The People Who Struggle The Most Have this One Common Trait

The People Who Struggle The Most Have this One Common Trait
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[@nancyk6563]

I had that Ah-ha moment yesterday !! I began taking melatonin and NyQuil each night in the effort to escape my pain. I have had vertigo for the past two months - since I began taking sleep aids. It dawned on me that I was using the sleep aids to escape my life because I was afraid of facing it. My MO for my entire life! Creating pain in order to have a surgery or extended bed rest to escape my life rather than face it. I was so afraid and didn’t realize it. The realization hit me like a brick yesterday ! I DON’T NEED TO ESCAPE. I HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE! I’ve done the work to create work/life balance and slow down. I deserve to enjoy it!! No sleep meds last night and my pain levels went WAY DOWN. I didn’t sleep thru the night but it wasn’t because of severe pain. I think it was more because I was excited about my self discovery and feeling so much love for myself. THANK YOU FOR THE CONTINUED COACHING & SUPPORT!! 😘😘😘

[@CherryLane-si1yj]

This. A thousand times over. Yes.

[@nancyk6563]

Feels good to hear that! TY Cherry

[@nickyathos8162]

Well done absolutely right

[@marieleak8731]

Well Done!

[@nnkief525]

I'm so glad you've figured out more of your journey, story, and what is needed for your healing. Good for you!!!!! You should be very proud.

[@c.h.mastenbroek9683]

I am improving and still have many flare-ups. I know my brain is still perceiving danger. It takes time for my brain to get it, I guess. What’s the most difficult for me is convincing my brain that I can do this and the fact that I am still often scared of my symptoms. But it’s getting better step by step.

[@belle2154]

RAS (Reticular Activating System)💕🙈🙉🙊

[@paulaspagnuolo8285]

The most important thing I’ve come to learn in dealing with my chronic dizziness is that FEAR is incredibly powerful. The second is that with practice I can overcome/control it.

[@michellebenjamin4632]

I have chronic dizziness also .

[@avamiller2325]

Same here

[@sheilababy62]

The Steady Coach is here on KZbin if you haven’t already heard of her. She uses the same mind body techniques and she specialises in all types of dizziness.

[@ElisabethDonati]

I'm so tired of being sick and in pain. TY I did the assessment...46. I so get this. Now to learn how to calm everything down. I look back to how I got this way and it's so weird. I used to be such a care-free, happy, active girl. I want that girl back more than anything in the world. I am safe, I am safe, I am safe, I am NOT broken!

[@AnderWestgaard]

Thank you for these videos and reminders. As someone who has overcome back pain through this work, I find all these lessons apply to living and enjoying life in general without fear. I’m grateful for your videos and applying these principles to living life without worry.

[@NEChristo]

I think behind the fear of it not being TMS and instead something physical is the real fear- of dashed hope.

[@PainFreeYou]

I understand. BUT....if you have followed the recommendations - ruled out life threatening and then ruled IN the mindbody (PDP) reason for your symptoms, then that is what it is. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoLSiXqIesimf5Y

[@PainFreeYou]

Further - the worry that we will be disappointed... We are ALREADY disappointed. You have literally nothing to lose by going all in on this. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYTbaINpr5Z2g9k

[@Thebetterkeepsgettingbetter]

PDP....is def my issue. But now this program is changung my life...truly liberating. No pain...still anxious but so what??!! Doing more work daily. Learning so much. It works. No more pain meds, nothing...down to 1 for GERD but thats going away too...more proof..you all share proof and now i have some proof too. Day 9 or 10 No Pain! Crazy...ty for this vid. So much hope now. Thank you🎉 Im not broken....❤

[@amandahessel5365]

This makes me so hopeful. I’ve been in a bad flare for a while and I can’t seem to lower my fear this time and see change

[@paulanazim2115]

How did you do it exactly?🙏

[@vespa371]

The day i decided that all my symptoms were TMS was a day of great freedom and relief. I went from believing i was really broken, and that something terrible had happened to me (that the dr's hadn't found).... To freedom of knowing that i was actually ok! I'm still implementing, but the more i do this work, the clearer it becomes it's all TMS. Thanks for your daily videos Dan, they are so reassuring.

[@josiejo117]

It sounds like you're in a tropical rain forest! Lovely. Best thing I did for myself was to symbolically rip up & dismiss all the consultant/psychiatrists reports of ME/CFS/Fibro. It felt liberating. But I remember a phase when I was "arguing" for my "symptoms" as legitimate...realizing now, that this was just fear talking. I didn't want to believe it...who would, but back then it was all I knew. As always Dan thank you kindly💖

[@user-dianejcml]

Hi josiejo! I just printed out photos of me from the past year reminding me of my "fighting" for a diagnosis of "this isn't just fibromyalgia/Lyme triggering my occipital nerves on my head. I kept taking photos of symptoms I've never had before on my face, hair, body etc. I was terrified. I needed clarity and a cause desperately. After my last round of blood work came out better than even the doctor thought, I symbolically burned these photos in a fire ceremony. Really trying now to implement and give myself messages of safety and healing. I am so thankful for Dan's teachings ❤

[@josiejo117]

@@user-dianejcml What an incredible thing you have done! This is a huge message to your limbic brain that you are in a totally different "place" right now...the fire ceremony marks the complete disposal of the past. So pleased for you. Much love for your courage & bravery.❤

[@user-dianejcml]

@josiejo117 Thank you so much for your amazing reply! It really made me smile! Very encouraging and loving support, and I felt it in your comment. 🥰❤️ I don't know if I would have done the fire ceremony yet, if not for Dan's channel and reading all of your comments. To take this healing journey genuinely, I had to believe it. It took me awhile to understand and implement it authentically. I so appreciate that you share experiences from the heart. The good days, bad days and in between. I read them all. Much love and healing blessings to you too! Have a great week! xoxo Diane 🌷💗

[@terry4O]

I accept that fear is the source of the symptoms, letting go of the anxiety/fear that are at the source of the symptoms is my challenge. I'm at a point where I do appreciate your video on when symptoms spike.

[@DeirdreAlderfer]

New to this work after 3 different seemingly unrelated medical diagnoses in 2023. I’m convinced that it’s all TMS/nervous system dysregulation but it’s hard to believe that I can heal when I’m in a flare up. I know that this work will change my life however even if I don’t totally eradicate all my symptoms.

[@chrisbenj3819]

Allow them to be there allow yourself to feel emotions. It all ends up going away

[@jacquelinegolden899]

Maybe the part of the brain that is so fearful and finds it difficult to accept that it is TMS, needs a lot of compassion and understanding. What if saying to that fearful part, " I know you're afraid and scared, but we know what this is, and it's really okay". Giving ourselves a hug of reassurance and kindness. Maybe those most fearful need an extra dose of self compassion and kindness. Maybe these people were never reassured as kids and this is a new skill that needs to be developed. What do you think?

[@PainFreeYou]

You will find similar compassion and self kindness in my "how to talk to your brain" video from a couple months ago: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g4TElWdre5Wom7s

[@moonhunter9993]

spot on

[@Lenneke8422]

Oh definitely fear is the root cause. 100 💯 It is TMS did the assessment and the pain test scored 42. Teaching my brain 🧠 that I am actually safe. Ty Dan see you in the call on Monday 😁 love you always 😘 ❤️ 💖 💗

[@patriciaolds9408]

Love the expression: Are you arguing for your limitations? Thanks Dan!

[@Planty-Mandy]

Some tough love from Dan. ❤ Back to Fast Start I go.

[@user-dianejcml]

Me too. Back I go! ❤❤

[@w.okkerse915]

The problem is that the pain is so real. It feeeels sooo real. So it must be that something is very wrong with your body! You cannot escape when you keep dwelling in the feeling that your body is ruined. You have to use logic. I only escaped when logic told me 'wait a minute, I can still carry a teacup. What if I gradually increase the weight of the cup?'. So I did. I started very sensitive weight lifting (500 gram in the beginning!). It hurt like hell, but gradually I developed some confidence and trust. And only after the fear went slowly away in a course of months, I started to realise that it was the anxiety that kept me in that awfull place. And the cycle was reversed. And now I have been free of pain for over 15 years! But I learned that I am very sensitive to stress. So I adapted my lifestyle to avoid stress. And take as a help an antidepressant, because unfortunately in modern society stress is very difficult to avoid. I also learned to do things that I really enjoy, instead of chasing status. And I feel very well now. A long journey. The science behind it is actually very simple. With anxiety stress hormones are.released in your body. All your senses go on very high alert. When you see the pain signals as vital information, your brain immediately starts to have a very strong focus on them. Small pains are experienced as enormous pains. Because you are focussed with your brain on the pain signals. It is simple biochemistry. I have a beautiful neighbour that is in a lot of pain for over four years. She becomes mental when I tell her this story. ' you think I am psychologically sick, but I my body is sick!'. I cannnot convince or reach her . It is sad to watch. I understand her reaction. When you would have told me the first year that my pain had a psychological background, I would have attacked you. But after two years, logic took over. I discovered it by myself. No internet back then. Keep up your good work!!!

[@josiejo117]

Resonate with much of your journey. Thank you so much for being so open & honest. Pleased to hear you are free of pain for 15yrs!! Very encouraging, reassuring proof the cycle can be reversed. Bless you. 💖

[@marieleak8731]

So good to hear your pain free. Very Inspiring. It can be done. Thank you

[@stevebrine8866]

This is brilliant information. I've been keeping fear alive for years by feeding it, not realising been on a mouse wheel. Thanks Dan!

[@acceleratorulz4105]

I suffer from anxiety disorder and health anxiety and agoraphobia. I've been watching your videos without any idea what is tms, pdp.. None of those abbrevaitions made sense to me.. In this video you finally expanded on those. Thanks 😅

[@nancyrussell6598]

I HAVE THESE TOO AND IT LOOKS LIKE I'M STUCK IN WHAT DAN DESCRIBES.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@nancyrussell6598 Stuck is a state of mind. Change your mind. Change your story. Accurate knowledge can move you forward. DansFastStart.com

[@PainFreeYou]

The first video in my playlist goes into it deeply. DansFastStart.com

[@wednesdayschild3627]

Anxiety disorders are tms. Believe me, I know, the doctors cannot fix it. They start off believing that anxiety is a disease. Fear and anxiety are our good friends. Somehow I got the idea that fear was the problem. It isn't. It just needs turned down a little. I am trying to have a good relationship with anxiety.

[@d.perkins6017]

You videos help me so much. Thank you. I will be doing well in my belief of PDP, living life, and someone will see me struggling in movement and say something with concern or pity, and tell me I should try some medical thing or see a new doc. I tell them Im good or even lie and tell them I saw my neurologist recently. Sometimes well-meaning people want to try to fix me. It throws me off and my brain starts to spin and think and argue with itself (more PDP) maybe they are right. Its frustrating and takes time and mental work to get back into belief. I have many people who support me and believe PDP, but Im still thrown off by random comments and whem it happens I am so dissappointed in myself, like I have failed. I.will go back to the Fast Start today. So grsteful for you and the life preserver you toss out to us each morning. ❤ Have a besutiful weekend.

[@nathanjenniferlipton2298]

Dan, could you please consider doing a video about unconscious muscle clenching? Or do you have any advice on how to stop doing this? Thank you for everything you do for all of us.

[@andrewhopf6870]

I know you didn’t ask me but I suffered from pain associated with clenching and spasms. Once I committed and stopped fearing these triggers the associated pain decreased dramatically. Once that was improving I could focus on awareness of clenching and consciously relaxing those muscles. It’s tougher with spasms but not impossible. Keep focusing on your reactions first regardless of the type of symptom!

[@MsOka007]

It's also conditioning, not only fear.

[@PainFreeYou]

True, but the perception of danger as at the footing of the foundation. De-conditioning is much easier once the fear has been lowered with accurate knowledge about what is going on. DansFastStart.com

[@CruisingWithElena]

I keep going down rabbit holes and new symptoms two now I keep going back to u. Four months of sheer fear. Moments of aha moments

[@danwool]

How about this one: "I'm getting older, so eventually one of my symptoms will be real". ...that's where my brain likes to go

[@PainFreeYou]

Do what you can to stay focused on right now. Understand the cause of symptoms. Do the assessments to see what is going on right now. If TMS/PDP, then focus on that now. We cannot spend a lot of time in fear of the "what if" future scenario's and remain at peace today. Safety today resolves symptoms today. Focus there.

[@danwool]

@@PainFreeYou Thanks. More good advice. You're relentless :)

[@tammyrichards9901]

I love the success stories. I have spent thousands of dollars. I mean a ton. I had an issue this morning with my stomach and I haven't had an issue in a couple months

[@tina_820]

I embraced this concept from day one…that my success. Boooooom.

[@marieleak8731]

Even with symptoms, this work is a life changer. Thanks again Dan. 💕

[@kayladewaard4019]

🔥🔥🔥🔥 this was honestly a slap in the face in the best kind of way. Saving this one. Thanks so much Dan.

[@PainFreeYou]

Hard truths sometimes need to be told. Glad you took it in the best kind of way.

[@kayladewaard4019]

@@PainFreeYou one of those things that you talk about so much and yet everytime I hear it, it resonates.

[@Zmh89]

Thankyou Dan. I am trying to push past the fear and keep living my life. Still up and down at times , with waves of emotions. But I am still trying everyday and re-assure my mind also

[@Thebetterkeepsgettingbetter]

Surrender is key for me I realized. ❤

[@Cloenclan5]

Sooooo good! Yes this IS EXACTLY what is going on!

[@hjaltiagustsson7905]

Than you so much Dan 😊

[@NatureRPh]

Thanks Dan. Love your vibe.

[@Freetobeme8181]

Has anyone noticed when you start to ignore the symptom that it gets stronger or a new symptom pops up? I’m really trying to get better and stop the fear that’s causing my symptoms. Which is a lot of nausea..

[@marleenlambrichts6234]

Thanks Dan. So a direct conversation. It makes sense. I am not broken. ❤

[@LeenieSD]

Dan, thank you. A topic to consider...fear of what? Maybe you can address how to uncover what we're afraid of.

[@PainFreeYou]

Nope - we do not need to figure it out. Just three days ago I shot this video asking "do we need to figure out what we are perceiving as dangerous?" kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3fJhmSibLh5jq8

[@LeenieSD]

@@PainFreeYou Thank you, after I left that comment I saw the video you posted about not having to figure out what you're afraid of.

[@Cangurul0921]

I am one of those stubborn...that's why I'd like to add that I do not think they want to keep searching for a disease, for problems, but they do not know how to live without problems..I belive those are the people that experienced ongoing trauma for years and they just cannot have discipline and decide to feel good and live their life because they did not do this even prior to TMS. If my symptoms would miraculously disappear over night I would not know how to live my life, I would not know how to be happy, relaxed. So the symptoms are here just to match my inner world. Without them...I belive I'd start searching for them rather than start suddenly after >30 years living my life. The brain loves what is familiar. And those who had bad luck and never experienced happiness in the first years of their lives ( for me about 20 years )is so hard to start learning what others learn in a natural way...to love life...

[@sherrilawrence662]

WHAT AN APPROPRIATE TOPIC FOR TODAY ❤❤🙏I will keep on keeping on..😅

[@ListenMySon]

Are you going to the Impact event next weekend?

[@carolbeckdesigns]

This makes soooo much sense!!!

[@serenity9299]

I so needed to hear this!

[@Laughing-doves]

I am totally convinced it is the brain perceiving danger but I still have muscle spasms, digestive issues, chronic fatigue.

[@OksanaNel]

Amazing video! Thank you. You are awesome! We ❤ U!

[@dimitraangelidis376]

Thank you so much for this video! One part of me believes in everything you said! But another part says: survival mode is reaponsible for keeping me alive. How can I ignore that? If I decide not to believe in my fear, if something is really wrong with me ,and I do nothing about it, I can die. This is terrifying. How can I not believe in this thought? And feel safe...

[@lynneberry6495]

This is just Fabulous!! Brilliant one thanks for posting!👌😁❤️

[@martindeignan6564]

Thank you,, for that,, it is So True,, in my ,,own Case,,, the Dreaded,, Word,,,,, FEAR,,,,,,,,followed by What,,,,,,IF,,,,,,,,,, Setting,,off the,,, Amadyla,,,,word,, for Word,, i Hear,,You,,,,,, Martin,,,,,,,,, Dublin Ireland,,,,,,,

[@toniwood6490]

I am struggling. I’ve had anxiety all my life. This past year, I’ve developed a fear of death and my world has crashed around me. Fear is driving my symptoms. I try talking to my brain and am trying to accept death is reality. I’m trying to change my thinking, but am having a very difficult time.

[@kayladewaard4019]

Thank you❤❤❤❤❤

[@elisabethj6613]

Thankyou Dan🙏🏼🥰

[@Fenderonly2746]

When you say other symptoms, have you seen tinnitus and visual snow be apart of tms ?

[@marlac.876]

This literally is me! Every time I get a symptom cleared if it pops up again, six months later, I think something is wrong again and I can’t get out of this vicious cycle! Ever since I got the Covid vaccine, I’ve been so dizzy various worms of chest pain, but I’ve had literally so much medical testing done. I mean I’m talking at least 20 different specialist And everything keeps coming back OK but somehow can’t seem to step away!

[@kevinagee4528]

Thank you

[@sallymae59]

you are awesome

[@100hellsonlyangel]

Hey Dan, great video, thank you, they’re so helpful - even just watching the videos has created some progress 😊 Could you advise/make a video on an issue I’m noticing in my journey - As I start to move forward and do a little more and symptoms flare up, even though I am reassuring myself it’s okay I notice I become emotionally sensitive and lash out at my family over small things…my perception of the event is very skewed. I am unsure if I should ‘allow’ the emotions, or do I treat them as symptoms? I feel like I have no control over these emotional outbursts and behaviours and I don’t want to upset my family (once I’ve calmed down it’s clear the outburst isn’t really matched to reality) I am feeling a lot of fear around these emotions, moving forward

[@100hellsonlyangel]

To clarify, I mean real snippiness - what’s that even about?

[@jennaishere]

Dan do you need to journal to recover? Another group has made me feel like if I just journal I will get better!?? I FEEL SO CONFUSED 🤯😂 ‘just keep journaling and it will go’ apparently ??

[@PainFreeYou]

I do not teach journaling and many are getting well without it. Focus on the root cause. Your brain perceiving danger causes pain or symptoms. SAFETY is the solution. How does journaling make your brain feel safe? My fast start playlist explains it all. DansFastStart.com

[@maryanderson8746]

I’m making great progress. I did have a structural back issue that became TMS. My question is how to implement exercise/movement/flexibility exercises without framing them as “fixing” the pain? For instance, I am using 90/90 hip exercises to improve my hip movement so I can sit on the floor with grandkids better. But this exercise is also one that is used to “fix” back pain. Suggestions on how to reframe or do you have a video on that already?

[@JohannaKuhn-oy5uw]

How can i convince my brain that migraines don’t have physiological reasons, and aren’t caused by food triggers (that I’ve been avoiding for a long time)? I believe that i can get better, with less frequency and intensity of symptoms but i have a hard time letting go of my beliefs that the foods i eat don’t have an effect on the symptoms

[@paulanazim2115]

What if I am not sure at 100% that my pain is PDP? I have diagnosis of bladder embedded infection, causing by bacteria (that shows up in test) so if I know that the pain is causing by bacteria, can I still do your work? If so, how can it help an embedded bacteria to go away from my bladder walls? This is horrible condition so difficult to cure. I feel so broken and I want to live my life finally but I am in horrific pain 24/7 😓 I will appreciate so much your answer Dan❤️🙏

[@HoodMan19]

Any update on your upcoming book?

[@goldfinch8792]

I can relate to this. My problem is that I have suffered from health anxiety for a long time, so although I believe my current symptoms, ie tingling feet, are TMS (started after a break up) i still struggle to really believe i am ok.

[@tominnc315]

Had a goldfinch yesterday in our feeder! I too have health anxiety learned in the 1950s-60s from mom. Wow afraid of everything. And…..i too have pins needles burning feet. Been a roller coaster. Better then not , then good mornings but bad evenings Feet and burning are 2 popular TMS symptoms I believe

[@goldfinch8792]

That's interesting...I think I picked that up from my mum as well... I really try to live my life but the fear is always there. The tingling is something I can live with but I worry about it a lot so I guess I'm in a kind of cycle... it's been over a year now. Goldfinches are a joy aren't they!

[@tominnc315]

@@goldfinch8792 i had post covid stuff in spring of 2022. Covid in Jan lol. Got on Dans zoom calls. All gone in 3-4 mo. Cept numb feet. So i worried. Examined. Researched. Magnified. Then wife had aortic valve replacement and my dad died. I had excruciating neck pain. Burning feet. Now streaks burn up my legs. We will overcome Its too bizarre to be real

[@Mindfuljourneywithme111]

Hi Dan, could you do a video for when you haven’t been able to get the all clear due to 2 year waiting lists? do you suggest just to continue to feel safe if you don’t actually have the all clear? Thanks!

[@telepathicpenguin]

You can give yourself the all clear. 🤍There is no shortage of medical tests. The test-fear-pain cycle is truly never ending. I think a good question to think about is this "even if I had all the tests, would I still be fearful?" Would you still want someone else to give you permission to be okay? Would you want the tests repeated? Would you be so convinced that "they missed something" that you ran right back to the doctors? I did all of that, but all along, the permission I needed was my own. You can do it too. I believe in you and I know Dan does too! You can recover fully. Things might really suck right now, but I promise it won't always be this way.

[@Mindfuljourneywithme111]

@@telepathicpenguin thank you!! 🙏

[@bookitwithwendy21]

I am 99 percent sure, I know its tms but I keep projecting on how long will this go on?

[@merildo]

Fear yes. Of pain. No meds. Embarrassment among others. Not coping as I once did. 74 and pain that I once dealt with. Harder to. PAIN a four letter word. 😡

[@NiinaSKlove]

So if it’s TMS, you can’t physically see it? It’s just a feeling? Or can you have something be visible physically (swelling for an example) and be painful, and still have it be TMS? Also what does one make of several doctors (all experts ) having not only different opinions on what approach to take, but also radically seeing your MRI scans completely differently from each other? - One set of doctors telling you one thing about the scans while the other set of doctors saying it’s not that bad at all, while you’re sitting there in chronic pain?

[@elalbafordamon]

I had swelling and bruising - TMS.

[@NiinaSKlove]

@@elalbafordamon Thank you 😊 for sharing, I’m new to this (although I do know that things you struggle with on an emotional level can get stuck in the body) TMS thing, and I am thinking that this might be ‘it’s in terms of getting better, hopefully fully recovered one day.