation concerning growth, learning, reading , inter personal maturity without getting defensive and condescending just for asking questions in a straight -nice manner.
@Stargazer99334 жыл бұрын
Amy Morale I thought that it was just the men I knew. You are SO, SO, SOOOOO, CORRECT.
@camille774154 жыл бұрын
@@Stargazer9933 OMG I thought it was just me too.... I'm so relieved I was right all this time about this. Thank God for the confirmation
@camille774154 жыл бұрын
No truer words have been spoken. I just couldn't understand this. Your words have been in my head for years. They are Narcs, I'm just now figuring it all out😪
@thebestindewest3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Omg really?
@kevinjanghj4 жыл бұрын
"I am not going to make my love for you make me hate me!" Truth!
@alohaleslie94074 жыл бұрын
A powerful message! Thanks so much. You spoke of "malignant resentment." When I was married, it was almost impossible for my husband to acknowledge my accomplishments or gifts. He always seemed a bit resentful of what I able to do. Women (and men) can't live in an environment of constant resentment. I ultimately was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer and ovarian cancer. During my healing, I prayed that God would reveal the Truth to me. My husband left after my surgery from ovarian cancer, which devastated me. However, I knew it was God's will. Thirteen years later, I see the gift more and more. My lesson is to always love myself first. And to have the gift of discernment to recognize "toxic" people in my life. :)
@Lacilove19914 жыл бұрын
And what’s crazy about a narcissist is when they try to ghost you and you don’t feed into it, now they start to come after you. You block them and everything, now they at your front door. That is why never while dating someone invite them to your ave until you guys are serious and ready for marriage
@patriciawhite95094 жыл бұрын
True!
@tinadavis77423 жыл бұрын
So true everytime i get over the narcissist and move on here he comes back.after him ghosting me for months.thats crazy.
@kidchocolate92532 жыл бұрын
You are soooo right!
@sherrypeace6642 жыл бұрын
Also applies after divorce..when you Block them, you ignore and take their control away..the lack of power will anger them!
@tammyfitzgerald5336 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@sscott5044 жыл бұрын
How can one discern a narcissist without a relationship with Holy Spirit...ultimately that's the voice being ignored...I know firsthand that's how I was freed from a fool.
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
Aki Scott The holy spirit let you KNOW right away who you were dealing with. No doubts about it. You did the right thing and broke free. Great 👍
@jodowsett69383 жыл бұрын
I was re born today and baptised The fool made God seek me for salvation and now I can’t go back I belong to Jesus 🙏🏻
@gianelogan77803 жыл бұрын
Follow what Pastor is saying. He is right on target just pay attention. The love bombing, arrogance, hyper sensual, back biting.
@missjaszmine19683 жыл бұрын
YES!! HALLELUJAH.
@sacrificiallamb16304 жыл бұрын
My x controlled me and used my weight against me. I worked hard to loose weight and was so excited that I had lost 22 lbs and told him and he said nothing.... NOTHING! That was the catalyst that made me realize he was a narcissist and cared nothing about me. Single and happy now!
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
Yep, tin ,thin ,lamb
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
@@mangosteena yes ma'am loved porn
@tretre4u723 жыл бұрын
@@mangosteena sex crazed maniacs!! Rape style!! No emotions!!
@Ddeath.Eaterr3 жыл бұрын
Wow what a jerk
@christinagolden61804 жыл бұрын
I cried at the end when he said we are loved and he is praying for us.
@ms.acbeautiful Жыл бұрын
I’m SO GLAD you addressed that this nation BREEDS narcissists!! I’ve been saying this for as long as I can remember! Esp the black culture which is why the dating Pool for AA’s (African Americans) is low and extremely poor in quality selections! SO many males self-centered and toxic and pollute the waters anywhere they go. It’s such an epidemic. No one is trying to marry. Everyone is serial dating and stuck on self. Professing to want marriage but not conditioned and mature enough to know what it actually means moreover requires! THANK YOU BISHOP!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
@btfields3234 жыл бұрын
Preach preacher!!! I just went through that kind of emotional abuse. He brought my self worth down so low, I was beginning to feel so worthless and thought about suicide. Im healing right now. I've cried a many nights but I know for a fact, that I will RISE! I had to remind myself of who i was...I am a soon to be graduate of thee Southern University, a single mother of twins, own a house & car....ima Bad Mama Jama!....his lost!😜💁🏽
@jennifersalinas7164 жыл бұрын
Keep up the good work👍🏼☺ I just recently experienced the same. Husband left me with 5 children. He is messing around with two different women who also have children. Narcissist know who to prey on. I am working fulltime, homeschooling 4 of the five, and in school getting my master's degree. His lost and I pray for the next victim.
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Same.... I was so confused and didn't wanna live anymore! So sad!!!! I'm back to me NOW slowly, but surely
@homeoffavours2 жыл бұрын
Good job dear, thats the spirit!
@teew1895 Жыл бұрын
Yes sister, preach! My ex narc just black my eye for the second time in our 5 years relationship. He's 6'4, 230. I'm 5'3, 135. I was fighting him with everything in me. The Holy Spirit gave me strength. And of course, like the 1st time, it was my fault. He told some man was going to hurt/kill me (the devil is lie) because if man hits you should sit down. Well I'm not built like that. He you hit me, I'm picking what ever is available. However this is not how I want to live my life.
@pricillageorge6593 Жыл бұрын
I know how you feel it's horrible 😞 Get well soon pray and exercise daily
@ingridmarrero84704 жыл бұрын
Thank You Pastor You are on Point!!! I wish I would've had this knowledge years ago I'm recovering from Narcissist Abuse after been Married to a narcissist for 9 years I'm alive today only by God's grace I hope and pray that the Women listening to You apply all of this information and knowledge whenever they meet or date someone it can and will save them from pain, heartache and even death. Blessings 🥰
@mariaarrington96034 жыл бұрын
Ingrid Marrero Amen Sis 😊
@daliendelafosse-brooks95434 жыл бұрын
🙏🏼I’m stepping out and letting go with blind faith HE IS WHO HE IS❣️❣️
@MsLizPhillips4 жыл бұрын
Amen to that
@fruitinspector82474 жыл бұрын
@@daliendelafosse-brooks9543 May the Lord go before you.
@G3mini334 жыл бұрын
Praying for you Ingrid ❤️🙏💐
@saracowherd35394 жыл бұрын
I agree with everything. But I will give one important note: sometimes the narcissist will give you lots of praise and they will genuinely be proud of you for your accomplishments, but really it’s just because they see you as an extension of them self and your accomplishments are kind of their property. But you better make sure you achieve what they want you to achieve lol. Thank you especially for the prayer at the end because we certainly need it.
@raeanneegan61914 жыл бұрын
This is very true
@sabrinaalston12434 жыл бұрын
Sara I remember in church I had a friend so I thought would complement me so kindly of how they liked my style and how I dressed little did I know about Narc abuse then of how she would work on people's kindness to get whatever she wanted from people she would cry at a drop of a hat and always spoke on how bad people treated her a true ploy to extort now she is sad in life and no one wants to be around her she made her own bed doing innocent people wrong Flatout
@saracowherd35394 жыл бұрын
Sabrina Alston And then if you didn’t help her, she somehow made you feel like you were a bad person? I hope you are not interacting with this person anymore. God bless you.
@saracowherd35394 жыл бұрын
R J Yes, set you up in order to knock you down and then present them self as the Savior. I went through that for 14 years and didn’t even realize that I was a good person and that he was not my savior but my villain
@sabrinaalston12434 жыл бұрын
@@saracowherd3539 Sara No Way do I have dealings with them I wish her Salvation and a strong relationship with JESUS only HE can change her
@yazmynebright58924 жыл бұрын
I had a guy that that I've known about 3 yrs we started a physical soultie and one day I was just tired of giving my body with no commitment. I told him we were done since you obviously dont see me as wife material. He begged to come back and he is going to work on this and work on that ok I let him back in my life but with no sex. Just wanted to see if we had anything between us besides sex. He came and changed the oil on my car fixed my printer bought breakfast for that particular morning after he was done he asked me can he be rewarded I'm like huh already knowing what he was getting at. I told him no were not in a relationship. After being with me all day he says I'm gonna go I said ok. He texted me soon after saying he feels like this is one sided that he's benefiting me but I'm not benefitting him...I still haven't responded.
@ladyzinada53413 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@mybrownsparklez3 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@natural3362 Жыл бұрын
That guy is so dumb
@angela-fs3vt3 жыл бұрын
Breeding narcissism here in USA sounds like a completely true statement. Scary now that I have clarity and understanding.
@peacenjoy43664 жыл бұрын
My heart ❤️ was so heavy before I watch your video BUT after I watched your video i👀 MY HEART ❤️ IS MORE AT EASE 🙏🏾. I just want to thank you 😊
@peacenjoy43664 жыл бұрын
Vernita Thank you 🙏🏾
@tlp82954 жыл бұрын
I was beaten severely 2 yrs ago almost lost my life he left me for dead and sped off. I had an angel intervention during the attack. He was over me and punching 25 to 30 punches. I am a disabled senior. I was left with 2 broken thumbs as well. It has been a very difficult recovery. God never left me. He is my everything. I will never worship any person again
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
Yep Anna da body won't last, but your spirit , thanks fer endurance
@patriciawhite95094 жыл бұрын
No! God loves you. He promised in his word. He WILL take care of you. Peace! God Bless you.
@Tiffany_3x3 жыл бұрын
T P Jesus loves YOU, honey! ❤
@Ddeath.Eaterr3 жыл бұрын
Wow I’m so glad you’re ok now
@missjaszmine19683 жыл бұрын
We are grateful to God for your survival and recovery; thank you for sharing with us your experience and journey of healing. Never again! Hallelujah!!!!
@mariajames58844 жыл бұрын
GOD WILL SEND A MESSENGER WHEN YOU ARE READY TO HEAR HIM..THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE..GOD BLESS YOU💖🙏
@tretre4u724 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@fatimazaky63534 жыл бұрын
In the last days, men would be lovers of themselves and money and pleasure (2 Timothy 1-5).
@barbarabarnes43984 жыл бұрын
God always gives the best to those who leave the choices up to Him!❤
@Tluv_19554 жыл бұрын
This is so true I suffered major depression and PTS since I met my narcissist ex it’s a very real spiritual warfare we are in, there nothing more is important then this topic I feel
@matthewsworld8784 жыл бұрын
tanya 4everloyal me too I’m really trying get my life back to normal
@LoveWithin4 жыл бұрын
I was in therapy for 2 years after divorcing the Narc I was with. It REALLY helped. I no longer have the health issues I was having and I lost weight.
@kita-11162 жыл бұрын
All should be spreading the word and those early red flags to their friends/family. These videos aren’t just entertainment- they’re life saving. You might just help someone else out!
@msrochellaqueen4 жыл бұрын
Man of God the Holy Spirit increases your anointing on this subject more and more, know that your labor is not in vain. I’ve grown mentally and spiritually and most of all my self love has increased
@sharonclark92364 жыл бұрын
🙏Yes Lord...💞 Keep on pouring into Pastor Blake and enlightening us Queen's and King's!
@tretre4u724 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!!!
@tretre4u723 жыл бұрын
Yes Amen!! This man is the truth! I love him! He’s helping me so much!
@stasiamd504 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 5 years. Got discarded and have been blessed.
@mightymouse10053 жыл бұрын
@Stacia Davis....you didn't get discarded, you got FREEDOM
@princessluvvsg1967 Жыл бұрын
I was with one for 2.5 yrs I didn't know until almost 1.5- 2 yrs he was a narcissist. I ghosted him and went no contact Sept 2022...and felt bad when he started calling and texting me from end Sept 2022 to Jan 2023... He finally stopped calling.and.texting.
@dianeoneil53764 жыл бұрын
I wish I heard this 14 years ago . I ran after a man who ghosted me, twice no less! When he returned I thought I was the luckiest woman. Now I know it was a set up for a soul tie, and did I pay the price for it? Indeed I did. Thank you for these important talks to help people process, heal and not repeat these soul crushing mistakes!
@deena30034 жыл бұрын
My father said that A Lot....."Look deep before you leap". Its so true to the core. You can get tied up with someone that can ruin your life forever.
@Steelers_Girl4 жыл бұрын
Thank you pastor. I've given 2 years to a narcissist. 2 years to many. Please keep me in prayer please
@FeminineElegancebyRoz4 жыл бұрын
I love the way you find a scripture for everything and how it makes sense. I dated a narcissist and I did not realize it ... I knew something wasn't right I just couldn't put my finger on it, until I left. Another characteristic of a narcissist is they cannot and will not accept the word "NO" A normal person can hear the word no and say OK no problem we don't like it but we move on; however, a narcissist takes that "NO" to another level ...to the 10th power...bent out of shape and literally have a temper tantrum ALL THE TIME. I also realize me and narcissists don't get along so I'm good lol. Thank you so much.
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
Good sales,no not an answer,two
@shannonwhite65914 жыл бұрын
YES!!
@patriciawhite95094 жыл бұрын
They are demons, we are angels, that is why we do not get along with them. All of you on this thread are so powerful, and you do not know it. And all the power you have within you was given to you by God himself. He has been our shield, and protector during the his, our dark assignment. You have years ahead of you my sista to live and enjoy the good life God has already planned for you.
@Moneyoverbullshit8504 жыл бұрын
@@patriciawhite9509 ?
@tretre4u724 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! So true!!!! Dealing with that as we speak!
@longhairleesh4 жыл бұрын
I’m willing to bet that the dislikes came from Narcissists. WHO ELSE would be mad at this Man of God for telling the truth but a LIAR??? “the only people who get mad at those telling the truth, are those living a LIE” -unknown
@RCBlakesJr.4 жыл бұрын
I can create a video where I just say: “hello, you’re amazing” and they would give me a thumb down 😂
@longhairleesh4 жыл бұрын
Facts of Life Rev 😭🤦🏾♀️
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
@@RCBlakesJr. Anna da darkness, stands it not
@naarah92423 жыл бұрын
This is my mother ALL the way. I just woke up to her being a Narcissist 6 months ago, and now I can see when her demons are manifesting. She has a very demonic glare when she's upset. I'm her invisible/scapegoat child, and my life with her has been terrifying and abusive. This video is 100% accurate!
@KK-nw3he3 жыл бұрын
Someone out there will need these words, I didn’t think I could get this far, last year I tried to end my life, thank you Lord for saving me. To anyone out there broken and crushed, day by day I kept going, the very hardest time of my life.. thank you Lord for bringing me here away from harm and continuing to heal me fully
@theeJZ Жыл бұрын
❤
@angied27054 жыл бұрын
I called my wedding off because I realize he was a narcissist
@patriciawhite95094 жыл бұрын
Great! Go NO CONTACT! RUN!!!! God loves you. The narcissist never will!
@lanitaykelley88384 жыл бұрын
HAVE MERCY GOD So glad that you recognized and took instant action. Heal Sister
@godzillamanstreb5244 жыл бұрын
Wow I’m inspired by your courage.....binge watch Lisa A Romano too❣️💙
@rhonamurungi2004 жыл бұрын
wow you were really brave.
@gorgeousgbaby49384 жыл бұрын
I wish I had this knowledge to call my wedding off
@vanitajones65334 жыл бұрын
We need strong discernment to pick up on Narcs💯
@IsisOnFire1234 жыл бұрын
Agreed.
@tiawhitmore15334 жыл бұрын
Pastor Blake's. I wish you knew how much of a blessing you are! I thank God for you! Let me tell you how good God is. I was in the cafeteria at work last month when I ran into someone I rarely saw...only communicated with via emails. We were talking and she mentioned listening to you. I told her to Skype me your name so I could look you up and she did. Turns out, I was terminated later on that day. But I was also escaping a very destructive relationship with a covert narcissist. God is so good to lead me to you thru her right before He knew I would be terminated!
@preciousjewel53234 жыл бұрын
A new door will open for you! Blessings....
@shannonwhite65914 жыл бұрын
🎉🎊yes
@tinesha21053 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like this a 1000 times. All praises to the most high. Thank you Jesus for this word 💯🙏🏾❤
@dleveston3 жыл бұрын
All of these points are so true! Wow! I'd also add a couple of other things. A) Their relationships with many other people in their life can be rocky ("I don't get along with a lot of my family members." B) They admit that people say they're arrogant or they make it a point to highlight how sarcastic they can be. C) They don't talk about what's presently going on with them often. They mostly talk about the past. Because they don't have a lot of things going on now, they talk about the "good old days" a lot! They also talk about future goals a lot but have no plan to make things happen. Point is, it's all about them!
@shaynekedarnadumom4 жыл бұрын
I’m not sure if you look at all your comments, but on the chance that you do, Reverend Blakes I just wanted to say that this GOD ordained message was an amazing blessing and ministered to myself and my children on levels! Thank you so much for the work you do! 🙏🏽
@RCBlakesJr.4 жыл бұрын
Thank you. It is my honor. 🙏🏽❤️😊
@MsDera814 жыл бұрын
@@RCBlakesJr. Thank you so much for this message. I had heard of a narcissist before, but I never really knew just how real narcissism was. I made the mistake of marrying a narcissist, and for almost 5 years now, I have been feeling dead on the inside, foolish, weak, and just overall CONTROLLED. He is extremely disrespectful, bold, and blackmails me very often. He pretended to be a believer in Christ before we got married. He was a perfect gentleman. But his true colors came out after I got pregnant with our now 3 year old son, and he realized that I was dependent on him for financial support. He has cheated on me with six different women that I know of, and the last one he was with got PREGNANT on purpose because for one, he asked her to have his baby, and secondly, he told her that I was pregnant, so that made her afraid that he would come back to me and she immediately stopped using birth control and TOLD him that she was ready to have his baby. I had no idea that he was cheating on me. When I found out, I pleaded with him not to destroy our marriage, but he refused to leave her, and the child that I was carrying fell into the toilet. My dilemma is that I can NOT AFFORD to take care of our son by myself. I don't make enough money. Also, the Bible says that if the non believing spouse wishes to remain in the marriage, that I should stay married to him. I want to know if I can stay married to him for ths sake of our son, and expect GOD to protect my emotions and my mental health from his abuse? I have other women in my family who stayed married for the sake of the children even when their husbands were having multiple affairs.
@Sun-sz4ne3 жыл бұрын
@@MsDera81 please read the book the 5 wounds. And watch Gabor Mate. Nobody can tell you what to do. You will end it when you will feel like. But try to find out why did you make the choice that you did or you will do and why are you continuing the family trauma
@cato55684 жыл бұрын
Malignant resentment, this is very real.
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
Cat O Sadly, their hearts are dark.
@LoveWithin4 жыл бұрын
Yes! At first he was so proud of me and bragging on me, then he started criticizing those very things he said he loved about me.
@shug_no_avery81723 жыл бұрын
Yessss lord it’s very real
@justliss18274 жыл бұрын
I went through this with my ex husband. All of this is so true. I will never deal with a jealous man again. I wish this teaching was around 17 years ago. Thank you.
@seekgodfirstallways87984 жыл бұрын
At my wedding reception, in the late 1980s, as my husband and I were so happy and all were smiling, we were about to cut the cake together. My younger sister looked over to me and said out loud, " Ugly thing!" I heard her boyfriend ask her, " why did you say that"? I will never forget that incident. She's still the same today. She can't see others have anything good. She has to see the negative in everything. I'm a Christian, and I try to preach the gospel to her, but i realise now, that only God can change her. 😌🙏
@bettyboop89294 жыл бұрын
Bad thing is.. the person I was entangled with for over 12 years is a pastor. I knew the signs but I thought I could change him. I left that nut alone!!!
@lookingforvalue63614 жыл бұрын
Have you ever talked about the narcissistic evil grin? When they know that they wounded your soul the have this grin on there face. They can be dangerous and are capable of the lowest of the lowest behavior and then turn around and deny their actions. I also believe that this spirit can possess their children.
@BeautifulHal03 жыл бұрын
One day I asked him what was the sinister smile about when I tell him he's hurting me? His reply, he did the sinister smile....
@shug_no_avery81723 жыл бұрын
Yesss. The smirk and the stare is something u will never ever forget
@tretre4u723 жыл бұрын
Wow!!!!!! Soooo true!!!
@str52953 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, YES. I've seen that grin! My ex would grin like he was amused or pleased with himself when he saw how upset he had me. It was evil.
@summerdawn9792 жыл бұрын
A sinister grin from decades ago that I will never be able to unsee.
@rifcamathurin24044 жыл бұрын
"They have something bad to say about your mama!?" I am so grateful for you Pastor Blakes!
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Omg always. They want you with No one in your corner so they can really destroy you
@tretre4u723 жыл бұрын
Mines got drunk and called me and my mother a b@&$!
@helencathleen3 жыл бұрын
Mine said, “Your family has the collective intelligence of a pea.” What a jerk! So happy to be free.
@tretre4u723 жыл бұрын
@@helencathleen oh my! Mines said my parents were not as great as I say they are etc etc yet his daddy died a heroine addict and his mom was a crack head and many other tasteless things.. I just shook my head like ok what is your point of reference??!!
@hazellee8595 Жыл бұрын
I asked my husband to tell me a funny joke, his respnce was your Mother, my mum passed away 7 years ago 😢
@laraoneal72844 жыл бұрын
I’ve gone ghost on narcissists when I recognize who they are so this can go both ways.
@pla48254 жыл бұрын
I realized that when I was Ghosted by my cheating boyfriend because I wasn’t strong enough to leave the relationship he was removed out of my life but it was all for my own best interests. It was time for the relationship to END even though it did hurt
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
Same
@desireyaa72892 жыл бұрын
Same here also
@lilmissunshine833 жыл бұрын
Stay away from narcissist your heart will be shattered beyond what you thought was possible. I pray that there’s a healing to remove this affliction from the earth. So no other person ever has to feel this level of pain. But If you believe God will get you through it.
@ed0004 жыл бұрын
Don't believe everything you see, don't believe everything that you hear!!
@monicawade97253 жыл бұрын
000
@triciasimone73 жыл бұрын
They LIE on credit
@wisdomknowledgelover62932 жыл бұрын
Fake news is real on do many levels...
@NostalgiaVibes4204 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely what I experienced Pastor and it nearly broke my spirit! But by the grace of God I was about to get out of that hell hole!! It was definitely the holy spirit that got me out and then many blessings came after 🙏 it was by far the worst situationship I ever encountered to say the least! But 3 yrs later and counting I'm on way to a great Victory! 💪🏽 It isn't easy but I'll get there 😊💯 all I can say at the end of the day is I wish him the best! ✌🏾
@miriammatthews22024 жыл бұрын
This has been the last 26 years of my life. To a T. I cannot believe how spot on you are. Down to the examples. I am no longer married to the narcissist, it feels so good! Praise God!!
@keshawells93484 жыл бұрын
Miriam Matthews I feel this is my path, but fear I’d be going again God if I divorced.
@miriammatthews22024 жыл бұрын
Kesha, My heart aches for you. Mine discarded me for my friend. It was a blessing but oh so painful to process. However, God does not want His daughters being a used like this. Malachi talks about how the Lord is the witness to the wife of his youth. God care more for your wellness than aything else. The guilt you are feeling is from the enemy to keep you trapped. God cares more about you the individual than He does the false marriage. It's hard to realize its false bc it's real to you. But the narcissists doesnt see it that way. Stay in your knees for God's guidance. He wil speak to you.
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
@@miriammatthews2202 yep ,garbage is garbage,it's nuttin else
@denise34324 жыл бұрын
Good for you 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@MessengerofTruth2222 жыл бұрын
Me too, 26 years. Working on breaking free.
@iammarycarter3 жыл бұрын
I had no idea I was dating a narcissist for 7 years until I started listening to this pastor. A soultie with the devil. Literally evil and abusive. I knew he was bad for me but I had always felt addicted to him even though he mad me cry daily,made me not even know myself . He sucked all of the happiness from me. I thank God I am aware but it is a daily battle being without him but I refuse to keep doing this.
@margaretrameetse95922 жыл бұрын
I am identifying narcissists in my life now. I have been tolerating them for hurting me. Now it's my turn to have some self love and also confront them. I am tired of these kind of people.
@teriecekuykendall46224 жыл бұрын
God bless you this isn't just for single dating, I'm married and every video on the subject helps me tremendously!!! Love you pastor
@AdairCty4 жыл бұрын
So much wisdom here! You hit the nail on the head with all of these points! The only time your accomplishments might matter to the narcissist is when they are basking in the glow of your achievements when talking to others they are trying to impress. They might “brag” then, as if they should be revered because of what you’ve accomplished...perhaps implying they are special, by association, because of what you’ve done that’s positive. But one on one, to your face, they have no interest in discussing, seeing or offering even the most meager praise for anything positive you’ve done or achieved.
@kayoniecole54494 жыл бұрын
🤮🤮makes me sick when they do this and the continuously calling out names of famous ppl they know or have been friends with the crave for attention is so unattractive makes me want to Puck
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
Tree people's in won,wit udders,wit u ,Anna in secret
@marilynbradley84874 жыл бұрын
Who could thumb this down but a narcissist.
@leahveal54704 жыл бұрын
I know, right!!!!?
@Joycelang24954 жыл бұрын
Let them go,and don't let them,back in,ur,life
@jessiebartels69114 жыл бұрын
Yeah that's very true. Light has come and they hate the light. God has all the power.
@lisabaker38544 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏻
@lisabaker38544 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, this is the situation I was in I have now closed the door and LOCKED it and threw away the key!
@sherlitaclemons860 Жыл бұрын
Was married for 27 years to a man that was 12 years older than me and out of all your seven things four of them meet his criteria literally thank you stronger every day I watch you Sherlita
@GTGinley72 жыл бұрын
I like this man. Literally been watching every narcissist video on youtube to heal from emotional and physical abuse from my past ex girlfriend who made me feel so terrible and called me selfish and said I don't know what love is and these videos help me snap back to reality! I was raised by two christian loving parents and saw their examples of love so I knew I wasn't who she said and she was trying to gaslight me but didn't even know what she was doing it's just natural for her. Out of all of those videos this one is the most helpful and entertaining, also being easily understandable! Great Vocabulary too man! PREACH
@joangordon82254 жыл бұрын
Sir....I literally JUST met someone and started seeing these EXACT same tendencies you just spoke about. Ima take me some runners and be out asap
@patriciawhite95094 жыл бұрын
Good for you sis. Just RUN!!!!
@newbeginnings85174 жыл бұрын
U preached my life story... My children father is a Nararassit he's from women to women.. Always about his self. Heartless, mean, Abusive.. As the years goes on he gets worse. I left him 4 years ago had a nervous break down. Tried to kill him because he would fight me and always cheated on me. I stayed gone 1 year. That was the happiest time in my life.. He started Hovering stocking me. I went back. The biggest mistake of my life he's 2,000 times worse. He puts me down. He believe in Witch craft... Looking at him i see the Devil in human form... Now I'm moving me and my children as far away from him as I can.. My soul and freedom and peace is worth so much more. God has blessed me threw it all. To keep my mind and looking forward to my new future. Thank u so much for that word...❤💕💕💕
@jdouce60744 жыл бұрын
Don't go back
@megamoneyk4 жыл бұрын
Those hood narcissistic folks are the worst. They try to bring you down with the worst tactics.
@silveradotow9574 жыл бұрын
Anna ,da beast wons two
@lauralusk62924 жыл бұрын
I know one in the hood by name in Riverside CA , on Michael st. Run for the hills ... I’m glad I got out with my life ...
@shug_no_avery81724 жыл бұрын
Wym hood
@tretre4u724 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!
@shug_no_avery81723 жыл бұрын
Wym hood
@TheophaniStyle3 жыл бұрын
I have allowed them into my life to almost wreckage beyond repair. God, please show me the hearts of men, give me the power to flee...
@thenewcleopatra2 жыл бұрын
#6 really really broke me. I couldn’t understand, couldn’t rationalize, no closure, my self esteem, my emotions, my mindset, I gotta hand it to him… it hurt. BUT the anger fueled me to accelerate on my healing. It’s sad that they’re so broken that they just break others.
@kamialt-clabaugh80984 жыл бұрын
Was married to one for 13 years....was naive in thinking I could change him. Not so! Very sad.
@greatfulthankful17164 жыл бұрын
You learned a lot. Congratulations! I have never understood trying to change someone, what a great loss of energy.
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
Kami Clabaugh This tells me they NEVER change. Always a one way street .... sigh.
@sabrinaalston12434 жыл бұрын
Spent way too many years with one now I truly can see why he never had a solid relationship.I broke it off his family Wished him well in JESUS and never looked back.I will never get those years back but I count it as ministry GOD knows how to restore.
@KiejonJ4 жыл бұрын
Amen Pastor Blakes, I can’t lie, I have to start asking the Holy Spirit for better guidance. I’ve encountered these situations and it didn’t turn out well for me in the end. Definitely have to protect myself better moving forward.
@vivianjackson91014 жыл бұрын
I learn so much from your discussions on narcissism. Thank you!
@VeledaG3 жыл бұрын
The world needs more people like you, clever people with a good heart who care, people who are not afraid to tell the truth. Keep up the good work.
@Nikita_8482 жыл бұрын
Ghosting seems to be some kind of trend these days. Good Lord, we even have a word for it. This is a way to avoid responsibility & accountability. It's the trend of the cowards. " anybody you have to run behind, does not mean you well. " Amen