The pressures of a 'new year, new you' & books to read in 2024

[@Miss_Annlaug]

Im 41 and finally using my own brain. The only pressure is the pressure i put on myself. ❤ I chill in januar. I ease into the new year, setting up everything, especially my soul, for the challenges ahead❤❤❤❤. Peace and love to all you younger ladies out there struggling. Set boundaries. Say no. And know; you ALWAYS have a choice: to stay, to leave, to decide what you are going to accept in your life. I wish I knew that sooner in life. I felt so obligated to please others and lost myself many times❤love to you younger people: its a tough era of life. Protect yourself as if you were a vulnerable child. Because inside, that child is still alive and needs your care. ❤❤

[@janaesvagera1668]

same age... totally agree! love your comment

[@siurene81]

Around the same age and totally resonate too. I’m still learning in progress

[@pjesarek]

kalyn, im just a random girl from poland, but i need to say it, i watch your videos for about 6 years now, and just wanted you to know, that what you do is very important and needed. Your words, values and thoughts make me a better person i gained sooo much wisdom thanks to you. I know it sounds cheesy but its the truth. Thank you ❤️

[@ashleyschreiner557]

I love the longer more flushed out podcast episodes 😊

[@kristinadantonio9402]

I can totally understand the feeling you're referring to regarding reorganizing all your Pinterest folders because I've fallen victim to that urge myself! As silly as it sounds. For 2024 I have a lot of personal and professional goals and habits I want to incorporate into my life. What I'm doing differently this year to deal with my perfectionism (and not abandon it all in a couple of weeks) is being aware that I can't do it all at the same time. I'm gifting myself the opportunity to incorporate habits and work on my goals little by little, without putting pressure on myself, knowing that everything I do, no matter how small, will be beneficial. So I could say that my vibe for this new year is being patient an kind with myself. I liked your reflection about what you would like to teach a hypothetical daughter. I've had those thoughts too, and definitely teaching her that she doesn't have to want to erase aspects of herself but to improve what she already is (because she is already valuable and special!), is an excellent way to teach her to value herself. How much I would have wanted to receive that lesson in the form of loving words, and not in the form of life's blows! Thanks for sharing your reading list, I certainly added a few titles to mine!

[@samanthavolk4577]

I'm looving the vibe you've been giving off lately. I can feel the joy coming from you more since you've allowed yourself to just BE in your videos. Also, we, as the following, witness your videos because we absolutely care about you and the things you share! I personally loved the color topic, i think about these things all the time and assume nobody else does 😂 (now im gonna finish watching the video 😘🖤)

[@samanthavolk4577]

Also, im wanting to reorganize and delete things on Pinterest soooo often.. but you're right. It's just a pointless waste of my time! And for what? Lol

[@misformicky]

Before The Coffee Gets Cold was such an amazing read! I've read all the books and each one is so special

[@aivilom1]

Hello! I only discovered you a few months ago and I’m really enjoying your coffee talk! I’m currently drinking an almond matcha latte with a scoop of collagen to get that extra protein in. My colors this year seem to be very much on the blue tones…sky blue is calling out to me a lot! Also, at the moment I’m currently reading “ fast like a girl “ by Dr Mindy Pelz. It’s so fascinating how much priceless knowledge is in this book, especially for a woman! I also quit my job 6 months ago and I’m just feeling in what it is I want to do next…it’s challenging not earning a pay but am really wanting to change this around this time, not be in a career that is draining and not who I truly am becoming. Who am I , I ask myself? I am changing constantly and loving other aspects of me and seeing what it is I can truly bring in this world! Thank you woman, women definitely need to support one another and lift each other up! ❤😊

[@aivilom1]

Also, I’m learning to flow with my cycle too!

[@user-zm3wz5zj8g]

"Nobody cares"... I care darnit 😂. Thought spirals are an iconic and necessary part of this channel 😤

[@cozylifewithjc]

Loving the longer videos❤

[@ProZarobitok]

It’s amazing how 50 minutes with you fly by ❤️ awesome book list. I have added some of your picks to my own list. I always check the library app to see if they got the book. Saves money and trees 🌳.

[@JessieRainbowEyes]

At 5:26 I was like ‘no!! I care!! Please make a coffee talk about colours!!’ 😂🤍

[@RiannaNicole]

30:24 this nugget hits home hard. It’s been just over 2 years since I lost my mom suddenly and nearly 3 months since loosing my heart dog, so grief is fresh in my mind, and some moments and days are just heavy, but I’ve been making an intentional effort to do things and bring things into my life that would be something both of them would be happy for me about, and cheer me on. Sounds dorky, but I imagine that they can see me and are my angels that want me to do all of the things with their honor/them in mind and what they’d say “if it’s a screaming yes, do it!” Now I’ll finish watching with some tears haha

[@RiannaNicole]

43:13 although my mom and I were close before her passing, and I was able to gain some insights on womanhood and being a younger adult female, now that she’s passed, I totally grasp how you feel, with not having access to momma wisdom and having that insight from someone who quite literally birthed you and (should, I know not all) knows you intimately and saw you grow up into who you are today. All the feels and thoughts are somehow coming to me during this episode. So thanks for the longer content!

[@katie227]

I love your videos! I just started working retail and I’ve cried about two times now and barely worked there for 4 days. I am determined to not let them get to me but men people can be so mean but I told myself to brush it off no matter how hard it is to brush it off and not let them get to me. And to gain confidence in myself that I can do it, it may take me a while to learn and get the hang of it but I am determined to do it ❤️ I hope you make more videos like this

[@simsim8047]

I worked retail as well. I completely feel you ❤ but you got this!

[@rachelm.8959]

I worked retail for 5 years from the time I was in high school till my first year of college. There will be amazing and memorable people. But know when to walk away. Retail can be incredibly draining in so many ways and you’re allowed to lose your cool when you’re by yourself or away from customers. Sometimes it’s better to release your emotions rather than holding it in. Remember your value is above money and the service you can provide. All the best wishes ❤

[@dennettmolly]

My word for this year is Consistency and not being so hard on myself ❤

[@kathrynlouise8399]

📖 MAMA RISING 💫 oh my gosh! All the beautiful mamas out there please, PLEASE grab this book and read it now. I’ve just finished and it’s truly a wonderful book. An awakening. Love to all the wonderful mamas out there. ❤

[@user-ju5ft7qf6u]

I love the long episodes! 💗

[@kaylaoconnell4276]

loving the longer listens ☕️

[@comfyera]

Kalyn, I loved this talk SO much! Burnout and Year Of Less are also on my list for 2024 - small world! :) If you are looking for one more book about balancing work and motherhood, I liked "I Know How She Does It" by Laura Vanderkam. I wish you all the bestest in this phase of your life, and am so excited you'll keep creating! ❤

[@HKAMILAH]

I personally like the longer videos with up to 2 topics being spoken about. I feel like I have a lot of good mental and emotional downloads when I watch your content, thank you! I want to be better in every sense in this New Year, I'm hitting some milestones and trying to vastly improve many aspects of my life.

[@Erika-pq7ip]

This is why I like december more than january. I always feel like I can take it slower, people don't expect much cause everyone is in holiday mood. Whereas as soon as January hits ,everyone is hustling grinding and I feel like I'm not doing enough etc. I'm just a girl I want a slow life yall 😂❤

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

I hear you!! My motivation is on “do not disturb” until spring.

[@wearesatellites91]

Mm true, but people in December also tend to be extremely indulgent, consumerist, and in excess. That’s not sustainable for more than a few weeks either. Everything has its season, but no season lasts all year. Ebb and flow as needed, but there’s gotta be a balance between rest and action.

[@claraclarke8642]

Love this message! I really needed to hear this. Thank you! 💖

[@jfeebz11]

Your hair!!! It is so long and beautiful oh my gawd! Im obsessed 😭😍🔥

[@jfeebz11]

Why am i just now noticing this though!? Thats wild lol

[@angeliabenjamin1719]

Love these longer indepth podcast episodes ❤ definitely adding these books to the reading list, thanks Kalyn!

[@Zizichan96]

I really relate to procrastinating something because the "perfect" version of it is so much pressure! The way you phrased that really made it click for me. I'm having a bit of that struggle with my creative writing at the moment. I LOVE the longer episodes! 💞

[@kathrynlouise8399]

❤ I’m about halfway through “Mama Rising”. Wow. I want to hug us all and cry for all of us. We rock. We really do. Matrescence, like adolescence”. A change (a real, visceral change that happens) to women after having babies. If you’ve read it, you know. Love to you all. And me too. xx ❤

[@whimziereads6190]

I've been really drawn to browns and dark greens lately. Even though I'm usually a pastel person. I think I'm being drawn to spend more time with the earth and really ground myself this year. ❤

[@AmyLStLouis]

Hi! I just found your channel today and instantly feel in love! Your channel is such a warm and cozy place- just what I was looking for! I joined your membership as a Flow Class member. I'm so excited about your book club! Sending you lots of love and positive vibes!

[@jennyd623]

I've finally managed to let go of this concept that the new year in January is the time for change and instead am flowing more with the seasons. The dead of winter never felt right to start all this change and action. So I will be happily hibernating and resting until I can sew my seeds in spring! (And definitely picking up that wintering book in the meantime!)

[@hocusthepocus]

I loved this coffe talk! Thank you for doing this and much love and magic to you! ✨

[@rachelotzelberger1606]

Love this!!!

[@ver0nike247]

I've been waiting for some reading inspiration! Thank you Kalyn!❤️

[@theearthbounder4869]

Yes! I LOVE long episodes

[@momo.1611]

My colour has been lavender, too! But paired with a blue-ish forest green

[@Ashlavish]

I know this is a few months behind but I like that you asked about what colors we are drawn to right now cuz I always find myself gravitating towards a certain color for a while then it changes. Like right now it’s teal/turquoise

[@marthaolkhova9581]

I was in an active search of a good book to read. I've picked one from your list. Thank you!❤

[@millieortizactor]

I'm also feeling very drawn to lavendars and almost mauve pinks and purples right now. (I literally happened to have put on a lavender hoodie right before turning this on, while i was cooking lol.) But especially feeling the new year pressure of perfectionism- also been procrastinating and overthinking even STARTING my vision board this year. But feeling inspired today to take some baby steps and give myself some more grace there. But overall, loved the long chat and book recs. 💜

[@blue_boulevard4429]

This season I feel very drawn to dark green, and I think to an extent it is linked to me moving in a new appartment and wanting to feel grounded, settled, calm and profoud.

[@mickh6684]

Just a thought that I would appreciate and maybe others. I really enjoyed being closer to you in the frame. Ik it may not be as possible with the new set up, but I feel like you’re a little far away. Not a big deal but just a thought 🥰

[@elisescott7012]

Right now I am reading Catcher by our lovely coffee talk host Kalyn Nicholson. Kaylyn if your reading this what a beautiful book you had written it is amazing

[@carladevilliers2336]

Love your new setup!!

[@salenathomas5105]

Another beautiful coffee talk

[@kelirichey-me3pf]

Relating hard to your leaning into the divine feminine aspect. Personally I’m leaning very much into finding my version on the “priestess path”

[@jamierunnels8102]

Omg when you talked about the pinterest boards it hit home! 🤣 I go through my boards every year, rearranging and deleting things that don't interest me anymore

[@user-dh2jp8pc5r]

It's crazy that you feel like you're behind on things because I would feel so accomplished if I got done 1/2 of what you do

[@staceyhookins3433]

You should definitely look into the concept of matresence! It's so interesting! Basically adolescence but for mother's, how our hormones change drastically and we just aren't prepared for it. There is a book called matresence which I still need to read

[@theearthbounder4869]

Opposites- drawn to pink and navy

[@keeshamelissa9292]

the year of less is good, I read it a few years ago and its a nice read!

[@mauriceonfilm]

Nice to see you again 💛✨

[@ItDoBeJena]

I have never worn purple, but I just bought a full purple lounge set. I saw it at marshalls and my brain just told me "you need that". Which wouldn't be odd, but I only ever wear black and maybe some green.

[@nat_s.92]

I need to finish Shakespeare Was a Woman and Other Heresies Book by Elizabeth Winkler. But I just got A Perfect Vintage by Chelsea Fagan in the mail

[@KyshiaMarie]

This year I want to be the adult I need to be to support my childlike mind, so I feel free to be imperfect because I know I have always been able to either avoid or grow from disaster

[@esleni]

I highly recommend Cloud Cuckoo Land by Anthony Doerr. Sending love from Slovakia 💌

[@chrisoulalakkas7935]

Be forgiving. Be understanding. But do not be a fool.

[@nat_s.92]

Drinking half-cafe, black ☕🖤

[@Westchestercircusarts]

Have you ever thought of having podcasts with Larissa?

[@lilyparker6143]

I want to join and be a part of the book club, but I can’t find where to click 😖 can someone send me a link?

[@sukkatdavid3365]

you're too far awayyyyy

[@KalynsCoffeeTalk]

Ok I’ll move closer 😂

[@gracedmrs]

I absolutely loved before the coffee gets cold!! I can’t wait to read the other 3 or 4 books in the series! 🩷

[@IngridRichter-uv1dw]

I need Grimoire Girls. Also, you are the love child of Taylor Swift and Lorelei Gilmore 🤍