The Process of Death and Dying

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[@Sealust50]

It's a MESS being BORN, and it's a MESS when you die - actually, it's messy in between too

[@CathyS_Bx]

Living in a body -- it's an issue!

[@loriwhalen2321]

😂😂😂

[@BigHeartNoBS]

😂😂😂

[@Skyesoceaneyes]

But we try to hide it in between 🙂

[@ilovetotri23]

It reminds me of a quote. Why are we hung up on the beginning of life and the end of life and not the 70 something years in between?

[@stevennix8680]

Julie, you are a God send. helping people understand the process of dying and remove the stigma, allowing people to die with dignity. Knowledge is always power.

[@LaurieMarian]

I just love her, she’s so kind.

[@dtulip1]

GAH, literally what I was just about to type, great minds eh :)

[@southernsass2937]

Although its not things I want to hear about, I've learned so much from Julie ❤

[@robertacarroll8481]

Order her book I think it is full of information

[@KS-kr4ok]

what nurse Julie described does not sound dignified. I understand it is what it is. So nobody in my family is welcome in the room if I am dying a prolonged death. They have been informed and said it is OK with them. These are not sights I want burned into their memories.

[@carolhanson8330]

I'm coming to the end of life and am so excited to see what the next life is going to be. As it grows more difficult to breathe and pain meds are losing their effects I'm hoping that it won't be much longer. Thanks Julie for the work you are doing. You are the best ❤😻

[@user-dy1rw3jr5o]

Many prayers for you and may your journey be peaceful

[@DavidHernandez-oc1oz]

Bless you. The next life will be more beautiful than you can imagine.

[@marjoriewest3700]

Carol, God speed in Heaven. Enjoy. ❤

[@sarazimmerman713]

God Bless 2:24 you and send his Angels to carry you!

[@valeriesaunders7150]

You will know nothing, like a dreamless sleep.

[@bobsebring2819]

Fortunately, my mom had passed away being clean. I had just changed her diaper a few hours before she died. I made sure she died safe, clean, and comfortable.

[@joannag6992]

God bless you ❤I'm a mum and I'm proud of u

[@robynlade7546]

My mother died in January of alzheimers. She was a tough and sassy lady that fought it for years. I watched your videos to help me know what to expect. Thank you. It helped me tremendously.

[@SandraNutt]

@robynlade… I WISH I had found her while my Mom was dying. I found her RIGHT after and I was OBSESSED with the videos but at least I realized I wasn’t crazy. But every video was like “I wish I knew that 2 months ago!” Over and over. Hospice and caregivers were GREAT. But they could not cover everything. No one can. Special people. Special special people. Gods angels on earth.

[@redstone1999]

I was lucky that my mom passed peacefully after a 6 year battle with Alzheimer's and without anything gross. She just squeezed my hand and then drifted off to the other side. She refused to eat or drink for 3 days before, so not much left in her I guess. My wife is elderly and has health problems. This video reminded me that death can be messy and to prepare myself that time. I doubt anyone is ever 100% ready to see our loved one in this manner.

[@TallulahBelle3276]

Sending hugs to you. 💝❤️‍🩹💝

[@luckystriker7489]

I'm in a similar situation. My mom was a powerhouse during my youth but after a heart attack followed by a stroke she is a mere shadow of her former self. My dad died in February this year and I know it's only a matter of time for my mom. It's heart wrenching to see tall oaks fall. The anger, denial, acceptance... My best wishes for you

[@Cheryl-heavenschild]

My mom passed away on January 21, 2024 after a 14 year battle with Alzheimer’s. These videos really helped me through it.

[@KristiGilleland]

My dad is dying right now. (Lewy Body Dementia)They say it could be tonight or a week. He's jerking alot. He's not drank or eaten anything in 4 days, very, very little before that. It's killing me to watch. He was so glorious in his day. He was a marathon runner,- he had tons of 10k/5k race trophies. He ran into his 80s! I think this is why he's enduring the dehydration so long.... His b/p and pulse are still good! O2 is everywhere and temp is up and down like crazy. He keeps yelling and making startle reflex like sudden outstretched wide arm movements like a baby. Lots of hiccups too, and I have heard some humming. I feel like my heart is getting ripped out slowly. Thank you so much for the education. It helps.

[@sandracrandall4561]

Stay strong Kristi...find Peace in Prayer & continue to Love.💪🙏❤️

[@dlinsk401]

💔🙏🏻💔

[@hanneshuette]

Sending you love, Kristi ❤

[@onthehill3381]

❤❤❤

[@breezeanonymous6034]

Hugs 😢😢😢

[@d14551]

My friend yesterday morning, in the tender care of an inpatient hospice unit. Because of this channel, I wasn't startled when agonal breathing started or when her eyes and mouth fell open. I'm really sad and I'm grateful for the care she received.

[@SuperBlossom2011]

I wished my hospice nurse educated about this. I watched my mom dying not knowing it was her last day 😭

[@JCSun77]

Just remember that this is completely normal & the patient is not air hungered most of the time in a naturally progressing death. The breathing is very very bothersome to the family ALOT, it makes me feel so bad ❤

[@monongahelacats]

I was able to ease a family’s anxiety when their mom started agonal breathing thanks to Julie.

[@JCSun77]

@carolinemarty1 I'm so glad to hear that. Sometimes nurses forget we've seen death happen 100s of times but some lay ppl do not even see 1 person die, it is very difficult for some (natural occurrences in progression of death). 💗

[@ricciwilson588]

I am so sorry for the your loss.i too just lost my best friend and then my mom.had a nervous breakdown but this channel helps me a lot.i have one problem that is,I can not remember my mom's face when she died and can not look at pictures of her,it's too painful .

[@derek5463]

When my mother-in-law passed she had a smile on her face. It makes me wonder what she was seeing

[@bdgies2721]

My mom would suddenly bolt upright, and then say sitting rigidly for many minutes. She’d lay back down and then 20 minutes later, pop upright again. It scared the daylights out of my sister-in-law. We called it jackrabbit-ing, springing up like a jackrabbit. It started about 5 days before she died, but only lasted a few days. In contrast, my mother-in-law and husband were very still and calm. My husband would call out for me if I he couldn’t hear, feel or see me, but otherwise his was the quietest, gentlest dying I’ve ever sat vigil for. It was a true blessing.

[@ChatMort69420]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

[@sarahe7515]

Just wondering if she had pelvic cancer that went to the bone? One of my uncles did the same thing and his started in the prostate and spread to the bone and brain.

[@bdgies2721]

@sarahe7515 no, she had cancer in her spine. And she was heavily sedated. However, the nurses said it does happen with other patients. Just one more thing that can't often be explained. I think it was something deep in her psyche - a person who was always busy in motion, seldom able to just sit and rest. She wasn't afraid to die, she knew exactly where she was going, and I think she was impatient to get there. 😉

[@Hildred6]

The sitting up is often part of terminal agitation, it has lots of reasons including the medication being given, low oxygen levels, urinary retention, nausea, general distress, brain metastases, and breakthrough pain and other reasons

[@user-qr8ki8ue4i]

It's not ALWAYS messy. My father passed with an aggressive leukemia and by all accounts, he should have blown up like a balloon and bled out of every orifice, and experience death rattles. He did not. My very elderly mom should have also been experiencing similar in her last three days of life. She did not. They both just drifted off home.

[@kitsiewr]

Thank God for your memories of a dignified ending!

[@artemisXsidecross]

Thank you for turning on a light to a process of death that should be as familiar as the process of a birth; both are what each of us will experience.

[@NormanChester882]

Thank you Julie, I watched my mother pass away, I watched my father pass away, I wish you had been there, to explain and comfort, yes the body releases the fluids

[@daveogarf]

Dear Julie, you are a MARVEL! You deliver your messages plainly, without fanfare, and always give us the facts.

[@patriciahazelton672]

I like the dark cloth ideas . I am praying my father just goes to sleep and mom calls him home.

[@michmack2008]

Sending love and light for you and your father and mom who is possibly already visiting him 🙏🏻

[@Judy.LoveandLightAlways]

​@@michmack2008 and to you Patricia I understand both your comments, losing my Big Sister, Dad, Many family and Friend's. Most important to me is my big Sister who passed from leaukimia in my Mum's arm's waiting for an ambulance from leaukimia only one month short of her 12th birthday in the 70s, Dad a brain Tumour in the 80s. I know we see our loved one's again when it's our time to go Home/Heaven. While we live out our lives they watch over us as Guardian Angel's. Currently My Mum is getting older a little forgetful but not Dementia or Cancer. Just older age. I spend so much Quality time with her, taking her shopping, doctor's, appointments etc. Staying overnight, laughing. For in the pass I blocked out the pain and anything prior to 1980 when my sister passed. Mum, myself my husband a 11 year younger sister were at dad's side as he passed in hospice the moment of him leaving to go Home/Heaven he opened his eyes looked up and we know he saw his little girl (my big sister) Mums (little girl) his eyes turned a Brilliant blue. We do believe we go Home/Heaven and our loved one's are there waiting for us. Life as we get older seems to go so fast, every moment spent with loved one's is precious. As for my 11 year younger sister Mum and I have disowned her. She is pure Evil Personified Soulless, wrong Choices. Drugs etc. Betrayal.. She will never know where my Mum, myself, my husband and our son live. How 3 children raised the same way with love, Respect, compassion and honesty can be so different is beyond mum's comprehension. I'm sorry for venting but look for these signs, a coin on the ground pick it up look at the date, it may hold a memory. Butterflies, ladybugs, dragonflies, Beautiful birds, a scent that reminds you of your loved one,, I tend to smell jasmine constantly, feathers falling or on the ground, stars, a song, time 1:11 2:22 3:33 4:44 5:55 numbers. Sorry this will get deleted being so long I hope you get to read it to bring some comfort. Love and Light Alway's. Kindest thoughts to you and your families and Fur babies..

[@Sabrina-LosAngeles]

I love how Julie brings it down to basics. The body knows how to be born ~ the body knows how to die. Thank you for these videos

[@Kaleidescope66]

I never expected to be alone at this point in my life. You are such a comfort. You are helping me make decisions and broaching topics with my adult children. Any suggestions on that would be greatly appreciated.

[@justmemimi7338]

I have discussed this with my mother. We worked together on filling out an advanced care directive. That enabled us to discuss finer details, such as if she would want a priest or similar, and what sort of care she would like. For instance, some people want to be as alert as possible, whereas others may prefer to be sedated. Having talked about these things makes me feel more confident in being able to care for her, and respect her wishes while doing so.

[@elderlypoodle9181]

A note from my experience with my mother. I didn’t want to call the hospice at 1:00 AM. I didn’t realize my mother had died so I tried to change her diaper myself. I had just talked to her at midnight. She was so heavy for me to move even when she was 89 pounds. I had very little sleep in 5 days. I was in the mindset of don’t bother anyone when I could do it myself. I did a poor job and in the morning I realized she was gone. The wonderful Hospice nurse who arrived let me know that their job and care went to people who needed them. So.. Don’t hesitate to call in the wee hours. ❤️🐩

[@markbattistoni7484]

Julie, thank you for the education you have given me on the process of dying. My 88 year old father has just passed after a decade fighting vascular dementia. I was prepared for and was able to identify the multiple stages and issues that were presented. When the hospice nurse was speaking to me during the active dying process, I told her I watched your videos. She too is a big of yours. Keep going, your education is invaluable.

[@kantor0224]

Thank u Julie for your support i am holding my fathers hand stage 4 nsclc aspiration pneumonia😢😢😢❤❤

[@nanrichter]

praying for you both

[@lindarabiner7881]

Going through this right now with my 98 year old husband. I’m 78 and his caregiver, luckily I’m strong and I could take care of him to this point, but now he is doing exactly what you are talking about. I have a wonderful hospice nurse who came today and helped me with his transitioning behaviors…you both are such a blessing

[@kantor0224]

We went through the 'rally' last Saturday at the ICU, the transitioning phase and now the pneumonia.. Fully unconscious. Probably he's got hours. Idk He is 74 years old and we're in a hospice facility in Hungary since this Wednesday . I was his caregiver since last November.🙏😓😥

[@kantor0224]

First line afatinib treatment was not successful at all

[@robinware6792]

God bless you and your dad. Praying for you now

[@davidpalmer7175]

I took care of my mother the last week of her life. Started on a Thursday, she could be helped onto her wheel chair to be brought to the bathroom. By that Sunday, her legs didn't work to even stand to be helped onto the wheel chair, so I said, I have to put a diaper on you. She just had to urinate, so changed it then. The following day was her last spoonful of real food. Hospice nurse came every day to check on her just changed the diaper once with no messes. By Wednesday she couldn't speak any more. She died Thursday night... quiet and uneventful... No messes. Thanks Mom!

[@nikolehaug7192]

Find comfort from you and your channel after I experienced my mother last days at the nursing home, three months ago. I was fighting tears, being brave and calm, while cleaning, dressing her and watching every little change the last day. Now I’m grieving every day, thinking about her and our very last day together. My dearest mom .

[@rhondathomas7952]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@aliyamoon80]

As an RN, I want to thank you for your channel and your book. It's so important for folks to have this information when they have a loved one experiencing end of life. Thank you for making death normal. Bless you!

[@JaneAustenAteMyCat]

Why is death so taboo that these things aren't talked about and people end up shocked or afraid when they watch their loved ones die? Why is even the word 'die' erased from our culture? We talk about people 'passing', as if the very word is taboo. It's so unhealthy. Death is the inevitable result of life. It's sad, but we get to experience the miracle of life first. Excellent video. We weren't prepared for my MIL's death. The medical staff hadn't explained what was going on properly and she ended up dying alone, which haunted me for months. She shouldn't have died alone.

[@user-fz2lq5rx3h]

When my grandfather was in hospice, I visited him three days before he passed. I couldn't believe he was going to die. He was fully awake, coherent, eating, drinking, and even laughed at my jokes. But that all changed within a few hours. It was like his body was giving him one last burst of energy. Is this common?

[@Jillousa]

Yes, people tend to have a last minute rally before they die. I think she has a video on it

[@BigHeartNoBS]

Yes, it's called the rally or the surge.

[@annenelson5656]

Nurse Julie has a video about this phenomenon.

[@janpower1104]

Today was the televised funeral of my daughter's MIL. Your videos helped them understand her last few days. Thank you Julie.

[@justmemimi7338]

Im so sorry for your loss.

[@user-dy1rw3jr5o]

Thank you Julie. My mom died a month ago and I watched you faithfully to see what to expect or what I could do about certain situations. Because of you, it made my journey with my mom a little less stressful because I knew what to expect. I am a person that likes to know what’s going on and what to expect and you did just that for me. Thank you for helping me help my mom!

[@Siskos-pn7nd]

Thanks for your videos. They are so informative, straightforward. Death is so normal but rarely discussed. I am 78 and think about what death will be like for me. I think we all do. Your videos shed much light on what is the natural dying and aging process. Your body is constantly adapting to the changing you.

[@greenwil]

Hello Julie, just a quick question. Back in 2013, my mother had a massive stroke, after which she passed away 11 days later. I was the only other person in the room at the time my mother drew her last breath. I was holding her hand and stroking her silver hair and was telling her that she would soon be seeing her mother and father again and that they were anxiously awaiting her arrival. Then I told her that Jesus would be there, as well. No sooner had I said his name, a smile came across her face and she drew her last breath. At that instant, the whole room filled with the smell of roses. I was really just curious if you had heard of this phenomenon occurring before in your practice. 🙏

[@michmack2008]

❤

[@amypetra5021]

The Rose of Sharon 🌹🙏🏼 Jesus Christ himself came for her ❤️💯

[@greenwil]

@@amypetra5021 That is my unwavering belief, to this day. I have not before or since smelt nor tasted anything in this world as sweetly fragrant, as I experienced in that moment. It left me without a shred of doubt that the spirit of my mother now exists in Paradise. ♥ There are no treasures of this world that I would trade in exchange for the Gift that The Lord of Lord's and The King of King's allowed me to experience on that early Sunday morning, just before the Dawn, when He came to take my mother Home. 🌹

[@louisel.sinniger2057]

I’m a nurse too Julie and I thank you for your wonderful work. I’ve worked with dying individuals of all ages and this information is so correct. You are such a wonderful individual to even have a KZbin channel for this topic. I refer many people to your site to help them thru the process.

[@kathe.o.]

Julie your videos made my husband & my Daddy's passing easier to handle. Thank you Julie for your lessons & service.

[@derekbootle8316]

We suctioned the bile from the mouth using a 10cc needless syringe and a small tube. It was a MacGyver moment.

[@wendyfield7708]

I was alone at home nursing both my parents when they died about 13 years apart. Both of them were conscious and peaceful until the end, andnone of these things happened. They died in my arms, but just before took a bigger large breath and died with a long sigh.+

[@maypalmer]

Nurse Julie, you are THE BOMB!! The Lord Bless you and yours as you make it plain: The good, the bad and the ugly.

[@jofrazier-hansen4097]

Julie I want to thank you for helping me get through the death of my Dad in January. I'm also an RN use to helping others deal with the death of a loved one. I started watching your videos to see if there was anything new I could learn. But as time went on and I began to realize that my Dad wanted to go on to be with my grandparents, your videos helped to put things in order. It moved me from my professional mode to the family mode. It helped me to cope much better. I still have my days, but they're not as hard.❤

[@clarencejacksonjr.]

Thank you so much for taking the fear out of dying. My mother yelled off and on in the hospital for a day then stopped.

[@JCC51]

Julie, thank you so much for this video. I took care of my mom in my home for a year and a half. She had dementia that progressed after breaking her femur in 2022. She was in hospice care for 4 weeks when she passed away on January 22, 2024. I had been watching your videos to prepare myself for what could happen and they helped me to understand. I have been haunted by the last few hours of the death process. Mom did had secretions that (at the time) I was unaware would happen. It scared me and I thought that I might have done something wrong that caused it. This video has brought me peace. You are doing a fantastic service for caregivers and it is so appreciated.

[@davidking6982]

Wow, not sure how I landed on here, but so glad I did. You're answering the questions we want to know with practical information. I've watched three of your videos and learned so much. Your frankness, with care and kindness is invaluable.

[@markhuber8345]

Good tips for the dark colors. I transport to the hospice facilities almost daily. Thank you for the amazing work and care that you provide at the time it’s needed most. 🙏🏼💐❤️🕯🙏🏼

[@cavgrey8]

My father died of multiple myeloma. Hospice had dark red sheets on the bed & towels because of a concern of hemorrhaging out. I’ve never experienced a multitude myeloma patient hemorrhaging out.

[@nomorenarcz]

@@cavgrey8my mother died from mm too…never knew about a chance of haemorrhage 💜

[@charliesmith4072]

I work with people who are retired, and some are always approaching death. I am grateful for your matter-of-fact discussions. Thank you very much.

[@billgrandone3552]

I was there for the death of two of my grandparents and one thing I noticed in the hours or so before they went into a coma, is that they would pick at the hems of their bed sheets.Have you ever noticed that. My grandfather died when i was 14 and that was the first thing I noticed when I walked in the room to say goodbye . He was asleep but not in a coma at the time, but I noticed him picking at the hem of his sheet. Thirteen years later when I was called for my grandmother I noticed the same thing and I knew that she would not last the day I was privileged to be there for my grandmothers passing, I was holding her hand and speaking to her as she passed and though i did not know if she could still hear me,I decided to talk her through death so she would not be afraid . My grandparents owned a tavern and lived in a three bedroom apartment for just before WWI to 1977 when she suffered her last illness at 92. She had a bad heart and always feared having to walk up the steep steps to her apartment, fearing that she would have a heart attack and fall down the steps. So when I was around 10 or so she would always ask me to walk behind her and catch her if she fell . I told her that going to Jesus is just like the stairs. Just walk to the light and I'll stay right with you so you won''t fall. And everybody there, all your loved ones are waiting for you at the top of the stairs to welcome you home. Grandpa is there and your parents, sister Dolly and then I told her to look for them. She took one deep breath and she was gone. No mess, no facial distortions. It was beautiful, if death can be beautiful. And I like to think that I helped her accept. because she raised me for the first three years of my life and I was the only grandchild of six that spent almost every other weekend with her from the timeIi was six until I was sixteen. My oldest daughter is named for her. .

[@Cgeo02]

My mum did exactly that x

[@user-em4gw8kv3g]

I had the privilege of being present at both mom and dad and my mom picked at her sheet and her nightie, my dad didn’t that I witnessed anyway. Said goodbye to a long time neighbor just a few days ago and she was picking at her nightie and sometimes in the air.

[@user-em4gw8kv3g]

I’m quite convinced she heard you, all the way to the top! Bless you for being her guide.

[@Cgeo02]

May I say that those words are absolutely beautiful! My grandson passed away from sids and I often tell my daughter that every time she falls in her mind her son is holding her hand. God bless you darling x

[@billgrandone3552]

@@Cgeo02Thank you, i'm glad you enjoyed my experience. After a stint in the Air Force and practicing law in San Antonio Tx, I and my family moved back to my hometown and my grandparents tavern is still in operation, owned by a high school classmate of mine. They have a picture of my grandparents and great-grandfather in the bar after it re-opened in 1933 when liquor was legal again. So it's nice for my kids to their history before them though they never got to meet their great grandparents and great-great grandfather.

[@cindypatrick785]

My 88 yr old daddy hasn’t eaten or drank now for 3 days. He’s mostly sleeping. I have appreciated your honest explanations of what to expect when daddy is dying. I thought I was going to be stronger emotionally but unfortunately I’m still recovering my strength after contracting Covid during my husbands hospital stay for his chf & Afib. My adrenals are shot and all I feel like doing is cry. I’m journaling every day to try to get my emotions in check before the Hospice nurse calls me so I can go be with daddy 😢 9:14

[@denisek292]

I’m so sorry your’re losing your father, plus dealing w/ a sick husband and Covid: You have a lot on your plate currently. No matter what age, he’s still your daddy, and you carry memories of every stage of your life in which he was there for you. I’m also an RN, who’s witnessed the dying process. Your father is mostly sleeping because his body is busy keeping normal functions going, not leaving enough energy for cognition. It’s difficult witnessing, especially in a dear loved one. It’s actually good to cry, as crying is cathartic: Stress hormones are purged. Crying is not a sign of weakness, either: You’re grieving already. Journaling is cathartic, too. Don’t forget to care for you. I have already prayed for you and your father, and I won’t stop. May God bless you and your family during this difficult time.

[@cindypatrick785]

@@denisek292 thank you for your prayers My daddy’s Alzheimer’s journey and suffering the indignities of that horrible disease ended last night at 11:28😭 I went to say my goodbyes and as I was rubbing his still warm arm I was playing a slideshow of some of my favorite pictures of life w my daddy and yes I was letting the tears flow, but he looked more peaceful than I had seen him for the last 3 years. So I left him in our Gods memory and will let him sleep in death until Jehovah wakes him up and gives him back to us w a younger, healthier body and mind.(John 5:28,29; Job 33:25;Isaiah 26:19

[@denisek292]

@@cindypatrick785 I’m deeply sorry for your loss. My heart is broken for you. Your comment touched me, and not a doubt it was God’s will. My father has Alzheimer’s. He’s still functioning, but I know the time will come when I face the same. It’s an awful disease, w/ the nickname “The Long Goodbye.” It’s wonderful you are remembering him through past pictures, as I believe that’s how he wants to be remembered when he was healthy. Cry as much as you need to, and don’t allow so-called “social norms” preventing your grieve, as grieving is healthy. Your dad is at peace. Don’t be afraid calling on Hospice for support. They usually visit two weeks after the funeral, but call on them if you need support sooner. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless you and keep you during this difficult time.

[@carolbullard7956]

I really wish I knew some of these things when my mom was in a hospice facility. They did give us a booklet that touched on some things, but not everything. If we had specific questions, the nurses did their best to answer. I hope that I never have a loved one in hospice again, but if I do, I'll be better prepared. Thank you for sharing your wealth of information. ❤

[@babyshooz]

What I've heard you say several times in other videos, but today it just dawned on me, our body does what it needs to do to help it die. The way you articulate the death and dying process communicates how natural it is. For me, that message is comforting because it is a reminder that we need not be afraid. You're right - our bodies do what they need to do to live AND to die. Thank you for your work sharing your knowledge with us!

[@b00_2]

But my father’s GP warned us that if he has breathing difficulties or running high fever we must call an ambulance as otherwise it is considered euthanisia. My father has end stage kidney failure. He has a leaking catether for 3 months. Its exhausting watching him fade away.

[@DaniellaInsalaco]

Thank you for all your videos. I watched my grandmother die a few days ago and because of you I understood what was happening and also knew what to expect.

[@onemuckypup9823]

Deepest condolences to you!

[@hanneshuette]

This was totally new to me. People talk of the mess and pain of childbirth but I wasn’t aware it can be messy at the time of departure too. Thank you 🙏🏻 😊

[@Raltgk]

You are a wonderful nurse. Thank you for all your explanations on dying. No more fear! ❤

[@shevawnengland6464]

I’m so proud of you Julie… you will help millions around the world with your book of hope and an understanding of the afterlife. I hope this book will be in many different languages, you have removed the mystery of death and its sting as we once knew it!! Love you Julie❤️🙏🏽 BTW…. I just pre-ordered you book Nothing to Fear on audible. The release date is 6-11-24. Can’t wait to get it!!!

[@gracelandone]

Dang, Julie. The courage you demonstrate in discussing these phenomena helps us as caregivers and impending care receivers to understand that a person who is leaving this world has an All-Access Pass to events leading up to, and including, death. Judgement need not be applied. Keep up the mindfulness education. You are helping a bunch of people. (would have written a sh*t ton of people, but wanted to keep it nice)

[@ladyrachel13]

My older sister died March 11. She had health issues for awhile and was in the hospital. Her death was still a shock because it all happened so fast. We decided not to put her through anymore and to let her go. I know we made the right decision because we had talked about it a few years ago. She's not suffering anymore but it doesn't make her passing easier. She was my older sister and I love her very much. It doesn't seem real that she's gone. 💔

[@YourThermalWorld]

I’ve been watching your vidoes for quite some time. Very helpful! I visited an Aunt who was actively dieing last week. She was non-verbal. We told her we loved her, told her it was OK to go and that she’d reunite with her husband who was waiting for her. She would raise her eyebrows and shrug and smiled once. She passed the next day. Death is the bargain we make with God the day we are conceived.

[@Keeperofthestarz]

Julie, my mom just passed on Friday.Stage 4 brain cancer along with Alzheimer's. It was a roller coaster . Mom was on hospice for 11 months in a nursing home. Your videos kept me educated and are so helpful. You are truly an angel that is educating the public. Thank you so much!

[@barbararinger3529]

My husband did the projectile vomiting a day before he passed. I sat him straight up quickly and I cleared his mouth ASAP so he did breathe it back in. Really freaked me out. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@lauraburke8840]

Hi my uncle had the death rattle last night in hospital, I walked out and said to my mom and dad he’s going to die he’s got the death rattle, they didn’t believe me. Today he peacefully passed away. Thank you for educating me 🙏

[@houndmother2398]

I was told that my father cried when he passed. Evidently a tear rolled down his face. I don't know what that's about. I'm hoping he was happy to move on and not sad to leave.

[@hibbelers16]

Thank you for teaching us about what to expect. Takes the fear away.

[@bear_1968]

Julie - so good and caring. Dark towels, what a simple and thoughtful idea. ❤

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Hello Nurse Julie! Thanks for the education to help us all feel more comfortable with what to expect since we’ll all deal with death sooner or later.

[@pierstillotson1462]

❤️ Thanks Julie, now I’m worried about inadvertently releasing a torrent of things I’ve always wanted to say that got sphincterised in my life 😅

[@CathyS_Bx]

Gosh. Wow.

[@hanneshuette]

I wonder if this happens too?

[@unapologeticallyme1115]

I sat with my father as he passed, He just slowly stopped breathing. The thing that sticks out is that his mouth wouldn’t close after and they tied it shut. Strange memory that really stuck with me. Nurses have to do certain things after.I chose to leave the room when it was time to move him. I have a different understanding of death since then. My dads cousin and I sat and talked about their childhoods, Sweden, his parents (my grandparents). Things that meant so much to him. I was afraid of death before that day, I’m not anymore.

[@b00_2]

Just spoke to my aunt about this. She is 84. In the village neighbours and friends would come over and do things for you after a death so you wouldnt have to do to your loved ones. Like dressed them up nicely and she mentioned that the first thing they would do is to put a string from the chin and tie it on the top of the head to keep the mouth shut. (Hungary)

[@artcuriel5449]

Moments before her death, my wife was thrashing back-and-forth looking like she couldn’t breathe. She passed 4 1/2 years ago. I have had a lot of time to think. It’s still vivid in my head. I have think she was already gone and that her body was doing end-of-life but already gone.

[@desolatesakura85]

I can never thank you enough for all your content. I've followed you for the past couple of years so when my dad passed from Alzheimer's in August I wasn't afraid. I'd still ask his hospice nurses a million questions, but they were always so kind and compassionate. I was at my dad's side everyday from the beginning of hospice to the end. It was an honor spending those days with him.

[@marywright9370]

Yes, when my Mom neared the end of pancreatic cancer, she began having a clenched jaw. Seemed uncomfortable, but she did not appear to be in pain. Not exactly the same, but a dog I had who died naturally at home took her last breaths with a series of moans. Thank you.

[@patrociniojrflores]

my dad died last year at this month, yeah what you've mentioned in your blog is true, he died because of chronic kidney disease, sepsis due to hospital bed sores and he also develop alzheimers. My dad passed away at 93 yrs old. My wife and I are the one mostly take care of my dad during his first heart ailments condition 16 yrs ago. I remember that on Dec 07 2022 start his flu ailment that trigger his deterioration of eating habits until 2nd or 3rd week of february that same year escalates his health condition that his urge to deficate was like "no other to compare" in his life time because it's very messy in the bed. Until he was confine for a week and gave some bunch of anti-biotics while on dextrose and NGT he was release for more than a week but later he expire in our home due to complications of sepsis and prolong chronic kidney disease. My dad's death experience still trying to coupe up little by little. Thanks for your time of reading my traumatic experienced.

[@vmobile890]

Yes estimated that there are approximately 50 sphincter muscles distributed throughout various organs and systems.

[@gonancy]

I started reading books on death and dying and looking and evaluating hospices when Mom stopped her MDS treatment. I can't tell you how glad I am, I was kind of prepared with knowledge like you're sharing. That was 2014. Now I have a different form of blood cancer but in remission at this point. Thank you for educating.

[@jpkko412]

You are the best at explaining in a gentle yet straightforward way. So appreciate you!

[@margotdourand2507]

My mother was in a chair on home hospice care. And just died. I didn't see anything like that. Her heart just stopped. 7 days after she overheard a nurse say she only has about a week to live. 7 days later she died.

[@user-uf6nx3xu9i]

I'm so grateful for your wisdom but your words help take away the fear.❤

[@hughjass1044]

My mother is not quite at this stage yet but it's definitely coming so I'm kind of preparing myself ahead of time. I can't begin to tell you how helpful these videos are! Thank you!

[@asilnosnhoj]

Thank you for your videos. I watched you before my mom passed and found them very helpful. We went through a lot of gloves and wet wipes. Those were lifesavers.

[@vk1pe]

Thank you. I am expecting a family member's last days shortly. Your videos have been wonderful for me to understand the processes, and to inform other family members who may be involved (and seem unwilling to engage with what the processes may involve!)

[@joelabriola2493]

So glad you are outthere to comfort us all when caring for a dying loved one. Thanks❤

[@trishnickles2236]

Hi, Nurse Julie, Thank you so much for all you do to provide us with practical knowledge for caring for our loved ones. I think your advice to view our loved one biologically; though as difficult as that may be, as it helps us to not panic, but to have knowledge and provide them with our best possible care. Thank you again! Blessings, Trish. 💕💕🙏

[@midnyte6195]

That right there again is why I would rather die in a hospital than at home for the fact that we usually never stay in one area for too long, don't ask why but my decision is clear on that!

[@Hemantcharya]

You are an outstanding instructor. Your audience may like to know why you chose to be a Nursing professional and how you achieved it. Please consider making a video about that. You may inspire so many.

[@gabrielebremes1927]

Thank you so much for your videos. I watched them every night in December when I sat with my dying father. It was hard seeing my dad going through his dying process but I felt much so better due to the information you provided in your videos.

[@khbow2810]

You may not be able to answer but my husband saved a 20 something year old life today. It seems he had a seizure. He was working for my husband, went to get a piece of wood, and didn’t return. When my husband went to see where he went he was on the ground, with the 2x4 under his head, on his back. He was foaming at the mouth which I haven’t ever heard before of seizure victim. Instinct told him to roll him to roll him over and the foam ran out. What I’m wondering is, have you ever heard anyone say that they see “the diamond” or mentioned a diamond as, possibly, the light? He told my husband as he started coming to that he went to the diamond. And a diamond gives off a beautiful light. This is the second person who my husband found almost dead/dying. But have you ever heard diamonds in place of light? The kid doesn’t remember anything at all, not even saying that so not an nde he recalls. Thanks ahead if you can answer.

[@grandmadiggs4943]

I used to do Home Healthcare which included hospice cases. I wish we had this kind of training.❤

[@user-he4dr8pz5s]

Thank you for including how much work it can be for a body to die. So many family members don’’t expect that. Also the tip of dark towels, it’s an easy way to avoid added stress. Thanks for doing these vids!

[@sarahe7515]

As a former hospice nurse I was SCREAMING through text threeish weeks ago. My husband was there for a friend (his wife more than him) as he took his last breaths. The hospital told the people to hang out up to four hours after death. I told my husband through text that he probably pooped or urinated himself if he wasn’t catheterized! He is going to stink! They did not clean him until an hour later when my husband finally read the message. He had to tell the nurses to take off the medical paraphernalia before the kids walked in as well. I was so surprised with the hospital. When my mother-in-law died in that same hospital they kicked my husband and his dad out while they cleaned her up. I feel like they did it more quickly because she was an employee on their cardiac floor. This should be well known to all nurses in the ICU.

[@TallulahBelle3276]

I started watching you when you first came on the KZbin scene. My mom had passed shortly before I found you. My sisters n I had educated ourselves about the dying process and hospice at home. We wanted to be her death doulas n make it as peaceful as possible for her. We had a wonderful hospice team assisting us through everything. I was so glad to have you and your content even though it was after our mom passed because I felt so good knowing we did everything right. You validated that for me. It’s so meaningful. I can’t put into words how grateful I am. The time has flown by and I am so happy that you’re educating us on death and dying. Seeing your channel grow is a beautiful thing. You’re helping so many people by not only helping us understand what is happening but you’re inspiring people to do this for their loved ones. There’s no better way to be born into the next realm than in your own home surrounded by your loved ones. That’s what I want when it’s my time. Thank you, Julie. There is much love for you here. ❤ ✨🙏🏽💝🙏🏽✨

[@landerson2873]

thanks for those comments i just had a revelation that answered a couple of ❤❤

[@uRmiSsT]

I love the videos and your explanations. You take the fear and tell us, what is normal. Thanks a lot

[@LilByrdFly2]

omg I can't watch these without crying. My mom had "well," had hospice care but it wasn't good and I didn't stop what was happening even though I know I could have... I want help, so i turn to these videos looking for answers and because hospice nurses are human, there is abuse in hospice and I promised her she wouldn't go back but the hospital called them so she passed away there, and I wasn't with her!!! I went to visit once and i couldn't go back!!! I need some answers. I'm crying.. got to go

[@judeblake2534]

I admire you so much and am so grateful for these videos. ❤️

[@Casper-jx1zd]

Julie, you are lovely and you helped me get through the memories of the last days of losing my husband. Thank you for your kind work. It is important work that most are afraid to acknowledge the reality of. I think you help more people than you know. Blessings to you and your family 🙏🌟🙏

[@davidowen9671]

I'd like to go at home, in a clean bed, with regular old laudanum and decent red wine within reach, books and good music. Even at their best, hospital deaths are such a drag, and do people ever recover once the vaso-pressers start? Add to that a $10K/day exit tab. Even if it were half that, what is the point? And think of what else could be done with such resources during a life. And even for a Trad. Cat., drinking a little too deep from the laudanum or wine bottle in such a time and circumstances, how can anyone call that suicide?!?

[@rosemaryyanz1115]

As always very helpful as I go through this with my darling brother at the moment thank you so much for your help.

[@Karmah01]

I wish you were around when my mom died. I nearly killed her with those mouth sponge swab thingies. She passed from colon cancer in 1997 and the nurses were of no help whatsoever. I watched my grandma die (sort of) back in 1981, but I wasn't around her all the time when she was actively dying like I was my mom. I wish I was more prepared. 🥺 I keep having a recurring dream that she didn't die, but just left the family without letting anyone know of her whereabouts. After years of her missing, she comes back and I am so angry with her! Then I wake up so livid with her and my anger lasts days. I don't think I got closure.

[@susanne4028]

You are wonderful. Thank you for all this valuable information.

[@truthcooperator4683]

So brave of you to address these difficult topics. Thank you. This life sucks. The death and all in the middle.

[@tommorgan2541]

Once again, well done and thank you, Julie! Such helpful information. Hope all is good with you.

[@user-js8kq9zh5r]

Tremendous content again Julie. Thank you from all that you are helping and educating.

[@lilitharam44]

Just out of curiosity (showing my age here) do you recommend patient's families using draw sheets? I've noticed that our local hospitals around Memphis have basically stopped using them and instead are trying to use the cloth pads to move the patient up in bed, which is a Lot harder since there's less to hold on to. I just wondered if it's a regional thing or if the industry is phasing them out in general. So stupid if they are. Keep making such great videos, you help people more than you know. Love from Memphis!

[@JCSun77]

Been in this crazy job nearly 20yrs..PLEASE DO NOT be afraid to use the medications in the comfort pack, they are vital for comfort. The nurses & physician will not increase those meds at doses that will CAUSE the patient die. ALOT of patients will pass away shortly after medication because they're comfortable. If your family member is still struggling, simply call hospice, they will tell you exactly what to do or they'll come & see the patient.❤ Also consider other things as Julie says... really sometimes someone desperately needs to just have a bowel movement! The comfort meds are very very very constipating. ❤

[@justmemimi7338]

A friend of mine works in palliative care, and she is fastidious about bowel care, for the comfort of the patient.

[@Crystall1961]

We need more hospice nurse Julie's in this world, thats for sure. You are absolutely amazing Julie and thank you so much for sharing these facts and teaching us. I very much wish id have had your videos to learn from before my beloved mum passed away in 2015 although she did have a peaceful passing and a dry one which im so grateful for, for her sake xx

[@victoriagoforth9748]

My uncle passed away with cancer and had what we call “death rattles”. It can be alarming if you’ve never heard of it. It can be very loud. He also lost control of his mouth which caused his jaws to be wide open.. Thanks for helping those that don’t know what to expect..

[@linetagida1868]

My dad died 3months ago, there were so many things happening and i was asking myself why..thanks to you all the questions i have had in my head you have answered then....good thing is i was with him till the last meet he send me away and passed on ...rest well dad

[@chrisurschel6832]

Many years ago, while working at a long-term care facility, we were sending a resident to the hospital, and they spit up a large gob of an orange material. It landed on a carpet in the hallway and permanently stained the carpet. The resident passed several hours later at the hospital. The family had demanded the resident be sent out.

[@kyms9390]

My dad was in a coma like state towards the end & we were all in his hospice room when he sat bolt upright, looked horrified and called out my mums name then laid back down and was gone. I've always wondered why he did that, I thought did he see something bad, was it his fear & it's always had quite a negative impact on me about the dying process so I feel comforted with what you said about that thankyou.