THE ONLY 3 TIMES I’VE EVER HAD A CRUSH IN 18 YEARS (not) STRAIGHT

[@Faline_San]

all the ‘your mom’ jokes were a hint all along Edit: i didn’t want to make a whole coming out video because I just wanted this to be a casual mention haha, but since people are asking I like guys and gals 👍 anyone who is pretty and nice I mwah 🙏❤️‍🔥 thanks for yalls support, I did get some hate and massive sums of people unsubbing within 30 minutes of this video uploading but I’ll take it as a natural filtering process. Thanks y’all B)

[@woahthisisinteresting4369]

Based

[@waia__]

real

[@qweenbeety]

omg

[@shambly7647]

A very slay hint

[@shylopantaleon7990]

Hmm yes

[@raveen5862]

note: nothing is ever *straight* about faline.

[@captkittypants]

Nothing is straight about me either. Well, except my hair lol

[@piperricca7832]

that goes for a whole lotta people

[@cherrypickin5548]

@@captkittypants literally it took me a couple days to realize

[@captkittypants]

@@cherrypickin5548 lol

[@Ke0h298]

obviously

[@URMOMJOWUAKAOASG]

“I was my own historian” ABSOLUTELY SOBBING AT THIS LINE

[@cheesecake2048]

Criminally underrated

[@flitefulwantssubs402]

That was easily the best line of the video

[@apaixart]

FRRRR

[@iCoralxDoesArt]

Historians call them-

[@So_Indecisive]

@@iCoralxDoesArt besties, roommates

[@blubli3824]

I remember in school some girls from my class were grilling me to get the name of my crush, and they took turns verbally enunciating the name of every boy in class to see if I would react to one in particular. I felt like I was being questionned by the police about some dangerous criminal activity (glad to report I was able to maintain poker face tho)

[@ekaterinakuznetsova]

Omg I had a similar experience in primary school we would play this game were someone would name two guys in your class and you have to pick which one you prefer until you go through all the guys and the guy u're left with is ur crush 🙃 turns out I'm asexual

[@Kumahachi8]

@@ekaterinakuznetsova Lol. I’m aroace, but when I was in high school, we didn’t really have that sort of information yet, and asexuality was still listed as a mental health disorder at the time and there was no information about being aromantic that I could find, so I was just super confused because _something should have been happening by now, right?!_ I still remember girls from my class trying to figure out who I liked and if I was a lesbian or not. They went through every boy in class, and then they’d grill me to see if I liked any celebrities that they considered to be attractive. I didn’t, and they were convinced that I was lying, but at the same time, they couldn’t make sense of the fact that, by my facial expression, I was seemingly genuinely uninterested in all of them, so they came to the conclusion that I was a master at not giving it away. Then, because I felt like something was wrong, I proceeded to look at my classmates, picked the most conventionally attractive one, and thought, “…Yeah, I’ll have a crush on that guy,” and then I proceeded to do nothing with that thought and told nobody and forgot about it in less than a week because it meant nothing to me. It was just like I was ticking off a box on my list of milestones so I felt less weird and left behind. Haha.

[@mavis0029]

This thread is so relatable as an aroace...I remember the turbulent emotions I went through as a 13 year old when I realized that no matter how hard I try I can't like a guy...I used to take tests on the internet to see whether I am a lesbian,bi,pan . And I concluded that I must be a bisexual because I didn't like any gender 😂😂😂

[@hi-ju1uu]

my best friend that i had been friends with for 4 YEARS shipped me with a boy from our class for 4 YEARS. it was torture and we ended up hating each other bcs of that and i DIDNT EVEN KNOW ABT MY SEXUALITY YET

[@HxwEKat]

@@mavis0029 OH SAME!! I wanted to find my sexuality and decided that bisexual fitted me cuz I didn’t care about who I dated. Turns out I just didn’t care about dating, just finding friendship

[@MirunaNero]

"if you marry a girl I wont come to your wedding. Anyways lets get you a girlfriend." is just. such a hilarious attitude

[@weird_theaterkid]

when i was 10 i wanted to date a wall

[@multidebbie1]

That is sadly very much most of my friends. Laughed at me for being gay, continued to make jokes, found out I had a crush, literally became the best wingman I ever had.

[@Sam-wq9vi]

@@weird_theaterkid whole lot of that in a psychiatric hospital. def recommend

[@flaminkoyuh]

the only crush that faline has ever had was this random bug in his room that he crushed and killed

[@khalilahd.]

Tragic 😭

[@zrielle]

the immortal snail

[@fluffy_]

@Khalilah D. Very 😭😭

[@zuzia_ismentallyunstable428]

Ah true love indeed

[@dux5525]

Faline is so successful, bots are raiding her comments

[@Katie-md7mh]

My awakening was when the girl next to me in pre calc said "I could probably murder my horrible uncle and get away with it." My heart fluttered

[@SophisticatedArc]

True romance story right there

[@althea7181]

Someone make a fanfic of this pls

[@confusedlemon9289]

@@althea7181 fanfic?? Nah we need a series

[@idiotsandwich7910]

How to get away with love and murder

[@d_rod]

was it fear or a crush? we may never know

[@rowanpoosonyou]

I feel like Faline is giving us all relationship advice even though we are all hopeless

[@deki9827]

No wonder we get no bitches, we watch someone who also has none!

[@CataKta]

I'VE LITERALLY LIKED THE SAME PERSON FOR 5 YEARS NOW (barely sees me as a friend)

[@Soyed_Boy]

I don’t go outside enough to meet people.

[@Aura_Lucario]

Pfft yeah, except I've never even had one crush.

[@Lotus_intheswamp]

I get bitches lol

[@maddiek1314]

Ok but the “neither of us get married and we just live in the same house together as besties” is LITERALLY my dream relationship Edit: the fact that so many people relate to this gives me hope I might actually one day meet a girl who wants to do this with me 😭

[@yasmeeneleanor3153]

SAME

[@uselessgay2341]

MY TWO BEST FRIENDS ALL HAD THE DREAM WE WOULD ALL LIVE TOGETHER IN A MANSION JUST US BY OURSELVES AND DOZENS OF PETS

[@timmwidau4756]

@@uselessgay2341 that sounds like a polycule with dozens of pets

[@anaterumiparreirasalema5783]

actually, this were excatly my thoughts to my first girl crush in kindergarten kkkkkk

[@cookieepasel2406]

OMG SAME, EXCEPT WITH 6 BESTIES

[@yourfavoritepessimisticexi8041]

To all the people that unsubscribed, I don't know how anyone could look at Faline and think they were straight 💀

[@cooxlpearz6824]

Wdym, i never subscribed in the first place🤨

[@thesysop4998]

@@cooxlpearz6824 congratulations, nobody asked.

[@cooxlpearz6824]

@@thesysop4998 ok

[@anothercommunist4752]

@@cooxlpearz6824 it was me, I was the one who asked

[@Raheelkamran-c7x]

Fr

[@Hydr-l8w]

I hated that "what's your crush" question so much, I had to make up someone new every single time. Until I went to uni, discovered that asexuality was a thing, and now everything makes so much more sense.

[@Selena-bu3ql]

What does asexuality mean?

[@cutecorgiis5230]

@@Selena-bu3ql It means you don't feel sexual attraction.

[@catsballs9657]

You mean aromance

[@artemisiad7364]

@@catsballs9657 you mean aromanticism?

[@henthai9269]

this sounds more like an aromantic experience, rather than an asexual one. asexual means you dont feel any lust/sexual attraction to people and aromantic means you dont feel any romantic attraction to people

[@ashishere5302]

They finally did it for everyone...TALKED ABOUT EMOTIONS

[@camilagrijalva4109]

xD

[@bbueno2009]

I didn’t know faline actually had emotions 😱😱😱😞

[@amopeh8072]

EMOTIONAL DAMAGE

[@sugrcke4207]

I know this is irrelevant but your profile picture is the same picture as my phone wallpaper lol

[@your_pal_Frost]

... she doesn't owe anyone her Vulnerability

[@mr.creeper6836]

“She played Minecraft, teaches me how to draw and liked anime.” I mean how could you NOT like her?

[@banana_365iguess]

That's basically my crush

[@judiduplessis9277]

ikr

[@SolveThisMurderIn60Seconds]

That is literally the dream right there

[@sarvanaramachandran9882]

I don’t- I mean, I don’t play minecraft, my parents won’t let me watch anime so I nav no idea about anime, and about drawing, I already have a friend who was kind enough to teach me. Plus, I’m straight.

[@drpeppercats]

@@sarvanaramachandran9882 girl then this isn't about you lmaoo

[@lovelyjammydodgers]

faline your powerpoints are so inspiring and educational please make more

[@Deadflower019]

I agree

[@linksbetweenl5220]

AGREED

[@irlbananabread]

especially the green one

[@foolishpenguin8190]

they inspired me to create a presentation of my waifus 🤩😍🏳‍🌈

[@laciabell]

@@foolishpenguin8190 same

[@alrightwelp2602]

“My first ever crush was a girl called Sophia” As a Sophia and hearing faline aggressively simping for someone called Sophia it’s making me feel some sort of nonplatonic feelings 😨

[@Direblade11]

This is gonna be your coming out story now

[@aperson6463]

lol my names robyn and i was like "wait whAaaaAat"

[@S0FIATH3MUPP3T]

ME.

[@JustABubbleTea]

My name is Sophia too 💀

[@annikaukkonen]

I have had like 4 crushes and all of them were named Sophia, it's kinda like an obsession

[@enhi7871]

fal has grown an obsession over his suit it's like the suit is already part of his body

[@calyxx5164]

Why she prefers he? She is girl then why?

[@abhya12]

@@calyxx5164 no she doesnt, im pretty sure faline goes with she/her.

[@newleechonlife]

@@calyxx5164 spelling error. Meant to say ‘this’,‘ I’m pretty sure

[@pinkcherry9695]

@@abhya12 actually faline prefers he/him for now. he said so himself on instagram.

[@scarxnnivs]

@@calyxx5164 Faline said he preferred he/him pronouns, gender doesn't really matter.

[@francomacrillanti2647]

The "im not gonna go to ur gay wedding but imma help u get there" is kinda wholesome in a young ignorant way, its like "i was taught that this is wrong so im officially not supporting u but since i wanna see u happy im unofficially supporting you"

[@Aura_Lucario]

Love how they call the crushes by stupid names and shows pictures of the literal definition of the names. 💀 Also I was staring at the suit the whole time, I love it.

[@bigtable]

wait what are her pronouncs

[@weikoworks]

@@bigtable prefers he/him but any are fine

[@bigtable]

@@weikoworks when did he say it

[@hanjinist]

@@bigtable u can see on his twitter page

[@crism8868]

@@hanjinist it's true whoa Really wish yt made pronouns in bio a feature, even LinkedIn does that

[@mimos_kitten]

the phase Faline is going through right now screams prime energy!!

[@TehConqueror]

like.....optimus prime?

[@jungjicentric]

not really surprised he had only three crushes his whole 18 years of life

[@calyxx5164]

@whaaa t ok?

[@arc7200]

He? Do they use he/him pronouns too?

[@Stuporous]

@@arc7200 Faline uses all pronouns but prefers he/him over the others.

[@bevakis100]

@@arc7200 i think it’s he/they/she (preference order)

[@arc7200]

@@Stuporous Ohh alright thank you!

[@xhannie4239]

I had a crush on my best friend for like a year, ever since I first started talking to me. She was and still is my emotional support bestie. We used to flirt with each other, although I was probably the only one who hoped it wasn't platonic. So after that year of being hopelessly in love with her, she suddenly decided to tell me about this guy who had asked her out. They both shared feelings for each other. But she couldn't say yes, due to several reasons. Let me tell you, I bawled my eyes out. I felt numb and so depressed. But as her closest friend, she trusted me with it. I pretended like I was happy for her, and I supported her. Eventually she said yes to him, and they're such a cute couple rn. It took me a while to get over her, but after a month or so, this guy and I started talking. We both had crushes on each other, and he finally asked me out. I was pretty shocked, as I am an extremely insecure person. But now we've been dating for 2 months

[@taeyafication.]

this is so cute bye

[@ArtisticHunter]

This was wild from start to finish ngl

[@justarandomotaku3253]

What in the love hexagon-

[@CopperYeen]

Oh god I had a crush on a really good friend of mine (we're still friends) and over the course of that he had 2 girlfriends, both of wich I was/am friends with. I was happy for them but.. it did hurt lmao We used to text every day pretty much all day and you'd think there'd be something going on on both sides but nah

[@S0FIATH3MUPP3T]

this is me right now :( sorry you went through this

[@cactus_ash5149]

As an aromantic, related so hard to faline not having a crush, and actually picking guys because people wouldn’t leave me alone about having a crush. But I still laughed along when she explains Sophia, lizard, and robin.

[@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210]

me personally i am not entirely sure if i am aro. it just i'm a type of guy who never to consider having a gf. maybe at all. i mean yes i like woman. they can be attractive and sexy. but getting into relationship is something i never actually consider. i maybe too young so idk

[@azuralights]

@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 You are an akoiromantic

[@noildx]

@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 you can still experience romantic attraction but not want to date someone

[@CHRF-55457]

As an arsonist Wia t wsit wsit esit wait what?!?! ... Edit: Oh. It's _"aromantic"_ not arsonist. Woops, misread.

[@_kaiyoame_]

@@iputapipebombintoyourmailb6210 aromantic is a spectrum! there’s demiromantic (needing an emotional connection first) greyromantic (kinda in the middle) and many, many more. of course, there’s aesthetic attraction; just simply finding someone attractive without being actually attracted to them. but take your time, know it’s allowed to change and be fluid. you don’t even have to use labels if you don’t want to ^^ (sorry for infodump I just wanted to point these out :)

[@galaxycat9966]

Ok but the “Elsa was my gay awakening” is a mood. It’s practically a sexuality at this point /lh

[@blossomx1284]

I just love Elsa in a very special way and like if I was in a hot tub with Elsa it might not be 2 feet apart but no homo

[@vuxsouls]

elsasexual

[@LesbianPanicIsMe]

My mother's name is Elsa-

[@galaxycat9966]

@@LesbianPanicIsMe well then, you excited for the amount of co-parents coming in?

[@xhannie4239]

elsasexual ah yes

[@AdriMusic34]

My friends were homophobic and I came out to them as straight so they were happy. Little did they know that I am Transgender.

[@TheObserver-xc8cs]

... why would you want to be friends with them?

[@PrezReni045]

Do you mean that in your previous gender you were gay but then you became transgender so you were technically straight?

[@pathojon]

​@@PrezReni045 bro thats not a gender

[@sleekyissleepy]

​@@PrezReni045 ah yes my favorite gender, gay

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

slay

[@khalilahd.]

Being in love with the idea of love has been my downfall so many times 😭😭 so glad I’m not the only one lol

[@chuucake]

frfr

[@hannabooklover]

For real! I'm still struggling with this concept

[@alexpane3405]

No but same, is that an aromantic thing or it's just confusion that some people have?

[@ekaterinakuznetsova]

@@alexpane3405 well idk if I'm aromatic or not but I'm asexual and I never really cared about being in love I loved the idea of love I loved looking at happy couples and reading/watching romance books/movies but I never felt the need to actually be in a relationship myself this is just my experience I've never met another asexual person (in person) so I can't say how it's like for others everyone's experience is different

[@absolutelynotellen]

OMG IKR

[@nubo3517]

I'm a straight man but I can relate so hard to the "why is it so difficult for me to form and maintain having a crush". I've only had one crush in my entire life and didn't take long for me to lose interest. Glad I'm not the only one lol

[@poisonivory6017]

you may be what is called an Aromantic. Or at least on the 'spectrum' of it. ( You don't feel romantic attraction towards anyone) Demiromantic is when you only get crushes on people you become really good friends with. Hope this helped.

[@Direblade11]

I am a straight dude who struggles to get crushes as well, though not when I was younger. Basically, I felt lust, so I'd just date a girl and be romantic for her, then get my sex out of it. There was one time I did end up falling in love, hard. I spoke with a cute coworker I specifically did not want to try to date, but in our first meeting she just seemed to really agree with views I hadn't even realized I had, and had similar interests. Without even trying to be smooth, I told her, "I really have to go, but I would keep talking to you if I could. Can I have your number?" Now that that's over, I don't know if I'll ever fall in love or get a proper crush again. Being honest about who I am while maintaining the actions of a good person is effective enough to get me a girlfriend with mutual trust, though.

[@matthewbaang8749]

I had 3 crushes over the entirety of my life, and all 3 flopped kind of nonchalantly because I am going to assume both of us didn't really want to potentially ruin the friendship we've already built together, so all 3 of my crushes stayed friends. And then the one time I actually wanted to commit into a romantic relationship and so did he, he just went poof from discord and we never got in touch ever again. But hey, at least that guy made me realize that I was bi, so there's that

[@mcbedo6568]

@@poisonivory6017 he just mentioned he's straight lmao. Also u can be perfectly off the spectrum and still struggle with maintaining crushes. I havent had a crush in years, that doesnt make me aromantic because i know I'm not. Crushes are crushes for a reason, they are _meant_ to go away. Its only when crushes develop into smth more than a crush that you actively want more with that person. Otherwise its perfectly normal to lose interest in a crush. Media and kids play it out like crushes are the holy grail and be all end all of things when its just a silly concept of temporary attraction.

[@poisonivory6017]

@@mcbedo6568 I was making a suggestion based off of my own experience. It's completely fine if you yourself don't feel that way, I really don't care. And from what I have seen at my high school, people tend to get a crush and want to be with the person even without it developing into 'something else' whatever that something else is. Other than that I can't say much else because I haven't experienced romantic attraction to anyone. I don't believe that crushes are the be all and end all as an Aromantic Asexual person, it is quite the opposite.

[@hades6257]

As a demisexual. The whole “who’s your crush” destroyed me each time.

[@hmm8183]

wtf is that 😂

[@FurbyCraftYT]

hmm I believe it means only feeling sexual attraction once you have developed a bond with the person, like friendship.

[@potatomo9609]

Uh oh…

[@Ihyhusa]

@@FurbyCraftYT so youre like everyone but with morals?

[@FurbyCraftYT]

IamHusa I feel like the biggest difference would be that you need the extra step of getting to know the person. So, it’s more likely that a demisexual will have a crush on their friend, and not typically someone they don’t know. I could be wrong though, since I’m ace and not demi. There could be other factors as well, depending on if the person alloromantic or aromantic.

[@amekovworp]

i was one of the pricks that thought everyone had to have crushes on people "i have one so you have to have one too!" or sm i was a horrible kid ive grown as a person since then and learnt that my idea of having a crush was in fact me wanting to ask them to be bestfriends and roommate material

[@jade.g07]

THE LAST PARA IS CUTE THO lmaoo.

[@annef0x]

Oh God I remember getting asked the whole "Who's your crush?" Question a lot and it never failed to stress me out, especially as someone on the ace spectrum who hadn't experienced attraction the same way my peers had. And after my discovery of me being a fruitcake, it just got WORSE cuz I just started getting turned off by all the hetero bullshiet I was asked. If it helps, Fal, I'm also 18 and I've never held hands with someone romantically. And I'm also hella confused between platonic and romantic attraction, srsly someone help a sis out here-

[@Kairyuasahi]

Omg your name lol I have the same name as you!

[@bluesusername]

that questions stresses me toooo cause like IK my friends and people around me would be supportive of me being aroace, but I just don't want to identify openly as it! idk why...I just want people to look at me as me, don't perceive my sexuality, just *m e* dont make assumptions _(my aroace friend thinks I'm lesbian)_ about what I am, just let me beeeee pleaseeee

[@mq_likesbrooms3134]

Lord I felt this. I've never had a crush either and always had to give some random boys name to be a part of the friend group. Soon I realized I was into girls and not guys because I can't see myself in a relationship with a guy but THEN I realized after getting a girlfriend that I only had a sexual attraction to girls but not wanting to get into a relationship with girls or anyone. Yet I still hope that one day I will want to hold someone's hand romantically and have a relationship even though I'm terrified because I have no idea what it means to see some romantically or platonically. Plz save my confused ass

[@FishieFishFosh]

Well if you can imagine a whole entire future w/ em its probably a crush. Or if you'll feel comfrtable being extremely close w/ physical attraction then its probably a crush. Actually should i even be saying this i've have no crushes in my entire life and having a mild case of questioning my romantic attractions .-.

[@gabbalaba.g7762]

(Im so sorry this is so long 😭) Hello! So I absolutely can't guarantee that I can explain this in a way that can be understood, but I hope my experience w/ crushes of both guys and girls can offer some insight or a form of clarity!💛 So in my personal experience, I would describe a crush in general as a fluttering, nervousness and adoration when I think of the person's qualities, such as their appearance (their kind smile, their expressions, style, overall energy, etc.) and their personhood (such as talents, capabilities, aspirations, empathy, sociability, etc.) As I got to know them more, these qualities would heighten one another and influence e/o - for ex., if I liked someone's ability to bring positivity to their peers, I would associate that attribute with their smile and like that physical characteristic even more. This would make me wish I could be around them more often, share fond memories together, be allowed in their personal world and space (holding hands, leaning on e/o, hugging, etc.) and being someone who held a unique and special place in their lives that was different from that of a friend, best friend, or family friends. The crush can vary based off of which side of the attraction spectrum you lean towards, whether you mostly only have visual information about the person you have a crush on, or whether internal qualities are the main thing you find in your crush. You can take this a step further - I recently experienced my first love, and the reason why I wanted her to be in my life forever was because she simultaneously gave me a sense of security and healthy challenge in my personhood, she uplifted me and we tried to influence positive development in e/o, we made future plans far out into our adulthood as a couple and being integrated as partners, and (I felt at least) we brought out the best in e/o. This can also be mirrored platonically, but I think the major difference is that you land in the middle of the attraction spectrum mentioned earlier, and you more importantly want to hold the special place of life partner in their world, not limited to friends (you'll feel limited with the title of "friendship" alone, and you'll feel the desire to be considered something more). I hope this helps on some level, and it's okay if your journey to finding yourself continues on, there's no rush to self recognition! ^-^

[@feerosetta]

"I am now 18 years old, and I've never even held the hand of someone romantically" I am 19 years old now. And this is THE MOST ACCURATE sentence that I heard in my WHOLE LIFE-

[@PandaJerk007]

Well I am 27 years old, and never held a hand romantically >__

[@paitynnicolosi8907]

Romance isn’t my thing, but I wish y’all the best of luck

[@Riftio617]

thats sad ( i dont relate)

[@paitynnicolosi8907]

You'll find the one for you! Don't overstress!

[@CampingforCool41]

I’m 28 so....yeah I think it’s over for me

[@Andreaa_-_]

The "Sophia" thing was so relatable. I had a major crush on this girl with the same name as me, and I adored her and everything she did. She was beautiful, she was funny, she was the quite kid, and she liked me as well ( but only as a friend, I think) And I don't even have the " I didn't know what gay was" excuse because I was talking to my mom about her, and literally said " But I'm not gay mom" ( I was a dumb 8 year old). I wrote a Valentine's letter to her. And here comes the funny part: I wrote this passionate love letter saying how I only went to school to see her, and wanted to play only with her at recess, and missed her every time we weren't together ( don't imagine it as sappho level poetry, I was a kid so I didn't really know how to properly express what I felt, but that's s resume of what I felt) AND HERE COMES THE FUNNY BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE LETTER I WROTE SMALL, IN PARENTESIS, AFTER THE " yours, [deadname]" and after literally writing in caps "I LOVE YOU", I added ( But only as a friend

[@shytendeakatamanoir9740]

Damn kids sucks so much (directed at that last part.)

[@thinkinofanameidunno7816]

i mean from your profile picture you technically aren't gay

[@ERMZIESS]

you tried

[@Leech-Kisser07]

oh

[@MingJianYap]

is Sophia a reference to that Clairo song?

[@kami4658]

the video was 15 minutes long but it felt like I watched a whole ass movie 💀anyways ur presentation was very slay 💅

[@777.s1ya]

She never fails to make me laugh and make my day better

[@missviktoriya]

@Dante Toshiro64 is that a hate comment

[@humbaba0616]

@@missviktoriya Why would you think that? I think it just refers to Faline's flirting attempts.

[@teffley2766]

Yall stupid? I've seen this same comment posted on a thousand videos

[@meme_supremacy_idiot]

faline is serotonin

[@iterfacile5481]

You might be on the aromantic spectrum!! I’ve had a lot of similar experiences to you, not being able to differentiate platonic and romantic feelings, being in love with the idea of love, getting over “crushes” quickly and not even having many crushes at all. I literally dated someone for like two years and got over our breakup in a week or two

[@ekaterinakuznetsova]

Hey I'm asexual but idk where I lie on the romantic spectrum I've never had a crush but I'm still only 16 is there someway to differentiate between romantic attraction?

[@SharkSalesman90]

@@ekaterinakuznetsova idk you wanna hold hands and other stuff with someone like ppl do? Or is that gross or something

[@SharkSalesman90]

Do you often feel wanting to be with other ppl or do they just evoke 'oh that person is considered good looking. Huh'

[@ekaterinakuznetsova]

@@SharkSalesman90 well I hold hands with my friends haha but I never had the need to be in a relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ so uh idk I might be aromantic too still not sure tho

[@iterfacile5481]

@@ekaterinakuznetsova I think at the end of the day it’s really just up to personal discretion! Don’t feel bogged down by labels, I identify as being on the aro ace spectrum but at the end of the day what I really identify most as is queer, because I don’t feel like fully defining myself. I still get confused about romantic and platonic feelings, but what really matters at the end of the day is what you personally want to do. Aro ppl can want romantic relationships and Allo people can not! Esp cause ur 16 I think just focus on exploration and doing what makes you happy in the end :)

[@Shoemakerssjkssj]

In an Asian household, once you have a crush you will never see the light of day ever again

[@lemon2524]

Damn.

[@ERMZIESS]

true true. mainly south asian countries. you even mention the idea of liking someone you start getting whooped. unlike focking non Asian countries they are so lucky

[@Meyasaurus]

unless they’re a doctor

[@jammingpython8986]

@@Meyasaurus or an engineer

[@missvioletblue]

When I was 13 I desperately needed to reassure myself that I'm a "normal" straight girl, so I picked a random boy in a camp. My friends made me confess whatever I felt (or didn't feel) for him. Long story short: it was HELLA awkward, he was HELLA shocked, I was HELLA gay and in the closet. We even held hands and I thought, "Oh wow, there it is, it's butterflies!'', but in reality I was really shy and nervous and the whole thing was quite a mess. I also didn't know that women could have crushes on each other, so whenever I spotted a beautiful lady I just STARED intensively and one day my mother caught me oggling on scantily clad lingerie models in a magazine so I made an 'amazing' excuse that I just appreciated how neat their underwear was😭

[@templecatt]

omg 😭

[@GingerJinji]

mmmmmmmmmmm meat undies

[@goatplaysguitar]

“Oh wow their underwear is so neat” is the gayest excuse I’ve ever heard and I love it

[@waxsuyaaa]

the picking a random boy from a camp is so real

[@_yahir_7673]

finally, a rare occurrence of an INTP discussing emotions. everyone congratulate Faline this was a big step and we’re happy for her👏🏼👏🏼

[@cassandranerezzablack]

She is intp?!?!?!? We are the sameee

[@someoldytaccount]

@@cassandranerezzablack Me too! Well, initially I was typed as an INTJ but everyone has indefensible weak spots in their chess play of life, so I accepted my true INTP self. Thank you for listening to my TedTalk™

[@alifishies]

Oh no, I guess birds of the same feather flock together 😰

[@cassandranerezzablack]

@@someoldytaccount np it was nice

[@Lucky-vu6hw]

She's intp Woah heckk now it's miracle for intp to tell their feelings literally in this much public 💀💀Salute to her then

[@someartistontheinternetnam816]

you’re one of the only youtubers that ACTUALLY make me laugh, and that’s hard to find. you’re awesome

[@alixx36120]

Yeah

[@shutit333]

Yeah ^^

[@Aurora_Animates]

Ikr :)

[@break_the_galaxy]

Just wanted to say as an aroace person I am incredibly happy to see you being so open about your identity, it is wonderful to see and I'm so glad that you're comfortable sharing this with your community. You've brought me and so many others a ton of laughs and joy with your content and I know the ones that truly matter will support you regardless of whether you're straight or not, so please, be yourself and don't let anyone stop you. Take care dude 💕

[@fluffthecat5188]

as another aroace person... I agree with you

[@tweek993]

as an aromantic person, i can confirm this is the correct opinion.

[@criptideancia]

As another one of us, I am in an agreeable state with this comment

[@Ivy3h]

As another aromantic asexual, I concur with your sentiment!

[@fierysky1218]

As a person, I completely agree with you.

[@Aerodumb]

Man, the story about the brazalet was so cute and sweet, don't feel embarrassed. I love that kind of stuff

[@dragonblade4125]

“I was my own historian” “who did the barest of bare minimums, but managed to woo me, because my bar was lower than my intelligence” “I had SENTIENCE” Your punchlines always get me lmaoo And the CAPTIONS oml (“💅#slay person”, “🧢I don’t care🧢” but with all the caps instead of no cap) “Why did you keep staring at me” FATALITY HOLY SH*T Also, Lizard apologizing and putting his hand over yours on the mouse to reopen your tab for you isn’t a bad “oh I have a crush” moment, I’d consider it more valid than me going crazy over being kabedonned by my friend lol

[@althea7181]

Agreed, it was cute af

[@raismin739]

kabeddon is not that crazy, it's so sexy and cool! (tho if one one my girl firls would try to kabeddon i may feel kinda upset, cause i'm demiromantic and i don't think of them that way. tho it's really fun to talk about girls with my best friend XD)

[@hornette8256]

My dad has always tried to initiate some sort of "girl talk" with me by asking who I'm attracted to and it always fails because my only answer is some variation of "no"

[@zKodla]

watched this with my boyfriend and we both thought your story-telling was very well done!! thanks for being so open and sharing with us your vulnerable side. we wish nothing but the best for you and support you always!!! also just wanted to let you know that being 'not straight' is totally ok and its always important to just be yourself. proud of you faline!!! thanks for making us entertained with your videos :) much love ♥

[@sere8109]

when i was in middle school, i didn't know that it wasn't "normal" to like other girls, so i just admitted that i liked one of my classmates and thEN SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WASN'T GAY. i didn't even know what being gay was. but, plot twist, two years later we were kissing on her bed. we broke up a few years ago, but i still think it's really great that my parents raised me to understand that there's nothing wrong with love. 💕

[@personone1382]

damn.... you've got a main character life bro. hope youre doing well

[@fanaticallyreading]

Finally, I've found someone I can totally relate to😭 I can never differentiate between platonic or romantic love, and my crushes lasted for a week, at most, before ultimately finding out that they were, unfortinately, already in a relationship. This happened three times too

[@qyw4639]

5:29 Angry “I could be a better boyfriend than him” noises, very relatable 😭

[@uncannyvalley2113]

my only "crush" was when this one guy in my class was nice to me. yeah. bullying was just character building, i swear guys.

[@ekaterinakuznetsova]

This video taught me that that annoying guy that kept turning off my computer in 6th grade was flirting with me 😐 I'm sorry but I did not like him at all 😂

[@aaainainaina]

THE MOST RELATABLE BISEXUAL VIDEO IS THIS I LOVE YOU GALINE

[@aaainainaina]

OMG FALINE****

[@Followthecat893]

GALINE

[@calengo454]

galine😨😰😨😨

[@syllc.209]

"It's not like I was young and homophobic" Ugh same. Internalized homophobia sucks. It took me until i was 20 to accept that I am bi

[@pangolinh]

my whole family is extremely homophobic and transphobic so i have no idea how i realized i’m both trans and lesbian

[@tachoblade2071]

@@pangolinh played on hardcore difficulty and still won 💀

[@tachyon7904]

@@pangolinh same here, i didnt realize i was queer and transfem nonbinary until i was like 16-17

[@myraclesname]

I'm still in process of figuring out my aromantic tendencies, but so far I'm pretty sure I am 100% aromantic. I've had my fair share of "crushes", but they turned out to be me wanting closure as friends on a platonic level. Now I'm an adult and I've never wanted to date anyone.

[@fluffthecat5188]

I have also never wanted to date anyone and am happy in my single life(I'm an aromantic asexual person)

[@choifed7619]

YOU LOOK AMAZING FALINE 💗

[@irlbananabread]

THEY LOOK SO GOOD ONG💞

[@aug3842]

@@irlbananabread HE DOES SO TRUE

[@irlbananabread]

@@aug3842 IK IK AA

[@die_unfaehige3374]

i literally made out with my girlfriends even before middleschool and i never thought of it as weird or anything or that i might be at least a little bit gay and now when i look back i just realise HOW FUCKUNG STUPID I WAS ON GOD

[@bisca2083]

THERE'S NO WAY THIS IS FR LMAOO

[@mindfulfairy]

Can I just say, Fall being so open about liking girls and their preferences is so inspiring! Especially from such a young KZbinr. I just want you to know you're a huge source of inspiration for all of us!!! I can't imagine how many people became more comfortable with their sexuality because of this video, thank you~

[@lex0.075]

This presentation was very informative. I'd say you have a promotion in your near future🕴🏾

[@khalilahd.]

Lmfaoo definitely

[@Phoenix-et1vw]

14:30 “How do you tell if your feelings for someone is romantic or platonic? How do you form and maintain a crush for a long period of time? My maximum was like two weeks.” Why do you sound like me that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to figure out too

[@percyitis7415]

Same!

[@bbueno2009]

through all my 14 years of life, I’ve had like 10 crushes 💀 anyways the way I figure out which is and isn’t platonic is whenever I have fake scenarios, his face is in like every single one 😭 anyways whenever ur around them, you start to feel nervous, get scared whenever u gotta talk to them, heart rate picks up, and that weird feeling appears in your stomach. You will probably start having dreams/fake scenarios w them And for platonic feelings, fake scenarios start again and you just so badly wanna be their bestie idk If y’all should be taking advice from a struggling sophomore girl with ADD, Ive never actually been close friends with any of my crushes 🧍‍♀️

[@vaguelysnek1227]

bro you should look up "quoiromantic"

[@daryissaplayz2312]

I'm on the Aro-Ace spectrum. As in both spectrums at once. I've never had any true crushes. I have however, started feeling romantic feelings for one partner after I started dating her. That is my current girlfriend, and we're happy. But also I have this thing that comes with my aro-ness where when I'm not around her, my feelings kinda fade and I feel insecure in romance, but then I see her again and I'm like, "Awooga, gawd dayum! 😫" then the cycle repeats. But that's how all of my relationships are and how they always have been (with non-men anyways).

[@leoroderick8551]

Omg I thought I was the only one with the last part! I assume it also comes from my aromantic side, but it's gonna be worse soon because my partner and I might have to be long distance in the upcoming months. Hopefully calling them would help, but I feel you. For me, it's like a wave where the doubt and insecurity crawls in when I don't see them, and then when we start seeing each other again in person it all resets. Glad you and your girlfriend are happy!

[@ItsArixy]

I actually figured out I was Aro/Ace when I found out that I never really had the idea of love, not did I ever feel lonely for not having a romantic partner in my life. I never had a crush in my life either and I went down a rabbit hole of research and found out my sexuality. It was cool and funny to laugh along your presentation, Faline 💖

[@endercopy-7dc]

Yooo I‘m also aroace :D

[@10brokenradios]

Neither did i and i think i might be somewhere on that spectrum as well!

[@jiayitan1767]

ayy aroace friends

[@nadaxx_]

im aromanic (not asexual tho) and its nice to see someone who relates to me

[@rasbyy]

samee :DD

[@problematiclettuce1985]

Story of me being creepy and oblivious: Let's call her "Lillian" I was in 6th back then and I didn't really know girls could like girls and thought I was just idolizing this one girl in class. She was really pretty and had the same hobbies as me. One of those hobbies were reading. So after class, I would ask my parents to come with me and Lillian to the library to buy story books to read. My parents would agree and Lillian's parents agrees too. Whenever we would go to the Library, I would purposely sit (extremely) close to Lillian. And my only explanation when she would ask why I'm being so close was "oH I cAnt SeE iF I dOnT SiT cLoSe tO yOU" and somehow that would always work. There was this time where we had to do a group project and I really wanted to be grouped together with Lillian. But sadly, Lillian already had group mates. I was a bit sad that I couldn't do the project with her, but I knew that she had to go to the library to get info for the project. Sooo- I would follow her to the library without her knowing and watch her read books. (Creepy ik) I remember I originally brought a camera with me to take pictures of plants and stuff for the project, but instead of taking pictures of plants, I ended up taking a picture of Lillian and ran away. There was a point where I knew I was starting to get creepy so I stopped going all out just to get near Lillian. I told my most trusted friend that my attitude towards Lillian was starting to get weird and asked if there was something wrong with me. She literally replied with "Oh, you might have a crush on her" ... Yeah. I was so confused by her reply back then and told her I can't date a girl if I'm a girl too. I remember her laughing and then just leaving. Months passed and my crush for Lillian didn't disappear. There was a time where Lillian got so close to my face when I told her I was sick. She told me she was "inspecting my face" so she got close. My face started burning even more when she got closer so she told me to go to the nurse's office. I still thought I was only idolizing her after that lmao. We graduated elementary, and we got separated classes. We lost touch after a while because she had new friends. Turns out she came out as bisexual in grade 7 and started dating a girl. So basically I lost my chance with Lillian and moved on with life. Had to get rid of all my Lillian photos hanged up on my wall though.

[@n1yav1]

noooo a missed opportunityy

[@lattekawa7005]

I have actually done something like this 💀but not taking pictures tho it was just that the guy I used to have crush on lived near my bestie's house so I would go to my bestie's house just to catch a glimpse of him lol thinking back to it now just make cringe and embarrassed

[@aoi8159]

ON YOUR WALL

[@starlightparades]

THE PICTURES ON YOUR WALL?!

[@cooltwittertag]

Damn she missed a bullet

[@kip5881]

5:24 *I could be a better boyfriend than him* -faline san

[@nittynotkitty]

I could do the shit that he never did~

[@axo_lex2419]

Up all night~ I won't quit~

[@shirosbf]

thinking I’m gonna steal you from him!

[@youcantseeme4454]

Plus all my clothes would fit

[@caramel3141]

@@shirosbf i could be such a gentlemen

[@ThreeGachaSisters]

So there's this uh human in our art class who is enby and lesbian, they're two years older than me, they like anime, they write for fun, and many more things we have in common BUT idk how to become more friends with them

[@pastelquartz6857]

I kinda suggest maybe starting small by asking what they're doing (if they're drawing, writing, or whatnot). And build a convo about it right there. Kinda worked for me.

[@ThreeGachaSisters]

@@pastelquartz6857 ok I'll try

[@Minnie.tinnie]

Ok, hear me out If u go talk to them directly u may feel nervous so I recommend taking to their friends first getting some info about them and then taking to them, works for me

[@error707detected]

Asking questions is always the easiest way to get to know someone, everyone likes to talk about themselves. So be interested in them and show it to them and if they're nice they'll show this interest back in you

[@error707detected]

@🌸 flowerblossom 🌸 right, sorry. thanks for correcting me

[@miwami.]

As someone who has recently realized I might be in the aro spectrum (like come on man I had two crushes in my life and I’m 16 now) I RELATE to not having a proper crush, and even if I regarded it as one it still is hard to pinpoint the attraction type I felt. ALSO I LAUGHED SO MUCH THIS IS SO ICONIC OF YOU

[@teethcoat4274]

It feels like the alloromantic-aromantic spectrum is really hard to define, I don’t think I’ve had a crush after the age of 3, but I’m still kinda convinced I’m fully alloromantic. As much as I don’t want to develop a crush at any point in my life, I feel like it’s entirely possible, but the fact that I haven’t during almost all of my conscious years on the planet may be evidence for otherwise.

[@Direblade11]

@@teethcoat4274 See, that's what confuses me about using the labels, especially when young. My difference, I think, is that I was always highly sexual and attracted to female bodies, but it took me until I was 19 and had a chance meeting at a chance time of my life to properly fall hard for a girl. Before then I assumed I literally could not fall in love, based on experience. No judgement btw, just hoping my experience can help a smidge

[@mcbedo6568]

I mean, i dont think you're meant to have a million crushes in your lifespan. 2 sounds...fine? If you're sure you're aro/ace that's fine, but basing it off the number of crushes is kinda ridiculous. Crushes come and go and for some its just never a thing. Doesnt necessarily mean you have to slap on a label onto yourself just yet. I say try to focus more on the concept of romantic relationships with someone as opposed to using crushes as a basis, that'll help way more on reaching a definitve answer.

[@ArsalanAnsari77]

@@Direblade11 I am gonna turn 18 soon but i haven't had a proper crush yet , I cannot relate to the falling in love aspect yet .I am still attracted to female bodies tho and I want romance in my life but I am not actively searching for it Hope that will change in the coming years of my life because I want to feel how it is to fall in love too

[@Selachii-sb2pi]

Bro that's totally fine. I'm turning 16 in two months and I never had a crush. In that sense, I think overthinking can be the wildest problem. Aro or not, it doesn't make you less as a person

[@rj_dr]

I've not had a single crush in my life so far, only these "That person is cool, would be pretty cool if we were friends" kinds of thoughts Faline is one of them because of how insanely relatable she is, like I can pick at least 7.4 things per video that I can relate to

[@_stayberries_]

not sure but i think faline's pronouns are he/him

[@rj_dr]

@@_stayberries_ Are they now

[@nebulotion]

@@_stayberries_ they dont mind other terms, although he does prefer he/him

[@air_hum]

are you aromantic by chance? :o

[@rj_dr]

@@air_hum No idea but I wouldn't be too surprised if I was

[@Annnabannanna]

0:58 exact same experience here. These kids were actually so manipulative.

[@anisahh3426]

fr

[@jiayitan1767]

naur because after i said it they shouted it out to the whole class, but the guy I named knew exactly what I was doing and was like "yea okay" and i was just "aight cool" and we never dated thank god

[@ashleysummon3475]

Yea exactly! I too experienced this a lot and then I had to make up a crush and tell them

[@anisahh3426]

@@jiayitan1767 aww that was nice he knew what u were doing and ugh i hate kids/people

[@uncannyvalley2113]

yes

[@Pforzie]

“My first ever crush was a girl called Sophia” My first crush was Mulan but I had to tell everyone it was Shang to avoid gay suspicion

[@maoopan]

You're NOT beating the gay allegations 😔

[@rutujasontakke885]

Whatever Failne's sexuality is, I support her 'cause I like her content. And even if it's not about the content I'll still support her B) ✌

[@spela7332]

I'm pretty sure their pronounce are he/they. But I'm not sure so don't quote me on that.

[@lovieheart981]

@@spela7332 they use he/she/they!! ^^

[@fortytwo4-2]

faline is a true giga chad

[@spela7332]

@@lovieheart981 oh okay thank you

[@emilyau8023]

Dang Robin could've dated a KZbinr :/

[@Expresso_Machine]

queen you have molded my personality

[@debjanisengupta448]

Why did I think of Elizabeth ll 💀

[@PhePheE13]

@@debjanisengupta448 well that went downhill quickly

[@debjanisengupta448]

@@PhePheE13 yes it did 👍

[@user-Beans2017]

He prefers he/him pronouns as said on Twitter but he mainly goes by all pronouns, so it’s fine.

[@PhePheE13]

@@user-Beans2017 I'm trans male and everyone calls me queen buts it's quite funny in a nice way. :>

[@crumblingcrow]

"And she draws anime, what more could anyone ask for in a woman" made him sound Irish 💀💀💀

[@Randoo-sh]

Her*

[@reallyreallycoolgirl]

@@Randoo-sh i think theyre alright with any pronouns rn if im remembering correctly :))

[@Randoo-sh]

@@reallyreallycoolgirl ah yes sorry I forgot :,)

[@ItsBelvietine]

Im fr confused if i had a crush on someone or not because i get this ✨WEirD FeEling✨ whenever i see them but i dont think that feeling is the feeling of someone who fell inlove. After hours of studying my feelings, i have concluded that i never had a crush ig.

[@yasmeeneleanor3153]

it's okay me too i relate so much ! i think sometimes as humans we are attracted to someone platonically, we want to be around them all the time and think they are amazing but it doesn't have to be in a romantic or sexual way

[@BullyPop]

When you know, you know! I absolutely adore your content, you remind me of myself when I was 18 years old, absolutely precious and hilarious content. Hang in there, Faline! You’re a treasure of a person and you deserve the world!

[@solarmoth4628]

I also remember picking a random boy to satisfy my friends but in the long term it didn’t matter because we are all not straight now. I like didn’t register women were also an option until I was like 12. Edit: I remember finding my highschool crushes tumblr to anonymously ask what she would do if an underclassman asked them to a dance. They thought it was sweet but they had a boyfriend. I cried. Can relate to doing sad, cringe things in highschool.

[@avalxnche5818]

One taught me love, one taught me patience, and one taught me pain

[@friedfishh]

lmaoooo

[@icethepolarbear]

That sht is amazing

[@nitzkovers5301]

@@icethepolarbear Ik it might be weird but... WHAT'S THE NAME OF THIS SONG I'VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR MONTHS 💀

[@lisaappiah866]

@@nitzkovers5301 Thank you next by Ariana Grande

[@nitzkovers5301]

@@lisaappiah866 oh thanks

[@ziezitci]

This was so funny to watch. As someone that's 18 and only had a SINGLE crush(still crushing), this is pretty relatable LOL

[@reyannacorf71]

Not gonna lie I swooned when you raised your brow at 12:15 like my heart truly fluttered and now I think I’m the one with a crush

[@mindfulfairy]

Ah yes, the LGBTQ awakening in the form of fictional characters

[@step2bakeit]

Mine was raven from ttg (the bad one) 😭😭😭

[@RocketPooch]

Mine is super embarrassing. Zoe Trent from Littlest Pet Shop 😭

[@willsolacemahsaamini8681]

All my crushes are fictional HELP

[@mindfulfairy]

Also did anyone also fall in love with Eclipsa from STVFOE because ELEGANT GOTH LADY

[@mindfulfairy]

@@step2bakeit mine too! God and I loved Starfire's sister

[@kuldipsingh-sk4zi]

Sophia and Faline is actually the best love story I've heard

[@raymondortiz1748]

The wholesome honestly is what gets me. And the ability to cringe at yourself is such a flex! You’re amazing and cool and I wish you the best in all of your future endeavors. 😊

[@elpatoempatado2404]

4:09 And that's how the story of the quiet girl began...

[@cottoncandye]

faline being a kdrama side character for 15 minutes (not) straight:

[@mindfulfairy]

The hair flip at 8:13 😩 king you look so good in this suit

[@grinch56]

I'm 19 and I think I've had one serious crush in my life. She was my straight af ex bestie. Honestly her forgetting about me as a friend still hurts way fucking worse than any of my crushed dreams about her being my gf

[@arahabakiikuya1111]

i dont knw why.. but we are 100% in the same situation

[@grinch56]

@@arahabakiikuya1111 oh no :( update though I think I'm on the aromantic spectrum hence the one and only crush ever

[@noaso]

just wanted to say I’m really glad to see you being so open about your identity and using multiple pronouns✨really gives me courage to be more open about my own queerness

[@enbyphrogg]

girl you were lucky- 3 embarassing crushes are better than 100+ relationships that failed like a clown failling at the circus 😭😭😭😭😭 also loved the way you tell your stories! so fun and entertainning :D

[@Quitlol37737]

4:50 when i was around 8/9 i had a crush on a girl, she was a year and a half older than me and I didn’t understand girls could love girls until a few years later so when she left primary school and i was 10 i wrote her a letter telling her that we could move to Paris and be fashion designers and live in the same apartment with luxury furniture as besties like i had planned for years😍

[@scipo6469]

I’m gay, and I had a hard time at your age figuring out how to be confident and mature about my sexual orientation. I’m so delighted to know that talented and cool person like you do have some common things with me. I love your videos, love your personality, and your humor. I hope one day I could be cool and confident as you are.❤

[@Hasna-td7jf]

I thought I was gay, then I thought I was bi, and now I have concluded that I am asexual and therefore all the crushes I have had previously were all insignificant girls and boys who were very popular or pretty. P.s I relate to the rollercoaster of love you went through in school

[@konimeter]

For the actual question on the duration of your crush and the no differentiation between platonic and romantic, I recommend looking into aromanticism. Many terms within aromanticism could describe what you're looking to express like Quoiromantic, which means someone can't tell the difference between platonic from romantic feelings. The aromatic community is very welcoming and there are many resources you could look into (On KZbin, websites etc.). Hope that helps!! :D

[@Direblade11]

So this is a question from the outside looking in, forgive my ignorance: are these labels like "Quoiromantic" used as things to identify as, like being gay/straight/bi? What confuses me is that many of these labels amount to, "I can use this to describe me because I struggle with these concepts" as well as, "I literally cannot feel these concepts. From my perspective, it looks like using these labels could confuse people who just haven't met their type of weird yet, and lead them down a path they might find lonely. P.S. Again, no judgement. I don't understand the perspective of being aromantic or asexual, so my views are coloured differently, but I'd like to learn.

[@bpdnorton]

@@Direblade11 straight people can be aromantic or asexual or aroace not only gay people

[@captainniki8185]

13:25 the "okay" -

[@Kanzen0]

Faline: but at the time, one of my closest friends told me that if i ever got married to a girl. She would not come to my wedding... *Sad mucic* Also Faline: and then she proceeded to try and WINGMAN ME WITH ROBIN.

[@kaybesky6447]

12:31 oof- the poetry 💓💓💓💓🤒🤒

[@giansabbadini1626]

14:06 it'd be really funny if Robin's gf told Robin that she actually made the bracelet, and just stole her from you in a week

[@0_0gacha22]

I’m aromantic and a lot of this was relatable asf, I’d fake crushes, I’d want to live together with some of my friends (still do), I thought I had crushes on people but nope, I either wanted to befriend them or I thought they looked awesome and I admired their fashion senses and there’s a lot of people in the comments that are questioning if they’re on the aro or ace spectrum bc they can’t tell the different between platonic and other sorts of attraction so I’m gonna help you out by explaining it in like a simple way: platonic attraction: in the simplest of ways, you just want to stay in the friend zone, you don’t wanna date them and you don’t wanna F them. and yes, you can want to live with your friends, hold hands with them, cuddle them, take them on dates and your relationship can still be platonic because at the end of the day, do you want to date them? Or F them? no romantic attraction: you see someone and have an urge to be romantic with them. you see someone and are like “I’d like to kiss them, I wanna be something more with them, I wanna be their partner”. A friendly reminder: you can still have romantic fantasies about someone, (fictional characters too), and still be aro, because it’s all in your imagination, it’s a fantasy. Seggual attraction: just like with romantic, you see someone and have an urge to be seggual with them. two friendly reminders: 1. you can still be ace and get corny (replace the C with an H). but those feelings aren’t really directed at anyone so you’re just sitting there.. corny. 2. you can also be ace and enjoy having the spicy fun time, you may enjoy how it makes you feel or the emotional closeness of it. but do you see someone and want to be seggual with them? no aesthetic attraction: you think someone is pleasing to look at, you admire their fashion, their hair, etc. by the way, you can still be straight and be aesthetically attracted to the same gender and that wouldn’t make you any less straight. I’m not good at explaining things but I hope this helps lmao

[@shreyaroy7810]

you're really good at explaining things and you're funny as well XD

[@Human00002]

So i realized i never had a crush on amyone amd i just though i had to have a crush on my bestfriends lol. So i may be aro.

[@hitorisakamaki9858]

As a pansexual female, I absolutely get this. I always had female crushes but I couldn't even get myself to go and ask them out; probably because I am in Asia and everybody doesn't like the idea of THE GAYS. Until now I still have this problem approaching females that I get to like. I think it's terrifying and I don't think I'll ever be the one to say to a girl that I like her 😭

[@edayavuz1667]

The Only way out of this is to raise awareness in some way, so there's communication between the LGBT and "normal" people. How will you go out with someone or even have friends that respect you for who you are if you can't talk abt who you are? They usually have some kind of political group in those homophobic countries. Maybe theres some little things that you can do to help?

[@RandomSwiftie13]

You can always use dating apps. That's where you will find your people who want the same thing as you. But dating in general is messy regardless whether you are straight or not.

[@fictionallove_2416]

I was about 11-12 when I first had a crush on a girl. I fell in love with her not because of her gender but because she was so nice towards me. Her smile smiled as bright as the sun, her laughter was soft and calm it made me weak.

[@wangxian4907]

Did u ever tell her ur feelings??

[@fictionallove_2416]

@@wangxian4907 Well, she was currently dating (a guy) she's also homophobic:')

[@Yournansaman]

Pansexual?

[@fictionallove_2416]

@@Yournansaman Ah, I'm actually Bisexual :')!

[@wangxian4907]

@@fictionallove_2416 damn that's rough 😔 hope u find ur soulmate tho! Best of luck 😆🤞

[@ashi-art3944]

"i was my own historian." most relatable thing I've heard.

[@pai-tsuhi1131]

14:38 I am neurodivergent like faline and I just found an lgbt identity and flag recently that represents how neurodivergents have a hard time differentiating platonic vs romantic attraction, which I found quite fascinating…. Maybe that’s it? Yes, me and faline are just wired differently…

[@crazymaskedkillerguy]

Maybe I’m neurofivergent and I always wonder why I have crushes on people idk that well but not my besties and it’s weird

[@dontcallmeimdead.9556]

I’m actually questioning if I’m not demisexual because of this. Like I’ve never really been interested in having a partner. But for some reason, when someone is nice to me and we have such a great conversation, I start admiring their personality a little too much and suddenly feel sexually attracted to that person even if they are ugly a hell! And it happens with any types of gender although I do believe I’m straight. But the thing is, I also believe I might be neurodivergent and that could explain why I mix platonic vs romantic attraction.

[@lekopoofball]

I am very neurodivergent and apparently am wired the same. Good to see there are more of us.

[@heretichazel]

I'm on the aromantic spectrum and with hindsight of the single person I'm head over heels for, what I thought in the past were crushes was just platonic attraction, and even then it's a fuzzy line so I feel that

[@empressofhearts7300]

Hey you all. Weird to ask in a KZbin comment section maybe, but... What does it mean to be neurodivergent?

[@not-so-obvious_autism777]

I’m so dumb why did I think Faline was holding a pink wineglass 💀💀✋🏽

[@absolutelynotellen]

Crushing over a guy who do a bare minimum is a thing i often experincing 😭 i swear to god boys in here keep labeling showing emotions as "feminine" or "gay"

[@kaniikarma]

Oh my GOD this video was entertaining to watch especially as an asexual person who literally could not distinguish platonic vs. romantic love for the life of me (my biromanticism not helping at ALL). I remember I somehow gaslit myself in elementary school into liking certain people of the opposite gender based on like.....names or something but also being like "man I'd totally kiss my friends of the same sexuality. Platonically. Because it's normal for homies to kiss each other." but ALSO ALSO being really confused about depictions of romance in media because I thought people only had crushes on their close friends and anything else was, and I quote, "inaccurate depictions of romance," which led me to hate love stories for a very long time.

[@yasmeeneleanor3153]

BRO SAME

[@galaxycat9966]

Ok, but that last part has such strong demisexual energy. Also I relate with the first part ~so hard~ (also BiRo Ace and honestly questioning whether any attraction I feel towards guys is romantic, starting to think it's purely aesthetic)

[@kaniikarma]

@@galaxycat9966 Omg thank you for pointing out the demisexual energy because I actually identify fully as biromantic demiromantic ace but I rarely get to even talk about the demiromantic part because 90% of the people I've talked to either don't understand or don't believe it's real T-T

[@skall4503]

"I cOulD bE a BeTtEr BoyFriEnd tHan hIM" "yOu KnOw NoThInG oF tHe BrO cOdE! " *proceeds to show middle finger to Benson in the screen*

[@_theslytherclawfrog_9376]

My bi awakening hapened when I was 10- ah yes, elemetary school love..- It was summer and me and my bestfriend went to a 1 week camp together that was very epic, very epic indeed. So it was the day we were leaving the camp and our parents were to come pick us up. The camp was about an hour and 30 minutes away from where the both of us lived. (Keep in mind that I knew her for 4 years, since first grade. ) So every kid, boy or girl, was in this cabin that was only open space that had log benches everywhere in rows. We were watching a movie on one of the benches and suddenly I look over and saw she was trying to find something to rest her head on. She was twisting and turning since there wasn't really anything she could put her head on. I just looked at her and said quitely, "You can rest your head on my shoulder if that is more comfortable." She just gave me a soft smile, rested her head on my shoulder and said, "Thanks." She had her head rested on my shoulder the rest of the time until her mom arrived. I openly came out to her, telling her I liked her this year. Yeah--.. I was rejected. :,) Though she gave me the nicest paragraph of how she felt really bad and still wanted to be bestfriends. She said that if her family wasn't homophobic and she wasn't straight, if there were any girl she would date, it woulbe be me. Honestly that made me happy enough and we forgot completely about this moment and are the best bestfriends we could be. SORRY TO MAKE YOU READ A PARAGRAPH-

[@arthurdias6860]

don't be sorry about it, this is one of the best and most cute love story i heard in a time.

[@calengo454]

omgg this is so cute🥹do you want me to invade her house and give her the gay potion

[@_theslytherclawfrog_9376]

@@calengo454 😂 That's really sweet, but not necessary 🫶 Thank you anyways! ^^

[@franki1990]

I enjoyed every second of this read. Thank you for sharing your experience.