The Old Disappearance Act

The plaintiff dated the defendant, but after they moved in together, she claims he started disappearing for days and weeks at a time. She soon found out he was cheating on her with multiple women and is suing him for an unpaid loan. The defendant argues that he left and took trips because living with the plaintiff and her children during the pandemic was overwhelming.

[@michellejordan6009]

She'd be a fool to get in another entanglement with this dude

[@queenceedybaby3117]

😅😅😅

[@tramekn]

Exactly! Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

[@mmmfun77]

Totally

[@beatricesmith2847]

When you dont value yourself this is what happens even a old foolish man can use you.

[@chuck9380]

She stayed because it was financially beneficial for her which is why men do stuff like this because they can and women let them

[@Fleefromsin]

The worst way to deal with pain is to pretend that it does not hurt. If you deny the pain, you delay the process of healing. Healing begins whenever you confess to God that it hurts. Forgive. Be vulnerable in his presence. God will pour oil into your wounds, then He will make you new and even better than you were before. Be healed in Jesus name. ~Rev. Victor M. JACKSON

[@plainjaneofalltrades3853]

Judge said, “YOU BEEN LYING!” 😂 This was a good one. 😅

[@_heyitsfrenchy]

Soon as she said he started taking trips, needed time away, I KNEW the crack attack was coming, lmbo!!

[@TB-fk4qm]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@TanieBaker]

The plaintiff is a gorgeous women. Glad she got her money.

[@standmccray1037]

I like her personality. She doesn't have to settle

[@bigamemphis10]

Uumm, yeah she does

[@canwebehonest4once740]

@@bigamemphis10lmao no she doesnt 😂

[@drought9359]

Settle ? No ur mistaking that’s a choice

[@tgrant6518]

One of my biggest fears is being this old and this stupid.

[@msmaam912]

🎯🎯

[@AkinolaWilliams]

Not stupid. Lonely

[@beatricesmith2847]

It has nothing to do with age its all about self love and what your willing to except in your life . I've seen the same thing happen to younger women. Put a price on youself that nothing will allow anyone to devalue your self worth. Your priceless when it comes to your self worth. Don't settle for the old Bullshit . If he is not self suffient of his basic needs or able to fund his own dreams and desires that he has been trying to manefeast for decades run, never be a open and closed cash register for a man i dont give a f...k if he is a 1.00 away dont give him shit.

[@deejai1173]

Lady!!! He DOES NOT want you! You already forced yourself on him and he showed you the deal. Then you sit up there saying, we don’t know what the future holds? 🙄 geez… If I had never seen desperation in my life…

[@YML256]

😂 lady went from contracting to moving in to expecting marriage to sister wives sheesh

[@dabossbitch]

Too damn much and too damn old for some shitts like this, 😂

[@mariag5756]

😝😝😝

[@shesuniqueinherownwaybenja7647]

Factzzz 😂😂😂😂

[@TB-fk4qm]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@meekmeek5608]

She seem vulnerable.. After all he put her through she still say he’s a good guy and she don’t know what the future holds with them. Please pray for this lady y’all !!!

[@beatricesmith2847]

After this she should know what the future holds. Theraphy

[@canwebehonest4once740]

Sad

[@shalequisedavis9359]

So she continued to date him after the other woman said they were not going to quit messing with him …. Make it make sense 🤔

[@DarlinReal]

She seems interested in dating him again.

[@yoanneM]

he got what she likes

[@AkinolaWilliams]

It makes perfect sense

[@beatricesmith2847]

When you act like a thought you get treated like a thought.

[@figabriel4120]

Damn is there a shortage of men ? Y would you do that to yourself?!

[@leggs4113]

He did all that cheating and then gone say at the end she don’t know what the future holds. Now she looking silly cause he said he don’t know.

[@2BOLD4U]

I want to make sure that I got this right: they were living together and he would disappear 5 days out of the month? Why would she think that he is ready for marriage?

[@mmmfun77]

Exactly

[@liberiarose6565]

She is desperate. How embarrassing.

[@JacksQueen.]

Very embarrassing

[@melaninrx]

Im second hand embarrassed for her.

[@vanessakenney3144]

What's up with all the living together. It's like folk cant be in a relationship unless they're living together.

[@thicknana7856]

Can’t do the shacking up.

[@scottrogue946]

Plaintiff looks like Whitney Houston and the Defendant looks like JB Smoove 😂

[@tjones617]

She also looks like Kym Whitley

[@NKAB4]

@@tjones617 yea I see that…

[@coolmoneymitch1046]

I thought the same thing! You Nippy sister? Looks like Whitney!

[@nataliemaye1305]

@@tjones617 exactly

[@leyahruizdeloreto6420]

Initial thoughts: Valdis look like a mess! And plaintiff, close up your shirt!

[@carolharris5455]

She didn’t want her money back til he didn’t pick her

[@NubianP6]

Girl, get back with that cheater if you *want* to. 🙄😒

[@Sheherhis]

This is ridiculous I feel doom and gloom for her if she gets back into any relationship with him. Unless she's willing to be sista wives, she is in trouble.

[@Sunshine134chick]

She still wanna be with him where is her self esteem

[@vanessakenney3144]

Dang Judge, You're off the charts on this one. The justifications for this man is crazy, Shucks the justifications for all it was crazy. He let the Woman know how he felt about her when he couldn't answer the question you was asking. That man is not ready to settle down with her or any woman for that matter

[@shamikacallis242]

There’s NO WAY I’m going to knowingly stay with a Male that’s a community piece and trying to use me along the way! These females were way to forgiving to a bum! She’s a beautiful lady you deserve better‼️

[@Price8903]

Ppl do not value their health or mental well being with all of this sleeping around

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

“That’s a crackish move” 🤣😂💀

[@ericablige9449]

Is JM really trying to justify this?

[@royalveveee8082]

No fr like huh ? 😂 how about be an adult and tell her you not ready but go off and have trips ? Nah

[@aliceinganjaland]

Thank you I was like why he trying and reaching so hard to make that loser of a man look good 😒 he took 4,000$ from her and didn’t expect to pay it back?!?! In what world. Unless she GOT it like that

[@ericablige9449]

@@aliceinganjaland Right! Nah bro run me my money now.

[@AprilMusicStubbs]

Wow

[@AprilMusicStubbs]

Wow

[@americalove9495]

She DESPERATE.....HE A OLD FOOL...ALL THE WOMEN INVOLVED ARE FOOLS...😂😂😂 SAD ALL THE WAY AROUND...BUT WHERE'S HER SELF LOVE 💕

[@dreekdoe448]

Where is HIS!?! Seems that Men can do certain DUMB things, HIGH EXPECTATIONS always when it comes WOMEN👀

[@virginiamelanin0510]

I believe she is old enough to know how to dress for court and how to sit correctly. I believe she was aiming to win her case by any means including showing a little boobage😊

[@angelicrealtor1]

😅🤣😂😉😁

[@biggchill8176]

One them bad boys looks like it’s trying to break free

[@WarGrowlmon18]

The cheating's a good reason not to get back together!!!

[@vanessakenney3144]

Judge, go somewhere with supporting the excuse that man gave for staying away from home for days. PLEASE!!

[@convowithashnicole]

This episode better be just for entertainment purposes only and scripted bc this was crazy AF!

[@mz_keishamiller5081]

Honestly this guy isn’t really ready to settle down with one woman IJS and he loves his cake and ice cream too..

[@mahailiabrown3972]

So do i

[@mz_keishamiller5081]

@@cali2468 Yeah i see right throw his lies

[@vanyeboah6075]

he is not cute anywhere..why.would someone put up with this n

[@mz_keishamiller5081]

@@vanyeboah6075 morning and no he isn’t at all 😂

[@DE-hi9mc]

He's no longer interested in the relationship anymore. And he's angry she took him to court.

[@meghanwilliams4295]

Just out here making a mockery of love, and relationships, while being of a certain age. A damn shame.

[@jenniferclaiborne8815]

Pay her the money.

[@carlpotter007]

Run her her Money! Run it! 🤣🤣🤣

[@highlander666]

no way id hire or date this guy, awful

[@gods959]

Yes you would stop playing 🤣🤣🤣❤️❤️

[@valeriepetty5853]

At the end. ... He made it clear that has not interested in a relationship with her

[@OneQueenB]

Judge Mathis said " you did not discuss work, you just went to work " 👀👀👀👀 She needs too 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

[@smoothwill]

It’s obviously something about her as a woman he not feeling . When a man dosent want to get back with. A woman it’s something bout that woman that he’s not attached to .

[@carlpotter007]

Absolutely not. He is just a joker that wants to play all the angles. This woman has so much to offer and really tried to include him in her life and business but this fool prefers to be catting around. He never grew up. Unfortunately for her - she tried to make it work with a childhood illusion of what he was - not who he is now.

[@smoothwill]

@@carlpotter007 do you believe he stuck in a state of arrested development?

[@carlpotter007]

@@smoothwill Oh yes…and it is sad for him. It is nice to want to feel desired and admired by the opposite sex - but when you get stuck in the loop - what do you think is going to happen? Old, alone and wishing you hadn’t just hopped from one bed to the next.

[@sussieasempapa6787]

@@carlpotter007 especially at his age. You can’t teach old dog new tricks.

[@11Virgo11]

I was nervous the whole time that she was about to pull a Janet Jackson Halftime show.

[@symontemplar1418]

Ms. Elam is a beautiful and blessed lady.

[@humbleetv8666]

Brother Husbands is CRAAAAZY 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@esharenee4186]

She don't even want to move on 🙄 ma'am be at peace, he made it clear he is not interested.

[@myfathersson3751]

Her smile is gorgeous😍 he looks like sleepy brown from organize noize/ outkast😂

[@reesepierre4497]

😂😂😂😂

[@mmmfun77]

Sister wives? 🤣🤣😳

[@treyparker3775]

She's too old to be that goofy

[@nfrancis9178]

She's a property owner but she move in with her kids in his house and she barely knew him...Her kids were probably more than he could handle. They should just remain friends and move on.

[@GiftedVisionary]

so she was told that they wasn’t going to stop messing with him and she’s surprised another woman was around?

[@mwebb7292]

Spill some tea? Honey they poured out the pitcher.

[@valinda22ify]

An embarrassment to my home state. Let me see if these people live in my area. I know some Elam's lol...lol...

[@symontemplar1418]

He is a poor example of manhood. He used her for her money and her resources.

[@EnemyMarcus]

He moved you and your kids in and you thought you'd automatically get a part of his business?! Ungrateful and entitled af

[@derrickstingley6895]

Player

[@thessenceofconstance]

Yes I intend for my husband to pay me back.

[@Fannyyyyy_]

Soooooon as the intro Started I hollered CRACKKKKKK🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sandybryan3906]

HE GOT HIS DUMP TRUCK.. HE'S DONE WITH HER NOW!!🙃🙃🙃🤣🤣

[@symontemplar1418]

He dumped her after he used her to bet the money for his dump truck.

[@naterriebracynebblett4435]

I'm here My Beloved Favorite Judge ***ASHAY ***

[@meeksluvspink9047]

I wish I would move in with a dude and we not married. Even then, BOTH our names needs to be on EVERYTHING, because you will NOT be kicking me out of what's mine! Lady you have kids! Be smart not dumb for a man!

[@symontemplar1418]

As I said before, the defendant is a poor definition of manhood. Dudes like him make the rest of us who work to be better look bad.

[@brendapipes8569]

Lay down with dogs and get up with fleas!

[@47alice91]

Desperate woman.

[@OneQueenB]

I have been married almost 43 yrs. I am not ever going to understand women playing the "wife roll" and you are not a wife. My mom and dad used to say, "find a fool, bump his head"

[@mjsteelersnation]

She may be willing to be a sister wife

[@BlkMagickGaia3]

Ugh, she was so desperate 😫

[@latarareed7321]

ITS SOMETHING CONCERNING HER & HIS RELATIONSHIP THAT HES NOT SAYN AS TO WHY HE DOESNT BASCIALLY SEE HER AS #WIFEY4HIM

[@chameliosalamander7078]

She's a comedian and now her She's on judge mathis!

[@maxxpopp2373]

how do you notice somebody disappears for weeks at a time and you never call the police and report him missing after he didn’t come home one night? So basically before the man left, he tells you he needs some time away and then he leaves for several weeks. Sounds like that’s what really happened. Therefore she sat around waiting for him to come home each time. She’s trying to make it seem like he just left the house and she didn’t know why and when he returned that’s all he said was he needed some time. These women, and these half cocked azz stories , they try to tell to portray themselves as victims.

[@shellmac1383]

Wow!!!!

[@adrianprince7266]

Men need to stop gaming these women. If you want to cheat then don't get emotionally attached and invinvolved with anyone and let them know up front. Nonetheless this defendant owes for the loan from the plantiff in this case.

[@sheilae.9670]

Adrian Prince these "men" are never going to listen to you, with all that carrying on and complaining you do 🙄

[@adrianprince7266]

That's not true because I've had so many men tell me that my truthfulness is refreshing to hear and needed to be said, particularly coming from a black man. But aside from that it only takes one to listen and to understand where I'm coming from. That's been my mentality and mindset from day one. So you're wrong Sheila.

[@vanessakenney3144]

And some of these Woman need to stop ALLOWING some of these men to run game on them.

[@termallwilliams8510]

Recognize when you are shelter . This is important

[@niece585]

There he go Judge Mathis everything isn't about crack damn

[@Sunshine134chick]

Judge Mathis always tryna make people get back together 😂😂😂😂 it’s embarrassing

[@ritchierich7511]

Whitney Houston Vibes 😅

[@gods959]

Yes I can see that ☺️

[@scottrogue946]

Very much “bobbbbay” energy 😂

[@OneQueenB]

The lady thought "rest of their lives" the man said "he is gonna continue to lie for the rest of his life" Ladies smarten up. Love you more than a man.

[@DE-hi9mc]

He felt bombarded and overwhelmed by nos of people in hls house. Like me, I don't like people me for a long time. I love and cherish my privacy.

[@queenv9412]

She was absolute foolish to stay with this cheater. Low self esteem is real always know your own worth. 😮 I don’t see the charm of this guy I cannot say man because a man wouldn’t dare disrespect or disregard females in this way. Ms.Karma going to knock at his door with force and repentance.

[@maxxpopp2373]

she was having problems with this man before she gave him one dime. Sounds like she was able to save her own money without giving him all her money and that’s why she was able to save four grand however, the dumb move of loaning someone 4K is bad enough, but loaning a love interest that is already cheating on you and you know about it is even dumber and she knew he was subject to leave and not come back and that’s why she wanted her money back immediately.

[@DE-hi9mc]

He Look like the Coolio. RIP Coolio.

[@BigMerkGee]

I knew it had to be Mississippi since they're from Chicago.

[@juliussims669]

They in the same room, look behind her and him anything looks similar

[@vannem2688]

😂 I see the reflection in the mirror.🤣🤣 probably the hotel there.

[@checkthatbag]

He a 50 year old bachelor smh

[@mightyeye4624]

Judge talks about crack waaaaaaaaaaay too much lmao

[@derrickstingley6895]

Where did he go

[@SB-tc2jr]

Sometimes JM is so funny! This is one o f those times! --- She seems like she wants to build with this guy, but he's saying hell to the no no no!!! lol I wonder what wasn't revealed... why does he feel this way! 🤔And I wonder how many kids and their ages... 🤔I think the kids were his issues...

[@kanikamoore1091]

Should of known crackhead jokes were coming up... smh

[@simonsez1787]

One thing JM gone do is root for a cheatin man. Long as he not a deadbeat or woman-beater.

[@drought9359]

Women like men that other women want

[@DarlinReal]

Can someone tell JM whats the other meaning of down south? He's concentrating on the direction. Ha.

[@zenavmoreland5522]

Yes, Judge Mathis! She needed some brotha husbands 😄

[@mrglass311]

Ngl. I must be hard up because I love watching JM but that thumbnail got me. Judge was lost too for a bit.

[@charlessantee8329]

The defendant seems like a nice, and honest guy he need to repay her for that loan.

[@jacquelinepace5675]

❤❤

[@johnnyb6151]

I haven't watched yet. But I bet crack will come up because she says he disappeared

[@alechall3302]

She is gorgeous

[@HanifBarnwell]

Mathis has to be using, still with that crack pipe bit in 2022? c'mon man.

[@marilynmiller9730]

What 😳 Judge Mathis talking about?

[@annieolive3154]

Down south of reason your honour

[@maxxpopp2373]

women are the only ones that think being engaged is the same as being married

[@kdmac7425]

She's looking for a step-daddy

[@TheBsheep]

He kind of remind me of Idris Elba...he's a ladies man..I guess that's why the ladies are crazy about him...she can't be no fool though..smh

[@shellmac1383]

Nope

[@deejai1173]

She favors Whitney Houston to me. Just a heavier face.