THE POWER OF SILENCE: HOW TO LIVE A PRIVATE LIFE *Be Low Key & Mysterious*| LUCY BENSON

[@MyLucyBenson]

Hey My loves❤ I am aware there is a Telegram scam going on using my name and pictures, IT IS NOT ME!! ITS A SCAM please be careful and stay safe❤ Thank you ❤️

[@kehindejames2275]

What people don't know they cannot ruin.... The Power of Silence and Privacy!!!

[@thisismaer]

Wow, this is so true. Thank you for sharing this, I'll treasure these words ❤

[@bmatondo9992]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@donnam.5578]

I wish that was the case for me.There are a lot of things I don't share with anyone and its hurtful that you have someone that you have never said or done anything to try to ruin your life with malicious gossip from others. I wish people on the receiving end of this sabotage start to question the people who is giving this information energy.

[@MsMookieWorld]

People are so accustomed to having access to everything sooooo when you exercise Secrecy and Privacy, they create the remaining details! Secrecy is regarding Timing...A suprise party is kept a Secret until its time!! Privacy is about Privilege....Only certain people need to know!!!

[@o.s.a.s.u]

Well said!!! 🙌🏽

[@warriorrose1982]

Beautiful written ❤well said

[@belemapatricia3490]

How does creating the remaining details affect a private person who refuses access to privacy?

[@woodlyndiane9]

Well said 👍🏾

[@AnointedInfluencer]

You hit the nail on the head

[@txspacemom765]

I divorced, finished a Masters Degree, moved to another state, and found a dream job. No one had any clue until I posted, almost 2 years later. Move in silence and reap the awards.

[@joannefaith8131]

A remember a woman at work kept her personal life private, at the time I thought she was stuck up as when the team were all on their Lunch break & over sharing she was sitting quietly reading a paper or looking at her phone and you never hear her talking about anything personal with anyone just surface level conversations but looking back I wish I was more like her at the time but now I am relearning new habit of the power of keeping quiet and stop over sharing thank you for this ❤

[@bmatondo9992]

Thank you for this, I'm also looking back and regretting all those things I said about other people and my personal life...change is inevitable I'm on the path of self awareness and taking responsibility for my actions

[@jiejoudom5521]

“People’s energy can spoil things for you”. That’s so true. They don’t have to be diabolic their “bad belle” alone can spoil your plans.

[@BriW444]

Yes

[@metamorphosis9671]

Jealousy is diabolical... Songs of Solomon 8:6 'Jealousy is as cruel as the grave' May their bad belle eat them from the inside out!

[@everlastingideas8625]

What does “bad belle” mean?

[@jiejoudom5521]

@@everlastingideas8625 it simple means when you‘re against someone’s progress

[@everlastingideas8625]

@@jiejoudom5521 Ah ok, thank you for taking the time to explain.

[@novaastv]

Silence is power. Everybody doesn’t have to know every single thing that’s going on in your life even if it is good, everybody isn’t happy for you 💯

[@BodaciousWickerman]

Most people are just nosy unfortunately.

[@fideliamarcel]

There's nothing as juicy as making people crave to know more about you cos you dont give out too much😊plus it saves you from unnecessary drama.

[@preciousmatlapeng9497]

I think people just don't care about you like that. Unless you're a celebrity or something

[@ufuomaelizabeth9016]

@@preciousmatlapeng9497 not necessarily, quietness accodes respect

[@vturner]

“save the best parts of your life to yourself”

[@globallady8874]

Can we talk about how people hate you for being mysterious and for minding your own business?

[@jenniferiyoha3966]

exactly, i'm going through this that sometimes i begin to think that i'm a problem

[@RachelNicole]

Got this my whole life 😂

[@SJ_Vibezz]

They don’t love you anymore when your more open, they love having a gossip over you

[@robinb.4699]

So true!!

[@natashalampkin366]

That’s bc they are miserable and unhappy and noisey

[@CuratedVibes]

I grew up in a family that gossiped heavy 😂🥴 so I knew to keep my business to myself from a young age. I never tell my coworkers anything. I only trust to my mom, sister and best friend. They know all my important details. I love a private life and don't post a lot on social media.

[@Myndie2x]

This video was something that I must rewind and listen to again . We can get so comfortable with strangers so fast that we just share everything . Now I’m about to stop allowing my life to be an open book .

[@CookingWithVoluntas]

True!

[@Purple-lavenderstudio]

I'm also guilty of this I end up giving out alot about myself to the wrong people

[@angelapedro9676]

I used to be like that😏😏.

[@osujionyebuchi3084]

Not just only u o,I do that alot,but listening to this,I'm going to be O.Y.O

[@Vicky_Ade]

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[@don5861]

I definitely agree with this. When new people meet me at work they always think I don’t like them because I’m not as “friendly “ as everyone else. I don’t talk to them much or seem to care about them. In reality I don’t ask questions because I don’t want to answer those questions myself. And the part about learning to do things alone. I’ll say be careful. I went into isolation for a long time and it wasn’t because of Covid, and I was just enjoying being alone then boom I no longer could stand doing things with people and I had to re learn how to get along with people when they do certain things. It’s good to enjoy your company but don’t lose touch with other human beings.

[@rebeckakisoka5846]

Exactly 👏🏾

[@bogosbinted5734]

I'm having this problem now, I had a mental breakdown around 2019 that made me really retract from all of my connections, and things got worse and now I'm better but have no friends. And while I was able to come out knowing more about myself and my needs, I don't have anyone to talk to or connect or share with. But I also have a hard time finding new people to do that with because it turns out I can't stand most people. I feel like I lost my ability to be around others peacefully now that I can be with myself peacefully.

[@TheRxGeek]

I like the point of not asking questions you don’t want to answer yourself. Great advice, thank you!

[@BodaciousWickerman]

I've always thought this but unfortunately others do not think the same.

[@phyllisplays3811]

I am very introverted person,who values her space and respect people for who they are.i have been private and getting along with people well,I made them respect the person I am and I do the same.i really enjoy and I live a drama free life.

[@yihannajohnson3711]

Same

[@OLatreil]

I agree with this. My social media is so dry because I don't post. A long time ago I realized that I was missing out on fun when I was so worried about taking pictures and capturing moments.

[@TheSonita]

My favorite point is learn to not ask questions that u don't want to answer, and I'm also going to add that we should learn to not ask questions we don't want to know the answers to, to avoid feeling like we need to explain ourselves or clear our names

[@briasa4357]

I needed this! I used to have a tendency to overshare.. i want to learn to protect my thoughts and my energy.. they’re sacred!❤️

[@ongezwamafunda1376]

I am learning the power of silence and having things that only I know because I have been an oversharer.

[@SindyAkpolo]

Not everything should be in the media……enjoy your life without always posting it online. Right points everything shared here is it. I’m so big on not asking too much questions too. Thanks for sharing Lucy ❤

[@swissapynk1300]

I’m bout to stop posting my activities online and just share meme’s and videos.

[@607lovegirl]

Learn how to enjoy your own company….love it.

[@cloverkarume5708]

As a recovering oversharer* I feel this deeply. Happy I found you.

[@magdalene6844]

This is pure maturity. I love you and I’m always learning new advice from you. You are emotionally intelligent as well . Love from Ghana 😘😘🥰

[@mccnbinnie9840]

I am so deep in being familiar and foreign at the same time. Becoming the better version of myself is all about me. I firmly believe that if you do what makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense for anyone else. And silence is keep to developing oneself

[@emeraldakosua7783]

Your page has being a life changer for me when i come across it over a year now.keep up miss Lucy 💯...you doing great with your contents .

[@MyLucyBenson]

Thank you so much

[@Yafeelme510]

I enjoy inviting people in my life, I don’t like people inviting themselves to my life. Privacy is very important and keeps you away from problems

[@tolanimary]

I feel so happy because this is me in everyway and I do all the things you mentioned unconsciously. I just began to notice recently that this is really how I am. I love my life being private and I love my sanity

[@MsChocolatte15]

A year ago, I had a life changing experience and traveled to Nigeria to visit family and never posted 😊

[@wshelby83]

My privacy got stripped away from me this year on Instagram by family member. Plus I got targeted by co workers at my old workplace because they knew my business thanks to my manager and eventually the whole public knew my business. I’m not going to lie it hurts and I can’t believe that it happened to me. Sometimes I cry. I knew when it got on social media, people were laughing at me. My family also made up some things about me because they didn’t want to see me do well. It’s hard going out and people knows all your business. It’s extremely hard to deal with at times and I prefer to stay home. I wish I could have my privacy back again but I know I won’t get that back again. I know that people also feel uncomfortable around me so I just prefer to stay home and feel more comfortable. I wish I could get my privacy back

[@tudojajula6059]

Eish so sad 😞 sorry for such an ordeal may God heal you @Britanie Williams

[@IAmTerra-Mazibuko]

babe my mother always said. hide your scares and wipe your tears because no one is perfect. you aren't alone I think someone should start a KZbin just to encourage any young beautiful woman going through though times or feeling longlines in their live to have a some group chat Skype or something just to realize n see how unalone they are in this world we live in. all I can say is keep on watching Lucy's videos take your time away from people and if needs be be strong for your own self(😂I'm also motivating myself hey) put u first . I even ended up hating people thinking the worst due to my privacy being riped away eventually I couldn't even talk to people outside who tried to be friendly with me I tried by all means to lie but it made everything worse cos now I ended up looking like a lier every one knew everything about me. at some point I went crazy I had to hide myself for months i removed any trace of me anywhere on social media. stayed home but eventually everytime I went outside nothing changed until I realized things I cannot control I should leave to God n move on as if nothing is being said pray more meditate more trust in yourself n let god change your spirit

[@nikkimm6045]

People think I’m broke because I don’t post everything 😂 in all this I and my partner just bought a house 🙏 but I’m happy regardless

[@aeiou0123]

Lololol most flashy ppl r d broke ones. I laugh at people who wear flashy brand names. They r like walking billboards except they pay to be billboards instead of designers paying them for the ad. All that money could hv been a million dollars by now if some of them cared to invest over just 5yrs. Yes, the stock market and crypto have been really good. Perhaps some folks prefer to live in expensive clothes so may be thats their therapy

[@Theresa_A4]

Lmaoooooooooooo “ you probably went to Israel to Egypt, rolled in soil , dog spat in your food” I laughed so loud. But so very true!! “ don’t ask questions you yourself don’t want to answer “!!! This is fact! I definitely implement this bc it’s true.

[@shika3890]

I subscribed immediately For once someone who goes straight to the point with good advice

[@meritochogwu5858]

Same here....😆

[@victoryokocha3442]

Same here

[@user-vo1yp9gp4r]

Hi Lucy, I hope you’re well. I completely agree with you about the power of privacy for your own peace of mind in professional and personal settings. However, throughout the video it feels that your tips are based on general assumptions that people are mal-intentioned and simply want to dig around for information on you. Even in the comments, you’re agreeing with and liking people’s similar sentiments. When you are short and not friendly with people or willing to share anything, you raise even more red flags and end up contradicting your goal for privacy. The trick is to share very inconsequential pieces of your life in a very friendly and vivacious manner - things that make you seem like an open book without actually sharing any information of consequence. When you visibly are short or clam up with people on the assumption that they simply want information on you it seems that you’re projecting your tendencies and intentions on others. If you truly want to lead a mysterious life, convince those around you there’s nothing to be mysterious about. Anyways, just wanted to share a differing viewpoint because it seems like an echo chamber of agreement in here. All love and respect for you❤️

[@4realpraise]

I am glad someone said it, just because I agree with a post does not mean I am dealing with the issue/post!🤣🤣🤣Your privacy is your privacy!

[@Itsme-zh3by]

What are things you should not share to acquaintances or not that close friends?

[@bookwormchats]

I love this series and this is actually how I found out about you. 🙂

[@Pavan-rz9uo]

We must do what makes our soul happy. May God bless you always 🙏🏽💗

[@born2reign90]

People are confused when you don't share things with them. They honestly will think you don't have a life...😂😂😂😂😂

[@jiejoudom5521]

I really need to answer questions without giving out too much. Especially when I have to answer the question

[@djamilakone1991]

Thank you very much Lucy for this clarification. I always thought that u needed to restrict the amount of posts or story you publish in order to look « private or low key ». You’re doing so much for me you can’t even imagine. I love you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@vnosike]

Great video because I am so private ❤️🙏🏾 and this helps me to even be better in concealing my privacy❤️ and my life. I don’t want to prove anything ❤️🙏🏾 just be happy and unapologetic, which the unapologetic part becomes hard at times. Thank you

[@oritokeh]

Funny thing is...some of these people ask you these questions like they car but they just wanna know...

[@ItsMisan]

My girl has done it again 😍😍 let me get my popcorn and notes ready

[@MomJeansReads]

We live in an area where people constantly ask where you live. They want to know specifics too, subdivision, cross streets…. It’s odd! I think it’s a way of sizing you up.

[@pilatedndlovu8980]

Thanks for this video. It's just that for me,to frequently post things on all these platforms and be able to not reveal much about self kind of compromises authenticity. For me a private life would(among other things) have people wondering whether l'm still around or not, only to appear for a little bit after a good while. I enjoyed watching this.Thanks again.

[@somto1289]

Lucy can you turn this power of silence series to a playlist? Would like to go through all, but it's stressful looking for them

[@vturner]

this is sooo true, Ive had THE best of time at events I forgot to snap or record

[@happinessalerah1809]

"I'm avoiding all that serere" 😂😂😂😂😂....... I'm so big on not asking questions I wouldn't want to answer.......thanks for this one Lucy ❤️.

[@ikhineisimemejoy2819]

I am really guilty of this but I really learnt a lot. Thanks for sharing

[@EvieAswiti]

Love that you got the misconceptions out the way. A lot of myths out there.

[@tina8796]

A private life = peace. Not private = chaos, harassment. Sadly, people will use your personal life as their gossip material. I am very careful what I tell people. Jealousy is very real and some will try to sabotage your goals. Discernment is important. Boundaries are important.

[@TheCelaccytv]

Learning a lot from you❤

[@absatujalloh4931]

The way I rushed to click 😂😂 Big sis is giving 🔥🔥 advice

[@FARAFINA221972]

Agree with you on several points, we don't have to talk about what we do as we used to do before....achieve mind-blowing things and not say a word😊😉 But question: when we answer yeah I had an amazing weekend, you know how some of our people aka black people can be nosy sometimes (it s said with love 💕) what do you answer, when they insist and say 'Oh yeah, amazing what did you do so amazing?'), what do we reply? However I recognize that when you share too much positivity about your own life, usually the deep questions stop by miracle... it like people are only interested in what is not going well for others...

[@ronahasaba]

I’m glad I watched this I was over sharing about my life . Privacy is power

[@constanzab.centurioncolman1532]

I love this haircut. It suits you trully well.

[@Ta50789]

I Agree we especially BW need to be mindful of what we share on line especially picture and be careful of putting your children picture up as well. I feel like all this AI technology we need to be more discreet on what we post. Keep Family business and Ladies don't be sharing everything about your marriage and even your girlfriend dates. Thank you for sharing. Peace and Blessings to you

[@faalboury]

the problem is if you almost start talking about your life how can you stop it

[@sunnyaaliyah9547]

MORE DATING SERIES PLEASE

[@antonette_]

I love your content lucy♡♡you are so inspiring.

[@moeshaj.6637]

I loved this video as I’ve been doing this! My life right now and my experiences are in my gallery I took a break from socials best decision ever!

[@shimeibakala2820]

The way people ask personal questions 😮

[@jennycuteamara9518]

I really love the content you put out. It's something I really need

[@Kari_Michele]

Also, if you do feel the need to post about it, esp to look back over years later, you can change the post setting to yourself only so that no one else can see it 😊🙏🏾

[@anyangwenkiru9972]

Wow!!!!! Thanks so much for this video. I'm learning alot from this.

[@I_amodurowaa]

I love the way you just say the truth and hit it where it's supposed to be😌 Love you Ma. Good job☑️

[@esperanceakin]

I'm really loving these Power of Silence series. 😅 Thanks for this video ♥️

[@JustFatimaa]

So on point! You show people a glimpse of your life and they think they know you or not not being private 😂😂😂

[@onemanwolfpack3386]

I do not live my life for people I do not even know or do not even care about. Fame has a dark agenda and I don’t want anything to do with it. Stay private and keep it that way.

[@rihanaabdu4645]

Great topic! I think that a lot of people struggle with this especially if you have parents that lack boundaries and overshare a lot of things. I would love for you to give more examples on how to respond to people. usually, people ask more than one question after you give them a response and this is especially true for family. So how do you know what to say and how to respond? You also briefly mentioned not to avoid answering their questions, but I find that easier because they usually ask several follow-up questions. So how would you go about this?

[@malviaharrismcpherson5194]

Powerful Powerful words✌I love this learn to enjoy your own company 💯%👍👍👍

[@Sage-fr1ku]

I’ve has people ask me the dating/ relationship question and as of January of 2022, I tell them “I’m unavailable.” Or “I’m not looking”. “I’ve removed myself from that scene and am not looking for anything”. People seem to think it’s okay to ask that to every person, and some people may like it. I, on the other hand, do not. I’ve learned to adapt. Sometimes I have people asking for my number (I’m at work 7/10 times they ask). When I’m at work i tell them “I’m on the clock and by policies I am unable to do give my number”. When I’m off the clock. “Oh. I’m having issues with my phone and i can lose contacts even if they’re saved” or some other excuse. They write their number down and give it to me. When i get home I hide it and never really give any time of day to it, because I’m not interested. I’ll even tell them I’m not and they still persist. (Which it’s easy to shut them down sometimes when you’ve got friends that are in a relationship and ‘take you in’ when you have a situation where the other person won’t shut tf up [which i will ALWAYS respect and appreciate them and their privacy for]). Learning this way of life helps so much. Inner peace, not caring of what others think, genuinely giving yourself peace of mind and a mindset of “me first. My privacy first”, helps in such and unspeakable manner you just have to experience.

[@rebeccahoward2047]

You hve a sweet spirit vibe Lucy...am myterious person as well n always learning from...God bless u hun.greetings from GHANA 🇬🇭

[@mikaboo43]

trying to remove myself from a narc friend, nice vid!

[@ZiraHub]

Girl you make me want to live a better life Love you and your videos so much❤️ Thank you so much for this video ❤❤

[@FARAFINA221972]

You have greatly tackled this.sensitive subject ! Thanks for the great tips!

[@daliahhiefra3562]

I always enjoy your videos. Really inspired to start my own self improvement channel ❤️❤️❤️

[@Itsacamlife]

That’s why I shared a whole bunch of reels videos 😂😂😂😂 side note: you’re so pretty ❤❤❤❤ and you got a new subscriber today

[@galileoenichills9525]

the gap teeth >> beautiful !

[@karensunjo]

Thanks so much 🥰🙏🏾 as a youtuber it’s difficult to separate what to put in a Vlog and what not to so that you are not over sharing , pls what advice can you give as regards that

[@anitacarandang8440]

Usually those that post everything, but only happy times or good things want to impress others because some have insecurities.

[@harmony3279]

Thank you I needed to hear this I love you!!

[@MyTonia]

This is so beautiful..exactly the way I behave

[@beautyonyekachi-b2o]

Your videos are so educating ❤❤

[@elinawitbooi3150]

I really love your hair and shirt so beautiful 😍

[@carineakebeawah5330]

THANKS LOVE YOU DARLING

[@JennA1]

But what if the person is pushy and ask more questions even after answering and changing the subject?

[@sanurabucknor9395]

That means they just don’t respect you or your boundaries💯

[@badgyaltt3737]

Flip the situation. Share a little then start asking back to back questions about them. People love to talk about themselves. As soon as they share a tidbit, use the topic to delve into who they are as a person. They’ll love you for wanting to get to know them and you avoid sharing your own tea. Win-win. This strategy works for networking too

[@hellenchepy772]

Or lie, if you went on vacation, say you met a friend.

[@essievlogs6604]

😥 love this thank you 😊🙏❤💖

[@gloriaamashegh1004]

Always insightful ❤

[@jamiewilliams8107]

I don't even tell my closest friends everything in my life,best to be private as some people can mess you up with any information you share.

[@happyaks2011]

When you said about that mental health and paused and the eye roll awaaaawwwww 😂 so cute ❤

[@esthermutua1287]

I love this ✅🤩❣️ thanks alot for updating this 💗💗💗💗💗❤️

[@happym3585]

Thank you for sharing ✨

[@ebaidora-vs6rq]

Learn to be alone with God. He is The Giver of all

[@natashalampkin366]

I love ur energy just subbed

[@tetelaurence8669]

I m new on this page but you have satisfied me .

[@kaddyconteh3811]

Love this🥰 thanks for sharing 🥰

[@pharmclare]

Lucy you have made great sense in this video. Bad energy can ruin your great life experience. Thanks for sharing 👍 BTW: I had to subscribe 😊

[@CookingWithVoluntas]

Everything you said! 🤌🏿

[@vnosike]

My sister Lucy ❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾 how are you doing 🥂 thanks for all the support you give everyone