The Narcissistic C-Suite

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[@saptarshisinha6000]

To everyone who is suffering from narcissitic abuse, may your time to triumph come soon. You're strong and you'll get through this. You're nearly there and a beautiful life awaits you.

[@tobelikenobodyelse]

Thank you. My life has been held back because of narcissistic mothers. I hope my time will be here soon.

[@Sirg17x]

Its the traumatic nature after realization and rumination on that realization that is killing me right now. Before it wasn't great, but I didn't know. So I thought it was just poor communication on our part and I often blamed myself. Now I feel like I am stuck in a rut with my thoughts. Even when keeping busy it can take over my thoughts. Are there tactics or ways to heal and end these intrusive thoughts?

[@R.E.STARS24]

@@tobelikenobodyelse that's a tough one. They're very hard to set boundaries with. I wish u the best

[@beverlypawsat6529]

'All that glitters isn't gold'.

[@Kenzofeis]

There is confidence, and then there is conmanfidence

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

I was on a dinner date with a nice successful attractive man, yet when he flirted a bit I felt uncomfortable, like a tension in my body. I didn’t like it, something didn’t feel right. So I trusted that and kept boundaries which am glad I did because he turned out to be dishonest and entitled. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@jadegreen1554]

1- charm 2- charisma - 3- confidence - “oh anyone can do that!” Healthy people aren’t so noisy about their abilities. They will sit back quietly and deliver. They don’t need to ostensibly show off. 4- credentials - social status. There is no virtue to materialistic things like school, car, neighbourhood 5- curiosity - it can be the most seductive aspect where someone takes an interest in you. TThey get information to use down the road against you. 6- comfort - when you first meet them, their pattern of idealizing then withholding (conditional love) is reminiscent of childhood. It can keep victims of this in childhood stuck. We want the package to be real, and we can be blinded to the ugly red flags. Question the charisma and the charm. Don’t set your clock by it.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

I dated this successful guy who seemed really confident and charming, yet also expressed insecurities, so I felt bad for him and tried to reassure him, only to have him treat me really poorly and disrespectfully. He talked a big game for sure bragging about how big his houses are yet he needed lots of reassurance that he was attractive and a good boyfriend, wanting me to tell him he was better then my last boyfriend etc... It was weird. He seemed so caring wanting to get to know me only to have him use things against me to manipulate and hurt me. A real mind mess. Thankfully he’s not in my life anymore. Learning to step back and be discerning. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@andreabetancor2457]

So relatable

[@PenninkJacob]

"Snob" what a great word I had forgotten all about, like old-skool pre-narcissism language!!!!!👍👍👍❤❤❤

[@terryhutchings7701]

If he uses the same sweet line on the waitress that he used when he first met you ie ‘you have a great smile!’ Run!!

[@RoyalKnightCurly]

Sometimes narcissists make themselves look more enticing to you when they have interactions filled with happiness and laughter with everyone but you (and on purpose). They know that if they can get you to crave and hunger for the connection they have with others they can compel you to go out of your way to be in a relationship with them.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

I remember after spending sometime with this guy he sent me a really long message saying how wonderful he thought I was. Which was nice but also a bit much for barely knowing each other. So I took a step back which helped me to see more red flags with him wanting to take the relationship ship too far too fast. I kept my boundaries to see what he’d do and sure enough he suddenly had moved on to someone else. I appreciate compliments but if they’re too much too soon it’s a red flag for me now. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@MộtMình_VẫnVui]

These qualities ( charming, charismatic, friendly, good social skills, helpful) don’t lure me anyone. After too many experiences with toxic relationships, friendships, workplaces, especially my parents , these “ qualities “ have opposite effect on me. I would be more aware of people who show me these when they just meet me. I pay attention to their eyes, the way they look/ watch me. They can’t hide their jealousy, curious and “ predatory looking “. Be aware of people who too nice and helpful and give you compliments when they just meet/ know you . ❤☮️

[@winter-qd4yw]

This video reminds me of a video I watched regarding the nightmare of family court during a divorce with minor children. When one parent is narcissistic/toxic and weaponing/alienating the children from a caring, healthy parent the narcissistic parent will show up in court portraying “C” words: charming, confident, calm, etc., while the targeted parent will show up with “A” words: anxious, agitated, angry , etc. Of course the healthy / caring parent appears that way but no one else sees that or understands it.

[@jokendrick2124]

My malignant narcissistic husband was amazingly charming. My two sister narcissists are sadly not charming. Charm will trick you into trusting them...

[@patriciafry8634]

Dr.Ramani is lovely, in her person as well as her spirit. And she is often unnecessarily hard on herself.

[@moniquejackson7741]

I love how she brings out sometimes that she acknowledges she is still healing in this regard.

[@suedesignable]

She is still healing herself. Let’s be kind and not judge or pass judgment on ANYONE. Especially someone who is as kind, generous and smart and giving as Dr. Ramani….

[@user-cb9ke4xs3y]

I use to work with a narcissist who use to proclaim: " I am nearly perfect". Granted to say, he was not very popular.

[@moniquejackson7741]

Brilliant. I'm surprised I had to Google C-Suite. Must not be keeping up as well as I thought. I especially appreciate how you brought out that these traits are not bad in themselves, but can be enormous red flags for narcissism.

[@johnrivers3813]

Don't worry about it, I only learned about it earlier last year.

[@Wishpool]

Two similar C-words that drew me in: *communication & conversation* (my nex had all 6 you mentioned). He was great at carrying on caring, chatty convos.. and I completely craved it! But *cheating* is their cream with a cherry on top! 🍒

[@patrickwalsh2361]

Q: How many narcissists does it take to screw in a light bulb? A: 100. 1 to show off and screw it in and 99 to say, “ Oh, I could have done that!”

[@GuitarMatt]

I got rid of a dateless male friend of 16 years recently. If I met a new female, he would always try to rain on my parade even though I wasn't boasting or anything. He also had a peculiar habit of putting down neighbors that he overheard having disagreements with their girlfriends or their best friends girl troubles with glee, and a smile, as if he were telling a George Carlin joke. (Constructive criticism that's really DESTRUCTIVE criticism.) Anyway, great analogy with the lightbulb example there!

[@patrickbinford590]

So difficult sometimes to understand all the intricacies of narcissism. It takes time, I think, and a real desire to understand the whole subject. Wow!!!!

[@ravenraven966]

Patrick, I've been studying this for almost twelve years. I'm still confused 🤔

[@Sirg17x]

I've seen enough and feel like I understand enough. I am stuck in a rut trying to stop the intrusive thoughts in life. I want to stop dwelling on the trauma from the abuse. I just don't know how to get past it.

[@centric-lq2xs]

What about the humble brag??? My self-righteous narcissist is so concerned that we look good- but not “too” good. The optics of being “humble” is so important.

[@TR-nv3if]

Mine is this way,too.

[@ivankaavdibasic5774]

This is good. Especially the last one "comfort"I felt around the narc I start dating. Thank you for explaining this. I felt so bad about that part. Why felt that way. Anyway, the easiest way to smoke out narc, to say NO to them. 😊 Love and light

[@ourmobilehomemakeover662]

Yes! This is a great useful tip.

[@tomchurch2285]

Yes, comfort reminds me of spinning a whole narrative around another person that suggests belonging - when, really, the one, having dreamed, may be falling prey to manipulation and the loneliness of a cast-off . . .

[@user-we5tp8jd2p]

My book arrives Tuesday! Can’t wait! Been waiting months for it. Thank you Dr Ramani 🙏🏻

[@user-we5tp8jd2p]

Let me know how we can speak privately. Thank you

[@KameteKenziKinnischer-kv7kf]

Dr. Ramani can you please make a talt about narcissistic gowernments? I have been absused more than 10 yrs in the Danish social system. I stand with my case completely alone but work on getting at lawer to bring my case to court and hold the officials responsible accountable for the torture I have been through. And I have lost my two children due the narcissistic abuse and the “ponishment” I know I’m not the only one. This all started because I have been in an accident and became handicapped and had to apply for the social help I have a right to. This turned out to a complete nightmare. So far not many have believed me. Because Denmark is percieved as “The Happy Nation” - Its “Narc Nation” and the danes is a gaslighted nation. I’m working hard with the last strength I have to bring this out.

[@unbeatablewinner2998]

My narcissistic alcoholic husband died in October last year and at first I was relieved. I felt free. No more stress or anxiety every day about what my evening was going to end up like. I felt happy to start with but now I think I’m grieving but not for him but for the relationship I always hoped we could have but never came. For all the years I’ve lost (20+) and wasted on this man. Do I need counselling?

[@chrysanthimoschonaki2303]

If you feel you need it, then you do. Why not try it?

[@remarkable937]

Perfect: "The mind F of it all" Title for next book doc 😄

[@annekenney6914]

Love you, Dr. Ramani! ❤ Going to order your book today!

[@AB-lb4zv]

I always remind myself of something like the Dunning Kruger effect when I hear / see someone speaking in an arrogant / snobbish way . Sometimes just talking a big game for their own ego

[@johnrivers3813]

They have to remind others of their status constantly in an attempt to control other people's perception of them.

[@0xiconicsoul52]

“Not all charming people are narcissistic but some narcissistic people are charming” ok noted

[@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk]

​@joeybarszcz7717sounds like my narc/raging alcoholic ex gf.

[@christinelamb1167]

@joeybarszcz7717 So true! They're the only ones who actually think they're "charming"! 🤣

[@poochy]

Squares and rectangles. You may not have experienced lovebombing, and the narcissism connection to charisma may not be advice you need to hear. That’s ok. Not all the information of the world is for your benefit.

[@glenyshill72]

I heard Dr Ramani's words as - " . . . definitely not all charming people are narcissistic and, frankly, not all narcissistic people are charming . . . . " (same, yet subtlety different, maybe ?)

[@armandos3022]

Great work doc

[@sunnydaye5942]

Salt and Sugar appear the same .

[@WriterK]

This is a great way of promoting this valuable book and yet very respectfully taking care of your viewers/listeners and helping them through life challenges. Respect to you Dr. Ramani.

[@edwong4178]

The covert narcissist’s ploy is feigning Connection with you. Their victimhood elicits our empathy, especially the helper type people, and we lower our guard because they seem so innocuous in the beginning.

[@vickydittfield9822]

Highly Confident,False charm.Needed to be rescued,at the same time,Wanted to improve his status with my income/ Car etc.😅😢😢

[@jadegreen1554]

To be fair, all are not drawn to narcissists. Some are repelled by these gestures because it seems very suspicious. And unfortunately, even though their coercion might sometimes get through temporarily, we continue to feel a sickening feeling in the pit of our stomach that gets worse and worse until we are able to _extract_ the narcissist, like a toxic foreign object from the body.

[@GuitarMatt]

There is nothing like hearing that FAKE LAUGHING tone of voice while talking to other people who are strangers. That's the moment you realize they have a different mask for each person. They're talking to a voice gets different around certain people too and this has nothing to do with their moods or anything.

[@1fancychik4God]

I love the title of the book and I’m looking forward to reading it. Some days it feels like I will be healing forever. I think I’ve probably been battered with most of the cliches. It’s not you, it’s me. I love you but I’m not in love with you. We don’t think alike or we’re just not on the same page. You don’t get me. All this after 18 years years I’m still shaking my head. Huge I got you.

[@michaeleckert5877]

Yes, the charm.The charism.They have over and over the bagful of tricks.Thats till I walked by them and would smile and return later.They were unable to use the charm then.😊

[@remarkable937]

Charming - yep. It was amazing to watch (once I was able to stand back and see) with just a few well placed words on social media (his definite playground) he had women eating out of the palm of his hand. Had women in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s giggling and 100% Team M. I still don't get it. Thing is, he isn't good looking in any sense of the word he is more like Homer Simpson (seriously) and yet he is like a Svengali to say the least.

[@user-vv5te1uy3p]

I rarely fall for that BS and often get punished.

[@karenwinstanley7939]

I was sick of being talked down to and reminded about who he was in the army and high status job titles.. I just used to say I don’t need a badge to explain who I am .. but it was do you know out of what ever the amount of people applied.. he was one of them and there was only of them.. me well done to you.. you are not in the army and I don’t take orders in a commanding manner.. you can’t ever be wrong he didn’t get where he was for nothing 😂.. drained me out

[@christelleny]

The more educated you get about narcissism, the more you realize no one is safe...

[@Fortitude-o7t]

Thanks to Dr. Ramani for explaining the C-Suite to us. Here are some based on my personal experience. In expanding upon the "C Suite" concept outlined by Dr. Ramani, which delves into the qualities that often make narcissistic individuals attractive, it's worth considering additional "C" traits that can further explain the allure and dynamics of such relationships. Here are some other "C" qualities based on my personal experience that may also play a role: 1. Calculation Narcissistic individuals can be highly calculated in their actions and interactions. This strategic planning is often aimed at achieving their own goals and can involve manipulation of others without regard for their feelings or outcomes. 2. Control A desire for control is a hallmark of narcissistic behavior. Narcissists often seek to control the narrative, the relationship dynamics, and their partners themselves, sometimes through subtle manipulation or overt demands. 3. Criticism Narcissists can be overly critical of others while being hypersensitive to criticism themselves. This trait can undermine the self-esteem of their partners and shift the power balance in the narcissist's favor. 4. Competition Narcissists often view relationships and interactions through a lens of competition rather than collaboration. They may feel the need to always be "one up" on others, including their partners, which can lead to a toxic environment. 5. Concealment Narcissistic individuals may conceal aspects of their true selves or their intentions. This can include hiding vulnerabilities, emotions, or aspects of their past, which prevents genuine intimacy and trust from developing. 6. Cunning Cunning can be seen in the way narcissists are able to charm and manipulate others for their own benefit. Their ability to read and exploit people's emotions or situations can be unsettlingly sharp. 7. Complacency In some cases, narcissists may become complacent once they feel secure in a relationship, no longer putting in the effort to charm or maintain the façade presented during the initial stages. This shift can be confusing and hurtful to their partners. Conclusion Recognizing these additional "C" qualities can provide a more comprehensive understanding of the behaviors and traits that make narcissistic individuals both compelling and challenging in relationships. Understanding these traits can empower individuals to navigate their interactions with narcissists more effectively, setting boundaries and seeking relationships built on mutual respect and empathy.

[@hollywright3610]

The veterinarian came to my home to care for my golden retriever and poisoned him after I went no contact. Strength to heal is the lesson to never, never fall for a doppelgänger.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🥂

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge dr Ramani ❤ If you believe in magic, you will end up as narcisists’ lunch.

[@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv]

This brings back so much for me… so much heartache and so much hurt 😢

[@3CGirls]

I'd love to add another C... Convincing!

[@andrerembert]

Pre-ordered the book. Thank you!

[@DitDot55]

In my area - music education - I had to get credentialed to get a great job to support my child as a solo parent. Not everyone with a degree is a snob - some NEED it to be employed in their field...like me.

[@cindypowell8978]

The narcissist have push on many to leave our lives and our narcissist people here pull their strings to lie anyway they can

[@Bennydoesntknow]

Your a life savor dr ramani

[@MelancholyRequiem]

My father's narcissistic C-Suite social front has led to a lifetime of confusion over where the line is between healthy self-confidence and dangerous self-centeredness. Growing up, I associated confidence, charisma, and charm as negative qualities to have in myself, but I've been absolutely blinded as to whether or not it is a bad thing for other people to have these qualities that are viewed as positive and healthy.

[@irenehurtig266]

You have describe all my narc people correct

[@ActiveSneakers]

When AILs lose the status of "cool gals", their charm, charisma, and youthful looks no longer get what they demand and expect from others. They are now desperate to be believed. And because of their lack of empathy and lack of understanding, they keep on making bad decisions in their lives. Best to go no contact with them.

[@johnrivers3813]

I remember those girls in highschool. One was a bully to me because at the time I didn't fit into the traditional beauty standards. One day I was walking to class and I overheard her with her boyfriend and she kept asking him if he loved her and his yes was not enough. It clicked for me like "oh that's why she picks on me, she has no security in herself"

[@poochy]

This comment is a red flag. Not sure what an “AIL” is, but you seem to be conflating the concept of women and narcissism. That’s wack bro. Anyone can display these traits. Sorry if you’ve had a bad experience with women or whatever

[@ActiveSneakers]

​@@poochyAunt-in-laws cause drama among extended family members. Because of their immaturity to be accountable for their own lives, family members are expected to fix their problems for them.

[@ActiveSneakers]

​​@@johnrivers3813Mean girls grow old. These gals want friends with benefits. And I refuse to acquiesce to their demands as a daughter(niece)-in-law. It's weird for one AIL to remark that she has claim on a person.

[@Sirg17x]

Does anyone have tips on how to get past the rumination on what we went through? Its like my mind when not kept busy and even sometimes when busy will wander into thoughts on the abuse, my anger about it, my frustrations, how it happened, what I did to miss the signs of how toxic the relationship was, etc. I find myself watching youtube videos on it looking for answers. It always makes me have those aha moments where traits click into place, but I have yet to figure out how to get past the trauma as all the realizations start to fall into place. I am just trying to live my life, but its hard to not think on the topic while in a divorce process with said narcissist. I have to communicate with her on some level as we are aiming for uncontested. I just want it over with. I want to move on. I want to heal and find someone who cares about me the way I always claimed she cared about me when in reality it was all an illusion or mirage.

[@jodiemichelle3264]

I’m doing the same 5 months later. I’m not sure how to stop the rumination. I’m off all social media and blocked his phone number so I can heal.

[@S4bK]

Give yourself time to grieve. You cannot pull on a flower to make it grow faster. Ruminating is part of the process. If you can see a therapist that gets it, go for it, it can really make a difference. Peace.

[@yolondagoode9656]

Hello,I just wanted to share some things that is helping me to heal. I escaped the abusive narc I lived with for 15 yrs,I hv experienced every example that Dr R has educated us on her videos. I left April 1, this yr( just happend to be April fools,day!) I hv gone no contact and besides getting all the education I can on what a narc is,because I didn't hv a clue what was going on,I kept thinking,it had to b me. I find healing in journaling,ruminating was controlling my every day thought and I had to get out of my head,I moved in with my mom & she has a very sympathetic ear,she is so relieved I finally left! So I allow myself a certain amount a time each day,maybe 30 mins to ruminate & after that I'm constantly writing & putting in on paper,making my lists of what I gv up,making lists on what I would like to do in future and definitely working on my ick list,which is getting longer & longer. I am feeling better,holding on to hope,if you believe in prayer,that helps me alot,just know it is a journey and I'm also not thinking about a relationship for 12 months also,I can't even think about it now! I'll keep u in my prayers 🤗

[@narcissism-masterclass]

Careful when a narcissist helps you take off your coat. They may keep it :-)

[@lamar1423]

Rocking them cargos giiiiiiirl.

[@liverfish8]

I've already pre-ordered the book 😊

[@penne999]

BOOK ORDERED 📘

[@user-um9sl1kj6u]

I saw your last video about zoom calls. And if that’s a clue, beware of the Green Brothers, putting my face on zoom calls. -my phone number is in Miami, besides it would only be used for jobs. The only time I do zoom calls is when I’m doing an interview for a job. - I don’t use it for everything else. That’s generally the thing you have to be wary of - they will do everything they can to digitally manipulate, and that’s probably what they used to give themselves permission. A digital manipulation on zoom. - I work at Busy Bee. I’m Not Going Anywhere. I’ve only had a couple of zoom calls between Mount Sinai before I worked there, and job interviews after. I could probably put the number of zoom calls on one Hand. -My guess is the Green Brothers took that and ran wild with it. - make sense?

[@nolimitalchemistswain2816]

It's not you.

[@jades3654]

Is there going to be an audiobook?

[@beth7804]

🙏

[@penne999]

Arrives Wednesday 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@csfiskus610]

What's the difference between being narcissistic and stuck up? What about those who were kind and caring until they've reached a certain milestone or achieved a certain social status and have become unsympathetic and cold toward those who are struggling?

[@karenwinstanley7939]

🙏❤️🦋xx

[@Greenawareness188]

Hello Everyone!😊

[@youngblood8540]

Hi 👋

[@Greenawareness188]

​@@youngblood8540 , Hey ! I look forward to your comments!

[@daykibaran9668]

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[@daykibaran9668]

Hey 👋🏻

[@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk]

I wish...nevermind.

[@narcissism-masterclass]

Please do a video on dupers delight

[@piromdk]

Any change to a Brazilian version of your book, Doc Ramani? :)

[@merlinwizard1000]

17th, 16 February 2024

[@stopbullshitin]

What?????????????????????

[@Poppy-yx8js]

No just gaslighting but unkind and gross3

[@Poppy-yx8js]

Really unkind. Her capacity to be gross is shocking.

[@marwin5393]

she is like first class narc, but thanks for the info

[@theoakhills]

You need to loose weight....high blood pressure and heart disease can set in.

[@ValerieHayes1]

You need to get the message about not commenting on other people’s bodies. Work on yourself instead.

[@user-ti8bw1ri5h]

You need to have manners, insight and not speak out of line. There. Helpful advice for you.

[@dakoderii4221]

@@ValerieHayes1 Calm down. This person didn't say it with the most tact but look past that to the intended message. People are being poisoned from FDA approved "food" and suffering malnutrition despite adequate calorie intake. Gaining weight can be a sign of a deficiency of nutrients or a toxicity overload and it's usually an easy fix. It's kind of insane that we can't help each other and instead must watch someone needlessly suffer so we don't upset or offend them. Sometimes they would like to know such information bu alas, we can't upset or offend anyone on Earth who happens to be listening in either. 😵‍💫

[@andron967]

She didn't ask for your help. She didn't put a fake image up on the screen. If she would benefit from weight loss it isn't as much as you'd benefit from learning manners. I'll enjoy how she looks a lot more than your reading your crap !

[@fillistine]

I hope she scrolls straight pass this comment. I am sure if Dr wanted advice, she would ASK for it