The Power of Abstinence For Men!

[@ICT_Django]

As a man i’ve been abstinent since Valentine’s Day of 2020 and it’s been the best thing for me. It’s a removed that sexual glaze off of women and I can see them for who they are and if they’re right for me.

[@esthernichols4451]

Good for you my brother. That's powerful. And I salute you as your sister in Christ

[@RealLadi228]

I began that process after a breakup in 2016...Covid was the icing on the cake for me 2020.. Best decision ever 😊 I've been told I know how to hold a man's attention without sex... I'm attracted to intelligence and emotionally mature men.

[@Happinessis_12]

Abstinence also helps with fidelity in marriage. You get practise in self control.

[@Didi-fr5ic]

I agree with this, if a man can not control himself during dating, he will not be faithfull during marriage, this also goes to a man showing interest in another woman while in a relationship.

[@intentionalgreatness]

Exactly. It creates discipline.

[@NathanielNicklas]

🕊️ Brother Gaskins, I appreciate your honestly here. Blessing over your family. As a 35yo man and virgin, I have waited my whole life for my wife. I believe being patient in the waiting in abstinence and saving myself for marriage has been the greatest blessing of my life. I believe as a man having patience in the waiting, having self control, allowing Holy Spirit to break addictions, having a healthy foundation in Christ, being able to provide financially, and holding a healthy respect for a woman of God are some valuable and top tier keys to a healthy future with my wife! I trust the Lord for what’s ahead, His plan is greater than mine! Anyone wanting Gods plan, trust Him, allow Him to make you new by the power of the Holy Spirit & cleanse you from your past pains and be a New Creation in Christ! To move forward in the seasons and callings He has for you, your spouse ordained by the Lord will eventually arrive! Blessings in Christ family of God, Nathaniel

[@godsmissionministry.6224]

Awesome testimony God bless you. Praise God.

[@MeekahLynne]

I pray God sends you your wife right on time. You sir are rare❤

[@ivyworth862]

Praise God, Nathaniel. Praying your desire for a wife be granted and she be what God intended as a wife.

[@SharondaMichell]

Super proud of you!!!

[@amaragrace94]

Amen! May God bless you on the path ahead. Trusting in His will and timing. Biggest thing I did during the waiting was work on self improvement/growth: Growing closer to God in the Word/prayer/fellowship/service, weight loss, learning how to heal/forgive from hurt of the past (addressing childhood as well), reading to improve communication skills, unlearning people pleasing habits, learning to confidently communicate and enforce boundaries, put more effort into looking cute/presentable when I went out. I hadn't been on apps in well over a year and my bf (my first real relationship and only Christ-centered relationship) came seemingly out of nowhere. I was 28 at the time. There's no way I would have met him as old me, before the self work.

[@jacquelinerussaw6967]

When a woman understands her value, she will have no desire to have sex outside of marriage.

[@michelleturman9422]

“When she understands her value” powerful ❤️

[@msteachlove]

I’m a 37 year old woman. I’ve been on a 10 year abstinence journey. A man came and made love to my mind a few years ago and I relapsed. I was so convicted and ashamed. I know God has forgiven me through repentance. I’ve also forgiven myself. But my spiritual discipline and discernment have elevated and my God has gifted me with wisdom. I’ll be single forever before I go there again. Thank you Tony. God bless. 💛💛💛

[@Kingtaron]

What’s crazy is I’m a male tryna preach this to a GIRL I’m talking to. as soon as I started telling her about this type of stuff she started getting distanced I noticed. Stop hitting me up less. lol if anything I thought that would be a green flag for women😂

[@yourfutureisnow6480]

It is. It's very admirable. I'd love to meet a man like this.

[@TheSigmafemale.]

Move on I promise there’s better !!

[@dreadreya]

I love this series because we’re already seeing widespread changes in women. It’s time for men to elevate.

[@tarahbruno3793]

No lies in this! I wish men would take a moment and get educated on this. Dating and marriage would be so much more successful. The worst is when you can tell a man only wants sex from you with no effort.

[@SarahR2D2]

Share, share, share. I'm sharing with everyone

[@RedeemFit777]

It’s a lot of power in not thinking about sex all the time, for me I feel better mentally. Now sometimes a thought might slip through here and there, I’m not going to act like I’m super anointed and holy, I’m keeping it real.

[@alihyawilliams7801]

I’ve been abstinent 13 years and it has been such a protection from Jehovah. I don’t wake up with regret, I don’t worry about STD’s, I have full self respect and self control, I’m not concerned about being heartbroken. Such a relief. I do want to be married and that’s what I’m waiting for.

[@yoliyoli2931]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@breannn]

There are major benefits to being abstinent! It's pleasing to God and it protects men from sleeping and getting the wrong women pregnant, and it protects women from men who just want to play with them! I love being abstinent!

[@nickinicolesmith9372]

Love this. I'm glad to hear this. I have a friend tryna rush me into a marriage..one who has constantly walked away. And came back. Played games. Every other day he asking me how I feel saying how if he meet the woman if his dreams would I be mad. I told him no. He says he needs a wife now..but still paying all of his ex girlfriend bills and taking care of a child that's not his and the other is and she has a man that stays will her. I can't

[@RFonyeaBlackmon]

I sent this to my son's. Great message

[@C.387]

Yes 🎊🎉

[@Deeblossom09]

This is the realest thing I’ve ever heard a man say about intimacy. Men should really listen to this.

[@jerviasjohnson700]

I’ve been there too many times. Pray for me if you will, brother Tony and thank you!

[@mooooobetter]

Thank you, Mr. Gaskins. These videos have helped me tremendously as a developing young man. I’ve been watching since 2020, and that was a rough time for me. I’m now 23, just graduated with my masters. My question for you is how do I capitalize on my leverage at this young age financially, and also how to not have savior complex for relationships, friendships, and family.

[@tomiolasimbo5021]

i’m in a similar situation, about to graduate too and would love a video like this Mr. Gaskins

[@KDStyle1]

Congratulations!! True Self love is Key...

You're lucky to get on this path early enough, it would do you a world of good.

[@Annahbri]

You right on time. Me and my boyfriend just had this conversation today.

[@summertinch]

teach the men TONY!! This is good we women are listening and watching!!!

[@naturallylogan]

As a poet, I can verify that having your mind made love to is the most special and rare thing. This man understands a woman's soul on the deepest level. Celibacy is so powerful and beautiful. Thank you for the reminder that men like this exist and are willing to lean into their own self-discipline. I dream of the day my man will provide this level of safety, respect, and true spiritual connection... that's the man who will have a woman waiting at the door to please him every day that he gets home.

[@HaileysGiftShop]

Brother Gaskins - there you go again with another great message. How many men have no idea about how important it is to love a woman from a mental perspective??? Not many. So I applaud you for bringing up this topic. Now as for the womans sex drive - I by no means think that a womans sex drive could be compared to a mans, just as physical strength is not comparable. I just wanted to share that with you because I don't think I have ever heard of one of the types of women you described. Anyway wise brother, as always I wanted to thank you for everything you do for the community and wish you and your family perpetual blessings!!! Stay strong 🙏🙏🙏💪

[@theglowynista7272]

Tony you gotta put some KZbin ad dollars behind this series. People need to hear this for real!

[@JuanWickdaShooTaH]

Aye you really said something there Tony 💯

[@LDolar]

Glory to God💯❤️

[@SharondaMichell]

I so love this video! A lot of men have no idea what's going on witj women when it comes to sex...or pursuit. Tony I believe if you help them to understand the way they condition themselves for a football game or whatever their sport is, that same type of conditioning is needed when they're trying to learn grow and get married to be intimate with a woman. There is a inner level of conditioning that many men miss and women too. And it's one of the major problems in socieity because there is more praise around hitting it and quitting it, versus being disciplined and and coming together to build something with someone that stands the test of time.

[@JessicaSadeXO]

This is so true. The mind is so powerful

[@jessicathompson2177]

Thanks! Video idea: Your thoughts on Bumble’s anti-celibacy ads, the backlash, and their apology.

[@hapshabyahyisrael9810]

HalleluYAH! Lessons are a blessing Bro. Tony! I apply no lie! Keep teaching, preaching, reaching it is needed. This has become my daily meditation!❤❤

[@LP---]

Speak Toney, Speak....As Usual You're, Talking Straight Facts. It's more to intimacy than just getting to the finish line... I need to be secure in other areas, like being Equally Yoked, having a deep understanding of each other. Knowing that we're in Love and realizing that if something happens where we not able to engage, because of inabilities. This was a Much Needed Deep Conversation... 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@RocSkater09]

How do you communicate to a woman about waiting until marriage? Because for whatever I have found many woman don't necessarily care for it or even want to pursuit that. Sad is too say not even in the churches :/

[@amaragrace94]

I had that conversation with my boyfriend before we even technically went on a date. We were just getting to know each other. I say ask those deal breaker questions early on during phone calls and dates. Christian dating isn't equal to regular dating because we are intentional/marriage-minded. The world says "avoid politics and religion on a first date." Lol there will be no date if we haven't already had a talk about whether you are a Christian or not. The details of how actively they follow the Lord (prayer? read bible? church attendance? volunteer service? participate in fellowship? virgin or not? If not, are you abstaining and for how long?) can be asked about during dates. On politics, that's up to your level of interest. You should be free to talk about beliefs and which issues you are most passionate about. If something recently happened in the news, why should I hold back on discussing that? I want to know their stance on education, Palestine vsIsrael & Russia vsUkraine, inflation, and so on. Then you go home to review what you have learned vs your own set standards & preferences. Either make a decision to keep dating and keep learning about each other, or part ways if you find major incompatibilities. Not abstaining and not willing to? Automatic next for me. No hard feelings.

[@shellytravels]

Maybe you pursuing the wrong women, friend. Food for thought.

[@MyMichellle]

As a woman, I would say communicate it with confidence. If a woman rejects you because of it, be thankful. She may not a true woman of God or truly submitted to God since the Holy Spirit convicts us to flee from sexual immortality.

[@MyMichellle]

Stay strong brother!

[@itsbeeva]

I can only agree with the other sisters in Christ🙏🏽 Be open and upfront. A true woman of God will appreciate it. I have no experience with this yet, but I know it bothers me when I have to wonder if a Christian man is truly about that life. I don’t want to get emotionally invested before I know these things.

[@sunshinecreole1319]

Preach Preach Preach it my Brother! That's what I'm talking about!!!

[@stilldmp87]

This was great Tony! Very honest & transparent 👏

[@m.i.k.a.l.i.a.h1997]

@Tony Gaskins I'm so grateful for you articulating the way sex goes with women versus men. I really think men and women should be re educated on the true dynamics of both sexes so that we can understand each other better and build healthier relationships as a result of this.

[@esthernichols4451]

Preach

[@m.i.k.a.l.i.a.h1997]

@@esthernichols4451 🙏🏾

[@pat4502]

Sadly Tony…I want you to know you are also speaking to me as a (lustful) woman…that I too need some discipline and that is actually where I’m at right now 🙏🏾

[@LS-ph5qt]

Thank you for this message Tony, everything you said was 100% spot on 🎯🎯🎯.

[@hapshabyahyisrael9810]

Bro. Tony that's it! It's power in the words you use to make love to the mind of a woman. Sex in marriage with the making of love to the mind can be everlasting from my experience.❤ This brings things to another level! Bring it out Bro. Tony!

[@soniaunstoppable4862]

Good morning Bro Tony, Thank you, thank you, thank you! This message was long overdue. I feel more men should teach about this because we have young men/women who can benefit from this very important message!

[@MWisdomWisdom]

THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR THIS 🙌🏽.

[@msvanessaceo]

Amen, you better teach!

[@Motivationstation9880]

So true. Thanks for all you teach. Bless you.

[@KimberlyReviews]

Teach, teacher!!!!!!

[@robincain5287]

Good Blessed Afternoon everyone.. Will be passing this message along. Thank you Tony!

[@beefaye18]

Me too 😂

[@hapshabyahyisrael9810]

You better tell'em Bro. Tony. Don't play with a woman's mind! Taking advantage can lead to damage! ❤

[@atonoflove992]

Truth.

[@Discernmenttford]

Tony THIS is one of the BEST videos I’ve ever heard you do. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ViZioN_Beatz]

Thank you for your messages Tony, they’re truly getting my mind right for myself and my woman! 🙌🏽

[@claudettecameron875]

Good day Mr Gaskins this is a great message can I add or maybe you've covered this in another podcast. When dating or meeting up with a man there it's disrespectful that he keeps talking about what he can do in the bedroom and about how much other women want him. This happened to me recently and it was a big turn off. Especially as I already chastised him for assuming I wanted to be groped on our fire meeting. This is someone I met many years ago. He has great book knowledge but lacks spirituality and the fear of God.

[@WhitneyVeroncia]

I love this video. Great one Tony! Keep them coming!

[@JoeTorres-c4l]

Good word!!!! ✊🏾

[@TheSigmafemale.]

👍🏽

[@leylasade236]

Wow so much facts in this video . Wow . I learned so much from this video about my self and men as well . Thanks Tony

[@renonaweathersby7611]

Thank you for this ..this was excellent & well said

[@wandak1889]

Absenteeism keeps the mind clear and stoic

[@ambermedlock9004]

Tony I love this look on you yesss bro

[@JessicaFayToday]

This was excellent. Thank you.

[@shawnaw9750]

Thank you for sharing, Tony.

[@LP---]

BRAVO Tony Gaskins 🙏🏾☝🏾🙏🏾

[@JIJII420]

Tony just be preaching.

[@laurynagyeman-kyeremeh17]

I subscribe to this perspective on sex. Thanks for uploading Tony

[@willLLIt]

I like this series its helpful to women aswell thanks TG!

[@buffemcmurry5577]

Preach sir!!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@venusmendoza2283]

You are speaking facts!! But, unfortunately, some men won't receive this.But please Keep up the good work!👍🏾

[@Reesenamaya1]

The realest.

[@TRAE341]

Be rare💪🏾

[@TheSigmafemale.]

💯

[@Amore5252]

Heavy on the get shot😂

[@sherrynelson365]

You are preaching

[@ambermedlock9004]

Preach Tony!!!!!!

[@queenro3032]

Preach!

[@ChiennaDoll]

Im about to get in on this fasting cause Tony done started aging backwards

[@Sandra.-.]

Love you Tony, don't take this the wrong way but I feel like you be telling your wife's business a lot. I know it's to drive home points but ...and I say this with the utmost respect

[@brownie3401]

I know a brother who married as a virgin. He’s a good husband, great father and faithful to his wife but not a provider 😕 This is an issue in his marriage as the wife is making more than him but he’s genuinely happy for her. The wife wants him to be a provider for the family and not have to carry that role. Does anyone know why this type of man is complacent and okay with the wife complaining of being tired all the time because of work?

[@brownie3401]

Also wanted to add the wife have been supportive to help him grow by connecting him with people who can help him get a better paying job but he turns it down. The man is 40 this year

[@angeliquebrown6100]

Some women just enjoy sex, it shouldn’t be demonized.

[@graceongrac]

Maybe, but your mental and emotional health will be affected in the long run. Do as you please, but understand the consequences of your actions.

[@angeliquebrown6100]

@@graceongrac yea if they’re having sex outside of marriage, but I’m sure there are many married women who enjoy sex. Doesn’t make them abnormal.

[@TwilaB0721]

Agreed!

[@debrajordan6514]

All that is good brother Tony. But not a lot of men are willing to commit before sexing a woman. Their mindsets are on the physical and not on other real aspects of life.

[@amaragrace94]

I've learned to stop worrying about the ones that show me through their actions that they don't like or respect me all that much, don't actively follow the values/standards of Jesus, have poor communication skills when working through issues/disagreements, don't respect boundaries, has any aversions to the love languages I need, or show selfishness. The quicker you cut the wrong ones off, the more space in your heart and mind you have for someone more compatible to come in. People say you are what you attract, but I think it's more accurate to say, you are what you entertain. You have to talk to God and come to a decision. The Lord says to wait until marriage. If you don't meet a man that is willing to wait, will you compromise your obedience for a few minutes of sexual pleasure with a man who doesn't respect God, himself, or you enough to make you his wife first? Or will you wait as long as it takes, even if never happens or it doesn't happen until after your child bearing years have passed. That's the amount of trust and acceptance we have to have in the Lord and His plan for us. Trust that He knows best. Ask those deal breaker questions early and cut em off quick if it ain't right.

[@amaragrace94]

If you pay attention and put effort into learning/knowing your wife's mind/heart/spirit/body, making those daily deposits, I'm telling you it's 10 minutes or less. Always take care of her first. Like Tony said, the orgasm gap is pitiful. Show her you actually care that she enjoys it too. Don't be selfish. Eat portion controlled healthier options and stay active, at least 30 minutes a day of something at least moderate intensity.

[@CaramelKissez]

Happy Wednesday blessed tribe!

[@ames5949]

Delayed gratification 👍🏻

[@angelalynn4225]

Good word

[@eagles-soar]

Yes please again!!!!

[@she--]

This same video but for women, please! -A woman

[@beefaye18]

My professor use to say “ anything pass 15 minutes is brutality “ 😂😂😂

[@j-tenn226]

What close calls have you had Tony?

[@CookWithStephh]

Me and the guy I’m talking to want to wait till marriage. But now he keeps asking me to sleep over. But I know if I do what will happen. I feel like he might get lonely one night and call someone else. But how will I know ? He keeps saying he hates sleeping alone. But that’s not my problem unless you my husband sir. I’m low key seeing if he going to break. Or if this all an act for him to get some . Hmmm

[@jenniferthompson5146]

Tony talks in a couple videos about how a guy will do everything he can to get you to give in, but if you stand firm, and he really likes you, he will stay. Don’t let fear move you! I would be annoyed if someone was trying to tempt me like that. I pray I would just tell them to stop tempting me, or get lost. 👋

[@businessdevelopment4834]

You already know the answer deep down...he is testing your boundaries. If he leaves let him LEAVE, you do not want to be discarded after he beds you and he definitely will LEAVE after he gets it. If he does not respect your boundaries he has to go.

[@CookWithStephh]

@@jenniferthompson5146 that’s how I’m starting to feel ! I like him but it’s starting to get a bit annoying. At this point in my life that doesn’t work on me anymore. I even prayed about ❤️

[@CookWithStephh]

@@businessdevelopment4834 u right deep down I do know. I have a problem with self sabotaging so I wanted to make sure I wasn’t trippin lol

[@jenniferthompson5146]

@@CookWithStephh im saying I would be annoyed because I might succumb to the temptation, God forbid. 🙏🏻. God keep you!

[@Priscilla.O]

Hi Tony. Thanks for the video. I was wondering whether you could clarify something about men. You always say men and women can never be friends because the man will “grow feelings” but I also have heard male “relationship wannabes” talk about how men quickly categorize women and that it’s difficult for men to consider a woman as a romantic interest that he has already categorized as a friend from the get go… I’m wondering how this works. If yo can’t force a man to love you, and he knows what he wants or what he doesn’t want within 6 to 12 months, how can he always “grow” feelings for a lady friend? Grace and Peace.

[@zockerteac1587]

I have a question. Is it an absolute rule, that introverts and extroverts come together? I try to figure out a pattern/system, which i can go by to pair my self. I feel like, that in a marriage, there has to be all characteristics of god in it. Greeting from germany.

[@dii-N-sd]

No, there is no absolute rule that introverts & extroverts come together. In some case, they pair well together in relationships. However, it's def not a rule.

[@BigdawgRoof]

Put it this way, get you some business. No man should be thinking about sex every 15 minutes! Avoid sex, avoid sexualizing women/your women. Focus on womens minds, them as hunan beings, and your business/goals. No man should "need" to have sex. Cause when we need things, it makes us vulnerable to them. Develop and excerise the strength to "need" to have sex. Just getting some goals and focusing on them will it more practical to avoid being preoccupied by sex. On the flip side, your woman/women will pursue you for sex.

[@Lookabove1]

Get a new job in the Lord 😄

[@elicore.biz81]

This is true in regards to how women are stimulated. It literally does start in the brain with the luetinizing stimulated hormone and the follicle stimulating hormone along with the chemical messenger in the body.