The Problem With Chasing Your Dreams

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[@GabeBult]

What dream are you chasing ?

[@kristen2646]

I would love to co-write a song with one if my favorite country artists

[@loveconnection1118]

Having a baby 2023 But I'm so scared. I'm 40... and due to fertility issues I need IVF (4th). Oversharing but... you asked lol 😆

[@enoughness9335]

Sleep, no difficult questions in the morning please.

[@Tamara-gl5vk]

I guess my dream is to not have to work to much after I get my ba in communication. I do not want the things that everyone else wants. I want to feel calm and safe, I do not want to chase things/life I just want to live it.

[@cattiveria]

Becoming debt free and live a more minimalistic lifestyle. Which brings me here, often. At first I was iffy about this video but you finished it so powerfully. Your 5 minute video today had a huge impact on me. Thank you for all you do! Happy New Year to you and yours!

[@juliemarkham4332]

"We always look to the future to save us from where we are now." That's pretty profound, Gabe--and so true!

[@amysofia5783]

This reminds me of a quote from my favorite movie: "The present is a little unsatisfying because life is a little unsatisfying." We are always chasing the future or the past for our happiness but happiness isn't in a time period, it's whenever we decide to live it. You can be just as happy sitting on the beaches of Costa Rica as sitting on your porch or at a park. Speaking as an avid traveler, new places are exciting and mind opening but they will not cure your unhappiness. You have to put in the work and open your heart to the potential happiness right in front of you every single day.

[@candaceanderson1529]

BINGO, Gabe. I couldn't agree more. I am 74; enjoy life daily; sometimes the simpler, the better. Good lesson so early on in your life!

[@marlagroethe3145]

We've traveled a lot and your words "we miss actually being home," I agree with. Our house, holds all the things I love to do! It's still fun to see new places once in awhile but staycations are the best. Unplug, enjoy relaxing and all the activities home has to offer, is my motto. Thanks for your wonderful videos!

[@kathygoodwin]

So true. People think we are weird staying at home over Christmas/ New Year, but we love it. Comfy chairs and bed and good food. You don't always get that travelling. We still like to get away, but it is much nicer, quieter, and cheaper other times of the year.

[@jazevox]

I remember feeling happy to be back home after trips. Having the feeling of needing a vacation from a vacation. Yay for being able to use our own couch, our own bed, our own bathroom, and our own kitchen. I love being home.

[@mikaelrutherford1507]

TO OBTAIN FINANCIAL FREEDOM ONE NEEDS TO BE A BUSINESS OWNER, AN INVESTOR, OR BOTH, GENERATING PASSIVE INCOME, PARTICULARLY MONTHLY BASIC.

[@goddidit2598]

I think investing is easier with proper guidance, especially from a professional it helps reduce the chances of running into losses. All thanks to Mrs. Pamela Kay Weaver she changed my life, I was able to pay off my mortgages

[@christianwittmann6108]

and how do you start that being broke? tough one, right 🤷‍♂️

[@sullygaming1137]

​@@christianwittmann6108 or in debt because of family

[@capturedbyjacob7852]

I actually obtained mine working a 9-5 as he said everyone is different and has different goals. You live a frugal life for 3-5 years you can STACK money, which I did and now am able to have my own business. Though you do not NEED to own a business or invest. Like he said everyone is different and has different goals, ways of getting there and etc.

[@HappyFlamingo8535]

That was an awesome video, I am glad you could share :) As someone who grew up in a large house and did lots of traveling with my parents. I have definitely learned that my idea of fun is not everyone’s idea of fun. My children, phusband and I all dislike traveling and are quite happy to sit and play a board game or build a puzzle. I would rather take out a kayak on nice calm water than go on a cruise or a larger boat (I get motion sick). When my hubby wants to fish, I am quite happy to sit with him and read a book. We don’t try to impress anyone, if something in our house doesn’t match, we don’t care, we hang things because we like them. If something is tattered, that is ok so long as it still works! I don’t care if I ever retire because I like my job. Even if I retired, I would still have to work, even gardening or mowing the lawn is “work” one just does not get “paid” to do it.

[@wendelleg2002]

I am 63 years old, and I can definitely say that life is about the journey. I've traveled & lived (only in US so far though) in several places, married a few times, and many of my loved ones have now passed away, including a dearly loved spouse who died way too young - but he lived life on his own terms! Life hasn't been perfect, but I have had so many wonderful experiences, seen so many amazing things, loved so many special friends and loved ones! I now look forward to every day as it comes, and I've learned not to worry about the future. Enjoy your life!

[@maxduietwiler2929]

Extremely informative information, especially about people making traveling the world exciting. The ultimate is having a home base where you can regroup and recharge so you enjoy travel all the more. Balance is the key to life.

[@seasonalliving2881]

Living in New England has literally been my dream since I was a kid. :) Having traveled all over the world in the military, it is still my favorite place I wish I could call home.

[@seanjamescameron]

During my 20s and 30s I chased my dream and lived it for 8 years and discovered that it wasn't "all that". When the dream fell apart so did my world. Now 9 years later and only now starting to rebuild my life and find a new dream.

[@melindastonehouse]

So profound. I've had the same experience again and again, working towards something I thought that I wanted, only to find once I get there that it's actually not what I thought it would be and not what I wanted. People have judged me for moving onto something else once I realised that it's not for me, but life is too short for living someone else's life .

[@loveconnection1118]

I loved this. Sometimes it's more about the journey than the destination... Happy New Year to you all x

[@tanguerafeliz5096]

You are hands-down my favourite KZbinr and probably the reason I am now addicted to the productive side of KZbin. I'm so happy you found your art and we found you. I took a break from KZbin when we went on a long holiday but I sincerely missed watching your weekly inspiring videos. The little things aren't always little.

[@GabeBult]

Thanks I really appreciate it!

[@iamrjdennis]

Gotta do what makes YOU happy! This means not conforming to what society tells us success is. As Earl Nightengale says, success is just the progressive realization of a worthy ideal - YOU decide what success means to you! Follow your dreams and make sure they're actually yours. 🙏🏻

[@catwannabe506]

I love this.

[@jellybonesmasterfue45]

love this.

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

When you achieve your dream it is no longer a dream. For example, ever since I was young I wanted to go college more to prove myself I could do it and I did. I am still happy I got my degree and despite the hardships would not trade that experience for anything but it was kind of like well... that's done. I did feel extremely happy but I think, I thought I would feel this way forever or I should even be feeling a lot happier but that is not how things work.

[@Fooshis01]

I don't find that a problem at least I completed the mission

[@oliviamohrbarker7947]

Love this! You’ve said what I’ve been trying to find - don’t take our dream from something that what we see other people do.

[@RedNicole22]

I couldn’t agree more. I have learned this as well. I’m always thinking I would love to do this or that, and I do it, and it never as fulfilling as I “expected” it to be. Influencers make everything look amazing and fun, majority of them never tell you about the bad experiences as it could hinder their sponsorships. Same with whatever product they recommend. It is a mindset and we need to learn that it’s ok if we don’t like xyz. I dream of an adventurous life, but knowing me it would probably not be all that enjoyable for me, as I don’t like the unknown or being spontaneous. I love spontaneous people and live vicariously through them, but I am not at all spontaneous in my day to day life.

[@letschatfamilyfinances]

The dreams we are currently chasing are financial independence and traveling extensively with our six children while they are still living with us! Chasing those dreams requires sacrifice and planning but we are embracing the journey! Trying to be present as parents and soak up all the little pleasures in between the big trips. Local hikes, backyard play in perfect December weather, bike rides. There is beauty in all of it. I love your content - so rich and so helpful! Also… I have never had any desire to see Aruba or Costa Rica, but Western Europe has my heart! I hope you will love your European Adventures! We took six kids to France for 3 1/2 weeks last summer and it was honestly life changing. It filled up our souls so much! ❤️

[@Smidgenhead]

Mindset and expectations! With all the external influences, we are often left longing for more/batter/faster etc. Contentment sometimes seems out of reach

[@kristen2646]

This video was exactly what I needed to hear! We used to travel so much. Now, Im happy saving myself from the airport insanity many people just experienced for a quiet night in with my husband and cats. After seeing all 50 states, we were also booked for Aruba and Costa Rica (honestly!) until pandemic cxd our flights. Now, Im thrilled to have shared the flight credit with people who have a bigger tolerance for air travel. Ps: Baby Laura is so sweet and smiley! I thought that was you in the ad!

[@KarenCurr]

Thank you for making this video- I totally agree. I'm glad that you realized this so early on... I'm 63 and realized it a few years ago! But no matter- just as long as we come to understand and accept it, it's all good. Some folks never do... they are constantly chasing dreams of others just to say/brag that they did.

[@rbodhoo9840]

Wow so true! I totally agree with you. Mindset and the present moment is everything.

[@SleepChopTravels]

This moment is all there is, and so few people realize that.

[@claytonrenner4709]

I’ve been following your Channel the past few years and your Monday videos have forever changed my life little by little. Thank you Gabe

[@GilliMarieMoody]

Everyone’s different. We all find this out. At least, you have the capacity to do what you want. Cheers.

[@RoxyinLV]

You are truly blessed to have the freedom to be able to explore your dreams. Many of us never get that luxury.

[@VanessaLong]

It almost feels like you've put so much effort into creating a lifestyle you love that maybe you don't need to escape it. Love this. Thank you. 😉

[@danette0715]

Thank for another great video! Really important to think about, especially with the effects of social media. Also, that is the happiest baby I've ever seen 😄

[@USA1492]

I think it’s a great thing to miss your home and life there when you’re away. It shows you’ve built a great lifestyle for yourself that is rewarding and fulfilling. 🙏

[@evalindell2757]

I think everything you say is soo true! It is your own preferences that will tell you what is right for you. No one else can tell you and there is a risk with looking at others that you don’t follow your heart but someonelses. I will quote you with the brilliant; ”we look for the future to save us from where we are now” I live my dream life right now and I don’t want the future to come! I could stay like this for eternity!

[@fadkira]

Never commented on your videos but I truly love the valuable content you are sharing with us. Found your channel 3 weeks ago and I have been watching every single one of your videos. I admire your genuineness and transparency Gabe which is what distinguishes you from other KZbinrs. Once again thank you infinitely ❤

[@MCG2025]

I gave up on my dreams when I realised the amount of obstacles stopping me from achieving my small goals, I often think of all the opportunities that i missed out on due to narcissistic parents, selfish partners, unsupportive fake friends and toxic workplaces, They all would say we want you to be happy and successful but then fight me whenever I I wanted to do or try something new and now I'm miserable and they wonder why Ive started dragging them down to be as miserable as me. As Jim Morrison sang "This is the strangest life I've ever known"

[@jmarjeta]

This was exactly to the point. Do not chase other peoples dreams. Happy New Year, Gabe.

[@yurialenccar]

Thanks for the insights. Happiness is a matter of thoughtful coming from inside and not the opposite.

[@lesleywatson4494]

The best places we have been are places we have stumbled across. Hire a camper when you come to Europe and follow that interesting road. You won't regret it.

[@judyb535]

Very interesting video - thank you. At 63 I’ve learned the best thing in life is the series of zigs and zags time offers. As you indicated one thing can lead to another and you fine tune what you enjoy most. The biggest potential pitfall I see from my generational eyes is the danger of comparison especially with orchestrated lifestyles. It’s a much bigger issue than what we experienced. Do what YOU love! Peace!

[@jeanarino732]

Just found your channel today! I follow many minimalists and can't believe I haven't seen you until now, great content!

[@GabeBult]

Thanks 🙏 glad you enjoy it

[@erintannehill]

I think dreams evolve as you do, but you may not realize it until you bring certain dreams to life. I do my best to live with an open mind and consistently evaluate the path I'm walking to see if any detours or new paths need to be created. For years, it has been pretty much the same, but tomorrow that may change, which is totally fine.

[@jordanalmond3458]

Ok but truthfully it was hard to pay attention to what you were saying because your baby is so dang cute!! Her little smile is just infectious! 😭🙈 But I understand completely what you’re saying. For years I thought I would be working in the book selling world for forever. My husband was climbing the ranks in the culinary world and working at some very impressive places in Chicago. But we were so burnt out, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Now I’m working part time at our church with the kids ministry and spend the rest of my week as a homemaker. I love it, I’m so happy and at peace. My husband left a very well paying position to work less, go to college, and pursue ministry as well. On paper it looks like we’re going backwards. But our marriage is stronger, we’re more inspired, and feel like we’re working towards more purposeful things. It may be someone else’s nightmare 😂 but we’re loving it

[@shre9]

As a kid I always thought I loved travelling. Now that I started to travel as an adult, I’d rather stay home. Travelling just makes me too anxious 😕

[@shess1640]

Oh boy, I relate. Last year I thought a month in a somewhat remote AirBnB in Vermont sounded fantastic. A month. More than several thousand $. It was a large cabin and run by a guy who runs sled dogs. I brought tons of books and my iPad. Doesn’t that sound amazing? The setting was gorgeous. My stay was awful. Mice in the cabin and I could hear them all night long in my bedroom. He put out cotton balls with peppermint; he said it would really cut into his overhead to do more. I could hear him drunkenly yelling at his dogs late into the night. His place was a few hundred yards away. The furniture was gross and crunchy with use. Overcrowded with furniture that was duct taped. The ad said there was Wi-Fi throughout the place but when there, they told you it was shared and to sign on only to get your email. I left after 2 nights and didn’t request a refund. I could only think of those hungry dogs and knew he’d already spent it. Yup….. that was a case of chasing a dream.

[@christophergriffith3420]

"The funny thing about happiness, you never really know you had it 'til it's gone" Kellog - Fallout 4

[@zinahsdiary4433]

Thanks Gabe! 😍

[@charmainebehee4590]

Amen, brother! Enjoy the moment 💜

[@randomizationme]

That's correct. Sometimes traveling is overrated -- or the places you see people go is for you too and sometimes it isn't

[@anaanderson1236]

Love your stuff, dude! You’ve taught me so much - and I’m in my 50’s, lol! Love your honesty - keep up the great work 😊

[@thomasmacharia2498]

Dream is within us and is not out there to be chased. One needs to tap it by fine tuning to highest vibration which is in tandem with one's aligned value.

[@Natedawg1313]

By far my favorite channel! Keep up the good work. Happy new year.

[@Hawke301]

Good advice! Thank you for sharing this wisdom with everyone.

[@l12959]

Love how you've learned about what you like. Exploration is key. I'm into anything novel or that I haven't tried in a while. I bet good company is probably what made you enjoy building a life. I agree that each moment can be precious depending on mindset. I must work on my next goals though, something I'm putting off. That was probably the best video of yours:) so candid, philosophical, insightful.... love your family too:) happy new year

[@norlynpiquero7500]

I used to envy other people traveling but once I traveled myself, it's not for me. You wouldn't really know until you live it.

[@cristaldavid6111]

You said it so well Gabe...it is so true. Brilliant video.

[@madzlogtv1484]

This is just the simple Reality of Life that NOTHING and when I say NOTHING I Mean NOTHING goes Perfect.... Whether in the Proccess or in the actually Moment....

[@arussellturner]

Solid video. Best one in a while. I appreciate the succinct message.

[@Chaitogether]

Exactly!!! 🎉❤ Great video Gabe! And love to see traveling with baby and the joy :)

[@jamiececilielange5249]

I used to want to be a musician, and I didn't succeed, but I got close enough to meet professional musicians and to see how much practice is required, and I realised it wasn't for me. I also wanted to be an artist, but drawing for others makes me stressed. I tried horticulture, and it was a step in the right direction. I have new dreams now: I want to finish my horticulture education, earn enough to not worry about going to a restaurant, travel a bit and maybe become a lab technician. I'm not sure about the last one, but I'll find out.

[@bill_jennings]

I believe that so many people are so caught up in the "now" moment that they are unable to truly identify what their dreams may be. That is why it is so easy for them to chase dreams as defined by others. Stop, breathe, and then see what you're really interested in chasing. It may be easier to catch than you might think. Cheers.

[@AlvinCwk]

Its not about the dream, its about the chase.

[@SoCalRobots]

Traveling is overwhelming and is like people who buy Toyotas and tell you they are the best cars, never break down, but they hide the real costs and pains just like any other car. Traveling is similar people make it out to be this big deal etc. but is a pain super stressful way to spend your time. I've been to many countries, had everything you can ask for and is not as big of a deal as people think it it. Notthing better than exploring your local places, get a good coffee or smoothie and read a real book, talk to strangers, plant some trees, pet a pet and live a simply as possible with the least amount of physical items you can own. I've been there done that - some of you will eventually figure it out.

[@strivingstranger6]

A video that cane at the perfect time and duration was perfect. Thank you for the reminder ... it hit home and its a truth that we all need to be aware of. Like the idea of exploration and not looking towards other people's dream and make them our own, unless ofc it's juts happens to be that we're similar in that sense. Ig this is where reflection comes in so we know what we want and what direction we're heading. Also direction in life can change and that's okay

[@carolblagg3859]

I love ❤️ your honesty .....wishing you a fabulous new year!

[@belindaknowles7440]

Strangely enough, I’m cleaning an office right now as I am watching this video and I’m considering retiring😂 Thanks for sharing!

[@_sunnycute_]

Your baby is so cute !! Costa Rica is a dream, I want to dance salsa there. But in this moment in time I'm living it up dancing salsa in my home town of Vancouver, Canada. Love that quote from Eckhart Tolle. That one is going in the memory bank.

[@DigIn-v2c]

Although on land we live, life is like living on water and always swimming against the current bc you know there is better! -Stallone

[@JorDonJordy_.]

@GabeBult I am chasing one of pure self fulfillment, and a new overall quality of Life. With that being said, it encompasses a cadre of things from Traveling more/ more Job Ops and so on. Note: I love you're videos, and continue being great and speaking positivity into the Universe. You are changing lives.

[@Mrs_Guac_and_Glock]

I've wanted to live in an RV or skoolie for years now. Even almost bought one one day. A few months ago, me and the kids tagged along on a work trip my husband had to take. We made so many great memories going to parks and museums and such, but I was SO GLAD to come home. None of us slept well on the trip and we definitely didn't like being out of our normal rhythm. Turns out we're all home bodies. Glad we didn't buy that bus 🤷

[@sophieb.1287]

Every word is so true.❤️ My dream is to have more time and possibilties for new things to try. Maybe travelling a lot, or just visiting my favourite places as often as I want, or just finding a nice home with enough space to invite friends and family and have a few chickens. 🐔

[@GabeBult]

🐣🐥

[@sophieb.1287]

@@GabeBult 🤩

[@thehylers1021]

Now that I'm older I look for organic opportunities vs. chasing a dream. I enjoy trying new things and purpose to have fun or laugh out loud each day. I like adventure and exploring travel destinations and meeting new people. I started experimenting with volunteering and ballet dancing. I am content.

[@lisalamphier1410]

I traveled in my youth before I was tied down to anything. It was a lot of fun and I had great adventures. But now I hate traveling. It's a lot of hassle really and I would much rather be home.

[@Corrans]

Agree with everything here, well said.

[@lissetsanchez5316]

Thank you so much for making this video! 🙏🏽

[@Angel-lx6xe]

Wow. Thanks for that. That's classy vulnerability, right there. Great example for the rest of us.

[@dariusdareme]

Nice transition to liking this video. Got my like.

[@kiwiprincess76]

I went to Maui and it was just like NZ with a few differences. Annoyed!! Spent $30k on it. I find walking around where you live which is free, foraging, exploring etc is just as satisfying!!!

[@nightowl6260]

There is affirmation of following your dreams. There is a pattern where people come to expect and be entitled to getting their dreams fulfilled. Dreams are often about acquiring and material gain. Someone's dream may be a big house they feel they should have, but cannot afford.

[@beastamer1990s]

Ive never even been in a hotel as nice as the house in the opening shot

[@jacobbhancock]

This was an excellent reminder!

[@michaelertolahti970]

Thanks gabe, you hit the core.

[@melissasullivanjackson432]

This was awesome Gabe!!! Thank you for your honesty!!😊

[@MsLilianagoncalves]

Hi Gabe! I am from Portugal and your livestyle as been a inspiration for me. I find normal at your age with a small baby the need to have a more stable routine. I hope you put Portugal on your travel list. We have the best view and the best food from Europe.

[@the_infinity_channel]

The truth is once you get the dream you will have next one and so on but the time will slip away you will start to question you descision or maybe not but probably it will happen. In that time your mind could shift or better say soul or it will push harder. It is happening to me right now and it ia crazy.

[@RyanAguiar3]

i have a 3 year old and feel like bringing a young one to care for changes the experience

[@speakwithmeasure3714]

If you “ Quit” you’re not coming back!

[@fear_not]

I'm about to start my whole year trip in February 2023 which I was thinking about and saving money for 3 years but I do acknowledge that I may not love it and I may decide to come back home after few months only. I keep my options open and fell no pressure. I just want to be happy :)

[@Michelle-bk5uq]

Holy sh*t! Yes to all of this. So needed to hear this...

[@seanjamescameron]

Saw this on instagram AFTER I had already seen it on KZbin.

[@GabeBult]

👍🙏

[@mitchgomez3730]

3 quotes that stuck with me in this video: "Do not take your dream from something that you see other people do. You will never know your dream life is actually your dream life until you live it. The future never comes life is always now." "We always look to the future to kinda' save us from where we are right now but the future is imaginary, it's something that's in our head and if you can't enjoy the moment, you're not gonna' enjoy the future." "There are 2 kinds of people, one of them is happy one of them is miserable and it's all about mindset."

[@dollymamabeauty6114]

Love your channel Gabe

[@tedgeiss6710]

Happy New Year! Thank you 🙏🏻 I needed this today.

[@USA1492]

Those road in Costa Rica are 😱. If I go back I’ll get a 4 wheel drive for sure

[@kellihop]

Thank you for the beautiful insight!!

[@violetakam]

Come to Lithuania! 💜

[@ShadowMakesSomeArt]

bro there is nothing wrong in taking a dream from somebody else. if we really feel like doing it and we love it then it’s really good to stick to that dream. At the end of the day it’s our choice what do we do in our life and if somebody wants to pursue their dreams then let them do it. people should enjoy what they want to enjoy

[@sharonirungu2092]

My dream is to start a bookshop in Kenya🇰🇪 and ultimately quit my 9-5. Love your videos!

[@whatwilliwatch3405]

Any time I take time off work, my dream vacation is a "staycation." I don't leave the house (half the time I don't change out of my pajamas), and I read, or do crafts, or play video games, or even just sleep. When I say as much to other people, they either say one of two things. The first is, "That sounds boring and a waste of time." The second is, "Wow, I've never thought of that. That sounds really nice." There exists this social mindset that a vacation should be "busy," and it's so pervasive that even people who would enjoy that kind of relaxed staycation don't even consider it. Do what makes you feel satisfied and recharged, and understand that what works for you may not work for someone else. It's nothing personal - we're just wired differently, and that's okay.

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

It's not always mindset, it's also environment. That's why so many people say CBT - cognitive behaviour therapy - is gaslighting is because for a lot of us our experiences have been reduced, ignored, and belittled. CBT and "mindset" changes are used to further that angle just because they don't believe what we tell them. Who knew in my early to mid 30s I'd hit burnout so bad my body was basically destroyed, that I'd find out I'm autistic and then also ADHD. Who knew that why I had so much trouble was because my environment, an environment that suited so many others, was literally killing me and sucking any energy I had from me. Allll the coping mechanisms I'd developed, most unconsciously, ended up crumpling because you can't do that forever. Can't even find a job advertised that fits my needs.

[@Clip_Gallery]

thanks. this is what i need right now